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Episode: The Spiritual Awakening That Saved Her Life (And Could Save Yours) | Ep 260 with Lindsey Van Wagner, Founder of the Spirit Vigilante Method
Host: IBH Media
Guest: Lindsey Van Wagner
Date: September 1, 2025
This episode features Lindsey Van Wagner, founder of the Spirit Vigilante Method, discussing her personal journey through spiritual awakening, sobriety, and becoming an advocate for reclaiming one’s inner truth. The conversation delves into why people remain “spiritually asleep,” how to awaken and rewrite personal narratives, the dangers of toxic positivity, and practical, compassionate approaches to support oneself and others through dark times. Lindsey’s perspectives are grounded in her personal story, behavioral science, and a deep emphasis on honest community.
Key Themes & Insights
1. Why Are People "Spiritually Asleep"?
[01:01]
- Lindsey explains that many of us are “programmed” from a young age—family, education, and social systems give us a “script that we didn’t write.”
- We are conditioned to navigate life without valuing our intuition or soul. The “soul is asleep and our mind and body are running the show.”
- This “hypnosis” leads to feeling disconnected, blaming external circumstances for inner discontent.
Notable Quote:
“We were given a script that we didn’t write... we're kind of in this hypnosis, and until something happens that wakes us up, we’ll stay in that and not really understand where that discontent is coming from.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [01:01]
2. Personal Awakening and The Power of Rewriting Identity
[02:17]
- Lindsey’s pivotal moment was choosing sobriety in September 2015, after reaching her personal rock bottom marked by feelings of emptiness and despair.
- Realization: She wasn’t “damaged beyond repair”—underneath the pain, everyone has a core of hope.
- Identity labels: We latch onto identities (“I’m damaged,” “I’m an accountant,” etc.) because it organizes our actions and justifies our behaviors.
- Change becomes possible when we question and observe these labels; we are not our thoughts or feelings.
Notable Quotes:
“I had just constructed and reinforced this narrative that I was damaged beyond repair and no one would ever understand me.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [02:17]
“If we can observe our thoughts and feelings, then we are not them… just taking this witness approach… is so powerful in starting to rewrite that script.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [03:40]
3. Unlearning, Rewriting, and the Role of Community
[05:01]
- The first step: Honest awareness and acceptance of where you are, rather than denial, is essential.
- Writing as a transformative tool: Lindsey’s process started with literal writing, which became both healing and foundational to her work.
- Community is critical: Knowing “you’re not alone” dispels isolation and keeps hope alive. Modeling after others’ positive changes can inspire and guide.
Notable Quote:
“For me, it really started with awareness, writing. I’m a writer and author now, and writing really… helped me… We can reprogram ourselves.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [05:01]
4. Advice for Those at Their Breaking Point
[06:57]
- Lindsey’s core message: “You’re not alone. Do not punish yourself for how you’re feeling. Just become aware of it… Change is possible.”
- Her mission: Personally connect and uplift as many as possible, guiding them toward liberation and living their truth.
Notable Quote:
“You’re not alone. Do not punish yourself for how you’re feeling. Just become aware of it... Know that change is possible.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [06:57]
5. Spirit Vigilante Method: Origin & Meaning
[10:18]
- The term “Spirit Vigilante”:
- “Spirit” reflects awakening the soul.
- “Vigilante” comes from the root “vigil,” meaning to stay awake and watchful, taking personal responsibility for one’s soul.
- Modern-day vigilantes are likened to superheroes going against the grain. This method involves being a guardian of one’s inner truth and justice, acknowledging that growth often requires facing darkness, not just “light and rainbows.”
Notable Quote:
“No one knows you better than yourself... we kind of become our own vigilantes, our own superheroes, right?... I also wanted to incorporate the fact that it’s not all light and rainbows—there's some work that happens in the darkness here.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [10:18]
6. On Toxic Positivity and Real Support
[12:20]
- “Toxic positivity” can invalidate real pain: Telling someone “everything’s going to be okay” or “just be grateful” strips away validation of what they’re truly feeling.
- Lindsey advocates for simply being present with someone’s pain—not attempting to “fix” it immediately, but acknowledging their struggle and offering support.
Notable Quotes:
“Our pain is our pain. It doesn’t matter if it’s the worst pain ever... when someone’s having a bad day, they do not need to be reminded that their problems aren't as hard… that logic doesn’t work for me.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [15:11]
“Even if we can’t fix it, we can say, ‘I don’t know how to fix it, but I’m here with you. I see you and I hear you.’”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [15:48]
7. How to Support Others in Darkness
[16:50]
- When someone in your life is hurting, resist the urge to fix or rush them out of their pain.
- Lindsey shares a moving personal story supporting her partner, a widower: “I haven’t lost a partner, so I can’t pretend to know—but I sit with him. I’m here with you in the darkness.”
- Ask them what they want: “Do you want my opinion? Do you want my consolation, or do you want me to just listen?”
Notable Quote:
“Sometimes asking that very question: Do you want my opinion right now? Do you want my consolation? Do you just want me to listen?”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [18:42]
8. Why Storytelling & Science Both Matter
[19:51]
- Lindsey’s book, Spirit Vigilante, blends proven psychological techniques with relatable stories, making abstract concepts practical and grounded for everyday life.
- The book aims to meet readers “where they are” and guide them through their own healing.
Notable Quote:
“It’s very conversational, very accessible… I show that this is based on clinical evidence, these ideas… but I also bring a story into it to kind of ground those abstract concepts into everyday life.”
— Lindsey Van Wagner [19:51]
Timestamp Guide to Key Segments
- Why We’re Spiritually Asleep – [01:01]
- Lindsey’s Awakening (Sobriety Story) – [02:17]
- On Identity and Labels – [03:40]
- Tools for Unlearning and Rewriting – [05:01]
- Advice for Listeners at Their Breaking Point – [06:57]
- The Meaning Behind Spirit Vigilante – [10:18]
- Toxic Positivity vs. Real Validation – [12:20]; [15:11]
- How to Support Loved Ones in Darkness – [16:50]
- Approach Behind the Book – [19:51]
Memorable Moments & Quotes
- “We were given a script that we didn’t write.” [01:01]
- “If we can observe our thoughts and feelings, then we are not them.” [03:40]
- “Do not punish yourself for how you’re feeling… change is possible.” [06:57]
- “We kind of become our own vigilantes, our own superheroes, right?” [10:18]
- “Our pain is our pain… when someone’s having a bad day, they do not need to be reminded that their problems aren’t as hard as someone else’s.” [15:11]
- “Sometimes asking that very question: … do you just want me to listen?” [18:42]
Where to Find Lindsey & Spirit Vigilante
- Instagram: @SpiritVigilante
- Website: thespiritvigilante.com
- Book: “Spirit Vigilante” (Google it to find retailers and more info)
- Offers: Events, virtual writing classes, and community support
Conclusion
This conversation with Lindsey Van Wagner offers both a profound personal testimony and actionable insights for anyone seeking spiritual healing or supporting others in struggle. By combining lived experience, practical writing exercises, compassion-based support, and scientific grounding, her Spirit Vigilante Method empowers individuals to reawaken and defend their truest selves—beyond toxic positivity and pre-written scripts. Whether at rock bottom or simply feeling disconnected, listeners are reminded: You are not alone, and change is always possible.