Dumb Blonde Podcast – TBT: Elle King
Release Date: August 28, 2025 | Host: Bunnie XO (B) | Guest: Elle King (A)

Episode Overview

This episode is a candid, humorous, and deeply honest conversation between host Bunnie XO and musician Elle King. They dive into topics ranging from relationships, motherhood, trauma, spiritual beliefs, mental health, and the pitfalls and triumphs of navigating fame. Elle King opens up about postpartum depression, her relationship with her parents (notably her father, comedian Rob Schneider), finding love again with her "baby daddy," the impact of public scrutiny, and forging her own musical path.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Childhood, Family, and Parental Dynamics

• Celebrity Parentage and Childhood Revelation

  • Bunnie’s longtime obsession with Rob Schneider transitions to Elle's feelings about growing up with minimal contact with her famous father and being raised by an industrious, ever-reinventing mother and influential stepfather.
    • "You are her [your mother] just, you know, reincarnated." (22:40)
  • Elle shares her rural Ohio upbringing versus assumptions about her LA background.
  • Stepdad Justin is highlighted as Elle’s musical mentor.

• Relationship with Rob Schneider

  • Elle talks about not growing up with her dad, cycles of estrangement, and her desire to be independent of his shadow, both personally and professionally.
    • "I wanted to make my own way. Respect." (22:03)
    • "He never helped me. I never wanted his help. He also didn’t have a very good reputation, so I didn’t want...to be associated with him." (61:45)
  • Discussion about generational toxicity and working through unresolved issues with her father.

• Importance of Step-Parents and Chosen Family

  • Elle emphasizes the value of her stepdad and the influence of both her biological and chosen family.

2. Body Image, Food, and Trauma

• Struggles with Weight and Food

  • From being a “chubby child,” compulsive eating, being sent to “fat camp” by her father at ages 11 and 12, and the lasting impact of body shaming:
    • "I was a really, really heavy child. My dad sent me to fat camp." (42:01)
  • Role of feeding and food as a love language in her family across both American and Filipino cultural backgrounds.

• Mother's Influence and Placenta Encapsulation

  • Elle’s mother’s health journey, doula career, and the process and benefits (and family humor) around encapsulating her placenta.

3. Motherhood, Postpartum, and Personal Healing

• Motherhood Journey

  • Deep discussion about the difficulty with fertility, eventual pregnancy during a pause in her career, and adjusting to motherhood.
    • “I really struggled to get pregnant...Now I know it’s like God’s timing is not up to us, and even our baby’s timing isn’t up to us.” (08:32)

• Postpartum Depression and Recovery

  • Elle opens up about severe postpartum depression, returning to touring too quickly, and how depression and weight became intertwined.
    • "I started working three months after I had my son...I was so depressed." (08:32)
  • Her healing journey included therapy, spiritual exploration, working out, and finally, antidepressants.

• "Dolly Incident" and Public Scrutiny

  • Elle candidly discusses an infamous event at the Opry, describing it as the culmination of grief, stress, and being overwhelmed—with themes of forgiveness and learning from mistakes.
    • “If a man did it, it would have been a completely different story.” (11:41)
    • “But she [Dolly Parton] called me to make me feel better, you know. She’s a sweet angel of a woman.” (14:47)

4. Relationships, Romance, and Healing

• Reunion with Her Child’s Father

  • Breakup, coparenting, therapy, rekindled romance, and the slow approach to rebuilding love and mutual respect.
    • "We broke up for a year and I was going through really, really insane postpartum...He just kept showing up and we became best friends." (07:14, 73:00)
  • Frank discussion about therapy, communication, feminine/masculine balance, and the value of growing together.

• Personal Growth and Relationship Dynamics

  • Both women discuss the importance of communication, therapy, boundaries, and learning to treat partners (and oneself) with respect.

5. Spiritual Beliefs & Manifestation

• Past Lives, Soul Contracts, and Spiritual Practices

  • Elle shares her spiritual journey: clairvoyance, past life readings, feeling guided to healing places like Bali, and the spiritual experience of becoming a mother.
    • "I believe that, and I feel like that’s why we’re like...connected." (15:52)

• Words as Spells & Energy of Belief

  • Discussion about manifesting positive outcomes and the dangers of negative self-narrative.
    • “Words are spells.” (19:49)

6. Navigating Fame, Social Media, and Resilience

• Public Perception and Trolls

  • Both recount online backlash, the pressure of public life, and the necessity of setting boundaries with social media.
    • “It is mob mentality and it’s millions of people.” (31:00)
    • Their “post and ghost” strategies to protect mental health.

• Growth, Redemption, and the Comeback

  • Elle reflects on the opportunity for growth after public mistakes and society’s love for a comeback.
    • "America loves a comeback story. And I will say if I didn’t come back, back out the gate swinging and like with my together..." (65:20)

7. Musical Journey and Creative Passion

• Early Musical Influence and Banjo Origins

  • Her stepdad’s rock roots, learning via ear, and developing a signature sound.

• Career Autonomy

  • Challenging assumptions around nepotism; getting signed without her father’s involvement or help.

• Album Evolution and New Music

  • Discussion of her first album’s creation and success, her pride and independence, and upcoming music reflecting her most authentic self.
    • “But my label hasn’t dropped me...My first album had great success.” (62:21)
  • Hints at an unreleased album, excitement for her next country record, and dreams of acting.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Postpartum and Expectations:
  "You guys literally will have babies and then you’re thrust back into the spotlight and it’s like you don’t have time to heal..." (08:11) — Bunnie XO

• On Empathy and Overcoming Shame:
  “If I can come out of it, literally anyone can.” (15:09) — Elle King

• On Familial Influence:
  “My mom spun it in a way where she took her struggles...and always told me to love myself and, like, she had a chubby daughter...” (40:22) — Elle King

• On Relationships and Healing:
  "You can’t be heard if you’re not listening." (71:16) — Elle King

• On Self-Compassion and Growth:
  "If Dolly can forgive you, the world can forgive you." (66:28) — Bunnie XO

• On Career Autonomy:
  "He [Rob Schneider] never helped me. I never wanted his help. He also didn’t have a very good reputation, so I didn’t want...to be associated with him." (61:45) — Elle King

• On Creativity and Healing:
  “Creating again and, like, having these, like, seeds planted and then making this beautiful album…it's bringing me back to life.” (79:05) — Elle King

• On Spiritual Conviction:
  "All of it is energy...Words are spells." (19:50) — Elle King

Important Timestamps

• [05:35] Elle recounts her obsession with Rob Schneider movies and family background.
• [07:14] Elle discusses reuniting with her child’s father and postpartum struggles.
• [11:34] The impact of the "Dolly incident" and dealing with public shame.
• [15:25] Past lives, spirituality, and healing journeys.
• [22:03] On making her own way in the music industry, independent from her father's influence.
• [40:08] OCD, compulsive eating, body image growing up in a high-pressure family.
• [61:45] On career, autonomy, and distancing her public persona from her father.
• [66:26] Moving past mistakes, learning to accept growth and self-healing.
• [73:00] Healing and rebuilding her relationship with her partner, Dan.
• [79:01] Previewing her upcoming album and excitement for her musical evolution.

Tone and Style

The tone is raw, irreverent, vulnerable, yet uplifting—marked by humor, deep self-reflection, and hope for both personal and communal healing. The rapport between Bunnie XO and Elle King feels like old friends trading scars and victories, offering hope and solidarity for listeners facing similar struggles.

Final Thoughts

This episode is a rollercoaster of laughter, vulnerability, and wisdom from women who have survived, learned, and continue to grow. Elle King's story—her honesty about family, her mental health, body image, public mistakes, and journeys in motherhood and music—offer inspiration and relatability to anyone healing and finding their own path.