Petty Palooza! (Part I)

Summary

Gettin’ Grown – "Petty Palooza! (Part I)" (June 9, 2026)

Episode Overview
This episode of Gettin’ Grown brings the signature blend of hilarity, honesty, and community from hosts Jade and Keia (of Loud Speakers Network). As two Black women navigating adulting, they dive headfirst into the communal release that is “Petty Palooza”—a celebration of petty peeves and micro-annoyances both personal and crowd-sourced. The episode is a cathartic, laughter-filled space, balancing pop culture commentary (mostly Drag Race talk!), transparent reflections on womanhood and self-care, and heartfelt celebrations of Black achievement—all with a dash of necessary pettiness. There are Kitchen Table conversations, audience submissions, and plenty of affirmations for listeners to mind their business, hydrate, and stay moisturized.

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Key Segments and Highlights

1. Opening Vibes and Musical Moments (00:58–02:39)

• Jade and Keia start the show jokingly singing “Love Taught Me Who Was Boss,” reflecting on old-school R&B and their respective musical upbringings. Jade admits, “In the beginning, I was like, let me keep listening.” (02:02)
• Lighthearted exchange about growing up “church kids” and not knowing some secular songs (02:10–02:23).

2. Kitchen Table Talk: Drag Race Deep Dive (02:39–14:42)

• Both hosts are obsessed with A’keria C. Davenport and revisit RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 11 and All Stars.
• Appreciation for nuanced Black references in Drag Race culture: “Law Roach, you did your big one with that one. That was an amazing reference. It was a very black reference.” – Keia (03:23)
• Discussion of perceived microaggressions and messiness among contestants (“You’re feeling microaggressions very strongly… I found myself like, now, wait a minute.” – Jade, 04:43)
• The Silky Nutmeg Ganache “problem”: They discuss “pageant queen entitlement,” strategic TV personalities, and what winning on the show really means (04:51–07:24).

  “She wants to win. She’s a pageant queen, so winning is a big deal. …But my issue is that she…feels entitled to winning.” – Keia (06:44)

• On drag’s diversity: Celebrating queens like Vivacious, Crystal Methyd (“It’s cartoony, but it’s still expensive…well done, well executed.” – Jade, 11:31), and Yvie Oddly as emblematic of drag’s generational and stylistic range.
• The impact (and limits) of capitalism in drag/queer artistry: “There are those vestiges…of broader capitalism and all the ways in which…those conventions…just seep into the artist.” – Jade (13:09)

3. Community Check-In: Dominique Morgan and Systems (15:10–19:42)

• Warm welcome back to influential Black trans activist Dominique Morgan, with both hosts reflecting on nuance and carceral trauma in the Black community.

  “I don’t want to see most Black people get arrested. I don’t want to see Black women get arrested. And…I don’t want to see Black trans women—because that is such a harmful, toxic space.” – Keia (15:42)

• Emphasis on holding space for nuance and systemic analysis. “It does sort of beg a deeper dive into looking at these things through a systemic lens…holding space for the nuance.” – Jade (17:09)
• Dominique’s unique creative voice is praised, and the hosts muse on inviting her to the kitchen table for future episodes.

4. Petty Palooza!—Petty Peeves Extravaganza (22:06–74:44)

Why Petty Matters (22:06–24:00)

• Jade: “We got a lot to be mad about!” The episode crowdsources petty peeves from listeners and shares their own, promising multiple installments.

Personal Petty Peeves (24:00–29:51)

• Jade’s workplace gripe: Women who “infantilize” themselves or “lean into patriarchy” with mousy, non-assertive communication.

  “Clear your throat and say it with your chest.” – Jade (25:45)

• Keia: Annoyance with self-proclaimed “allies” who don’t know when to “fall back” and leverage their privilege for others, or who perform anti-Black microaggressions.

  “They become so comfortable in that allyship that they forget there is a place they are supposed to hold in this space.” – Keia (29:17)

Listener Petty Peeves Highlights

Includes brilliant banter, playful joking, and shared cultural grievances—each time, reinforcing the importance of communal venting and Black wit.

Notable Submissions & Discussion Points

• Parking Dynamics:

  “My petty peeve is when I purposefully park far away and somebody raggedy ass parks right next to me...” – Denise (30:06)

  • Related to bathroom and subway etiquette—people violating personal space.

• Coworker Annoyances:

  • “My coworker hums all day. It’s like nails on a chalkboard…” – Mama Mo (33:19)
  • Hosts riff hilariously about the types of annoying hums.

• Tech Help for Parents:

  • “I’m so tired of being Rhonda’s help desk.” – King Keith (34:47)
  • Running commentary about older parents and AI/tech, including ChatGPT confusion (36:11–37:14)

• White Opinions on Non-White Issues:

  “White opinions, but more specifically on nonwhite things.” – Dr. Leonard Taylor (37:31)

• Invented Words:

  • Grievance about “uncomfortability” and “conversate.”

  “They bullied them into making it a word, and I protest avidly.” – Keia (38:30)

• Caviar Overkill:

  • “Do not like caviar as much as they post.” – Nickety (39:41)
  • The hosts call out “restaurants just putting it on things because they know y’all gonna buy it.” – Jade (40:05)

• Passwords:

  • “Passwords and being forced to change them every five days. ... I’m fresh out.” – mini Tyra08 (42:02)

• Dogs Everywhere:

  • LA Fitness now full of dogs (44:10), “I don’t want them everywhere, and I love your dogs!”

• Public Hygiene:

  “When did we stop covering our mouths when we yawn?” – Keia (45:01)

  • Bemoaning pandemic-related habits that never snapped back.

• Whispers Gone Wrong:

  “There are people out here in life who just do not have the physical ability to whisper. And you have to know that about yourself.” – Jade (48:04)

  • Hilarious family stories about “loud whisperers.”

• Public Space Behavior:

  “When people stand in the middle of the walkway.” – Imani Moo (51:20)

  • Rants about slow moving sidewalk groups and “breaking chains” (52:31).

• Fake Wealth and Ticket Prices:

  “A lot of people pretending they’re rich in a very obvious recession. We don’t got it.” – Leroy Gab (52:52)

  • Calls out sky-high concert prices, ticketing monopolies, and predatory AirBnB owners (54:01).

• Job Searching & AI Frustrations:

  “Job searching. …the way they’re scanning resumes…these are people who are experienced, [but are] getting passed over.” – Keia (56:15)

• Shared Food Horror Stories:

  • Tale of someone taking bites from people’s lunches at work, nearly causing a medical emergency due to allergies (61:08–63:23).

• Pronoun Pushback Addressed:

  “[Why is that a petty peeve?]…I really challenge you to sit with yourself and ask yourself why that is a petty peeve for you. It’s literally somebody else’s business…” – Keia (67:04)

  • Jade draws an analogy to being told she can’t identify as Black.

Throughout:

• Constant reminders to mind your business, hydrate, and moisturize—these are the “grown folks” commandments of the pod (“the very largest organ that you have is your body, so you need to drink some water” – Keia, 101:59).

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5. Graduation Announcements & Affirmation (76:02–100:40)

• Celebratory roll call of listeners’ graduation milestones—shouting out listeners, their children, and other family members from Pre-K to PhDs.
• Listeners share their triumphs in the face of academic, personal, or financial adversity—each is met with encouragement, excitement, and genuine pride from Jade & Keia.
• Sample:

  “I am the first out of my mother’s children to get a Master’s degree. I graduated with honors…” – Niecy Nash (via email, 83:12)

• Offers advice on following career passion (especially for non-traditional or older students) amid AI/recession anxieties.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Grow up, Fievel. …Clear your throat, drink some water and stop whispering around me.” – Jade on mousy workplace communication (26:25)
• “Silky is not getting a spinoff television show. Jujubee was on Drag Race for like 75 seasons.” – Keia, on Drag Race come-backers (06:27)
• “When people can’t whisper but are committed to sharing soft takes in my ear—and like I said, it just be breath.” – Jade, reporting a listener peeve (47:47)
• “If you are on the left [of the airport walkway], you are moving. If you are on the right, you might stand still.” – Jade (52:03)
• “I challenge you to ask why that [they/them pronouns] is your inner thought. …You ain’t got nothing else to be worried about.” – Keia (72:17)
• “Your Black will crack if it’s dry.” – Jade (102:01)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Opening Song & Banter: 00:58–02:39
• Drag Race Recap & Microaggressions: 03:52–14:42
• Community Reflection on Dominique Morgan: 15:10–19:42
• Petty Peeves: Personal & Crowd-Sourced: 22:06–74:44
  • Workplace “infantilization” peeve – 24:00
  • Allyship & microaggressions – 29:17
  • Petty peeve submissions begin – 30:06
  • Whispering discussion – 47:47
  • Standing in walkways – 51:20
  • Fake wealth/concert price rant – 53:07
  • Pronouns discourse – 67:04
• Graduation Announcements & Listener Letters: 76:02–100:40
• End-of-show Affirmations & Self-Care Reminders: 101:44–103:08

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Episode Tone & Style

• Language is casual, quick-witted, and often self-deprecating; plenty of inside references for Black women/adulting/queer culture.
• Humor is sharp, sometimes profane (e.g., “ratatouille ass voice”), but always in service to community and connection.
• Heartfelt support for communal growth, self-care, and solidarity—whether calling out anti-Blackness, celebrating grads, or affirming the right to be joyfully petty.

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Takeaways for Listeners

• Petty can be profound—a release valve and a route to genuine honesty about everyday challenges.
• Respecting boundaries (personal, social, and pronoun-related) is non-negotiable for grown folks.
• The messiness of adulting, especially as Black women, is best navigated in community—with humor and transparency.
• Black joy, shade, and achievement are always worth celebrating, even through the pettiest complaints.

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Next Up:
Dustin Ross will join for Part II of Petty Palooza. Listeners are encouraged to submit more petty peeves and graduation announcements ([e-mail]).

Signature Closing Wisdom:

• Hydrate, moisturize, and mind your business—because that’s what grown folks do!

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Transcript

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[Kia]

Thought I had my degree in life

[Jade]

and I love

[Kia]

ought to be on a run I had a one step plan to prove it got in my pocket for fools, folly and fun Love had to show me one thing I was so right so all right Thought I could turn emotion on and off I was so sure, so sure but

[Jade]

love

[Kia]

taught me who was, who was who was the boss. Do you know that song?

[Jade]

I have heard it. Toward the end, it was the. It was starting to. To makes sense. Yes, but in the beginning, that was

[Kia]

probably a user error.

[Jade]

In the beginning I was like, let me keep listening.

[Kia]

Yeah, no, I mean, it's probably most definitely.

[Jade]

But you have to remember that, you know, I was a church baby and so there were, you know, I did get exposed to a lot of things until a little bit later.

[Kia]

No, that's fair. That's fair.

[Jade]

You know, but if you want to go back and if you was in here singing the old James Cleveland, I'd have picked it right up what you was putting down.

[Kia]

You know, maybe next week I'll start off with the James Cleveland.

[Jade]

First of all, I have gone back. I've fallen so in love with a curious C. Davenport that I have gone

[Kia]

back to revisit season 11. What did I. Yes, sister. Listen. I watch a' keria in every iteration. Season 11, the first all star she was on. And this one, I love her so much. I love her so much.

[Jade]

Same. And I've been enjoying. And I also remembered that silky is also on that. On that season 11.

[Kia]

Yeah, she was.

[Jade]

It was a wild ride. I'm about halfway through it. I was watching it last night, so I'll probably keep going after we finish recording. But I was like, albertina, Albertina Walker.

[Kia]

Let me tell you something. Law Roach, you did your big one with that one. That was an amazing reference. It was a very black reference.

[Jade]

So good, because the girls that get it, it was okay.

[Kia]

It was very Chicago. It was a very Chicago reference.

[Jade]

It was amazing.

[Kia]

It was just poor.

[Jade]

It was black. It was so black.

[Kia]

Yeah, it was so black. It was very multifaceted. I was very grateful.

[Jade]

Well executed. And we can always count on law for amazing referen.

[Kia]

Are you caught up on Drag Race? How are you feeling thus far with the second bracket? So.

[Jade]

Okay, that's an excellent question. Use my words. It's gonna be interesting. Right? I feel like there's this, like, black and brown divide.

[Kia]

Are you talking about tres leches?

[Jade]

Tres leches. And what's the one that. That her. The one that keeps. They keep having, like, they go at it with Silky. Her and Silky keep going at it. And they just had.

[Kia]

Oh, April.

[Jade]

Cardiocardium. And so I can't really gauge how playful, you know what I'm saying?

[Kia]

You're feeling. You're feeling microaggressions

[Jade]

very strongly. You know, several times I found myself like, now, wait a minute. Wait a minute, April.

[Kia]

Yeah. I told xd, and I'm glad you said that, because I told XD when we were covering it, I was like, you know, I feel like it's. There's, like, a little bit of mean in there, you know, And I know the girls like the. I know they like the banter, but also, I was like, no, the. What's not helping, though, what. I will say microaggressions aside, because that is absolutely a conversation. Silky's getting on my nerves.

[Jade]

Going back to season 11 helped me remember that this is not new.

[Kia]

No, but remember, I don't. Did you watch the All Star? She came back. Apparently she did an international season, but I. I'm not counting that because I didn't watch. Did you watch the all stars after season 11 where she came back and she was like, I got a lot of hate for my personality. And we felt bad, you know what I'm saying? Because it was like, nobody wants to make you feel bad about yourself, but you was doing a lot. And you said you were doing a lot because you wanted to be seen on tv.

[Jade]

Correct.

[Kia]

And then they were like, silky, you're. You're playing down your personality this season. Oh, I'm not feeling the spark, you know, et cetera, et cetera. And then this season, what I told XD was it feels like she was doing what she was doing in season 11 without saying, I'm trying to be the star of the show.

[Jade]

I do agree that I think she's being a bit more strategic. But the, but the sentiment is still the same. The intention is still the same. And I, I'm wondering what is the long game? Like, do you think the long game is still like a spinoff television show? Because this is her fourth time. This is her fourth.

[Kia]

Silky is not getting a spin off television. Jujubee was on Drag Race for like 75 seasons.

[Jade]

Exactly. So I'm trying to figure out, like, if we know that this is not a potential outcome, like, what is the long game that you're playing?

[Kia]

She wants to win. She's a pageant queen, so winning is a big deal. Right. And I think it would be some level of accomplishment for her personally. But my issue is that she feel, she feels entitled to winning and, and all of this energy she keep. Because she's keep. Like, I've been on here four times. Okay, that's a choice.

[Jade]

That is a choice. A strong contender. Like, she performs well. But I agree, and I hear what you're saying around this sense of entitlement because it does sort of feel like.

[Kia]

Because if that's the case, Vivacia could be like, well, bitch, I've been doing drag for 100 years.

[Jade]

Exactly.

[Kia]

And I've been on, you know, I was on here so long ago, and it's my time to shine. Like, no, vivacious. Just like I'm gonna be this first grade tractor and do my job.

[Jade]

What in the John Deere, I said, hold on. It always gives party city. And I, and you know, I embrace because, you know, you know, auntie is an elder. Okay. So I'm like, yes, yes, she's necessary.

[Kia]

She's necessary.

[Jade]

Yes. And I enjoy like the jerk chicken. I enjoyed. But, but I also, I feel like, I think in Suki's case, this is something that happens a lot or I've experienced a lot. People feel like because they're talented or because they perform well, they don't have to treat people nicely. It's almost like, you know, it's like, yeah, you perform well and you show up and you do win challenges and you do these things, but you still have to be kind. You have to be nice.

[Kia]

You do.

[Jade]

Like, you know that that does not absolve you. It doesn't entitle you to show up in this space and act how you want to act. You still have to, you know, be communal. Because I see, it's like, you know, when we are engaged in this together, we create the culture, we co Create the culture, we co create the vibe. You got to own your responsibility in that. And I. I experienced Silky as feeling like because she performs well, she. She get to act any old kind of way. She don't. She doesn't have any regard for how other people experience her.

[Kia]

No. And also the fact that other people also perform well. And your job here is to perform as well to your capabilities for the chance of winning this title. But you don't get to just keep saying it and think that it is supposed to be yours. Correct. Now, XD said he thinks she's just like, she's slated to be in the next round and so she doesn't know how to hide that. That's what he said.

[Jade]

It's like. You think it's like.

[Kia]

Well, the one thing that we're thinking about production wise is that, remember the last time Akira was on All Star, she left.

[Jade]

That's true.

[Kia]

And so when she was supposed to sing against Silky, she actually didn't show up and Silky ended up doing that Barbie.

[Jade]

Oh, so you think they're gonna give us that money?

[Kia]

So we think we might be getting some sort of redemption of a Silky Akira lip sync or whatever from that to play off of that moment. And I don't think Vivacious is going to win. I said before, she is. She is important and necessary to the conversation. I think she's happy to be there. And I think the young queens and all of the young audience should be exposed to Vivacious and pay her dues and her respect and give her her FL flowers for where she stands in the community and how long she's been performing this in the way that she's always held this as like a true art form and it's hers, you know what I'm saying? And so I think she's very important to be there. I just don't see her winning Crystal Method, though.

[Jade]

Oh, see, Yes, I am. I find Crystal Method's approach to drag to be so refreshing.

[Kia]

Oh, it's so good. It's so good. From that butter to that rooster. Yes. Stop.

[Jade]

I'm inspired by the fact because it is, it is. It is fun and campy and it's even like cartoony. But it's still polished. It's still.

[Kia]

It's polished in the details.

[Jade]

Oh, she's nasty with the details. It's like there's an artistry and an excellent.

[Kia]

Yeah,

[Jade]

it's not cheap. Okay, here it is. Hear me out. It's cartoony, but it's still expensive.

[Kia]

Yes, yes, exactly. Yes.

[Jade]

It's well done, well executed, and I enjoy. You know what I'm saying? I feel like, and this is why we talked about last week, what I love about Drag Race and Drag Race All Stars, I feel like it exposes me to all the ways that dragon culture exists. Like, there's so many different approaches to drag, and everyone gets to do it.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

Their own way. Because even going back to season 11, I have also. This was when we were first introduced to Yvie, oddly.

[Kia]

Yes. And I, you know, I love Yvie.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

I love Yvie. Yvie came through on All Stars in this crayon look, and I was like, the way that she. From head to toe, also her details in the way that she performs her drag as well. I just, I. I do. I agree with you. And I even had to check myself because I don't be interested in a lot of these younger queens that come in conversation is happening. I'm really worried about nothing you got to say. But I think, to your point, it's important to see all the aspects from the vivacious and the original ballroom down to the girls who do social media drag. And they're, like, not great performers necessarily, because that's not their space. They're not the club kids, but they. They still are carrying the tradition in their own ways and with innovation in that way. And so, for sure, I do. I love to see the gambit. I love to see the gambit on Drag Race. I think it's a. It's. Aside from the. The. Aside from capitalism in the way that it has kind of. It's a while, you know, it does

[Jade]

everything going back to episodes and watching. I mean, it's good to see the show sort of, like, grow and expand. But there are those vestiges, right? The vestiges of, like, you know, broader capitalism and all the ways in which, like that. Those conventions of capitalism just seep into the artist. And even, Even. Even through their activism and the ways in which they call a speak truth to power around specific issues. There's still some.

[Kia]

But, you know, you know, RuPaul be fracking. So, like, you know, Bobby drag queen, the fracking.

[Jade]

Good times. But no, I'm excited.

[Kia]

Good time.

[Jade]

About to see. Because this is the last episode in bracket two, right? Coming up.

[Kia]

We got one more. Yeah, one more bracket two coming up. And then we have bracket three starting. And I do. I do like how they are getting intimate in each bracket so that we feel like we are getting time with the queens whether we want it or not. I appreciate that.

[Jade]

I'm Interested in how this wild card is going to go too, at this.

[Kia]

I know. And I told XD I'm ready to get to like, Snatch Game. I'm ready to get to like some Drag Race, you know what I mean? So, like, let's hurry up and get through this bracket.

[Jade]

Right?

[Kia]

Exactly, exactly.

[Jade]

Let's get this cast fully baked so

[Kia]

we can get to it. I want to pick my own. Oh, you know what we should do one day? We should do like a fantasy.

[Jade]

Oh my God, like a fantasy Drag Race season.

[Kia]

Yeah, we'll do that with xd. We'll all three do that together. Okay, I like that. I like that. Okay, well. Oh, also, I wanted to say unrelated, welcome home to Dominique Morgan.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

I was really happy to see her.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

You know, and listen, I don't have, I don't have thoughts and opinions around any of that because I, I don't, I'm not well versed and I don't

[Jade]

intend to, you know, I don't, I don't see it as my business to get into. I know that I value and appreciate Dominique's perspective and the content that she create. I like the space that she takes up and so I'm happy to have her back, you know, doing.

[Kia]

And also I think the other side to the conversation that just has continued to ping me is I'm like, listen, there's always details and nuance and things that we don't know and all kinds of stuff. Right. And also, I don't want to a, I don't want to see most black people get arrested. I don't want to see black women get arrested. And, and I don't want to see black trans women because that is such a harmful, harmful, toxic space that already does not lend to rebuilding and recidivism and so forth.

[Jade]

Right.

[Kia]

It's just modern day slavery. And so for our sisters who are in a very specific space where they are already constantly at, in danger because of society, because of our government, because of all kinds of, because all kinds of reasons that just don't feel like the way to hold anybody accountable if that's what somebody felt needed to be done or whatever the case is. So I, I, you know, I know that's a much larger conversation and I'm not saying it in the most eloquent way, but, but I, I think that is an important note. You know what I'm saying?

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Prison ain't the answer for everything. You know what I'm saying?

[Jade]

Yeah. I think it does sort of beg a deeper, a deeper dive into sort of.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

You know, looking at these things, like through a systemic lens, but also at the same time, you know, holding space for the nuance that surrounds every situation. So.

[Kia]

Mm.

[Jade]

I am a fan of Dominique and, you know her work.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

And so.

[Kia]

And like you said, her perspective.

[Jade]

Perspective. I like the spaces she takes up, the conversations that she starts, the storytelling, all of that. Yeah. So, I mean, and I enjoy. I enjoy her content. You know, she is someone whose content I always, you know, engage with. And, you know, she's one of the aunties. You know, there's a relation there. Like, you know, there's always a rift. I feel like, you know, we were cut from. You know what I'm saying? We all.

[Kia]

You absolutely are. Because the very first time I ever saw Dominique, I literally. I said, yo, that's Kia.

[Jade]

I live.

[Kia]

The cadence of many things is just. It's so familiar. Exactly. It's so, so familiar.

[Jade]

I said this.

[Kia]

So familiar.

[Jade]

This is. Huh. Because we know. I love.

[Kia]

So I just. Yeah.

[Jade]

Yeah. So all. Absolutely. I'm a big, big fan and I'm happy that Dominique is home. I was talking to Senia and she was like, oh, my God, Dominique need to be at the kitchen table. I said I would. Absolutely.

[Kia]

I agree. Actually, I. I was actually going to ask you about that. I was like, I feel like we should at least shoot the shot.

[Jade]

Oh, I would love that. I actually wanted to shoot this because, you know, I just know that she's probably inundated with all the things because she actually finally got into the Cheyenne Bryant. And, you know, I wrote a sub stack and I was like, I'm just gonna. Maybe I'll just send it to her. I would just love to hear her. Her thoughts, but we'll see. Let's. I do think it's worth shooting the shot. We would love to have my good sister.

[Kia]

I would for sure.

[Jade]

Table. Because I do feel like, you know, we, you know, that's my sister. I don't know why, but she just is. Yes.

[Kia]

No, you all. You all are very similar in that way. Very, very similar in that way. And I enjoy partaking and experience, so. And yeah. And then, you know, aunties, across the board, there's a foundation that there's a. There's a. A wire that runs through all of us.

[Jade]

A common thread.

[Kia]

Aunties, a common thread. And then, of course, all of us of the. Of the same age brackets.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Same thing as, you know, there's many similar experiences, etc. Etc. So I would absolutely love to do that if you are listening to this and you want to help us shoot our shot, we'll take it. We sure hello at getting grown co. Well, we have a fun kitchen table to get into. So should we do it?

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[Jade]

All right, I'm excited because as we said, if you made it to the end of the show, the kitchen table after the kitchen. After our amazing kitchen table with Nedra.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

I was just kind of drained and I asked the Internet to help me with the petty peeve and was inundated with with response. I asked y' all what y' all was mad about and we got a lot to be mad about. And so we thought it would would be a good idea to just have a good old fashioned because we've done this before. We haven't done it in a little while, but have a good old fash petty p palooza. All the same to me playing Jane Spaghetti.

[Kia]

And I want to be very responsible of the things I say to my sister because everybody know I can be real petty P e to the tty honey, I got a lot to be mad about and it's going to be multiple parts because we. We did. Dustin was supposed to join us, but he is doing big, big things in Detroit. In Detroit hosting an incredible conference. And so. And so he was not able to join us this particular episode. But he will be on for the part.

[Jade]

Yes. Now you know that, that we. Dustin does not have to work hard to find the petty. And he will. He's always ready to join us in these petty streets. And so he will be back for.

[Kia]

With context.

[Jade]

Hello. He will be back for. For, you know, subsequent parts. You know, we're going to kick it off, Jade and I sharing our petty peeves and the ones that you guys have shared with us and then, you know, we'll just see where it goes. I was telling Jay one, I will start off with a personal one of my own.

[Kia]

Okay.

[Jade]

And this is just an experience that I'm having mainly at work, but just also in the world. Right. I understand that. I understand that we can't help sort of the way that we speak. Right. The tone and tenor of our voices are just naturally. They are what they are. But I experience this infantilization that happens. I get it at work a lot, but also just like out in the wild as well from other women. Right. I perceive particularly when. Okay, so I know it. We as women, there's a way that we can engage when men are present or even when there isn't some perception of a power dynamic. And I experience some women lean into that and instead of saying things with their chest or asking, you know, questions, you know, from a place of like, you know, genuine curiosity, they try to manipulate the conversation in their favor and lean into patriarchy to do it. So it's like there are some folks who I don't work with directly all the time, but like even just sort of going in and out of the office, I experienced a way that certain women get real mousy when they're talking and it grinds my very gears. I was just, hey, if you had a few. And I'd Be like, let me tell you something. Clear your throat and say it with your chest.

[Kia]

Stop, please stop. Drink some water.

[Jade]

Tiptoeing. Stop. You know, there's this like, you know. Oh, well, it's like you. They preface, they disclaim instead of just saying what it is.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

Hey, if you have a second. If you don't. No, worry.

[Kia]

It's not theater.

[Jade]

Exactly. And it's almost like, you know, they don't do it to. It makes me feel like I'm like. Do you think that I'm like some big scary person that's going to like beat you or something? Why are you feel like you gotta approach me like I'm the wiz or something?

[Kia]

Like. Right. Okay.

[Jade]

Oh, oh. If you don't mind, could you just. Girl, what do you want? Like, say it with your child.

[Kia]

Grow up, Fievel. Okay.

[Jade]

Clear your throat, drink some water and stop whispering around me. Please stop with this little teeny, tiny child. Like. And I'm not saying everybody got to show up to the function with the manly Stanley, because I know sometimes that's what I give. Because that's what.

[Kia]

No, but you know, when it's a cover up for not.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

Not wanting to. To, you know, for trying to play down whatever it is you're trying to say or whatever.

[Jade]

To come off too strong and it's like, is it like. I don't know, there's just a placating that happens and it is very palpable to me. And I see it. And when I am working with younger, younger women or younger people and I see it, I try to find a way to be like, hey, hey, cut that out. Like, like it is something that if you're not careful, it's a habit or something that you will feel pressured to do. And it's like, you don't have to perform that way. And I'm not talking about. You know, sometimes there is a way in which, when I know something, I might ask a question so that you hear how stupid you sound. That's not what I'm talking about. Let me just make.

[Kia]

No, you're talking about a Yes, a little pacifying.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Tone to. Yeah, I know. No, I know exactly.

[Jade]

It's like, girl, please stop whispering and whimpering and wringing your hands. Okay? Nobody in here, we don't have to be scared of none of these people in here. Okay?

[Kia]

What, you have a demographic?

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

That. That loves to lean into that.

[Jade]

Yes. It's like what you have to say is important. What you have to say is valuable. If you if you act like it. So stop acting like you inconvenience and everybody with your opinion, okay? Like, sit up straight and clear your throat.

[Kia]

Or if you about to say some fucked up shit to me, don't say it with that, you know, ratatouille ass voice either.

[Jade]

Girl.

[Kia]

Now that's where I want you to just put it, Pull it out, put it on the table and say it. Say how you mean it contrastly that same demographic. What grinds my gears, especially that I've been noticing lately in certain settings that I've been in, are those who claim to be allies. Right? You know what I'm saying? They like, they, they love to tell you what black. What black people created or what they know black people created. You know, they wear their keffiyeh, you know what I'm saying? They do. They try to do all of the grandstanding to show that they are allies in every space, right? And then they become so comfortable in that allyship that they forget that, that there is a place that they are supposed to hold in this space. Because if you really for us, then you know when you need to fall

[Jade]

back and you also know when you need to put your privilege where your mouth is and say the thing exactly that is risky or non privileged people

[Kia]

to say or do exactly. So that drives me up a wall and I've been experiencing that lately and I'm like, okay, all right, cool, right. And they still perform different microaggressions, but then act shocked when you call those things out.

[Jade]

It's a wild ride out here.

[Kia]

It is. But I want to get to some of these supporters. Petty Pete.

[Jade]

Oh, yes.

[Kia]

I am excited to see what you all had to say and how petty it gets. Do you want to start you or do you want to ping pong? How you want to do it?

[Jade]

We can ping pong. I can start. Oh, Denise. O h h, Denise with two E's, says, my petty peeve is when I purposefully park far out or far away from the place and somebody raggedy ass parks right next to me. It's like, girl, I went out there so I wouldn't have to deal with y' all and here you come over here.

[Kia]

That's like using a bathroom stall right next to the one somebody's using when there's a whole bunch of other empty ones.

[Jade]

Or you on the train sitting in the corner minding your business and there's a host of other seats and somebody come and sit right next to me.

[Kia]

And you come and sit next to me.

[Jade]

Like, why you need to be over here. You don't.

[Kia]

You don't.

[Jade]

You have no business here. And here you are.

[Kia]

Why did you come by?

[Jade]

What? What?

[Kia]

That's what I mean. I have to assume that, you know, there's things going on. If it's empty, you want to come sit right next to me. That's what I know. I'd probably need to move on to a different car because I don't have time for this today. In my youth, I had kicked a. In the chest on the train. That's not. That wasn't a problem. That.

[Jade]

Oh my God.

[Kia]

Did I ever tell you that story?

[Jade]

No.

[Kia]

I think I was living. I think I was living in the Bronx. So I took the fortraight a lot because I live between the one and the four. So I'm on the fortrain. We're at 125th. Okay, this gets on the train. And this is clearly not well, but so he's like very physically aggressive, right? Like he's walking around the train, he's beating his chest. He's just doing weird pull up in the park. But like on the train. And the 4 train gets real violent at times. Like it really gets to rock. So. So this is doing all of this and it's like. So everybody just mind their business, act like they don't see it. He's walking around the train, doing this in front of people. All of a sudden, for a train starts fortuning and this starts ping ponging from the motion of the train, right? So he's knocking into people, so people pushing him. So now it really is a game of ping pong with this little. Because he's a little.

[Jade]

Of course, they're always so Napoleon being

[Kia]

all like, you know it. And so I. So I'm sitting there and I'm like, please don't let this come flying in my direction. Like now I gotta really pay attention. I tried to act like I didn't see what was going on. And all of a sudden, here comes this little nigga flying in my direction. And when I tell you I lifted my leg and boot bathed that nigga. And we got to the next stop and they pushed him off the track. And because he was little, when I boot bait him, it was between his stomach and his chest, so. And I was not high kicking, no sir.

[Jade]

I didn't even have to raise my leg that far to kick you in your chair.

[Kia]

It wasn'. It was. It was, you know, very simple. But you, you do it a lot on here. Okay, let me see here. Is it My turn.

[Jade]

Sure.

[Kia]

My co worker. Oh, this is. I'll read some of your names. Depends on the petty. Okay.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Oh, mama Mo, the Virgo. Hello, queen.

[Jade]

Hey.

[Kia]

Hello, gang. Says my co worker hums all day. It's like nails on a chocolate. Now here's my question. Here's my question. Is it like a. Is it like a church? Is it like a funeral home Hug. Right? Or is it like. Is it like a Disney princess? Or is it like a Angela Ledsbury? Right?

[Jade]

Is it like a. Is it like a top 40? Are we humming, like, popular songs?

[Kia]

Right.

[Jade]

Or are you deep?

[Kia]

Is it giving Maggie Smith? Yeah. Right?

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

You know, I need to know what kind of humming it is. You're have to write to us. I love context.

[Jade]

Oh, yeah.

[Kia]

But that made me giggle

[Jade]

because then, like, is it like how your grandma used to hug, right?

[Kia]

Like, is it cohesive humming or is it just, like, scattered and chaotic? I'm just curious. What is it?

[Jade]

What is it, kid? Yeah, I would love to learn more. I would.

[Kia]

Please write us hello at getting grown co. What you got?

[Jade]

King Keith TW says his petty peeve is having to help my mama find her verification codes in her email and text message because. Yes. Okay.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

I'm so tired of being Rhonda's help desk.

[Kia]

Ah, a tiscuit and a task.

[Jade]

Whoa.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

It is wild because they never know how to do anything. Now, how. How? When my mom was here and she saw me use the Apple pay. Now what is that? And I said, my. So I saw that. I saw that you were in the store. You. So you paid with your phone. Now, does my phone do that?

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How.

[Kia]

Does she have an iPhone?

[Jade]

Yeah. And then it was like, oh, I say my. I show my loc, share my location with her when I travel, and it's like, she never know where to find it. It's like, girl, what's the point? I mean, you done made me share it with you.

[Kia]

You are a kid.

[Jade]

You gotta call me and ask me how to find it. Girl, if I answer the phone, you don't need the location. You see how that works?

[Kia]

I don't know which is where my father. You know, my father has my. I am my father. Okay, so when they first started putting newspapers on the Internet, my father, he didn't know how to switch to the next page. So it would be like, I'm done with this one. But my mother. It's like an opposite of your petty peeve. It's like literally the polar opposite. I want my mother, like, now. Mother to socials. Yeah, Yo, I need her to get off. Like, off of chat.

[Jade]

GPT.

[Kia]

I hate her AI.

[Jade]

Oh, my God. My mom is not on air.

[Kia]

Burns my brain. Do you hear me? I'm like, stop. She put that I'm a strong black woman and I. Blah, blah. You know, the AI. She did one of those posts for my birthday, and I was like, this is an AI. I'm a phenomenal black woman. Like, I hate it. So. And then she. I told you. She'd just be like. Instead of using Google Maps, she'd be

[Jade]

like, let me ask Chad.

[Kia]

I'm like, stop, Stop. Get off of chat.

[Jade]

My mom is not asking chat. You know, crazy. And I hate that. That's the thing people say now that kind of burns me up.

[Kia]

Chat.

[Jade]

That's a petty peeve.

[Kia]

Chat.

[Jade]

Y' all be like, oh, let me ask Chat. Like, chat is not a person. What are y' all talking about? What? Oh.

[Kia]

Oh. It drives me up a wall. Do you hear me?

[Jade]

Oh,

[Kia]

wait. My next one said. My next one is from Alicia. She says in general, sick of them.

[Jade]

Okay. Similarly, Leonard Taylor. Dr. Taylor says white.

[Kia]

Hello, Dr. Taylor.

[Jade]

Yes. He says white opinions, but more specifically on non white things. White opinions on what was I. I

[Kia]

just talked about to be too comfortable. Get too comfortable in the spaces. I think I had one. Hold on. There was one that was similar to that.

[Jade]

People make it. Yes, People make up words. Bebe2o says people saying uncomfortability instead of saying discomfort. Uncomfortability.

[Kia]

It's discomfort.

[Jade]

It is discomfort. I don't like. I don't believe like. But there is a thing where people make up words. There are some words where it's like. Like. I know it happens a lot in church where people say things and it's like, that's not a word. Kind of like conversate.

[Kia]

Yeah, conversation. They did it. So they. They bullied them into making it a word.

[Jade]

Wow.

[Kia]

And I protest. I protest avidly. Yeah, look it up right now.

[Jade]

I didn't know it's actually sick right now. My mother would be.

[Kia]

I know. Livid. Because she incense.

[Jade]

Do you hear me? I mean, her lips would be tight about it.

[Kia]

What? That is not a word.

[Jade]

That is not a word.

[Kia]

It's converse.

[Jade]

And I used to say, mom. We have to say mom. Let me ask you a question. She'd be like, axe, Hatchet. Are you going to cut me?

[Kia]

I'm like,

[Jade]

relax yourself. Okay. You getting. You're getting beside yourself now. I'm just gonna look. Uncomfortability. That can't be a word. Because, like, that feels so cumbersome. It's.

[Kia]

It's discomfort.

[Jade]

Yeah, it says that it's a word. Is it discomfort or uncomfortability? Discomfort is the standard recognized. Now, uncomfortability is technically a valid noun, but it is very rarely used.

[Kia]

Conversate. Conversate. Oh, wait, okay, there's one here that cackled. Had me cackling.

[Jade]

Okay.

[Kia]

Do not like caviar as much as they post.

[Jade]

Okay, stop.

[Kia]

That's from Nickety.

[Jade]

Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it.

[Kia]

Do I enjoy caviar? Yes. Do I put it on top of everything like I'm seeing on the Internet? Absolutely. The not.

[Jade]

I just feel like it's a money grab because I feel like the restaurants and the places and the functions are just putting it on things because they know y' all gonna buy it.

[Kia]

And I'm not talking about people who have once upon a time created niches like fried. Oh, there's a. I love. I love the. There's a pay. Fried chicken and caviar.

[Jade]

Yeah. I.

[Kia]

They've been around.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

You know what I'm saying? And that is a thing. And it's delicious. With some creme fraiche, please. But also you carrying it in your purse to Chili's and shit like that. Like, I can't.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

You try putting caviar triple dipper like on a. On an oven baked baby back rib, like, please.

[Jade]

Caviar in your purse. Wild and crazy.

[Kia]

That's like a. They're doing a lot of these things for the Internet. And so. Yes, I agree with you, Nickety. Only in the sense where I do like caviar, but I like it in the settings where I've had it. Where it has been, you know, innovative or it's been traditional. It's been different settings where I have enjoyed it, but I don't want it all the time. It takes away the, you know, the experience.

[Jade]

Yeah. Like it's a special occasion theme.

[Kia]

Yeah. Caviar all the time.

[Jade]

Yeah. I agree, though. I do think that it is trending in ways that people. People go crazy with things and it's like. Yeah, Yeah. I don't know. Like, you know, it's like a.

[Kia]

Is going to McDonald's and carrying a caviar.

[Jade]

Yeah. Because I have seen. There was a girl I follow on YouTube and she like, you know, she was like, I'm gonna give myself a special treat. And she got McDonald's chicken nuggets and she ate it with caviar and creme fraiche. And yeah, okay. She said it was like a spicy.

[Kia]

Is that a tasty, salty bite? Yeah, okay, sure. But. But you are just doing this shit now too.

[Jade]

Carrying it in your purse is crazy.

[Kia]

I've seen that more than five crazy

[Jade]

mini Tyra08 says passwords and being forced to change them every five days. We've talked about that. Because I said, I'm fresh out. I don't have no more. And I hate that you cannot reuse passwords. Like, if you've used it, it'd be like, yeah, in the last five times, it's like, what do they think that we just manufacture these passwords? Don't they know that my brain can only.

[Kia]

You know what else?

[Jade]

Oh, but so much the.

[Kia]

The. Where. The password data leak. This has been exposed in a password data leak. You need to change it. It's like, this is not even me just forgetting or whatever the case is, is I? Now I'm just being forced to all over the place. Cuz y' all can't mind your business.

[Jade]

Yeah, it's true. I think they're trying to wear us down.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

Because at some point, everybody's just gonna be like, girl, okay, like, yeah, all

[Kia]

my passwords are exactly like. I don't even have any more fighting.

[Jade]

The password is 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, period.

[Kia]

Okay? X, 1, 2, 3, 4.

[Jade]

Voiceless words. Voiceless underscore words. Says, someone brought their dog to LA Fitness and I cancel my membership, effective immediately. Y' all bringing the dogs down to the gym.

[Kia]

They're bringing the dog. Oh, I had. Somebody said that on mine too. They were like, the dogs. Hold on, I'm gonna find it.

[Jade]

Y' all should have seen Jay trying to figure out how to post this question to her stories.

[Kia]

Oh, Kia had to walk. She had to talk me through it.

[Jade]

You see the little. The thing that resembles a poster on the. On the right hand side, side of the screen? You want to press that?

[Kia]

I was like, where's the thing that says questions? And how do I know when people.

[Jade]

Where do I go? I was like, oh, Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy.

[Kia]

I don't mean. This is so much Internet. My God. Okay, but yes, y' all are bringing the dogs everywhere. And I don't. I don't. I don't want them everywhere. And I love your dogs.

[Jade]

I do. You know what I'm saying? And I mean, like, I love your dog. LA Fitness is extreme because it's like, what the dog cannot work out with you. So, like, what does that even look

[Kia]

like I found it. Dogs every. Oh, this is from Jenna at Pilla Kitchen. She says dogs everywhere. People doing that cough, clear throat thing without covering.

[Jade]

Oh, yeah, very true.

[Kia]

Uh huh. Yes.

[Jade]

And I know because we are also at the height of allergy season. Y' all are getting a little lax with your. With your fluid.

[Kia]

Yeah. Because you're like, it's just allergies, but it's still your mucus.

[Jade]

We don't want it. Yeah, we don't want.

[Kia]

Also, I think I've probably said this before, and I'll say it 10 more times. When did we stop covering our mouths in public? When we yawn.

[Jade]

That's why.

[Kia]

When did that stop being a thing? This on the train the other day. And it's just like. Yeah, like a lion. And it's just breath. It's just your breath and your spittles.

[Jade]

Oh.

[Kia]

As soon as you open your mouth, like, oh, that nobody wants all those fumes.

[Jade]

That simulation of, like, where a sneeze goes that they were playing during COVID like the spittles projecting out of your mouth and where they go and how they travel through the air, that is forever. I mean, it is emblazoned on into my memory. And every time one of y' all cough or sneeze, especially on a train, I mean, or a plane. On a plane, I'm turning around looking. You think about.

[Kia]

Now, here's the thing. I told you, my mother growing up, that lady, first of all, like, she really missed her mark when she did not buy a bunch of stock. And wet ones, ones she the first I ever seen with wet ones. She some. If somebody sneezed in public, 45 minutes. That's how long that stays in the air. 45 minutes. And so what is it? But long before COVID was Donna and I, every time somebody see, that's all I hear in my 45 minutes.

[Jade]

And so, see, Donna walked so Dr. Fauci could run. I love it.

[Kia]

She did. She did.

[Jade]

Gotta have it.

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[Jade]

Dr. T. Fergo. That's my sis. Hello, Dr. Ferguson.

[Kia]

Hello, Dr. Ferguson.

[Jade]

Her pet peeve is when people can't whisper but are committed to sharing. Soft takes in my ear. And like I said, it just be breath. And my father all up in your. Yeah, girl. And I hate whispering.

[Kia]

I'm like, stop. It is.

[Jade]

It's hilarious. You know, and there are people out here in life who just do not have the physical ability to whisper. And you have to know that about yourself. Father, my. My sister, my twin, Amber child. We be in church. Amber be in the choir. Stand talking just like this. And girl. And we be like, Amber.

[Kia]

Huh?

[Jade]

I mean, what.

[Kia]

What you say, girl.

[Jade]

Be like girl. You is not whispering at all.

[Kia]

This is a deeply problematic so. This is deeply problematic, but. So my father associated vegan veganism long ago. This is long before it was a hot. He was like, if they vegan, they probably skinny.

[Jade]

Like they got so now.

[Kia]

Okay, so, you know, problematic story to share. We knew a lady was a curvaceous lady. You know what I'm saying? And so we were sitting down and she walks up an aisle and she passed us by. My father told him. My father turns to us. They go, is she still vegan? And we were like, yo, you can't do the a. You can't whisper and be.

[Jade]

You can't whisper.

[Kia]

That's problematic.

[Jade]

You can't whisper.

[Kia]

That's deeply. No, my father can't whisper for nothing. Doesn't. I don't think he tries, actually. I don't know if he's ever whispered a day in his life, if I'm being honest.

[Jade]

No, there's not a soft.

[Kia]

Because he's shameless.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Nothing.

[Jade]

Nothing about it. Similarly, when I was in my very first job with Barbara Jones Jones. Shout out to Ms. Jones.

[Kia]

Barbara Jones Jones. A legend.

[Jade]

Yes, there was. There was a. A woman at the. At. At the school where we worked who was like you said, like, you know, she was a shapely and curvaceous woman.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

And she was a Vegan. And Doc. Ms. Jones Jones. I mean, argue back and forth with that lady, like. No, you're not. I'm like, Ms. Jones, you can't tell her. You can't say that. She's telling you that. She ain't no V. She ain't no darn vegan. I know what I'm looking at, and it ain't no vegan. Look, I. I said m. You cannot say that.

[Kia]

That's not. Look, we all vegans are not a monolith.

[Jade]

First of all, you.

[Kia]

You're wrong.

[Jade]

And second of all, you're rude.

[Kia]

You understand?

[Jade]

You cannot say that.

[Kia]

Exactly. It's like. That's my fault.

[Jade]

You cannot say that. You cannot say what you want to say.

[Kia]

You.

[Jade]

I mean, like, it's like she had no concept. Like, even if you thought it, you didn't have to say it, and you most certainly did not have to say that to the woman. You can. You don't get to say that. She's not a vegan. You don't get to do that. No, but that's them. That's the mole. That's them. Boomers for you, honey.

[Kia]

Okay? And. And he's. He's at the shameless intersection of boomer and genetics, and it's dangerous. You know what I'm saying? They were coming of age when crack was. But he didn't smoke no crack.

[Jade]

But it's a while. It's a wild time. My mom and her siblings. It's like a. It's a hodgepodge of boomers and Gen X. And listen, it's been so. It's been so interesting.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

Sitting amongst them. Okay. It's just been such. Hello. It's been so wild.

[Kia]

Baking soda and vinegar is what it is in your drain. Oh. Imani Moo says when people stand in the middle of the walkway. Listen, I'm at this point, I have started directing traffic to the right. You know that lady who was leaving

[Jade]

the church at the airport? Especially when you get on the escalator. Yes. Or.

[Kia]

Or that escalator. That is not an escalator. It's just exactly. Virtually said down to the Jamiroquan.

[Jade]

You have got. If you are on the left, you are moving. If you are on the right moving, you might stand still.

[Kia]

You're standing still.

[Jade]

You can't stand in the middle of that joint.

[Kia]

Same rules as the escalator. Do that. Oh, and people who hold hands down the. Down the sidewalk, or they just be spread across.

[Jade]

Like if there's a large gap between the hands. Right. Your arm should not be extended holding these hands. Okay. Because it's only so much size.

[Kia]

Because I'm about to. I'm about to break every chain. Like,

[Jade]

you would just get it together because you don't get to monopolize the walkway. Okay.

[Kia]

No, you don't.

[Jade]

Nah.

[Kia]

No, you do not. Okay, what do we have? What you got next?

[Jade]

Um, let's see. Leroy, Gab. Okay. A lot of people pretending they're rich in a very obvious recession. We don't got it.

[Kia]

You know, it's. That is very.

[Jade]

We don't got it. Listen, you might not got it.

[Kia]

We don't have it.

[Jade]

I would say. I think I would. I would add to this. It's like we gotta worry about what we got. Okay. You can't be in. We don't have. Given the recession. We can't be concerned with what everybody got. I will like to tell. I do feel like there's something going on.

[Kia]

Zombie apocalypses start.

[Jade]

I do feel like there's something going on in the concerts, though. I feel like everybody want to have a concert right now. And to that I say, y' all got to calm down.

[Kia]

Tone deaf.

[Jade]

Y' all got.

[Kia]

You've got to relax.

[Jade]

Y' all got to calm down.

[Kia]

We are not celebrity. I and I get. People have to work. I get it. We absolutely did a live show tour last. We did before. So, you know, we also, in our pricing, we literally were intentional.

[Jade]

Right?

[Kia]

Yeah. We sat and we were like, listen, Key and I both. We told our producer at the time, we are not trying to beat people over the heads because this ain't the time for that. So it needs to be something that is accessible for folks. And that. And I get. Accessibility is subjective. I get that. That. That is a range, but within reason. You know what I'm saying? So it doesn't mean that people don't get to enjoy things nowadays. But please, Jay Z. Why are the cheapest tickets at Yankee Stadium? 800. Why'd you do that?

[Jade]

I don't. Why'd you do that? I feel like it's just the monopoly that is the. Yes, it is. I'm not. This is not me excusing the artists themselves, but I do feel like we gotta also talk about the ticket master

[Kia]

girls at the Predator. Absolutely. This is a layered conversation. Layered conversation. But I just think to the point. Yes, they are extremely, disgustingly predatory. And all those ones that allow you to like. They let people rob people and tell them that they're going to get taken, but then the day of they can snatch their away. I don't like any of that. People can buy thousands upon thousands of tickets because they. Or that's like, who be buying up Airbnbs all over Atlanta, talking about, I've got 10 of them, and you supposed to be impressed by their entrepreneurialism? You're literally stripping housing from people.

[Jade]

Yeah. Anyway, that. That landlord conversation is a very slippery slope. Okay? And I. I fear. I fear that we need to have a.

[Kia]

A deeper conversation about that honest dialogue. But I do think that there is a certain level, a certain responsibility the artist also holds, because in the same vein that we just said when we were pricing our tickets for our live shows, we were very intentional about how we priced those. So keep in mind your fan base, the people who were there with you from day one, where the economy is like, come on, y'.

[Jade]

All. Yeah, please, please, please. We got. We just got. Yeah, we've got to do better.

[Kia]

Oh, I've been hearing this a lot. Go ahead, Adriana. Adriana Avenue says job searching. I've been. I've been hearing a lot of that lately because of. Also largely due to AI, but the job markets are also horrible, a la recession. And the way that they are scanning resumes and going through resumes is. Is through these AI databases. And if people are not. They don't know all the functions and all of. All the hacks and all the different things, then their resumes are getting passed over. And these are people who are experienced. We are now of a generation where we have had a good amount of experience. You know what I'm saying? We can go into a job. Yeah, exactly. But because we can't operate AI in a certain way, a lot of very qualified resumes are being looked over. And that's like. That's like, a common theme I'm hearing these days.

[Jade]

What you got, Chevy? Oh, three to five. While using the microwave at work, someone takes out your food to heat their food. Now, that's a fight. I don't know that this has ever happened to me, but if I were to walk up on somebody touching my lunch, they might have to escort me out of that place.

[Kia]

Yeah. Don't touch my things.

[Jade]

What? Like, I almost got in a fight. I remember in undergrad, and I know that this is, like, you know, a contentious topic, but the girls, like, you know, people taking your clothes out the

[Kia]

dryer, I find that to be so.

[Jade]

Okay, I almost got in a fight for that. And I made that white girl wash my clothes again. Because, girl, I don't know nothing about you and why you was touching my

[Kia]

thing, but you're gonna give me the money. To do it. You're not gonna touch me. My clothes. Yeah, but I. I feel the same way. Just as passionately, because there's a. There's a delicate, healthy balance. Don't touch my shit. And also people who leave their shit.

[Announcer]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Like, be responsible with no consideration. Yes.

[Jade]

Like you.

[Kia]

Yes. But don't wait for my. Don't be sitting there waiting for my shit to buzz and then you come and put your filthy hands on my shit.

[Jade]

I'm coming down at the time that I know that the dryer is to. Going. Going to be stopping. And I see you already at my joint like, I'm here. You didn't even give me a chance to get here and.

[Kia]

Or a reasonable window.

[Jade]

No. Now, if I'd have left it in there overnight or, you know, for hours, that's a different story. But I didn't do that.

[Kia]

No, you didn't even wait to see somebody. You there. My clothes are still hot.

[Jade]

Exactly.

[Kia]

The steam is still coming off of them. Exactly. And now I should make you pay me money because not only do I have to rewash these clothes, but now you're putting a little bit more wear and tear on my. Because I have to rew them. So now you need to come up off a couple of dollars. You know what I'm saying?

[Jade]

I was like, I don't know anything about you. Well, I just put them on the table, but I don't know if you wipe your butt. And then, you know, came down here to, you know. I don't know nothing about you or where your hands have been. And we talk about my very clean clothes that I have just washed.

[Kia]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Jade]

So you're going to have to pay for me to rewash these things, ma', am, because I don't know anything about you.

[Kia]

And for the detergent that I use, if I use fabric softener, sheets, my vinegar, whatever I put in this, I won't. Reimbursement facts.

[Jade]

Exactly. I said, for all you know, I could have a very serious pet dander allergy. And you coming down here with pet dander all over, you touching my clothes. And now I'm sick, so. So, yeah, Chevy, if somebody touch your stuff, girl, don't listen to me, because I need everyone. We need to keep their jobs. But, girl, if I catch somebody touching my food out the microwave, it's finna be some furniture moving. Rest in peace. To Bernie Mac. I was thinking about him the other day.

[Kia]

Oh. Oh, my God. Somebody who has no business being gone.

[Jade]

We need to do a show about. We need to Have a show about people who don't have no business being dead. It.

[Kia]

What? Yeah, yeah. Cuz they really, there's a, there's a long list. I saw a story the other day of somebody who at work somebody was taking bites of people's lunch. And so like literally. I'm sorry, different people's lunches. Yes, very Michael Strahan. I think Michael Strahan looks like he steals people's lunches.

[Jade]

You mean like taking like just eating the whole thing? Not like eating off of you?

[Kia]

No, no. They were eating all. I feel like he stills.

[Jade]

Yeah, like he'll take.

[Kia]

But this, this person. But that's just like my own feelings. This particular person was in an office taking bites off of people's lunches. So wait, so they eat. Somebody takes a piece of somebody's chicken saute and then they take a bite of somebody's spaghetti. And the person who brought the spaghetti as their lunch was severely allergic to peanuts.

[Jade]

Look at that.

[Kia]

Okay.

[Jade]

Look at that.

[Kia]

Severely.

[Jade]

Now you're a murderer.

[Kia]

And so they had a reaction. Now the managers are like doing an investigation around the office trying to figure out who did this. And you know how they figured it out? They asked, they were asking people. They asked the person who did it and they turned bright red. Clue number one. They turn bright red. And they said. And they were like I just, I, I, I just wanted to try. I'm such a foodie girl.

[Jade]

Now listen.

[Kia]

And you know what the, you know what the what you know what the ramifications were?

[Jade]

Jail.

[Kia]

Because I feel three, three day suspension. You could have killed.

[Jade]

That's what I'm saying. That's why I said this is giving like first.

[Kia]

That's attempted murder. That's attempted manslaughter.

[Jade]

Do you know how entitled like there what like it feel entitled and filthy.

[Kia]

Sorry.

[Jade]

No, no. Yes. I'm just thinking like, I'm trying to think like what is the logic behind someone who would quite literally steal like, like, like what would make you feel like you have the right to open up somebody's lunch and take a bite? Foodie or not. Do you know what kind of psychosis this is?

[Kia]

Huh?

[Jade]

Exactly. This is pathological.

[Kia]

Yeah, it is. Yeah.

[Jade]

For you to think that there's nothing wrong. There is no innocent way of what. And look what you've done. That sounds like something off of like 91 1. Like that's like an episode.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

You know, somebody eating the satay and and die. And now Olivia Benson trying to figure out what the hell happened.

[Kia]

Or Elizabeth.

[Jade]

Elizabeth.

[Kia]

Except they did it on purpose, you know, it's like, oh, what a mess. Oh, my God. Did I tell you Antoinette's sister was in an episode of Elizabeth? No, Tina Celestine. She was in the. In the Christmas episode with the dance. With the ballet.

[Jade]

Nice.

[Kia]

Oh, she was the ballet teacher.

[Jade]

Okay.

[Kia]

Yes. Yeah, that. That's. That's Tina. That's my Tina.

[Jade]

Very good.

[Kia]

I love this one. White men who are not capable of holding other white men accountable. Hashtag corp America. That's right, Lewis.

[Jade]

That's very true.

[Kia]

I agree.

[Jade]

Chardemus. Hey, sis, Charadema says people who talk in all caps early in the morning. Lower your voice before I lower you.

[Kia]

Hush, hush. Talking all so far. Put your ass.

[Jade]

If you don't take some of them take that caps lock off of your throat this morning talking to me. Great.

[Kia]

Here's one in the vein of capitalism from so that's money pollen. It's nothing but mel tree sperm floating everywhere, assaulting my eyes and throat. Let me tell you something. I've never had allergies like this. This is insane. And I was literally talking about this today. I said, these people are so nasty and hateful and don't want us to have basic necessities that they literally have ripped.

[Jade]

Somebody said that to me. Was that Louis R. Courtney?

[Kia]

No, that's so. That's money, Lewis.

[Jade]

Oh, white men being unable to hold other white men accountable.

[Kia]

Oh, yes. That was Louis.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Oh, they've got some on their chest. And I agree. I agree. I feel like we have got. We have a graduation announcement.

[Jade]

Oh, yeah.

[Kia]

But maybe we do one more each.

[Jade]

Okay, we have more. Remember, we're gonna have a part two and Dustin's going to come. Content creators. Oh, sweet tea, this is Tasha. Tasha says content creators acting like they just waking up, but they set the camera up.

[Kia]

The only way that I enjoy that is when they do like go back and get the camera on camera and put it in the edit. You know what I'm saying? Like they're making fun of themselves. Type like I with that y and all of that.

[Jade]

Or the girls that like, like video themselves coming home. It's like, girl, you unlocked that door and cut that camera on.

[Kia]

You had to.

[Jade]

You had to. And then you came back in here.

[Kia]

Blessed be. Oh, it tickles me boots. Oh, yeah, you've gone.

[Jade]

You've done it.

[Kia]

Where? You've had to go back and get the camera, haven't you?

[Jade]

I have. I do it. I do it often. Just because, girl, you know, I came back. I did not leave this Camera running all day.

[Kia]

No, you know, I didn't leave, leave this phone on while I left. You know that. So let me see. I appreciate that. Okay, my last one is somebody's petty peeve, but I thought in honor of Pride Month and in general and humanity, I'm gonna call you in and I'm not gonna say your name.

[Jade]

Okay?

[Kia]

Their, their petty peeve is any pronouns, people who don't want to use he or she. Now listen.

[Jade]

Oh, no.

[Kia]

You may get irritated with me, I don't care, and I'm not going to come at your throat. But I am going to tell you, I really would challenge you to assess why that is a petty P for you. It's if. Do you call yourself she? Nobody takes issue with that. So why do you take issue with whatever people want to call themselves as far as a pronoun is considered? Does it shave anything off your life? Does it take anything away from your rent? Does it take any food out of your mouth? Does it impede on any of your rights? Does it impede on your humanity? Is it, is it impeding on your well being? Is it fucking with your lineage? Is it messing with your dependence? Is it poisoning your dog? Like, I really, really, really challenge you to sit with yourself and ask yourself why that is a petty pee for, for you. It's literally somebody else's business that has nothing else to do with you. There's so many things in this world I don't understand. But you know what? I do respect it as long as it is not with my humanity and, and, and my, my well being. You know what I'm saying?

[Jade]

Yeah. Just off the strength of like, you know, you expecting people to respect who you are, how you identify, what you would want people to refer to you as. It's just basically that I had to have a conversation when I was trying to explain this to my mom and to my grandparents. It was just that it was like, what if someone all of a sudden said that it was illegal for us to say that we were black? What?

[Kia]

Right? What? They're like, I don't like the word. I don't like that.

[Jade]

It's like.

[Kia]

And so I don't see race.

[Jade]

So you cannot call yourself black. It'd be like, girl, go straight to hell today. Like, you know, I don't want nobody telling me, you know what I'm saying? I don't want nobody to tell me how I can identify myself. And so I feel like it would be completely inappropriate and hypocritical for me to then have A judgment or an opinion. If you tell me to call you Jade, if you say that, your pronouns or she, her or hers or whatever, I'm gonna respect you and greet you as you have asked to be,

[Announcer]

you

[Jade]

know, acknowledged and greeted in the world. Like, so I feel like it's just a basic do unto others as you would have them do unto you, and it is not worth tussling over. So I share in that, and I think it invites you to sort of sit with. What about that is offensive to you? It doesn't cost you anything. And I'm sure you would want someone to respect you in a similar way. In. In the same way.

[Kia]

Yeah, the way that I respected you by not putting your name up right. Even though I. I looked at that

[Jade]

and I was like, what the right.

[Kia]

I. You know, it. I just. It's. It's not necessary, actually. It's not necessary to hold such a. A strong opinion about something that don't have to do with you. Correct.

[Jade]

It. It shouldn't. It should not. It should not. It does not matter. It is inconsequential to your life, quite literally.

[Kia]

I don't understand why people buy PT Cruisers, but I'm not getting ready to go up to every single one of them and say, I hate your baby hearse of a car.

[Jade]

Like, every time I see a cybertruck, I roll my eyes. But it is not worth it walking up to that person and saying, no,

[Kia]

why did you and I. You should not draw conclusions about the person who drives that car. And I still hold those right. But I don't need to go up to them and tell them. And it doesn't. I don't need to go around my day be like, I hate all cyber truck drivers. I hate them to see them on the road. They're obnoxious tanks.

[Jade]

But this.

[Kia]

But they don't have to do with me.

[Jade]

I told you at that time, I was at this conference at this resort in Virginia. It was a place. It was at the resort where they were doing sort of the initial onboarding for the commanders, the Washington commanders. All. All of them had to go there and get their physicals. It was like this whole thing they had to do. And so we were at the. At the convening, and it was like, in front of a wall of windows that face one of their parking lots. And a cyber truck, it was like two or three cyber trucks came and parked in, like, at the same time. It was so interesting, though, because everyone in the room, it was just so fascinating to watch 100 people have a visceral reaction to cybertruck in real time. Everyone in the room was like, oh,

[Kia]

like you see everyone in the room.

[Jade]

But you know, everyone had their moment and moved on. It was not like I'm gonna write a letter to say that all so. Exactly.

[Kia]

Let me go knock to the window. Excuse me.

[Jade]

You know what I'm saying? Like, you know, listen, you don't got to like it, you don't got to love it, but you, you do have to respect. Respect.

[Kia]

You can have all your inner thoughts that you want to have, but again, I challenge you to ask you why those are your inner thoughts. You ain't got nothing else to be worried about.

[Jade]

You don't have to understand it.

[Kia]

Yeah. I mean, yeah.

[Jade]

Opinions aside, even if you don't understand it, I would. In addition to what Jay said in your, in your inquiry is sort of exploring yourself, you know, I will also challenge you to sort of understand, like do some reading and research around,

[Kia]

you

[Jade]

know, non binary identity, what it really means.

[Kia]

It's not new or just self reflection,

[Jade]

just the gender role conversation period. Like I just think, yeah, but you know, we love you still. I wanna, we say this, we, we said these things at the kitchen table out of love. You know what I'm saying?

[Kia]

Yep. And love for everybody. Like this ain't the space. If you think you get ready to come in here with some. On some weird. This ain't it. So we just let you know that right now the wrong program spot. Yeah. You in the wrong sp. And I don't know, have you ever figured that out by now I thought,

[Jade]

yes, I'm a little, I'm a little

[Kia]

know us by now. Hey, maybe they sent that to me to. I don't know, maybe somebody was like, I'm going to piss her off. I'm not pissed. I'm sad for you.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

For you. Humans are, Humans are humans. You know what I'm saying? Do I have some problematic thoughts around certain identities? Yeah. The people who identify as raccoons and cats, you know, I have not wrapped my head around that and I don't know when I will. But as far as humans are concerned, you know what I'm saying? You respect me, I respect you.

[Jade]

That's right.

[Kia]

It's, it's really that simple. It's, it's not, it's not difficult.

[Jade]

Correct.

[Kia]

Anyway, it's time to celebrate some people over in these graduation announcements.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Shall we head that direction?

[Jade]

We shall. And remember, we're gonna do another one of these. So if you have yet not yet Submitted your Petty peeve and you want us to share yours in part two of the Petty P Palooza? Make sure you submit them to hello Getting grown co. All right, ready to do these graduation announcements?

[Kia]

Let's do it.

[Jade]

All right. See,

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[Kia]

All right, it's time for graduation announcements. You. You're welcome.

[Jade]

Hey.

[Kia]

Oh, wow. Hey, Dr. Takiya. Nicole Robertson.

[Jade]

Oh, wow. The entire name, huh?

[Kia]

And Chef Jade. Yes. My lashes. I'm writing with the graduation announcement and tenure update.

[Jade]

All right, first things first.

[Kia]

My firstborn graduated from middle school on May 14 and is heading off to high school. School. I'm so proud of the young man he's becoming. I keep telling him, before we know it, he will be planning high school graduation. He reminds me to live in the moment and not to get too far ahead of myself. Don't they do that? Here's a few captures from our talented family friend. Shout out to the one and only Jaylen Collier of Curry Street Studios for coming to capture the moment. Congratulations to Edwin Michael Hall. I am so proud. Also, because I'm on the school board, I go, I got to hand my child his diploma. Oh my gosh. What a special moment. I'll be back next year with my next teenager as she is entering in her final year of middle school.

[Jade]

Nice.

[Kia]

Second, I earned tenure and promotion to associate professor. Yeah, I'm so proud of myself. And everyone has asked me what's next. Most immediately, rest.

[Jade]

Right?

[Kia]

I know that's right. SIS is half past tired, but I'm grateful that the feet is behind me. Now. And that's from Candace.

[Jade]

Dr. Candace Hall. Do you remember Candace? The one who sent. Yeah, she was sending, like, the updates on her road to tenure.

[Kia]

Oh, yeah. I knew that name looked familiar. Congratulations. She. Congratulations.

[Jade]

And she was at the Chicago show.

[Kia]

Yes, I do remember that, actually. Congratulations. And congratulations also to Edwin.

[Jade]

Love that.

[Kia]

Yes. We are so, so proud. So, so proud. Oh, and look at the pictures.

[Jade]

Yes. All right, all right.

[Kia]

Oh, how special is that?

[Jade]

Hey. So sweet. Oh, very sweet. Very sweet.

[Kia]

Okay. I love it.

[Jade]

Greetings, ladies. Firstly, I am sending love, strength, and compassion to Dr. Kia and your family. Oh, thank you. Oh, this is from February. Okay. Yeah. My deepest condolences. Okay, next. J. You are everything. And I can't wait to see what you have in store for us with your cooking show. I know. It's coming. Come on.

[Kia]

Me, too. Thank you.

[Jade]

I would like to shout out my best friend, my right side. My mother in past lives, Karina Toussaint, who just got her bachelor's degree. She worked hard in an accelerated program for about four to six months and did the damn thing. Mother of a college graduate and a high school sophomore. She is a true superwoman. I love her more than I can express. Please give her the flowers that she deserves. And that is from Damaris.

[Kia]

Thank you, Damaris. Karina. Tuscan. Big, big, big congratulations.

[Jade]

Thank you.

[Kia]

All the roses. Damaris bumped it up.

[Jade]

Yes, the inbox. We appreciate you.

[Kia]

No, we do. That's actually. You help. You helped us.

[Jade]

You did.

[Kia]

You really did it. Damaris. That is from Game of Thrones as well. Anyway. No, that's Daenerys.

[Jade]

Oh, Daenerys is Game of Thrones. Yeah.

[Kia]

Daenerys. Yes.

[Jade]

I went to high school with somebody named Damaris.

[Kia]

I feel like I know a Damaris as well. Like, I know that's not the first time I've heard. Oh, this eyelash.

[Jade]

It came right off.

[Kia]

It was a. I looked up at us like it was flapping in the

[Jade]

wind, and I said, oh, no, please. It was just waving, y'. All. It's 10 o' clock at night. I put this lash on 12 hours ago. Okay, so it just gave up.

[Kia]

No, listen, we're still going. We're still going. Oh, I love. I love this format. Yes. All right. Hello to my beautiful getting grow, ladies. That's in the 24.5and bolt. It's Niecy Nash again, coming to the kitchen table. That's the name we gave. Okay, a couple of quick updates I want to share with you all. When I first wrote in, I mainly focused on my boyfriend wanting to live together, but I was against it for numerous reasons. As of today, we still don't live together and I was able to express to him why I'm hesitant. He didn't like my reasoning and it did put a damper on our relationship for a little bit. But now we're good and have a better understanding of each other. Good. I really believe that I'm one of those women who would in a separate house from her husband mood. All right. Okay. Because there's just something about your own space. It's so nice. You know what I mean? That doesn't mean the love is lost. Actually, it's gang honey. Okay. It is found. Found. All right. Number two, in my previous email, I failed to mention that I was in school to get my MBA with a specialization in accounting. Working full time. Being a single parent to a teenager trying to maintain connections with friends, family and a romantic partner and caring for myself had me ready to pull my hair out. But as always, I found a way. Yes, I am the first out of my mother's children to get a Master's degree. I graduated with honors as a distinguished scholar from Colorado State University Global Campus on May 29. I also joined the Golden California Key National Honor Society about a month before completing my courses. Hopefully these accomplishments will take me far. Even with all of this celebration of a milestone, I'm still processing the loss of my father, which was on Valentine's Day this year. So sorry for your loss. I remember calling him the day my final grades posted to tell him about my new degree and he told me it's time to step up. Use that degree to step up and get ahead in your career. I'm sure he's proud of me while sitting in his recliner in heaven grinning from ear to ear since his health was declining and he didn't get around much. I know traveling to my graduation wouldn't have been possible, but just the thought of not being able to call him or send him graduation pics had me boohooing like a baby to keep him close to me. I have a pin with a collage of pictures that I attached to to my cat. In a way, he walked the stage with me.

[Jade]

Yes, he did.

[Kia]

And at this point, I've accepted the fact that it's okay to cry over my dad as he is worth every tear. Oh my gosh. As always, I love you ladies and I'm beyond grateful for your weekly conversations and the way you encourage and support black women. Continue to do what you do. Thank you. Niecy Nash. And congratulations.

[Jade]

Congrats.

[Kia]

And, oh, my God, we're holding you.

[Jade]

Yes. And, yeah, you're absolutely right. You know, we know exactly what you're dealing with and how even, like, celebrations can trigger, you know, the grief of lost loved ones. But, you know, your dad is proud of you. We are proud of you. I hope you're proud of yourself. And we are appreciative of you including us in your graduation celebration.

[Kia]

You did that? I can't install an eyelash to save my life. And you really just sat up here

[Jade]

recording, See, looking at y' all for the rest of the day. Okay, I Love that. Hello, Dr. Kia and Chef Jade. I'm a longtime listener, and every week it feels like I'm catching up with old friends week after week, because you are. I love it. I'm going to have to apologize because this may be a little long, because I have a question. All right, Come on. And I also want to shout myself out because I am proud as hell of myself. I know. Come on. All caps.

[Kia]

Feeling good as hell.

[Jade]

Shout out. I struggled with a learning disability all throughout grade school and have always felt that I wasn't the smartest one in the room. I talked myself down so much that I promise once I graduate high school, I will never go back. Until my sister, who is a therapist, told me I will never succeed in higher education because of my learning disability. And after cutting her ass off, I enrolled into school, and I'm sitting at a 3.8 GPA. I made the dean's list for the very first time, and I'm so damn proud of myself.

[Kia]

Shelf.

[Jade]

I sent my bag. I want to report her period. I mean, I love this.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

I mean, I love that. I hate that.

[Jade]

I love that. No, we're proud of you.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

Let me see. So here's the problem. I'm 40, done with getting my undergrad in it. Oh, no, this is. This is an honesty box question.

[Kia]

Okay. All right.

[Jade]

We might as well we here now, so let's go on.

[Kia]

Okay. Well, all right. I love. I love a crossover.

[Jade]

Yeah, it's a crossover. So. So here's the problem. 40 done with getting my undergrad in it. I hate to say it, but AI and layoffs aren't going anywhere anytime soon, and it's only getting worse. And with everything that's happening, I decided to pivot to become a BCBA Board Certified analyst, which is actually something that I've been wanting to do since I first started working with children on the spectrum since I was 19 years old. The only reason why I decided to go into it was because of the money. And although I'm doing really good, I hate having the feeling that once I'm done, I may or may not have a job. Or if I do get one, I could be replaced at any time. I have talked to my therapist about it, but she thinks it is. Wait, hold on. She thinks it's my anxiety preparing for the worst, but I think I'm being more cautious and realistic. Another dilemma is that since I'm in school for tech, my job is paying for my tuition, which seems to be like a win. But I'm working at a call center and I'm mentally exhausted and benefits are literally the only reason why I'm holding on for as long as I can. The only way my job would pay for the BCBA route is if I just major in psych. But it will take me forever to get the hours I need to sit for state exam. If I decide the BCBA route, I would have to work at clinic, take a pay cut and lose good benefits or just get out of my head and stay in it.

[Kia]

This is the first time I decided following my dreams was worth taking the risk. Or am I too much in my head and the economy will pick up a little bit. I still have about a year left in school, so I have time to figure it out and also know the decision. I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions.

[Jade]

Okay, this email was extremely hard to write because I know that I'm extremely grateful and blessed to have a job with so many people who are affected and who are struggling. And I do apologize if this sounds like a first world problem. I appreciate you ladies again. Okay. Yeah, absolutely. And we're happy to. To help. I will say it's just hard a. Congratulations. Congratulations on the genes list.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

And for persevering despite, you know, being discouraged. And I, I have. I too am a person who is very motivated by someone telling me what I can't do. So good for you. Good for you in that regard. Unfortunately, I just feel like. It's hard to say. I feel like I am ill equipped to advise you because there is no surefire way here. And unfortunately the issue that you name around AI replacing jobs, that's not just limited to jobs in it that's going to happen across fields and across disciplines. To me it would be a matter of. I believe that we don't. I mean, I know that we educate and train our. Train and build our skills so that we could, you know, gain financial independence and do Meaningful work, get compensated for that. But I don't feel like, I think we run a risk of. I don't want you to think about your degree just in terms of, like, getting a job like you, you, I think you should build your skills and build and make your training about the kind of work that you want to do and continue to sort of remain diligent, continue to work hard, and there are opportunities that are still available even despite the crazy economic situation that we find ourselves in. And yeah, I think that if I, I would base my opinion on doing the kind of work that I wanted to do. I, I, I know that that's pretty countercultural now, particularly since everyone's turning away from, like, specialized training and more toward, like, workforce development. But I feel like we are more than what we do in our jobs. So I think if you, if there's a passion or a skill like you said that you wanted to do, you know, the work that you were doing with, you know, the kids, you know, if that's where your passion is, I say pursue that and do what you have to do so you can do what you want to do. You know, staying in school does not mean that you can't continue to do work that fulfills you.

[Kia]

Yeah.

[Jade]

So, yeah. I don't know. It's hard for me to say I'm not going to tell you what to do because I think that this is a personal choice. But I hope that what I've shared is helpful in, in terms of, like, you making a decision that, that suits your interests, your needs and the life you want to have.

[Kia]

Yeah. And if that, if that work fulfills you, I think that, and that's beautiful work. You know what I'm saying? That's work that it is hard to be replaced by. AI Also, there's nothing wrong with having something to fall back on.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

So continuing to build your experience in I T While you pursue your certifications in your degree or what have you in, and in the social work aspect, I guess, is what it is where you're working with the, the kids on the spectrum, then, you know, get you a, get you a girl who can do both. I don't, I think you can. It's very hard.

[Jade]

There's a way.

[Kia]

Yeah, I think so. I think. And you always, like you said, you use the thing that you have to fuel the thing that you.

[Jade]

Yeah. Hope that helps.

[Kia]

I hope that that's helpful.

[Jade]

Sorry.

[Kia]

I hope that's helpful. Richard Simmons.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

I don't know why that's the name I gave Came to my mind.

[Announcer]

Yes.

[Jade]

We hope that that helps you, Richard Simmons. And sorry, guys, I did not realize that this was an honesty box question that I mislabeled as a graduation announcement. But that's a bit of a bonus.

[Kia]

We're multifaceted.

[Jade]

Okay.

[Kia]

All right, moving along to our next announcement. Falling back in line. Hey, ladies. Salutations and blessings over you and yours and continued prayers for protection and strength. Thank you so much. I would like to shout out my daughter from. For graduating from fifth grade. I call her turkey. She is my Thanksgiving baby. And a beautiful blessing and reminder through every storm. I'm so proud of all her accomplishments here over the last few years. As we transition back to Kentucky, I pray your peace. Continue prayers for protection and strength. It has not been an easy feat because the ignorance and racism is bliss. More so. I'm proud of how we handled a racist teacher in her fifth grade. Yeah, gross. Burned me up inside. I knew from the second week of school when that lady wrote me upset because my child wrote the orange pumpkin. It was going to be a long year. Oh, I forgot MAGA can be teachers.

[Jade]

She.

[Kia]

I mean, because it's. Anyway, I told her she can't take anything from you because I won't allow it. And you've worked too hard to let someone destroy you. My girl has been a student athlete. She's a runner and she's a track. Yeah, she's a runner, she's a truck star and a part of several organizations. This Sunday, her team earned two second in state for their relay team. Proud mama Middle school is up next in AAU and USA atf. Track kicks off this week. Mommy. And the tribe is proud and loves you always. And after P S next May, I will be completing my masters in public administration along with a graduate certificate. Certification in non profit management. Jade xd. And you said me and the baby gonna be all right. More than living testimony and proof that God is forever good and keep moving forward and making. Making things happen. By all means. Love y' all always. Your Virgo Kentucky sister. That's from Nakia on Nakia.

[Jade]

Yeah. Nikia. And thank you for writing in and congratulations to turkey.

[Kia]

Yes, I love that and I love you know our prayers over you have continued to prosper.

[Jade]

That's right.

[Kia]

Oh, wait, we have.

[Jade]

We do.

[Kia]

We have.

[Jade]

Hold on.

[Kia]

She sent us the text.

[Jade]

Oh, yeah.

[Kia]

No, I'm about to because. Hello. Your girl has had, you know my child's name. She's in your class. I know you don't. You don't have no more than 30 of them in there. Excuse me. I'm irritated.

[Jade]

Wait a minute. With her about inappropriate it was and how that was not the directions. Her opinion should not be shared in class.

[Kia]

But I love our niece because she put that orange pumpkin got 30 votes. Hillary Clinton got 19 votes.

[Jade]

She said her opinion should not be shared in class. Who said?

[Kia]

Who said why?

[Jade]

When?

[Kia]

Since when is that a thing? Good. You know what? Don't.

[Jade]

Go ahead, Turkey.

[Kia]

Anyway. Okay. Moving right along, Turkey. Let me look at your picture.

[Jade]

Look at you.

[Kia]

Yes. With your block.

[Jade]

Precious lamb carry niece.

[Kia]

I love it.

[Jade]

Absolutely.

[Kia]

Okay. Thank you. I love that. Yeah. I'm putting that lady in the freezer. All right, next up.

[Jade]

Hi, Jadakia. I love the podcast. You two have become my guiding light as I navigate my 30s. Oh. Shout out to all the amazing guests who come on the show and the knowledge they share with the audience. My graduation announcement is to give the biggest congratulations to my little nephew Ezra on his graduation from Pre K. He's been such a light in the family, and I'm so proud to be his. Auntie TT Pam loves you Easy. And that's from.

[Kia]

Yes, Easy Pam.

[Jade]

Thank you, Pam.

[Kia]

I love it. Thank you. And congratulations, baby.

[Jade]

Easy.

[Kia]

Okay. On your trek. You. I already get. You're you already off to a good start with your nickname. That's a nice. I know.

[Jade]

It is good.

[Kia]

I like that nephew. Go ahead, Ezra. Eazy. E. All right. Praise the Lord. Greetings and salutations, Dr. Key and Chef Dr. J. Put some respect. I'm a long time listener, first time writer, because my time to brag is now. I want to shout out my babies who graduated from high school last year. I wrote in, but I didn't hear it, so I'm okay. Well, thank you. We appreciate in case it didn't get delivered. This is a little long because I had a slew of. All right, let's go. My nephew, Jamari.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

Okay. Known. Better known as okay. She graduated on May 14, 2025 from Springfield High School's Innovation Program in Springfield, Tennessee. This accomplishment is even more special because he lost his mom, my sister, suddenly, in September of 2023. She was 43 years old. I know she's looking down on him, smiling and doing her signature.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

Oh, my goodness. Sending all of you all love. My son in love, EJ grad Eric Jr. Graduated on May 22, 2025, from Logan County High School and Russellville, Kentucky. Lots of Kentucky. Today, the day before his graduation, he showed out on the baseball field helping his team clinch the District championship. He plans to go to trade school at Southern Kentucky Community College in Bowling Green, Kentucky, focusing on electrical and plumbing. I know that's right. Let me tell you all something. I like to go back to the days.

[Jade]

Yeah. Okay.

[Kia]

Let's get back into these trades.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

My niece, Takaya.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

Mason, also graduated from Logan County High School in Russellville, Kentucky, on May 22, 2025. She's my basketball baby and is attending Volunteer State Community College in Gallatin, Tennessee, on a basketball scholarship. Lastly, my daughter Amaya graduated from Franklin Simpson High School in Franklin, Kentucky, on May 26, 2025. She graduated summa cum laude with a senior scholar designation for her 3.91 GPA. Do it. Okay. She is now attending the University of Kentucky, majoring in biology. Her goal is to matriculate and graduate school and ultimately pursue a career in pharmaceuticals, aiming to disrupt big Pharma from the inside. Yeah. Even though they massacred my wallet. I know they did. I am a beyond proud mom and aunt and can't wait to see what this new chapter in their lives brings. Thank you for taking the time to spotlight their achievements. I love and appreciate y' all real bad. And that's from Micaiah.

[Jade]

Thank you. Thank you.

[Kia]

All right, so we have to say congratulations to. To Jamarius, AKA Cash, ej, Takaya, and Amaya. And Amaya. I know that's right. And also I'm praying extra protections of strength over yalls, nerves and all of the. I don't even know where half of these places are outside of Bowling Green, Kentucky. Yeah. And I just don't like how they sound. So I'm praying strength over the nieces and nephews.

[Jade]

Yes, indeed.

[Kia]

All the protection.

[Jade]

Okay, last one for the day. Hello, Shape J and Dr. Takiya. I've been a listener since the very first episode and look forward to hearing from you all each week. I love how your show has transformed over time and remains informative, entertaining, Black af and real as hell. Thank you for using your fraction of the Internet in such a meaningful way. That was very kind. Thank you.

[Kia]

Thank you. Thank you so much.

[Jade]

Now, onto the business at hand. I want to take this time to shout out my son, Jordan Isaiah Little, who graduated from pre k on Saturday, May 31. I'm so proud of him and all he's done to prepare for kindergarten and truly hope he is proud of himself as well. We're working hard to ensure that he feels proud of himself and does not solely seek the validation of others in order to feel secure in himself, but also not become an arrogant. But I digress.

[Kia]

I know that's right.

[Jade]

He's been at the center since he was six months and stated and started in the middle of the pandemonium. Him. It was definitely not an ideal time to leave my child. But the ways these bills are set up. I'm so grateful for his school and teachers. We pray for them in our nightly prayers. They have been amazing and have poured into him immeasurably. Jordan is incredibly smart, kind, and loves to eat. Y', all, please pray for my grocery bill because he is already eating me out of house and home. And he for. He loves to build.

[Kia]

Expose him to everything.

[Jade]

He loves to build and learn. Sight and cvc. Oh, come on. Consonant. Vowel. Consonant.

[Kia]

Words.

[Jade]

Sight. Word. Okay, Right now when he grows up, he wants to be a firefighter, a chef and a doctor, period. Whatever he grows up to be and do, I know he will be great. Jordan, I know you're not listening, but mommy loves you.

[Kia]

No, you better not.

[Jade]

And I'm so proud of you, boo. And that is from October. Octavia. A little.

[Kia]

Oh. Oh, thank you, Octavia. Hold on. We got pictures of Jordan, honey. Okay, she got him walking away from the little. From the little toys.

[Jade]

I love.

[Kia]

I love this trend. I love this.

[Jade]

Look at him. Mission complete.

[Kia]

Oh, look at the beautiful black family. I love this. Okay, come on, pre K. Jordan. Look at your little smile.

[Jade]

Thank you.

[Kia]

I love it.

[Jade]

Thank you so much, Octavia, and congratulations to Jordan and your family. We're very excited and thank you for listening and being a part of our getting grown family and community. We love you. We love Jordan.

[Kia]

We do.

[Jade]

Thank you, guys.

[Kia]

We do. And I think we're gonna wrap our episode right here.

[Jade]

I think that's a good place to do it. We have had all the petty peeps.

[Kia]

Okay.

[Jade]

And yeah, so.

[Kia]

And the petty peeves are my self care this week, if I'm being honest.

[Jade]

Very much the same. We thank you guys so much. Sick as it may, nothing healing, therapeutic, honest. Okay. Radical transparency. We are grateful for you guys and for joining us at the kitchen table. We really do love it here and we're grateful that you guys hang out with us every week. Thank you guys for sending in all of your petty peeves and know that the conversation is ongoing. We will welcome Dustin back as soon as schedule permits.

[Kia]

Yes.

[Jade]

To continue the conversation. And thank you guys for submitting your graduation announcements. There's still time if you still want to submit yours. This is our favorite time of the year and we love to celebrate with you and your loved ones. So please continue to send your announcements to. Hello Getting grown co.

[Kia]

Amen.

[Announcer]

Amen.

[Kia]

And thank you to everybody who sent them this week. And make sure I'm about to buck this up. But it's all gay. Make sure sure you are hydrating.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

The very largest organ that you have.

[Jade]

That's right.

[Kia]

Which is your body.

[Jade]

That's right.

[Kia]

So you need to drink some water.

[Jade]

Yes.

[Kia]

And you know, in light of our, our, you know, our cousin who wrote in with that wonky ass opinion, you make sure you're minding your business.

[Jade]

It's very, very gotta do that.

[Kia]

It's very important, especially if at times, you know, there's times for us to mind our communities, but then there's times for us to really sit and mind our.

[Jade]

Got to worry about yourself.

[Kia]

Okay.

[Jade]

Got to do it.

[Kia]

Got to do it. Especially when yourself has some things to worry about. And lastly, you want to make sure. Just lost the listener and you're by. You want to make sure y' all are whipping out that nivea, that cocoa butter, the shea butter, all of the things. Make sure you're moisturizing. Summertime is upon us and I love that for us because we deserve. But also your knees are about to be out.

[Jade]

Yeah.

[Kia]

And we need you to make sure that you hit those things because your

[Jade]

black will crack if it's dry. And we don't want to see your dry, your dry, ashy heels, elbows, ankles and things of that nature either.

[Kia]

Jaden Kia out. Peace. Millennial peace.

[Jade]

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