Podcast Summary
Dumb Blonde Podcast
Episode: Dr. Tara: Crygasms, Squirting & Sexual Healing
Date: January 18, 2026
Host: Bunnie XO
Guest: Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, “The Internet’s Resident Sexpert”
Episode Overview
This hilariously candid episode dives deep into the realities of sex, communication, shame, healing, and pleasure—breaking taboos and answering listener questions without filter or judgment. Host Bunnie XO and guest Dr. Tara, a college sexuality professor and media sex educator, serve up honest discussions about sexual exploration, trauma, and intimacy, bringing practical advice, relatable stories, and plenty of laughs.
Key Discussion Points & Insights
1. Dr. Tara’s Background & Sexuality in Conservative Cultures
[02:44 – 04:59]
- Dr. Tara shares her Thai heritage, traditional background, and the contrast between Thailand’s tourist-facing sexual image and its actual conservative culture.
- She attended an all-girls Catholic school with no sex ed, and like most, first learned about sex from porn:
- “I was maybe 11 [when I saw porn]. Statistically, research shows kids nowadays actually find pornographic materials around that age, too.” (05:43 - Dr. Tara)
- Advice for Parents:
- Start conversations early (age 10 is the “golden age” for sex talks).
- Use correct anatomical terms, not euphemisms, to break cycles of shame:
- “I would highly suggest never using euphemisms… that gives [kids] sexual anxiety that their body is dirty.” (07:26 - Dr. Tara)
2. Opening Up: From Finland to LA
[14:00 – 19:35]
- Dr. Tara describes her liberating year at a Finnish high school, where nudity was normalized and “body neutrality” prevailed:
- “They don’t sexualize things. Being naked is fine…It’s not body positivity, it’s body neutrality—my body works.” (15:10 - Dr. Tara)
- Moving to LA, she was inspired by figures like Dr. Ruth and Sue Johanson and eventually became a sexual health professor.
3. Sex Education & Communication in Relationships
[19:35 – 24:03]
- Dr. Tara stresses that sexual challenges are universal, covering physical (e.g., dryness, ED), psychological (shame, anxiety), and relationship issues (mismatched libido).
- On her relationship: Dr. Tara met her husband, Brent, on a plane. He joins the discussion:
- “Her communication is like—she’s got a PhD in communication, so I always know what she’s thinking and feeling.” (24:03 - Brent)
- “We get in any disagreement, it’s over in three to five minutes and we’re moving on to bigger and better things.” (24:24 - Brent)
- Addressing sexual “performance” pressure for sexperts:
- “It’s just being authentic…particularly in bed, we’re very vulnerable. As long as you put in the effort and show yourself authentically, that’s what people want.” (25:00 - Dr. Tara)
4. Listener Q&A: Real Sex Questions
[26:17 – 56:52]
Why Do Orgasms Make Me Cry?
- “Crygasm” is real and healthy:
- “It’s because when you have a really intense orgasm, your whole body and your hormones…are heightened, so it’s normal to have different sorts of release…Some people release through crying.” (26:50 - Dr. Tara)
Squirting: What Is It and How Do You Do It?
- Squirting is mostly fluid from Skene’s gland; may include some urine (which is sterile).
- “There’s nothing wrong with squirting…If you push the system really hard, sometimes there’s pee in it…pee is cleaner than your mouth.” (28:56 - Dr. Tara)
- Tips: Full relaxation, using vibrators, “come hither” fingering motion, a pillow under the butt for beginners.
How to Increase Sex Drive in Long-Term Relationships?
- Chore play is foreplay—division of labor boosts women’s libido:
- “Based on research, women who don’t have to do chores as much are hornier.” (32:12 - Dr. Tara)
- Exercise and all-day flirtation also help; sexual meditation and guided practices work too.
Healing After Sexual Trauma or Narcissistic Relationships
- Somatic therapy and sexological bodywork can help release trauma stored in the body.
- Dr. Tara shares her personal experience working with a sexological bodyworker to achieve an anal orgasm:
- “It took all day…talking therapy, body movement, and massage. She taught me where the anal tissues are and where orgasms can happen.” (41:08 - Dr. Tara)
- Dr. Tara shares her personal experience working with a sexological bodyworker to achieve an anal orgasm:
Anal Play, Pegging & Men’s Pleasure
- Step-by-step guide to prostate stimulation and pegging basics.
- “You can massage the perineum…the taint…or insert your finger…about 1.5 inches in. Some men love getting pegged or fingered in the butt for a more intense orgasm.” (42:56 - Dr. Tara)
- Candid, humorous asides from all the hosts.
Menopause Advice
- Good supplements (well-researched), lots of silicone-based lube (avoid water-based for dryness or yeast risk).
- “There are factors for dryness—like antihistamines…Allergy pills make you dry. Your head can be horny, but your [vagina] is dry.” (53:00 - Dr. Tara)
Sex in Recovery from Addiction
- Rewire the brain by integrating sobriety into sex, use new props or routines, and change up “the script” to form new neural pathways.
Long-Term Sexless Relationships—What To Do?
- Masturbation and self-love are important. Open, honest confrontation is essential:
- “You are beautiful, you are sexy, you are wanted—you don’t need him initiating sex to tell you that…see a sex therapist…if it can’t be resolved, divorce.” (57:26 - Dr. Tara)
Older Adults & Sexuality
- Nursing homes have the highest STI rates; “silver dating” is popular. “If you don’t use it, you lose it” applies for sexual health:
- “If you haven’t had sex in a long time as a woman, your vagina kind of shrinks. It hurts to have sex again.” (61:09 - Dr. Tara)
5. Sexual Healing, Meditation, and Trauma Release
[49:08 – 51:04]
- Womb meditation and yoni/sacral meditation are backed by research for boosting sex drive, particularly post-cancer or trauma.
- Dr. Tara integrates sexual mindfulness and meditation in her college curriculum.
6. Dr. Tara’s Book: “How Do You Like It?”
[61:32 – END]
- Combines research and playful advice, includes quizzes and a “sex personality test” for self-discovery and couple communication:
- “My goal is to help people…start talking about sex together. There’s a ton of quizzes in this book—your sex personality, how you moan, your sexual expression type…” (62:17 - Dr. Tara)
- Based on research: America’s biggest relationship problem is not talking about sex.
- Pre-order now; releases October 21, 2025.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
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On naming and confidence:
“Whenever I tell my last name to my students in college, there will always be boy students that go, ‘It’s a blessing here too.’” (03:01 - Dr. Tara) -
On openness with kids:
“If you say they can’t [have sex], they will if they want to. You don’t want them hiding from you.” (10:24 - Dr. Tara) -
On body neutrality:
“I love my body because it works.” (15:10 - Dr. Tara) -
On authentic sex:
“People love authentic people everywhere, but particularly in bed, we’re very vulnerable.” (25:00 - Dr. Tara) -
On “crygasm”:
“Crygasm is a good sign…It’s that sex is incredible.” (26:49 - Dr. Tara) -
On sex drive in busy households:
“Chore play is foreplay.” (32:10 - Dr. Tara) -
On trauma healing:
“A lot of trauma is stored in the body…working with the body, you can heal from it from inside.” (37:18 - Dr. Tara) -
On honesty in long-term relationships:
“You don’t need anyone to help you—you can just grab a toy and lube and orgasm on your own.” (60:21 - Dr. Tara) -
On sexless relationships:
“If you don’t use it, you lose it.” (61:08 - Dr. Tara) -
On America’s sex communication problem:
“America’s biggest problem is not talking about sex in romantic relationships.” (63:26 - Dr. Tara)
Timestamps for Important Segments
- Dr. Tara’s conservative Thai upbringing to American college professor:
[02:44 – 19:35] - Body neutrality in Finland:
[15:10 – 16:13] - Sex ed & open relationships advice:
[19:35 – 25:00] - Listener Q&A starts:
[26:06] - Crygasms explained:
[26:41] - Squirting (what it is + how to):
[28:13 – 31:46] - Boosting sex drive in marriage:
[32:07 – 34:27] - Sexual healing & trauma (somatic therapy/sexological bodywork):
[37:10 – 42:10] - Anal play & pegging basics:
[42:56 – 46:41] - Womb meditation:
[49:08] - Menopause help:
[51:20] - Sex after addiction sobriety:
[54:06] - Older adults and sexuality:
[57:26 – 61:28] - Book description and America’s sex communication struggle:
[61:32 – 64:35]
Resources & Where to Find the Guest
- Dr. Tara’s Socials & Website:
Instagram & TikTok: @lovebites.co
Website: lovebites.co - Book:
"How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want in Bed" (Releases October 21, 2025 – pre-orders open)
Conclusion & Tone
This episode is an open, vulnerable, and empowering exchange on sexual healing, pleasure, and education. Bunnie XO’s humor and Dr. Tara’s candor create a non-judgmental space where taboos dissolve and everyone—whatever their journey—gets practical tools and validation for a healthy, satisfying sex life.
“You are beautiful, you are sexy, you are desired, you are wanted—regardless of what anyone else says. Own it.” (57:26 - Dr. Tara)