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Foreign welcome to the earn the right to live your dreams podcast. This is Coit Cooper and I'm ready to rock it out. What's going on? Welcome to this new ETR episode. This one is entitled you can experience any emotion you want. And let me add this to it. At any moment that you choose. Now this seems crazy to most people. And I remember I learned this lesson a long time ago. I was reading some of Tony Robbins stuff and he talked about, man, you can experience any emotion that you want. And I thought, well, man, that seems crazy. Like any emotion, any emotion. And so I went about my business, learning, growing, implementing systems, coaching people. And then you start to stumble upon it. You start to realize that that lesson was totally true. The reality is so many people right now say, well Coit, I can't do that. I just can't do that. First off, if you believe that you can't, then you probably can. But they'll say, coit, right now I have anxiety, man, I'm overwhelmed. Like it's just I over respond to things. And whenever I'm talking to coaching clients or people in my coaching club, I say, yeah, if you actually sit down, it makes total sense. When you think about what you're exposing your brain to, there's a reason why you're experiencing those things. One of the greatest powers that you have as a human being is the ability to control your focus and choose what you're focused on. And when you focus on the right things, you get empowering emotions. When you give away your power, you get emotions that not only lower your potential, they wreak havoc on your mind and on your life. Think about it right now. If you wake up and you stumble into your day and you're exposing your brain to social media, you're exposing your brain to news. You watch hours of television on Netflix without thinking about what you're watching. So much of what we see right now is drama. Everything is just this worst case scenario where it's just showing this like the worst thing that could happen. And it's not the norm, but we expose our brain to that. Our brain is going to over respond to things as well. Our brain is going to find fear, our brain is going to find self doubt. Those are all things that are coming from what we're exposing our brain to. I mean, you think about what social media is. With so much negativity in the news and fighting and bickering, and even minus all that, the comparing the best case scenario, we're exposing our brain to the wrong things. And if you just stop and you expose it to the right things. You can get the emotions that you want. And wouldn't you agree if you started to get the emotions that you want, wouldn't that make your life amazing? Wouldn't it make it epic if rather than anxious and frustrated and overwhelmed, you woke up and you were calm, you were at peace, you were passionate? One of my coaching members said giddy. What if you were giddy every single day? It's a crazy word, but what if you were just that every single day? What if that was your experience? Wouldn't that be incredible? And the one thing that I've learned is that is totally possible. But you got to take control of your process. You can experience any emotion that you want, but you have to be aware of some key things that you do in your day. And so I started this with, you can experience anything that you want. What I didn't say is you can't see the can. The can is in uppercase letters. It's C, A, N. It's an acronym. There are three steps that if you start to work these things, you will start to drum up these incredible emotions, and it will radically elevate your quality of life. But you got to work them, and you've got to work them consistently because our brain has an incredible capacity, meaning the more that you work the right things and the more that you reward them the right way, you create neural pathway in your brain. Your neurons start to fire in a different manner. You create a neural pathway in your brain, and when you do that for things like peace or passion or caring, whatever is you want to experience, you do that more consistently. It becomes your brain's norm. Lay the neural pathways. Your brain will look for more ways to experience it, because you're really showing it joy. You're teaching it something that's really pleasurable. And so all we want to do is do that and acknowledge it, right? So you can repeat it. And then your quality of life is just staggering. It's just amazing. And so, with that being said, let's jump into this thing. There are three things in the can. Ackerman. The number one thing that you've got to do is you need to condition the emotions that you want. So first, before you get into the conditioning, sit down and say, like, what are one or two emotions that I want to experience on a consistent basis? I highly recommend you pick version of peace, whether it's calm, stillness, centered. Pick something like that. Because if you can find that that's our core inner state in our Bodies. We don't realize it because it's so chaotic, but when you clear things out, you'll find a peace, a calm, a stillness that is unbelievable. It's incredible. It will bring you tremendous amount of fulfillment. Meditation teaches you that. But once you've chosen that, what's another emotion? I had one of my coaching club members this morning said, daring, like adventure, like I want to experience that more. I said, fantastic, let's use that. Now, once you have that, you've picked kind of that 12 combo. You've got like a version of calm and peace, and you pick another one. If you really despise the calm, you can pick something else. You come back to the table. You've got to condition your brain. You've got to teach your brain that this is important. It's a top priority. We're not going to brush it off. We're going to keep coming back to it. How do you do that? By using your bookends in your day, by waking up every single day and thinking about the person that you want to become. And when you come at it and you emphasize peace, then you're going to move in the right direction. You're going to teach your brain that that's important. And one thing that's unbelievably powerful for this is if you get into meditation. You know, you just set a timer for 1 minute, 2 minute, 5 minutes, and you sit down, maybe you'd have some light, calm music on. And you do what's called transcendental meditation, meaning you breathe in deep through your nose. You pause, you breathe out your mouth like that. That's a form of breathing, HRV breathing, that will center your emotions. Now, if you combine that breathing in deep through your nose, pause breathing out with focusing on the key word. As you breathe in, you breathe in. You think peace as if you're breathing in peace. Then you pause and, and you breathe out. That's transcendental meditation. And what you're conditioning your brain to do is to realize that it's an important thing. And it's super cool because your brain, when you're breathing right, it centers your emotion, it changes your brain wavelengths to a more calm state. So when you're really emphasizing that, that's more likely to go into your subconscious brain. I work this pretty much most every single morning. I meditate and I put those most important things into my brain because I want it to know this is what we're focusing on. Not all the garbage and the craziness me. This is what's most important, this is the person I want to be for all the people around me. And so when you practice that you're conditioning your brain, another way of doing this is just to wake up. And as you think about the person you want to be, you get excited and you say, man, be daring. Today you might clap your hands, you might flex your muscles, you might jump up and down, you might stretch your arms out wide. Whatever it is that you like to do, you can use physiology and get yourself excited about it. You know, it's so important. Rather than allowing the world around you to dictate who you are, you come back to the center and remind yourself, maybe you do that Peace transcendental meditation. When you get done, you. You start to think about who you want to be, and you think about that adventure, daring, whatever you want to be, and you emphasize that, okay? And when you do that, that's a really powerful thing. Essentially, you're coming to your brain. So every day before you put anything else into your brain, nothing technology wise, you emphasize those states that you want to pursue. And one more thing before we move forward. One of the biggest mistakes that I see, and I've made it myself, is I went out and I thought about all the things I want to accomplish. And I thought, man, when I get those things, when I earn that PhD, when I write that book, I just assumed I would be happy. And not just a short happy, but sustainable happy. You know what? Of all the state championships, the national championships in high school, that never happened, I got the dopamine hit. They were enjoyable. But then I had to find the next thing. I didn't realize that they weren't going to give me the emotional states consistently that I wanted. But what if I came back to the table and this is what I do now, and I thought about the emotions that I want to experience, and I chose those emotions and I pursued those emotions. And those were also emotions that would be conducive to the outcomes that I wanted. Think about how powerful that would be. Now, when you've got those right and you can experience those emotions, your life will be vibrant. And it will help you close the gap on the things that you want, which will be like icing on the cake. You'll learn to love your process, and when the outcomes come, you can enjoy those as well. But you can learn to enjoy all of life. And the best way to do it is by starting to condition it. The first C. You can, but you've got to condition it. The number two thing that's really important is starting to apply it. You know, when I was an athlete and I work with a lot of sports teams now, when you learn a technique, you don't just roll out into competition in a match for me as a wrestler and just do it. At least not most people. You have to practice it, you have to work it. You have to find creative ways to really do it and do it right and work it over and over again. Why? Neural pathway in your brain, it eventually becomes habit, it becomes second nature. Then when you get in competition, it just kind of rolls, man. You can just. And it's an awesome thing. Well, guess what? Same concept here, right? You want to be more patient, more loving, more passionate, have more energy consistently. You not only have to condition it, you have to start to apply it. Meaning when you're going into a key state and you want to be an energy person, you don't roll into your morning routine and think, okay, now I just. Or your morning work schedule and just go, okay, now it's time to get started. No, you find ways. You clap your hands, you get excited, you think about what you want to create. You drum up energy. That's what you do. You know, if you're looking to one of my people, my coach, giddy, right? You've got to find pockets. Maybe it's with your kids at night, you're going to be more giddy, you're going to be a little more goofy. You're going to drum that up. Even if it's uncomfortable, you start to practice that. That's applying it. It's so important that you find ways to apply it. One of the things that I try to do is just be calm and peaceful, and I want to show my kids that. And you know what? As a parent, that's super hard. There are times where they push back. They're acting crazy sometimes like wild animals. And it takes a lot. And I have to remind myself, practice it, model it, take some deep breaths and remind yourself. Calm. Here, coit. And so you have to learn to practice those things. So think of these pockets in your day where you can start rocking your reps. So when you can go and you can master it in one period, and then you extend out, all of a sudden, it's not just in one pocket. It becomes who you are. Then your quality of life, just calm. Even in the craziest circumstances, you can be crazy calm. You can be still while everything around you is going crazy. You can find your spot, but you have to learn to apply it. That's the second One. And the third one, you can experience any emotion you want, but you have to invest in neural paving. What is neural paving? It's committing to habits that are conducive to the state that you want. So if you want calm, peace, or stillness, one of the things you probably want to do is commit to meditation, right? Every single morning when you start your day, work on that breath. And you can almost combine this as your conditioning. You can do two of these at one time, but do that transcendent dental meditation and work that. That's neural paving. Another one that I do is because I want that peace and calm and stillness When I'm in nature, I stop and take deep breaths and just soak it in. I just stop and I feel that, and I experience that. And it brings me an incredible just feeling of peace. And I love it. It's incredible. But I try to do that consistently. I don't leave it to chance. I try to work as many angles as I can to experience that. And when the more that I do, the more it becomes my brain's norm, it looks for it. And then all of a sudden you're like, wow, most of my day, I'm at peace. And then all of a sudden, you're so much more energized because you're not anxious and you're not frustrated and you're not fearful. Instead, you're pursuing these states that make your life so vibrant. And they also are amazing because they allow you to go out and inspire and encourage others to be living differently in a world right now that really needs it. It's so important. And so this neural paving is really a critical element. And it's nothing fancy. It's really you picking one set, just habit that you can work consistently that will drum up that state. And so that's the can increment any emotion that you want. You can experience it, but you got to work it consistently. Eventually, your brain will know no different. But I'll give you one more thing. As you work this Ackerman acronym that's so important if you want to really make this something that goes from behavior to habit, and then eventually lifestyle. What's the difference? Habit is when you start to second nature, work it right. But what can happen is all of a sudden, the world can change. There's craziness around you. You can get off track. What lifestyle is, is it becomes who you are. It's just what you do. You're a peaceful person. You're an adventure person. You're a passion person. It's just second nature. It's your belief system. It's who you are. If you really want to get to that spot, it's so important that when you go through and you condition, you apply you. You have neural paving, and you start to experience the emotion, you need to be fully present. Learn to acknowledge how amazing it is that you went and you drummed up this emotion that you were able to do that. How cool is that? It's not an arrogant thing. It's just you go, wow, that's really cool. Look at that. We were able to do that. And if we can do that, that's evidence that we can not only do it once, but we can do it over and over, and we can do it with different emotions. And all of a sudden, you start to combine these emotions that you want. You'll start to have the life that you want. And when you have the right emotions, you'll go out and you'll add value to others. And then all of a sudden, you'll start to attract more. And then you got this one, two combo that's really unbelievably powerful. But I just wanted to encourage you. What I learned this from, the last thing I'll leave you with is what I learned this from is when I was struggling after losing my job at unc, I was frustrated, I was overwhelmed, and, you know, I was stuck there. And then I started to read a book called Man's Search for Meaning with Viktor Frankl. If you've read, if you listen to this podcast, you've heard it. If you've been in my coaching, you've heard it. But it's really powerful. Here's a guy in a concentration camp where Hitler was treating people worse than ever, who lost pretty much his entire family in horrible conditions. And, you know, when I thought about it and I read the book, I was blown away because I thought, man, I feel like your experience should be frustrated, it should be angry, you should be irate. And he might have briefly experienced those things, but he chose not to hang on to those things. And instead he went over and he says, you know what I want to experience? I want to experience hope. I want to remain hopeful that I can get out of here. I want to model this and show people that they can have hope so they can get out of here, move on with their lives, and inspire and just elevate people's lives. And when I read that, I knew that it was possible for me to experience any emotion, but I also knew that I had to take control of it. Now we're five years later, and I've learned that there's a process to this. All you have to do is start by conditioning it, put your phone away, put your media away, put everything technologically away, and wake up and condition the emotions that you want to experience, prioritize those things, tell your brain that it's important, and then move into your day and say, man, I'm going to work. This is going to be hard, but I'm going to stop, I'm going to breathe, and I'm going to really, really encourage myself to pract these things in real time. And then I'm going to come along with neural paving. I'm going to commit to habits that will allow me to experience this over and over again. And when you start to acknowledge it, when it comes, and you go, wow, this is amazing. And I did this, and all of a sudden you realize your power, it will change everything in your life. You will become a master at drumming up emotions. And really, when you're good at drumming up emotions, you have a special skill set, the master skill set to making your life vibrant and incredible. So what I encourage you to do, grab this, work this, get out and do your thing so you can have that type of lifestyle. And I'll be back to you soon. Have an awesome day. Take care. Thank you so much for listening to this podcast episode. I hope you truly enjoyed it. If so, be sure to pass it on to somebody who might enjoy it as well. If you're looking for additional resources to help you just up your game, head on over to Thrive365 coaching. And check out my coaching club and my private coaching, which have just incredible resources to help you go out and create results and a life you truly love.