962. We Roast Each Other for 30 Minutes… Then Talk About Why It Actually Works

Summary

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Fullerton Unfiltered Podcast – Episode 962

Title: We Roast Each Other For 30 Minutes… Then Talk About Why It Actually Works
Hosts: Brian & Liz Fullerton
Release Date: May 6, 2026

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Episode Overview

This episode takes a comedic and candid approach as Brian and Liz Fullerton poke fun at each other’s daily routines by "roasting" each other's typical week. Through exaggerated, tongue-in-cheek roleplays, they highlight the often misunderstood and underappreciated aspects of their individual roles in work and family life. After the playful roast, the couple thoughtfully unpacks why exercises like this actually strengthen their marriage, revealing insights about empathy, perspective, and teamwork for couples in business and at home.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Why Shake Things Up?

• Breaking the Routine
  • Liz explains why they're changing up the usual business advice format:

    "Dude, there’s more to our life than just…‘You gotta scale and 10x and double and triple...’” (01:30)

  • The episode’s premise came from ChatGPT suggesting outlier podcast topics to keep things fresh and relatable.

2. The Roast: Role-Reversal Routine Recaps

• Liz Roasts Brian (as Brian) – Her Take on His Day [06:10 – 17:20]

  • Satirically depicts Brian as engrossed in "boat shopping," endlessly pooping, scrolling social media, avoiding chaos with the kids by hiding in his office, and being egotistically absorbed in his own podcast:

    “I get the option of starting my day before everybody else. So I wake up and I slowly get out of bed. And the first thing I do is I mosey on over to the refrigerator and I crack open my nice cold energy drink that my wife keeps stocked and ready and cold for me ... I take that sucker. I take my first sip and I head straight to go poop…” (21:26)

  • She exaggerates the routine to make light of how spouses sometimes assume the other's life is easier or less stressful.

• Brian Roasts Liz (as Liz) – His Take on Her Day [06:18 – 18:54]

  • Overplays stereotypes: Liz waking late, booking Disney trips, dealing with chicken accessories and holiday plans, fretting over food delivery, and not noticing Brian is working for the family:

    “I'm going to go look at a place to go vacation in Florida to spend the five or ten grand that he might make this month and blow that shit right out of the water... Oh the baby's starting to wake up...” (07:09)

  • Portrays traditional domestic and "mompreneur" chaos, mixing affection with gentle jabs about household duties, sleep deprivation, and mom guilt.

3. Truth, Caricature, and Real Relationship Dynamics

• Debriefing the Roasts: Reality vs. Perception
  • Both acknowledge the extremes were playful exaggerations:

    “The reality is significantly further from the truth. There’s some humor in there, some truth, obviously, with what we both poked fun at.” (52:20 – Liz)

  • Discussion about "living in two different worlds" and how misperception can breed resentment unless addressed openly:

    “I honestly don't believe that anything that we disagree about... isn't like a malicious thing.” (36:10 – Brian)

  • They emphasize that despite jokes, their appreciation for each other's efforts and roles is genuine.

4. How Humor & Empathy Strengthen Marriage

• Empathy & Not Keeping Score

  • The roast exercise reveals both how much is unseen in each other's day and how easy it is to make assumptions.
  • Brian shares:

    "We say a lot – same goal, different role. And sometimes your role looks better, sometimes mine does..." (46:44)

  • Liz adds about choosing a positive perspective:

    “You could be so resentful with this, with this perspective that you think the other side is living...” (50:46)

• Communication & Not Acting on Resentment

  • Both stress that harboring resentment or acting out spitefully is damaging, and those feelings require conversation and/or coaching:

    "If you are maliciously doing things to your spouse to irritate them... that's a not healthy [place]." (50:46 – Brian) "Just, you know, navigate and process if they're real or true." (51:17 – Liz)

• Why Playful Roasting Works

  • They find humor can break the ice, force empathy, and get couples talking about unspoken issues.
  • The idea could become an exercise at their Together in the Trades marriage events:

    “What do you think the spouse does all day? And then we can process and work through some of this together." (53:40 – Liz)

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Choosing Attitude:

  “It’s a choice to choose how you feel about things and your reaction to them.” (46:44 – Brian)

• On Big Dreams Fueling Both Partners:

  “I need a vision and a dream like as a dude to be like, yeah, dude, I’m going to work for that.” (45:32 – Liz)

• On Resenting Each Other’s “Perks”:

  “You do get to go on these trips and eat with two hands... sometimes it is frustrating because I’m at home getting my butt handed to me by three kids...” (46:44 – Brian)

• Self-Deprecating Humor About Petty Fights:

  “Brian put my coffee up [high]... I had no way to grab my coffee. I was so mad.” (39:03 – Liz)

• On Not Knowing the Full Story:

  “I just know, like, dude, I couldn’t even imagine getting the kids cleaned up three different times a day, schooling... then, you know, managing [repairs], there’s always someone here.” (38:46 – Brian)

• Final Reflection on Being a Team:

  “At the end of the day, you have to realize you’re on the same team, you're working together.” (54:42 – Liz)

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Important Timestamps

• [01:30] – Why this episode is different
• [06:10] – Liz’s roast (as Brian)
• [17:20] – Brian’s roast (as Liz)
• [36:10] – Deconstruction: Reality vs. roast
• [46:44] – How perception affects marriage
• [50:46] – When resentment appears & the need for communication
• [53:40] – Proposal: This as a marriage workshop exercise
• [54:42] – “Same team” final reflections

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Conclusion & Takeaways

• This episode was as much comedy as it was relationship advice. By humorously role-playing what they imagine the other’s day is like, Brian and Liz reveal the core truth of most marriages and partnerships: it’s easy to take each other’s hard work for granted or misinterpret the unseen stress in each role.
• The key is to maintain empathy, choose positive assumptions, openly communicate, and not “keep score.”
• Humor, when not cruel, can bridge gaps and help couples process frustrations in a safe, loving way.
• Listeners are encouraged to try a playful roast with their own spouse, or at least have the “here’s what I think your day is like” talk—you might just gain a bit of perspective and a lot of laughs.

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For more conversation starters or actionable business/marriage tools, check out TogetherInTheTrades.com and LawntrepreneurAcademy.com.

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Transcript

[Brian Fullerton]

Foreign.

[Podcast Announcer]

You're now listening to the Fullerton Unfiltered Podcast. Straightforward, no nonsense business advice.

[Liz Fullerton]

Completely on unfiltered.

[Podcast Announcer]

Grow your business, grow your life. Now here's your host, Brian Fullerton.

[Liz Fullerton]

Stop, dude. You're not even plugged in. This might be the best podcast episode we ever do. What's going on, guys? Welcome to another episode of the Fullerton Unfiltered Podcast. It is your host, Brian Fullerton here. The red lights on, dude. So we're recording. You don't even. You're not even plugged in here. Get. Get the. Get your crap figured out, dude. You're. You're killing me, Smalls. All right, so listen, folks, today we're gonna do something a little different. Once I finish up unwinding the cord here, let me plug this bad boy in. Hopefully I don't destroy this. Hopefully I don't destroy the mixer. All right, Are you there?

[Brian Fullerton]

Yep.

[Liz Fullerton]

All right, Here. Now try again. All right, cool. So she's back off. I hit mute again. Just how it should be and. All right, well, welcome. We have a. A fun podcast episode, folks. We have to change it up. Liz and I. Right now we're hitting like a three o'. Clock.

[Brian Fullerton]

Literally sitting here doing jumping jack, trying to get the.

[Liz Fullerton]

I'm on Alani number two. Liz is. I guess it looks like exercising. Julian, Jillian, Michael's over here.

[Brian Fullerton]

All right.

[Liz Fullerton]

Is your zipper up their button?

[Brian Fullerton]

It's a button fly.

[Liz Fullerton]

Oh, oh, okay. At first I was like, okay, we're trying to get.

[Brian Fullerton]

You're the one who. You literally walk around all the time.

[Liz Fullerton]

Cujo yardwear pants.

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh, yeah, blame Cujo.

[Liz Fullerton]

Need to get their zipper readjusted of the time. Well, well, maybe I'm just leaving it out. Airing it. Airing it out. You know what I mean? Airing it through.

[Brian Fullerton]

What is there to air out, Brian?

[Liz Fullerton]

Well, just the snake peeks around the corner. All right, so we're doing a little bit different podcast episode today, and I had to change it up because I. I have to change the podcast up to keep it fresh. The last couple weeks have been asking podcast. Yeah, well, not stale. It was. I wouldn't say stale. It's just. Dude, it's the same stuff. It's the same stuff, you know, like grow, scale, element, cycle. And that's true. But like, dude, there's more to our life than just. You gotta scale in 10x and double and triple and quadruple and add multiple crews. In fact, that's probably 10 of our life is like what we do day to day with the lawn care business. 20, 30, maybe. We have all their businesses, we have other endeavors, we have other dreams and goals with the kids. You know, like, it's not like all day long, I'm like, who how to close another commercial account? I mean, it's like, yeah, that's a dominating thought, but it's not the only thought. So I've been asking Chat. Huh?

[Brian Fullerton]

That's not your only thought?

[Liz Fullerton]

What did I say?

[Brian Fullerton]

I don't know. Actually.

[Liz Fullerton]

That's not my only thought.

[Brian Fullerton]

You have more than one, apparently.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't even know what thoughts I'm saying. If I can't remember what I just said.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm not listening.

[Liz Fullerton]

Or you're not listening. So we got nothing left up top. So what I wanted to do today is we went to chat and I said, give us like five outlier podcast topic episodes. And it gave you some. And there were some good ones. And then they gave me some. There's some good ones. And I said, like, more outlier, more crazy. And so one of them that it came up with was let's. Let's get on the podcast episode and describe each other's day in the roast fashion. Because

[Brian Fullerton]

this is not building. Things are either building or they're tearing. And this is a tearing thing.

[Liz Fullerton]

No, we could build each other up today.

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh, okay.

[Liz Fullerton]

Liz works so hard, navigates the kids. She does school. So in a minute. And we'll have to rock, paper, scissors to see who goes first.

[Brian Fullerton]

I always win, so.

[Liz Fullerton]

Of course you do. So of course. Of course, you're the captain of the ship. Everybody knows who's in charge. Of course. So what we'll do is we'll take five minutes each and describe that person's day or maybe the week, you know, like, like a Monday to Friday setup and hopefully come back together as friends. But listen, solid plug here. You know, this is going to get in the trades.

[Brian Fullerton]

We actually have a really fun live stream at 2:30.

[Liz Fullerton]

Right? That's Thursday.

[Brian Fullerton]

Thursday. Oh, tomorrow. Thursday.

[Liz Fullerton]

Podcast episode going out tomorrow. Wednesday. Today is Tuesday.

[Brian Fullerton]

Wednesday, exactly. So while you're listening to this, it's Wednesday. So tomorrow, 2:30.

[Liz Fullerton]

Join us 2:30 live on Instagram, my page and Caleb Allman's page. We're gonna do a little take out the trades promo.

[Brian Fullerton]

On Instagram.

[Liz Fullerton]

On Instagram, if you want to check it out. Honestly, like, we're gonna talk for half hour, share some of the schedule. Got another sponsor that's involved, which is exciting. We are going to the Grand Canyon, Arizona, Flagstaff, and it's going to be Beautiful. And quick note, like, for all of you guys are like, man, one day I want to go to that thing. One day I want to check it out. Like, man, that thing's awesome. I'm so glad you guys are doing something like that. My wife and I have talked about going, hey, this is the freaking year to go. Because we don't know it's change how many more we might do in the future.

[Brian Fullerton]

That's what we're going to talk about tomorrow.

[Liz Fullerton]

We're going to talk about that. So this is going to be like, I'm not. Definitely not saying it's the last one because there'll be more of some capacity at a different. But we might change it up because we need to get 50 to 150 couples and get a hundred people to it. And right now we've got about 25 to 30 couples booked, so we're at, like, half to two thirds of where we need to be, but we definitely need another 20 couples to come join us in Flagstaff. So TogetherTrades.com, get your ticket, book your hotel room. Like, we booked out the whole hotel, and we need to fill up a couple more rooms, if you know what I'm saying. So if you ever said, like, hey, one day, it would be nice, or

[Brian Fullerton]

it would be really nice this year.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah. Or quick tip. And again, run this past your CPA. But if you want a $3,000 trip to the Grand Canyon to write off.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

Or most of it off, this might be your only way to do it.

[Brian Fullerton]

And the economy is changing and different for people, too, so we want to adapt to that as well.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah. And again. And I know everybody's budgets, you know, all different places, but I feel like everybody's had a good winter and a good spring. So, like, folks, you know, peel off a couple of bands, Take your spouse, take your wife, take your husband, come out, check out together trades.com, get your ticket. It's very reasonably priced. You got to get tickets and flights to. To get it out there, but it's. You can do the whole trip for a couple of G's, tops. I mean, it's not going to be super crazy, but so we might talk about, you know, fixing our marriage and how to edify each other by the time this podcast episode's done.

[Brian Fullerton]

Okay.

[Liz Fullerton]

All right, so we're gonna. We're gonna. We're gonna describe the other person's week, and we'll see how much of a bloodbath this turns into. Get your fist ready. Like you're ready for this. Why are you that ready? Like you're ready? Okay, you ready? Unshoot two out of three or one time?

[Brian Fullerton]

One time.

[Liz Fullerton]

All right, ready? Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. That was a false start. Ready?

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh my God.

[Liz Fullerton]

Okay, ready? Rock, paper, scissors, shoot.

[Brian Fullerton]

I won.

[Liz Fullerton]

So do you want to go first?

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm go last. You go.

[Liz Fullerton]

Oh, dude. I would definitely want to went last. All right, so I'm going to describe your week. So my name is Liz. And are we doing like a Monday to Friday thing?

[Brian Fullerton]

I guess, yeah. Your rules, your podcast.

[Liz Fullerton]

All right, well, I wake up at Monday at about 8, 8:30.

[Brian Fullerton]

8:30.

[Liz Fullerton]

I text, I check, I check my. Check my phone, I text my husband, where are you? Because I want to know if he's bringing me coffee. It comes to my surprise that he actually left the house today for a 7:30 morning rollout. I get angry. He's not supposed to not be here without my coffee.

[Brian Fullerton]

What are you talking about?

[Liz Fullerton]

Now? Unfortunately, since there's no coffee, not only me. No, no. I'm just adjusting my audio. Now that I know that I don't have any coffee, it hits me panic. I have no coffee and likely no Dunkin Donuts or bagels to go with said coffee. I'm immediately mad at him. I'm mad at him for leaving the house.

[Brian Fullerton]

You're ridiculous. When do I ever doing something. Breakfast.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't even know what he's doing. I'm just mad that he's doing it and he's not here. I don't even consider that he's out making family money for the family to pay our mortgage because I don't even think about stuff like that because I've never paid the mortgage since we've had it, let alone rent. In fact, if he died, I wouldn't even know how to pay the mortgage. Like the old meme last year that went viral like. And even if I did, I would contribute my seashells to him. By the way, seashells are nice. You know what I need to do. But the baby's just waking up. But I have 10 minutes left. I'm going to go look at a place to go vacation in Florida to spend the five or ten grand that he might make this month and blow that shit right out of the water. Oh, the baby's starting to wake up. I have to get ready. I have to get up. I'm now reminding myself that now that I have no coffee and no bagels, that I'm extremely frustrated and angry at him for leaving to go work, that I Now have to somehow figure out how to navigate taking a shower with all these three kids that he's blessed me with. And you know, I love two out of my three kids every single day, but which one's going to piss me off today and which one's wrong with you?

[Brian Fullerton]

Genuinely?

[Liz Fullerton]

It's now 9 o'. Clock. I stuck my big toe out of the bed. I will now tell my husband I've been up since 7 o' clock and I got a workout in, but I just really am starting to roll out of bed at 9 o'.

[Brian Fullerton]

Clock. What world do you live in?

[Liz Fullerton]

It's now 9 o'. Clock. I've mosey onto the kitchen. God, it's so bright outside. Why is it so bright outside? Who built a house with this many glass windows? And why are there fingerprints all over my windows? My house cleaner help should be here any minute now. I should probably get dressed. I don't want to look like a fool in front of my house cleaning help with fingerprints all over my windows. Mmm, this coffee sure does taste good. Where does this coffee come from? I don't know. I must be my husband because he's the one that goes, gets me coffee in my French press at Coffee Beanery down the road. I love Brian. Let me shoot him a quick text and say, where are you at today? What are you doing? I know, I was just genuinely inquiring, but because Brian's usually stressed out and overloaded, he takes it personal. He calls me, he says, what do you want? I'm working. I don't really like his attitude. I'm definitely booking that trip to Florida. And at the same time, I just bought $200 of pottery for my new raised garden beds or pottery in my

[Brian Fullerton]

raised garden beds or.

[Liz Fullerton]

Or some new fun toys for my chickens and the ladies in the chicken coop. Oh, no, I haven't checked the chicken coop in two days. I hope my chickens are alive. My kids now come down the stairs and breakfast still hasn't been served. I wonder if I can do doordash. Oh, I cancel my doordash account because doordash is expensive and Brian says we have to cut back on expenses. After all, we've been to Disney every freaking year for five years. You know, it's about time for a Disney trip. I wonder if we can visit Disney while we're down visiting Florida.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm gonna text Brian.

[Liz Fullerton]

Let me text Brian some hotels and see if he has anything going on in June, July, August, September, October. He did say something about these granum tours, these workshop tours. But that's not important right now. I'm going to book this and not get travel insurance. My Disney trip is booked now. 10 o'. Clock. My daughter's wondering where food's at.

[Brian Fullerton]

Like I make scratch breakfast every day

[Liz Fullerton]

and I'm as confused as she is.

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[Liz Fullerton]

Louisville Tree Green True Greens out fertilizing the back lawn. Brian's supposed to be home in True Green Visits. He says they're scam artists. I should probably text him and let him know that Trugreen's here and he's not. Brian's calling me. Why is True Green there and they didn't tell me that they're coming to visit? I don't know. I'm just making pancakes here at 10 o'. Clock. Maddie will be over in five minutes. I'm just trying to let you know because I'm a good housewife. Okay, well, I'll be home in 20 minutes. Tell the guy to not spray until I get there. I. I can't go out there because I don't have my brown lipstick on yet. So I can't do that. Brown lipstick bra and lipstick on lipstick on just yet.

[Brian Fullerton]

We don't do that.

[Liz Fullerton]

Right. So the guy's done spring. Brian's going to be mad at me. Brian's going to be mad at Trugreen. I'm expecting Brian home any minute now. Brian just text me and says do I want Jersey Mike's? I definitely would like to have Jersey Mike's because I haven't made breakfast yet.

[Brian Fullerton]

I make breakfast.

[Liz Fullerton]

I would like my normal Jimmy John's. Brian's now home. It's good seeing Brian. I remember why I married him. He always brings me food, always makes

[Brian Fullerton]

me happy, always Lets me go to Disney.

[Liz Fullerton]

Always lets me go to Disney. I'm wondering if I should spring it on him about the Disney trip. Now's not a good time because he's really mad at True Green. Life is all about picking your battles. That sounds like a good topic for my talk at Together in the Trades. I'm gonna write that down. I don't write that down because I got a text message from chicken accessories.com letting me know that there's a 15% off sale. You know what? My chickens. More chicken toys. It's now noon. I have no idea what's going on with my kids.

[Brian Fullerton]

Who's schooling the kids? Ryan.

[Liz Fullerton]

We haven't done. We're homeschooling, which means we do most of our lessons at 3 o' clock in the afternoon. Traditional homeschoolers get done at 10 o', clock. But we're not traditional because we don't like the systems. We also don't like listening to politicians. Oh, it's now nude. And my new episode of Candace Owens has dropped. And I want to hear more dirt on Candace Owens versus Erica Kirk. I don't trust either of them.

[Brian Fullerton]

Watch reality.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't. I don't trust either, though. Ryan's listening to Ben Shapiro. He's always listening to Ben Shapiro. So when Brian gets home, I'm gonna bring up.

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh my God.

[Liz Fullerton]

We need to triangulate this three way fight between Erica Kirk, Candace Owens and Brian listening to Ben Shapiro. I know Brian doesn't totally subscribe to everything Ben Shapiro says, but he just listens out of his habits. Brian's a very good habit person. You know, I really, I really love Brian and his habits. He's a really good husband.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah, he made me like a golden.

[Liz Fullerton]

While he's in his office, I should think about blessing him. You know what I'll do? I'll unwrap his jersey mics and bring it to him and tell him I made the sandwich gourmet. Brian really appreciates when I cook for him. Oh no, we don't have any dinner. I should order a Kroger order so it's here by 3 o'.

[Brian Fullerton]

Clock.

[Liz Fullerton]

He likes shrimp. I'm gonna make shrimp and rice. That being said, it's not 2 o'. Clock. We're gonna hang out with the kids downstairs in the basement. We have to be very quiet because Brian's got a podcast to do after all. The podcast is very important. And let's all remind ourselves as a family, Brian's put a lot of time into this sop Bundle sop. Bundles are very important because it helps people train their teams. We've all been told at dinner multiple times and this is going to be a really big release, like the biggest ever. So we all have to be very quiet and it's going to be a busy couple of weeks around here. I don't know what he really does during the day and my mother in law, my mother actually says the exact same thing. We just remind each other, Brian's very busy and he's got to be doing something to make all this money. And not only that, I thought that thought out loud. Maddie the house cleaner came over and said, you know, I always wonder what you guys do. Brian's home a lot, you don't work and you guys have a nice house. What do you guys do all day? Brian seems to always be in a rush, going from thing to thing, but I never really see him dirty or working. He flies around a lot. Liz goes, I know, it is really peculiar. You don't think he's cheating on me, do you? No, he wouldn't do that when I met him. Well, I was pretty much his only first girlfriend. And let's just be honest, he doesn't really know of any other fish in the sea. You don't think he's secretly cheating on me? No, he wouldn't be doing that. These are just bad thoughts. I'm going to cast you out, devil. I need to go back to church on Sunday. It's now 5 o'. Clock. Brian's all done with his very important meetings with somebody. He keeps saying things like Q1, Q2 EBITDA and we're gonna 5x10x in scale and we're gonna go to the moon and in 10 years we're gonna do the great loop. I trust him very, very much. It's now five o'. Clock. Everybody's dressed, teeth are finally brushed. I finished up my coffee. I'm getting really tired. I gotta get dinner ready to go. The sink has a lot of dishes, but Brian's really helpful with that. Again, I really love Brian and boy, I bet Brian's gonna want to go for a ranger ride today. I gotta act enthusiastic about going on the ranger ride. I don't really like going on the ranger. I know Brian said that it's a really good tool for the family. I'm just not really convinced yet. But if Brian's convinced, like a good wife, I get behind Brian. It's kind of the Brian show a lot here. I don't really have an identity. I do need to start working out as well because I don't want him to replace me with a newer model.

[Brian Fullerton]

What is the wrong with you?

[Liz Fullerton]

He wouldn't do that. But he could do that. He's the type of guy that would do that. But he wouldn't do that either. I love him so much. It's now 8 o'.

[Brian Fullerton]

Clock.

[Liz Fullerton]

Brian's really helpful putting the kids to the bath. He gets the kids tucked in. It reminds me of how much I love him. He's the best dad ever. We have a great life. It's now getting late. I'm going to do some more research on Candace Owens and ERICA Kirk until 10:30 at night and see if I can score any last minute fast passes for the Disney rides that we're going back to for the 17th time. That's pretty much going to wrap up my Monday and well, let's be honest, Tuesday through Friday don't look much different this week. And oh, Brittany Almond, text me a funny reel about chickens and tulips. Brittany's a really nice friend. Okay, that's all I really got. I'm going to go to sleep now. It's 11 o' clock at night. I'm going to. No, no, just kidding. I found another Facebook group I need to be a part of. I'm going to stay up till midnight and then tell Brian how tired I am tomorrow. When I woke up secretly at 6 but really slept until 9. All right, well, that's pretty much it for my day. We could go through the rest of the week, but that's where I'm going to land the plane today. And I really love Brian. In fact, I love Brian right now. And he's the best husband I've ever had. And if he ever decides to. If I ever die and he decides to remarry, I'll freaking kill him again. I'll kill him. He better not. He better not remarry because if he does, I'll haunt him. Because I'm not crazy, but I'm loyal.

[Brian Fullerton]

Genuinely. What you think my days look like?

[Liz Fullerton]

So it's getting the trades dot com. Can't wait to see you guys.

[Brian Fullerton]

Like Truly, I cook from scratch three times a day.

[Liz Fullerton]

Do you know I do. You do.

[Brian Fullerton]

I really do. You really post beautiful pancake art like at least once a week.

[Liz Fullerton]

You spelled Emmy's name in pancakes this morning.

[Brian Fullerton]

I did.

[Liz Fullerton]

You know what I got not.

[Brian Fullerton]

You weren't home.

[Liz Fullerton]

I was at the morning rollout. Yeah, well, why is Brian not here? What does he think he's doing working today?

[Brian Fullerton]

Are you? You left out. Like, we do an art project every day. We do our nature study every day. Like you and the kids work every day, you know?

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, Yeah. I don't see all that, but I. I just. There's obviously some gaps.

[Brian Fullerton]

I think my day looks like for real.

[Liz Fullerton]

That's what you think I think your day looks like? Okay, I secretly know that you slave away. Your nails haven't been done in three months because all you do is sit on hand. Went on hand and foot for everybody. You sacrifice every single thing, your mind, your body, your life for everybody. And everybody gets everything but you. And that's because I love you and you're such a great mom. So what I said is clear. Like my terrible interpretation of what you do during a typical Monday to Friday.

[Brian Fullerton]

Sure. Think about how I love you a lot. Apparently

[Liz Fullerton]

his 40th birthday is coming up. I wonder what he wants for his birthday. He always wants the same damn thing. Gosh, men are such pigs. Anyway, why don't you just do that face? What's that face?

[Brian Fullerton]

I felt the microphone with my lips. Oh, I didn't realize it was that close.

[Liz Fullerton]

Okay. Anyway, I can't wait to see what I do for his 40th birthday as well. All right, that's what I think. That's probably like a gross summarization. Probably a little detail you probably came more for than what you expected. That's Monday. I'm probably in big trouble. That's Monday. Monday through Friday. Go ahead. All right.

[Brian Fullerton]

Okay.

[Liz Fullerton]

Your turn. Go ahead. What do I do during the day?

[Brian Fullerton]

As you. You do that a lot?

[Liz Fullerton]

I've had a cough for six weeks. I caught the Florida flu. Sure.

[Brian Fullerton]

All right. My name's Brian. I'm rolling out of bed about six o' clock in the morning. Man, I had such a good solid night of sleep. I slept the whole night through. No breaks, no waking up, no waking up to crying baby. Full night. Full, full eight hours. I wake up two o' clock in the morning of waking up and not having anybody wake up with me. Because unlike my wife, who the children wake up as soon as she opens her eyes, even at 5 o' clock in the morning.

[Liz Fullerton]

You're saying. I know this.

[Brian Fullerton]

I get the option of starting my day before everybody else. So I wake up and I slowly get out of bed. And the first thing I do is I mosey on over to the refrigerator and I crack open my nice cold energy drink that my wife keeps stocked and ready and cold for me. I don't even have to think about it. They just appear. It's the only thing I see in the refrigerator. I can't find anything else in here, but I can find my energy drinks. And I take that sucker. I take my first sip and I head straight to go poop. And I sit there until about 8:00'. Clock. And I wonder why. Developing hemorrhoids.

[Liz Fullerton]

What? You're being a jerk. The. You're such a jerk.

[Brian Fullerton]

Getting varicose veins on my thighs for how long I sit on the toilet.

[Liz Fullerton]

None of that's true.

[Brian Fullerton]

And after my our two hour long boob just scrolling the Internet and blitzing my wife up with all of the ridiculous, not funny at all reels that I find and ruin, they're funny. Ruining her algorithm with mine. I decided to start my day with my very, very important work. And just when I hear the kids start to wake up and my wife might need me, I decide to look very busy in the office and just mashing away on my keyboards. But little does she know, I'm looking up boats. In fact, this is all I've done all week is look at boats on the Internet while I pretend to work. Oh man, my phone is ringing. I gotta answer it. Oh, hi, Rob. Yeah, very serious. Oh yeah, you gotta cut from the 30 degree angle tip to tip, tip to tip. Tell them tip to tip. Yeah, no, that customer. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Thank you for handling it. I'm gonna get back to my very important busy work right now. More boats. Oh, it's, it's, it's, it's 10. It's 10 o' clock in the morning. It's time for my break. I gotta go poop again. I'm gonna tell actually before I go poop. I see Liz is very overwhelmed with the kids. She just completed cooking a three course breakfast for my children, complete with their names and pancakes and looks like the baby threw up on her and crew definitely pooped in his pants. And I'm just gonna breeze by her and let her know how busy I am because it's very important she knows that I am very busy. Very busy. I can't help you right now. I am very, very busy. I'm sorry to see you struggling so much, but I've got a poop, so

[Liz Fullerton]

I'm got our own battles. We all got our own.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm gonna go take my poop. And by poop, I just mean sit here and scroll more and look at more boats.

[Liz Fullerton]

You're a dickhead. You're not coming to my boat

[Brian Fullerton]

after I'm done with this. I need to go look like I need to be busy again so my wife doesn't find out that all I do all day is look at boats. So I'm gonna go tell her that I have to run a couple errands, gotta go to the bank. Actually, yeah, that's actually a good idea. I think I'm gonna go yell at Chase again. I don't know why, but I like to yell at them a lot. So I drive my butt to Chase. On the way to Chase, I stop at the gas station, I get another energy drink. It makes me need to go poop again.

[Liz Fullerton]

I dude, I don't poop. I poop like once a day.

[Brian Fullerton]

Not true. After I'm done yelling at Chase.

[Liz Fullerton]

Why would I be young?

[Brian Fullerton]

I call my wife and in the background I hear the kids screaming. I can barely understand her, but she says that she would like food today because she hasn't eaten since breakfast. Or even she didn't eat breakfast herself actually. She was so busy serving everybody else. And me, this is true. And you know, I just. Because I love her so much, but I also, I just don't love her cooking. So my favorite thing to do is to have her make me my breakfast and then just let it sit there so she can watch it die, which I know just hurts her heart. But it's an important lesson for her to learn entire plate of food that she then will take to the chicken so at least somebody eats it.

[Liz Fullerton]

What do you think? I think like, can't wait to watch this breakfast get cold. I was busy on my 10 o',

[Brian Fullerton]

clock, my 10 o', clock looking at boats. The 10 o' clock poop or the 10 o' clock boats.

[Liz Fullerton]

Sometimes 10 o' clock is pooping. Looking at boats.

[Brian Fullerton]

After I get home with food. Yeah, I am going to watch my wife feed the kids something else. Another home cooked meal. And then let her watch her own foods there and just die while I eat mine. Sitting at the counter watching all of this happen. She does such a good job. But the circus, she's a. She's a ringleader. Too bad she doesn't get to eat though.

[Liz Fullerton]

Dude, like I always let you eat. I always make you eat. I go, do you never get time to eat? Come eat.

[Brian Fullerton]

You know, Liz, if you just woke up before the kids started before then like I do for my two hour poop and shower, right, you wouldn't be in this, in this mess or I'll remind every day. And then after, after my lunch for my very busy morning, I'm gonna go back into my office and do some phone calls with my friends. I mean, my. My. My business associates. And I answer the phone, I say, hey, man. Hey, bud. Hey, bro. Yeah. Yeah. No, yeah, let's circle back. Let's. Yeah, let's table that for now. Yeah. If we could just take this offline. I make sure to use a lot of power phrases in front of my wife so that she knows how powerful I am.

[Liz Fullerton]

What are you talking about?

[Brian Fullerton]

After that, I'm gonna run out of the house again. Even though it looks like it's burning down around me. My wife's got it. It's fine. She'll be fine. She'll figure it out. She's a big girl. I get in my car and I turn on my podcast, and I just. You know, I've had a really long day so far. It's. I know it's only one, but it's just been very, very treacherous. Very stressful. And so I need to listen to my podcast and have a little peaceful drive. I don't really actually have anywhere to go. Maybe I'll do some site checks, and I'm just going to go admire all of the stripes, because that's important. Okay. Get to my first sight. And you know what? The lines are very straight, very tip to tip. Very much tip to tip. Yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

Tip to tips important.

[Brian Fullerton]

Tip to tips important. After that, I'm gonna. I'm gonna find the crew and take some videos to make it look like I was there so I can post it to the Internet, make sure I'm still relevant. Go on my stories, talk about how. How long my day's been and how crazy the spring rush is. It's just so bad. So bad. Can't even look at boats for eight hours. Only get two. After I do my sight checks, I. I'm gonna call Liz and see what she's up to. And that phone call doesn't go so well because I can barely hear her because, again, the kids are just, you know, they're crazy. You know, she. She really should just stop being so stressed out. Like, I. Like, if she would just.

[Liz Fullerton]

Just stop.

[Brian Fullerton]

Just a decision and, you know, maybe she should go for a site check. If she would just go for site checks like I do, she could have a couple minutes to herself, but she just chooses not to. So that's her own problem.

[Liz Fullerton]

She should probably listen to my podcast,

[Brian Fullerton]

and in fact, I'll send her an episode instead of listening to my podcast until. Instead of listening to a podcast, I'm listening to my own podcast this time because there's Nothing that soothes my ego like listening to my own podcast and my own voice. I'm going to get home and I'm going to tell Liz that she should listen to this episode, too. She probably should hear this because she doesn't. I don't think I really drive it home enough for her in person as it is. So she could really also use listening to me.

[Liz Fullerton]

She could use a lecture, too, probably.

[Brian Fullerton]

Did you hear knocking?

[Liz Fullerton]

I swear I heard knocking, too, but she could probably use a lecture.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah, you know what? I think her. And I mean, I'm gonna sit them down, I'm gonna talk to them about if they know the value of a dollar and how they need to stop

[Liz Fullerton]

spending all their money because he probably saw my.

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh, man.

[Liz Fullerton]

You know what I just realized? Probably saw my email receipts.

[Brian Fullerton]

You know what I just realized? I have a trip tomorrow that I have to prepare for. What am I going to do? I bet you, like, I need my. All of a sudden, I'm going to get home and Liz is going to be trying to make dinner, and I'm going to tell her immediately I need her to pack me. I need. I need. I need you to pack me. I don't know how to pack myself. I know I'll need underwear, lots of underwear. Like six days worth of underwear for about two days. But other than that, I've got no idea. If she could just pack me, that'll be great. So I get home and I tell her she's in the middle of cooking dinner with the kids, finishing up her. Her book work with Emmy, and.

[Liz Fullerton]

Perfect time to tell her.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah, like, dinner's like, literally burning now, but she. At least I'm packed. And then I'm gonna complain about how the dinner's burned, too, because I don't like that. And she also cooks something I don't like because, like, what. What is. What is broccoli? You know, and then I'm. I'm, you know, I'm just really stressed out about this trip tomorrow. I don't know how I'm gonna make the flight. You know, it's only an hour, so I can't watch my hour and a half movie. And that just really sucks, you know? And, you know, I didn't even get upgraded the first. I'm stuck in comfort.

[Liz Fullerton]

Tell me about it.

[Brian Fullerton]

It's crap. It's such crap. And then when I get there, you know what they're going to want to do immediately? They're going to want to go out to eat. And I just. It's so Hard going to all of these dinners with all of these people and eating with two hands and, you know, thinking my own thoughts, having some quiet to think them. I don't. It's what am I going to do with all this time away to relax?

[Liz Fullerton]

He's probably thinking, she'll never understand. She just needs to get out more.

[Brian Fullerton]

Anyways.

[Liz Fullerton]

So what time is it now?

[Brian Fullerton]

It's like 5:30 and Liz always insists that we eat at 5. I don't understand it. Why she can't just make the kids wait until like 6, 7pm so that I can keep working until like 7, 8 o'. Clock.

[Liz Fullerton]

Right.

[Brian Fullerton]

Why can't they just understand and their little bellies can just figure it out?

[Liz Fullerton]

Spring rush. Team effort.

[Brian Fullerton]

Hello.

[Liz Fullerton]

Hello.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm gonna go out to the barn. I know she said dinner's gonna be on the table in five seconds, but I'm gonna go out to the barn. Oh, and then you know what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna call her while I'm in the barn and say I'm going to the gas station because I need a Coke and I won't let her buy a case of Coke because I insist on getting them from the gas station because there's some sort of weirdness in my brain that makes it me feel like I'm going to drink less Coke if I don't have them available. But all I end up doing is going to the gas station, get a Coke every time dinner is ready.

[Liz Fullerton]

I know I drink a lot less Coke.

[Brian Fullerton]

Sure. So now I'm home again and Liz looks a little irritated. Dinner would have been good if it was hot.

[Liz Fullerton]

She needs to read a positive attitude book and my podcast.

[Brian Fullerton]

I guess it's time to do bedtime. I guess I. I'll help her with the bath. And by that I mean just getting the kids in it, not washing them, not getting their pajamas out, not brushing hair.

[Liz Fullerton]

I do the bath. Come on. I'm a great dad at night.

[Brian Fullerton]

So yeah, I don't get the I'll get the kids out of the bath, but I still have no idea about the pajama situation or brushing the teeth or the brushing the hair.

[Liz Fullerton]

I do pajamas and I do hair.

[Brian Fullerton]

You do?

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, you know I do.

[Brian Fullerton]

You didn't give me crew last night wearing a T shirt that he wore all day.

[Liz Fullerton]

You know, not like my best example, he wore like the same clothes that he wore all day. I'm like, just throw him in the bed. She like kicks him back out. She goes, that kid needs to change. I go what's wrong? And his shirt was kind of disgusting.

[Brian Fullerton]

It was gross.

[Liz Fullerton]

It was gross. Okay, One off situation. Obviously, I was busy packing for a trip. The next day happens, and then, you

[Brian Fullerton]

know, after, like, finally Liz gets the kids down to bed. Like, God, it takes her so long. I'm just sitting here, like, waiting, like, hello, I have needs, too. You know what I mean? So when's my turn? And she's kind of irritated at that. And I don't really understand, understand why. I mean, like, I know she's a person, too, but, like, does she really need any time to herself? Like, because I feel like the last little bit of time during the day, at night, after the kids go to bed, she could have to herself, like, should also be mine.

[Liz Fullerton]

You know, we should book that Disney trip together.

[Brian Fullerton]

And so, you know, I. You know, I saw that on my. My chase thing, and I've been waiting all day to give her a lecture. I understand. I travel all the time. But she doesn't need to. She. She's grounded, actually. And I need to let her know that she doesn't need to take a trip every year.

[Liz Fullerton]

She doesn't. She needs to stay in her castle.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah. And that's about it. I know I'm probably gonna wake up in the morning with, like, five new ideas from her about how to make her house better or things that she wants to buy to make her house serve life better. I'm gonna tell her she needs to stop shopping on Amazon when I get an Amazon package in the morning. And it's. I mean, it's actually toothpaste for the kids, but she ordered it, so she needs to stop shopping.

[Liz Fullerton]

Bingo. All these damn Amazon packages. You know, it's only 29. 29 a day is like a 10 grand a year habit, they say. Okay, so that's what you think I do all day?

[Brian Fullerton]

Well, then you go to bed by yourself. You just decide. You're like, no, actually, you know, I might weirdly scrub through a movie, just only watching the scenes that I want to watch, because who needs to watch a movie in full?

[Liz Fullerton]

That's not weird, dude. Like, really?

[Brian Fullerton]

I've never met anybody who's ever done that before. Just only watch the scenes you want to watch.

[Liz Fullerton]

Never thought you'd ever, like, say something about that.

[Brian Fullerton]

It's really weird.

[Liz Fullerton]

Like, I watched Dune, and I, like, literally watched, like, 22 minutes. Two and a half hour. You're like, all right, see you tomorrow. You came back out for something, and it was like, the credits.

[Brian Fullerton]

My night orange. I go out and get an orange for a treat.

[Liz Fullerton]

And then it was like, that's. That's like a little raccoon. And then you came out like, it was like the credits of Dune. You're like, did you just finish the movie? Go. Yeah. You're like, how? I'm like, I. I just wanted to watch, like, these, like 10 different scenes for like two minutes each.

[Brian Fullerton]

She's like, I think it's so weird.

[Liz Fullerton]

Okay?

[Brian Fullerton]

I think it's the weirdest thing.

[Liz Fullerton]

There's no reason to watch a two and a half hour movie if I'm just looking for, like the 10 top 10 scenes. You know what I mean?

[Brian Fullerton]

No, I don't. I don't know the last movie I watched.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't. I don't get all the time in the world like you to watch a full movie, you know, start to finish. You know, when you're in bed, when the kids are sleeping on you, all snuggling and stealing snuggles and cuddles. You know what I mean? You gotta light it up because it sounds like you're more angry at me now than.

[Brian Fullerton]

I just think we live in two different worlds. I honestly don't believe that anything that we disagree about or like, the different roles that we have isn't like a malicious thing. You said it like, I forget what I did the other day, but you're irritated at me about something. I don't remember. Oh, because I was out with Emmy. I went. I took Emmy on a date, and I didn't ask if you wanted on the way home, dude.

[Liz Fullerton]

It threw the whole evening into a spiral.

[Brian Fullerton]

You were like, you know, if you're the one out, you gotta ask if, like, anybody needs anything while you're out. And I'm like, I. I just want to get home. I don't. I don't have my glasses, so I really should be driving at night and the sun was going down. I just wanted to make it home. But you said. I was like, you know, I apologized and, like, I'm sorry. I didn't even think of it. You do always ask me if I want something while you're out. I just. I rarely go. And it's not usually something I do. I decided I didn't mean anything maliciously and go, I don't believe that you've ever really done anything maliciously. No, I don't believe you do anything maliciously. We just live in two different worlds.

[Liz Fullerton]

We do, we do. And that's like the tough part about being a couple, right? Like, I'm joking. I think you're angry. But anyway.

[Brian Fullerton]

No, I'm joking.

[Liz Fullerton]

I was like, my trouble getting a lecture after this. No, we literally do live in. Like, it's funny describing it. You know what I mean? When you think about it, this is actually a pretty funny trade stock. It could have been a good trade stock. If you listen, go to the creditors and trades. We'll redo it. But it's like. It's like perception is reality or whatever you want to call it. Like, and during the day, like, I've shown you my phone, dude, I get well.

[Brian Fullerton]

So that's the thing is I don't genuinely believe that you think that's how my day is. And you don't know. You definitely don't believe that I think that's how.

[Liz Fullerton]

No, no, no, no.

[Brian Fullerton]

Like, I totally know that's not how your day goes.

[Liz Fullerton]

That's.

[Brian Fullerton]

That's like a caricature of your day.

[Liz Fullerton]

That's a good statement to bake into here to. To. To be candid. Like, that's exactly. Like, I don't. Like I'm joking about your day, but just like, anybody would say and correct me if I'm wrong. Like, I don't know how you get everything done in a day. I'm not saying you would say I don't know how you get everything done in a day, but I just know, like, dude, I couldn't even imagine getting the kids cleaned up three different times a day, you know, schooling one of them or two of them to be, you know, homeschooling and doing a lesson, then, you know, somehow managing. There's always somebody here, cleaning, fixing, doing something like contractor this fixing or updating something. Like, the guys are coming to regroute the. The part of the tile that just. Just was off, you know, and there's always somebody here. Like, the Home Depot blinds guy came, you know, for the other day. But, like, this is really interesting describing each other's day, because I said this. Like, was it text or call? I said to you. I said, like, I don't think you've ever done that I've ever known you anything malicious against me or that I know that I've ever done anything malicious against you.

[Brian Fullerton]

You put my coffee.

[Liz Fullerton]

I did do the coffee. That's one. I was just gonna say.

[Brian Fullerton]

That was malicious. That was straight malicious. Brian put my coffee. I think we talked about this, actually on a podcast.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't know if we actually heard that one. I think I deleted that show, Brian. I'm pretty sure I deleted that.

[Brian Fullerton]

We were in, like, we Were fighting. We were in a, like a cycle of like a week period where we were arguing.

[Liz Fullerton]

It was a six week.

[Brian Fullerton]

And I left coffee on the counter, and Brian put it in the highest part. We have really tall ceilings in our kitchen, and we have uppers that are glass that are just for, like, display stuff. Basically. They're just for funsies. And they have lights in them and nothing's in them right now because I can't stand clutter. And he put my coffee up there. I'm five, three. I can't even standing on a counter reach that. I had no way to grab my coffee. I was so mad. I was so mad.

[Liz Fullerton]

This is usually, like, petty stuff you do as newlyweds, you know, or pre newlyweds or post newlyweds. And you're like, when. When, you know, put the dish glass in the dishwasher, not the sink or the. In the sink or not the dishwasher. Like, there's always one or two in the. In the couple, right? Like, this is all the. All the Christian books, right? Like, you grab the tube of toothpaste on the end and somebody rolls it and somebody's the squeeze it in the middle type. And one person has the white toothpaste dots in the mirror, and the other one doesn't. Like, these are all. And dude, that like, blows out probably 20% of marriages. Like, for real, just all that stuff. Like, for real. All, like, dude, like, that's a whole. I don't even know how you get over that phase. You just like. You're just like. You just.

[Brian Fullerton]

I think you realize it's not malicious. You have a mature conversation, and then it's up to the other person to adjust too. Like if, you know, if something's really bothering somebody.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah. Like in the one day I did the coffee thing. I was just. Literally, it was four or five days or a week or two or months. I was like, dude, just put the freaking coffee bag back in the cabinet. It's not that we do that with every other. You do that with every other thing. That was the ironic thing. I was like, just put the. So I was like, you know what? I'm literally going to put the coffee up at the highest mountaintop.

[Brian Fullerton]

Literally cannot reach it. I had to wait for him to come home.

[Liz Fullerton]

And I got texts and emails and phone calls and carrier pigeons and I was so mad. Facebook post, forums.

[Brian Fullerton]

I wasn't even in a phase. I go through phases where I don't have caffeine because it makes me more of an anxious person. And I don't even think I was in the routine of like having coffee very regularly. So it's probably why I got left out.

[Liz Fullerton]

And we were.

[Brian Fullerton]

And if I was getting it, I really needed the caffeine, you know what I mean?

[Liz Fullerton]

And we were probably halfway through a six week roommate phase.

[Brian Fullerton]

That helped.

[Liz Fullerton]

I didn't give a. At that point I was like, dude, I'm putting the coffee.

[Brian Fullerton]

Done anything malicious?

[Liz Fullerton]

No, I've never done In a decade, 12, 13 years, right. That we've been together. Anything malicious. And I don't think you have either. And that's why it's funny when, when like you don't bring food home because you're driving by food. And we made, they had like a 2 o' clock lunch and you know, at 8 o' clock you and Emmy were out from 5 to 7:30 doing girl time and having just a mom daughter date. And like you drove past downtown with all the food and I'm like, dude, why wouldn't you ask anybody if they want, you know, carry out Taco Bell or something, right? Or carry out. And I was like, what the heck? It's not like you were being malicious. You're just never in the role of being out and about typically to drive by food, to bring home food. And so I'm not like, oh, she like stuck it to me. Like that's just obviously beyond toxic thought process in a relationship. But we, we do live in two different worlds. It's a really fun exercise to like describe to each other because now that I'm saying this out loud I'm like, dude, like I've shown you my phone where I have literally 50 to 70 emails a day.

[Brian Fullerton]

I've taken your phone like when you're

[Liz Fullerton]

sick, dude, for real.

[Brian Fullerton]

Or needed sleep during the winter, I've taken your phone. Like I know I. And I get the emails too on my phone.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, yeah.

[Brian Fullerton]

Like I don't answer them obviously, but it's a way for me you're logged

[Liz Fullerton]

in on one of them.

[Brian Fullerton]

Actually that's a really good thing. I think if your wife wanted to, to have the login to the business email just to keep abreast of like kind of what's going on in the business. Like I don't obviously answer anything, but I, I have a touch.

[Liz Fullerton]

You have a little bit of a pulse.

[Brian Fullerton]

A pulse of like what you're going through or what you're dealing with in the business by just scanning emails throughout the day.

[Liz Fullerton]

Half of the business is email, the other half is the field crew. The phone calls and the guys. So it's like you do get a good pulse on the business, but dude, you know, 50 emails a day, dude, 50 phone calls a day. The guys, the thousands of text messages and, and, you know, more or less every day as we, like, try to build systems and process that. Obviously everything doesn't hinge around me, but it's not like when you describe my day where I'm just pooping all day and looking at boats. Guilty. I'm guilty of, like, looking at boats or, you know, building Lambos and Porsches.

[Brian Fullerton]

Oh, I forgot to add in about, like a big purchase. Like a. We need, we need. This is going to make our business if we buy this.

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[Liz Fullerton]

But I'm not stupid enough to believe that you're just on, you know, Disney Vacation Rental DVC points.com all day trying to book, you know, some trip to blow a 10 grand. You're like, hey, we work a lot. I like to have a family vacation. It's been six months.

[Brian Fullerton]

Like, we haven't usually I see that the kids are acting out because they need some quality time. And I'm like, hey, the trip is almost an excuse to get away away.

[Liz Fullerton]

And we try to do that every four to six months, eight months, 12 months at max, you know, but it, but it's an interesting thing where I'm like, she's sending me another reel or video of like, some vacation spot. I'm like, why don't we ever. Why are we not more concerned about throwing money in the bank and saving money or paying something down or paying something.

[Brian Fullerton]

But you're not seeing the behavior or the kids. Oh, yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

And then simultaneously, like, you're looking at me looking at boats all day, and I'm like, dude, I need a big vision to get my Ass out of bed. Because life could be very comfortable right now and I need to stay motivated to build a big business for the guys to build a big dream. Because I want to get a Beneteau 63 grand trawler, you know, two and a half million dollar boat. I'm like, dude, you know how much money you have to have to like buy the boat?

[Brian Fullerton]

I always now have things paid off in our marriage. I get very excited when you get fixated on stuff. So when I do see you looking at like a boat or like the last one of the big ones is the, the Tesla, for example, like when you got fixated on doing that, like I get excited now because I'm like, okay, you're inspired. You're like, people are like, oh my gosh. Like, I don't want my husband to get a sports car. Like, I know if we are to the level that you're buying a sports car, our life is pretty good, for sure. So I say that tongue in cheek, like, I'm excited that you're looking at boats. I can't wait.

[Liz Fullerton]

But that's the, that's the point, right? Like you're like, he's. Or the wife could be like, all he does is look at boats or cars or a Porsche or Ferrari or what, whatever, you know, like, dude, it can be a freaking four wheeler for $5,000. Doesn't need to be anything million dollar car who or boat. But like, I need a vision and a dream like as a dude to be like, yeah, dude, I'm gonna work for that. And then I'm like, I gotta get around guys that make me want to be better and can teach me how to do that. So I have to go to another conference. And she could easily say, going on another vacation. Can't wait to like get photos of you eating, you know, a 200 Ruth Chris dinner and chumming it up. And it's like, dude, you can be different perspectives here. Like, very bitter, very resentful, very toxic, very not on the same page. Or you can be like, dude, my wife is awesome. I don't know how she does what she does. My husband's awesome. I don't know how he does what he does. And you can't keep score because like after a year or two years, five years, 10 years, you hopefully see the progress together in each other's life. You know what I'm saying?

[Brian Fullerton]

That's my thing is like, if you. It really. We talk about this a lot with the kids especially. I mean, she's getting to the Age of, like, obviously understanding feelings and stuff and talking her through of, like, it's a choice to choose how you feel about things and your reaction to them.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah.

[Brian Fullerton]

And so you can choose to harbor resentment of, like, I mean, it is funny. It's a funny thing because it's true. It's like, you do get to go on these trips and eat with two hands and whatever. And sometimes, like, it is frustrating because I'm at home absolutely getting my butt to me by three kids that are four years and younger. But it's because we have a common goal in mind that we're trying to achieve. So it's like, we say a lot, same goal, different role. And sometimes your role looks better, and sometimes my role looks better. I'm the one at home, you know, getting to watch Beckham take his first steps. I'm the one at home watching Emmy write her first word, read her first word, you know, like, I.

[Liz Fullerton]

So, like, that's so good.

[Brian Fullerton]

You could choose to see it from whatever light you want to see it through, but it's going to have fruit. That feeling is going to produce fruit. Is it going to produce good fruit or bad fruit? And how you feel about your spouse and then all, like, the way that you filter your thoughts about your spouse through your mind is how everything else grows in your life. The way that you talk about them, the way that you treat them without even saying anything. You're. You're. The way that you, you know, move around them changes. And I truly do choose to believe that I made a good decision marrying you and that everything else lives up to that. So if I believe that I married a good man, then I choose to believe that the choices that you're making or if these trips that you're taking are promoting our family. Like, I choose to believe that you don't maliciously take a trip because you think it's fun. You don't take time away from our family because you think it's a good thing to do selfishly. Do they have benefits? Yeah, of course. But, like, you also miss our kids when you're gone, too.

[Liz Fullerton]

Well, and. And what you just said, like, just makes me think when you send me videos of the kids doing fun things, like, the other day, they're pulling a little four wheeler with the sled. The sled. I'm like, dude, that just makes me so happy to, like, I've provided a life and a lifestyle for my wife to be able to be there because you're not at a job to go see that. And that Day. I could have been home just as easily. I could have just been out in the field just as easily. I don't, I don't know when and what was it yesterday?

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yes. I was out in the field and, but like I'm in the field doing certain things to be able to provide the lifestyle for you to be home to, to do, to experience that and then, and then some. Right? Like it's not like I'm in the field tomorrow or yesterday is what bought an expedition, but like the, the culminating culmination of all these extra decisions that we decide to make together allow us to be at whatever certain size life we want to be at. And so there's sacrifice. Long story short, there's an investment, there's things we can't do, there's things we can do. And, and it just makes, it really just reminds me like we're all in this together, building this life together. Because if not, dude, you could really harbor a lot of resentment or be off your count your kilter. Dude on like, oh, she just gets to stay at home all day. Or oh, he just gets to go travel. Or dude, he's always hanging with people and getting the hang with the guys. Who do I get to play with all day? Just the kids. And it's like you would crave socialization and he would crave being home with the kids, you know, and that's why I got the ranger. Like I literally was like, hey, I'm buying this because I, I just don't get enough time with the kids. I do on the weekend, but during the week it's tough, you know, like you do dinner, it's bath time. Like, dude, once you guys get kids, you have to realize like if you don't know already, but once you have kids after 5:30 to 9, you don't own that time anymore. That's what you and I did for nights and weekends to get ahead in life. We just worked the second job. We did YouTube, but like that's not really available to you. You have to do dinner, then bedtime, then read, put the kids down at 7:30, 8, 8, 39, 10, depending on your kid and how crazy they are. And then like at best, like you said, there's 15 minutes for you and him or you and her at 10 o' clock at night. And it's just different. But you could be so resentful with this, with this perspective that you think the other side is living.

[Brian Fullerton]

I choose to believe that like I don't think the majority of spouses are Maliciously doing anything. But if you are getting to the point in your marriage where you are so resentful that you are maliciously doing things to your spouse to irritate them, or that's another. That is a not healthy.

[Liz Fullerton]

Like, you definitely need coaching.

[Brian Fullerton]

You need like some, some professional.

[Liz Fullerton]

You need to know, you need the record. I mean, I really say, like, you could, you should, or you, you need to do. But like, that, that's a good litmus to be like, hey, something's not right. Like, I'm way unequally yoked or misaligned with my spouse.

[Brian Fullerton]

Some things, yeah, something needs to be rewind.

[Liz Fullerton]

Something's. You're harboring some thoughts or feelings and that's okay to have those thoughts and feelings. Just, you know, navigate and process if they're real or true.

[Brian Fullerton]

Use a filter. Like, you can't. I was talking about this earlier. Like, you can't really help the feelings that you have. Like, sometimes things just come up, but you choose how you act on them and what you, you choose what you believe if they are true or not. Like, I can feel in the moment, like, resentful that you get to go on an airplane and watch a movie. Like, that sounds amazing. Like, honestly, it sounds like a vacation.

[Liz Fullerton]

It's very fun, convenient for sure.

[Brian Fullerton]

But I get to choose whether or not I let myself think that that feeling is truth. Do you know what I mean? Like, is it true? That is fun. Yes. But does that necessarily make it like you're in a bad way doing that? Do you know what I'm trying to say?

[Liz Fullerton]

Like, yeah. Like, is it the cause of the effect? Like, he's not like, okay, he gets the upside on that, but he's going to do this to then allow me to do this or the kids to have that opportunity for us to have this opportunity, you know, Like, I'll, I'll just land it with this because I don't want to go in circles. It's just a, it's a funny description of what we both think that we do all day.

[Brian Fullerton]

The caricature.

[Liz Fullerton]

Caricature of what we both think that we do all day. The reality is significantly further from the truth. There's some humor in there. Some truth, obviously, with what we both poked fun at, you know, like, yeah, I'm looking at boats a lot. I'm trying to figure out, apparently I'm

[Brian Fullerton]

booking Disney trips and thinking about how much I love you.

[Liz Fullerton]

He's a handsome looking man.

[Brian Fullerton]

He made me sound like such a golden retriever waiting for you to get Home.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't know, dude. I wasn't intending it to come off any one way or another. That's some funny stuff though. Like, that's a, that's a funny. It's like I, I think this is. At the end of the day, you have to realize you're on the same team, you're working together. And Brad and Tammy talk a lot with tandem marriage. They come to together, the trades a lot and they talk about like the drift, you know, they have as a couple. And dude, it's not any easier just because you're married 10, 11 years or together 11, 13, 11, 12, 13, 14ish years, whatever. You know, it's been like, it just gets easier. Like it's not like you just. Most people get stuck in a habit, a routine. Thoughts turn into bigger thoughts that like solidify into bigger thoughts and that's when you get, that's when it gets scary, you know, because there's times when you think and feel certain things. Like you said, you have to go to your spouse with those thoughts, process them together, figure out if there's any merit to them. Just be reassured. In general, a lot of guys just want to be reassured, like, hey, like you're good, right? Like we're good. Like that's all I need to know. And, and, but it's something to, to keep a pulse on, you know, not just spring rush like any time of the year. You know, it's a fun, it's a fun little exercise that we did here. I think it was really fun. Maybe we could do like this exercise for everybody else at trades. Could be our talk. Like, what do you guys think that you guys do all day, have five minutes each to discuss your. What do you think the spouse does all day and that we can process and work through some of this together. I don't know. That would be fun exercise. We'll see. We'll see. This is. But this is probably one of the most fun episodes I've done for you, done within together in a long time. Because, you know, I'm not saying that you're a lot of bed at 10:30 and in the morning, you know, and stick.

[Brian Fullerton]

I wish I could roll out of bed at 10:30. I also wish I could start my day at, you know, five, six o' clock in the morning, but with bagels, co sleeping with the kid, they, they know when you leave them. It's insane.

[Liz Fullerton]

I know, I know. It's true. It's. You're definitely locked in in the morning. There's no doubt about that. I keep telling them, like, just get up at 5:30. She goes, so then the baby's up at 6:00'.

[Brian Fullerton]

Clock.

[Liz Fullerton]

And then it ruins everybody's life because that thing is going through, you know, dropping naps and dropping sleeps.

[Brian Fullerton]

And I'm like, it's been really rough. I think he's ready to go down to one.

[Liz Fullerton]

I don't even know.

[Brian Fullerton]

Talk about sleep.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah. No, kid, we haven't slept in years. So that is a true characterization. We both haven't slept in years. We both just start off with, well, my name is Liz and I haven't slept since 2020.

[Brian Fullerton]

We went to vote just now and like, I felt like a zombie.

[Liz Fullerton]

We did. I literally. My second Alani.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

So you kind of got some of these character creatures, right? All right, all right. That's where we're going to leave it today. Hopefully. This was fun episode for you guys. I'm going to break this into a two parter episode. It's almost at an hour, so may we'll do a Wednesday Friday show. So if you guys enjoyed this, shoot us a dm, tag us on ig, let us know if you guys hopefully had a couple laughs. Hopefully you weren't like, it's always funny.

[Brian Fullerton]

What is wrong with these people, dude?

[Liz Fullerton]

It's always funny, man.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm glad my marriage isn't that bad.

[Liz Fullerton]

Stop, dude. Oh. Like, you ever see like a couple fight? I saw real is like when that couple is passively aggressive with each other at a party and she's like chopping vegetables and she's like angry at him and he like did like is mad at her and they're like, we're at like a function, like a gathering, but there's like that couple that's arguing and it's like, dude, nobody wants to be around that energy. So maybe when Liz is describing me at the end, it's like, I thought we're still joking, right?

[Brian Fullerton]

I had a hard time coming up with stuff besides pooping and boats. Yeah. Like, that's the thing is like, I know, I know. I know how hard you work.

[Liz Fullerton]

What would you say you do here? That's why you wonder.

[Brian Fullerton]

I look at your Thursdays because Thursdays is typically Brian's office day. And it's just like, literally he doesn't even leave room for lunch. Which makes me mad because that's like my weirdly like, love language is I like to cook for our family and feed you. And to see him like not even eat breakfast, let alone lunch, I'm like, I don't know.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesdays, they're definitely busy. Thursdays, we try to keep it light for the guys in the field. And then Thursdays, because that's one of my biggest days. And we don't work Fridays for either business. We're trying to really bookend, you know, Monday through Thursday. So, yeah, it's good. It's fun. That's what we're gonna leave you guys today. Hopefully you guys got some humor out of this. And it was just a fun, relatable conversation for some of you guys that are couples out there. Maybe it just gives you some interesting, uh, conversations. Share with your wife, Share it with your spouse, you know, and then, hey,

[Brian Fullerton]

we should do more episodes together if you guys have, like, topics or anything.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, shoot. Liz, a DM on Instagram so she can get these ideas so we can culminate them.

[Brian Fullerton]

And I always feel so bad because

[Liz Fullerton]

I never at Elizabeth Dot Fullerton or Elizabeth Dot Fullerton, whatever it is. But, guys, seriously, together, I'm gonna go

[Brian Fullerton]

back to my maiden name if you buy. Bye.

[Liz Fullerton]

Bye.

[Brian Fullerton]

Bye.

[Liz Fullerton]

Go ahead and get half a 00. As Caleb Almond says, you want to split half the debt. Good luck with it. Together Trades dot com. Get your ticket. We seriously, we'd love to have you there. It's stuff like this. This is what we talk about and then some at the event. We got some great speakers coming on in. Marty Grunder is coming with Lisa, which is.

[Brian Fullerton]

I'm really excited. He spoke at Trades or at LAL and some from stage. Really, really stuck with me. Still, it's November.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yeah, a lot of people. Yeah, but they've been together for 40. In business for 40 years, married for 35 of them or something like that, so happily, too. Yeah, that's such a good point. Yeah, he did say that at trade or at lal. So come on, check out, you know, folks like that and then some. The Almonds will be sharing. We'll be sharing a couple other great speakers.

[Brian Fullerton]

So we'd love to have 365.

[Liz Fullerton]

Yep. It'll be good. So. And again, Flagstaff. Dude. Arizona. July. Like, what better time to go on down and check out the Grand Canyon.

[Brian Fullerton]

Grand Canyon. I've heard it's a copper mine.

[Liz Fullerton]

A copper mine.

[Brian Fullerton]

Yeah.

[Liz Fullerton]

Maybe it's a secret entrance to fifth dimension.

[Brian Fullerton]

Okay, I'm Audi. I gotta go put my baby down for now.

[Liz Fullerton]

All right, fam. We love you guys. We appreciate you. Over and out. Have a great day. And hopefully you guys enjoy something different on the podcast episode than the same old, same old. We Love you, appreciate you. Have a great day. We'll catch you on the next one.

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