Gettin' Grown – “Womanhood Defined” (March 10, 2026)

Podcast: Gettin' Grown
Hosts: Keia (Takiya) & Jade
Network: Loud Speakers Network
Episode Theme: A reflective, honest, and often hilarious exploration of what it means to be a Black woman—how childhood ideas of “womanhood” evolved into the expansive, self-defined realities of the hosts.
Sections Covered: Kitchen Table Talk (main theme), Self Care, Petty Peeves

Episode Overview

This episode kicks off Women’s History Month with an intimate, revealing conversation between hosts Keia and Jade, centered around “womanhood”—specifically, how their ideas and lived experiences as Black women have developed and expanded over time. The discussion traces their childhood notions of womanhood, confronts the roles and societal scripts placed upon Black women, and lands on a celebration of agency, self-definition, and infinite possibility. Throughout, the tone remains honest, witty, and distinctly “Gettin’ Grown.”

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Weight of the World & Emotional Fatigue

• The hosts begin by sharing their mental fog and exhaustion, attributing it partly to perimenopause and partly to the overwhelming state of the world—touching on recent tragic events and social unrest.
• Quote:
  • "[03:57] Jade: Oh, well, we're really contending against so much, you know what I'm saying? We trying to. There's so much happening at one time."
• Both admit the difficulty of managing daily responsibilities against the backdrop of political, social, and emotional chaos.
  • "[05:20] Takiya: ...contend with all of the things that are your usual normal responsibilities while the world is literally in a state of active self destruction."

2. Creating Black Women-Only Spaces for Reflection

• The show itself (especially the Kitchen Table Talk segment) is described as a much-needed place for Black women to sort through feelings, experiences, and identities—a space away from the noise and propaganda of the world.
  • "[09:20] Jade: Yeah. Yeah."
  • "[09:22] Takiya: ...create space. You know, these are the little pockets and containers where we can create space."

3. Childhood Understandings of Womanhood

• Both hosts look back on their younger selves and realize their conceptions of womanhood were limited, shaped primarily by the examples of women around them (mothers, grandmothers, TV characters like Claire Huxtable).
  • "[18:05] Jade: ...I never saw myself, like, it's not something I aspired to, you know what I'm saying? ...I never really saw a super clear vision for myself."
  • "[20:03] Takiya: ...my concept of womanhood was pretty limited to like. Like roles. I don't think I thought of womanhood beyond specific roles."
• Major roles imagined as essential to womanhood: wife, mother, caretaker, with “not getting pregnant” drilled in as the main message through adolescence.
  • "[22:58] Takiya: ...getting pregnant was always presented as the Worst possible outcome."
  • "[23:28] Jade: And that as a kid, you're like, well, damn, did I ruin—I ruined you niggas lives. Exactly."

4. Expanding and Redefining Womanhood

• As adults, both Keia and Jade realize womanhood is much broader than the “roles” they were sold as children.
  • "[24:42] Jade: ...I think what has actually happened as I have evolved ...it's really been more explorative than anything else I think has happened when I allowed myself to define womanhood beyond the conventional things..."
  • "[32:06] Takiya: ...I really think that that's something that a lot of women have, like, that's inherent in, in what it means to be a woman. Right."

Notable Reflection

• Jade on agency and feeling no shame for choices:
  • "[31:14] Jade: ...I feel guilty because I don't feel guilty."
• Takiya on unlearning shame and control:
  • "[32:06] Takiya: ...that shame lever, that tool of shame and like, what you supposed to do, like, that's something that is really, really heavy in my, like, unlearning work."

5. Femininity vs. Womanhood

• The difference between being “feminine” (presentation, dress, mannerism) and actual womanhood (agency, choices, humanity).
• Both reflect on their grandmothers and mothers as examples of a spectrum—ultra-feminine to practical and unconcerned with appearances.
  • "[38:40] Jade: Mimi, okay. She could dress her butt off. ...She was the one: you can't—no, you shouldn't..."
  • "[39:00] Jade: ...then there was my grandma ...she just did what made her feel good when it felt good."

6. Embracing Authenticity and Infinite Black Womanhood

• Both conclude that Black womanhood cannot (and should not) be contained by existing scripts or stereotypes.

  • "[51:08] Takiya: ...it's critical for us to think about womanhood as this broad thing and not something that is skewed and limited or finite. It is infinite."
  • "[51:30] Jade: ...if we were to put any symbol to black women, it would be the infinity symbol."
  • "[49:21] Jade: It's wild that you think this is wild."

• Calls for listeners to send their own stories and definitions of womanhood, emphasizing the open, expanding nature of the concept.

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On the social media/AI landscape:
  • Jade’s Rant:
    • "[10:20] Jade: ...all we can do is continue to speak our truths as best as possible and stay the fuck off of Chat GPT. But with that being said, because I'm fucking sick, do you hear me? Of these niggas in Chat GP Motherfucking T. Do you hear me?"
    • "[11:31] Takiya: With hands with six, seven, eight, nine fingers. Girl, come on. Here, four clavicles."
• On the performativity of femininity:
  • "[41:56] Jade: And that was—a long conversation with myself on acceptance of, like, you are just not that. ...Yes, you can put on a dress sometimes and stunt on these niggas, and I do love a mule. But a lot of that is due to comfort."
• On womanhood as legacy and further expansion:
  • "[46:26] Takiya: ...learning who Takiya is at this point, I think is why it matters for me to, for us to sit down and think about womanhood in this expansive way because it really is a full comprehensive experience in a journey and it honestly colors and gives a lot of context..."

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Perimenopause, exhaustion, and the state of the world: [03:06–07:00]
• Transition to womanhood conversation & intention for Women’s History Month: [09:22–14:00]
• Childhood and adolescent views of womanhood: [16:49–24:00]
• Defining womanhood as adults & breaking out of roles: [24:42–32:00]
• Femininity vs. Womanhood and family influences: [38:05–46:00]
• Authenticity, infinite definitions of Black womanhood: [51:08–53:30]
• Invitation for listener reflections/questions: [52:12–54:48]

Self Care Segment [61:13–66:10]

• Jade’s Self Care: Dedicated a whole day to cooking multiple dishes and prepping food, emphasizing the importance of making time for oneself (and how freeing it can be to set aside all other obligations).
  • "[63:08] Jade: ...I was like, let me, you know, really get it in and plan whole days for myself where I don't give myself other obligations for things. ...it was so lovely."
• Takiya’s Self Care: Found a Black woman psychiatric nurse practitioner to support her with ADD; also learned to accept the help of home cleaners without pre-cleaning excessively ("hustling in reverse").
  • "[67:09] Takiya: ...this is someone who can sort of help me along that journey...I have been looking for a while for someone who was black and woman."
  • "[68:59] Jade: I was like, see, I've been hustling in reverse. Backwards. Okay, Backwards."

Petty Peeves (Petty Peeps) [75:34–84:26]

• Takiya’s Petty Peeve: Influencers who ASMR-tap on beauty products in videos.
  • "[76:14] Takiya: ...I hate when y' all be tapping on them products in. ...It is the quickest way to get me off of your content."
• Jade’s Petty Peeve: People who wear jeans to the gym, and rage-baiting content on the internet.
  • "[79:57] Jade: What? That's a thing? ...I just don't understand denim in the gym."
  • "[82:11] Jade: Rage baiting is doing exactly what it is intended to do with me."

The Takeaway: “Womanhood Defined”

• Womanhood, especially Black womanhood, is not a static or singular thing: it’s endlessly malleable, deeply personal, and grows with every experience, choice, and act of resistance.
• The hosts encourage listeners to challenge shame, question what doesn’t fit, and create space for their own stories and definitions.
• “If we were to put any symbol to Black women, it would be the infinity symbol.” [51:30]
• The episode closes with an invitation to share listener definitions of womanhood and questions for upcoming expert guests.

How to Connect

• Share your thoughts: Email hellotandgrown.co or chime in via social media or comments.
• Upcoming roundtable: Submit your body, womanhood, or health questions for a special episode with Dr. Wendy and other experts.

In Their Own Words

“I think what has actually happened as I have evolved and developed into my womanhood, it's really been more explorative than anything else...being a woman is actually being a full person.”
—Jade [24:42]

“It's critical for us to think about womanhood as this broad thing and not something that is skewed and limited or finite. It is infinite. And that's the beauty of it. And I think black women have embodied that so well...”
—Takiya [51:08]

Listen for:

• Authentic, vulnerable conversations laced with laughter and truth-telling.
• Keen observations on Black womanhood, childhood, religion, and generational legacy.
• The freedom and fun of redefining what it means to be (Black) woman, on your terms.

Summary prepared for Gettin’ Grown, “Womanhood Defined,” March 10, 2026.
Perfect for anyone seeking to explore, expand, or simply feel seen in their journey of adulting and Black womanhood.