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Fearless Female Leadership Podcast with Sheryl Kline, M.A. CHPC
Hosted by Sheryl Kline M.A., CHPC · EN
Mental Toughness and High Performance Coaching. I Empower Female Leaders, Emerging Leaders and Male Allies to b.HER.d™ and Access Their Next Level of Impact and Joy.
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10 Years. Hundreds of Women Executives + Rising Leaders.
1w ago00:05:57Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogTen years ago, I started The Zone Lab with one core belief:Women’s voices matter, and it’s important now more than ever for these voices to be heard, valued, respected, and taken action on.Over the last ten years, I’ve had the privilege of working side by side with hundreds of women executives and I’ve reached more than 100,000 leaders through mastermind cohorts, speaking engagements, books, podcast and my Fearless Female Leadership enterprise digital curriculum. Even writing that number feels surreal because behind every number is a person. A difficult conversation. A high-stakes decision. A moment where someone chose courage over self-doubt.And while many people know The Zone Lab through leadership development and executive coaching, there is another part of this journey that means deeply to me.Over the last several years, The Zone Lab has partnered with Girl Up Initiative Uganda to fund full educational scholarships for young girls to attend the best boarding schools in Uganda and keep supporting them until they go to college or start their own business. Some are studying to become doctors. Others are launching businesses and stepping into leadership roles within their communities. One girl can change the trajectory of generations.The same is true inside organizations. When women are fully supported, fully empowered, and fully seen, and know how to influence, especially when the stakes are high, the ripple effect extends far beyond one individual leader.This milestone has also reminded me how important partnership is behind the scenes.For the last ten years, my husband Scott has helped lead the marketing, visibility strategy, content, and operational foundation behind The Zone Lab. Much of what people experience through this community would not exist without his creativity, consistency, and belief in this mission. I am incredibly grateful.And most of all, I am grateful for you.Whether you joined this community recently or have been part of it from the beginning, thank you for allowing me to be part of your leadership journey. Thank you for trusting me with your stories, your growth, and your goals.We are just getting started.🎥 Watch My Video for a More In-depth Perspective.https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/10-years-hundreds-of-women-executives-rising-leadersThere is so much ahead, and I cannot wait to continue building it together.If I can support you, your team, or your organization in any way, simply schedule a time here. http://www.sherylkline.com/meetingCheering you on always,- Sheryl
Transcribe →Inner Circles Shape Leadership Impact More Than You Think
2w ago00:07:00Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogMany times the biggest factor influencing confidence, visibility, and leadership impact is not capability.It's the environment, the personal board that we spend the most time with.Inside my High Performance Executive Accelerator cohorts, I often work with highly accomplished women who are delivering strong results, leading teams effectively, and operating at a very high level... yet they felt like their voice was not landing the way it should.And when we start peeling back the layers together, one important pattern often emerges.The people closest to them are not always reinforcing their growth.If we want female leaders to thrive under pressure, expand their influence, and remain engaged long-term, we have to look beyond skills alone. We also need to examine the ecosystems surrounding them... including the quality of support, sponsorship, encouragement, and feedback they experience consistently.Jim Rohn famously said that "you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."As leaders grow, relationship dynamics often shift. A promotion, expanded visibility, or increased influence can sometimes create discomfort in others, even unintentionally. And while that may be difficult to navigate, it does not mean a female leader should shrink herself to make others comfortable.This is why I often encourage women leaders to think intentionally about building what I call a personal board of advisors.These are the people who:challenge you thoughtfullyadvocate for your growthreinforce your strengthshelp you navigate pressure with clarity and confidenceencourage you to keep expanding rather than playing smallOne of the most powerful ways to retain and elevate female leaders is to ensure they are surrounded by the right support structures... Leadership confidence and sustainable impact does not develop in isolation.It develops through consistent reinforcement, meaningful support, and environments where women are encouraged to use their voices fully.🎥 Watch My Video for a More In-depth Perspective and Solutions.If I can support you or your organization through High-Performance Executive Advisory Cohorts, speaking, training workshops or one-on-one coaching, please reach out to me directly.To your and your organization’s continued success!--Sheryl
Transcribe →Rising Female Leaders Are Leaving. Here’s What the Data Is Actually Saying (... and How to Fix It)
4w ago00:06:13Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogThe (anonymous) behind the scenes data is from dozens of my coaching calls with female executives and rising leaders about what they are most concerned about and what is pushing them to the brink.What I am hearing (combined with what the newest research is confirming) is that most organizations are operating on two significant myths.Getting clear on both of them is where the real work begins.The first myth: Saying ‘yes’ is best.When a team member is excited or a role goes unfilled, rising female leaders are often the ones who absorb the gap… The result is a compounding weight that has nothing to do with capability and everything to do with boundaries that were never clearly set. The solution here is twofold. Rising female leaders can develop the confidence and the language to have explicit, direct conversations with their managers about what they can or cannot take on and what will pull them away from what’s expected in their current roleThe second myth: Women leave for family reasons. The research is now telling us clearly that this is not the primary driver. The far more significant reason is that rising female leaders are being recruited elsewhere (by organizations that are making them feel seen, recognized, and valued) because in their current roles, they cannot see a path forward.A large piece of the visibility gap comes down to a dynamic that plays out in rooms, meetings, and conversations every single day. Male counterparts, on average, are more vocal about what they are working on, what they have accomplished, and what they want next. They advocate for themselves as a matter of course. Many rising female leaders, by contrast, are deflecting credit to their teams, waiting to be noticed which rarely delivers the outcomes you want and deserve.This is not a character flaw. It is a gap in a specific, learnable skill set: how to document impact, how to speak about your accomplishments with confidence and without apology, and how to make bold asks... for sponsorships, for stretch assignments, for a real and explicit conversation about what lies ahead. When rising female leaders learn to do this well, everything shifts.What Makes the Biggest Impact?Peer support and executive coaching can help reduce female leader exits, especially by improving resilience, confidence, and decision-making under pressure.The strongest results come when coaching is paired with real organizational support, like flexible work, sponsorship, and clear advancement paths.Peer groups help women leaders feel less isolated and give them a place to problem-solve shared challenges.Coaching is most useful for burnout, boundary-setting, and navigating difficult leadership dynamics.It will not fix turnover on its own; retention improves most when companies also change the culture and systems driving women out.Watch my video for a more in-depth perspective: https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/rising-female-leaders-are-leaving-here-s-what-the-data-is-actually-saying-and-how-to-fix-itThe good news in all of this is that there is a proven process. One that is community-based, practical, and built around exactly the skills that close these gaps. Whether you are a rising leader who is ready to stop waiting and start advocating for yourself, or an organization that is serious about keeping the women you have invested in, I’d love to help you to help them. Let’s chat about it!Cheering you on always.- Sheryl
Transcribe →How to Be Influential on a Speaking Panel, Even When Others Speak WAY Too Much
Apr 2200:08:56Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com.blogFour strategies for women who are tired of not being heard — and ready to have a bigger voice on a stage.Watch my video to gain a more in-depth perspective: https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/how-to-be-influential-on-a-speaking-panelYou prepared. You showed up. And then the guy next to you decided the panel was actually a podcast... his podcast. Mixed-gender panels can feel less like peer experts and more like other panelists me, me, me show. This is not only frustrating for you, the audience misses out on hearing your wisdom and important insights.The good news is: you have more power than you think. You just need to know how to prepare and how to use it. Here are 4 strategies that will help:Strategy 1Set the Rules Before You StartBefore the panel begins, check whether the moderator has established clear ground rules... answer time limits, how speakers will be recognized, and what happens when someone runs long. If they haven’t, ask. Publicly. A simple “Just so we’re all aligned... how are we handling time today?” puts everyone on notice, including the over-sharer. The moderator may or may not enforce the rules (even though it is their job), but at least the expectation has been set.Strategy 2Own the Stage Before You Say a WordThis is not about ego. This is about energy. Before the audience files in (or the morning before the event starts), physically claim your space — touch the table, stand at the mic, get comfortable in your chair. Becoming familiar, especially by physically touching the stage, your chair, and some of the attendee chairs, can make you feel like the other panelists, moderator, and attendees are entering YOUR space.Remind yourself: this stage is not given to you as a favor. You earned it. Shift your mindset from “I hope I get to contribute” to “I am here to serve this audience.” When you’re focused on the value you’re delivering... your presence shifts. The audience feels it, even when you haven’t spoken yet.“You cannot control how much other panelists speak. You can absolutely control the power of your words.”Strategy 3Less Is More, and More Is PowerfulOlympic athletes don’t wing it. Neither should you. Research your topic deeply, prepare your key points, then edit ruthlessly. No filler. No hedging. No “great question!” When you speak with precision and stop when you’re done, you stand out. The panelist who speaks for four uninterrupted minutes rarely says more than the one who delivers two sharp, confident sentences. Preparation is your competitive advantage.Strategy 4Have a Backup Plan, and Know When to Use ItCome prepared with a lead magnet: a report, white paper, or resource you can reference if you don’t get enough airtime. “I didn’t get to cover everything today, but I’ve written extensively on this — find me after, or grab the link in the event app.” Your insights live beyond your time on that stage.And if someone is steamrolling the moderator? Be prepared to interrupt — calmly, cleanly, and without apology. Even the chattiest panel-mates have to take a breath. That’s your chance! Try saying: “I’d love to add something here.” Say it like you mean it.The bottom line: The panel doesn’t belong to whoever talks the most. It belongs to whoever is most prepared, most present, and most focused on the audience. Make sure that’s you!If I can help you or your team in any way, I’d love to have a conversation.To your continued success and cheering you on always!Sheryl
Transcribe →Two Levers That Protect Career Promotion Velocity for Women Leaders
Mar 2700:08:38Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogIn honor of International Women's History month, I am wrapping up a series of proven processes that drive promotion velocity, retention protection, and a deeper leadership bench for rising women leaders.Two levers that can be massively underestimated are emotional resilience and developing intentional internal strategic partnerships.Internal strategic partners go beyond mentorship and sponsorship.They provide support from emotional drag, from ego-driven interference, and from the quiet productivity loss that happens when high-performing women are carrying too much internally while delivering at the highest levels externally.When you give rising women leaders the tools and the right strategic partners to help navigate workplace complexities ... They thrive. And so does your organization.The Emotional Tax Is Real ... and It Is Worth AddressingResearch confirms what many women leaders already know. There is a significant emotional tax for women in the workplace, and it tends to intensify the higher they rise, especially for women who are further marginalized within our gender.It can look like confidence issues on the surface. But what is actually happening can be more specific ... navigating power dynamics that were not designed with them in mind, staying composed through ego-driven behavior, and carrying unspoken pressure to be exceptional, approachable, and productive all at once.When women have the right tools, they do not just survive. They thrive and ascend in the process while not feeling depleted or burned out. That is where the real performance uplift lives.What Becomes Possible When Women Leaders Have World-Class Tools AND Internal SupportThree high-leverage outcomes show up when women leaders are equipped with emotional resilience tools and supported by strong strategic partnerships.Productivity is pressured ... and profitability improves. Leaders who can anchor down and move forward protect execution. Women leaders with the right tools stay productive and keep driving outcomes regardless of what is happening around them. Influence expands even in challenging personality dynamics. The leaders who build lasting influence are not the ones who get (understandably) annoyed, frustrated, angry, or overwhelmed by difficult deadlines and challenging colleagues. The First Lever: Build Confidence in Your Future Self NowMy business mentor said: new level, new devil.A leader may feel completely grounded and confident in her current scope. The moment she looks toward the next level, that is where the new challenge appears. And that is where real growth begins.For others to be confident in us, we must be confident in ourselves first. And that confidence can absolutely be built.The Second Lever: Choose Strategic Partners With the End in MindOrganizations can empower rising female leaders to think with the end in mind.Imagine the role... the bigger scope, the executive seat, your next level of influence. Now ask: who is the most important person I will need aligned with me at that level?Owning the important conversations. Knowing their worth, perspective, experience, and execution power.. How to make conversations genuinely valuable for strategic partners while being clear on desired outcomes.That is what transforms internal networking into strategic partnership.Permission to reach for the person who feels "too senior" or "too far away." Here’s to an impactful year of empowered women leaders!If I can support you or your organization through speaking, one-on-one coaching, or peer advisory masterminds, reach out to me directly.To your and your organizat
Transcribe →Before You Make a Big Ask: Three Strategies That Position You to Gain Buy-in
Mar 1600:09:28Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogIn honor of International Women's Day 2026, I am continuing this series on what drives promotion velocity, a deeper leadership bench, and lasting influence for women leaders.Here is what I know from 25 years of working with world-class athletes, Olympians, executives, and rising leaders:It’s very possible that you are more ready than you think to have a bigger voice at the bigger table.And with the right preparation, even the most challenging rooms become rooms where you are highly influential.A phrase from a business mentor of mine used to say:New level, new devil.Let’s make sure you’re prepared for those important future moments, bigger rooms, and the leader you aspire to be, now!So before you are thinking of making a big ask, having an even bigger voice, or contribution at a bigger table, here are three proven strategies to prepare:Step 1: Do Your Homework Through Their LensPreparing our message is essential. However, what most do not do is prepare through the other person’s lens, preparing for their reality.One of our most important needs as human beings is feeling heard and valued. If we don’t it’s challenging to trust that the other person has our best interest at heart.I call this developing an ECO Mindset, developing empathy for the other, curiosity for their condition, and optimism for the desired outcome. Not simply "What must it be like for them?" ... but fully stepping into their perspective.Ask yourself as if you are the other person:What is keeping me up at night? What would make my life significantly easier right now? What am I most focused on protecting or losing?When we can answer those questions with confidence, we walk in already ahead. We are no longer just presenting our case ... we are speaking directly to what matters most to them. That is where trust deepens and the runway to influence is built.Step 2: Get Crystal Clear on Your GiveGive to Gain is a mindset that changes everything about how you enter a room.Instead of only asking, "What do I want from this conversation?" expand it:What do I have to contribute? What value and perspective do I uniquely bring, and own it! How do I want them to feel when we are done?This one shift moves you from seeking approval to creating value. And that changes everything ... your posture, your presence, your tone, and your influence.You have more to give than you realize. Walk in knowing that.Step 3: Walk In as a Respectful EqualOur mindset about our worth comes through in everything ...in our tone, our cadence, our eye contact, our presence. Only a small fraction of what lands in our communication is the words. Most of it is energy, body language, and how we show up.So walk in knowing that you belong in that room. Walk in as a respectful equal who is there to create something powerful together.Here's to you not just having a seat at the table ... but having a bigger, bolder, more influential voice at that table too.If I can support you, your team, or your organization, please reach out to me directly at Sheryl@SherylKline.com.I'm cheering you on, always!http://www.sherylkline.com/getacquainted
Transcribe →Agency Over Worry When Stakes Are High: Three Levers That Create Control When the Pressure Is On
Mar 500:06:15Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogIf you’ve ever ‘choked’ during an important conversation, it means that you’re human and that you care deeply about the outcome which is great! What’s not so great is that many times our inability to emotionally regulate robs us of our ability to influence, especially when the stakes are high. Here’s a look at my recent closed session at SFVegas for the Rising Stars cohort at Women in Securitization. The focus was on Clarity, and what I'm about to share works any time of year, especially when you're facing pressure, uncertainty, or a high stakes moment.We're exploring three Olympic-level strategies that rarely get the attention they deserve, yet they change everything when you use them with intention: Agency, Identity, and Rituals. And if you love having a sense of control (that’s me!), you're going to find these very effective:1) Agency: You Have More Than You ThinkThe root cause for non-clinical anxiety is almost always the same, fixating on things we cannot control: how we'll be perceived by others, how the audience will react, whether you'll get the job, promotion, or the raise. Those are real concerns, but the outcome is not fully within our power to determine.Agency is the antidote, because it draws your attention back to what we can actually control. It's knowing exactly what you DO have control over and shifting your attention to those one or two things. The simplest way to build agency quickly is to decide two things: What is my desired outcome?, and What steps are within my control to move toward it? You may not have agency over whether the promotion materializes, but you absolutely have agency over the people you talk to, the skills you build, the conversations you initiate, and the commitments you keep. 2) Identity: Be Your Future Leader Starting Now!You've heard me say it before: new level, new devil. Any time you stretch into a bigger role or bigger visibility, that little voice may show up. "Who do you think you are? You're not ready."Feeling like an imposter? Good! It means that you’ve raised your hand to dream bigger, be in the rooms that make you uncomfortable, and raise your hand for positions that challenge youRather than fight it, acknowledge it, validate it, and then choose your next-level identity anyway. Identity is not a title. It's an internal agreement. If you want to be a director, VP, or higher, start thinking and operating like you are in that role now. If you want to be in bigger rooms, start carrying yourself like you belong in them now. Your current identity will always pull your behavior back to what's familiar, but your next-level identity pulls your behavior forward and creates the conditions for others to see you at that level, too.3) Rituals: The Missing Link Between Confidence and ConsistencyThere's often confusion between habits and rituals.. A habit is something you do consistently with flexibility. For example, I exercise every morning before work. Occasionally, I have an early meeting, so my exercise happens after my work day. A ritual happens at a specific time and does not change. For example, prior to all coaching sessions, I take three deep breaths and commit to being fully present. Rituals create stability inside uncertainty. Read more and watch my video at: https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/agency-over-anxiety-the-three-levers-that-create-clarity-when-stakes-are-highIf I can support you, your team, or your organization, please reach out to me directly at Sheryl@SherylKline.com.I'm cheering you on, always!- Sheryl
Transcribe →IWD 2026 Give to Gain Series: Promotion Velocity and Retention Protection via Emotional Resilience and Strategic Partnerships
Feb 1200:08:38Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogIn honor of International Women’s Day 2026, I’m sharing a series of research backed and proven processes that truly moves the needle for women in leadership and the organizations that rely on them.In the coming weeks, we’ll focus on promotion velocity, retention protection, deepening the leadership bench, and avoiding lost productivity and lost revenue during disruptive times.Given these proven tools, repeatable processes, and pressure proofed frameworks, companies can gain measurable progress, especially when the stakes are high. Today’s focus is on two underestimated levers with outsized impact: emotional resilience strategic sponsorshipAs a two-time best selling author, speaker, and certified high performance executive coach, I help women leaders and rising leaders build Olympic level confidence and FBI grade strategic influence that will help them successfully deepen and manage key relationships (internally and externally) as well remain highly performing during disruptive or during times of change.First, let’s talk about the many times, invisible roadblocks.Emotional tax is alive and well. The research tells us that it gets more expensive at higher levels AND for women who are further marginalized within our gender.That matters because as stakes rise, the cost of carrying too much without the right tools and strategic sponsorship rises too. If organizations want to retain executive and high potential women, accelerate promotion velocity, and deepen their leadership bench, emotional resilience cannot be left to chance. Neither can strategic sponsorships.What if female leaders have both?Three things.Productivity holds under pressure ... and profitability improvesDuring disruption, leaders who can anchor down and keep moving protect performance. When women leaders have the tools to stay grounded, organizations avoid costly drops in execution, momentum, and outcomes. This is not just leadership development. It’s profitable.Leaders stop getting pulled into ego driven dynamicsEgo and narcissistic behaviors exist in many workplaces, internally and externally. Without tools, these dynamics drain bandwidth, derail confidence, and create unnecessary conflict. With the right tools and partnerships, women learn to distance themselves from those behaviors, maneuver around them, and in some cases, get those personalities on their side to support outcomes. That is emotionally protective and tactically smart.Trust and loyalty deepen ... and relationships weather the stormAI matters. And if we hit disruption, what carries organizations through is not technology alone. It’s trust, loyalty, and relationships. Leaders who deepen trust and build stronger relationships create stability during instability. That is how companies stay productive and profitable when things get noisy.What can organizations give?First, give proven strategies to sharpen Clarity from the third person.If you’ve been in my community for a bit, you’ve heard me say.... Read more at: https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/promotion-velocity-and-retention-protection-via-emotional-resilience-and-strategic-partnershipsIf you would like to learn more about the Fearless Female Leadership enterprise digital framework, please click below. I’m glad to share more. And if I can support you or your organization through speaking, coaching, or peer advisory mastermind work, I’d love to partner to help you help the leaders in your organization. Let's chat!
Transcribe →The 4 Step Sequence of a “Big Ask” ... How to Gain Buy-In Without Pushing
Feb 500:06:24Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogOne of the questions I’m asked frequently, whether I’m leading a mastermind cohort, working one on one with clients, or speaking from a stage, is this:“What is the successful sequence of making a ‘big ask’ and receiving buy-in?”And this applies internally ... asking for new scope, a title, compensation, or resources.It also applies externally ... asking a client to commit, expand, renew, or say yes to a bigger engagement.Most people think the ask is the moment that matters most.It’s not.The ‘ask’ is the fourth step.If you want buy-in, you need the right sequence ... because the sequence is what makes the ask feel like a solution, not a request for the other to give something up.So, the next time you commit to making a big ask, consider the following:Step 1: Build a Trust and Safety RunwayBefore you ask for anything, it’s important to build a trust and safety runway.Not trust that you can get something done or competence trust.Explicit communication that demonstrates rust that you understand and care about the other person’s perspective/condition.Trust that you are paying attention to what they’re carrying. This creates safety for them to lean into what you’re asking.This is a need, not a bonus. In our hierarchy of needs, we need to feel safe and cared for. And this step is often overlooked.So what does it look like?It sounds like an explicit concern. Keep in mind, to sound like you care it’s imperative that you do!“It sounds like this quarter is carrying a lot of weight for you.”“It sounds like you’re being asked to hold a lot of priorities at once.”“It seems like this issue is incredibly important.”And here’s the beautiful part:It is okay if you are slightly off.If you say, “It sounds like XYZ is the main concern,” and you’re not perfectly right, people will correct you ... and most people actually love to correct you.That correction creates clarity. And clarity creates connection.Step 2: Name Their Loss Pain ... and Truly Care About ItNext is loss pain.Loss pain is a huge driver of motivation, even more so than potential benefits. Before making an ask, it’s important to understand what the other person is trying to avoid losing.It’s not enough to state someone’s loss pain though.Again, it’s vital to genuinely care about it ... and you have to communicate that care.How?Slow your speaking down a little. Lean in a little. Be present.If you’re talking about lost revenue, lost traction, lost progress, or losing momentum in the quarter ... do not rush past it. Do not deliver it like a bullet point.Let it land with weight.Because how you deliver it is part of how you build trust.And if you do this well, the other person will feel something important:“This person understands AND cares what I’m carrying.”Step 3: Let It Sit ... Then End on a CrescendoThis is where timing becomes everything.When you take someone low emotionally, it’s memorable which is good! However, the “last impression is the lasting impression” as a mentor of mine says, so we don’t want to end a conversation there. It is okay if there’s a pause.To read further and gain more in-depth perspective viewing my video, visit my blog at: https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/the-sequence-of-a-big-askI’m cheering you on always. If I can support you, your team, or your organization in any way, please reach out to me directly.- Sheryl
Transcribe →New Level, New Devil ... How to Stay Grounded When the Stakes Are High
Jan 2900:06:20Tap to summarizehttp://www.sherylkline.com/blogA business mentor of mine used to always say, “New level, new devil.”And it’s true.Whether you are a rising leader or a seasoned executive, there is always going to be a bigger room, a higher stakes conversation, or a moment that rocks your confidence ... even if you consider yourself to have unshakable confidence.And if you’re thinking, “I’m not really that confident ... I’m working on it,” this is for you too.Because high stakes moments do not just test what you know. They test how you manage your internal state while you’re communicating which in turn impacts (greatly) how you’re perceived.Here are a couple strategies that will help you not choke when the conversation really matters.Strategy 1: Stop Fighting Your Emotions ... They Will Always WinThe fastest way to spiral in a high stakes moment is to try to minimize your emotions.If you try to shove them away, ignore them, or talk yourself out of them, they usually get louder and therefore more distracting. Instead, acknowledge and validate the emotion ... without letting it drive the steering wheel.Here’s one simple shift that is incredibly powerful:Save “I am” statements for the positive.A lot of people approach high stakes conversations saying things like:“I am nervous.”“I am scared.”“I am worried.”“I am concerned.”Those “I am” statements are labels which, if said enough times, impact your belief system AND your actions. Let’s practice something different, what world-class performers and Olympians use to uplevel performance when under pressure.Use “I notice” for the negative.“I notice I feel nervous going into the meeting with my CEO/manager.”“I notice I’m worried about presenting to the board.”“I notice my body is tense.”“I notice my mind is racing.”This creates distance. It turns you into the observer instead of the judge.You are now on the bank of the stream looking at the rushing water rather than jumping into the middle of it and then trying to figure out how to get across. You have NOT self labeled and have time decide what’s in your control that is most important to focus on.Acknowledgement defuses an emotion while denial adds oxygen to the fire.Strategy 2: Take Control of the ControllablesOne of the biggest drivers of anxiety and worry is uncertainty ... and specifically, uncertainty about what you cannot control such as:How will this be received?What will they think?How will it land?Will I gain buy-in?What you do control is what you do ... and how you choose to think.So the second strategy is to take control of the controllables.And there are two layers to this.Layer 1: Control What You Can About the Other PersonIf you are having a conversation with one or two people, one of the smartest things you can do is be mindful of their communication and negotiation style.Ask yourself:Are they direct and curt?Are they analytical?Are they people driven and relationship driven?Do they want bullet points and bottom line first ... or do they want context?This matters because a lot of leaders lose influence in high stakes moments by communicating in a style that is mismatched to the person in front of them.Get more in-depth perspective at https://www.sherylkline.com/blog/how-to-stay-grounded-when-the-stakes-are-highI’m cheering you on always. If I can help in any way, please do not hesitate to reach out.- Sheryl
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