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Two step. I see us in the park yes Strolling the summer days of imaginings in my head and words from my heart Told only to the wind Even without being said I don't want to trouble you is my trouble but there's something about your love that makes me weak yes. Knocks me off my feet Take it

Jade (1:51)

away and I don't wanna boy

Jay (1:56)

you

Jade (1:57)

with it oh but I love you I love you I love you hey Steven. More and more.

Jay (2:09)

Steve Lynn, I am so glad you knew I was singing the Stevie version and not the Donnell version.

Jade (2:15)

I know, I know. Anybody else, I wouldn't. But I know if you would never sing Donnell Jones over Stevie.

Jay (2:25)

Not over. And I. And listen, no disrespect to John did. Correct. No. He did a fabulous whiny job with it. I think. You know, he upped the tempo just a tinge and I like the energy. Also.

Jade (2:41)

He. He held it was a respectful integrity of the original song while making it his own and making it, you know, you know, appropriate for the time and the content. He contemporized it in a way that did not mess it up. You see what I'm saying?

Jay (2:57)

No.

Jade (2:58)

So it was clean. It was a good cover.

Summary

Gettin’ Grown – Episode: Studs On ICE (May 5, 2026)

Hosts: Keia and Jade

Podcast Theme: Two proud Black women navigating adulthood, offering authenticity, humor, and lessons in self-care—with a focus on friendship, vulnerability, and real-life adulting in a tumultuous world.

Episode Overview

This “mini” episode is dedicated to Mental Health Awareness Month, with Keia and Jade checking in candidly about how they're really doing in a world that, in their words, feels “actively burning down around us.” They reflect on the external chaos—from politics to pop culture—and share real coping tactics, discuss boundaries, community, and practical commitments to self-care beyond the surface. The show’s hallmark conversational style is as insightful as it is vulnerable and funny.

Episode Highlights & Key Discussion Points

1. Kitchen Table Talk: Music, Black Excellence & Nostalgia (Starts ~03:00)

Begins with a rich discussion on soul music, the art of a good cover, and the legends in Black music: Stevie Wonder, Luther Vandross, Jodeci, and Charlie Wilson.
Reflections on showmanship in past generations of artists vs. today’s music industry.
Notable quote:

“We're just not getting music like before. The showmanship... people cared about every detail that was a part of their performance.”
—Jay (08:27)
Gentle shade thrown at the brevity and sameness of modern songs, with a loving critique of artists like Chris Brown and shoutout to Usher for still bringing showmanship.

Memorable Segment

Jodeci/Casey & Jojo concert stories (05:50+)
Luther Vandross’s 75th birthday playlist (04:18)

2. Pop Culture & Community: Michael Jackson Biopics & Performing Arts (~10:00–18:00)

Deep dive on the quality of music biopics, particularly Michael Jackson's legacy (“Jackson 5: An American Dream” taking the top spot, and skepticism about new biopics).
Insights on artistry and mastery—comparing vocalists who “play their voice like an instrument” (e.g., MJ, Beyoncé, Duran Bernard).
Funny aside about “Moonwalker” being “weird, strange, and jarring.”
Notable quote:

“It’s not going to be another Michael Jackson biopic that would be comparable to the Jackson 5 American Dream.”
—Jade (14:22)
Celebration of community moments at MJ's “This Is It” screening and MJ: The Musical, reinforcing how Black cultural touchstones bring people together.

3. Mental Health Awareness Month: Raw Reflections (26:25+)

Naming the Chaos

Jade and Jay call out the “glaring abnormality” of being expected to function as normal in a world that is anything but.
Recognition of “gaslighting” feelings; they validate listeners who feel heavy, overwhelmed, crazy or out of sorts.
Notable quote:

“If you feel like you are being gaslit every time you open your eyes... it’s because you are.”
—Jade (28:17)

Mental Health Check-In

Jade: Explains the “labor” of performing normalcy amidst abnormal circumstances, and how that leads to exhaustion and a sense of being “burdened”—“I just feel burdened… like heavy laden” (38:27)
Jay: Describes herself as “Ross stressed for less” and relates to the chaos of a Ross department store (33:02)
Both emphasize honoring difficult feelings, not rushing to solutions.

4. Coping & Commitments: What Real Self-Care Looks Like (41:05–55:00)

Practical Tips & Commitments

“Internal work” over surface-level pampering.
Cognitive health: reading actual books, sudoku, puzzles, memorizing phone numbers, and even navigating without GPS to exercise the brain.
Jade: Recommitting to prayer journaling—even if prayers are short, conversational, or just about presence.
Boundaries: Committing to putting phones away at night to improve sleep and mental clarity; inspired by friends like Fran who only check their phone at certain times.

“I’m a scroller... and hours have passed, and it’s really bad at night. It’s affecting my sleep.”
—Jade (46:12)
Feeding oneself during the day—especially important for those who get consumed by work and neglect basic needs.

“It was a struggle for me to feed myself during the day. This is insane.”
—Jay (55:00)
Encourages listeners to name their own boundaries and practices, even small things (e.g., having an overdue conversation, truly logging off from work at 5pm).

On Grief and Spirituality

Honest talk about how grief (e.g., after losing a loved one) changes one’s routines and rhythms, and the permission to adapt.
Notable quote:

“There’s real relationship there… sometimes we’re just in the same space. And that is still closeness.”
—Jade (51:36)
No pressure spirituality: Relationship with God (or one's spiritual practice) shouldn’t add to stress or feel transactional.

5. Community & Political Check-In (~27:00, ~35:00, ~59:00)

Brief mention of the Voters Rights Act and wider political chaos—promising deeper dives in future episodes.
Observations about “stud ICE agents,” the infiltration of Black and Brown bodies into oppressive structures, and the surrealist climate of U.S. politics in 2026.
Call to intentional community—building real support networks outside of digital disconnection, learning from the tight-knit activism of the 1960s.

“Let’s be intentional about fostering community... and be a village together.”
—Jay (61:25)

6. Listener Engagement & Graduation Announcements (56:43+)

Graduation season is here: Listeners are encouraged to send announcements to be read aloud on future episodes, starting May 15 and for the month to come.
Reminder: Honesty Box is still open for listener questions.

Notable Quotes & Moments

On the exhaustion of modern adulthood:
“There's a labor with having to sit in abnormal situations and being expected to act like everything is normal.”
—Jade (34:18)
On the importance of being real about your mental health:
“Sometimes it’s the healthiest thing to just be honest: I feel crazy. This feels crazy.”
—Jade (31:06)
On boundaries with technology:
“Fran said that she started charging her phone in a different room. And I think that I might try that on for size.”
—Jade (47:07)
On rethinking routines after loss:
“Sometimes in grief, it’s not that I don’t want to pray, but I don’t know what to say. My prayers just become short and conversational.”
—Jade (49:23)
On nurturing community:
“This spirit of solitude and independence… has taken us away from pouring into the community that we once were… We have to find intentional ways to foster that village.”
—Jay (61:24)

Timestamps for Key Segments

03:00: Kitchen Table Talk – Covers, classic R&B, and concert experiences
08:27: Showmanship in music—critique of modern artists
13:05–16:11: Biopics, MJ’s legacy, performing artistry
26:25: Mental Health Awareness Month & naming the chaos
33:02: "Ross stressed for less"—personal check-ins
41:05: Moving from checking in to practical commitments
46:12: Setting real boundaries (esp. with technology)
49:23: Spiritual routines and adapting after grief
55:00: Remembering to eat—basic self-care
56:43: Graduation announcements and community news
61:24: The importance of rebuilding intentional community

Tone & Style

Wise, hilarious, and honest—adopting a kitchen table, homegirl energy.
Direct, unfiltered, but always caring; adept at holding complexity (“I feel burdened”; “I feel violated by that”).
Blends pop culture, politics, adulting hardships, and joyful self-care into a balm for listeners, especially Black women navigating similar struggles.

Closing Sentiment

Jade and Jay reiterate that in a world that often feels like “middle Earth” or a “dumpster,” they and their community aren’t powerless. They urge practical commitment to self and each other—mental health, boundaries, collective care, and joyful resistance—as a form of survival and hope.

“There’s still hope. All is not lost… Now’s the time for us to get connected to one another and valuable information sources, so we know how to fight for our lives, quite literally.”
—Jade (59:24)

How to Engage

Send graduation announcements & Honesty Box questions: hello@gettinggrown.co
Follow along for more adulting, self-care, and Black woman wisdom every week.

End of Summary.