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Child Listener
Pinna.
Adam Gidwitz
Hi, my name is Adam Gidwitz. I'm an author. I'm also a storyteller. I like telling all kinds of stories, but I especially like telling grim fairy tales. You may think you know Grimm fairy tales, and you may think that they are sweet and boring, but listen, those tales you heard were the cute, happy little kid bedtime versions of the Grimm tales. The original Grimm fairy tales aren't like that at all. They're weird and sometimes gross and often scary. In other words, they're grim. And I'm about to walk into a classroom and tell one of the original grim, grim tales to a bunch of kids. Do you want to join me? Do you want to hear a grim fairy tale? Let me help you decide on a scale of Grim, Grimmer and grimaced. This episode is grimaced because there is just a lot of death. Like, so much death. If I get to a part of the story and you start to feel scared or uncomfortable, this is what you could do. You could turn down the volume and count to five. Then turn the volume back up. If it still seems like a part you don't want to hear, just turn the volume down and count to five again. You know how much weird and gross and scary you're ready for? You know what you need? Okay, I'm at the classroom door now. There are kids inside waiting to hear a grim fairy tale. So are you coming in? Grim grimmer grimace.
Child Listener
What are you doing?
Adam Gidwitz
I'm just stretching my legs. Do you want to do it with me?
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Adam Gidwitz
All right. Time to come back to the rug. Let's do it. This is part two of the Two Travelers. Do you remember where we left off? It was one of the grimmest moments in the history of Of Grim, Grimmer. Grimmest. And it's only going to get worse. The tailor had taken one eye from each corpse and made his way into the town of Mantua. This is the last thing that happened. It was midnight when the tailor arrived in the city of Mantua. The streets were empty, but he wandered around until he Found a tavern that was still open. He went inside and he stopped. He saw the most horrifying sight he had ever seen. He looked around him. His skin crawled. He wanted to turn and flee. Everyone was dead. And now? We'll keep going. Remember, you can turn down the volume if you want. We are still in the middle of this grimmest of grim moments. The bartender's eyes were open, but unseeing blood ran from his mouth. A man in a chair at a nearby table had a knife sticking out of his side. The barmaid looked like she was a hundred years old and her eyes were closed peacefully. But she did not appear to be breathing. And yet there were sounds coming from the tavern. The clink of glasses, the chatter of voices. How was this possible? Everyone was dead.
Child Listener
What the heck is going on?
Adam Gidwitz
Good question.
Child Listener
Maybe they just had a radio on so that. Like a Spotify noise.
Adam Gidwitz
You think there were radios and Spotify noises?
Child Listener
Once upon a time, I think. Since when? He was talking to the dead people. On the gallows? Yeah, on the gallows. He could talk to them and they could. And the dead people could talk to him.
Adam Gidwitz
So.
Child Listener
And one of them said, like, half of his foot is, like, in the dead realm or something.
Adam Gidwitz
Interesting. The tailor closed his eyes and opened them again. Death. Death as far as he could see. Then he covered his right eye and looked through his left eye. They were alive. They were all alive. They were alive and happy. Talking and drinking and eating and laughing. How had the tailor not seen that before? Then he covered his left eye and opened his right eye. They were alive, but they didn't look happy. They were poor people, worried about the future, trying so hard to smile in the face of the million difficulties that life throws in your way. Then the tailor opened his eyes again, and they all looked dead. He focused on the barmaid. When he opened his left eye, she was a girl of 20, happy and carefree. When he opened his right eye, she was still a girl of 20. But she clearly did not want to be working in a tavern at this hour of the night, bringing ale to old men. When he opened both eyes, she was a hundred years old and dead. When the tailor looked at the man in the chair from his left eye, he was loud and boisterous and clearly loved his Alex. When the tailor looked at the man with his right eye, he was a loud and angry drunk. And when he looked at him with both eyes, he was five years older and someone had stabbed him through the side. The tailor thought he knew what was happening. He closed his right eye and went to the bar and ordered a cup of ale. He drank half of it. He examined it with just his left eye. A cup of ale, half full and frothy, waiting to be drunk. Then he closed his left eye and looked at it with his right. What do you think it looked like then?
Child Listener
Dead.
Adam Gidwitz
Did it look half full, half empty? It looked half empty. That's right. Then he looked at the cup of ale with both eyes. And he saw. Anyone have a guess?
Child Listener
Death.
Adam Gidwitz
He didn't see death, but close. What would it be for a cup?
Child Listener
It would be all empty.
Adam Gidwitz
That's exactly what he saw. He saw an empty cup. So the tailor knew a few things. From his left eye, he saw things as he always had, with an easygoing and optimistic attitude. From his right eye, he saw things as the shoemaker did, Like a pessimist who was always prepared for the worst. And from both eyes, he saw into the shadowy realm of death. He saw how things would end, how people would die.
Child Listener
This is like the story. One's bad, one's good. Yeah. It's kind of like repeating, but it's not.
Adam Gidwitz
Yes, it's kind of like the first half of the story. But repeating in a different way. Great point. So he dug through his tailor's pack until he found some leather. And right there in the tavern, he made himself an eye patch. He covered his right eye with the patch. And suddenly the tavern was full of life and joy. The tailor ordered some food. And that night, as he lay in one of the guest rooms of the tavern. He decided that everything would be just as it used to be. As long as he kept the eye patch over his right eye. What do you think? Is that how he should live?
Child Listener
No.
Adam Gidwitz
What do you think?
Child Listener
I think he's an open both eyes so he could see goodly. But I think that both eyes show good and bad. Like it shows the right side of things. So that's why he said, open his right eye, too.
Adam Gidwitz
Interesting. So he should balance the two ways of looking at life. Very interesting. In the morning, when the tailor came down for breakfast, he saw the young barmaid still cleaning up from the night before. She asked him if she could make him some food. And he said yes. But he wondered what she would look like if he switched his eyepatch over. So while she was in the kitchen fixing him up breakfast, he switched his eye patch from his right eye to his left. And when she came back with a plate of sausage and bread, he saw how tired she was and how she wished she could go home. But also the sausage looked fatty and the bread looked stale. So once he'd thanked the barmaid, he switched his eye patch back to his right eye, and the breakfast looked delicious. And he dug in. And when he stood up to leave, he left the barmaid a very generous tip.
Child Listener
Back in the day, did they have, like, tips of doubloons?
Adam Gidwitz
Yes, I'm sure he tipped her a doubloon. He walked around the town of Mantua that day, wondering how his life would be now, looking through his left eye. Life was simple. Looking through his right eye, he better understood the suffering of everyone around him. Could he live as he used to, happy, go lucky and carefree when others were suffering? But on the other hand, or through the other eye, would suffering along with them do them any good at all?
Child Listener
So I would see how the. I would take the eyepash off and find the shoemaker and see how he would die. Okay, and then do that.
Adam Gidwitz
You just want revenge.
Child Listener
If you take both eye patches off, you can actually see. You can sort of see the future. And you can look for. With both of your eyes. You can look for the people that will kind of, like, need the most help if they're going to, like, die young. He should just try and help everyone else instead of just suffering along with them.
Adam Gidwitz
Interesting. The tailor kept moving his patch from his right eye to his left eye and back to his right, unable to make up his mind. And just as he was moving it for the hundredth time, in the moment when he had both eyes open, he saw a piano fall from a window and crush an old man. He put the eyepatch back on his left eye. No, the man wasn't dead. The piano had not fallen yet. But the tailor could see that the man was walking right towards where a piano was being lifted from the street to be put through a window on the second floor of a fine house. He would be under it in less than a minute. He was going to be crushed by a piano. There was no hope for him then. He moved the eyepatch to his right eye and looked through his left. And the tailor thought, of course there's hope for him. And he rushed forward, running as fast as he possibly could, and reached the old man just as he passed into the shadow of the piano. The tailor jerked the old man out of the way and crash. The piano fell to the ground, smashing itself to pieces. But the old man was safe.
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Child Listener
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Adam Gidwitz
Many people on the streets of Mantua had seen this and they rushed to the tailor to congratulate him for being a hero and saving the old man's life.
Child Listener
My hero.
Adam Gidwitz
That was incredible. How did you know? But how had he known the piano would fall? It was magic. They brought him to a tavern, for there were many taverns in Mantua in those days and bought him drinks and begged him to explain how he had known the piano would fall. Please, sir, tell me how you knew.
Child Listener
Yes, tell us.
Adam Gidwitz
So he told them. Now everyone wanted to know how they would die and if there was a way to prevent it. Please, sir, tell me how I'm going to die.
Child Listener
Tell me next. I must avoid death.
Adam Gidwitz
So the tailor took off his eyepatch and looked at each person one by one. For some, like the young barmaid, it was clear that they would live long lives and die in their sleep. These people left the tailor's side beaming with hope and joy. But others had tragic accidents in their future. The tailor saw that one man would drink himself to death. That means drinking so much alcohol he got sick and died. The man stood up and swore then and there he would never drink another drop of alcohol again. I'll never drink another drop of alcohol as long as I live. The tailor saw that a lady would drown in the middle of the sea. She vowed never to go on another sea voyage.
Child Listener
I'll never go near the ocean again.
Adam Gidwitz
The tailor didn't know if these two would avoid their fate or not. Do you think they can? Do you think they can avoid their fate?
Child Listener
He's going to tell all of them how they're going to die, and they're just going to be fearful for the rest of their lives. The Sea witch one. I thought I forgot what it was called. They tried to keep the child away, but that didn't work. And I think there's always just gonna be like. Like the tsunami that came in. There's always gonna be like, some.
Adam Gidwitz
You can't escape your fate.
Child Listener
Yeah.
Adam Gidwitz
Except the old man in the piano, it did change his fate.
Child Listener
I feel like it's one of those stories where it's like, this guy has ruined the whole entire space and time continuum because he. He saved this man from dying. And he was supposed to die.
Adam Gidwitz
It's like Back to the Future. The tailor remembered that the old man had not been crushed by a piano. So it seemed that some fates at least could indeed be changed. So he told them their fates. And the people would give the tailor money in exchange, just whatever they could afford. Days and weeks went by, and soon the tailor was famous. He walked the streets and he let his beard grow. And he wore his eye patch, sometimes over his right eye, sometimes over his left, depending on whether he felt he needed to relax or be prepared. And only when someone asked to know their fate would he look through both eyes at once. One thing he never did, though, was look into a mirror with Both eyes. He didn't want to know. What doesn't he want to know?
Child Listener
Oh, what? His death.
Adam Gidwitz
Yeah. Meanwhile, the shoemaker's life had changed since his journey through the wood. He was plagued by guilt for what he had done to the tailor.
Child Listener
He was what?
Adam Gidwitz
Plagued by guilt? He felt so guilty for putting out the tailor's eyes. He felt bad.
Child Listener
But wasn't he bad?
Adam Gidwitz
Well, people can be complicated. They can do bad things and then they can feel guilty about it. He still did a bad thing though, right? But his guilt did not make him kinder. It made him live in fear. Fear of everyone. Fear of his guilt. And especially fear that the tailor would somehow find him and get his revenge.
Shoemaker
I should have left him to die in that forest. Instead of bringing him out to the other side.
Adam Gidwitz
The shoemaker mumbled to himself as he made his way around Mantua looking for work.
Child Listener
Or you should have just let him stay alive. Yeah.
Adam Gidwitz
Maybe you shouldn't have done all that terrible thing to him in the first place. Does he sound like he's a good guy now? No, no. He's saying he wish he'd let the guy die. Right. Everywhere he went, every minute of every day, he repeated this phrase.
Shoemaker
I should have left him to die in that forest.
Adam Gidwitz
Which didn't make people very eager to hire him. Can you imagine that? If someone's going to get a job and they're like, will you hire me? I should have let him die in that forest. No, I'm not gonna hire you. You sound terrifying. And then one day, the shoemaker heard that there was a fortune teller in Mantua. One who could see the manner of your death. Who is that fortune teller?
Child Listener
The tailor.
Adam Gidwitz
The shoemaker was thrilled. Aha.
Shoemaker
That's how I will sleep well at night again. The fortune teller will say whether the tailor will be revenged upon me. Or if I will die happily in my bed.
Adam Gidwitz
And he hurried off to find the fortune teller.
Child Listener
I think the tailor's gonna recognize the shoemaker. And then he's gonna be like, well, I'm gonna kill you. That's how you're gonna die.
Adam Gidwitz
I predict. I'm gonna kill you. The shoemaker came across the tailor in a tavern. His beard and hair were long now, and he wore an eye patch over his right eye. The shoemaker didn't recognize him at all. He came to the tailor's table and.
Shoemaker
Said, please, kind fortune teller, tell me my fate. How shall I die?
Adam Gidwitz
The tailor looked up and nearly fainted. There was the shoemaker who he had shared his bread and money. With his traveling companion, who had put out his eyes in the forest. And the tailor thought I could do anything to him.
Death
I could scare him to death. I could tell him to go swim in the ocean where he would surely drown. And he would believe me. Look how scared he is.
Adam Gidwitz
But the tailor was looking through his left eye. And he also saw that the shoemaker was being torn to shreds by his guilt. And that the fear and guilt he felt. Were worse punishment Than anything the tailor could do to him. It was as if he were already in hell, Suffering infernal torment here on earth. The tailor pitied him. And so he invited the shoemaker to sit down. He said, are you sure?
Death
Sure you want to know your fate? Some fates are changeable, but others are not. You already live in fear, sir. I can see that. Maybe you should try to relax a little. Look at life through the other eye for a change.
Adam Gidwitz
But the shoemaker grabbed the tailor's hands.
Shoemaker
Please, sir. Please tell me my fate. I cannot take the suspense any longer. With this constant terror. I might as well be in the shadowy land of Death already. I am dead while I live.
Adam Gidwitz
He looked at the shoemaker. He removed his eyepatch. The shoemaker was startled. The tailor's eyes were two different colors. One brown and one green. And two different sizes, One large and one small. The tailor gazed with those strange, frightened, frightening eyes. Right into the shoemaker's future. And after a moment, he said, I'm sorry.
Death
Death will come for you today.
Shoemaker
Today.
Adam Gidwitz
Cried the shoemaker.
Shoemaker
Is it the tailor? Will he be the one to kill me at last?
Adam Gidwitz
The tailor hesitated, then said, in a.
Death
Way.
Child Listener
I guess that kind of. How is he gonna die?
Adam Gidwitz
The shoemaker pleaded.
Shoemaker
But can I escape this fate?
Death
Is there any way that I do.
Adam Gidwitz
Not know, said the tailor.
Death
But I know Death is here today in Mantua.
Adam Gidwitz
Here? Cried the shoemaker. He leapt to his feet. Then I can escape him without so much as a thank you. He ran from the tavern. As he banged through the door, he ran right into a tall man clad all in black. The shoemaker looked up into his face and.
Child Listener
I think it's Death.
Adam Gidwitz
It was Death looking down at him. But Death seemed as surprised to see the shoemaker. As the shoemaker was to see Death.
Child Listener
Who's Death?
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Adam Gidwitz
So in some fairy tales. Great question. In some fairy tales, the devil is a character. But in this fairy tale and in other fairy tales, Death himself is a character. And his job is to bring people to the underworld. So Death himself was there also, like.
Child Listener
His body was there like his dead body?
Adam Gidwitz
No, a character called Death. A character whose name is Death and who brings people to the Underworld was there.
Child Listener
I'm the Underworld.
Adam Gidwitz
The Underworld is another name for the afterlife. Like where you go after you die. Some people believe in heaven, some people believe in hell.
Child Listener
I believe in God.
Adam Gidwitz
You believe in God. Some people believe there's just an afterlife where people go. But in any way, you believe in these stories, Death brings you from life to death when it's your time. Death's mouth opened into a circle like a portal to the shadowy land of Death. And he pointed at the shoemaker with a bony finger. Death opened his mouth in a big circle and pointed at the shoemaker with a bony finger like.
Child Listener
Like, how are you? How can you see? He's like, how can you see?
Adam Gidwitz
The shoemaker didn't wait to find out why Death looked so surprised. He raced through town until he found a horse, which he jumped on without paying for and galloped out of Mantua.
Shoemaker
I just need to get away, he.
Adam Gidwitz
Said to himself as he drove the horse faster and faster.
Shoemaker
I know I will go to Turin. And if he tries to follow me, he may well get lost in the forest. Or maybe I will.
Adam Gidwitz
Who cares?
Shoemaker
At least Death won't find me.
Adam Gidwitz
So the shoemaker steered the horse for the forest. The forest was as still as a graveyard. What did we say last time? Do you remember? I said the forest was as still as a remember church. And this time it's as still as a graveyard. Why?
Child Listener
Because he's gonna die.
Adam Gidwitz
Not a breeze stirred, not a brook murmured, not a bird sang. And not a ray of sunshine found its way through the dense leaves. The horse's hooves pounded the path and the shoemaker kept looking over his shoulder to see if Death was on his tail. But the shoemaker didn't see Death yet. The shoemaker did not know if he was on the two day path or the six. But he did not care. He just pushed his horse harder and harder to escape the pursuit of Death.
Child Listener
He said that. So when the tailor was telling the shoemaker's fortune, he said, well, the shoemaker said, will the tailor kill me? And the tailor said, kind of. But right here it's not really kind of.
Adam Gidwitz
What do you mean? Like, how is the tailor killing you?
Child Listener
I think he means like I. In a way that I kill you. Because he kind of like scared him.
Adam Gidwitz
And that might cause his death.
Child Listener
Yeah, yeah, I also do agree with you. Because he. If he didn't come, then he wouldn't die. Because he went and he Got frightened that Death was coming for him today. So he ran out, stole a horse, and then went through the woods. And he's either gonna starve to death, or he's not gonna starve to death or take the long route. And Death is gonna find the short route or something. He's just gonna, like, die.
Adam Gidwitz
Somehow, Death did not catch him. To the Shoemaker's great surprise, he emerged from the forest with Turin just ahead. He must have chosen the two day path, and his horse had run so fast that the entire journey took less than a day. He pushed the horse on toward Turin, unwilling to slow even for a second. He would be safe if he could just make it to Turin, he was sure. He pushed his horse harder and harder.
Child Listener
I think his horse trips.
Adam Gidwitz
He came to a small stream, and the Shoemaker urged the horse to leap over it. But the horse was too exhausted to jump. And she stopped short. And the Shoemaker was thrown from the horse. He landed with a splash in the water. His head hit a rock. Blood clouded the water around him, and he began to sink. This, the Shoemaker thought, no, I cannot die here.
Shoemaker
Not now. I escaped Death.
Adam Gidwitz
And then a form appeared over him and reached down to take his hand. The Shoemaker thought, I am saved. Until he saw that the form who was reaching down to him was Death. Say it again. Say it louder, without your hand. It was Death. The form was Death. Death took him by the hand.
Shoemaker
Wait.
Adam Gidwitz
Cried the Shoemaker.
Shoemaker
Just tell me one thing, please, before you take me.
Adam Gidwitz
Death paused, as if he was waiting for the question. So the Shoemaker asked, you saw me in Mantua.
Shoemaker
And you looked so surprised.
Adam Gidwitz
Why? And Death said, because we had an.
Death
Appointment right here outside of Turin, and I didn't expect to see you there in Mantua.
Adam Gidwitz
And then he grabbed the Shoemaker and dragged him down to the shadowy land of Death. Meanwhile, the tailor lived for many, many more years, looking through his left eye first and then through his right and then through his left again. So he was always prepared, but always happy. The end. All right. Are you guys okay? I told you a messed up story. Everybody all right? You're not.
Child Listener
I want to hear more stories.
Adam Gidwitz
I'm gonna miss you guys, too. But we will meet again. You guys were so wonderful. Thank you for being such great storytelling friends.
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Adam Gidwitz
Grim Grimmer Grimmest is a Penna original production created, written and narrated by me, Adam Gidwitz, author of A Tale Dark and Grim Produced and edited by Kaelyn West Associate producer Rebecca Cunningham Field recording by Julia Martin Casting and voice direction by Rebecca Cunningham Sound design and mixing by Kalyn executive produced by Molly Barton and Carly Milori Production support by Devin Shepherd Characters voiced by Emmanuel Alpenord, Andrew Adams, Peter McNerney, Kalyn west and Baron Bass. Special thanks to all the kids who joined us in Staten island and Brooklyn for our storytelling sessions. You guys are awesome.
Host: Adam Gidwitz
Date: November 20, 2025
Podcast: Grimm, Grimmer, Grimmest (Pinna)
This episode, The Two Travelers (Part II), continues Adam Gidwitz’s retelling of a dark and twisty original Grimm fairy tale. Joined by a lively group of children, Adam explores the repercussions of previous grim events, centering on themes of perspective, fate, guilt, and the balance between optimism and pessimism. With signature humor and honesty, the group navigates spooky (and sometimes gross) details, moral quandaries, and suspenseful plot twists, all culminating in a thought-provoking and truly “grimaced”-level tale.
Throughout the episode, Adam Gidwitz and the children maintain a playful, inquisitive, and slightly macabre tone. Adam balances scary, mysterious, and funny moments, guiding kids through dark subject matter with wisdom and warmth. He encourages philosophical exploration (“Should he only look through his optimistic eye? Is a balance better?”), and the children’s honest, sometimes silly commentary adds both levity and insight.
Even if you haven’t heard the episode, you’ll walk away with a sense of this story’s complexity: The Two Travelers (Part II) uses magical realism (the “eyes” as ways of seeing the world) to explore fate, consequence, and compassion. The narrative is interwoven with children’s genuinely thoughtful questions and remarks, amplifying both the creepiness and the core humanity of this Grimm tale—leaving listeners with much to ponder about how we see others, what we try to control, and how we live with knowledge we can’t always change.