
Jade, Keia, and the GG community at large connect around the kitchen table to discuss our petty peeves. We got a lot to be mad about!
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Kia
Thought I had my degree in life
Jade
and I love
Kia
ought to be on a run I had a one step plan to prove it got in my pocket for fools, folly and fun Love had to show me one thing I was so right so all right Thought I could turn emotion on and off I was so sure, so sure but
Jade
love
Kia
taught me who was, who was who was the boss. Do you know that song?
Jade
I have heard it. Toward the end, it was the. It was starting to. To makes sense. Yes, but in the beginning, that was
Kia
probably a user error.
Jade
In the beginning I was like, let me keep listening.
Kia
Yeah, no, I mean, it's probably most definitely.
Jade
But you have to remember that, you know, I was a church baby and so there were, you know, I did get exposed to a lot of things until a little bit later.
Kia
No, that's fair. That's fair.
Jade
You know, but if you want to go back and if you was in here singing the old James Cleveland, I'd have picked it right up what you was putting down.
Kia
You know, maybe next week I'll start off with the James Cleveland.
Jade
First of all, I have gone back. I've fallen so in love with a curious C. Davenport that I have gone
Kia
back to revisit season 11. What did I. Yes, sister. Listen. I watch a' keria in every iteration. Season 11, the first all star she was on. And this one, I love her so much. I love her so much.
Jade
Same. And I've been enjoying. And I also remembered that silky is also on that. On that season 11.
Kia
Yeah, she was.
Jade
It was a wild ride. I'm about halfway through it. I was watching it last night, so I'll probably keep going after we finish recording. But I was like, albertina, Albertina Walker.
Kia
Let me tell you something. Law Roach, you did your big one with that one. That was an amazing reference. It was a very black reference.
Jade
So good, because the girls that get it, it was okay.
Kia
It was very Chicago. It was a very Chicago reference.
Jade
It was amazing.
Kia
It was just poor.
Jade
It was black. It was so black.
Kia
Yeah, it was so black. It was very multifaceted. I was very grateful.
Jade
Well executed. And we can always count on law for amazing referen.
Kia
Are you caught up on Drag Race? How are you feeling thus far with the second bracket? So.
Jade
Okay, that's an excellent question. Use my words. It's gonna be interesting. Right? I feel like there's this, like, black and brown divide.
Kia
Are you talking about tres leches?
Jade
Tres leches. And what's the one that. That her. The one that keeps. They keep having, like, they go at it with Silky. Her and Silky keep going at it. And they just had.
Kia
Oh, April.
Jade
Cardiocardium. And so I can't really gauge how playful, you know what I'm saying?
Kia
You're feeling. You're feeling microaggressions
Jade
very strongly. You know, several times I found myself like, now, wait a minute. Wait a minute, April.
Kia
Yeah. I told xd, and I'm glad you said that, because I told XD when we were covering it, I was like, you know, I feel like it's. There's, like, a little bit of mean in there, you know, And I know the girls like the. I know they like the banter, but also, I was like, no, the. What's not helping, though, what. I will say microaggressions aside, because that is absolutely a conversation. Silky's getting on my nerves.
Jade
Going back to season 11 helped me remember that this is not new.
Kia
No, but remember, I don't. Did you watch the All Star? She came back. Apparently she did an international season, but I. I'm not counting that because I didn't watch. Did you watch the all stars after season 11 where she came back and she was like, I got a lot of hate for my personality. And we felt bad, you know what I'm saying? Because it was like, nobody wants to make you feel bad about yourself, but you was doing a lot. And you said you were doing a lot because you wanted to be seen on tv.
Jade
Correct.
Kia
And then they were like, silky, you're. You're playing down your personality this season. Oh, I'm not feeling the spark, you know, et cetera, et cetera. And then this season, what I told XD was it feels like she was doing what she was doing in season 11 without saying, I'm trying to be the star of the show.
Jade
I do agree that I think she's being a bit more strategic. But the, but the sentiment is still the same. The intention is still the same. And I, I'm wondering what is the long game? Like, do you think the long game is still like a spinoff television show? Because this is her fourth time. This is her fourth.
Kia
Silky is not getting a spin off television. Jujubee was on Drag Race for like 75 seasons.
Jade
Exactly. So I'm trying to figure out, like, if we know that this is not a potential outcome, like, what is the long game that you're playing?
Kia
She wants to win. She's a pageant queen, so winning is a big deal. Right. And I think it would be some level of accomplishment for her personally. But my issue is that she feel, she feels entitled to winning and, and all of this energy she keep. Because she's keep. Like, I've been on here four times. Okay, that's a choice.
Jade
That is a choice. A strong contender. Like, she performs well. But I agree, and I hear what you're saying around this sense of entitlement because it does sort of feel like.
Kia
Because if that's the case, Vivacia could be like, well, bitch, I've been doing drag for 100 years.
Jade
Exactly.
Kia
And I've been on, you know, I was on here so long ago, and it's my time to shine. Like, no, vivacious. Just like I'm gonna be this first grade tractor and do my job.
Jade
What in the John Deere, I said, hold on. It always gives party city. And I, and you know, I embrace because, you know, you know, auntie is an elder. Okay. So I'm like, yes, yes, she's necessary.
Kia
She's necessary.
Jade
Yes. And I enjoy like the jerk chicken. I enjoyed. But, but I also, I feel like, I think in Suki's case, this is something that happens a lot or I've experienced a lot. People feel like because they're talented or because they perform well, they don't have to treat people nicely. It's almost like, you know, it's like, yeah, you perform well and you show up and you do win challenges and you do these things, but you still have to be kind. You have to be nice.
Kia
You do.
Jade
Like, you know that that does not absolve you. It doesn't entitle you to show up in this space and act how you want to act. You still have to, you know, be communal. Because I see, it's like, you know, when we are engaged in this together, we create the culture, we co Create the culture, we co create the vibe. You got to own your responsibility in that. And I. I experienced Silky as feeling like because she performs well, she. She get to act any old kind of way. She don't. She doesn't have any regard for how other people experience her.
Kia
No. And also the fact that other people also perform well. And your job here is to perform as well to your capabilities for the chance of winning this title. But you don't get to just keep saying it and think that it is supposed to be yours. Correct. Now, XD said he thinks she's just like, she's slated to be in the next round and so she doesn't know how to hide that. That's what he said.
Jade
It's like. You think it's like.
Kia
Well, the one thing that we're thinking about production wise is that, remember the last time Akira was on All Star, she left.
Jade
That's true.
Kia
And so when she was supposed to sing against Silky, she actually didn't show up and Silky ended up doing that Barbie.
Jade
Oh, so you think they're gonna give us that money?
Kia
So we think we might be getting some sort of redemption of a Silky Akira lip sync or whatever from that to play off of that moment. And I don't think Vivacious is going to win. I said before, she is. She is important and necessary to the conversation. I think she's happy to be there. And I think the young queens and all of the young audience should be exposed to Vivacious and pay her dues and her respect and give her her FL flowers for where she stands in the community and how long she's been performing this in the way that she's always held this as like a true art form and it's hers, you know what I'm saying? And so I think she's very important to be there. I just don't see her winning Crystal Method, though.
Jade
Oh, see, Yes, I am. I find Crystal Method's approach to drag to be so refreshing.
Kia
Oh, it's so good. It's so good. From that butter to that rooster. Yes. Stop.
Jade
I'm inspired by the fact because it is, it is. It is fun and campy and it's even like cartoony. But it's still polished. It's still.
Kia
It's polished in the details.
Jade
Oh, she's nasty with the details. It's like there's an artistry and an excellent.
Kia
Yeah,
Jade
it's not cheap. Okay, here it is. Hear me out. It's cartoony, but it's still expensive.
Kia
Yes, yes, exactly. Yes.
Jade
It's well done, well executed, and I enjoy. You know what I'm saying? I feel like, and this is why we talked about last week, what I love about Drag Race and Drag Race All Stars, I feel like it exposes me to all the ways that dragon culture exists. Like, there's so many different approaches to drag, and everyone gets to do it.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
Their own way. Because even going back to season 11, I have also. This was when we were first introduced to Yvie, oddly.
Kia
Yes. And I, you know, I love Yvie.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
I love Yvie. Yvie came through on All Stars in this crayon look, and I was like, the way that she. From head to toe, also her details in the way that she performs her drag as well. I just, I. I do. I agree with you. And I even had to check myself because I don't be interested in a lot of these younger queens that come in conversation is happening. I'm really worried about nothing you got to say. But I think, to your point, it's important to see all the aspects from the vivacious and the original ballroom down to the girls who do social media drag. And they're, like, not great performers necessarily, because that's not their space. They're not the club kids, but they. They still are carrying the tradition in their own ways and with innovation in that way. And so, for sure, I do. I love to see the gambit. I love to see the gambit on Drag Race. I think it's a. It's. Aside from the. The. Aside from capitalism in the way that it has kind of. It's a while, you know, it does
Jade
everything going back to episodes and watching. I mean, it's good to see the show sort of, like, grow and expand. But there are those vestiges, right? The vestiges of, like, you know, broader capitalism and all the ways in which, like that. Those conventions of capitalism just seep into the artist. And even, Even. Even through their activism and the ways in which they call a speak truth to power around specific issues. There's still some.
Kia
But, you know, you know, RuPaul be fracking. So, like, you know, Bobby drag queen, the fracking.
Jade
Good times. But no, I'm excited.
Kia
Good time.
Jade
About to see. Because this is the last episode in bracket two, right? Coming up.
Kia
We got one more. Yeah, one more bracket two coming up. And then we have bracket three starting. And I do. I do like how they are getting intimate in each bracket so that we feel like we are getting time with the queens whether we want it or not. I appreciate that.
Jade
I'm Interested in how this wild card is going to go too, at this.
Kia
I know. And I told XD I'm ready to get to like, Snatch Game. I'm ready to get to like some Drag Race, you know what I mean? So, like, let's hurry up and get through this bracket.
Jade
Right?
Kia
Exactly, exactly.
Jade
Let's get this cast fully baked so
Kia
we can get to it. I want to pick my own. Oh, you know what we should do one day? We should do like a fantasy.
Jade
Oh my God, like a fantasy Drag Race season.
Kia
Yeah, we'll do that with xd. We'll all three do that together. Okay, I like that. I like that. Okay, well. Oh, also, I wanted to say unrelated, welcome home to Dominique Morgan.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
I was really happy to see her.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
You know, and listen, I don't have, I don't have thoughts and opinions around any of that because I, I don't, I'm not well versed and I don't
Jade
intend to, you know, I don't, I don't see it as my business to get into. I know that I value and appreciate Dominique's perspective and the content that she create. I like the space that she takes up and so I'm happy to have her back, you know, doing.
Kia
And also I think the other side to the conversation that just has continued to ping me is I'm like, listen, there's always details and nuance and things that we don't know and all kinds of stuff. Right. And also, I don't want to a, I don't want to see most black people get arrested. I don't want to see black women get arrested. And, and I don't want to see black trans women because that is such a harmful, harmful, toxic space that already does not lend to rebuilding and recidivism and so forth.
Jade
Right.
Kia
It's just modern day slavery. And so for our sisters who are in a very specific space where they are already constantly at, in danger because of society, because of our government, because of all kinds of, because all kinds of reasons that just don't feel like the way to hold anybody accountable if that's what somebody felt needed to be done or whatever the case is. So I, I, you know, I know that's a much larger conversation and I'm not saying it in the most eloquent way, but, but I, I think that is an important note. You know what I'm saying?
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Prison ain't the answer for everything. You know what I'm saying?
Jade
Yeah. I think it does sort of beg a deeper, a deeper dive into sort of.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
You know, looking at these things, like through a systemic lens, but also at the same time, you know, holding space for the nuance that surrounds every situation. So.
Kia
Mm.
Jade
I am a fan of Dominique and, you know her work.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
And so.
Kia
And like you said, her perspective.
Jade
Perspective. I like the spaces she takes up, the conversations that she starts, the storytelling, all of that. Yeah. So, I mean, and I enjoy. I enjoy her content. You know, she is someone whose content I always, you know, engage with. And, you know, she's one of the aunties. You know, there's a relation there. Like, you know, there's always a rift. I feel like, you know, we were cut from. You know what I'm saying? We all.
Kia
You absolutely are. Because the very first time I ever saw Dominique, I literally. I said, yo, that's Kia.
Jade
I live.
Kia
The cadence of many things is just. It's so familiar. Exactly. It's so, so familiar.
Jade
I said this.
Kia
So familiar.
Jade
This is. Huh. Because we know. I love.
Kia
So I just. Yeah.
Jade
Yeah. So all. Absolutely. I'm a big, big fan and I'm happy that Dominique is home. I was talking to Senia and she was like, oh, my God, Dominique need to be at the kitchen table. I said I would. Absolutely.
Kia
I agree. Actually, I. I was actually going to ask you about that. I was like, I feel like we should at least shoot the shot.
Jade
Oh, I would love that. I actually wanted to shoot this because, you know, I just know that she's probably inundated with all the things because she actually finally got into the Cheyenne Bryant. And, you know, I wrote a sub stack and I was like, I'm just gonna. Maybe I'll just send it to her. I would just love to hear her. Her thoughts, but we'll see. Let's. I do think it's worth shooting the shot. We would love to have my good sister.
Kia
I would for sure.
Jade
Table. Because I do feel like, you know, we, you know, that's my sister. I don't know why, but she just is. Yes.
Kia
No, you all. You all are very similar in that way. Very, very similar in that way. And I enjoy partaking and experience, so. And yeah. And then, you know, aunties, across the board, there's a foundation that there's a. There's a. A wire that runs through all of us.
Jade
A common thread.
Kia
Aunties, a common thread. And then, of course, all of us of the. Of the same age brackets.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Same thing as, you know, there's many similar experiences, etc. Etc. So I would absolutely love to do that if you are listening to this and you want to help us shoot our shot, we'll take it. We sure hello at getting grown co. Well, we have a fun kitchen table to get into. So should we do it?
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Jade
All right, I'm excited because as we said, if you made it to the end of the show, the kitchen table after the kitchen. After our amazing kitchen table with Nedra.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
I was just kind of drained and I asked the Internet to help me with the petty peeve and was inundated with with response. I asked y' all what y' all was mad about and we got a lot to be mad about. And so we thought it would would be a good idea to just have a good old fashioned because we've done this before. We haven't done it in a little while, but have a good old fash petty p palooza. All the same to me playing Jane Spaghetti.
Kia
And I want to be very responsible of the things I say to my sister because everybody know I can be real petty P e to the tty honey, I got a lot to be mad about and it's going to be multiple parts because we. We did. Dustin was supposed to join us, but he is doing big, big things in Detroit. In Detroit hosting an incredible conference. And so. And so he was not able to join us this particular episode. But he will be on for the part.
Jade
Yes. Now you know that, that we. Dustin does not have to work hard to find the petty. And he will. He's always ready to join us in these petty streets. And so he will be back for.
Kia
With context.
Jade
Hello. He will be back for. For, you know, subsequent parts. You know, we're going to kick it off, Jade and I sharing our petty peeves and the ones that you guys have shared with us and then, you know, we'll just see where it goes. I was telling Jay one, I will start off with a personal one of my own.
Kia
Okay.
Jade
And this is just an experience that I'm having mainly at work, but just also in the world. Right. I understand that. I understand that we can't help sort of the way that we speak. Right. The tone and tenor of our voices are just naturally. They are what they are. But I experience this infantilization that happens. I get it at work a lot, but also just like out in the wild as well from other women. Right. I perceive particularly when. Okay, so I know it. We as women, there's a way that we can engage when men are present or even when there isn't some perception of a power dynamic. And I experience some women lean into that and instead of saying things with their chest or asking, you know, questions, you know, from a place of like, you know, genuine curiosity, they try to manipulate the conversation in their favor and lean into patriarchy to do it. So it's like there are some folks who I don't work with directly all the time, but like even just sort of going in and out of the office, I experienced a way that certain women get real mousy when they're talking and it grinds my very gears. I was just, hey, if you had a few. And I'd Be like, let me tell you something. Clear your throat and say it with your chest.
Kia
Stop, please stop. Drink some water.
Jade
Tiptoeing. Stop. You know, there's this like, you know. Oh, well, it's like you. They preface, they disclaim instead of just saying what it is.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
Hey, if you have a second. If you don't. No, worry.
Kia
It's not theater.
Jade
Exactly. And it's almost like, you know, they don't do it to. It makes me feel like I'm like. Do you think that I'm like some big scary person that's going to like beat you or something? Why are you feel like you gotta approach me like I'm the wiz or something?
Kia
Like. Right. Okay.
Jade
Oh, oh. If you don't mind, could you just. Girl, what do you want? Like, say it with your child.
Kia
Grow up, Fievel. Okay.
Jade
Clear your throat, drink some water and stop whispering around me. Please stop with this little teeny, tiny child. Like. And I'm not saying everybody got to show up to the function with the manly Stanley, because I know sometimes that's what I give. Because that's what.
Kia
No, but you know, when it's a cover up for not.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
Not wanting to. To, you know, for trying to play down whatever it is you're trying to say or whatever.
Jade
To come off too strong and it's like, is it like. I don't know, there's just a placating that happens and it is very palpable to me. And I see it. And when I am working with younger, younger women or younger people and I see it, I try to find a way to be like, hey, hey, cut that out. Like, like it is something that if you're not careful, it's a habit or something that you will feel pressured to do. And it's like, you don't have to perform that way. And I'm not talking about. You know, sometimes there is a way in which, when I know something, I might ask a question so that you hear how stupid you sound. That's not what I'm talking about. Let me just make.
Kia
No, you're talking about a Yes, a little pacifying.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Tone to. Yeah, I know. No, I know exactly.
Jade
It's like, girl, please stop whispering and whimpering and wringing your hands. Okay? Nobody in here, we don't have to be scared of none of these people in here. Okay?
Kia
What, you have a demographic?
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
That. That loves to lean into that.
Jade
Yes. It's like what you have to say is important. What you have to say is valuable. If you if you act like it. So stop acting like you inconvenience and everybody with your opinion, okay? Like, sit up straight and clear your throat.
Kia
Or if you about to say some fucked up shit to me, don't say it with that, you know, ratatouille ass voice either.
Jade
Girl.
Kia
Now that's where I want you to just put it, Pull it out, put it on the table and say it. Say how you mean it contrastly that same demographic. What grinds my gears, especially that I've been noticing lately in certain settings that I've been in, are those who claim to be allies. Right? You know what I'm saying? They like, they, they love to tell you what black. What black people created or what they know black people created. You know, they wear their keffiyeh, you know what I'm saying? They do. They try to do all of the grandstanding to show that they are allies in every space, right? And then they become so comfortable in that allyship that they forget that, that there is a place that they are supposed to hold in this space. Because if you really for us, then you know when you need to fall
Jade
back and you also know when you need to put your privilege where your mouth is and say the thing exactly that is risky or non privileged people
Kia
to say or do exactly. So that drives me up a wall and I've been experiencing that lately and I'm like, okay, all right, cool, right. And they still perform different microaggressions, but then act shocked when you call those things out.
Jade
It's a wild ride out here.
Kia
It is. But I want to get to some of these supporters. Petty Pete.
Jade
Oh, yes.
Kia
I am excited to see what you all had to say and how petty it gets. Do you want to start you or do you want to ping pong? How you want to do it?
Jade
We can ping pong. I can start. Oh, Denise. O h h, Denise with two E's, says, my petty peeve is when I purposefully park far out or far away from the place and somebody raggedy ass parks right next to me. It's like, girl, I went out there so I wouldn't have to deal with y' all and here you come over here.
Kia
That's like using a bathroom stall right next to the one somebody's using when there's a whole bunch of other empty ones.
Jade
Or you on the train sitting in the corner minding your business and there's a host of other seats and somebody come and sit right next to me.
Kia
And you come and sit next to me.
Jade
Like, why you need to be over here. You don't.
Kia
You don't.
Jade
You have no business here. And here you are.
Kia
Why did you come by?
Jade
What? What?
Kia
That's what I mean. I have to assume that, you know, there's things going on. If it's empty, you want to come sit right next to me. That's what I know. I'd probably need to move on to a different car because I don't have time for this today. In my youth, I had kicked a. In the chest on the train. That's not. That wasn't a problem. That.
Jade
Oh my God.
Kia
Did I ever tell you that story?
Jade
No.
Kia
I think I was living. I think I was living in the Bronx. So I took the fortraight a lot because I live between the one and the four. So I'm on the fortrain. We're at 125th. Okay, this gets on the train. And this is clearly not well, but so he's like very physically aggressive, right? Like he's walking around the train, he's beating his chest. He's just doing weird pull up in the park. But like on the train. And the 4 train gets real violent at times. Like it really gets to rock. So. So this is doing all of this and it's like. So everybody just mind their business, act like they don't see it. He's walking around the train, doing this in front of people. All of a sudden, for a train starts fortuning and this starts ping ponging from the motion of the train, right? So he's knocking into people, so people pushing him. So now it really is a game of ping pong with this little. Because he's a little.
Jade
Of course, they're always so Napoleon being
Kia
all like, you know it. And so I. So I'm sitting there and I'm like, please don't let this come flying in my direction. Like now I gotta really pay attention. I tried to act like I didn't see what was going on. And all of a sudden, here comes this little nigga flying in my direction. And when I tell you I lifted my leg and boot bathed that nigga. And we got to the next stop and they pushed him off the track. And because he was little, when I boot bait him, it was between his stomach and his chest, so. And I was not high kicking, no sir.
Jade
I didn't even have to raise my leg that far to kick you in your chair.
Kia
It wasn'. It was. It was, you know, very simple. But you, you do it a lot on here. Okay, let me see here. Is it My turn.
Jade
Sure.
Kia
My co worker. Oh, this is. I'll read some of your names. Depends on the petty. Okay.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Oh, mama Mo, the Virgo. Hello, queen.
Jade
Hey.
Kia
Hello, gang. Says my co worker hums all day. It's like nails on a chocolate. Now here's my question. Here's my question. Is it like a. Is it like a church? Is it like a funeral home Hug. Right? Or is it like. Is it like a Disney princess? Or is it like a Angela Ledsbury? Right?
Jade
Is it like a. Is it like a top 40? Are we humming, like, popular songs?
Kia
Right.
Jade
Or are you deep?
Kia
Is it giving Maggie Smith? Yeah. Right?
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
You know, I need to know what kind of humming it is. You're have to write to us. I love context.
Jade
Oh, yeah.
Kia
But that made me giggle
Jade
because then, like, is it like how your grandma used to hug, right?
Kia
Like, is it cohesive humming or is it just, like, scattered and chaotic? I'm just curious. What is it?
Jade
What is it, kid? Yeah, I would love to learn more. I would.
Kia
Please write us hello at getting grown co. What you got?
Jade
King Keith TW says his petty peeve is having to help my mama find her verification codes in her email and text message because. Yes. Okay.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
I'm so tired of being Rhonda's help desk.
Kia
Ah, a tiscuit and a task.
Jade
Whoa.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
It is wild because they never know how to do anything. Now, how. How? When my mom was here and she saw me use the Apple pay. Now what is that? And I said, my. So I saw that. I saw that you were in the store. You. So you paid with your phone. Now, does my phone do that?
Announcer
How.
Kia
Does she have an iPhone?
Jade
Yeah. And then it was like, oh, I say my. I show my loc, share my location with her when I travel, and it's like, she never know where to find it. It's like, girl, what's the point? I mean, you done made me share it with you.
Kia
You are a kid.
Jade
You gotta call me and ask me how to find it. Girl, if I answer the phone, you don't need the location. You see how that works?
Kia
I don't know which is where my father. You know, my father has my. I am my father. Okay, so when they first started putting newspapers on the Internet, my father, he didn't know how to switch to the next page. So it would be like, I'm done with this one. But my mother. It's like an opposite of your petty peeve. It's like literally the polar opposite. I want my mother, like, now. Mother to socials. Yeah, Yo, I need her to get off. Like, off of chat.
Jade
GPT.
Kia
I hate her AI.
Jade
Oh, my God. My mom is not on air.
Kia
Burns my brain. Do you hear me? I'm like, stop. She put that I'm a strong black woman and I. Blah, blah. You know, the AI. She did one of those posts for my birthday, and I was like, this is an AI. I'm a phenomenal black woman. Like, I hate it. So. And then she. I told you. She'd just be like. Instead of using Google Maps, she'd be
Jade
like, let me ask Chad.
Kia
I'm like, stop, Stop. Get off of chat.
Jade
My mom is not asking chat. You know, crazy. And I hate that. That's the thing people say now that kind of burns me up.
Kia
Chat.
Jade
That's a petty peeve.
Kia
Chat.
Jade
Y' all be like, oh, let me ask Chat. Like, chat is not a person. What are y' all talking about? What? Oh.
Kia
Oh. It drives me up a wall. Do you hear me?
Jade
Oh,
Kia
wait. My next one said. My next one is from Alicia. She says in general, sick of them.
Jade
Okay. Similarly, Leonard Taylor. Dr. Taylor says white.
Kia
Hello, Dr. Taylor.
Jade
Yes. He says white opinions, but more specifically on non white things. White opinions on what was I. I
Kia
just talked about to be too comfortable. Get too comfortable in the spaces. I think I had one. Hold on. There was one that was similar to that.
Jade
People make it. Yes, People make up words. Bebe2o says people saying uncomfortability instead of saying discomfort. Uncomfortability.
Kia
It's discomfort.
Jade
It is discomfort. I don't like. I don't believe like. But there is a thing where people make up words. There are some words where it's like. Like. I know it happens a lot in church where people say things and it's like, that's not a word. Kind of like conversate.
Kia
Yeah, conversation. They did it. So they. They bullied them into making it a word.
Jade
Wow.
Kia
And I protest. I protest avidly. Yeah, look it up right now.
Jade
I didn't know it's actually sick right now. My mother would be.
Kia
I know. Livid. Because she incense.
Jade
Do you hear me? I mean, her lips would be tight about it.
Kia
What? That is not a word.
Jade
That is not a word.
Kia
It's converse.
Jade
And I used to say, mom. We have to say mom. Let me ask you a question. She'd be like, axe, Hatchet. Are you going to cut me?
Kia
I'm like,
Jade
relax yourself. Okay. You getting. You're getting beside yourself now. I'm just gonna look. Uncomfortability. That can't be a word. Because, like, that feels so cumbersome. It's.
Kia
It's discomfort.
Jade
Yeah, it says that it's a word. Is it discomfort or uncomfortability? Discomfort is the standard recognized. Now, uncomfortability is technically a valid noun, but it is very rarely used.
Kia
Conversate. Conversate. Oh, wait, okay, there's one here that cackled. Had me cackling.
Jade
Okay.
Kia
Do not like caviar as much as they post.
Jade
Okay, stop.
Kia
That's from Nickety.
Jade
Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it.
Kia
Do I enjoy caviar? Yes. Do I put it on top of everything like I'm seeing on the Internet? Absolutely. The not.
Jade
I just feel like it's a money grab because I feel like the restaurants and the places and the functions are just putting it on things because they know y' all gonna buy it.
Kia
And I'm not talking about people who have once upon a time created niches like fried. Oh, there's a. I love. I love the. There's a pay. Fried chicken and caviar.
Jade
Yeah. I.
Kia
They've been around.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
You know what I'm saying? And that is a thing. And it's delicious. With some creme fraiche, please. But also you carrying it in your purse to Chili's and shit like that. Like, I can't.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
You try putting caviar triple dipper like on a. On an oven baked baby back rib, like, please.
Jade
Caviar in your purse. Wild and crazy.
Kia
That's like a. They're doing a lot of these things for the Internet. And so. Yes, I agree with you, Nickety. Only in the sense where I do like caviar, but I like it in the settings where I've had it. Where it has been, you know, innovative or it's been traditional. It's been different settings where I have enjoyed it, but I don't want it all the time. It takes away the, you know, the experience.
Jade
Yeah. Like it's a special occasion theme.
Kia
Yeah. Caviar all the time.
Jade
Yeah. I agree, though. I do think that it is trending in ways that people. People go crazy with things and it's like. Yeah, Yeah. I don't know. Like, you know, it's like a.
Kia
Is going to McDonald's and carrying a caviar.
Jade
Yeah. Because I have seen. There was a girl I follow on YouTube and she like, you know, she was like, I'm gonna give myself a special treat. And she got McDonald's chicken nuggets and she ate it with caviar and creme fraiche. And yeah, okay. She said it was like a spicy.
Kia
Is that a tasty, salty bite? Yeah, okay, sure. But. But you are just doing this shit now too.
Jade
Carrying it in your purse is crazy.
Kia
I've seen that more than five crazy
Jade
mini Tyra08 says passwords and being forced to change them every five days. We've talked about that. Because I said, I'm fresh out. I don't have no more. And I hate that you cannot reuse passwords. Like, if you've used it, it'd be like, yeah, in the last five times, it's like, what do they think that we just manufacture these passwords? Don't they know that my brain can only.
Kia
You know what else?
Jade
Oh, but so much the.
Kia
The. Where. The password data leak. This has been exposed in a password data leak. You need to change it. It's like, this is not even me just forgetting or whatever the case is, is I? Now I'm just being forced to all over the place. Cuz y' all can't mind your business.
Jade
Yeah, it's true. I think they're trying to wear us down.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
Because at some point, everybody's just gonna be like, girl, okay, like, yeah, all
Kia
my passwords are exactly like. I don't even have any more fighting.
Jade
The password is 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, period.
Kia
Okay? X, 1, 2, 3, 4.
Jade
Voiceless words. Voiceless underscore words. Says, someone brought their dog to LA Fitness and I cancel my membership, effective immediately. Y' all bringing the dogs down to the gym.
Kia
They're bringing the dog. Oh, I had. Somebody said that on mine too. They were like, the dogs. Hold on, I'm gonna find it.
Jade
Y' all should have seen Jay trying to figure out how to post this question to her stories.
Kia
Oh, Kia had to walk. She had to talk me through it.
Jade
You see the little. The thing that resembles a poster on the. On the right hand side, side of the screen? You want to press that?
Kia
I was like, where's the thing that says questions? And how do I know when people.
Jade
Where do I go? I was like, oh, Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy.
Kia
I don't mean. This is so much Internet. My God. Okay, but yes, y' all are bringing the dogs everywhere. And I don't. I don't. I don't want them everywhere. And I love your dogs.
Jade
I do. You know what I'm saying? And I mean, like, I love your dog. LA Fitness is extreme because it's like, what the dog cannot work out with you. So, like, what does that even look
Kia
like I found it. Dogs every. Oh, this is from Jenna at Pilla Kitchen. She says dogs everywhere. People doing that cough, clear throat thing without covering.
Jade
Oh, yeah, very true.
Kia
Uh huh. Yes.
Jade
And I know because we are also at the height of allergy season. Y' all are getting a little lax with your. With your fluid.
Kia
Yeah. Because you're like, it's just allergies, but it's still your mucus.
Jade
We don't want it. Yeah, we don't want.
Kia
Also, I think I've probably said this before, and I'll say it 10 more times. When did we stop covering our mouths in public? When we yawn.
Jade
That's why.
Kia
When did that stop being a thing? This on the train the other day. And it's just like. Yeah, like a lion. And it's just breath. It's just your breath and your spittles.
Jade
Oh.
Kia
As soon as you open your mouth, like, oh, that nobody wants all those fumes.
Jade
That simulation of, like, where a sneeze goes that they were playing during COVID like the spittles projecting out of your mouth and where they go and how they travel through the air, that is forever. I mean, it is emblazoned on into my memory. And every time one of y' all cough or sneeze, especially on a train, I mean, or a plane. On a plane, I'm turning around looking. You think about.
Kia
Now, here's the thing. I told you, my mother growing up, that lady, first of all, like, she really missed her mark when she did not buy a bunch of stock. And wet ones, ones she the first I ever seen with wet ones. She some. If somebody sneezed in public, 45 minutes. That's how long that stays in the air. 45 minutes. And so what is it? But long before COVID was Donna and I, every time somebody see, that's all I hear in my 45 minutes.
Jade
And so, see, Donna walked so Dr. Fauci could run. I love it.
Kia
She did. She did.
Jade
Gotta have it.
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Jade
Dr. T. Fergo. That's my sis. Hello, Dr. Ferguson.
Kia
Hello, Dr. Ferguson.
Jade
Her pet peeve is when people can't whisper but are committed to sharing. Soft takes in my ear. And like I said, it just be breath. And my father all up in your. Yeah, girl. And I hate whispering.
Kia
I'm like, stop. It is.
Jade
It's hilarious. You know, and there are people out here in life who just do not have the physical ability to whisper. And you have to know that about yourself. Father, my. My sister, my twin, Amber child. We be in church. Amber be in the choir. Stand talking just like this. And girl. And we be like, Amber.
Kia
Huh?
Jade
I mean, what.
Kia
What you say, girl.
Jade
Be like girl. You is not whispering at all.
Kia
This is a deeply problematic so. This is deeply problematic, but. So my father associated vegan veganism long ago. This is long before it was a hot. He was like, if they vegan, they probably skinny.
Jade
Like they got so now.
Kia
Okay, so, you know, problematic story to share. We knew a lady was a curvaceous lady. You know what I'm saying? And so we were sitting down and she walks up an aisle and she passed us by. My father told him. My father turns to us. They go, is she still vegan? And we were like, yo, you can't do the a. You can't whisper and be.
Jade
You can't whisper.
Kia
That's problematic.
Jade
You can't whisper.
Kia
That's deeply. No, my father can't whisper for nothing. Doesn't. I don't think he tries, actually. I don't know if he's ever whispered a day in his life, if I'm being honest.
Jade
No, there's not a soft.
Kia
Because he's shameless.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Nothing.
Jade
Nothing about it. Similarly, when I was in my very first job with Barbara Jones Jones. Shout out to Ms. Jones.
Kia
Barbara Jones Jones. A legend.
Jade
Yes, there was. There was a. A woman at the. At. At the school where we worked who was like you said, like, you know, she was a shapely and curvaceous woman.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
And she was a Vegan. And Doc. Ms. Jones Jones. I mean, argue back and forth with that lady, like. No, you're not. I'm like, Ms. Jones, you can't tell her. You can't say that. She's telling you that. She ain't no V. She ain't no darn vegan. I know what I'm looking at, and it ain't no vegan. Look, I. I said m. You cannot say that.
Kia
That's not. Look, we all vegans are not a monolith.
Jade
First of all, you.
Kia
You're wrong.
Jade
And second of all, you're rude.
Kia
You understand?
Jade
You cannot say that.
Kia
Exactly. It's like. That's my fault.
Jade
You cannot say that. You cannot say what you want to say.
Kia
You.
Jade
I mean, like, it's like she had no concept. Like, even if you thought it, you didn't have to say it, and you most certainly did not have to say that to the woman. You can. You don't get to say that. She's not a vegan. You don't get to do that. No, but that's them. That's the mole. That's them. Boomers for you, honey.
Kia
Okay? And. And he's. He's at the shameless intersection of boomer and genetics, and it's dangerous. You know what I'm saying? They were coming of age when crack was. But he didn't smoke no crack.
Jade
But it's a while. It's a wild time. My mom and her siblings. It's like a. It's a hodgepodge of boomers and Gen X. And listen, it's been so. It's been so interesting.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
Sitting amongst them. Okay. It's just been such. Hello. It's been so wild.
Kia
Baking soda and vinegar is what it is in your drain. Oh. Imani Moo says when people stand in the middle of the walkway. Listen, I'm at this point, I have started directing traffic to the right. You know that lady who was leaving
Jade
the church at the airport? Especially when you get on the escalator. Yes. Or.
Kia
Or that escalator. That is not an escalator. It's just exactly. Virtually said down to the Jamiroquan.
Jade
You have got. If you are on the left, you are moving. If you are on the right moving, you might stand still.
Kia
You're standing still.
Jade
You can't stand in the middle of that joint.
Kia
Same rules as the escalator. Do that. Oh, and people who hold hands down the. Down the sidewalk, or they just be spread across.
Jade
Like if there's a large gap between the hands. Right. Your arm should not be extended holding these hands. Okay. Because it's only so much size.
Kia
Because I'm about to. I'm about to break every chain. Like,
Jade
you would just get it together because you don't get to monopolize the walkway. Okay.
Kia
No, you don't.
Jade
Nah.
Kia
No, you do not. Okay, what do we have? What you got next?
Jade
Um, let's see. Leroy, Gab. Okay. A lot of people pretending they're rich in a very obvious recession. We don't got it.
Kia
You know, it's. That is very.
Jade
We don't got it. Listen, you might not got it.
Kia
We don't have it.
Jade
I would say. I think I would. I would add to this. It's like we gotta worry about what we got. Okay. You can't be in. We don't have. Given the recession. We can't be concerned with what everybody got. I will like to tell. I do feel like there's something going on.
Kia
Zombie apocalypses start.
Jade
I do feel like there's something going on in the concerts, though. I feel like everybody want to have a concert right now. And to that I say, y' all got to calm down.
Kia
Tone deaf.
Jade
Y' all got.
Kia
You've got to relax.
Jade
Y' all got to calm down.
Kia
We are not celebrity. I and I get. People have to work. I get it. We absolutely did a live show tour last. We did before. So, you know, we also, in our pricing, we literally were intentional.
Jade
Right?
Kia
Yeah. We sat and we were like, listen, Key and I both. We told our producer at the time, we are not trying to beat people over the heads because this ain't the time for that. So it needs to be something that is accessible for folks. And that. And I get. Accessibility is subjective. I get that. That. That is a range, but within reason. You know what I'm saying? So it doesn't mean that people don't get to enjoy things nowadays. But please, Jay Z. Why are the cheapest tickets at Yankee Stadium? 800. Why'd you do that?
Jade
I don't. Why'd you do that? I feel like it's just the monopoly that is the. Yes, it is. I'm not. This is not me excusing the artists themselves, but I do feel like we gotta also talk about the ticket master
Kia
girls at the Predator. Absolutely. This is a layered conversation. Layered conversation. But I just think to the point. Yes, they are extremely, disgustingly predatory. And all those ones that allow you to like. They let people rob people and tell them that they're going to get taken, but then the day of they can snatch their away. I don't like any of that. People can buy thousands upon thousands of tickets because they. Or that's like, who be buying up Airbnbs all over Atlanta, talking about, I've got 10 of them, and you supposed to be impressed by their entrepreneurialism? You're literally stripping housing from people.
Jade
Yeah. Anyway, that. That landlord conversation is a very slippery slope. Okay? And I. I fear. I fear that we need to have a.
Kia
A deeper conversation about that honest dialogue. But I do think that there is a certain level, a certain responsibility the artist also holds, because in the same vein that we just said when we were pricing our tickets for our live shows, we were very intentional about how we priced those. So keep in mind your fan base, the people who were there with you from day one, where the economy is like, come on, y'.
Jade
All. Yeah, please, please, please. We got. We just got. Yeah, we've got to do better.
Kia
Oh, I've been hearing this a lot. Go ahead, Adriana. Adriana Avenue says job searching. I've been. I've been hearing a lot of that lately because of. Also largely due to AI, but the job markets are also horrible, a la recession. And the way that they are scanning resumes and going through resumes is. Is through these AI databases. And if people are not. They don't know all the functions and all of. All the hacks and all the different things, then their resumes are getting passed over. And these are people who are experienced. We are now of a generation where we have had a good amount of experience. You know what I'm saying? We can go into a job. Yeah, exactly. But because we can't operate AI in a certain way, a lot of very qualified resumes are being looked over. And that's like. That's like, a common theme I'm hearing these days.
Jade
What you got, Chevy? Oh, three to five. While using the microwave at work, someone takes out your food to heat their food. Now, that's a fight. I don't know that this has ever happened to me, but if I were to walk up on somebody touching my lunch, they might have to escort me out of that place.
Kia
Yeah. Don't touch my things.
Jade
What? Like, I almost got in a fight. I remember in undergrad, and I know that this is, like, you know, a contentious topic, but the girls, like, you know, people taking your clothes out the
Kia
dryer, I find that to be so.
Jade
Okay, I almost got in a fight for that. And I made that white girl wash my clothes again. Because, girl, I don't know nothing about you and why you was touching my
Kia
thing, but you're gonna give me the money. To do it. You're not gonna touch me. My clothes. Yeah, but I. I feel the same way. Just as passionately, because there's a. There's a delicate, healthy balance. Don't touch my shit. And also people who leave their shit.
Announcer
Yeah.
Kia
Like, be responsible with no consideration. Yes.
Jade
Like you.
Kia
Yes. But don't wait for my. Don't be sitting there waiting for my shit to buzz and then you come and put your filthy hands on my shit.
Jade
I'm coming down at the time that I know that the dryer is to. Going. Going to be stopping. And I see you already at my joint like, I'm here. You didn't even give me a chance to get here and.
Kia
Or a reasonable window.
Jade
No. Now, if I'd have left it in there overnight or, you know, for hours, that's a different story. But I didn't do that.
Kia
No, you didn't even wait to see somebody. You there. My clothes are still hot.
Jade
Exactly.
Kia
The steam is still coming off of them. Exactly. And now I should make you pay me money because not only do I have to rewash these clothes, but now you're putting a little bit more wear and tear on my. Because I have to rew them. So now you need to come up off a couple of dollars. You know what I'm saying?
Jade
I was like, I don't know anything about you. Well, I just put them on the table, but I don't know if you wipe your butt. And then, you know, came down here to, you know. I don't know nothing about you or where your hands have been. And we talk about my very clean clothes that I have just washed.
Kia
Yeah. Yeah.
Jade
So you're going to have to pay for me to rewash these things, ma', am, because I don't know anything about you.
Kia
And for the detergent that I use, if I use fabric softener, sheets, my vinegar, whatever I put in this, I won't. Reimbursement facts.
Jade
Exactly. I said, for all you know, I could have a very serious pet dander allergy. And you coming down here with pet dander all over, you touching my clothes. And now I'm sick, so. So, yeah, Chevy, if somebody touch your stuff, girl, don't listen to me, because I need everyone. We need to keep their jobs. But, girl, if I catch somebody touching my food out the microwave, it's finna be some furniture moving. Rest in peace. To Bernie Mac. I was thinking about him the other day.
Kia
Oh. Oh, my God. Somebody who has no business being gone.
Jade
We need to do a show about. We need to Have a show about people who don't have no business being dead. It.
Kia
What? Yeah, yeah. Cuz they really, there's a, there's a long list. I saw a story the other day of somebody who at work somebody was taking bites of people's lunch. And so like literally. I'm sorry, different people's lunches. Yes, very Michael Strahan. I think Michael Strahan looks like he steals people's lunches.
Jade
You mean like taking like just eating the whole thing? Not like eating off of you?
Kia
No, no. They were eating all. I feel like he stills.
Jade
Yeah, like he'll take.
Kia
But this, this person. But that's just like my own feelings. This particular person was in an office taking bites off of people's lunches. So wait, so they eat. Somebody takes a piece of somebody's chicken saute and then they take a bite of somebody's spaghetti. And the person who brought the spaghetti as their lunch was severely allergic to peanuts.
Jade
Look at that.
Kia
Okay.
Jade
Look at that.
Kia
Severely.
Jade
Now you're a murderer.
Kia
And so they had a reaction. Now the managers are like doing an investigation around the office trying to figure out who did this. And you know how they figured it out? They asked, they were asking people. They asked the person who did it and they turned bright red. Clue number one. They turn bright red. And they said. And they were like I just, I, I, I just wanted to try. I'm such a foodie girl.
Jade
Now listen.
Kia
And you know what the, you know what the what you know what the ramifications were?
Jade
Jail.
Kia
Because I feel three, three day suspension. You could have killed.
Jade
That's what I'm saying. That's why I said this is giving like first.
Kia
That's attempted murder. That's attempted manslaughter.
Jade
Do you know how entitled like there what like it feel entitled and filthy.
Kia
Sorry.
Jade
No, no. Yes. I'm just thinking like, I'm trying to think like what is the logic behind someone who would quite literally steal like, like, like what would make you feel like you have the right to open up somebody's lunch and take a bite? Foodie or not. Do you know what kind of psychosis this is?
Kia
Huh?
Jade
Exactly. This is pathological.
Kia
Yeah, it is. Yeah.
Jade
For you to think that there's nothing wrong. There is no innocent way of what. And look what you've done. That sounds like something off of like 91 1. Like that's like an episode.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
You know, somebody eating the satay and and die. And now Olivia Benson trying to figure out what the hell happened.
Kia
Or Elizabeth.
Jade
Elizabeth.
Kia
Except they did it on purpose, you know, it's like, oh, what a mess. Oh, my God. Did I tell you Antoinette's sister was in an episode of Elizabeth? No, Tina Celestine. She was in the. In the Christmas episode with the dance. With the ballet.
Jade
Nice.
Kia
Oh, she was the ballet teacher.
Jade
Okay.
Kia
Yes. Yeah, that. That's. That's Tina. That's my Tina.
Jade
Very good.
Kia
I love this one. White men who are not capable of holding other white men accountable. Hashtag corp America. That's right, Lewis.
Jade
That's very true.
Kia
I agree.
Jade
Chardemus. Hey, sis, Charadema says people who talk in all caps early in the morning. Lower your voice before I lower you.
Kia
Hush, hush. Talking all so far. Put your ass.
Jade
If you don't take some of them take that caps lock off of your throat this morning talking to me. Great.
Kia
Here's one in the vein of capitalism from so that's money pollen. It's nothing but mel tree sperm floating everywhere, assaulting my eyes and throat. Let me tell you something. I've never had allergies like this. This is insane. And I was literally talking about this today. I said, these people are so nasty and hateful and don't want us to have basic necessities that they literally have ripped.
Jade
Somebody said that to me. Was that Louis R. Courtney?
Kia
No, that's so. That's money, Lewis.
Jade
Oh, white men being unable to hold other white men accountable.
Kia
Oh, yes. That was Louis.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Oh, they've got some on their chest. And I agree. I agree. I feel like we have got. We have a graduation announcement.
Jade
Oh, yeah.
Kia
But maybe we do one more each.
Jade
Okay, we have more. Remember, we're gonna have a part two and Dustin's going to come. Content creators. Oh, sweet tea, this is Tasha. Tasha says content creators acting like they just waking up, but they set the camera up.
Kia
The only way that I enjoy that is when they do like go back and get the camera on camera and put it in the edit. You know what I'm saying? Like they're making fun of themselves. Type like I with that y and all of that.
Jade
Or the girls that like, like video themselves coming home. It's like, girl, you unlocked that door and cut that camera on.
Kia
You had to.
Jade
You had to. And then you came back in here.
Kia
Blessed be. Oh, it tickles me boots. Oh, yeah, you've gone.
Jade
You've done it.
Kia
Where? You've had to go back and get the camera, haven't you?
Jade
I have. I do it. I do it often. Just because, girl, you know, I came back. I did not leave this Camera running all day.
Kia
No, you know, I didn't leave, leave this phone on while I left. You know that. So let me see. I appreciate that. Okay, my last one is somebody's petty peeve, but I thought in honor of Pride Month and in general and humanity, I'm gonna call you in and I'm not gonna say your name.
Jade
Okay?
Kia
Their, their petty peeve is any pronouns, people who don't want to use he or she. Now listen.
Jade
Oh, no.
Kia
You may get irritated with me, I don't care, and I'm not going to come at your throat. But I am going to tell you, I really would challenge you to assess why that is a petty P for you. It's if. Do you call yourself she? Nobody takes issue with that. So why do you take issue with whatever people want to call themselves as far as a pronoun is considered? Does it shave anything off your life? Does it take anything away from your rent? Does it take any food out of your mouth? Does it impede on any of your rights? Does it impede on your humanity? Is it, is it impeding on your well being? Is it fucking with your lineage? Is it messing with your dependence? Is it poisoning your dog? Like, I really, really, really challenge you to sit with yourself and ask yourself why that is a petty pee for, for you. It's literally somebody else's business that has nothing else to do with you. There's so many things in this world I don't understand. But you know what? I do respect it as long as it is not with my humanity and, and, and my, my well being. You know what I'm saying?
Jade
Yeah. Just off the strength of like, you know, you expecting people to respect who you are, how you identify, what you would want people to refer to you as. It's just basically that I had to have a conversation when I was trying to explain this to my mom and to my grandparents. It was just that it was like, what if someone all of a sudden said that it was illegal for us to say that we were black? What?
Kia
Right? What? They're like, I don't like the word. I don't like that.
Jade
It's like.
Kia
And so I don't see race.
Jade
So you cannot call yourself black. It'd be like, girl, go straight to hell today. Like, you know, I don't want nobody telling me, you know what I'm saying? I don't want nobody to tell me how I can identify myself. And so I feel like it would be completely inappropriate and hypocritical for me to then have A judgment or an opinion. If you tell me to call you Jade, if you say that, your pronouns or she, her or hers or whatever, I'm gonna respect you and greet you as you have asked to be,
Announcer
you
Jade
know, acknowledged and greeted in the world. Like, so I feel like it's just a basic do unto others as you would have them do unto you, and it is not worth tussling over. So I share in that, and I think it invites you to sort of sit with. What about that is offensive to you? It doesn't cost you anything. And I'm sure you would want someone to respect you in a similar way. In. In the same way.
Kia
Yeah, the way that I respected you by not putting your name up right. Even though I. I looked at that
Jade
and I was like, what the right.
Kia
I. You know, it. I just. It's. It's not necessary, actually. It's not necessary to hold such a. A strong opinion about something that don't have to do with you. Correct.
Jade
It. It shouldn't. It should not. It should not. It does not matter. It is inconsequential to your life, quite literally.
Kia
I don't understand why people buy PT Cruisers, but I'm not getting ready to go up to every single one of them and say, I hate your baby hearse of a car.
Jade
Like, every time I see a cybertruck, I roll my eyes. But it is not worth it walking up to that person and saying, no,
Kia
why did you and I. You should not draw conclusions about the person who drives that car. And I still hold those right. But I don't need to go up to them and tell them. And it doesn't. I don't need to go around my day be like, I hate all cyber truck drivers. I hate them to see them on the road. They're obnoxious tanks.
Jade
But this.
Kia
But they don't have to do with me.
Jade
I told you at that time, I was at this conference at this resort in Virginia. It was a place. It was at the resort where they were doing sort of the initial onboarding for the commanders, the Washington commanders. All. All of them had to go there and get their physicals. It was like this whole thing they had to do. And so we were at the. At the convening, and it was like, in front of a wall of windows that face one of their parking lots. And a cyber truck, it was like two or three cyber trucks came and parked in, like, at the same time. It was so interesting, though, because everyone in the room, it was just so fascinating to watch 100 people have a visceral reaction to cybertruck in real time. Everyone in the room was like, oh,
Kia
like you see everyone in the room.
Jade
But you know, everyone had their moment and moved on. It was not like I'm gonna write a letter to say that all so. Exactly.
Kia
Let me go knock to the window. Excuse me.
Jade
You know what I'm saying? Like, you know, listen, you don't got to like it, you don't got to love it, but you, you do have to respect. Respect.
Kia
You can have all your inner thoughts that you want to have, but again, I challenge you to ask you why those are your inner thoughts. You ain't got nothing else to be worried about.
Jade
You don't have to understand it.
Kia
Yeah. I mean, yeah.
Jade
Opinions aside, even if you don't understand it, I would. In addition to what Jay said in your, in your inquiry is sort of exploring yourself, you know, I will also challenge you to sort of understand, like do some reading and research around,
Kia
you
Jade
know, non binary identity, what it really means.
Kia
It's not new or just self reflection,
Jade
just the gender role conversation period. Like I just think, yeah, but you know, we love you still. I wanna, we say this, we, we said these things at the kitchen table out of love. You know what I'm saying?
Kia
Yep. And love for everybody. Like this ain't the space. If you think you get ready to come in here with some. On some weird. This ain't it. So we just let you know that right now the wrong program spot. Yeah. You in the wrong sp. And I don't know, have you ever figured that out by now I thought,
Jade
yes, I'm a little, I'm a little
Kia
know us by now. Hey, maybe they sent that to me to. I don't know, maybe somebody was like, I'm going to piss her off. I'm not pissed. I'm sad for you.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
For you. Humans are, Humans are humans. You know what I'm saying? Do I have some problematic thoughts around certain identities? Yeah. The people who identify as raccoons and cats, you know, I have not wrapped my head around that and I don't know when I will. But as far as humans are concerned, you know what I'm saying? You respect me, I respect you.
Jade
That's right.
Kia
It's, it's really that simple. It's, it's not, it's not difficult.
Jade
Correct.
Kia
Anyway, it's time to celebrate some people over in these graduation announcements.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Shall we head that direction?
Jade
We shall. And remember, we're gonna do another one of these. So if you have yet not yet Submitted your Petty peeve and you want us to share yours in part two of the Petty P Palooza? Make sure you submit them to hello Getting grown co. All right, ready to do these graduation announcements?
Kia
Let's do it.
Jade
All right. See,
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Kia
All right, it's time for graduation announcements. You. You're welcome.
Jade
Hey.
Kia
Oh, wow. Hey, Dr. Takiya. Nicole Robertson.
Jade
Oh, wow. The entire name, huh?
Kia
And Chef Jade. Yes. My lashes. I'm writing with the graduation announcement and tenure update.
Jade
All right, first things first.
Kia
My firstborn graduated from middle school on May 14 and is heading off to high school. School. I'm so proud of the young man he's becoming. I keep telling him, before we know it, he will be planning high school graduation. He reminds me to live in the moment and not to get too far ahead of myself. Don't they do that? Here's a few captures from our talented family friend. Shout out to the one and only Jaylen Collier of Curry Street Studios for coming to capture the moment. Congratulations to Edwin Michael Hall. I am so proud. Also, because I'm on the school board, I go, I got to hand my child his diploma. Oh my gosh. What a special moment. I'll be back next year with my next teenager as she is entering in her final year of middle school.
Jade
Nice.
Kia
Second, I earned tenure and promotion to associate professor. Yeah, I'm so proud of myself. And everyone has asked me what's next. Most immediately, rest.
Jade
Right?
Kia
I know that's right. SIS is half past tired, but I'm grateful that the feet is behind me. Now. And that's from Candace.
Jade
Dr. Candace Hall. Do you remember Candace? The one who sent. Yeah, she was sending, like, the updates on her road to tenure.
Kia
Oh, yeah. I knew that name looked familiar. Congratulations. She. Congratulations.
Jade
And she was at the Chicago show.
Kia
Yes, I do remember that, actually. Congratulations. And congratulations also to Edwin.
Jade
Love that.
Kia
Yes. We are so, so proud. So, so proud. Oh, and look at the pictures.
Jade
Yes. All right, all right.
Kia
Oh, how special is that?
Jade
Hey. So sweet. Oh, very sweet. Very sweet.
Kia
Okay. I love it.
Jade
Greetings, ladies. Firstly, I am sending love, strength, and compassion to Dr. Kia and your family. Oh, thank you. Oh, this is from February. Okay. Yeah. My deepest condolences. Okay, next. J. You are everything. And I can't wait to see what you have in store for us with your cooking show. I know. It's coming. Come on.
Kia
Me, too. Thank you.
Jade
I would like to shout out my best friend, my right side. My mother in past lives, Karina Toussaint, who just got her bachelor's degree. She worked hard in an accelerated program for about four to six months and did the damn thing. Mother of a college graduate and a high school sophomore. She is a true superwoman. I love her more than I can express. Please give her the flowers that she deserves. And that is from Damaris.
Kia
Thank you, Damaris. Karina. Tuscan. Big, big, big congratulations.
Jade
Thank you.
Kia
All the roses. Damaris bumped it up.
Jade
Yes, the inbox. We appreciate you.
Kia
No, we do. That's actually. You help. You helped us.
Jade
You did.
Kia
You really did it. Damaris. That is from Game of Thrones as well. Anyway. No, that's Daenerys.
Jade
Oh, Daenerys is Game of Thrones. Yeah.
Kia
Daenerys. Yes.
Jade
I went to high school with somebody named Damaris.
Kia
I feel like I know a Damaris as well. Like, I know that's not the first time I've heard. Oh, this eyelash.
Jade
It came right off.
Kia
It was a. I looked up at us like it was flapping in the
Jade
wind, and I said, oh, no, please. It was just waving, y'. All. It's 10 o' clock at night. I put this lash on 12 hours ago. Okay, so it just gave up.
Kia
No, listen, we're still going. We're still going. Oh, I love. I love this format. Yes. All right. Hello to my beautiful getting grow, ladies. That's in the 24.5and bolt. It's Niecy Nash again, coming to the kitchen table. That's the name we gave. Okay, a couple of quick updates I want to share with you all. When I first wrote in, I mainly focused on my boyfriend wanting to live together, but I was against it for numerous reasons. As of today, we still don't live together and I was able to express to him why I'm hesitant. He didn't like my reasoning and it did put a damper on our relationship for a little bit. But now we're good and have a better understanding of each other. Good. I really believe that I'm one of those women who would in a separate house from her husband mood. All right. Okay. Because there's just something about your own space. It's so nice. You know what I mean? That doesn't mean the love is lost. Actually, it's gang honey. Okay. It is found. Found. All right. Number two, in my previous email, I failed to mention that I was in school to get my MBA with a specialization in accounting. Working full time. Being a single parent to a teenager trying to maintain connections with friends, family and a romantic partner and caring for myself had me ready to pull my hair out. But as always, I found a way. Yes, I am the first out of my mother's children to get a Master's degree. I graduated with honors as a distinguished scholar from Colorado State University Global Campus on May 29. I also joined the Golden California Key National Honor Society about a month before completing my courses. Hopefully these accomplishments will take me far. Even with all of this celebration of a milestone, I'm still processing the loss of my father, which was on Valentine's Day this year. So sorry for your loss. I remember calling him the day my final grades posted to tell him about my new degree and he told me it's time to step up. Use that degree to step up and get ahead in your career. I'm sure he's proud of me while sitting in his recliner in heaven grinning from ear to ear since his health was declining and he didn't get around much. I know traveling to my graduation wouldn't have been possible, but just the thought of not being able to call him or send him graduation pics had me boohooing like a baby to keep him close to me. I have a pin with a collage of pictures that I attached to to my cat. In a way, he walked the stage with me.
Jade
Yes, he did.
Kia
And at this point, I've accepted the fact that it's okay to cry over my dad as he is worth every tear. Oh my gosh. As always, I love you ladies and I'm beyond grateful for your weekly conversations and the way you encourage and support black women. Continue to do what you do. Thank you. Niecy Nash. And congratulations.
Jade
Congrats.
Kia
And, oh, my God, we're holding you.
Jade
Yes. And, yeah, you're absolutely right. You know, we know exactly what you're dealing with and how even, like, celebrations can trigger, you know, the grief of lost loved ones. But, you know, your dad is proud of you. We are proud of you. I hope you're proud of yourself. And we are appreciative of you including us in your graduation celebration.
Kia
You did that? I can't install an eyelash to save my life. And you really just sat up here
Jade
recording, See, looking at y' all for the rest of the day. Okay, I Love that. Hello, Dr. Kia and Chef Jade. I'm a longtime listener, and every week it feels like I'm catching up with old friends week after week, because you are. I love it. I'm going to have to apologize because this may be a little long, because I have a question. All right, Come on. And I also want to shout myself out because I am proud as hell of myself. I know. Come on. All caps.
Kia
Feeling good as hell.
Jade
Shout out. I struggled with a learning disability all throughout grade school and have always felt that I wasn't the smartest one in the room. I talked myself down so much that I promise once I graduate high school, I will never go back. Until my sister, who is a therapist, told me I will never succeed in higher education because of my learning disability. And after cutting her ass off, I enrolled into school, and I'm sitting at a 3.8 GPA. I made the dean's list for the very first time, and I'm so damn proud of myself.
Kia
Shelf.
Jade
I sent my bag. I want to report her period. I mean, I love this.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
I mean, I love that. I hate that.
Jade
I love that. No, we're proud of you.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
Let me see. So here's the problem. I'm 40, done with getting my undergrad in it. Oh, no, this is. This is an honesty box question.
Kia
Okay. All right.
Jade
We might as well we here now, so let's go on.
Kia
Okay. Well, all right. I love. I love a crossover.
Jade
Yeah, it's a crossover. So. So here's the problem. 40 done with getting my undergrad in it. I hate to say it, but AI and layoffs aren't going anywhere anytime soon, and it's only getting worse. And with everything that's happening, I decided to pivot to become a BCBA Board Certified analyst, which is actually something that I've been wanting to do since I first started working with children on the spectrum since I was 19 years old. The only reason why I decided to go into it was because of the money. And although I'm doing really good, I hate having the feeling that once I'm done, I may or may not have a job. Or if I do get one, I could be replaced at any time. I have talked to my therapist about it, but she thinks it is. Wait, hold on. She thinks it's my anxiety preparing for the worst, but I think I'm being more cautious and realistic. Another dilemma is that since I'm in school for tech, my job is paying for my tuition, which seems to be like a win. But I'm working at a call center and I'm mentally exhausted and benefits are literally the only reason why I'm holding on for as long as I can. The only way my job would pay for the BCBA route is if I just major in psych. But it will take me forever to get the hours I need to sit for state exam. If I decide the BCBA route, I would have to work at clinic, take a pay cut and lose good benefits or just get out of my head and stay in it.
Kia
This is the first time I decided following my dreams was worth taking the risk. Or am I too much in my head and the economy will pick up a little bit. I still have about a year left in school, so I have time to figure it out and also know the decision. I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions.
Jade
Okay, this email was extremely hard to write because I know that I'm extremely grateful and blessed to have a job with so many people who are affected and who are struggling. And I do apologize if this sounds like a first world problem. I appreciate you ladies again. Okay. Yeah, absolutely. And we're happy to. To help. I will say it's just hard a. Congratulations. Congratulations on the genes list.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
And for persevering despite, you know, being discouraged. And I, I have. I too am a person who is very motivated by someone telling me what I can't do. So good for you. Good for you in that regard. Unfortunately, I just feel like. It's hard to say. I feel like I am ill equipped to advise you because there is no surefire way here. And unfortunately the issue that you name around AI replacing jobs, that's not just limited to jobs in it that's going to happen across fields and across disciplines. To me it would be a matter of. I believe that we don't. I mean, I know that we educate and train our. Train and build our skills so that we could, you know, gain financial independence and do Meaningful work, get compensated for that. But I don't feel like, I think we run a risk of. I don't want you to think about your degree just in terms of, like, getting a job like you, you, I think you should build your skills and build and make your training about the kind of work that you want to do and continue to sort of remain diligent, continue to work hard, and there are opportunities that are still available even despite the crazy economic situation that we find ourselves in. And yeah, I think that if I, I would base my opinion on doing the kind of work that I wanted to do. I, I, I know that that's pretty countercultural now, particularly since everyone's turning away from, like, specialized training and more toward, like, workforce development. But I feel like we are more than what we do in our jobs. So I think if you, if there's a passion or a skill like you said that you wanted to do, you know, the work that you were doing with, you know, the kids, you know, if that's where your passion is, I say pursue that and do what you have to do so you can do what you want to do. You know, staying in school does not mean that you can't continue to do work that fulfills you.
Kia
Yeah.
Jade
So, yeah. I don't know. It's hard for me to say I'm not going to tell you what to do because I think that this is a personal choice. But I hope that what I've shared is helpful in, in terms of, like, you making a decision that, that suits your interests, your needs and the life you want to have.
Kia
Yeah. And if that, if that work fulfills you, I think that, and that's beautiful work. You know what I'm saying? That's work that it is hard to be replaced by. AI Also, there's nothing wrong with having something to fall back on.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
So continuing to build your experience in I T While you pursue your certifications in your degree or what have you in, and in the social work aspect, I guess, is what it is where you're working with the, the kids on the spectrum, then, you know, get you a, get you a girl who can do both. I don't, I think you can. It's very hard.
Jade
There's a way.
Kia
Yeah, I think so. I think. And you always, like you said, you use the thing that you have to fuel the thing that you.
Jade
Yeah. Hope that helps.
Kia
I hope that that's helpful.
Jade
Sorry.
Kia
I hope that's helpful. Richard Simmons.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
I don't know why that's the name I gave Came to my mind.
Announcer
Yes.
Jade
We hope that that helps you, Richard Simmons. And sorry, guys, I did not realize that this was an honesty box question that I mislabeled as a graduation announcement. But that's a bit of a bonus.
Kia
We're multifaceted.
Jade
Okay.
Kia
All right, moving along to our next announcement. Falling back in line. Hey, ladies. Salutations and blessings over you and yours and continued prayers for protection and strength. Thank you so much. I would like to shout out my daughter from. For graduating from fifth grade. I call her turkey. She is my Thanksgiving baby. And a beautiful blessing and reminder through every storm. I'm so proud of all her accomplishments here over the last few years. As we transition back to Kentucky, I pray your peace. Continue prayers for protection and strength. It has not been an easy feat because the ignorance and racism is bliss. More so. I'm proud of how we handled a racist teacher in her fifth grade. Yeah, gross. Burned me up inside. I knew from the second week of school when that lady wrote me upset because my child wrote the orange pumpkin. It was going to be a long year. Oh, I forgot MAGA can be teachers.
Jade
She.
Kia
I mean, because it's. Anyway, I told her she can't take anything from you because I won't allow it. And you've worked too hard to let someone destroy you. My girl has been a student athlete. She's a runner and she's a track. Yeah, she's a runner, she's a truck star and a part of several organizations. This Sunday, her team earned two second in state for their relay team. Proud mama Middle school is up next in AAU and USA atf. Track kicks off this week. Mommy. And the tribe is proud and loves you always. And after P S next May, I will be completing my masters in public administration along with a graduate certificate. Certification in non profit management. Jade xd. And you said me and the baby gonna be all right. More than living testimony and proof that God is forever good and keep moving forward and making. Making things happen. By all means. Love y' all always. Your Virgo Kentucky sister. That's from Nakia on Nakia.
Jade
Yeah. Nikia. And thank you for writing in and congratulations to turkey.
Kia
Yes, I love that and I love you know our prayers over you have continued to prosper.
Jade
That's right.
Kia
Oh, wait, we have.
Jade
We do.
Kia
We have.
Jade
Hold on.
Kia
She sent us the text.
Jade
Oh, yeah.
Kia
No, I'm about to because. Hello. Your girl has had, you know my child's name. She's in your class. I know you don't. You don't have no more than 30 of them in there. Excuse me. I'm irritated.
Jade
Wait a minute. With her about inappropriate it was and how that was not the directions. Her opinion should not be shared in class.
Kia
But I love our niece because she put that orange pumpkin got 30 votes. Hillary Clinton got 19 votes.
Jade
She said her opinion should not be shared in class. Who said?
Kia
Who said why?
Jade
When?
Kia
Since when is that a thing? Good. You know what? Don't.
Jade
Go ahead, Turkey.
Kia
Anyway. Okay. Moving right along, Turkey. Let me look at your picture.
Jade
Look at you.
Kia
Yes. With your block.
Jade
Precious lamb carry niece.
Kia
I love it.
Jade
Absolutely.
Kia
Okay. Thank you. I love that. Yeah. I'm putting that lady in the freezer. All right, next up.
Jade
Hi, Jadakia. I love the podcast. You two have become my guiding light as I navigate my 30s. Oh. Shout out to all the amazing guests who come on the show and the knowledge they share with the audience. My graduation announcement is to give the biggest congratulations to my little nephew Ezra on his graduation from Pre K. He's been such a light in the family, and I'm so proud to be his. Auntie TT Pam loves you Easy. And that's from.
Kia
Yes, Easy Pam.
Jade
Thank you, Pam.
Kia
I love it. Thank you. And congratulations, baby.
Jade
Easy.
Kia
Okay. On your trek. You. I already get. You're you already off to a good start with your nickname. That's a nice. I know.
Jade
It is good.
Kia
I like that nephew. Go ahead, Ezra. Eazy. E. All right. Praise the Lord. Greetings and salutations, Dr. Key and Chef Dr. J. Put some respect. I'm a long time listener, first time writer, because my time to brag is now. I want to shout out my babies who graduated from high school last year. I wrote in, but I didn't hear it, so I'm okay. Well, thank you. We appreciate in case it didn't get delivered. This is a little long because I had a slew of. All right, let's go. My nephew, Jamari.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
Okay. Known. Better known as okay. She graduated on May 14, 2025 from Springfield High School's Innovation Program in Springfield, Tennessee. This accomplishment is even more special because he lost his mom, my sister, suddenly, in September of 2023. She was 43 years old. I know she's looking down on him, smiling and doing her signature.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
Oh, my goodness. Sending all of you all love. My son in love, EJ grad Eric Jr. Graduated on May 22, 2025, from Logan County High School and Russellville, Kentucky. Lots of Kentucky. Today, the day before his graduation, he showed out on the baseball field helping his team clinch the District championship. He plans to go to trade school at Southern Kentucky Community College in Bowling Green, Kentucky, focusing on electrical and plumbing. I know that's right. Let me tell you all something. I like to go back to the days.
Jade
Yeah. Okay.
Kia
Let's get back into these trades.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
My niece, Takaya.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
Mason, also graduated from Logan County High School in Russellville, Kentucky, on May 22, 2025. She's my basketball baby and is attending Volunteer State Community College in Gallatin, Tennessee, on a basketball scholarship. Lastly, my daughter Amaya graduated from Franklin Simpson High School in Franklin, Kentucky, on May 26, 2025. She graduated summa cum laude with a senior scholar designation for her 3.91 GPA. Do it. Okay. She is now attending the University of Kentucky, majoring in biology. Her goal is to matriculate and graduate school and ultimately pursue a career in pharmaceuticals, aiming to disrupt big Pharma from the inside. Yeah. Even though they massacred my wallet. I know they did. I am a beyond proud mom and aunt and can't wait to see what this new chapter in their lives brings. Thank you for taking the time to spotlight their achievements. I love and appreciate y' all real bad. And that's from Micaiah.
Jade
Thank you. Thank you.
Kia
All right, so we have to say congratulations to. To Jamarius, AKA Cash, ej, Takaya, and Amaya. And Amaya. I know that's right. And also I'm praying extra protections of strength over yalls, nerves and all of the. I don't even know where half of these places are outside of Bowling Green, Kentucky. Yeah. And I just don't like how they sound. So I'm praying strength over the nieces and nephews.
Jade
Yes, indeed.
Kia
All the protection.
Jade
Okay, last one for the day. Hello, Shape J and Dr. Takiya. I've been a listener since the very first episode and look forward to hearing from you all each week. I love how your show has transformed over time and remains informative, entertaining, Black af and real as hell. Thank you for using your fraction of the Internet in such a meaningful way. That was very kind. Thank you.
Kia
Thank you. Thank you so much.
Jade
Now, onto the business at hand. I want to take this time to shout out my son, Jordan Isaiah Little, who graduated from pre k on Saturday, May 31. I'm so proud of him and all he's done to prepare for kindergarten and truly hope he is proud of himself as well. We're working hard to ensure that he feels proud of himself and does not solely seek the validation of others in order to feel secure in himself, but also not become an arrogant. But I digress.
Kia
I know that's right.
Jade
He's been at the center since he was six months and stated and started in the middle of the pandemonium. Him. It was definitely not an ideal time to leave my child. But the ways these bills are set up. I'm so grateful for his school and teachers. We pray for them in our nightly prayers. They have been amazing and have poured into him immeasurably. Jordan is incredibly smart, kind, and loves to eat. Y', all, please pray for my grocery bill because he is already eating me out of house and home. And he for. He loves to build.
Kia
Expose him to everything.
Jade
He loves to build and learn. Sight and cvc. Oh, come on. Consonant. Vowel. Consonant.
Kia
Words.
Jade
Sight. Word. Okay, Right now when he grows up, he wants to be a firefighter, a chef and a doctor, period. Whatever he grows up to be and do, I know he will be great. Jordan, I know you're not listening, but mommy loves you.
Kia
No, you better not.
Jade
And I'm so proud of you, boo. And that is from October. Octavia. A little.
Kia
Oh. Oh, thank you, Octavia. Hold on. We got pictures of Jordan, honey. Okay, she got him walking away from the little. From the little toys.
Jade
I love.
Kia
I love this trend. I love this.
Jade
Look at him. Mission complete.
Kia
Oh, look at the beautiful black family. I love this. Okay, come on, pre K. Jordan. Look at your little smile.
Jade
Thank you.
Kia
I love it.
Jade
Thank you so much, Octavia, and congratulations to Jordan and your family. We're very excited and thank you for listening and being a part of our getting grown family and community. We love you. We love Jordan.
Kia
We do.
Jade
Thank you, guys.
Kia
We do. And I think we're gonna wrap our episode right here.
Jade
I think that's a good place to do it. We have had all the petty peeps.
Kia
Okay.
Jade
And yeah, so.
Kia
And the petty peeves are my self care this week, if I'm being honest.
Jade
Very much the same. We thank you guys so much. Sick as it may, nothing healing, therapeutic, honest. Okay. Radical transparency. We are grateful for you guys and for joining us at the kitchen table. We really do love it here and we're grateful that you guys hang out with us every week. Thank you guys for sending in all of your petty peeves and know that the conversation is ongoing. We will welcome Dustin back as soon as schedule permits.
Kia
Yes.
Jade
To continue the conversation. And thank you guys for submitting your graduation announcements. There's still time if you still want to submit yours. This is our favorite time of the year and we love to celebrate with you and your loved ones. So please continue to send your announcements to. Hello Getting grown co.
Kia
Amen.
Announcer
Amen.
Kia
And thank you to everybody who sent them this week. And make sure I'm about to buck this up. But it's all gay. Make sure sure you are hydrating.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
The very largest organ that you have.
Jade
That's right.
Kia
Which is your body.
Jade
That's right.
Kia
So you need to drink some water.
Jade
Yes.
Kia
And you know, in light of our, our, you know, our cousin who wrote in with that wonky ass opinion, you make sure you're minding your business.
Jade
It's very, very gotta do that.
Kia
It's very important, especially if at times, you know, there's times for us to mind our communities, but then there's times for us to really sit and mind our.
Jade
Got to worry about yourself.
Kia
Okay.
Jade
Got to do it.
Kia
Got to do it. Especially when yourself has some things to worry about. And lastly, you want to make sure. Just lost the listener and you're by. You want to make sure y' all are whipping out that nivea, that cocoa butter, the shea butter, all of the things. Make sure you're moisturizing. Summertime is upon us and I love that for us because we deserve. But also your knees are about to be out.
Jade
Yeah.
Kia
And we need you to make sure that you hit those things because your
Jade
black will crack if it's dry. And we don't want to see your dry, your dry, ashy heels, elbows, ankles and things of that nature either.
Kia
Jaden Kia out. Peace. Millennial peace.
Jade
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Gettin’ Grown – "Petty Palooza! (Part I)" (June 9, 2026)
Episode Overview
This episode of Gettin’ Grown brings the signature blend of hilarity, honesty, and community from hosts Jade and Keia (of Loud Speakers Network). As two Black women navigating adulting, they dive headfirst into the communal release that is “Petty Palooza”—a celebration of petty peeves and micro-annoyances both personal and crowd-sourced. The episode is a cathartic, laughter-filled space, balancing pop culture commentary (mostly Drag Race talk!), transparent reflections on womanhood and self-care, and heartfelt celebrations of Black achievement—all with a dash of necessary pettiness. There are Kitchen Table conversations, audience submissions, and plenty of affirmations for listeners to mind their business, hydrate, and stay moisturized.
“She wants to win. She’s a pageant queen, so winning is a big deal. …But my issue is that she…feels entitled to winning.” – Keia (06:44)
“I don’t want to see most Black people get arrested. I don’t want to see Black women get arrested. And…I don’t want to see Black trans women—because that is such a harmful, toxic space.” – Keia (15:42)
“Clear your throat and say it with your chest.” – Jade (25:45)
“They become so comfortable in that allyship that they forget there is a place they are supposed to hold in this space.” – Keia (29:17)
Includes brilliant banter, playful joking, and shared cultural grievances—each time, reinforcing the importance of communal venting and Black wit.
Parking Dynamics:
“My petty peeve is when I purposefully park far away and somebody raggedy ass parks right next to me...” – Denise (30:06)
Coworker Annoyances:
Tech Help for Parents:
White Opinions on Non-White Issues:
“White opinions, but more specifically on nonwhite things.” – Dr. Leonard Taylor (37:31)
Invented Words:
“They bullied them into making it a word, and I protest avidly.” – Keia (38:30)
Caviar Overkill:
Passwords:
Dogs Everywhere:
Public Hygiene:
“When did we stop covering our mouths when we yawn?” – Keia (45:01)
Whispers Gone Wrong:
“There are people out here in life who just do not have the physical ability to whisper. And you have to know that about yourself.” – Jade (48:04)
Public Space Behavior:
“When people stand in the middle of the walkway.” – Imani Moo (51:20)
Fake Wealth and Ticket Prices:
“A lot of people pretending they’re rich in a very obvious recession. We don’t got it.” – Leroy Gab (52:52)
Job Searching & AI Frustrations:
“Job searching. …the way they’re scanning resumes…these are people who are experienced, [but are] getting passed over.” – Keia (56:15)
Shared Food Horror Stories:
Pronoun Pushback Addressed:
“[Why is that a petty peeve?]…I really challenge you to sit with yourself and ask yourself why that is a petty peeve for you. It’s literally somebody else’s business…” – Keia (67:04)
“I am the first out of my mother’s children to get a Master’s degree. I graduated with honors…” – Niecy Nash (via email, 83:12)
Next Up:
Dustin Ross will join for Part II of Petty Palooza. Listeners are encouraged to submit more petty peeves and graduation announcements (hello@gettinGrown.co).
Signature Closing Wisdom: