How not to take things personally

Summary

Podcast Summary: English POD - "How Not to Take Things Personally"

Release Date: January 19, 2021
Host: English POD
Episode Title: How Not to Take Things Personally

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Introduction

In the season two premiere of English POD, hosts and guests delve into strategies for not taking things personally, inspired by a motivational video. The episode focuses on understanding personal reactions, managing emotions, and maintaining self-worth in various aspects of life.

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General Impressions of the Video

Host (00:00):
Introduces the episode's theme and the linked video on not taking things personally. Emphasizes the relevance of this topic, especially amidst academic pressures in Saudi Arabia.

Yousef Jisani (01:31):

"He talks a lot about how not to take things personally and offers strategies to achieve that."

Mohammed Al Gharhi (02:18):

"If you take things personally in your life, you will face a lot of problems and lose many relationships. He chose this perfect topic for practicing not taking things personally."

Hussain (03:16):

"Not taking things personally is extremely useful as it helps in many situations, like interviews and daily interactions."

Hassan (04:14):
Shares personal experience of benefiting from the video's strategies, particularly the "heads and tails" coin analogy used to manage personal feelings.

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Why Choose a Referee as an Example?

The discussion shifts to why the video uses a referee to illustrate not taking things personally.

Yousef Jisani (07:11):

"He wants to train his brain not to take things personally."

Mohammed Al Gharhi (08:08):

"Being a referee is perfect training because you constantly face criticism from players and spectators. You need to overcome it to continue in this role."

Hussain (09:00):
Highlights the immense pressure referees face and questions how they manage their emotions, referencing referee Nishimura as an example of handling difficult situations.

Hassan (10:28):
Explains that referees must confront anger from multiple parties and develop strategies to remain impartial and resilient.

"He became conscious that he would be insulted and prepared strategies to handle it effectively."

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Understanding "It's Not About Me" vs. "It's About Me"

A significant portion of the episode explores the dichotomy between perceiving actions as personal affronts versus objective interactions.

Yousef Jisani (14:01):

"The speaker uses a coin with two sides to illustrate 'It's not about me' and 'It's about me.'"

Mohammed Al Gharhi (15:05):

"'It's not about me' means you don't take things personally and don't let others' negative words affect you.
'It's about me' means you do take things personally and feel offended."

Hussain (18:12):

"These two statements represent strategies. 'It's not about me' helps you avoid unnecessary emotional turmoil, while 'It's about me' allows you to acknowledge and correct genuine mistakes."

Hassan (19:33):
Elaborates on these strategies with examples:

"When someone honks at you, it's not necessarily your fault; they might be in a hurry.
Admitting 'It's about me' when you make a mistake helps in personal growth."

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Strategies to Not Take Things Personally

The hosts discuss practical methods presented in the video to avoid taking things personally.

Hassan (20:56):
Details the two main strategies:

1. It's Not About Me:

   • Consider others' intentions.
   • Example: A driver honking might be in a hurry, not targeting you personally.

2. It's About Me:

   • Acknowledge and rectify your own mistakes.
   • Focus on self-improvement rather than others' opinions.

Host (28:30):
Summarizes the strategies, highlighting the balance between external perceptions and internal self-assessment.

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The Importance of Maintaining Self-Value

The conversation shifts to the concept of "keeping your value" as discussed in the video.

Yousef Jisani (24:40):

"Always value yourself, speak up, and be patient."

Mohammed Al Gharhi (25:37):

"Don't insult yourself or feel inferior because of others' opinions."

Hussain (26:47):

"Stay confident in your work and decisions despite others' negative remarks."

Hassan (27:36):

"Don't underestimate yourself. The value of your work remains, regardless of others' criticisms."

Host (28:30):

"Keep your value means recognizing the worth of your efforts and not letting external negativity diminish your self-esteem."

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Understanding Ego

A deeper dive into the meaning of "ego" as presented in the video.

Yousef Jisani (30:55):

"Ego means selfish."

Hassan (35:51):

"Ego can have both positive and negative connotations.
Positive: Taking care of oneself and making personal decisions.
Negative: Feeling like the center of the world and prioritizing oneself over others."

Host (34:13):

"In the video, ego is portrayed negatively, implying an overemphasis on oneself leading to taking things personally."

Hassan (33:38):

"Ego refers to the self and can be interpreted differently based on context. It's about balancing self-care with humility."

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Conclusion and Takeaways

The episode wraps up with key insights and student reflections on the discussed topics.

Hassan (43:58):

"Don't underestimate yourself and maintain your self-worth despite external judgments."

Overall Insights:

• Strategies: Utilize "It's not about me" to deflect unnecessary personal offense and "It's about me" to acknowledge and improve genuine faults.
• Self-Value: Continuously recognize and uphold your own value irrespective of others' negative feedback.
• Ego Management: Understand the dual nature of ego—leveraging it for self-improvement while mitigating its potential to foster selfishness.

Host (44:50):

"Thank you to everyone who participated and shared their thoughts. We look forward to the next episode."

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Notable Quotes

• Hassan (04:14):

  "The video is really discussing something really important in our life, you know, which is helpful to our health especially psychologically speaking."

• Mohammed Al Gharhi (08:08):

  "You have to get over it and forget it forever. So I think that is the reason why."

• Host (12:48):

  "Being a referee should require a lot of patience, which aligns perfectly with the speaker's message on not taking things personally."

• Hassan (21:42):

  "The central idea is that it's not about others’ opinions about me. I have to think based on my decisions, my experience, goals, and plans."

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Final Thoughts

This episode of English POD offers profound insights into managing personal emotions and maintaining self-worth. By analyzing the role of a referee and dissecting strategies like "It's not about me" and "It's about me," listeners gain practical tools for personal and professional growth. Additionally, the exploration of ego provides a nuanced understanding of self-perception and its impact on interactions.

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For more engaging discussions and English practice, tune into the next episode of English POD.

Transcript

[Host]

Hello everyone. This is your podcast English Pod. It's a season two, episode one. I think we took a long time to start season two because you know exams and here in Saudi Arabia. So today we have a topic about a video. I will put the link in the details of our description of episode. It's about something called or move or thinking not how to not take things personally. So we have six or five questions. We'll discuss it with the guys here. So I think everyone have to show the video. Okay. And the first question it's talk in general about the video. Okay. What do you think? What is your first thought or do you have anything to add to our knowledge about this information? So I will start. Start with. I think we have a new guest here. Say Yousef Jisani. I think. Go ahead Yousef.

[Yousef Jisani]

Okay, I see the video and he talk about referee. He talk about his is much. Yes, much, much about how not take it personal. And he talk about strategies and something to not take it personally.

[Hassan]

Yes.

[Host]

Yeah. Okay, thank you for this information. Now we have I think Mohammed Al Gharhi.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Okay.

[Host]

Yes.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

First assalamualaikum. And second, I was strange the first time when I heard the topic of the video. Then I saw just maybe five minutes or four minutes of the video. And I think he just choose the perfect job for practicing how not to take things personally. Because if you do, if you take things personally in your life you will face a lot of problems, you will lose a lot of people. So I think he choose he did something very important in his life.

[Host]

Okay, thank you for this. Introduce your thoughts. I think finally or before the final Hussain, if you have anything to say it.

[Hussain]

Yes. Hello everyone. I think that's the topic is not to take things personally is most useful to a lot of people because it's.

[Hassan]

Is the connection lost or something?

[Host]

I think okay, I think is what want to say jumping some problems. It doesn't take things probably personally. I don't know.

[Hassan]

His mic is off.

[Host]

Yeah. Okay, let's jump with the teacher. Hassan, what do you think about how not take it?

[Hassan]

You mean the video itself? Not about how much they think. Well, I cannot actually add to what the guys has already said. Yes, they are right. The video is really discussing something really important in our life, you know, which is helpful to our health especially psychologically speaking. Actually I am one of the people who do take things personally. That's why I really benefited from this video and using the two strategies heads and tails and as he used the coin heads and tails as an illustration for this. For this strategy to deal with dealing or taking things personally. That's all what I have is.

[Host]

Okay, then I think it's back. You can continue what you.

[Hussain]

Yeah, sorry guys, I got interruption.

[Host]

Okay, no problem.

[Hussain]

So the guy, the speaker who has speaking about not texturing this personally. As I said, it's most useful to a lot of people and it will help them in a lot of situation. Like in an interview, like in a lot of things in life. We will explain more at this podcast. That's it, guys. You can jump.

[Host]

Yeah, I'm sorry about it. Okay, let's continue with the second question. I think teacher Hassan will continue with you guys. Okay. I have problems. Okay, I will deal with it soon. Okay, but let's jump with question two. Okay. It's why do you think the speaker choose to be a referee? Or you know, Hakam to practice the this thing or how to not take personally.

[Yousef Jisani]

Can I talk?

[Host]

Yes, sure. Then in the same order. Okay. Yusuf Muhammad said Teacher Hassan. Okay.

[Yousef Jisani]

He said. He said he want to train his brain not taking things personally. That's the best things video. I see. I read it and something in. In head. Do not take it personally. The best thing.

[Host]

Okay. Okay. Thank you for this thing knowledge. Okay, now we have Muhammad. What do you think why the speaker choose be a referee? Why you have a lot of jobs. Why it's only referee?

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Because referee. I think it's a perfect job. It's the perfect train. You face the players in every match. They are going to say bad things about you. You will fight with them. Sometimes you will face a lot of problems like this. And you have to get over it. If you want to continue on this job. You have to get over it and forgot it for forever. So I think that is the reason why.

[Hussain]

Well, I will go. I think the. The referee is the most perfection job for this.

[Hassan]

This.

[Hussain]

This thing. So we all think how the referee can handle the players and the audience, the people a lot of pressure. But we don't know how they deal with it. And we all know the referee Nishimura. I was thinking how can he live after what he did? Really it's a hard thing for what he did. But I think it's about.

[Host]

I have this. I have something. I have something to ask you.

[Hussain]

Go ahead.

[Host]

I'm not interested in Nishimuro. But what Nishimura Did I feel something hurt you a lot.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

I want to know too.

[Host]

What happened Teacher Hassan and I not interested in football completely.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Me too.

[Hassan]

We know Nishimura. We know Nishimuran. What he did.

[Hussain]

Yes. And I think it's the best exam for this matter. Not think, take personally. That's it. You can go, Mr. Hassan.

[Hassan]

Okay. So being a referee I think is the best job, as the guys said, to face people's anger. Okay. It's not only about the players. It's the players, it's the spectators, it's the. The teams. Okay? Both teams. So everyone is angry at you for no reason. Everyone thinks that they're right. This is one thing. Another thing is that something he talked about in the video? He said regarding consciousness? When he does this job, he's conscious because he's. He's aware that he is going to be insulted. Okay. So he has to be ready for this. He has to deal with it. So he started developing strategies. In a minute we will talk about the strategies he used. So that's why he chose to be a referee. Because he's going to be faced with. He's going to be conscious regarding people's insult to him.

[Host]

Yeah. Thank you for this.

[Hassan]

Your opinion Hama. We need to listen to yours.

[Host]

Yeah.

[Hassan]

You are just being.

[Host]

I'm not here. Okay. I think it's being referee and balance with how not take it. I think it's being referee because we have audience, we have players, we have also administrative or how can I say it is. We have many people. Many people love football and we have two, you know, two monsters and you are the only one between them to say no, this is. This is wrong or this is correct. This is goal or not. This is very, very hard. Specifically when I'm talking about classico like Barcelona or Real Madrid. Oh my God. You are in hard place. So the people will shout. People will shout in you like the speaker said. But you should not take it personal because they are, you know, after the, the. The. The match, no one will remember what they say because they are not unconscious or how not a week or know what the other feeling about after say these words. Okay. So being referee should be a lot of patience. So it's a good practice. The speaker do it to understand how not take personal things or how not take things personally.

[Hussain]

Good point.

[Host]

I think we have now jump with another question. It's. What's your understanding of the following sentence? The speaker said it's not about me. The other, it's about me. What do you understand when the speaker said this to this sentence? Like the order to Yusuf and Muhammad and Hussain.

[Yousef Jisani]

Okay. And in this video I see the man, he come coins and he. This has two face and one Face. He said one strategy and it is about me. And to strategy, it's not about me. It's not about me with an ego. And he said maybe he is emergency something or not about me. And if about me. And he said you their attention.

[Host]

Thanks. Okay, thank you for your point. Now we have Muhammad. If about it's not about me. And about me.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Well, when you say it's not about me, it means. Yeah, you didn't take it personally. You don't have feelings. Maybe when somebody say bad words about me when I'm a referee, I don't be angry or feel bad because it's not about me. He just said it in a moment of anger. But when I say it's about me, it means that I took it personally. It means I have a bad feeling about that word that he said about me or something like that.

[Host]

Kid you repeated. I didn't get your point.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Okay. When you say it's not about me, it's mean.

[Hassan]

You.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

You don't take it personally. You don't take things personally when you say it's not about me. So just for example, when the teacher in the class gets angry and he say bad words or do something bad for all the students, all the students in the class, I am one of the students. I say it's not about me. He didn't choose me. Exactly. So I don't be angry. I don't have bad feelings. Because he didn't mean me. And when he did something bad or he said bad things for us, but in the other way, when I say it's about me. When the teacher say bad words for the class, he got angry and he said bad things about the class, the whole class. I take it personally. I say oh, he means me. And I get angry from the teacher and we have problems. So this is the same in referee. When you hear bad words about you in the match, you hear bad words about you, about your job in the match, you have to not take it personally. It's not about you. It's just about the match. It's about the game. When the game is over, when you go outside, you will not hear those stuff. When you go out of the football world, you go out of the football world, you will not listen to these bad things. Bad words about you. Because it's not about you. It's about your job that you do. So you don't take it personally. It's not about you.

[Host]

Okay, I got your point. Thank you. Yes, thank you. We have Hussain. It's the two point the speaker mentioned it. It's about me and it's not about me. What do you. Or what, what's your understanding about it?

[Hussain]

Well, these two sentences, I think is two strategies. And the main strategy, I think it's. It's not about me and it is about me. It's the part of the main strategy because however, nothing is on you really. Some of us or a lot of people didn't notice that. He always keep thinking, did I did something bad in that situation? Did I didn't do do it? Right. He always keep thinking that. So the perfect thing is that you do is not about you. And if it's really about you and no one else, you can just fix it. Right? That's it.

[Host]

Okay, thank you for your points. And this is understanding. Okay, now we have teacher Hassan.

[Hassan]

Okay, very good. So as Hussain and Yusuf said, it's about the strategies. The two sentences, they represent the strategies. First strategy, which is it's not about me. And the other strategy is it's about me. If we recall the examples he mentioned in the video, it's gonna simplify things much better. For example, the one he was driving, the one who was driving behind him, he was pushing the horn and he was using the headlights. So it's not about me. It doesn't mean that the guy is guilty of something or it's his fault. We have to think of the other's intention. Why did he do that? Maybe because he is in hurry. So I don't have to take things personally. I have to think of the other people's needs and intentions. And this is. We have it in Arabic, for example. Okay, we have to do this. I mean, it's not, it's not, not everything that happens in this world has to be about you. It's not. Some people think that they are the center of the world. Okay? Everything is said or everything is practiced. It's all about them. So this is regarding the first strategy. It's not about me, so why do.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

I have to care?

[Hassan]

Okay, the second strategy is about me is to admit that you commit a mistake. Which is one of the best strategies to improve yourself. To say that, well, yes, it's about me, but I don't have to consider others opinions. The central idea is that it's not about others opinions about me. I have to think based on my decisions, based on my experience, goals, plans, blah blah, blah. Is am I wrong or right? Okay, so that's it.

[Host]

Okay, thank you. It's a long explanation. Explain to understand. I think it's a very Deep understanding. Because it's about me. To symbolize simplify this whole explain. I think as teacher has said, it's. It's about me. If the first strategy on you have to do it. It's. It's not about me. Because like the example of cars. Or you can. Another example is if two other people in with you in. In class or in. In any place. If you two people talking and laughing. You have not take personally. Because it's. Sometimes they are laughing in something make them laugh. Not only because you are the reason of laughing. This is another example and another thing mentioned this speaker. Speaker. Sorry. In the video it's a negative and positive thoughts. Why people always thinking about negative things or negative.

[Hassan]

50,000 thoughts. 10,000 of them positive 40,000.

[Host]

It's very very a little percentage of positive thoughts. Why why you are always take it personally. So this is a thing. It's not about me. But if the. The thing it's about me. Probably it's. It's. It's wrong with me. So sometimes if like I made mistake. Like teacher has admit me. If I did this thing. I should improve myself or fix this wrong or this mistake. It's about me. And here the speaker like buy the coin. If have two faces and use the two strategy in the same time. And if one not working use the other and use the coin. Okay. I think it's a good explanation explain and information. Let's jump. I think before the last one. It's. What does the speaker mean by always keep your value? The speaker in the video said the very very important word. Very very important word or sentence or phrase. It's keep your value. I think we'll start with Yousef. What do you think about keep your value?

[Yousef Jisani]

What I stand about it always give you value. Speak up. If you if something say about you something or speak up and be patient. Patient. And do you know the meaning of Arabic? What?

[Hassan]

Do you know the meaning of the word in Arabic? Yes. Well, you means okay. Yes.

[Yousef Jisani]

Best that is.

[Hassan]

Thanks.

[Host]

Okay. Thank you. Okay, let's jump with Hammad.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

I think it's mean don't insult yourself. Don't think that you are less than people or you are down. You are down. Don't insult yourself because you are like a lot of people. So don't insult yourself. And that's what it's about.

[Host]

I think you are mixed between keep your values and self confident.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

I didn't watch the whole video.

[Host]

Okay, okay. Okay. You talking. You are talked about the self confidence. I think we have to make episode about Self confident.

[Hassan]

Because yeah.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

You gotta be confident with yourself. So. And to do that don't insult yourself. Just do whatever you can.

[Host]

Yeah. Yeah. Okay, let's jump with Hussain. What you understand with keep your value.

[Hussain]

Well that is an important thing that you have to handle because in every everywhere there is a lot of people making boats, a plane or you and making you put an offense on you. So you always have to be confident in yourself and you always have to be. Have to. Okay.

[Host]

Confident that you're doing or work.

[Hussain]

Yes. Yeah, you can go.

[Hassan]

Okay, very good. So briefly keep your value. And it was a really good end of the video. The whole video. It's the best part the video when he also used the. The money. That's when. Yeah, it was really amazing. So basically I would say don't underestimate yourself and who you are. That's all.

[Host]

Okay. I think it's a very short and deeply meaning.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Because you said they took so much.

[Host]

Okay, I'll take you.

[Hassan]

I'm taking it personally right now.

[Host]

Okay, I will take your seat. About long explain. Okay. Okay. Keep your value. In my opinion and view it's about what the people say about you. What they say about words about your project. If you have project or work or research. And even you are put a lot of effort in this work or project. But still some people doesn't like work. So this does not mean you are not good or your work is not good. The example is the piece of or the the money. It's still after crashing or oh my God, I didn't know why and eat it. But the meaning of it. It's the value of the money still not go anywhere. Still 20 pounds. Okay so your work still have the meaning of what you create for. Yeah. Even yeah there is the value of your work or project. Even people say something wrong or criticize. I think I said it wrong. The work or your project. So still you have something to how you know how is something good in yourself? You can improve yourself and say to yourself I'm good, I'm doing well. Even people doesn't like what I did it. I think this might explain about this. Keep your value. Okay, a last question. It's what does the word ego stand for? What do you understand from the video about the word ego? Okay. Yusuf have anything about ego?

[Yousef Jisani]

Yes, and it means selfish.

[Host]

Selfish. Not that much selfish. I think there is a difference between selfish and ego. Or Anania and.

[Yousef Jisani]

I will take one of you.

[Host]

Yeah.

[Yousef Jisani]

I will take a point.

[Host]

Okay. Okay. Okay. Muhammad, did you search about the E word.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

No, I didn't.

[Host]

Okay, Hussain, I'm sorry, I. I didn't.

[Hussain]

Understand this word either.

[Host]

Okay. Teacher Hassan, I think in. In WhatsApp before Teacher Hassan talking. I will talk before. Take it personally, please.

[Hassan]

I'm going to use the strategies.

[Host]

I think yesterday you put something in your WhatsApp about Al Malani.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Host]

I think this meaning about Al Mulmani. Okay. It's not useless.

[Hassan]

It is not useless.

[Host]

Yeah. The Al Mamani you said in the WhatsApp, it's useless without any benefit.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Host]

I think this is the meaning of word. It's in this. How can I say it?

[Hassan]

Yes, of course. We're not talking about the individual meaning of the word.

[Host]

Yeah, this is dictionaries work.

[Hassan]

Yeah, dictionaries. So it's about dictionaries. No, we're talking about when I say this word, for example, what does it refer to? And the person who says this word, what is it called? The person who said the word, he has a name. The person who receives the word, he has a name. The context has another name. Okay. And there are different scenarios are going to be understood based on the person's understanding.

[Host]

This is.

[Hassan]

This is semantics. In English, of course, semantics.

[Host]

Yeah.

[Hassan]

In Arabic it is important. Why? Because the language itself really rich in meaning but English is not rich in meaning. And this is one of the biggest differences between Arabic and English. And everyone can notice that Arabic is rich in meaning but English is not rich in meaning. So it's my opinion eventually. And it's bullshit to study this.

[Host]

Yeah. Okay. Okay. Before you take, I will take your place. Okay. Ego. I think in Arabic it's okay, but ego is meaning. How can I say it but ego if you know, teacher hasn't said central of world. Ego. I think the similar meaning of central world. Omar Kazalkon. How can I say it in Arabic? No, this is ego. But the selfish or anania it means okay, this is selfish. I think it's my opinion about this word. Two words, okay? Ego. It's selfish. The speaker said it in the video because it's always, always it's about me. It's a negative. It's. People always hate me and take it personally. It's an ego. Okay? It's a ego because you, you have to say or you say to the world or the people, you have to give me your attentions. I don't care about your intention. But my intentions should be full of. Okay. I think it's a mean ego. In the video our speaker said it. Okay, now you're teacher Hassan Will take.

[Hassan]

Yes, as you said, hammam, ego is to feel that you are the center of the world. Okay. And in Arabic it means. Right. And also they use it in other. In other connotations, they say the self. Okay? So it can be used positively and negatively. But in the video, the speaker uses the word ego in a negative connotation where he is expressing, it's about me, everything is about me, everyone talking about me, and so on and so forth. So ego has two connotations. First is positive and then the other is negative at that. When I say at that you hear the self, we call it the ego. Okay? Ego, as Yusuf said yani, it includes selfishness. Ego, selfishness.

[Host]

This is. Take us to the point of English, not have a lot of words.

[Hassan]

Yeah, exactly.

[Host]

So yeah, in Arabic it's negative completely. And the selfish in Arabic completely. But ego.

[Hassan]

Ego doesn't mean. By the way, it doesn't mean. In Arabic, it has nothing to do with the word.

[Host]

It's similar to kilmet al ghurur.

[Hassan]

No, no, the meaning of ego doesn't mean. As I told you, al Ana, you know, if you, if you know something, it's an ego.

[Host]

Yeah, yeah.

[Hassan]

It's not about, it's no ghrur, no Al ana is that. That you feel as, as the speaker said, diani, that everything is about you. Okay, so it's not about.

[Host]

But ego, it's coming to a road or not.

[Hassan]

Of course, yes, among the meanings, so many factors or elements, selfishness, so on and so forth. But ego can be touched positively by the way any ego, as I told you, it means the self itself. When I say my ego, for example, it means the self. So it hasn't, it has nothing to do with selfishness and so on.

[Hussain]

I didn't get any. I want to understand this world.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Hussain]

I need.

[Hassan]

Yeah. As we, as we discussed. As we discussed, if you translate the word Quran in very good dictionaries, like for example, if you go to very good dictionary, website, his website, and if you write the word egos, it's gonna, you will have the meaning of. Okay. And you hear a lot of. When I say the ego, I'm talking about myself. I improve myself. I take care of myself. That doesn't mean that I'm unselfish. Okay. But eventually I'm also talking about my ego, you know, you got the meaning?

[Hussain]

Oh, yes, yes.

[Hassan]

Yeah, that's the meaning of it. So it can be used negatively and positively. Okay.

[Host]

Okay, but I'm sorry about interruption and cutting off. But the mean, the Word in negative.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Host]

Refer to the ego. Alana.

[Hassan]

Yes.

[Host]

Yes.

[Hassan]

I think you have heard of the word.

[Host]

Yeah, yeah. It's everything I do. It is good. Everything. I did it. Okay.

[Hassan]

Yeah.

[Host]

Yes. Okay. If someone have something to add it before we end our meeting.

[Hussain]

Yes, I got a question.

[Host]

Yeah, I think we will. Yusuf go. Yeah, sure. Okay. Hussain, if you have anything.

[Hussain]

Yes. A question about the word ego. So yes, the word it's carry the same thing about the negatives and the positives or is it carry some sides on another? I hope you get me.

[Host]

I think I cannot. I think I cannot answer you. Teacher Hassan will.

[Hassan]

Well, as we said just previously based on the context and for example when you say when you take care of yourself, you plan for your life.

[Host]

For.

[Hassan]

Example, you don't accept or you take decisions for yourself. This is not called selfishness. Again, this is taking care of your ego. This is your ego. Okay. How to deal with your ego in positive thing. But again it can be used negatively as I said.

[Hussain]

Okay. And it can use in the two ways.

[Hassan]

Yeah, two ways. Very good. Positively and negatively can be used in both ways.

[Hussain]

Okay, thank you.

[Hassan]

And eventually this is. And this is regarding psychology. It has nothing to do with English. This is about psychology because we are talking about the self here.

[Host]

The question is the positive. The positive meaning what is it?

[Hassan]

As I said to take care of yourself.

[Host]

I didn't get it.

[Hassan]

Yeah. To take care of yourself.

[Host]

Could you repeat it?

[Hassan]

Yeah. To make decisions for yourself, to plan for yourself.

[Host]

What else in general in Arabic means.

[Hassan]

Oh no, no, it doesn't mean. Yeah, it means at that the self.

[Host]

Oh, okay. Yeah.

[Hassan]

Yeah. We all do improve.

[Host]

Yeah, yeah, sure. Okay.

[Hussain]

Is actually deep.

[Hassan]

It is.

[Host]

It is. Yeah. Really A knife with two head. Okay. Okay. If someone want to add something. Okay. Thank you for listening. If someone reached to this point. Thank you so much and thank you for the everyone here attend our our meeting and share their thoughts about the video.

[Hassan]

Thank you very much everyone. Thank you.

[Hussain]

Thank you.

[Host]

Goodbye. See you. Inshallah another episode.

[Hassan]

See you next week. Inshallah.

[Host]

Next weekend.

[Mohammed Al Gharhi]

Thank you guys.

[Hassan]

Thank you.