Girls Gotta Eat – Episode Summary

Episode Title: Can Two Main Characters Be Together?
Guests: Taylor Strecker & Taylor Donohue
Release Date: December 1, 2025
Podcast Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine & Rayna Greenberg

Episode Overview

This episode of Girls Gotta Eat dives into relationships, identity, and the nuances of partnership, with a comedic and candid lens. Ashley and Rayna are joined by Taylor Strecker and Taylor Donohue—a married couple, podcast team, and new parents-to-be. The group discusses everything from wedding mishaps and gift bag drama to deeper reflections on parenting decisions, main character energy in relationships, social media boundaries, and what it means to find your role in friendships and love.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Holiday Banter, Worst Months & Gift Bag Drama

• Hosts open with banter about the worst months (November, March, April), seasoned with personal anecdotes about depression and the East Coast winters (00:51-02:20).
• Ashley’s wedding “gift bag gate”: Ashley shares the saga of her meticulously planned wedding guest gift bags, most of which weren’t properly distributed due to a logistical mix-up. She recounts the labor involved and lingering disappointment. Rayna does a live “unboxing” of the gift bag for listeners, covering every item in comedic detail (10:27–19:09).
  • “I spent so much time and money on them, and for them not to get out to people...it really took me down.” – Ashley (11:50)
• Product recs and shout-outs are laced throughout via organic conversation, not ads.

2. Updates on Life & Travel

• The hosts discuss recent travel struggles around Thanksgiving and hype up their upcoming New York holiday show (03:45–05:35).
• “Egg carton” inside joke: Ashley describes an ongoing prank involving an egg carton she and her husband pass back and forth, finding new ways to outwit one another—including sneaking it into returned Adidas shoes (05:38–09:09).

3. Taylor & Taylor Join: Relationships, Pregnancy & Decision-making

Wedding FOMO & Vulnerable Moments

• Taylor Strecker and Donohue congratulate Ashley on her marriage and share their regret at missing the wedding, reinforcing the closeness of this group (30:03–31:13).
• The conversation shifts to Donohue’s pregnancy, the anxieties and joys of impending parenthood, and how the couple navigated one partner being more enthusiastic about children than the other (31:41–41:02).
  • “I love her more than I love not having kids.” – Taylor Strecker (40:04)
  • The couple shares that Strecker’s love for Donohue drove her decision to have kids, even though she had deep doubts—a raw and rare acknowledgment.

Paths to Parenthood & Donor Details

• Taylor Donohue explains she had always wanted to be pregnant, and both share their thoughts on IVF, donor selection (via California Cryobank), and the ethics and logistics of sperm donation—complete with jokes about picking the “hottest” donor (41:43–47:30).
  • “We chose him based off of his looks. Complete vanity decision.” – Taylor Donohue (44:59)
• They chat about the legalities of donor identity and the changing laws allowing donor-conceived kids to contact biological parents at 18 (46:16–54:07).
• The sometimes absurd logistics of buying and storing vials of sperm: “We have nine of the twenty of them. So 11—there could be another family that have 11 of them. So there could potentially be just the two of us that have all of his sperm.” – Taylor Strecker (51:07)

4. Opposites Attract: Main Character Energy in Relationships

• The episode’s titular theme: Can two people both be “main characters” in a romantic relationship, or does harmony require one to play a supportive/observing role? (56:17–58:39)
• Taylor & Taylor talk opposites:
  • Strecker: the classic “main character”—loud, out front.
  • Donohue: content to observe, produce, and support—but equally confident, not in the “backseat.” (58:00–59:08)
  • “Thank God we're so opposite, because if there was two of me, I would have drowned myself.” – Taylor Strecker (58:56)
• The group discusses social media “spotlight” drama, carousel posting order, and photo approval—the sometimes silly, sometimes significant ways couples negotiate life in the public eye (59:17–64:14).
• Rayna observes: “You still seem, Taylor Donohue, like, very much in charge, poised, confident. Like, you don’t seem like you’re a backseat to her.” (58:00)

5. Friendship, Main Character Energy & Professional Jealousy

• Strecker is candid about her identity as the “number one number two”—a person who supports and uplifts “main character” friends (from Stassi Schroeder to Claudia Oshry & Hannah Berner). She is self-aware about the risk of over-correcting against jealousy and becoming too comfortable in the supporting role (77:32–80:16).
  • “I train myself. It’s way better to be happy for somebody than to be jealous of them. But maybe I’ve taken that a little too far and, like, made an identity.” – Taylor Strecker (78:41)
  • Donohue encourages Strecker to claim her own “main character” space too—“It doesn’t mean she wants any less…you think you’re number two, it’s just sort of like a narrative you play.” (79:32)
• Both hosts and guests reflect on the combination of ambition and humility required not to let professional jealousy get in the way of female friendship or self-worth.

6. The Kate Bosworth Saga & Parasocial Fame

• Strecker shares her lifelong, slightly unhinged “one-sided saga” with actress Kate Bosworth—from childhood rivalry to adulthood obsession to podcast monologue and near-connections in the influencer/Vanderpump-adjacent world (65:01–73:01; 74:08–77:04).
  • “I am a professional social climber. That is like what I do. I can’t get over Kate because she was my first failed attempt…” – Taylor Strecker (77:43)
• The group hilariously parallels this with Nikki Glaser’s ongoing desire for acknowledgment by Taylor Swift, reflecting on the nature of fandom, celebrity, and the sometimes funny, sometimes painful distance between us and the people we idolize.

Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• On Partner Dynamics:
  “You are like a main character energy. And it sounds like you aren’t, nor do you want to be. And I feel like that’s the only way romantic relationships work.” — Ashley Hess (57:43)
• On Having Kids When Unsure:
  “I love her more than I love not having kids.” – Taylor Strecker (40:04)
  “If one of us has to resent the other, I’d rather be the resenter.” – Taylor Strecker (40:15)
• On Gift Bag Disasters:
  “For them not to get out to people, it really took me down.” – Ashley Hess (11:50)
• On Opposites Attract:
  “If there was two of me, I would have drowned myself.” – Taylor Strecker (58:56)
• On Social Media Drama:
  “She'll post carousels before me… My Instagram makes us money.” – Taylor Strecker (59:39)
• On Being a Supportive Friend:
  “I'm a professional social climber. That is what I do. I can't get over Kate because she was my first failed attempt.” – Taylor Strecker (77:43)
• Taylor & Taylor’s IVF Journey:
  “We chose him based off of his looks. Complete vanity decision.” – Taylor Donohue (44:59)
  “It’s harder to be approved to be in California Cryobank than to get into Harvard!” – Taylor Strecker (45:50)
• On Jealousy & Longevity:
  “I'm proud that I've been in this business for so long. It's gonna be 20 years...But should I be embarrassed? Should I be, like, further along?” – Taylor Strecker (81:53)
• On Friendship & Depth:
  “To see the room of people that showed up for you—people would die to have those type of genuine love and connections.” – Reina Greenberg (83:46)
• Final Sentiment:
  “We are rich in friends and friendships.” – Taylor Donohue (84:15)

Important/Meaningful Segments & Timestamps

• [00:51–02:20] — Banter on the “worst month” of the year, setting the episode’s conversational tone.
• [10:27–19:09] — Gift bag gate: wedding logistics fail, live gift bag “unboxing.”
• [30:03–31:13] — Taylors join; immediate rapport and reflections on missing Ashley’s wedding.
• [31:41–41:02] — Pregnancy talk, doubts/fears of parenting, and relationship negotiations.
• [41:43–47:30] — IVF, donor selection, sperm bank realities, modern family-making.
• [56:17–64:14] — “Main character energy,” social media drama, and couple dynamics.
• [77:32–80:16] — Making peace with the “number two” role; honesty around professional jealousy.
• [65:01–77:04] — The entire Kate Bosworth “unrequited parasocial friendship” saga.

Tone & Language

• Humorous & Self-deprecating: Candid about failures, neuroses, and insecurities, but always landing on laughter.
• Supportive: The women celebrate each other's successes, own their limitations, and uplift each other with genuine affection.
• Honest & Relatable: Nothing is sugarcoated—be it “gift bag wars,” fertility choices, or admitting jealousy.

For Listeners Who Haven’t Tuned In

This episode is a masterclass in real talk about relationships, friendship, and “finding your lane”—rich with self-aware humor and a refreshing willingness to go deep (then quickly swerve back to jokes about stripper mishaps or magic trick obsessions). Whether you’re a main character, a proud supporter, or somewhere in between, you’ll find yourself in these conversations—and probably text the group chat after.

Find the Guests & Hosts

• Taylor Strecker: Instagram @taylorstrecker
• Taylor Donohue: Instagram @taylordonohue
• Podcast: Taste of Taylor, everywhere podcasts are found; full paywalled episodes on Patreon.
• Girls Gotta Eat: girlsgottaeat.com | @girlsgottaeatpodcast

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