Gettin' Grown — “Timbs on the Ground”

Podcast: Gettin' Grown
Hosts: Keia & Jade (Loud Speakers Network)
Date: March 25, 2025

Episode Overview

In this lively, heartfelt episode, Jade and Keia welcome spring and reflect on adulthood, intergenerational wisdom, and the evolving nature of Black womanhood and community. With their signature warmth and wit, they touch on self-growth, parenting, the importance of community spaces amid tough times, and the joys/pains of the everyday grind. The Kitchen Table Talk centers on raising grounded, personable kids (shout out to Noah), while later segments move into community activism, upcoming live events, and some classic “petty peeves.” In all, it's a celebration of resilience, joy, and keeping your metaphorical—and literal—Timbs steady on the ground.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Welcoming Spring & Black Woman Joy

[01:41-05:30]

• Jade opens with a Lauryn Hill verse and welcomes the Spring Equinox as her “new year,” signifying renewal and stepping into a fresh season with hope.
• Both hosts describe the feeling of seasonal depression lifting, expressing gratitude for survival, safety, and basic needs being met.
• Playful discussions about “signs” of coming into money (being carried everywhere like Mariah, getting hair done constantly “like Fantasia or Tamron Hall”).
• Reflection on “silver fox” hair and the embrace of aging:
  • Keia: “We are now in our solid black woman era, squarely.” [04:36]
  • “My hair’s essentially gray...doesn’t take much for me to get to this blonde!” [05:03]

2. Generational Reflections: Hair, Family, and Legacy

[05:17-06:59]

• Family anecdotes about going gray highlight how Black women claim both natural beauty and individual expression—whether through dye or embracing their “salt and pepper.”
• Grandmotherly influences celebrated for shaping style and attitude.
  • “One grandmother’s gonna do everything. The other is like...she dressed like Carole Baskin!” [07:05]

3. Parenting, Individuality, & Kids Growing Up

[07:11-25:43]

• Jade shares a moving moment when her daughter, Noah, asks for her own relationship with God, motivated by seeing her elders’ peaceful spirituality.
  • “I want to have my own relationship with God.” – Noah [07:39]
  • Keia: “That’s what it’s all about. It is about wanting to have a personal relationship with God.” [09:06]
• Both hosts express support for kids’ self-led spiritual journeys and discuss the importance of a safe space to explore beliefs.
• Noah's melodramatic early excitement for scripture is lovingly teased (“She sends scripture about silence to her group chat. They’re talking too much, so she says silence!”) [11:08]
• Discussion of balancing enthusiasm (“new convert” energy) with awareness that not everyone shares the same stage of spiritual awakening.
• Exploration of how witnessing a child’s self-discovery is a rare parenting joy—seeing kids as their own people.
  • “To watch Noah become Noah...I would be friends with my daughter if she wasn’t my daughter!” [16:10–19:02]
• Anecdotes on parenting approaches—giving kids room to float around, encouraging them to experience different cultural “tropes” and communities.

4. Black Friendship, Community, and Intergenerational Support

[21:09-27:44]

• The beauty and challenges of Black mother-daughter relationships:
  • Recounting their own mothers’ questions about identity, style, and sexuality—“Black mothers are so problematic. I try not to be the problematic Black mother.” [21:32]
• The joy of “the village”—a reminder about how chosen family and friend support are integral to raising Black children.
• Delighting in kids who want to hang out with “the aunties” and adults; redefining boundaries between adult and child spaces in community.
  • “I think it's dope that Ian wants to spend time with me... That’s a sign that we’re doing something right, not wrong.” [22:45]
• The ongoing evolution of Black women embracing their friendships and self-care—even when prior generations did not model this.
  • “I didn’t get to see my mom hang out...I want her to know it’s okay.” [25:43]

5. Community, Activism, and Answering Heavy Times

[28:54–39:37]

• Jade gives an impassioned update on ongoing humanitarian crises (Sudan, Gaza, Congo), emphasizing the refusal to look away or be silenced:
  • “We can’t stop paying attention... We do care about their humanity, and we are not going to stop talking about you all…” [29:51–31:50]
• Reflections on the “onslaught” of difficult news, the need for intentional, collective gathering (both digital and in-person) to process, heal, and strategize.
• Announcement: Upcoming live Gettin’ Grown events, centered not just on the hosts but on fostering genuine community support and resilience.
  • “We are curating experiences...to serve us all and speak to all the different aspects of our lives.” [38:29]

6. Entrepreneurship, New Projects, & Showing Up Creatively

[40:53–43:17]

• Jade excitedly shares details of her upcoming first solo dinner party (“Sunday on a Monday”), blending Black culinary tradition and intentional community.
  • “I really want to bring you all something very intentional and very lovely, and see how this pops off in New York so we can take this on elsewhere.” [41:06]
• Teasers about new Patreon features (nail cam, creative projects) and shout-outs to friends’ successes (e.g., Dustin’s stand-up show).
• “Stay in the know. Shout out to our brother Dustin for his very successful first Stand Up Live proud show!” [44:30]

7. Work, Academia, and Professional Integrity

[45:11–49:27]

• Keia shares experiences at an academic conference (NASPA) and tackles the notion that community-oriented, creative work “cheapens” professional labor.
  • “But, you know, I love that there are those of us who recognize the power of this platform for the kind of work that we all do.” [46:11]
• Jade’s unequivocal defense: “Whoever has ever suggested that to you, suck my dick, okay?...You are a tool to the community, you useless loaf.” [48:25]

8. Staying Hip & Embracing Generational Shift

[49:39–51:34]

• Playful admissions that even as they strive to stay “tapped in” with the youth, there’s a generational gap.
  • “I realize I’m not as tapped in as I think I am though…Auntie is outside.” [49:39; [49:45]]
• Glorilla concert invitations, conversations about new pop culture icons, and nostalgia for their own coming-of-age years.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Parenting & Identity:
  “You’re supposed to try on different things to figure out what you like.” – Keia [20:53]
• On Community:
  “I want her to love my friends but also know there are stages and levels… I didn’t get to see my mom hang out.” – Jade [25:33]
• On Political Leadership:
  “First of all, I don’t even understand why I’m still seeing Eric Adams’ face anywhere doing anything…” – Jade [64:08]
• Activism & Staying Loud:
  “I can't be bullied into not saying anything at all. You know what I'm saying?” – Jade [31:37]
• Podcast as Resistance:
  “People have suggested that creating this space with Jade and this sort of podcast work cheapens…my work work or my job job…but, you know, there are those who recognize the power of this platform.” – Keia [46:11]
• Defending Black Womanhood & Joy:
  “And whoever has ever suggested that to you, suck my dick, okay? Because…you are a tool to the community, you useless loaf.” – Jade [48:25]

Petty Peeves & Self-Care

Self-Care [56:05–59:02]:

• Keia: “I'm going to luxuriate and I'm going to enjoy my mortgage and all of the blessings that the Lord has given me in my home, in my space, with my bestie and my friends and my family.” [57:13]
• Jade: “My self care is, I'm going to dance. I got my Timbs on the ground. I'm about to create a Tim remix—the boots on the ground and a dance!” [59:02]

Petty Peeves [60:25–69:33]:

• Keia’s peeve: People who aggressively recline airplane seats, thinking they're in a La-Z-Boy.
  • “This is as far as the seat goes, chief.” [61:46]
• Jade’s peeve: Mayor Eric Adams joking about fare evasion when raising subway prices amid city instability.
  • “Have the day you deserve, you brown egg with eyes.” [66:32]
• Both vent about politicians who complain about public backlash when stripping citizens' rights and services.

Community & Looking Ahead

Upcoming:

• Live Gettin’ Grown events, designed as healing, intentional community spaces for information, support, and joy.
• Jade’s dinner party (“Sunday on a Monday,” April 14; tickets at jadeofalljades.com).
• Exclusive and creative community content via Patreon.

Onwards:

• The hosts wrap with practical reminders: stay hydrated (inside and out), mind your business, and keep yourself moisturized—“when the world is awful, it's not an excuse to be ashy!”

Recap for New Listeners

This episode is quintessential Gettin’ Grown: real, funny, celebratory, and deeply rooted. Keia and Jade move seamlessly from pop-culture jokes to urgently caring for the diaspora—from talking about hair colors and Mariah Carey “not walking,” to strategizing Black communal joy amid the real, relentless struggle.

If you want to witness what it means to grow, heal, and care as Black women in community, with both humor and gravitas—“Timbs on the Ground” is the unfiltered, affirming dose you need.

Listen to the next episode for more Black woman self-care, culture, and getting through adulthood—one Kitchen Table Talk at a time.