Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Build Confidence and Take Action, Ep. (917) - F.I.R.E.D UP with Krista Mashore

Summary

Podcast Summary: Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Build Confidence and Take Action (Ep. 917)

Podcast Information:

Title: F.I.R.E.D UP with Krista Mashore
Host/Author: Krista Mashore
Episode: Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Build Confidence and Take Action
Release Date: January 13, 2025

Introduction

In Episode 917 of F.I.R.E.D UP with Krista Mashore, titled "Feeling Stuck? Here’s How to Build Confidence and Take Action," Krista delves deep into the pivotal role confidence plays in personal and professional success. Drawing from her personal experiences and professional insights, Krista offers actionable strategies to help listeners overcome feelings of stagnation and build unwavering confidence to achieve their goals.

Personal Journey: Overcoming Insecurity

Krista begins by sharing a poignant personal story from her teenage years, during her time in a foster home. She reflects on the immense challenges she faced, including feelings of insecurity and low self-worth. Despite these hardships, Krista's determination to seek out and associate with confident peers became a turning point in her life.

“I became friends with the people that I saw on the bus that I wanted to become friends with.” [00:30]

This pivotal decision not only boosted her confidence but also set her on a path to higher education and professional success, defying the bleak statistics often associated with foster care.

The Power of Association

A central theme of the episode is the profound impact of the people we surround ourselves with. Krista emphasizes that:

“Good association enhances useful habits.” [04:10]

She contrasts negative and positive associations, illustrating how the right community can bolster one's confidence and propel them toward their aspirations. Krista underscores the importance of surrounding oneself with individuals who share similar goals, values, and positive energy.

Building Self-Confidence

Krista outlines several strategies for building and maintaining confidence:

Self-Affirmation: She encourages listeners to recognize and celebrate the roles they've successfully managed, such as caring for a family or excelling in demanding environments.

“If you can take care of your family, you can do anything.” [06:40]
Stop, Snap, and Switch: This method involves halting negative thought patterns, snapping out of them, and switching focus to positive affirmations and actions.

“Insert your name. No. Stop, snap and switch.” [07:20]
Visualizing Success: Writing down goals and visualizing success daily helps in reinforcing one's confidence and commitment to their objectives.

“Write Stuff down. Look at it every day. Write it down. Visualize it.” [08:15]
Taking Action: Krista emphasizes that confidence alone isn't enough; taking consistent action toward one's goals is crucial.

“You've got to take action.” [08:50]

Applying Confidence in Various Life Aspects

Krista addresses different scenarios where confidence plays a vital role, particularly focusing on women who have spent years supporting others and are now seeking to prioritize their own ambitions. She acknowledges the fears and uncertainties that come with such transitions but reassures listeners of their inherent capabilities.

“If you can do that, ladies, you can do anything.” [06:45]

By reflecting on past successes and leveraging those experiences, listeners can build the confidence needed to embark on new ventures, whether it's starting a business, changing careers, or pursuing personal goals.

Community and Support Systems

Highlighting the significance of a supportive community, Krista advises listeners to:

"Surround yourself and associating with people who want the same things that are going to inspire, encourage you, and lift you up." [08:00]

She advocates for building networks that foster mutual support and accountability, enabling individuals to stay motivated and confident in their pursuits.

Practical Steps to Boost Confidence

Towards the end of the episode, Krista outlines a clear, step-by-step approach to building confidence:

Remind Yourself of Past Achievements: Reflect on times when you overcame challenges to reinforce your ability to succeed.
Choose Your Associations Wisely: Engage with a community that aligns with your goals and values.
Document Your Goals and Visualize Success: Keep a written record of your aspirations and regularly visualize achieving them.
Take Consistent Action: Allocate time each day to work towards your goals, no matter how small the steps may seem.

“The more confidence you have, that confidence is going to give you a feeling inside that makes you want to take action.” [09:30]

Conclusion

Krista Mashore wraps up the episode by encouraging listeners to share their own stories of confidence-building, fostering a sense of community and shared growth. She reiterates the transformative power of confidence and the importance of taking deliberate steps to cultivate it.

“Do me a favor. Show me a picture of your screenshot. I want to see this. This stuff works.” [09:50]

Key Takeaways:

Confidence is a learnable skill that can significantly impact personal and professional success.
Surrounding yourself with positive, goal-oriented individuals enhances your confidence.
Practical strategies like self-affirmation, visualization, and consistent action are essential for building confidence.
Reflecting on past achievements and seeking supportive communities are crucial steps in overcoming feelings of being stuck.
Confidence empowers you to take necessary actions towards achieving your dreams and aspirations.

Additional Resources: For more insights and resources, visit KristaMashore.com/Podcast, where you can access free downloads and tools to further enhance your journey toward financial independence and personal growth.

Transcript

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Confidence is a skill that you can actually learn. And confidence can actually make your life better or actually impede your life and not have you be as successful as you can in different areas of your life. And what's really important to understand is that the people that you associate with and surround yourself with 1000% can either help you have more confidence, feel better about your life, or do just the opposite. So that's exactly what we're going to be talking about today. So let me give you an example of how I learned this really, really early on in my life. So I remember being in the bus, going to school when I was in a foster home. And you got to think about this like, you know, when you're, you know, I was 15, living in a foster home. And I remember already feeling very insecure, zero confidence, because I kind of was the outsider. Everyone seemed like they had normal lives, normal families, normal everything. And I didn't. And so I didn't have any confidence. And I remember being on the bus and seeing different people and thinking to myself, I want to hang out with those people. Like, I want to make those people my friends. But I lacked like the feeling of self worth or self anything, quite frankly, to be able to do that. But the good news was, was that just by even thinking that and seeing myself in those situations right at a very young age, I became friends with the people that I saw on the bus that I wanted to become friends with. And here's how this really can apply to you into your life. And that is, is that I associated myself with girls in my high school. They had really good families. They were good kids, right? They were, they care, they had, they cared about doing the right thing. They, you know, we did things like we drank every once in a while and things like that. But they were actually really, really good kids. And they helped me want to be a better person. And so got to think about this. Like, I was at a time in my life where I could have either gone one way or another. Understand the statistics for kids that are in foster homes. Less than 1% of kids actually go to college. Most end up on drugs. Many kids that are in foster homes, they end up in prostitution. You, like, doing sex work to stay alive, end up on drugs, mental disorders, you name it. Very few, let alone have a good life or go to college. The group that I associated with, because they had the same goals, right? They had good families, they had good aspirations, they were kind of doing the right thing is what helped me be able to again see myself in Them and go towards that path. They gave me the confidence, right, that if they can do it, I can do it. And that's what I did. I ended up going to college, I got a loan, I worked full time, put myself through school, and it kind of all started from there. So let's talk about how, how confidence relates to you in just every aspect of your life. So, like, you know, when you feel good about something and you're like, oh, I feel good about this, like, I can do this, you know, you have that you're using stop, snap and switch. You have the confidence to feel like you can kind of achieve anything and everything. It's hard to get there, right? It's hard to get that that way all the time. But one of the things that I've noticed is that when I associate with other people who are going towards the direction that I'm going to go in, that have the same goals, the same aspirations, the same values even at a young age, right. That it completely can change everything in your life. Especially, like, we think that children are very formidable, right? Like they see things other people do and, and they get, like my parents used to always say when I was younger, bad association spoils useful habits. And I believe that to be so true. But I also understand that good association enhances useful habits, right? So when you can associate with people who are going towards and doing the things that you want to do, number one, it gives you the confidence that you can do it too. But because energy goes where focus flows, what you think about becomes right, it's all, again, using our mind, training our brain, not just about what we're doing on the inside, but who we're hanging out with on the outside. So one of the things I want you to think about if you're struggling in confidence, like, let's, let's take different situations or my situation was when I was younger, it kind of started there, right? Not feeling good about myself, feeling unworthy, feeling unloved, not feeling likable, and then finally meeting a group of friends that made me feel change that. But let's talk about, like, you in a situation that you might be going through right now. Maybe you're not feeling confident about money, maybe you're not feeling confident about, maybe you want to get into a relationship, or maybe you are trying to change careers and you're working for somebody else and you are at a point where you're like, I want to work for myself, I want to do my own thing, but you lack the confidence to do it. I want you to think about what do you think that you could do that will help you feel more confident to be able to get the result that you want to be able to do the thing. I want to relate the confidence right now for women that are, you know, at a point in their life where they're ready to do more, to be more, to have more, to want more. And they've done really, really good at raising their children right, or supporting their husband, supporting their spouse, whatever it might be. They've done such a good job being the caretaker of everyone else, being the hero of everyone else. And they're at a point in their life where now they're like, I want to be my own hero. Like they're at a point in their life where they feel and remember, I'm just talking about one scenario. This can be a different scenario for you. I'm just using this as an example because this is how I was, right? I was at a point in my life at one time where I'm like, I want more for myself. I had to because my husband cheated on me, my ex husband, and I was left with nothing to. And I had to become my own hero. And so, but I, I and I had to find the confidence, okay? So I'm relating this to women right now that maybe, like I said, they have kids and husbands and they've been doing everything to support everyone else. They did an amazing job. So they have the confidence for that, but they lack the confidence. They lack the conviction to actually start taking care of themselves. They lack the conviction and the confidence to start doing their own thing, whether that be, you know, not as involved, but still involved obviously at taking care of their family and taking care of their husband and supporting him and their kids. Or maybe they're at a point where they've been working for somebody else and they're, you know, helping somebody else's fulfill somebody else's dreams, being that, that, that full time employee. And they're doing great at it, but they're afraid to go out on their own because they're used to the stability of the finances. They're used to that. They check coming in, they're used to the insurance, are used to all these things and now they left the confidence to do it on their own. So here's what I would do, number one, if I was in that situation, specifically just what I did do, or if I was in a different situation, first thing I would do is I would remind myself at what a great job that I did taking care of my family. I Mean, do you know how hard it is to be to take care of kids? Do you know how hard it is.