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Foreign welcome to the Earn the right to live your dreams podcast. This is Coit Cooper and I'm ready to rock it out. What's going on everybody? Welcome back to the ETR podcast. This episode's called five musts to make world class habits. Now I've been thinking about this topic for a while now because I coach people on a consistent basis. I do keynote talks and I'm always working with people to help them create incredible change in their lives. I don't want to just help them create average change. I want them to create remarkable change that gets them results in life that they absolutely love. And listen, it's one thing to roll in and to teach someone, somebody about the types of habits they should be implementing. It's another entirely to give people the structure necessary to go out and make create world class habits. And that's what I want to talk to you about today. Listen, we could sit and have five different episodes on the types of habits that can change your life. Listen, you want to get a morning growth routine in place. If you do, it'll change your life. You have more clarity, more energy, more focus, more motivation, more of all the things that you want if you're just disciplined to get up early at 5am and read the right books and to write your goals down and to go through your values. Meditation's another one. There's all these unbelievable habits you get into your day. You know, scheduling, blocking, chunking out time and scheduling your most important things. And following through is an unbelievable habit. Same with limiting your technology time and giving your most important things your full time and energy. Those are all things we could talk about. So many different habits. Eating right, sleeping right. And that's important and we will. But listen, if we don't have the right structure in place, it won't matter if we can't give you the right steps to establish one single profound life changing habit. You can't get to the point where you're stacking more because here's what I believe. You get world class at establishing the right habits one at a time. You know, you get one in place, 66 days later you stack another one. 66 days later, you stack another one. Listen, in a span of a year, your entire life can change in ways that you've never imagined possible. But the first thing you do is you have to start with a structure that maximizes your chances of success. Because here's the truth. I've studied the way our brain operates and one of the things is if you are not crystal clear with Structure. There are way too many things going on to get your brain's attention and to pull you off track. There are way too many barriers that we have self barriers in terms of doubts and negative thoughts and things like that that can easily take us off track if we don't create the exact structure that maximizes the chance of following through. And this is what I want to do today. That's all I want to do today. We won't get everything, but I just want to give you an initial starting point. Does that sound good? I hope you're sitting there saying coy, yes, I'm driving in my car, that sounds good. Or you're sitting in your office and say, yeah, it sounds good. I've got my notes out, I'm ready to take them, I'm ready to go. And so this is it. This is one of my favorite things to now work on with my clients is these five musts. If you're going to make world class habits, you gotta do these things. Okay? So without further ado, I don't wanna drag this out for too long. The very first thing that you have to do, this is not rocket science. You gotta pick your desirable habit. And let me take it a step further. Let's not get too crazy and have you take 3, 4, 5, because your life is likely already very busy. You know, many of you are parents, you might be grandparents, you've got jobs, you've got friends. I always joke and say, I hope you don't have needy. Those are the worst types of friends. You know, we got pets, we just got all kinds of stuff. And then on top of that, we got our cell phones. Literally thousands and thousands of different stimuli calling our brain every single day. So listen, you got these obstacles is what I'm saying. And if you want to cut through that and start to live the way you want to be living, the first thing you got to do is take one of the single most powerful habits that you know you should be doing and decide right now, pick it and make it a must. Say, this is the one thing for the next 66 days, I will fight to follow through and make this a habit. Now you're saying, Quaid, what do you mean by habit? What I mean is when you follow through consistently on a habit every single day. Like I read every single day, I meditate every single day. I've probably got at least 10 habits that, that I do. World class habits that make my life amazing now, but I started with one. And here's what you got to do. You Must be consistent with it, because that's the only way to form a neural pathway in your brain. When you're consistent and you do it with the right energy and emotion, then what happens is you form a neural pathway in your brain. And when you do that, it becomes second nature. That means you don't have to use all the energy to follow through. And you just follow through and you pick the right habits. Then they become energy chargers. They're not taking energy anymore. You're following through. But they're the type of things that get your brain on track. They maximize your efficiency, they charge you up. Now imagine if you were to get a series of those things in place. They would radically change your life. But for now, just one. What's the one habit that you want completely to be able to implement in your life right now? And what I want you to do, grab a sheet of paper at the very top desirable habit, is write it down. Whatever that habit is, choose it. Decide now. It's a must. Okay, step number two again, pretty simple and straightforward. Choose your exact start date. And I want to follow that up by saying, the sooner the better. I go to keynote talks and I give people four of the most powerful habits you can possibly implement in your life to maximize your leadership, your productivity, your potential. But I always tell them, listen, just grab one for now. Make a plan for all them, but grab one. And I said, you gotta choose right now when you're gonna follow through. Because they might be there on say a Thursday, Friday, or even Saturday. But say you're there on a Thursday and you go, yeah, I really do wanna do this morning growth routine. I think it's important for me. And you go, you know, I'll start next week. And then you're excited now, and all of a sudden Monday comes around and you haven't made it a must. You didn't pick a start date. And all of a sudden you gotta. We'll just start it Thursday. And all of a sudden Thursday becomes two Thursdays from now, and it's like a Thursday a year from now, and you never started. If you want to maximize your chances of following through, be crystal clear with your brain. Here's my habit. That's a must. Here's my start date. I will start on this date. You know, you just do. And it's great if you can start at the beginning of the week, but honestly, sometimes it's better if you're at a conference or you're listening to this right now and it's a Wednesday. Start Thursday, start Right away. You know, start today if you're really motivated because you can build incredible momentum. You'll feel amazing if you just go and do it right now. But pick your start date. Make it an absolute must as well. That's step number two. Step number three, choose a consistency goal. And you might be saying, what's a consistency goal? Listen again. Clarity, crystal clear. What you're doing with your brain is the key. Because our brains, before I get into this habit, our brains are wired to maximize energy, to make sure that we're not wasting energy. And this came from a time where we're living in caves and we're outdoors and we needed to, you know, we needed to max. We needed to keep energy to stay alive. So we would do things to stay warm. We would do whatever we could to keep our energy levels high. Well, it just so happens now most of us have heaters in our houses. We have food whenever we need it. And so we don't need the same mechanisms. Right. You know, but here's the thing. Our brain will still, if you're not crystal clear, it'll still go lay on the couch because it thinks that's the best option because it will maximize energy. Well, we both know that that's not the right option. Laying on the couch when you should be working out is not what you should be doing. Well, how do you get around that? Well, you pick your habit, you choose your start date and then you choose your consistency goal. Okay, if this is a growth habit and you want it to be something that guides you every single day, you say, you know what my consistency is? I'm going to do it every single day, Monday through Sunday and I'm going to do it for the next 21 days. That's the bare minimum where you need to start establishing a habit. I say 66 days because I think that's where from working with people, that's more of where it falls in place. And so if you said, okay right now, Monday to Sunday, 66 days straight, you can even count out in your calendar and mark it off, finish date or I'm going to be crushing it. This is going to be a world class habit. I'm going to feel good, you know, but again, crystal clear. So your brain can't go, yeah, I guess I don't feel like doing it today. You know what, we can always push this back. Don't allow your brain to have any room to negotiate right now. Choose your consistency goal. This amount of days, these are the days of the week you're going to do it. And write that down, Same sheet of paper you have, your habit. Choose your start date, how many days you're going to do it. I mean, I recommend if you can, and it's appropriate. Every day with the growth hat. Every single day. And then even know the end date where you're going to be able to celebrate and pat yourself on the back. And even before then, pat yourself on the back. The first time you do it. When you follow through, a week, two weeks, celebrate those things because you want your brain to see it as pleasurable. Okay, step number four, pick your practice time. Okay, so. Well, Coyde, I'm not an athlete. That's all right. You don't need to be an athlete. But you need to decide exactly when you're gonna follow through. And I gotta tell you, if you can pick a consistent time, if there's any way possible, pick your exact time, make it your practice time, and just be aware. I've worked with amazing leaders, you know, high level leaders who say, coin. I'm just. I'm gonna do it where it fits in and in. Early on when I was coaching people, I would go, okay, well, you know, we'll see how that works. Now I know how it's gonna work. It doesn't work. You say, I'm gonna work out whenever it fits in. I'm gonna read whenever it fits in. Guess when. Usually that comes later in your day when energy levels have been diminished, and all of a sudden, because you don't have the capacity, the energy, the mental energy to just follow through, you go to the couch, you don't follow through. So you gotta pick your practice time, even if it ends up having to be later in the day. You must do that. Put it in your calendar, you know, make an alarm, an alert that goes out so you don't leave it to chance. But it's so critical. This is why in athletics you have a practice time. When I was a college athlete, we had set practice times because we didn't want to leave it to chance. It's just, we want it to be a routine, our norm. You can leverage the same thing. My morning routine starts every single day by 4:30am that's when I do it. There is no negotiation. I've picked a time where the world's asleep, my kids are asleep. There are no distractions. It's the best time I can possibly do it. And it charges me up and it gets me focused, it gets me clear. So depending on what your habit is, pick a practice time, hopefully, to maximize your Chances of not only following through but just driving your energies to an incredible level. So that's number four and then moving to number five. All of these things are important, okay? You gotta pick that habit. And that habit, that's going to be an absolute must. You got to write that thing down. You got to choose your start date exactly when you're going to get going. Then you need to move on to choose your consistency goal. How many days in the week, how many days straight you're going to go, you know, before you can assess, and then four, pick your practice time that gives you the foundation. You know what I'm saying? You now are crystal clear. This is what I'm doing. This is exactly what I'm doing. When I'm doing it. There's less room for negotiation. But there's one more thing you got to do. If you really want a great shot of building a world class habit, then the thing that you have to do before you get started is to determine your why. And what I call it is w w yff what will you fight for? It's going to get hard. There's, there's not. When you've picked the right habit, there's going to be times where you don't feel like it. Listen, I still have times where I don't feel like getting up in the morning. But what I've already determined ahead of time is why I'm willing to fight for it. You got to do the same thing. You know, you want to exercise and you say, oh, you know, for spring break that, I mean, maybe it'll get you going initially, but once spring break passes, you know, you're not, you don't have the reason anymore. But if you come up with a why that says, man, I want to be a role model for my kids. I want to show them what discipline and fitness and healthy and loving yourself enough to take care of yourself looks like. That's a why at 4:30am what's my why? Man? I want to know. I'm using it up as a parent, as a husband, as a coach. I want to know that I'm doing everything in my power to make the people that I love better. I just, I need to know that. I want to know that. I want to make the world a better place while I'm here. I have whys that, man, they get me fired up. I'm ready to get charged out and do some work right now. But you right now, on your sheet of paper that you put out, if you haven't go back through this, write the things down that we need to and then put that Y, put wwyff, what will you fight for? And write things down until you have something that gives you an emotional response that you say, dude, I will get up and I'll do this no matter what. Because that's what it takes. You want world class habits? You got to start with something that matters to you deeply. Because listen, the world ain't gonna hand it to you. It can flow, you can have amazing abundance. But sometimes you gotta show up and you gotta be willing to follow through even when you don't feel like it. This step will maximize your chances of this happening. If every day you remind yourself why, then what's gonna happen is your brain's gonna know exactly why you must follow through on this habit. And when the time comes where you don't feel like it, you go, no, no, no, I know my why. There's no negotiation here. This is a must. This is a must. And so Those are your 5 musts if you want to make world class habits. I'm gonna just give you one more. Just because you're still here listening that do the five, and you're good. But man, one of the things that I do with coaching clients that I consider a must is once we've gone through this and we know the habit, we know when they're starting, we know the number of days that we're shooting for, we got our time that we're going to block it out, our practice time, we know our why. Track it if you can. You got to track it. And honestly, if you go on my website and you send me an email, I'll send you a habit tracker. Just write me, you write me and I'll send you one. It's so important that you take all this stuff that we have here and you put it into a format that you know exactly what you're doing and every day you can check it off. Oh man, I've done four days straight, seven days straight, 21 days straight. You're proud of yourself. Mentally, you start to develop and go to a higher level and then you can rate how well you're doing. So you can always know where you need to get better, man, when you track it, so much better chance of following through and cultivating world class habits. So listen, I hope this was incredibly useful for you. One thing I'm going to ask you to do is if you really found value in this, going to ask you to share it. Share it with a friend, a colleague, somebody who you think could really benefit from learning how to make world class habits which listen to be fair is anybody but if you know somebody proactive who would love this, send it on in an email, post it on social media, share it, pay it forward and all I want you to do. Have an amazing week. Go out, start to establish world class habits, change your life and get out and create the results and the type of life that you absolutely love. Take care friends. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you enjoyed it be sure to pass it on to other people who might need to hear the message. And if you're looking for resources to take your life to an entirely different level, head on over to coitcooper.com and download for a limited time a free copy of my brand new 10 habits of high performers in Impact Makers ebook and get out and establish habits that will help you crush it in your life today and in this week.