EXPANDED Podcast Ep. 372: How to Get Out of Your Head and Take Your Power Back

Host: Jessica Gill (TBM’s Chief Content Officer)
Date: September 12, 2025

Episode Overview

This solo episode, hosted by Jessica Gill, dives deep into the recurring theme of “getting out of your head and regaining your power.” Jessica unpacks what it means to reclaim your personal agency, break free from limiting beliefs, and align with your most authentic self to manifest your desires. Throughout, she emphasizes the importance of supporting yourself during periods of transition and reframing setbacks as necessary integration before big up-levels in your life.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Central Question: Where Are You Giving Your Power Away?

• Jessica opens with a passionate reminder:

  “Don’t be the one that’s denying the world your gifts... Where are you giving your power away? That is going to be the theme of the episode today and how to take your power back, how to remember that you can be in the driver’s seat of your reality.” (00:00)

• The episode is structured around identifying the subtle ways we unconsciously give away our power — to doubt, to outcomes, to timelines, to old stories — and offers actionable steps to reclaim it.

2. Transition, Eclipses, and Identity Shifts

• The episode lands during an “eclipse portal,” marking a collective period of transformation.
• Jessica explains:

  “If you are feeling that growth edge, that identity shift... you’re almost at the edges of it and you’re like, I see it, I can claim it, but it’s not immersed yet. This is how I would help you navigate.” (16:45)

• Encourages listeners to honor liminal periods as potent, preparatory stages for major manifestation.

3. Dealing with Tests: What Are They Really?

• Jessica defines a “test” in the TBM manifestation process:

  “Tests or challenges that the universe places in front of us... it’s the universe’s way of asking if we’re still going to settle for the same old patterns, behaviors, situations, dynamics that we did in the past.” (21:10)

• Passing tests isn’t about checking off manifestation steps but about embodying your new self when things aren’t yet working out.

4. Confidence Is Built in the Small Promises to Self

• Breaks the habit loop using a personal example about not checking her phone first thing in the morning:

  “True confidence stems from the number of times that you follow through with the pings and the desires of your highest self.” (29:00)

• Emphasizes that maintaining small promises fosters internal security and magnetism.

5. Manifestation as Preparation: The Baby Analogy

• Jessica draws an analogy to the four to six weeks before birth, when the baby receives peak nutrition:

  “In the weeks or months leading up to your manifestation coming in, you need to be operating... as if you are preparing to be fully operating post manifestation come through.” (43:50)

• The ‘waiting period’ is crucial for integrating habits and beliefs that will sustain your next chapter.

6. The Final Boss: Fear Barriers Before Up-Leveling

• Uses the metaphor of a character nearly escaping a castle before “giant iron gates” thrust up—i.e., self-doubt or fear.

  “I feel like right before the manifestation comes through, that barrier pops up... and that barrier oftentimes looks like self doubt and fear.” (48:30)

• Recognizing that “all hope is lost” feelings often mean you’re right at the edge of a breakthrough.

7. Real-Life Example: Facing Procrastination and the Fear of Being Unlikable

• Jessica shares her resistance to launching a YouTube channel, exploring how deep fears around “not being likable” surfaced during the process.

  “It was almost like I exposed this shadow part of me that was self-sabotaging and overthinking... because I was actually hiding that fear of just not being likable.” (58:00)

• Uses TBM’s Deep Imaginings (di’s) to reprogram the original wound (a childhood memory where no one came to her ‘Fun Club’).
• The breakthrough was not about external validation, but about internally claiming self-belief and completion.

  “The win was just finishing the action... biggest win was the fact that I finished it.” (01:11:30)

8. Getting into Your Body and Out of Your Head

• Techniques: walks, meditation, time off the phone, Deep Imaginings/Journaling.
• The “number one tip” for taking your power back:

  “Reframe any victim mindset, envy, or pedestalizing. ... Figure out what will help you drop back into your body and connect with your heart and soul... Make that the priority.” (01:28:45)

9. Q&A: Integration, Allowing More, Burnout, and Doing the Work ‘Right’

• Allowing More:

  “If my soul is wanting more... then the more is always in alignment. You can drop the guilt.” (01:31:10)
  Quote from Asha Rose (via Jessica):
  “Sometimes you need people who are reaching new heights, crossing new thresholds, manifesting their dreams to help lift everyone else up.” (01:33:30)

• Burnout:
  • Boundaries are crucial. Fill your schedule with life-giving practices instead of just removing what depletes you.

  “Flood the system with the positive so that there’s literally no more room for the unaligned stuff.” (01:37:00)

• Over-Focusing on ‘Doing TBM Right’:
  • Let intuition lead instead of following the process rigidly.

  “If you are looking at the TBM work as a step by step... you are now giving your power and your intuition away to the work.” (01:41:35)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Self-Ownership:

  “Don’t be the reason that you are not putting your gifts, your unique essence, your magic out into the world.” (01:24:00)

• On the Waiting Period:

  “See this preparation period before something big is about to drop in as honestly, one of your most medicinally rich moments.” (41:10)

• On Facing Fears at the Edge:

  “You have to catch them [the fears] for what they are as your final integration into your power, your final integration into the new version of self... Don’t run back. This is the moment to claim it.” (49:25)

• On Compassion and Up-Leveling:

  “Keep giving yourself compassion and grace as you edge closer and closer and closer to it and know that you are so worth it.” (01:54:55)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:00 – Opener: Introduction to episode theme and regaining your power
• 16:45 – Navigating Eclipse/Transition Periods
• 21:10 – Understanding and passing “tests”
• 29:00 – The power of small acts and building confidence
• 43:50 – Manifestation & the baby analogy: preparing for arrival
• 48:30 – The “final boss”: last-minute fears before big shifts
• 58:00–01:11:30 – Jessica’s YouTube story: shadow work, procrastination, likability wound
• 01:24:00 – Don’t deny the world your magic
• 01:28:45 – Top tips for taking your power back; final integration
• 01:31:10 – Q&A Segment: Allowing more, burnout, doing the work “right”
• 01:41:35 – Trusting intuition over rigidity in self-development
• 01:54:55 – Closing words: embracing transition cycles, compassion, and aligned action

Actionable Tools & Key Takeaways

• Pause to Reflect: Identify subtle areas where power is being given away — to timelines, outcomes, other people’s opinions, or your own limiting stories.
• Integrate, Don’t Escape: Use practices to process (not rush) the discomfort while building secure attachment to self.
• Build Confidence through Follow-Through: Small, repeated acts of self-care and honoring pings build real magnetism and worth.
• Embrace Fears as Signs of Edges: Recognize surges in fear or doubt as invitations to integration, not signals to retreat.
• Flood with Positivity: Add rituals and habits that fill your cup, rather than simply stripping away what drains you.
• Trust Your Unique Path: Use frameworks as guides, not as rigid manuals—your intuition always has the last word.

For those seeking to manifest real change, this episode encourages you to step off autopilot, reclaim your energy, and honor the unique gifts only you can bring.