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Kid Fury
What is a common form of whining in your classes? Because I know the girls be you're
Dexter Carr
giving me a job. I have been so grateful for the lashings that I got in the moments, some of the moments in my career. Because you won't make it through a Gap commercial with cat's eye that you have to film 80 times per section if you're not in shape. Like, it's just the truth. Everybody wants to be a dancer, but everybody isn't built like a dancer who's
Kid Fury
someone who can go ahead and stop dancing.
Dexter Carr
We've talked about this. That's that same one that I said and I'm standing by it. I'm saying it again.
Kid Fury
Welcome back, everyone. I am Kid Fury, as usual. Thank you for coming. And joining me once again on Furious Thoughts, my guest this week is a world class dancer, choreographer, an actor, a podcast host, and a fellow Dade county baby. So please welcome Dexter Carr to the podcast.
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Dexter Carr
That's a lot of titles.
Kid Fury
I mean, they're all accurate.
Dexter Carr
I need to shave some down.
Kid Fury
You know, you have to let the girls know every facet and corner while we're here, period. So I'm excited to have you. Thank you for joining me.
Dexter Carr
I'm so excited to have to be here. I'm like, this is like we're switching spots.
Kid Fury
This is tv, right? I loved your podcast.
Dexter Carr
You had a good time?
Kid Fury
I had such a good time.
Dexter Carr
I was so nervous because I was like, he does this shit for real. Like, I'm like a newbie in this. So, like, it was. I'm glad you enjoyed it.
Kid Fury
Yeah, it was tea. I really loved the podcast. So we're both from Miami. Love that for us.
Dexter Carr
Love that for us.
Kid Fury
I talk about my experience in Miami all the time, so I want to know more about yours. What part of Miami are you from?
Dexter Carr
So I'm from originally from Palmetto Bay. Like down south. Down south. And then I went to school at Kendall. So like I went to Killian, you know. Yeah, exactly. Oh yeah, you went to Killian, right. So I went to this. I started at Coral Reef and then I went to.
Kid Fury
That's where my little brothers went.
Dexter Carr
And then I went to this school called Palmer Trinity because I was too bad and I needed some, ah, structure.
Kid Fury
That was the story I wanted for myself. Like, I think I was a noo nu.
Dexter Carr
Oh my God, I love being a new.
Kid Fury
New.
Dexter Carr
That was so good.
Kid Fury
That was it. So tell me, like, what are like some of your favorite aspects? Especially like looking back and having been out of Miami what are some of your favorite tried and true parts of Miami?
Dexter Carr
You know what I like about Miami? That honestly, like, no matter where you go, rich, poor, this neighborhood, Caribbean, this. Everybody's ghetto. It is a ghetto. There's a ghetto film over the entire city of Miami. It's true. Because, like, we just don't really care. Like, you got girls in the club barefoot, or you like parking your car where you shouldn't park it at the mall and just getting out to get some real quick. Like, it's a ghetto city.
Kid Fury
It is.
Dexter Carr
I just love it. You know what?
Kid Fury
That's a truth that really should be brought to light.
Dexter Carr
It's true. You can be rich and still be hood. I'm sorry, baby.
Kid Fury
Thank you. And the girls come to Miami, and they get stupid, drunk, and high, so it's like they don't really realize they're being ghetto. So they don't really realize you walking
Dexter Carr
on the beach with a big cup in your hand of a fruity drink is ghetto, babe.
Kid Fury
It's horrible. Like, that's trash. It is, but it's our trash.
Dexter Carr
It's our trash, and I love it. I wouldn't change it for the world. I wouldn't want to be from anywhere else.
Kid Fury
Honestly, I genuinely feel the exact same way.
Dexter Carr
Never. Mm.
Kid Fury
It's a big city in, like, I think, the metropolitan sense in America.
Dexter Carr
Yes.
Kid Fury
But it's, like, it's tropical. It's warm. It's, like, ideal for many places. Like, for most people, it's like a vacation or a vacation.
Dexter Carr
It literally is.
Kid Fury
And for us, it's home for literally is.
Dexter Carr
And when people tell me that they're going for vacation, I'm kind of like, yeah, but where are you going? And they always say the same thing. South Beach. Or, like, now people are saying, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And I'm like, wow, okay. But you're not gonna go down to, like, 1 52nd? Like, of course. All right, all right, fine.
Kid Fury
Hell, no.
Dexter Carr
Whatever.
Kid Fury
Wynwood is, like, their new little, like, rodeo.
Dexter Carr
It is.
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It is.
Dexter Carr
And it's, like, nice now. It's, like, malls and stuff now.
Kid Fury
It's cute work. I didn't have that experience.
Dexter Carr
Not at all.
Kid Fury
That was just overtown. So I don't really know, period.
Dexter Carr
That's by the arena.
Kid Fury
So how did your. How does your passion for dance begin? And how did that, like, manifest at home?
Dexter Carr
Okay, so I was going to a studio, like, a dance studio with my friends. Because, like, again, like, in Miami, you just do things, right? Like, we just like, oh, y'. All going to dance class. I'm gonna go to dance class too. Like, literally that. Cause I don't have to be home. Cause my parents don't care where I go until 10, 11pm that's just how we grow up. But I ended up dancing for Chris Brown because they did an announcement on the radio for an audition on Power 96. I will never forget this.
Kid Fury
Yep.
Dexter Carr
And it was like Chris Brown was looking for dancers. I was at that fucking audition. Can I cuss? I don't know if I can cuss.
Kid Fury
Hell yes.
Dexter Carr
Oh. I was like, never mind. It's you. I can cuss. But yeah. So there was an audition. It was down the street. Like somewhere in downtown Miami somewhere. And like, literally down the street. And I waited and I waited and I waited. I waited, I waited and I got it. And once I did it, we filmed it at fiu. That was where the Kiss Kiss video was filmed.
Kid Fury
I did not know that Kiss Kiss
Dexter Carr
was filmed at fiu. Veronica Vega was the lead in the video. If you watch back, Veronica Vegas, the lead before the N Word controversy. Anyways, so, yeah, like, we were just. It was like such a Miami experience, but like, with a big name artist. And I was like, this is fun. Like, I wanna do this and I wanna keep doing this, you know? And like, the other male dancers were from New York and LA and Atlanta. So, like, they were telling me about, like, what it's like over here. So I was like, okay, that's cool. Like, not much different than Miami. Cause I'll say this too. Being from Miami, we got every part. We got like the vacation part. We also got like the industry part. We got the hometown part. Like, you got kind of every part. So it was really cool.
Kid Fury
The gaming part? Yeah.
Dexter Carr
The Caribbean part. It's the scamming part.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
But yeah, no, it was great. And it was an amazing first experience for me that just made me want to keep going.
Kid Fury
So that was one of the things I was going to actually ask you about. Like, Miami has this specific. Like, we have like, specific sources for creativity that we're really good at. And then some shit is just like, girl, this is Miami. We don't do that. Right. So I'm like, I'm not really surprised that in a situation like that, it was a lot of people from other cities.
Dexter Carr
Yeah.
Kid Fury
So what was the experience like, becoming a dad? Cause how old were you when you did that video?
Dexter Carr
16. That was my first job.
Kid Fury
I was real young. So what was like the experience post Chris Brown video where you're like, oh, this is my life now.
Dexter Carr
Ah, here. Yeah. So, okay, so as we all know, too, maybe you don't know if you're watching this, but Miami doesn't have black jobs. Miami has Latin jobs. So you dance for Pitbull. You dance for Shakira. You dance for somebody's name and somebody's name that you don't even know put together. And that is what we have. So after the Chris Brown, I was on this, like, high, and I'm like, oh, my God. Yeah. And then somehow I ended up in somebody's, like, commercial for, like, you know, a Taco Bell commercial. It's just like, the career went different and I, you know, at the same time, like, am I doing what I love? Yes. But it's not the caliber of where I want to be and the feeling I want to feel when I'm on these jobs. Because also, we can call a spade a spade too. Miami can be a little racist.
Kid Fury
Miami can be like, the girls gag at that too, sweetie. It's not just Ocean Drive.
Dexter Carr
No, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's wild out here. And you will be a born and raised resident, and somebody will look at you like you're an outsider. No, no, no. I'm from here, babe. You're not from here. So, yeah, it was a very interesting experience going from that to those other jobs. But also, too, I think those other jobs helped me. Cause once I moved to New York, I was able to say that I had a little more under my resume than just one artist.
Kid Fury
A little season.
Dexter Carr
A little season. Yeah, yeah. And I could jump on y' all jobs up here too. Like, I can do other stuff other than just what you think I can do, which is hip hop. So, yeah, it was beneficial.
Kid Fury
How old were you when you moved to New York?
Dexter Carr
18. So I did it, like, right, okay. Yeah.
Kid Fury
You can't waste no time. And I do not blame you. No, no, no, no, no.
Dexter Carr
Not no leap year. Not no fiu. Not no, like, miam. No, I can't. What are we supposed to do? I gotta go.
Kid Fury
So I wanna know about your transition to New York City as someone who was born in Miami, because, baby, it rocked my world.
Dexter Carr
Whoop my ass. Whoop my ass good. Jump me like, pull me by my hair.
Kid Fury
I think maybe the first year and a half, two years tops, I was sincerely sitting like, y' all have lived like this for your whole lives.
Dexter Carr
You do this all the time. By choice. Yeah, by choice.
Kid Fury
You don't wanna go nowhere. So what was it like moving to like, to New York City. What was some of the initial. What is it? Culture shock.
Dexter Carr
Culture shock.
Kid Fury
Boots.
Dexter Carr
The space of the living space is the. That was my big. I was telling everybody about that. I was like, no, no, no. Y' all don't understand. Cause I was in a college dorm. But even if you're in a college dorm at a fsu, right, Or a UF or something like that, completely, you're getting, like, an apartment. You're getting this, like, baby, this is it. This is the New York dorm right here. And that's my roommate right there. And I'm like, oh, you're doing a line off the. All right, whatever. It's like, it was so real. It was just so real, so fast. But again, grateful, because at 18 years old, you learn so much. Like, you learn so much. And especially. Cause where we're from, like, yeah, obviously, like, Miami is in, like, this clean city where, like, there's nothing. There's no crime, there's no this, there's no that. But I think the way I was raised, at least I'll say I knew stuff was going on, but my parents raised me to be like, stay out of that. Don't be over there. Don't be over there with them people, you know, who not to be around. But in New York, you don't have no choice. Cause you're put in these situations with people who you are just meeting or. Now I'm in the entertainment industry in New York, where I'm meeting people who, you know, I'm supposed to respect them, but I know that they're kind of crazy, too. Like, it was a whole kind of cluster buck of emotions. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kid Fury
And New York's one of those places that people from all over the world move there with a goal and then have different journeys towards that goal that then shift personalities and stuff. Because, again, New York City natives, born and bred are like, when are you going home?
Dexter Carr
Literally, get out. Quite literally, get out.
Kid Fury
Like, I didn't realize that I was bougie until I moved there. They're like, yeah, sometimes there's a mouse in the house. So what do you want to do?
Dexter Carr
You want cold water? You can tell me that water. That heater's gonna just shake all night. Yes. Like, yeah, bitch, put a towel on it. Towel.
Kid Fury
But you're right. It was a prime experience in time for me to, like, grow up.
Dexter Carr
Yeah.
Kid Fury
And learn how to.
Dexter Carr
Yes.
Kid Fury
Wouldn't change it for shit.
Dexter Carr
And I had every bad experience in New York. I had the crazy roommate. I had the roommate. Who didn't like me. I had the roommate who was obsessed. I had the. I did the boyfriend. I did all of it. I just let my ass get whooped. Yeah, you had to.
Kid Fury
But you were also at a point working on Broadway. So what was that experience like when
Dexter Carr
I got up out the hood? No, again, another random audition. Got an audition for in the Heights. And I was like. You know, I'd heard about the show. It was like the big thing at that time. And it was like this whole thing, and everybody wanted it. And I was like, I'm not gonna get that. Like, that's impossible. Cause even my musical theater experience was in high school in Miami, which is like, you know, we draw one play a year, and I'm the lead. Cause I'm the only one can say nails, you know? But it was, again, a learning experience. Because the first audition, of course, I didn't get it. The second audition got better, I got further. Third audition, finally get it. Like, it was like, again, this is what I want to do. I want to learn. Oh, shit. Just pulling earrings out. I want to learn, like, about this industry, and I want to learn in the field. Like, I want to learn, like, with the good people, too. Like the Emmy Award winners and the Tony Award winners. Like, this is where I want to be. So every strike I had, I just took it as a learning lesson. I never let it get me to a point where I wanted to quit, where I wanted to move home. Like, it got really shitty at times, but it never made me want to go, I'm done with this.
Kid Fury
Yeah. So I felt the exact same way. Like, moving up there to write and do comedy, perform comedy. I was like, this versus what? I know I can do this, and I'm not. I'm not going nowhere when it comes to this. So, yeah, I guess we'll just figure
Dexter Carr
shit out and the door will open at some point. It has to. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah.
Kid Fury
So from. How long were you in New York City before you moved to LA?
Dexter Carr
So that was 20. So six years in New York and then moved to LA? Yeah, yeah, six years.
Kid Fury
What brought you here? What was the transition about?
Dexter Carr
So our show closed. We did Bring it on the Musical, which was the show that they did after in the Heights. And it was the same people, Lynne, Andy, Tom and everybody. And I was like, I could jump in another show and just do the same thing over and over again. Because at that point, I had been doing it and, you know, we had been doing eight shows a week. And I was like, okay. I think I need something else. Cause my brain just kind of works like that. I can't stay to, you know, in one place for too long. So I'm that way too, you know, like, and it's like I'm happy and I love this experience, but I never thought this experience was gonna be my end all. Be all. I didn't think that that was for me. And then a lot of my friends were moving to LA because the things were starting to happen. Like the Rihanna tours were starting to happen and the Britney Spears tours were starting to happen. So I'm like, okay, maybe that's the next thing I'm doing. Like maybe that is. Cause that's what I know. For real. So let's go that route. So yeah, I just decided to make the move.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
And I had the financial backing. Cause I saved so much money doing Broadway. Cause I didn't know what the next check was gonna be. So I was like, don't be out here buying no Louis bags or don't be out here buying this. Like, save your money.
Kid Fury
So very, very smart, you know, Listen to that advice at home, kids.
Dexter Carr
For real.
Kid Fury
It's especially for real today. Cause what this is the AI robot just about to come in our house
Dexter Carr
and just take and take over everything
Kid Fury
you like, literally just on some hood shit. The robot go walk inside and be like, run the jewels.
Dexter Carr
Enough.
Kid Fury
Yeah. So when did you start teaching?
Dexter Carr
Mm, so I was in LA for a couple years, three, four years before I started teaching. Just cause like I kind of want to get my feet wet and like have some experience under my belt as far as jobs go so that I could have something to teach. Because even in Miami I didn't really teach in New York. I taught like maybe once, honestly. So I never really taught like that like that, but maybe once or twice. Yeah. But in la I was so inspired by, I think the people around me too. Because I'll say this. New York had the best training, but LA has the best dancers. Like the performance, the aesthetic, what they give, what they do, who they are. It's like out here is the cream of the crop. I will say that. So I was inspired by so many people. So I was just like, yeah, I might as well just teach like, see what it is.
Kid Fury
What were some of the like fun jobs and memories of work that you had when you moved out here? Fun jobs first.
Dexter Carr
Fun jobs, fun jobs. So I did a lot of like the like the shirtless, like oiled up body male dancer jobs, like you know, the J. Los, the Katy Perrys. Like that whole thing, just hot male dancer jobs, that was my thing. So we weren't even really dancing like that, but we could hold a nasty pose, you know what I mean? That was.
Kid Fury
I fully recognize you. Like, you can see all the pop girls have had these guys. Yes, 1,000%.
Dexter Carr
And we just placed right off the shoulder. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kid Fury
That's fierce.
Dexter Carr
But you know, we had fun and it was like such a. And the crazy part about it is the people you're watching are so talented, whether you could see what they could do or not. But like, it was so good being around those kind of guys because they were different from the ones in New York. Cause the ones in New York are niggas. Like, they're like, yo, you gotta hit this light and be shit crazy. And I'm like, okay. These boys are like, did you drive a Benz here or did you drive that Jeep? Hopefully not the Jeep. And I was kinda like, I was living for both. I'm like, yeah, like I'm here for it.
Kid Fury
Both are fierce, no shame.
Dexter Carr
Both cute, like, whatever.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
So, yeah, I feel like that's what makes a well rounded performer too. Right? Being around different types of people in this industry. So you get pieces of awe. Cause it's all important.
Kid Fury
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I've been a student of yours. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And I will say, okay, I'll say that my experience with you was pleasant, positive, great music choices, great fun choreography.
Dexter Carr
Because I like you.
Kid Fury
But I was about to dance. Follow me.
Dexter Carr
Because I like you.
Kid Fury
You also gave me a tinge of, girl, you can do that. You know, like, get out your head. You could do that. Which I appreciate too. Cause I feel like any sort of teacher, educator, coach, you need that you can't be afraid to tell somebody you can do better. Whether you think that you can or not.
Dexter Carr
Yeah.
Kid Fury
But what I wanted to ask is how that differs from when the girls are out there, boots on the ground. Because I know you don't play.
Dexter Carr
I was called a drill sergeant on my last job, which is crazy. But. No, I mean, like, here's the thing too. And that's. I blame New York and Miami for that. Because you can do quite literally anything you want to do. Will it take a certain amount of time? Sure. Will you look as natural as this person over here who's been doing it their whole life? Maybe not. Here's the thing, you can do it though. So, like, if you're gonna step in the room with me, whether that's on a job or whether it's in a class or whatever the case is. I'm gonna get you to a point where you feel like you came in here and made that shit work for real. And maybe you won't do it again. Maybe you'll be like, I'm never gonna see that bitch again ever in my life. But you will get your money's worth and I'm going to give you that work. That's just a part of who I am. That's a part of who taught me. That's a part of, like, my parents. Like, it's just never gave give up over here.
Kid Fury
Yeah. Yeah.
Dexter Carr
It's just never gave that. The best dancers from across the globe are about to join me for the audition of a lifetime.
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Kid Fury
I was one of the kids who recorded Janet videos on VHS and shit like that and taught myself the choreography and shit like that, period. Watched making the video and all those stuff, period. So like, I remember the high hats, the Danielle Polancos, the, you know, too
Dexter Carr
much nerve, like, get it together.
Kid Fury
So I idolized these choreographers and dancers that I knew were like, excuse me, come on. I'm like, well, come on they eat so clearly.
Dexter Carr
And I was nice to you because I was like, okay, let me. Because, you know, you try to be nice to celebrity girls. Cause you don't want to be too hard on them. Yeah, yeah. So I let. I remember the first couple of sessions, I was like, let me just see where he's at. Something happened where, like, the music kept playing and you kept moving. I said, oh, he's fine. All right. Good to know. I can take off the PC band aid, please. Cause.
Kid Fury
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I love that. I want to know. Okay, two things. What is a common form of whining in your classes? Cause I know the girls be.
Dexter Carr
You're gonna get me in trouble. There's no one.
Kid Fury
No names, just a General Dex.
Dexter Carr
1. Who's Dex?
Kid Fury
I don't see it. Who's Dex?
Dexter Carr
We don't even know each other.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
And then two. Why did the hand raise plus an audible comment need to come out?
Kid Fury
Yeah, yeah.
Dexter Carr
And again, I think every dance teacher. Every dance teacher you ask is gonna have a thing about questions. Some people hate questions. Like a Daniel Polanco. She's. I don't think she's fucking with questions, Last time I checked. But there's people who, like, don't mind it. Whatever. I don't mind questions. I will say this. If you're asking a question just to get attention in the room, that is where I have an issue. That is my red flag.
Kid Fury
That makes sense.
Dexter Carr
That is my red flag. Because at this point, also, too, you're in the second line in the room, so you have a clear view of me. Is it the right foot or the left foot?
Kid Fury
I get that. That makes sense.
Dexter Carr
You got two eyes.
Kid Fury
Cause just look at the feet.
Dexter Carr
You got two eyes.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
You know what I mean?
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
So again, and I probably. Whatever people are gonna have the thing to say about that. But at the same time, it's like. And again, times have changed, right? Dance classes have changed. You kind of have to treat this generation a little differently than we got treated.
Kid Fury
That makes sense.
Dexter Carr
So I have to then put on my PC voice and I say, it's the right. And then I do that.
Kid Fury
But I say whiplash. The girls listen.
Dexter Carr
They just whip the. Bring it out. Go tackle him, bitch.
Kid Fury
It's the third. It's the middle.
Dexter Carr
It's the one in the middle.
Kid Fury
What is wrong with you, bitch? Just. Cause, I mean, I would think that's fierce.
Dexter Carr
You don't. You don't.
Kid Fury
And I think that, like, on the other end of that, when you are finishing Act 3, with Beyonce or whatever, you'll have the ability to say, wow, my coach used to whoop my ass.
Dexter Carr
Yeah. I mean, I'm being so honest. I have been so grateful for the lashings that I got in the moment, some of the moments in my career. Because you won't make it through a Gap commercial with cat's eye that you have to film 80 times per section if you're not in shape. Like, it's just the truth. Everybody wants to be a dancer, but everybody isn't built like a dancer to be a professional dancer. Now, if you want to hit a TikTok, bitch, we got that all day. But if you're trying to do this for real, you're athletes.
Kid Fury
That's just.
Dexter Carr
That's just the. That's it.
Kid Fury
When I watch these jungle videos.
Dexter Carr
You saw that new one in the desert?
Kid Fury
Yes. Did you see the one with the police cars that just came out? It's one shot.
Dexter Carr
KC Rice going up, down, down over there. This way, that way. Bring the camera this way. Take me under the mic. Yeah.
Kid Fury
So I'm like, girl, you think those people just had.
Dexter Carr
And you want to know if it's the right or the left foot?
Kid Fury
Girl, that's what I'm saying. Just drag the children. Just drag them. I would say that your choreography might be famous for high energy, confidence, and hair that also dances, period. How would you describe your style? Ooh.
Dexter Carr
So. Because I think I've been fortunate enough to be in so many different environments, like the Miami and the let's be the hood Miami, the this Miami, the Latin Miami, the this. Then the New York. Like, the bro in New York, and then the hood in New York and then the ex boyfriend that I should never date in New York. Like, I should. I have all these different things to pull from it can. I just feel like it can go so many different places, But I think the only thing I do want people to get from it is a real place. Like, a real authentic place. I never want you to watch anything that I do and go, oh, what were you feeling today? It should be obvious. You know what I mean? It should be very clear. Like, oh, yeah, you were feeling this. You were feeling this, you were feeling like this. Like, I want that every time you see it to feel authentic.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
And I choose a lot of different types of music just because I never want to get stuck in a box of only being able to create to one type of thing.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
So, yeah.
Kid Fury
And that has to be fun, too, in terms of having students come in, dancers come in, and not necessarily being able to go, he's going to play.
Dexter Carr
Yes.
Kid Fury
You know what I mean?
Dexter Carr
I love when people come to me after class and be like, oh, yeah, that was different. Period.
Kid Fury
Yes.
Dexter Carr
Go practice.
Kid Fury
At one of our classes, you played a mix of some things.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kid Fury
Where I was like, oh, fierce. I already loved it. Song, but I heard this. That's good.
Dexter Carr
Yeah. Cause then I started getting into music production and started making my own mixes and stuff. Cause, like. Cause I'm like, there's so many teachers in la. There's so many dancers in la. You have to differentiate yourself in any way you can as far as branding goes. So that was kind of like, okay, maybe I can, like, take songs, do mashups. And then I think that's where the Ariana Grande combo came out that people fuck with. So heavy. Cause I was just like, these are two songs that people love. Put it together.
Kid Fury
Yeah. So, yeah, that's fire. Do you think dance is back?
Dexter Carr
Oh, yeah. Everybody wants to. It's everywhere.
Kid Fury
I agree. It's everywhere I live.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, I love it too. And I'm happy about it, and I'm happy. Good. Dance is back. Cause that part, it could get a little shoddy. Sometimes you get like some of these influencers and you're like, no, no, no, no, no. Not her, not her. But, yeah, I'm glad that they're calling the right people. You could see that the production is right. I'm gonna say something too. The BET Awards. This last BET Awards. 10 out of 10.
Kid Fury
Agreed.
Dexter Carr
10 out of 10.
Kid Fury
AgreeLED.
Dexter Carr
We haven't had something like that on that show in a minute. The performances, the production, the outfits, the everything, like, it's just really nice to see. It's just nice to see dance show up in the right way.
Kid Fury
I agree.
Dexter Carr
Cause as a dancer too, I'm sure, like, to other people, they don't care, but to us, we do care and we want it to be right.
Kid Fury
I'm not even a professional dancer, and that shit used to be like, I followed that stuff for the longest time. Yes. Them BET Awards. This past weekend, I completely. Or this past month, I completely agree. They say that TI Opened the show, but I just saw dancers. I saw dancers. I just saw.
Dexter Carr
And that man in the green coat, like, fire.
Kid Fury
I do think that there was just this era, this moment in, like, mainstream performance in entertainment where just. I don't know if it was a money thing, budget thing, if it was just a artistic decision from someone that ain't artistic, but it just felt like people were not investing in dance. And I knew artists specifically who were told by labels and stuff to not dance. Like, artists that could dance were being told not to, which is insane to me.
Dexter Carr
Yeah. I know a couple off head that were told to. You gotta stop dancing so much cause they're not gonna take you seriously. I'm like, what?
Kid Fury
I grew up and the girls were dancing and that was like. It was almost like if you couldn't dance, what are.
Dexter Carr
You were the odd one out, right? You were the odd one out. Like, what are you talking about? I never understood that concept. It won't make them. They won't take you seriously if you dance. I never understood that concept ever.
Kid Fury
You remember when Pink's hair was pink and she was half black?
Dexter Carr
When Pink was black?
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
Okay. Pink was black. Yeah, Pink was black. And we liked her. We liked her a lot.
Kid Fury
Lived. I think LA Reid took her through there.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kid Fury
Just know that that era was fierce.
Dexter Carr
We always gonna be there.
Kid Fury
The girls were dancing.
Dexter Carr
Most girls.
Kid Fury
Um. Who would you say is holding real dance up in the mainstream right now?
Dexter Carr
Seanathan Jermaine Bankhead. That's not his real name. Sean Bankhead. Sean Bankhead is a force to be reckoned with. A freak. That's a nasty. That's a. That's a nasty individual, man. Wow. Wow. That brain. That brain is sick. That brain is sick. And then the body can match.
Kid Fury
It's like a lot of times what I love about Sean Bankhead's choreography is that I won't. It's like an unexpected style, predictable style. But when I hear, oh, Sean Benkot, I'm like, of course.
Dexter Carr
Can't wait.
Kid Fury
Can't wait.
Dexter Carr
Can't wait.
Kid Fury
Of course.
Dexter Carr
Can't wait. A freak.
Kid Fury
I think that I met him at a party one time that my. Frank. Frank Watson. RIP Frank was throwing. Yeah. In New York City. And he was there and I think I was like 75% blackout. And I went up to him and I was like, sir, you don't know what you mean for the art form. Like, I did.
Dexter Carr
I was gonna say, I can't imagine how many conversations that people have just come up to him and say, you had no idea. Like, just reading, like going in, like, I love it.
Kid Fury
Glad he was kind, you know, I was like, I have to speak to him. I have to tell him what he know.
Dexter Carr
And that's the other thing too. Like, that's how I know when I meet people who are literally mid to low level talent. When you see somebody like that who is, I mean, extremely talented in Every form of. In fashion. And he's still kind. You have no excuse.
Kid Fury
What is your excuse?
Dexter Carr
You have no excuse.
Kid Fury
Thank you.
Dexter Carr
None. None. Ugh.
Kid Fury
I asked you this sort of on your podcast. Who's someone who can go ahead and stop dancing?
Dexter Carr
We've talked about this. That's that same one that I said and I'm standing by it. That Lopez. Jennifer. I'm saying it again. You've got to stop. She's a new dance too. That I. It was on my explore page. Yeah, enough. That's it. That's it. That's it.
Kid Fury
You heard it here again.
Dexter Carr
Secondly.
Kid Fury
Okay, wait. So I think I already asked you this, but I was going to ask who were some of your dance inspirations? Artists and choreographers.
Dexter Carr
Ooh, artists and choreographers. So I'm gonna be honest. I was not. And I'm gonna get cussed out for this, but I was not like a. I was not like a mj. That kind of like the typical dancer answer. I don't have that. My real answer for that is I was watching the Britney Spears when I was younger only because the performance was so dynamic in a way that it was just different. It was just different for me to see, I think Michael Jackson. Of course I appreciate it, I respect it. I love the music and everything like that. But to watch Britney as a performer and to watch Janet as a performer and even to watch like I'm a cupid of being too. To watch like the Mayas.
Kid Fury
I was just about to watch the
Dexter Carr
Mayas and like the Lil Kim's. Like, I'm more of a ism kind of person versus like a you got cool moves type of person. Like I like essence and like energy and like what you're giving off. Like, so that's where I was really watching a lot of the females, I'll say just gay, but yeah, a lot
Kid Fury
of the females I will never highlights for me as a young gay. 99 VMAs. When Britney performed with NSync, NSync performed in this like high school classroom setting on the stage did. I don't remember. Was it I want you, but it doesn't matter. We're not talking about them. They did their performance and then they sit down in the classroom and they had this moment when they're like, over here, over here. And then Britney comes out. My loneliness is killing. And just shut the whole shit. It was literally like NSync sit down.
Dexter Carr
That bit breakdown is still legendary still
Kid Fury
to this day following year, VMAs again. She comes out in a Pinstriped suit.
Dexter Carr
Now that was something nasty with that nude under there. This is the world. That was wicked.
Kid Fury
They act like she was actually butt naked.
Dexter Carr
Whoever the wardrobe was on that, you deserve your ass ate. Cause that was crazy.
Kid Fury
But I remember a part in that. In that same performance where she gets inside of this, like, spinning thing.
Dexter Carr
Yes. The little globe thing.
Kid Fury
And there's, like, sand on her and she's just freaking out in this dance break performance. It's the ism. Yeah, it's the ism.
Dexter Carr
Cause you can choreograph something on somebody and they could do it, but it's not. If. It's not. If I don't feel it, I. Yeah, that's the.
Kid Fury
Yeah, you have. You had a technique in class where you would have me do the. You'd have me do it in, like, four corners. Four corners. But then you'd also be like, when you do it over here, face energy. Do this shit. Like, you are on the Renaissance tour and nobody can tell you nothing.
Dexter Carr
So, I mean, there's too, like, the one up front. Like, not back there. You in the front. Yeah.
Kid Fury
Yeah. I love it.
Dexter Carr
Cause again, like, yeah, you can dance. Yeah, you can do steps. Yeah, you can even choreograph steps. But, like, I was just taught. And maybe this is the old generation thing. Feeling is always gonna be first. It has to be in any art. I feel like even in, like, your writing, like, everything. When you. Again, you're gonna hate me for saying this, but, like, the shit you be saying, like, no, I'm not from Florida. I'm from Miami. Like, that's not, like, something you could write and it'd be funny. Like, it has to be real for you. And I have to, like, feel that. And that's what it is. It has to be a feeling first.
Kid Fury
I appreciate that people who we who weren't from Miami were like, oh, what I say about, like, Newark or what
Dexter Carr
I say about juries? Like, yeah, like, literally, like, you have to get it. And that's what I think makes art really good, is it doesn't have to be. Even if it is a niche style, everyone can still understand it.
Kid Fury
And that's.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, that's what I like.
Kid Fury
The non Miami Florida girls were mad about that comment.
Dexter Carr
Well, that's because they're not from there. Where are you guys from? Fort Myers.
Kid Fury
I'm like, first of all, Fort St. Louis. If you had full context, you would know that I was speaking out against the Florida man concept.
Dexter Carr
Yeah.
Kid Fury
Of everything in Florida. Like, everybody in Florida ride giraffe to school and shit and kill people and shit.
Dexter Carr
Or take bath salts. I didn't do that.
Kid Fury
I was like. You could have just said like, oh, yeah, I'm not from Florida. I'm from Tampa. Why are you mad at me?
Dexter Carr
Why you mad at me? And cut it. Okay, relax.
Kid Fury
Like, I know. What kind of choreography would you create for the summer smash? Spin that by Caresha Young, Miami. Her last name Body rolls, A lot
Dexter Carr
of patting the cat, Some scubas. Cause everyone loves a little scuba. And then like, I'm gonna. Just because I have to, like, because it was such a cultural movement, I have to put the nae nae in there and make it cool again.
Kid Fury
Tell me more.
Dexter Carr
It's old, that dance. Do you not remember when white people was doing the nae nae?
Kid Fury
Do I still do what?
Dexter Carr
Like, they were just doing it. We right?
Kid Fury
They still do it.
Dexter Carr
They still do it. It's like, it's gotta be. It can't be lost. It can't be lost. Cause even the other day I was watching this video, it was on TikTok, and it was like these like 21 year old girls doing pop block and drop it. And they were doing it like 20, 26. And this lady said, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. Like it's. We need to keep the recipes, y'.
Kid Fury
All. I love those clips though, actually of the young people, Gen A and X, doing these dances. And then their 40 year old mama being like, absolutely. Actually, this is how you do the peanut butter and jelly. If you could actually just sit down. You're not Wu Tang with any.
Dexter Carr
You're not, you're not, please. So, yeah, for sure. Cause that is a summer smash, baby. And I don't care what nobody say. It's a summer smash.
Kid Fury
She gagged me. Cause I absolutely started on Kresha. Like, this song is trash. Anyone agreeing with you that it's good?
Commercial/Announcer
Ooh.
Dexter Carr
You was on that side.
Kid Fury
I hated it.
Dexter Carr
You were on that side.
Kid Fury
Ooh. And then somebody was like, okay, at at least listen to it a little sped up and give it a chance somewhere.
Dexter Carr
After a couple Migos and soda. You know what I mean?
Kid Fury
Now I can listen to it at any tempo. It's just an amazing piece of music.
Dexter Carr
It is an amazing piece of music.
Kid Fury
It might be her magnum opus.
Dexter Carr
It has to be.
Kid Fury
It has to be.
Dexter Carr
It gets the people up. That little whisper in the beginning. All right, well, let me get up. Like it's the shit. I don't care.
Kid Fury
I could probably call my grandma right now. Who live right, Like A block away from my parents. Where are all my scams? And she probably finished it and immediately finished it.
Dexter Carr
You probably think that's what I mean. That's what I'm saying.
Kid Fury
Good for you, caresha. Good for you caresha.
Dexter Carr
Shout out the one first.
Kid Fury
Shout out. What is your favorite music video with dance? I'm actually gonna ask you twice. Favorite of all time and favorite recent one.
Dexter Carr
Favorite of all time. I know I used to watch this video over and over and over and over and over again. I mean, there's a couple that I used to watch over and over again. This is gonna sound so terrible and I don't even know why I'm saying this, but it's true. It was the Freaka League video and that taught me how to do the Chicken Head. Because that one girl that had the crazy teenagers, I'll never forget the way she was like. I was like, woo, what's that? And again, I told you, it's about isms for me. Like, yeah, Thriller's great, blah blah blah, great. But what's she doing up there?
Kid Fury
Yeah, yeah, yeah, on that freakily.
Dexter Carr
And then recently, like, I mean, God, there's been so many. And again, I'm gonna say Sean and Robbie Bleu actually, who choreographed the Cat's Eye commercial that I did with them. I think both of them are taking music videos and just bringing back that element of what we miss about music videos. A surprise every time. I don't want to see you ride up in a car with a bunch of hoes and then we go to the skating rink and then we just like are in there and we're just. You do the song and then the second verse is by the Soda Machine. Like. No, like take me on a journey. We got three minutes. We got three minutes and 30 seconds. Where are we going?
Kid Fury
I want to go like, oh shit. Wow.
Dexter Carr
Wow. Every time. I want to be wowed. So.
Kid Fury
I didn't even know you could dance there.
Dexter Carr
Look at that. And with all this cool editing stuff we have now in production, I'm like, let's use. Let's make this story, make a story. Make a story out of this song that may not even be that good of a song, if I'm being honest. Usually out of the time.
Kid Fury
I will say for me, a big memory for a music video for me is doesn't really Matter by Janet Jackson. Because I remember when they shot the video I loved, it was so Y2K.
Dexter Carr
It was. And the trains and the Tokyo of it all. Yeah.
Kid Fury
Little robot cats and shit. Like, that wasn't that for a movie.
Dexter Carr
Wasn't that for a Nutty professor or something like that. Wasn't it on the soundtrack?
Kid Fury
It might have been.
Dexter Carr
Cause I remember it was in the movie. Like the song was in the movie she was in.
Kid Fury
I think it might have been. Yeah, yeah. Because I feel like it was one of those ones where it would clip to the movie real quick again.
Dexter Carr
Bring that back fun.
Kid Fury
But I remember there was this part where they're dancing on a platform that was actually, like me. It was actually built to move as they were dancing. I thought that was fierce and recently it would be.
Dexter Carr
All right, all right, all right. Yep. All right. I was gonna say too. All right. I love Wildside. I love Wild side. And I don't think Wild side got the love that it deserved.
Kid Fury
It did not.
Dexter Carr
It was really good. Like, if you watch that video, Great video. It's great. Dig. Shout out Dave Myers. Shout out Sean. Shout out Norman. Like, it was a great video that
Kid Fury
I want to drag that whole setup,
Dexter Carr
that dragging scene with them fine ass niggas dragging her. Like, what are we talking about? That's good. I was like, nobody.
Kid Fury
Are you on your feet?
Dexter Carr
Are you back up?
Commercial/Announcer
You just.
Kid Fury
Okay, okay.
Dexter Carr
You're in another scene. There's latex everywhere. Like, what. What are we talking about?
Kid Fury
Yeah, I agree. Um, so how's dating in la?
Dexter Carr
What?
Kid Fury
Are you single?
Dexter Carr
Yes.
Kid Fury
Okay, how's dating in LA for you? You've been here for a while now.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, seven years now. Dating in LA is a comedy show, like a standup comedy show where every day you show up and you get heckled.
Kid Fury
Keep going. I need to hear more.
Dexter Carr
Or you show up and no one laughs at your jokes. Or you show up and this is a fake crowd and, like, everyone's having gay jokes. But, you know, this ain't really hitting anyway.
Kid Fury
This is such a great comparison.
Dexter Carr
It's just true because LA has so many different people that want so many different things and finding a real relationship is like, that's like the. I mean, that is a minor, minor, minor percentage of what I feel like gays want in la. Just out of my experience. Um, and I think too, we talked about this too, being necessarily a known person. I think it makes it even harder because you are already, like, thinking about all the possibilities of what this could be before you even just get to know this person. You know what I mean? Like, I'm trying to rule out, is this a. This is a. That is a this. Are you gonna do that? Are you gonna try this? Meanwhile, I should just be asking you, like, what kind of food you like. But I'm doing all this, like, inner thinking, too, so.
Kid Fury
And they're doing it as well.
Dexter Carr
Exactly. How is he gonna be with me? Is he gonna be this way or, like, I want him to be this way. And if he's not this way, I'm disappointed. It's all that.
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Kid Fury
Have you ever dated someone? Like, gone a couple dates, hung out, whatever. And then like, a ways in, they're like, I didn't want to tell you this, but I knew who you were. And I'm always like, is that worse than just off rip going, I know who you are, and I think it is.
Dexter Carr
I get a comment about dance or something I've done, that kind of throws me off a little bit. Cause I'm thinking, you have no idea, like, what I do anything like that. And you'd be like, well, yeah, well, like last month when you were with. That's scary because I didn't even know you knew that.
Kid Fury
That's a weird way to approach it.
Dexter Carr
You know what I mean? Like, you could have easily just said, like, oh, yeah, like, you know, I do know who you are and, you know, whatever the case is, but I don't know. Yeah, I.
Kid Fury
But you know last week when you were on 3rd and Santa Monica. Cause I was in the bushes.
Dexter Carr
Cause I was over There, basically. Cause I was like, bitch, who are you? I was in the bushes. For real? Yeah. No, it's just. It's hard to try to navigate what people actually want. Especially as somebody who. And again, this is gonna sound how it sounds, but I am somebody who wants a monogamous relationship. I am somebody who wants to date, to go to the future. I'm not trying to do this thing where like, we just got like, I don't need hoes. I don't want hoes.
Kid Fury
I think.
Dexter Carr
I'm not gonna say I had that phase in my life. Cause I never had that phase in my life. Cause I didn't really want that anyway. I think I am wanting a certain thing that maybe my schedule doesn't permit, if I'm being honest. Maybe my commitment to the process doesn't permit. It could be also a me thing too. But it's definitely been a push and pull of trying to figure out how to get what I want out of a relationship, but while also maintaining myself, my job, my career, my personality. Like, who I am, my friends, my circle. So, yeah, it's been. Long story short, it's been tough.
Kid Fury
Dating in LA is busy.
Dexter Carr
It's busy, bitch, it's busy.
Kid Fury
It's a lot.
Dexter Carr
It's a job. It is a good job.
Kid Fury
It does feel like a job. And that's probably why. No shade. I feel like that might be why a lot of people just kind of kick it. Maybe monogamous, maybe not.
Dexter Carr
Because you take the work out.
Kid Fury
It's a lot of work.
Dexter Carr
Take all the work out.
Kid Fury
It's a lot of work.
Dexter Carr
Keep it casual.
Kid Fury
I have a few friends, no shade. No shade. Who kind of just fall into a relationship. Like, oh, I was fucking with this person, having a good time, and then it's like, oh, I think we go together.
Dexter Carr
I went to an engagement party for somebody that just fell into a relationship. Yes, sometimes it works. Yes, sometimes it works. Yes.
Kid Fury
But yes, a lot of fun having here. And I agree, sometimes if you're looking for something specific, it can be tough, even if it isn't like, you know, whatever. Everybody would consider, like, the typical.
Dexter Carr
The normal. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Kid Fury
You could have any one kind of idea of how you want to approach a relationship. And I would say probably just today in general. Yeah, it is weird because. Did you date in New York City?
Dexter Carr
Yes, I had two boyfriends in New York City. Like one in the beginning of my time and one at the end.
Kid Fury
What was that?
Dexter Carr
Like that. Okay, so. And I was super young, so I think that probably Was a. But I'm not gonna lie, that was low key, like, kind of fun. Like, that was like, better. And you know what? It was. People in New York are a lot more grounded. Obviously they have a better sense of reality. I feel like they're not trying to like, go have a different career every week. Like, the boys in LA beats it into them. You know, they kind of know where they're going. Their trajectory is kind of their trajectory. So, like, you can build a life easier, but the environment doesn't allow you to do that. For me, that's what it was like. I knew I wasn't going to stay here forever. So I don't know if I want to build something with you forever here, because I'm not staying here.
Kid Fury
And also, I live in Harlem. You live in Brooklyn.
Dexter Carr
That's a long distance relationship.
Kid Fury
You might as well live in Bangkok,
Dexter Carr
my nigga, because I'm not and I don't care. It's just the train. No, that's just. No.
Kid Fury
No, it isn't. Have you ever fallen asleep on the
Dexter Carr
train Diva and ended up at the last stop to wake up and look around?
Kid Fury
No. Girl, how the fuck am I in East New York right now?
Dexter Carr
I got my backpack, I've got my.
Kid Fury
I'm asleep, going to trade house, and
Dexter Carr
I'm in sweatpants and like my little outfit. Like, you know what I'd be like?
Kid Fury
No, Girl, I need to tell you about the time a few weeks ago during Pride where I was forced to walk out into the streets at 8am with no clothes on. What? We'll unpack that later. Have you. Have you ever dated a dancer? Ew.
Dexter Carr
Yes.
Kid Fury
What was that experience like? Cause I feel like dating creatives. Dating creatives is a ticking time bomb.
Dexter Carr
What? We fought in an elevator. Solange, for real. Like, we fought in an elevator. Like, it was bad. It was bad and it was a. Okay. And I know dancers who date dancers. Like, I actually know a lot of dancer couples. But I view dance, I think, a little differently than some people view dance in the professional space in the sense of this needs to not only pay my bills, but it needs to fulfill me in a way that I'm cool not doing anything else. And also too dance, to me, has now become a brand. Like, it's past just dancing for this artist or this artist or this artist. Like, once I decided to make a name for myself, I now have to look at that. I need to make sure I'm doing the right things, being associated with the right people, going to the right events it's just a different level of it at that point. So at the time when I dated this dancer, I was doing that. I was doing that move of trying to get in a space, of not just being a backup dancer, but having a name as a dancer. And they were in the trenches of being a backup dancer. They were, oh my God, this artist touched me on the shoulder today and I was so happy about it. And I was like, but y' all been on set since like 6am and it's now midnight like this. Like, I was trying to explain to them too, like, you know, you gotta put yourself in certain positions that you don't end up on these kind of jobs that are gonna treat you any which way. Like, there is also like a tier of jobs, like, you know what I mean? Like, you can either do these where they pay you $250 for a music video and they'll be an A list artist too. But it's just, that's what they pay you. Or you're getting a union job and you're getting your agent to make sure you're represented correctly.
Kid Fury
Right?
Dexter Carr
And the dancer that I was dating just, he was just down for whatever. He was down to do whatever and kind of be associated with whatever because he just wanted to. He just wanted to dance. He just wanted to dance. And that was the hardest part for me because I don't want to change you. I don't want to tell you what you should, shouldn't be doing, but at the same time, like, I can't do it with you and I can't be here with you and I gotta, I gotta go.
Kid Fury
I think there's just a fine line with that, especially if you are. You're both in the same creative field pretty much my thought behind it is that you have to be like, at a certain level of spiritual connection. That's what it was, an emotional connection. Because I know there are plenty of couples. Like, we're both comedian and we thrive together, we work together, we write together.
Dexter Carr
And I'll even say, too for the arts. I do think you even need to be at the same financial. Because in our careers in the creative space, there's difference. Like there's people who, you know, do really well in this field or there's people who are trying to get up there in this field. And I don't know if two people that are on opposite ends of the spectrum, it's not gonna. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe that's the gay thing. I don't know, I don't know.
Kid Fury
I don't even think that it is. I feel like it's. In situations like that, it has to be incredibly easy to build resentment or take any little thing the wrong way or to. I think a lot of time in situations like that, even sometimes when people don't do the same thing, but you just on two different places. When it comes to financial stability or comfort, some people just have an unspoken pressure they put on themselves and then they start to resent the other person because it's like, well, I'm so frustrated with myself. Even though you're good to me, but I'm upset with you because I feel like we should be on. Even.
Dexter Carr
On even planes, whatever. And for the thing. For the dancer thing, a lot of people have to think about it this way too. Let's say I'm dating somebody that's a dancer. The opportunity that I got, he also could have gotten. But he didn't. Because if we're being honest, we're on the same playing field. We're just in two different leagues. That's the thing. So that's where it got kind of messy, I think. I also want to learn something about somebody else that I don't know. I want to learn about a new fe. I want to learn about a new career. I want to learn about a new passion. I want to learn about somebody that has. Comes from a different country. Like, I want to learn. So with a partner, being in the same field, it just doesn't excite me. I don't know.
Kid Fury
I ended up dating drug dealers.
Dexter Carr
I want to learn something. Yeah.
Kid Fury
What's your type?
Dexter Carr
Type, Type, Type, Type, type, type. This is a sick question because I'm going to sound like a whore because I don't have one. And that's real.
Kid Fury
I don't either. Really.
Dexter Carr
I don't have one. I don't have one.
Kid Fury
It's not like black men.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, well, like, let's be clear.
Kid Fury
I think that was. Just be clear. Let's just.
Dexter Carr
Let's just be very clear.
Kid Fury
I thought it went without saying, but just.
Dexter Carr
But yeah, like, I mean, Bill, like muscular, taller than me. Like, you know what I mean? Like, it could be. It's literally just like when I see it, I like it, I want it. I got it. Shout out. Ariana.
Kid Fury
A lot of time. It really is energy too.
Dexter Carr
Oh, yes. Confidence. The way you walk in a room, the way you interact with your friends. The way you interact with people. Even just me. I'm a big people watcher. Cause I'm an only child, so I literally didn't have brothers and sisters, so I just stared at people. But when I watch people, I'm like, oh, that is sexy. Even the way you. You know, the way you greet people, the way you open the door for somebody. Like, I watch all that kind of stuff.
Kid Fury
Yep. So, yeah, same thing here.
Dexter Carr
Um.
Kid Fury
Okay, last two questions. I want to ask you something that I am frequently asked as an LA transplant from Miami. How are you liking la?
Dexter Carr
Ooh.
Kid Fury
And they will ask you this. You've been here 15 years. Yeah, right, right. Like, yo, clearly, fine.
Dexter Carr
I like la. I can't even hold you. I can't even say I don't like la. I can't even be like that person. Like, ah, no. Cause. And I'll tell you why. For one, my career, this is the only place that makes sense for me to be for. With what I do and to be happy in what I do and to actually make. To make strides in what I do. Like, truly to be progressive. And also, I like to drive around. Cause being from Miami, that's all we do. We'll drive from all the way down south to North Miami beach and then come back, like, literally, just because.
Kid Fury
So I told you, I think it was in Opa Locka, Carroll City. Like, I was driving back and forth.
Dexter Carr
You know what I mean? Like, oh, your friends stay over here. Okay, let's go over here. We go back to the house. Like, literally that. So I love to drive. I love the weather. Like, even during. I like that we get a little cold in December. A little hoodie.
Kid Fury
Same.
Dexter Carr
I like it.
Kid Fury
Same.
Dexter Carr
That's all I need. A little hoodie and sweatpants.
Kid Fury
A nice, warm, you know, day or what have you. Sun goes down. Ooh. Oh, my gosh, it's brisk.
Dexter Carr
You sit by a fire. Like, it's so cute.
Kid Fury
Love it.
Dexter Carr
Because when I was in New York for that blizzard in February and my eyelashes had crystals on them. I don't need this. I don't need this. I quite literally don't need this.
Kid Fury
Is this Hale's Kitchen or is it.
Dexter Carr
I'm on 9th Avenue. I'm on 9th avenue. I should not be having to. When you have to jump over the crosswalk thing. Cause there's a puddle of death and needles. No.
Kid Fury
And again, the New York negative is like, oh, get over being a fucking you. Excuse me, Buckingham Palace. I'm like, no, I just. I'm not accustomed to jumping over frozen rivers.
Dexter Carr
You pay property taxes for a studio apartment. I'm not doing that. No.
Kid Fury
But Again, no, I. I love it here. I'm very, very comfortable. I. For all of the same reasons you described. Yeah, I love New York.
Dexter Carr
Yeah, that's the problem. That's the sick part about it. That's the needles in the puddle.
Kid Fury
It's that it's so fierce.
Dexter Carr
Every time you go, you feel like a new bitch. Yes, you feel like a new bitch.
Kid Fury
And the summer, listen, we're not. We didn't do cold. We don't do cold. So that's a big thing. Because there are 12 months in our year and New York is cold for 10 of them.
Dexter Carr
Easily 10. Easily 10.
Kid Fury
That's rough. But baby, New York, summer.
Dexter Carr
Oh my God, please ride. Rebirth. It's a rebirth.
Kid Fury
There's nothing.
Dexter Carr
You can't describe it.
Kid Fury
That's why they say kiss my ass.
Dexter Carr
Cause like, ok, that's why they say kiss my fucking ass versus what?
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Kid Fury
Where you can do everything. And now they got Zoran. Mom, Donnie's fine. Ass walking the streets, just being sexy.
Dexter Carr
Taking the train.
Kid Fury
Sexy and socialist.
Dexter Carr
Hot.
Kid Fury
Love it.
Dexter Carr
Hot. Like, what do you mean? I could walk down the street and not only is the construction man fine, the man walking down the street fine, the dad holding the kid's hand is fine. It's just energy. It's just energy.
Kid Fury
And don't walk into a Foot Locker.
Dexter Carr
Woo.
Kid Fury
It's over.
Dexter Carr
Not on 34th.
Kid Fury
It's over.
Dexter Carr
Not on 34th.
Kid Fury
Last question. Would you ever move back to Miami? That's the one. They also ask me all the time.
Dexter Carr
Oh, my God. I don't think so. Cause it's getting a little more now. It's really racist because they done took out all the black parts. Everything.
Kid Fury
My youngest brother still lives here. God bless him if he can find a job.
Dexter Carr
And that's what somebody else said. Somebody else said you literally can't even find a job. Housing a job, anything, nothing. It's turned into like an influencer city. That's crazy.
Kid Fury
It's incredibly wild. I say the same thing. Best case I really cash in, sell a screenplay or something like that, buy out Tyler Perry. I will retire there.
Dexter Carr
Yeah. Now that we could do that, we could definitely do.
Kid Fury
I could definitely see myself retiring there for sure. But just moving back for the sake
Dexter Carr
of it, at this stage of my life, ain't no way for what, you know, what would I do? What would I do?
Kid Fury
Earthquakes or hurricanes?
Dexter Carr
Okay, this is also going to sound so crazy.
Kid Fury
Tell the truth, shame the devil.
Dexter Carr
I'm definitely no shade taking earthquakes. Because for me, I haven't been through an Earthquake yet that. I haven't been through an earthquake yet that has shifted my view on the world. But, baby, them hurricanes, that ain't no gap. That's no joke. And again, people don't understand it because we've been through traumatic experiences enough that we've gone to school in hurricanes. It's Category two. Stop acting like that. Go get in the car.
Kid Fury
Literally.
Dexter Carr
No, that's thunder.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
Stop. I'm gonna pick you up at 4.
Kid Fury
BGC live. Going off. Girl, where am I supposed to. There's a hurricane.
Dexter Carr
If something happens, y' all go onto the desk, and then you do this and you do that. I don't wanna have to learn that.
Kid Fury
I don't wanna board up the fucking windows, baby.
Dexter Carr
We felt so bougie when we got them little savage game changers. That's when I knew we had coin. That's when I knew we had coin.
Kid Fury
Yes.
Dexter Carr
That's when I knew. Bernie and Barbara came up on some money.
Kid Fury
Yes. My parents Jamaican. They worked 18 jobs apiece, bruh. So, like, they work for them fucking
Dexter Carr
little swivel thingies that changed the game. Cause that boarding up the windows. No.
Kid Fury
No. Praying for the shingles and shit not to fall off. It's too much. You wake up the next day and,
Dexter Carr
you know, we didn't have no generator. I'm sure. Did y' all have a generator?
Kid Fury
No.
Dexter Carr
No, we didn't have no fucking generator. So the power was going out. You knew it was gonna go out.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
So you just had to prepare to be bored. Like, no, no, no.
Kid Fury
Absolutely not.
Dexter Carr
I'll take a little rattle and roll again.
Kid Fury
The few that I've experienced since I've been here in the four years. I didn't really realize it was happening. So you went on Twitter until my dog came in the room and was like, n. You don't feel that? Like. Oh, yeah, you're right. I noticed something. Something is afoot. Yeah. What I don't like is that they could just pop up out of nowhere.
Dexter Carr
That's where I don't like. Cause one thing about us, we're gonna warn you at least two weeks in advance, and you're gonna see the picture. You're gonna see it. And as a name. So I can cuss you out. I can do. I can really grasp the concept.
Kid Fury
Katrina was rough for us.
Dexter Carr
That was crazy.
Kid Fury
Because Trina, that's her name, that was crazy. So I. You know, that one was rough.
Dexter Carr
That was a gag.
Kid Fury
Yeah.
Dexter Carr
And that's the thing, too. Like, I don't want to go like you never. It could be devastating. And the problem with us Floridians is that we just never think it's gonna be. Cause we just be like, oh, child.
Kid Fury
Yeah. We're so used to them.
Dexter Carr
No, you guys, this is a natural disaster.
Kid Fury
It's awful.
Dexter Carr
It's not good.
Kid Fury
You know what it is too, though? Cause the bitches be like, out in Madagascar and then they'll tell you that shit on the news, like, hey, there's a hurricane that could be here in a month. And then what happens is it'll fly through the Caribbean, tear them up and then get to us. And maybe it's.
Dexter Carr
That's what my dad says every time. He said by the time it hits through this and this and that, you're not a meteorologist. But I believe you. And you're right. So what can I say at this point?
Kid Fury
Meanwhile, I have 150 relatives in Jamaica. And we just be there. Like, I didn't pick up yet. We'll see what happens.
Dexter Carr
It's just the end of the package.
Kid Fury
So as of right now, yeah, I don't see myself going anywhere either. Also, because there's still so much to experience in la.
Dexter Carr
I think so too. And I think la. I've noticed too, in the past couple years, LA is getting better. LA has gotten better. I think Covid hit LA really hard. I think it was not ready for something like that. And LA is not a city that can do a Covid. Florida, as we talked about, they didn't give two shits about COVID They were.
Kid Fury
New York was rough. The girls refused.
Dexter Carr
Cause it was that New York was that, huh? It was like, half side is like, let's care about it. The other half was like, enough, I cannot do this. And the apartments are too small. I'm sorry.
Kid Fury
A lot of people just got really, really bad cabin fever.
Dexter Carr
I can't do it.
Kid Fury
Cause New Yorkers like being outside anyway.
Dexter Carr
Anyway. Anyway, you spend most of your time outside. If you live in New York, it's rare. It's rare you hear about somebody just rotting in their apartment for days. In New York, that's not a thing.
Kid Fury
Unless. Honestly, even when it's pretty cold. Cause like, when I. I lived there for a decade, so eventually I get used to the 40s, maybe the 30s or whatever.
Dexter Carr
You started getting your fucking north faces and you got your hand warmers, like, you adapted to what it was. Cause I'm gonna still go to Blockheads even though it's freezing, right?
Kid Fury
Like, that's my bad. Blizzard. Snow. Snow up to my Knees, the dirty slushies. I was like, okay, well, I'm inside today.
Dexter Carr
This is. I'm not doing.
Kid Fury
This is what it is.
Dexter Carr
This I won't do. Like, when you look outside and the whole street is just white. I'm not doing that.
Kid Fury
I can't do that. The children love it, though. Cause they call off school.
Dexter Carr
What are you talking about? They love it. And the gay clubs be packed that night.
Kid Fury
Yeah. When we had to call off school for hurricanes, it was like, auntie M. Auntie, you didn't know if it was white. You know, Toto, I don't even think.
Dexter Carr
I don't even think they ever. I don't even think I ever did. I think I always just went. I think I always just went. Unless it told you not to go. Like, unless you said, don't go. But I think we just went.
Kid Fury
Sometimes it was like, against the law.
Dexter Carr
Shouldn't even be driving. And here we are.
Kid Fury
Sometimes there was like, well, the government says, bitch, don't go outside. You will die.
Dexter Carr
You will die.
Kid Fury
You're not paying for it. So get your shit together, Miami. Take it or leave it.
Dexter Carr
Take it or leave it. I'm gonna take it.
Kid Fury
Well, Dexter, that's about all I have for you today.
Dexter Carr
Thank you so much.
Kid Fury
Thank you so much for being on pawn today. I wanted so badly to speak to a professional dancer because, again, I was teaching myself so excited. I was teaching myself. I'm a slave for you, period. Ooh, bitch. Me against the music.
Dexter Carr
Piece of art. Piece of art.
Kid Fury
So I've always been a fan of dance and an imaginary dancer in my head, so I always wanted to have a dancer. I'm excited that it got to be you, because it'll be. You've taught me before. We both from Miami, and, yeah, I was very happy to have you here today. Can you please tell people where they can find you?
Dexter Carr
Yes. Dexter Carr on everything. Keep it simple, keep it cute. Two Rs. Nah, that's it.
Kid Fury
Okay, well, on that note, thank you again for joining me. Kayfiry here for Fierce thoughts, please. If you're watching this on YouTube, hit the like, hit the subscribe, hit the notification bell. Those three things I'm not saying. Smash, we discussed this. Stay beautiful, and I will see you next week. Hi.
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Podcast: Furious Thoughts
Host: Kid Fury (CAKE MEDIA)
Guest: Dexter Carr
Date: July 15, 2026
This vibrant episode of Furious Thoughts dives into the world of dance, identity, and growth with Kid Fury and his guest, Dexter Carr—renowned dancer, choreographer, actor, and proud Miami native. Together, they explore Dexter’s Miami roots, his journey through New York and LA, and the highs and lows of both professional dance and queer dating. The conversation is equal parts funny, real, and deeply insightful, making it an engaging listen for dancers, creatives, and anyone interested in the intersection of art and culture.
| Section | Description | Timestamps | |---|---|---| | Miami Roots | Dexter & Kid Fury on growing up in Dade County; Miami’s unique character | 01:41–04:10 | | Early Dance Career | Chris Brown audition and Miami’s dance scene | 04:15–06:22 | | NYC Move & Broadway | Culture shock, toughening up, and Broadway success | 08:10–13:36 | | Teaching Dance & Styles | Transition to teaching, critique of modern dance classes | 14:06–17:50, 21:10–24:29 | | Dance in Pop Culture | Respect for Sean Bankhead, BET Awards, real dance returning | 25:06–28:44 | | Dating & Relationships | The challenges of navigating romance as a creative in LA and NYC | 39:05–45:50 | | City Comparisons | LA comfort, NY fierceness, Miami nostalgia | 51:35–54:48 | | Natural Disasters | Earthquakes vs. hurricanes, trauma humor around disasters | 55:03–59:02 | | Final Thoughts | Artistry, Florida identity, closing camaraderie | 61:05–61:58 |
This episode is a lively, insight-packed conversation about growing up in Miami, finding creative footing in New York, and carving a career in LA. Through Dexter Carr’s stories, listeners get a window into the dance world, the reality of hustle and setbacks, the evolution of artistry, and the messy fun of queer dating in big cities. The hosts’ chemistry (and shared Miami background) keeps the conversation vibrant, funny, and full of takeaways—whether you’re a dancer, creative, or just a fan of great cultural talk.
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