Gettin' Grown | "Scheduled Sister Time" (April 14, 2026)

Overview

In this episode of Gettin' Grown, hosts Keia and Jade embrace the heaviness of the current times by focusing on lightness, sisterhood, and connection. They describe the global challenges and the personal weight they each carry, but make a deliberate decision to "just play games," reflect, and spend scheduled quality time together. The theme of the episode—intentional reconnection, self-care, and celebrating the joys and nuances of Black womanhood—shines as they share honest and tender moments, reminisce, and uplift each other.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Heaviness of the Present Moment

• Both hosts candidly discuss the collective heaviness they feel due to social, political, and personal stressors.
  • Jade: "You know, just hanging on in a crumbling society." [06:49]
  • Keia: "Everybody feels the heaviness... We're feeling the effects, and we've been watching this globally." [07:11-07:24]
• The exhaustion of daily life, particularly as Black women and professionals in helping fields, steers the conversation on decompressing, finding outlets (screaming in the car!), and holding space for one another.
  • Jade: "I turn my last meeting off in the car and be like, oh, Jesus." [04:34]

2. The Power and Necessity of Reconnection

• Amid world chaos, they prioritize intentional time together, reflecting on the importance of sisterhood and Black woman connection as a source of strength.
  • Jade: "Connection is necessary. Being present and enjoying the people that we love is necessary." [09:16]
  • Keia: "We have to remain intentional about...locking in with each other, remembering that we are safe." [09:24]

3. Joy, Music, and Family Memories

• The episode opens with classic R&B lyrics, segueing into memories of their parents and reflections on how Black adults create spaces for themselves to decompress—sitting in the car or kitchen, taking a moment from family obligations. Each shares stories of recognizing their elders' need for solitude and how they've come to understand and practice it themselves.

4. Reflecting on Recent Episodes & Guests

• Briefly recapping impactful prior conversations:
  • Camaraderie among Black women (Char),
  • Land, real estate, and Black ownership (Kat),
  • Black women's health and "uterus hugs" (Dr. Wendy and Dr. Sharon Malone).
• Jade expresses gratitude for intergenerational and expert support, humorously noting, "Our uteruses need a hug. They've been in so much turmoil for so long." [08:35]

5. Intentional Sister Time—Let’s Play a Game

• To lighten the mood, Keia and Jade choose to replay “We’re Not Really Strangers,” a conversation-driven card game, diving into questions that prompt laughter, nostalgia, and deep sharing.

Memorable Moments & Quotes (with Timestamps)

Music & Family Nostalgia

• Jade: "There are sometimes when ... your mama was in the kitchen, in her house dress with the music on, just closing her eyes, sobbing out because ... she just needed a moment." [02:45]
• Keia: "I have distinct memories of my father at times ... in complete and utter darkness blasting some musical selection for whatever mood he was feeling at the time." [03:03]
• Jade: "My mama would sit out in the driveway ... just resting her understanding." [03:22]

Relatable Adulting Humor

• Both hosts describing post-Zoom decompressing:
  • Jade: "I have developed the practice of like, screaming ... Sometimes you have to just cry out." [04:34-05:09]
  • Keia: "Sometimes you just have to yell. That's what it is." [05:11]

Collective Struggles, Humor, and Connection

• Jade: "Everything's bad. The government sucks. They're killing everybody, and nothing changes ever. And it's really, you know, I think everybody is feeling the effects of it." [05:43]
• Keia: "We're going to play games. We're just going to chat... It's a light episode." [09:02]

Kitchen Table Talk: "We're Not Really Strangers" Game

Level 1: Perception

• Shoes & Personalities: They dissect each other’s shoe choices, revealing character traits and life stages.

  • Jade: "Your shoes tell me ... you like a look. You’re not a one lane person. ... And we don’t care, after a while. I don’t give a damn." [29:22–30:43]
  • Keia: "You like a funky shoe ... prioritize comfort ... not looking for a standard shoe." [30:43–31:52]

• Movie Characters Analogy: Assigning each other roles based on personality and growth.

  • Jade to Keia: "You give me an evolved Molly from Insecure ... You've got your together career-wise. And ... that self-awareness ... [of] where you want to be." [34:10–36:46]
  • Keia to Jade: "I see you as a restaurant owner ... community based ... the place everyone would pop ... all hang out there, karaoke..." [37:04–39:47]
  • Jade's creative movie: Keia as an educational Olivia Pope, fixing a billionaire scholarship scandal for Black students. [40:05–42:44]

Level 2: Connection

• Dreams Let Go Of: Both share personal dreams they've had to release.

  • Jade: "Playing my flute again. I was first chair ... but life happened." [44:15]
  • Keia: Letting go of a family tradition with her late grandfather ("DDA")—singing a cherished song at major events—due to his passing. [45:13–47:07]
  • Desire to work in talk radio: “I would love to ... like, call-in, just talking ... that would be a dream.” [49:39]

• Earliest Happiness: Heartwarming childhood memories.

  • Jade: "Grandparents’ anniversary party ... me and my cousins performed En Vogue ... performed Kris Kross jump." [50:27–51:57]
  • Keia: "Christmas morning in fifth grade, I got a computer ... I would get dressed like I was going to work and go set up at that computer ... corporate girly!” [52:24–55:27]

Level 3: Reflection

• Describing Their Conversation:

  • Jade: “Refreshing.” Keia: “I needed this.” [60:50–60:58]

• Superpowers:

  • Jade to Keia: “Your vulnerability ... allows people to feel safe ... to express their own vulnerability as well.” [61:09]
  • Keia to Jade: “You are such a fierce protector ... if your spirit tells you something’s important ... you go all in ... that’s your superpower.” [62:00]

• On Why They Met:

  • Jade: “It was ordained by God ... we’re a yin and yang ... to provide a community where all those complicated, challenging, and rewarding parts of Black woman life can be spoken about freely.” [65:00–66:57]
  • Keia: “God brings you into proximity ... people who have had different experiences than you to expand your understanding ... Our connection is a choice.” [67:41–70:45]

Lessons in Black Woman Self Care ([75:35])

Jade’s NYC Day of Self-Care

• Rekindling joy through a classic, carefree NYC day with sisters—happy hour, catching up, loving support, and laughter.
  • “We went out on a Tuesday having drinks. Stayed until almost midnight ... filled my spirit.” [76:47–77:55]
  • On Black women’s love raising the standard: “It raises the standard. I don’t need you, Daquan ... because I know what it feels like to be loved properly.” [78:47–80:02]

Gentle Beauty For Sensitive Skin

• Jade’s search for clean skincare and makeup (Ilia, Saie, Danessa Myricks) to avoid contact dermatitis. [81:33–83:08]

Keia’s Writing Practice & The Spiral Notebook

• Starting a communal Substack called The Spiral Notebook for reflection, community, and collective healing.
  • “Not just for me, but for everyone … because there is powerful work in sitting and processing your thoughts.” [87:39–88:54]
  • “It feels very natural, very much like... divine.” [87:39]
  • Recalling the old-school tradition of passing spiral notebooks and gel pens among friends for notes, creativity, and support. [86:22–86:54]

Petty Peeves ([93:40])

Tangible Occasions Event Planner Scandal

• Jade and Keia call out an unethical event planner ("Tangible Occasions") for ghosting a client, showing no accountability, and misusing community trust.
  • Jade: “May you have the day that you deserve, lady ... the last thing we need is somebody within our community to be harmful to others.” [95:06]
  • Keia: “It costs nothing to communicate ... don’t gaslight people.” [97:03–98:10]
  • Both emphasize community, accountability, and respect as essential business values.

Notable Quotes

• Jade: "We used to play games. My dad would cheat. He'd be like, that's your fault for not watching. Terrible." [60:22]
• Keia: "We choose to be connected…and that has healed so many parts of my heart." [67:41]
• Jade: "My community is so important to me, and yeah, I’ll ride for you. I really would." [63:57]
• Keia: "I’ve been praying for the Lord to send me the right billionaire... to let me do what needs to be done. Just get out of the way." [42:10]

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [01:11] – Musical Open & Mood Setting
• [03:03–04:14] – Family memories & decompression
• [07:11–10:21] – Collective heaviness & need for intentional connection
• [28:51–39:47] – Kitchen Table Talk: "We’re Not Really Strangers": perception and fun insights
• [44:15–51:57] – Dreams let go & earliest happiness recollections
• [60:50–66:57] – Reflection, superpowers, and why their friendship matters
• [75:35–83:08] – Self care: NYC day, clean beauty, The Spiral Notebook Substack project
• [93:40–102:32] – Petty Peeves: Tangible Occasions event planner warning

Tone & Language

The episode embodies warmth, laughter, and authenticity, sprinkled with playful banter, honest vulnerability, and plenty of classic Black auntie realness. Keia and Jade’s conversational style mixes the deeply personal with the universally relatable, always centering care, candor, and communal joy.

In Summary

“Scheduled Sister Time” is an intentional pause for joy, reflection, and friendship amid turbulent times. Keia and Jade invite listeners to find their own “scheduled sister time”—to check in, reconnect, laugh, cry, heal, and hold themselves and each other up. The episode is full of nostalgic memories, vulnerable truths, honest critiques (especially of folks who don't handle their business!), and reminders that Black women’s self-care and community-building are both radical and crucial.

For More

• The new Spiral Notebook Substack: [Keia’s collective reflection space]
• Patreon for video versions: [Patreon link not provided in transcript]
• Instagram: @GettinGrownPod

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