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Listening's podcast, episode 105, take one, the only take. Yeah.
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Woke up in the morning and to God be the glory Thankful for another day to tell my story Put my opinions in the universe and let them orbit I'm from the dirty south with a dirty mouth might need orbit miss things things on me like a nigga Norbit had to refus cuz my no rest fusion she gorgeous as I d my sons up and kiss my daughter forehead tell them we going to get this money to my pockets morbid remember living in apartments now we playing mortgage you ain't got to like a regardless baby I'm blessed and I keep that blick with me we like grits and eggs as you sip your coffee flick your cigarette and let a vent yeah.
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We back oh, we back. Grits and eggs podcast, episode 105. I am your host, Deontay Kyle. But who's behind the camera? It's big ice cub. Cat. Big ice cub. Something wrong with you. I never know what you gonna say Never know what I'm gonna do, son. All right, man. Deontayantayky.com for all booking and inquiries. Adviceeontayky.com for all your advice submissions. We got a couple of advice submissions today, some hot ones. Ow. I hope that young lady was sought some type of counsel within us and you know, we helped her out. The. The cousins wasn't filling the age gap. What's the old. Nah, yeah, Cousins wasn't feeling that. Yeah, yeah. Nor were we. You know what I mean? You know when. Whenever we got to hit this one, we gotta hit that. Yeah. You're in danger, sister. You're in danger. 657234. Eggs at 657-234. 3447. For all the call ins, for the voicemails. We got a couple voicemails today, but, you know, we did just have a great stream, great stream from the live show, but great stream with the cousins over there on that Patreon. $8 ain't number $8, man. You might as well come join that Patreon community fire episodes this month. Yeah, you know, we knocking it out the park, guys. We brought Shaderric back. Shaderic. Yeah, it was a good one. The homie Mavi came the call. It went so long, the goddamn. The visuals went out. The visuals cut out, cut off. Everything just cut. I had to cut him off. I was like, damn, I ain't nobody was potting. I was just gonna say, what's up? We started potting, yo. So on that Patreon you get two bonus episodes, the stream with the calling feature, and a Q and A episode every month. So, you know, we like it over there. It's fun over there. They wasn't too enthused about me saying, we gonna cut this off at 250. They hate your guts for that. I mean, we'll keep going on the Patreon, though. $8. $8. Might double up. Might go 16. Get you four episodes every month. You know what I'm saying? Come on with the 16. Yeah, we might just go. Might go dark web on you real quick just for a little bit. Never know what you get, baby. Every Monday, New Music Monday. So the thing with New Music Monday, you know, wise counsel. Wise counsel from the good Grizzen Eggs marketing team. We're not gonna deviate the pages. Everything will drop here on the Gristnet's podcast page. The Grist and Eggs radio, G and E Radio, will be exclusively just a page on Instagram, but everything will drop here. We want to keep y' all here. We don't want to break it up. Yeah, do all that stuff. We want y' all all centralized. You know what I'm saying? This is our channel. So you get everything here. You know what I mean? Deontaykyle.com for all updates. It'll be the latest episode. Will be there and access to the merch. Oh, gritsandeggs.com. that's G-R-I T S N E G G S dot com. Big Cat, yo. What a week. Great week, son. Great week. How you feeling? I feel good. Listen, if y' all love the Big Cat, man, go check out New Music Mondays, man. Every Monday, 10am turn your notifications on. Let's get the views up. We got great episodes. We got 808 mafia episode 21. Two part episode, two part episode versus the interviews. Second, we review music with some hot producers. Shout out to the Fela boys. Fela25 just dropped. I think it dropped. It dropped? Yes. Feel like 25 dropped. Yeah, it's all right now. So check out New Music Mondays every Monday, man. If y' all love the Big Cat. If y' all love the Big Cat, tap into that New Music Mondays, man. We got some guests coming up. Yes, and we bringing that Freestyle Friday. So look, our first Freestyle Friday submission will be from the young man, Marco plus and the beat, the canon. Canon. We're doing it big, guys. We're doing it big. And you will only be able to find these freestyles here on the Grizzly Next podcast page. Shout out to the team. Shout out Mean Streets. Yes. You know what I'm saying? Field of dreams, baby. Yeah. Big cat. Yo, great show. You know, we talked about it last week, but I've been reflecting on it a lot, so, you know, I talked about some of the artwork that I got from the show. Look at that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do the knowledge, nigga. Do that knowledge, man. You know what I'm saying? Knowledge. Do the knowledge. You gotta do the knowledge, man. Shout out to shouting. Man, I wish I just remember her name right off the top of my head. Yeah. What an amazing young woman. This is her first time sharing art. Sharing her art with the public. She knocked it out the park. She did a great job. Amazing job. I will say this top tier fan art submission, that might be number one. It's number one. That has to be number one because she gave at the show. At the show. Yeah. To be honored. You know what I mean? I almost brought tears to your eyes. I was gonna cry. You was? I ain't gonna lie. I held it down, though. You did. I held it down. Hold on one second. All right, man, we back. My bad. You bet we back. I had to sneeze. But the fact that we reset over here, bro. Jesus Christ. I started seeing the stars. I still see those shadows in my room. We got some exciting interviews coming up. Yeah. So we just had this past week with doctor Dot from Earth Gang. Howlet the Moon is out. Now the album, we got Dr. Dakota Tyler, aka Dr. Starchild. The Astro. Black astrophysicist. The star child. Star child. You seen him? Dr. Taylor Cummings. Yeah, a lot of doctors. Hey, look, you know, the reason why I mention this is because I've been seeing a lot of comments when men disagree with me. They like to say, oh, deontay, Kyle, he sounds smart to a fool. Or this is a. This is a poor man's intellectual. Mm. Well, what do you say to the doctors that also subscribe to this? Are those poor men? Are those fools? You know, I get not agreeing with me, but the thing is, is that every time y' all disagree, you never articulate a disagreement. You just call me names, and to that I say, we back. Man, bruh, this has been a great, great end of year. We got a couple of things. We got Wayne O and Adri coming for the wrap up. Yes. That's gonna be dope. It's gonna be fun. Great hip. Great year for hip hop. Where we doing that at? We doing it over there at Fergus spot. You go to Ferguspot. Okay. Yeah, okay. Yeah. We just gonna. I'll probably open up the room a little bit, or maybe we'll customize and do a little something custom. I mean, it's hip hop. Let's not do it. Let's not do the studio. It's hip hop. We could do it at it. It's hip hop. It is hip hop. Let's do it at the studio. We'll do it at the studio. Yeah, that'll be. That's a great idea. We could do it in that lounge area. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah. All right. Say that. Say less. Also, we do have a special guest coming before the end of this month. That episode is warranted to drop on a Wednesday. But I cannot spoil it. You know what I'm saying? Oh, I cannot spoil it. I will not spoil it. And you'll never guess who it is. Oh, man. And it's not one of my family members gonna have grandpa. We're gonna do a seance. Yeah. Bring James back. A lot of candles. A lot of candles in on episodes. All we got to do is play. What's the name of that song? Meet the crs. We gonna have jazz guards in the back with the. With the crystal summoning. Yeah. All type of. All type of going on. You know what I'm saying? Bring James back. Bring James back, man. Recipe. My. Yeah, man. James Williams, bro. Good man, Bro. This bat with me, and just. They didn't get creative with the middle names. It's just James Jeffrey Williams. Yeah. Yeah. That's it. That's all you get. It's a great granddad now. Yeah. Yeah. James Jeffrey Williams. That's a great. That's a great granddad. That's great. Dad. He don't play no games. He'll play no around. Don't. Don't. With Jeffrey. Don't. If it's one thing I don't do, I don't beef with. With old names. Yeah, yeah. You don't want to do that. Y' all thought Jeffrey Woods. Goddamn. Jeffrey. Can't beef with these. No, I can't beef with Jeffries. What a. What a. What a week. You know, the Asians on Tik Tok. Hey, yo. Oh. All right. So I, you know, I stumbled upon Asian mess. I'm loving it. Yeah. The Asians. So. So you got two. So this is the thing, okay? This is what black people don't do. We don't do PR for our community. We just very upfront and out there about who we are. We're very honest about who we are. We're very honest with each other. Because here's the thing. We don't have to live in shame. Y' all gonna disparage us whether we winning or losing. So black people are just taking the path of we're just gonna be honest and outward. And sometimes it works to our detriment because, you know, we'll be speaking in mixed company. Yeah. But a lot of times, it's just about, like, we're the most transparent community. You understand what I'm saying? For sure. So we don't see, like, the infighting that happens in other communities. Oftentimes. We just see it for ourselves because they do great pr. You know what I'm saying? They represent their race like a brand. Yeah. They treat the Asians. Treat Asia and Asian ethnic groups like a brand. They hide their colorism well. It's a brand name. It's a brand name. Guarantee they stick beside it like Pepsi. Slap a label on it and call it Blue Dog. Just don't let me catch you calling it Blue Magic again. Speaking of Frank Lucas. Yeah. What's in the jungles? Vietnam, Vietcong. You see what I'm saying? When they hook up the vehicle. Yeah. Got that dope. Pure. Pure dope. Pure dope. We'll never see that happen again at Harlem. Fire. Fire. Do you understand me? Harlem was on fire, son. You've never seen this many turkeys giving out. Frank Lucas set a world record for most turkeys given away in a single day. When the. How you get that? Them turkeys, son. If he can go to Vietnam and smuggle heroin. Heroin. Into the country Casket. Yeah. He can get some turkeys. He can get turkeys. Hold on. This Nate. Hey, Nate. What's up? We recording the podcast. All right. It be back when you finish. Did you. Did you want to say hello to the good people? Hello, good people. This is Nate Edwards. Godamn. Good to. Good to, good to talk to y'. All. All right, Nate. Bye. It's Nate from every deserves if he could. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I. I'm sure he reached out to somebody and, you know, like, North Carolina. We have a lot of turkeys in North Carolina. Yeah, I'm sure. And he's from. He's from North Carolina, I'm telling you. Brought his whole family from North Carolina. We've never seen that before. Never seen a move his whole family. I never seen a mama slap him. I thought that only happened to me. I remember one day, Mark dude slapped me. I was like, I'll never talk to this slapping for no good. Reason. Oh, man, I'm pretty sure it was for a reason. Black mama drama. You know what I'm saying? Well, you know, it was. There was a reason. I mean, there's only so many times the police can knock on your door looking for you before your mama just like, you know what? I'm fed up with this shit. Yeah. I fed up. Yeah. She slapped me. She selling drugs out my house. I find a gun in this. Oh, and these knocking on the door, talking about they got two warrants for you. Yeah, a slap was warranted a slap. Yeah. Snap back to reality. Oh, there go. That's what started playing when she snap. One opportunity, I started turn to a white man. I'm going to kill my mom. I'm going to kill my mom. The Scottish. The Scottish K. Oh, yeah, the Scottish. Crep up a little family annihilation. No big deal. The European side came out. I started hearing the bagpipes. Hold on. No, I'm. I'm saying though. So I remember vividly cuz I had to come over there. She had called me while I was at my pine house. She was like, the police over here looking for you. I was like, do not let them in the house. She's like, they got warrants for your arrest, but they asked to come in the house. They just asked if you was here. They looked around, seeing you ain't hear they dip. I was like, they ain't searched the house or nothing. She's like, nah. I was like, I got something I gotta come get. I was like, I'm be there at 1am I' ma walk through the cut. Boom. She's like, all right, bet. I opened the door. You here to get your. I was like, yeah, I was. I ain't going. Mondo was almost the first victim of Jiu Jitsu. That's when I went to go get my gun, you know. The. What? She slapped the on me. I was sitting there looking stupid. This. The Scots came out. The spirit of the Scots, maybe. All right, I'm g. Stop playing. Oh. Almost annihilated her, you know what I'm saying? Bring that V. Oh my gosh, the V on you. No, she did. She hit me with the first part. Very clean. But either way, I say that to say black people don't do a lot of branding around the black brand. We just put all our out there, creativity, language, everything. You know what I'm saying? And the thing is, is like I'm never up when we talk about like people appropriating because it's like Y' all niggas don't have a history of being that creative, especially not around language. I'm gonna tell you one thing that white people really got in their bag with when it come to language that hard. R. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You could trademark it, baby. Yeah. If they trademark that word. I mean, you talking about billion dollar corporations. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? That's they shit today, you know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. Still, that's they like, you know what I'm saying? It was a moment. It was like, if AI would have won a finals, you know what I'm saying, he would have never had to win. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That was it. If Cam would have jumped on the fumble, it was, you know. Yeah, yeah, that's it. It's like, God damn, what if they branded that? You know what I'm saying? But I'm not fucked up about it because it's like, we know y' all not very that creative with language, and we know y' all don't dress like that. So, like, I think for black people, appropriating our culture is a very sensitive topic for us because it's like, bro, we made this shit and we just creative people. We don't do it for the profit all the time. It's just like breast creativity just oozing out of us, bro. It's in our lineages, in our DNA to be creative. So we look at other communities like they got all they shit together because they not really being upfront and honest about who they are and. And what goes on. They're not transparent. Yeah. And that's a part of assimilating to whiteness, is trying to seem perfect, you know, this is the full house effect. Danny Tanner had a lot of jokes that edged on pedophilia and then became a dad of three girls on tv. Now, all the jokes he had, his. His stand up was out before. Before he came. America's dad before America's Home Videos. Danny Tanner was a raunchy, vulgar, pedophilic type comedian. Like, he edged a lot of those jokes around some nasty behavior. Old Hollywood, probably New Hollywood, but same thing with Uncle Joey. Odd behaviors from Uncle Joey. The Olsen twins said one of their earliest memories is being in the shower with him for some reason. Huh. This is what I'm trying to tell you, son. This is the full house effect seeming perfect, but when the cameras and lights go off, it gets dark, gets disgusting. We always like to bring up crime statistics about black people. Oh, how does thirteen Commit more than. We never talk about how y' all population commit like 95 of all rape and pedophilia. Family annihilation. Big team, you know what I mean? Chris Benoit wasn't the first. Damn sure is not the last. All right. We don't like to talk about crime statistics when it comes to other people because we don't like to disparage other groups. That's not the way America is built. You got to always step on the backs of the blacks. And the most forward facing, white assimilating group in America outside of South Florida, Cuban, is the Asian community. Absolutely. Especially the Chinese. They, they love, you know, they like some assimilation, you know what I'm saying? So I didn't know that they was like beefing because evidently Japan has all of these slurs for all these other groups like the Thai, Thai people, Vietnamese, these people. Darker skinned Asians get discriminated against. I ain't know that was a thing. Yeah, I didn't know it was a thing. But for the sake of the park. Yeah, yeah. I'm trying to. I got you. Seem surprised. I got you. I got you. And so they said in Japan, like they'll wear long sleeves even when it's hot because they don't want to get darker. A lot of weird ting. So there's pro black, pro Asian Asians going up against these whitewashed, white assimilating. And the shorties that be marrying white men, they don't be liking that shit. And the Asian men don't be liking that shit neither. They be calling motherfuckers pick, Pick me. Pick Nicos or something like that. Yeah, they got their own like pick me shit type vibe. Oh, shit. They call them green tea. That's what they call green tea, bitches. Wow. So they got their own little, you know. So I've been on Asian type. The Asians be, you know what I'm saying? Certain section of the Asians really be going hard because they know American history. They know when it was black and yellow, black and yellow, you know, before Wiz Khalifa. Yeah, the Panthers, black and yellow. Right. You know what I'm saying? The Panthers was really all a ways about fighting the poor people's fight. It wasn't necessarily always about, you know, it was black first. Because we're the afflicted, we know what we've been through, but we also understand colonialism and capitalism. It takes all. You know what I'm saying? The, the real system, the real ism is that capitalism. And we seeing that in full effect now. Now the Only time that you can see something like this, right? In a. In a situation where there is unfettered growth and. And like a limited capacity to grow. Right? Like, if. If we was looking at capitalism as it operates in America and we put that in the human body and looked at it like that. Like, capitalism is a. A group of cells and we saw it replicate in the body the way that it does in humanity, we would call it a cancer because it is a cancer. Why Lake Michigan, or is it Lake Michigan or Lake Superior? Is one of the lakes, one of the Great Lakes. Largest freshwater reserve we have in North America. And y' all about to use this to cool computers so y' all can keep pushing these data centers everywhere. Keep pushing. AI studies come out and they. They know it's making people slow and dependent on it. But this is good for capitalism. We don't need a nation of thinkers and people just critically think people that research people that have media literacy. People we don't need people we need. You know, capitalism depends on people like Joel Santana say, you don't need to know how to read. You could just listen to a book. Yeah, focus on financial literacy, Focus on opening businesses. Fuck a book. Fuck reading a contract. This is what capitalism depends on. This is about to become the socialist podcast. I'm telling you. I'm telling you. I real Black Panther, bro. Black Panther's voice of socialism, bro. Like, yeah, because this is getting out of hand. It's out of control. It's out of control. And we're going to need coalition, but we're going to need unity within our community first. So I focus on the unity within the community first. We don't need all. We just need a majority. And we need to be very vigilant about getting on our. On our Tubman, you know what I'm saying? When show they face as a coon, you gotta believe that they a coon. You dig what I'm saying? If. And the thing is that we do better than everybody else is when it's come to our plight and our liberation, we will discard the weak. And we didn't know that that was going on in other communities. And that's what the Asian community is actively doing. They just bringing it to the square. Like black people always bring it to the square. Yeah. You remember a few months ago, the Hispanic dude had said, like, y' all be so homophobic. Y' all are dissing y' all son for being homophobic. But your T, y' all get drunk and start sucking off this. Like, what I Ain't know that was going on over there, but you know Lil Coke, little Coors. Yeah, Lil Coke and Corona. Coke and Corona. Corona got Tio Freaky. Tio don't care who it is, long as it's pure. Big Cat. Why, why not? Why not it Big ice cup. I'm, I'm. I'm just in a space where it's like, we don't need to worry about, like our pr. We need to worry about being pure. Oh, the trash, man. Shout out to the city workers. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Thought it was a goddamn BOR747. I'm trying to. I thought was to take off, turn my car to say to a Runway. Yeah. Oh, God damn. Big had used to be a city worker, man. Yeah, I did trash specifically. Yeah, you was driving. I did, yeah, yeah. The last little bit of it. You hopped off the truck sometimes too. Of course. That's what I started. Yeah. You got run in the city, baby. Literally, you gotta start on the back of that truck. Yeah. Shout out to all the city workers, man. It's midterm. Still drive their vote local. You know what I'm saying? Shout out Dominique, my local politician. You know what I'm saying? Dominique, you know, Dominique, sit on the. Dominique be sitting on the corner. Front street, go vote. Stop playing. I just got my hair braided. I'm out on the corner. Yeah, she had in the rain. She don't give a fuck. She gonna get them votes. She got my vote. Yeah. The thing is, is that we are progressing a lot faster than you would believe we are. But there's a lot of advertisements that will have you think otherwise. Now, Black Friday was Friday, Saturday, they was like, oh, you know, these are record high sales. First of all, data don't calculate that fast. Yeah, when has data ever calculated that fast? Now, just because somebody is reputable in media doesn't mean that they're telling the truth. We know that these media publications are listed as entertainment. A lot of news media is listed as entertainment. The entertainment aspects allows them to fabricate the truth. They don't want you to think your boycott is working. They don't want you to see the power of withholding your dollars because they depend on it. So they want you to think that you're consuming more. But I'm here to tell you, people wasn't outside like that. Nah, they wasn't. And people wasn't online like that, shopping. Because everywhere you go, if your algorithm is righteous, you saw about the blackout. And we also have to remember as black people, that we are not the only consumer base in America. Itching, ain't it? We have to always remember as black people that we are not the only consumer base in America. Okay? Those numbers of consumption do not reflect our community solely. There really is no way of tracking that. What we have to trust is that we're all on board. We can't look at any fabricated, any rushed out numbers. I mean, even in music, it take a week for them to get first week sales back. And they didn't account for Cyber Monday yet. They had to report ready on Saturday. That Cyber Monday ain't even happened yet. Come on, man. You know the thing is, is that they want you to feel defeated in your efforts. And also regardless of the fact that we should not be suffering under the boot of billionaire corporations to the point where $100 off feel like a deal. This is my idea of Black Friday. You wanna give me a Black Friday deal? First three months of 2026, rent, $400mm. First six months of insurance. If you didn't have any accidents in 2025. First six months of 2026, they give you insurance. Kickback on all insurance. No health complications. Kick it back. No car accidents. Kick it back. You ain't drop your phone, kick it back. That's my idea of a Black Friday. Something that's gonna make my life better. A TV. How many goddamn TVs you need? TV in every room. God damn. TV in the closet, TV in the tub, TV in the pantry, TV on the toilet. TV in the garage mounted flat screens in the back of my Kia. TV on the, on the ring doorbell. How many goddamn TVS you think need goddamn appliances? You think we need. No, no, no. We need equitable education, free health care. A cost of living. The cost of living to go down. Yes. The wages to go up. Yes. And we need these billionaires to be taxed higher. Yes. When motherfuckers got money for war. When motherfuckers sending $50 billion over to Israel, when they send another 40 Argentina. I don't never hear you fucking Republicans talking about where's the money going to come from? We supply weapons to is not real to bomb children. I never hear you niggas say where's the money going to come from? But when we talk, start talking about taking care of poor and working class people, the people that actually make this society and economy run. It's always where's the money going to come from? It's going to come from you and me, nigga. I don't want to. I don't Want to raise all my taxes so these motherfucking billionaires can get tax cuts? No, they should be paying more in taxes. And the people who make the least wage in the country should. Should have lower taxes. Y' all want to really trickle it down? Trickle it down. If you take 10% from a person that made $100,000 a year, they contribute $10,000 to society every year versus a who make a million dollars a year, contribute 100,000 to society, that make 10 million a million to this seem like an equitable practice. More money, more problems. Huh? Heavy is the head. You want to be the king. You want to get all the money. Gotta take care of the people. That's what a good king does. Not press around like cyborg built Elon Musk cybertruck built body ass out here rigging elections in Germany and the US And y' all be in the comments. Bootlegging. Oh yeah? Well, he earned it. Earn what? Shut up. Shut your broke boot licking ass up. Y' all don't get tired of that? Gonna be her starving with no water but good AI, huh? Hey, at Chat Beach GPT put a five course meal on the screen so I can imagine what I could have to eat. Chappie GPT fill my screen up with water so I can imagine having a drink. Wrong with you, bruh. It's real resources. This ain't been around long enough to be destroying the planet like this. But anytime we start talking about doing for working class people, they. They hold. They hold him to the fire every time because he want to do right by the people in his city. The working class people. The people that help the city run. Your trash workers, your social workers, your firefighters, your bankers. And not Wall street bankers. I'm talking about the teller. The nurses. Want to make sure that they have an equitable stake in society. They can get back and forth through the city without it costing 10% of their fucking paycheck. That's a problem for you niggas. That's. That's a sick sad world. You niggas living in the Upside Down. But you have to be mindful of how the media will try to come back. Now they already soft launched combat in our boycotts with the Mariah Carey commercial. The elves are going on a strike. Called you elves. Called you Santa's little helper right to your face. But we got to understand how much of this is, is marketing and advertisement. Me and Big Cat. Organic growth. Me specifically. Organic growth never paid for a follower. Never paid for an ad. We are 100% organic growth podcasts and content creator platforms. I have never bought a follower. I have never paid to put a, to boost a video. I've never used fucking adsense, none of that shit. I never did none of that to, to, to, to boost up a video or to get a podcast in front of you. All this shit been off the muscle for the people. If you pay to get in front of me, you're running an ad. And once I see your ad, my job is done. You paying to be seen. You ain't paying for my engagement, you ain't paying for my opinion, you ain't paying for my content. Now how many people are paying to get in front of you? These news publications, they use ad dollars. That's just part of their budget marketing. Large pages that are not focused around a creator are mass marketing pages that is shade room, rap tv. And you got to ask yourself what are they advertising they pay to get in front of you and what are they paying to put in front of you? Because these big pages, millions of millions of followers and all this and that, and they sow seeds of division. Whoever was the, was the page that put out the report that we over consumed more than we did the year before. They're paid to put that out. Say cheese. Not taken away from the publication. I think they do good job in what they do and what they lane is. I don't feel like they so sees a division. But I know that if you have something that you want to be put to the masses, you can pay them to project that to the masses. Even if it is a dog shit freestyle or a bullshit opinion, you could pay these people to put you in front of people. And once I see your ad, my job is done. Because I didn't want to see it in the first place. It didn't come to me organically. You paid for it. So we need to be intentional with our consumption. If you're going to spend all day on social media, you, you need to be intentional with your consumption either. If you're not going to be intentional with your consumption, if you're not going to be mindful, if you're not going to be media literate, if you're not going to focus on what's the difference between organic art and an advertisement, then what's the point of doing anything? What's the point of it all? If the masses of humans are that easily manipulated, then what's the point? We're fighting a losing game. If you wake up every day to scroll that phone and you're not Intentional with your consumption, then you can't complain about the society. You should stay out of the comment sections because you ain't helping because you're not intentional. This is as basic as it is. A lot of these pages are only as big as they are because you engage. And a lot of these pages have figured out that it's just like the news. I can keep you on the hook if I can keep you mad. He who angers you controls you. A lot of right wing grifters, a lot of right wing conservative Twitter pages have been found out that they are operating out of Nigeria. They operate not a Russia. They operate not in Nepal. They operate out of India. They operating out of various Asian countries. What the fuck? What the fuck, dude? Any of these countries got to do Western politics? Bots. Bots. You arguing with motherfuckers that don't even exist. And they put it out massively. How many black, how many, how many AI pages do they create of various black women talking about I just got off crack cocaine, I just got off of alcohol. All these women look immaculate. Oh, I'm, I'm, I'm 12 months sober. So. Reinforced bots. Bots paid, bought and paid to reinforce harmful negative stereotypes about black people. A lot of times this is black women specific. Reinforcing mammy culture, reinforcing the idea of Jezebel, reinforcing the welfare queen, reinforcing the drug addict mom because they know that black women are going to be the loudest and on the front lines to fight against every attempt at fascism and every poor attempt at of capitalism to continue to destroy our communities. The provider mindset got niggas fucked up where we fall into this capitalistic shit. But commerce isn't necessarily being a capitalist, but being a temporarily embarrassed billionaire is. Being a temporarily embarrassed millionaire is. You don't want to see tax cuts for the rich because you still think you're going to be rich. Or, or you don't want to see increased taxes on the rich because you still daydreaming about being a millionaire. You got it on your vision board. You're going to be a billionaire. So you don't want to see eat the rich because you plan on being the rich. But why does it never cross anybody's mind to be rich and righteous? You don't want to change the game. You just want to be a player. It's time to change the game. It's time to be intentional. These large pages are likely propped up as tools of division. If, if, if the bulk of the Twitter pages that Are right wing conservative talking heads. Behind avatars are bots, then they're propped up as seeds of division and you arguing with automated responses. If you are that easily controlled and manipulated, then you probably need to get the fuck off social media because you're not going to see the progress you want to see. And there is no way to combat that in real time with real people who can only have one opinion blasted from one page. When you got corporations paying for 10,000 pages to put out the same rhetoric and it's a lottery for them, one of them gonna hit, one of y' all gonna respond to it. Because you don't have any emotional regulation when it comes to social media. You engage them with it as if it, as if it is the real world and they are stepping on your toes in real time. And you could be talking to an artificial being. You need to be more intentional with your consumption. We have to take the long route to do these things right. So I started, I started making content 2022, Just putting it out there. I didn't go for the regular talking points that everybody. I didn't put no rage bait out there. I wasn't just reacting to videos. I wasn't grifting right or left. I was out there being my true self state being my true self gonna forever be my true self. Because the path less taken has more rewards. If the path is laid out for you by others, it's always meant to benefit them in the end. Patrice o' Neil had a great analogy about this. When it comes to Hollywood versus people who are outliers in Hollywood, people that don't play the game, it's the beast. And the beast will eat you up and shit you out. It does it to everybody. The fucked up thing about the beast is when you in the belly, you make $2 million a week. So even though it shits you out, even though it toys with your ego, it toys with your image, it exposes your secrets and make up shit about you to slander you. It turn to people on you and off you. The same way they could turn people on to you, they could turn them off you. That's a risk you take when you take the wide path. That's the risk you take when you take the path of everybody else. The same people that put you in the bright lights can cast you into the shadows. And the fucked up thing is once it shit you out, your line right back up to get in the belly. Because you in the belly, you making 2 million a week that go for everything you want to be involved in this social media space, you want to be a creator so bad, you'll sit here and make up. You sit here and lie about that happen in your life. You'll make up a personality, you make up a gimmick. And then you'll take the low hanging fruit that they give to you. Prize picks, dick, pills, alcohol. You take all the low hanging fruit they give to you, they'll put you in the bright lights and then they'll have something like the Shade Room. They have somebody like the DL Whisperer make up lies about you. And because you didn't build yourself and because it wasn't real and went organic. Gonna believe whatever they hear about you because they don't know nothing about you. Because you ain't never really been real. Took the path that everybody else taking. It's the same thing they do in Hollywood. That's why our stars, they go up and then they fall down. You don't know if. You don't know if this shit they saying about these people real or not. And the fucked up thing about it is once y' all already talking about it, y' all already believe it. I've been hearing stories about myself about shit that I ain't never did in my life. What the fuck niggas out here lying on my dick. Fuck me. That's nasty work. But you gotta. You gotta get your money somehow. It might start out as true, you might have the T. But what happened when you gotta make up the tea to stay relevant? You on a slippery slope. You on a hamster wheel. Now you living a fake ass life with fake ad information that can't be backed by facts. Now he's just mess gossip. Now you just E News. You just saying just to say it. Because you desperate for engagement, you desperate for views. Because you prop this off of a fairy tale, off a fantasy, off of. But the real ain't gonna die. You can't kill the real, bro. Take the path less taken. Appreciate what you got, Appreciate where you are, appreciate who you are. Stay authentic, stay organic. Because once you stay authentic, motherfucker can't tell you who you is. And as long as you know you being real with you, you don't got to defend yourself because you sleep good at night. You know what the truth is. You know what your life like for real. These gonna believe anything somebody tell them. That's why they on the Internet. It's a way of disassociating from their reality that they might not be doing the things they do. They don't Want to blame capitalism because they temporarily embarrass millionaires, they still dreaming. I can go get three four side hustles and I could get create 20 streams of income and I too will be a millionaire. And when I get there, I don't want to be taxed. You want to enjoy the benefits of a corrupt system. Same corrupt system that's squeezing you, squeezing you dry, boot on your neck. And you wouldn't lick a boot for a little bit longer because you think it's going to happen for you. But the path that's laid out for you by others is always meant to benefit them. In the end. If they can give it to you, they can take it away. If you earn it, can't do nothing with it. You go to college, you go get that degree, that knowledge that you got and the accolade that you got, can't nobody take that away from you. You go get you a skilled trade. Hey look, no matter what happened, I know I can go get in the truck, I'm gonna get some money, but I ain't got to worry about that because I ain't come here faking the funk. And if you ain't build me up, you can't take me down. When you take the long way, you'll appreciate the scenery and you got the endurance. See them motherfuckers that take that wide road, the road that's all accepting. Come, come one, come all. You have to walk far to get there. You ain't have to pay for the lights, you have to build it up. They built it up for you. They already had the character in mind when they seen you. They got the low hanging fruit that you ready to eat. So when times get dark, you don't know how to, you don't know how to endure. But when you take that long road, you know that sometimes it's going to be some, some peaks. And when you hit that peak, make sure you pause, you look out at the scenery, you take it in because you earned your way to that scene, you earned that view. And you know that when you in that valley that all you got to do is keep moving forward. And when you arrive, you arrive alive. They can't chew you up and shit you out because you ain't here to be eight. I'm here to, I'm here to make my own machine. I'm a beast all by myself because I took long way, all that shortcut. What's the thing, what's the thing about fat food time? They hand it to you that cold time you Drive out the, drive through that cold. You got to start eating that right away. That, that, that, that good home cooked meal. You eat on that about two, three days. Oh, yeah. Fast food that get cold, you don't even waste your time reheating that. Just go back and buy some more. A lot of y' all fast food with your life. You don't take yourself seriously. You don't believe you can do it. So many examples of people that did it before. But it's not the easy way out. If I took easy way out, we'll be millionaires right now. Huh? We hot. They done tried to buy this three, four times. I be up, but guess what? Wouldn't be able to talk like this. All you'll see is skip that little red pill. Put your, put your bets on pie spicks right now. Put your bets on pics. We betting on cricket this week. Yeah, yeah, bro, you taking that low hanging fruit, bro. What we do, we stick it out. We get chime. Yeah, good banking for people. That's low income, low penalty banking. No fee, free banking. Hey, that you can do. That can help improve you in the situation you in. You get zock dock medical at your fingertips. You could find you a primary care physician. You can find a physician of all of your medical needs right there at the fingertips. Things that actually help people. Story worth. Things that actually help you preserve memories with your family. These niggas don't got these type of ads. Cause they take the low hanging fruit. They take what they gonna give it to them. And what they give you, Destruction, lust and gambling, alcohol, dick pills and gambling. Playing with your motherfucking life. Always fleeting. When you. When times get dark, you don't know what to do because you're taking a wide path. But when you take the long road, you learn how to build a fire on your own. So even if it get dark and it get cold, you know how to build a fire. When they bring the fire to you, they can always take it away. Take the path less taken. It's a long road, got a lot of obstacles. When you take the long way, you can appreciate the scenery. And you're going to arrive alive with endurance. We'll be right back at this commercial break. We back, Big cat. Yo, yo, ready to do some of these voicemails, man? Of course. Ready. Let's do it.
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C
Hey, grits and eggs. This is Savannah from Chicago. I've called before and y' all played my voice message before and it's me calling back. I saw that podcast about y' all talking about you gonna stop at around 200 and some episodes. If I really have to go wherever y' all are at just to make sure you don't. I'm gonna make sure I do that. You better not stop, because I need this. I need this podcast. I watch it every week. I watch it every week. Y' all podcast is like, if y' all went to a Black Panther party, like, y' all went to a Black Panther party meeting, or y' all went to a Malcolm X like, meeting or something, and then y' all debriefed after. I need this. I need this injected into my veins. If y' all quit, I'm really gonna find y' all wherever y' all are at, no matter where y' all hosting, wherever it is, I'm gonna find you. Because don't you ever quit Rich and Head Podcast. Like, please don't piss me off. Oh, my God. Like that. It really. I. I turned that off when you said that, so I don't even know what the rest of what you said. So maybe. Maybe you. Maybe you were joking. Damn, you could have been joking. But nah, I turned that off once I heard that because I was so. I was so disgusted at the. At the words. You better not quit. Okay. Hey, Big Ice Cup Cat. Missed y' all the most. Hope y' all come to Chicago real soon so y' all can do, like, a live ep. And I really need to be there for that. But otherwise, have a blessed rest of y' all day. But don't quit that. Don't quit the podcast.
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A
Like Pepsi. It's a brand name. It's a brand name, man. You know what I'm saying? We stand by it. We stand by. Guarantee it. Guarantee it, man. Autumn Podcast. You can put a label on it. I'm not gonna repeat the joke. I don't pre the joke. It's okay. It wasn't about quitting, man. You know, it's just about preserving my welcome. You don't want to overstay your welcome, man. I ain't saying it's a guarantee. I'm just saying it's an idea I've been milling around with, you know, so, man, you know, it's not about quitting. Ain't no quit in me. You know, like Doc said. Docs. How about some Apple? Apple might buy this. Disney might buy this. That ain't how I want it, man. That ain't how I want it. I don't want nobody else on this because they own it. They're gonna diminish the brand. They're gonna diminish all our hard work, and they'll do it quick. But we have already been in conversation with a group and a venue in Chicago for first quarter 2026. I wanted to wait because I want to go to Chicago Summertime, man. I want to go see summertime shine, man. Yeah. Wintertime shot's a little brutal. Jesus Christ. Remind you of life, you know what I'm saying? Damn cool on that. I don't want to be that cold. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? But I'm gonna keep it real. If I had to. If I had to be real. We're gonna do Chicago Summertime, but we're gonna do, like, two shows, you know what I'm saying? We ain't gonna do it, and we're gonna do it somewhere legit, you know what I'm saying? It's gonna be. It's gonna be a good team. Chicago, really with us. We really with Chicago, and we wanted to be, like, a really great experience. But it definitely, you know, y'. All. Y'. All. Y' all winners is unforgiving. I see why y' all is the way y' all is, you know? Yeah, yeah. Real brutal. Yeah, yeah. Shouted that. Gave me that. She from. From Chicago. Yeah. All right, we're gonna take one more, maybe two more of time permits voicemails.
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D
Yo, Deontay. Yo, Cat, what's poppin? I got something quick to say. I've been thinking about this all week so I can get it out. I up on a.
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A
On a.
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D
On a voicemail a couple of weeks ago. I'm so embarrassed. I'm glad you don't embarrass people and like that, because that would have been sad. Anyway, you Cam James. Debbie.
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A
I don't know if you know who.
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D
Zevi is, but Debbie do some good shit on Tick tock and on YouTube. He has a podcast called Zevi Had a Problem. It's X, E, D, I. So you Cam Jones, the boy from Jam. Why don't you ask the boy from Jam? The boy from Jam? The boys from Jim Wide. Well, young men from jam. Pardon me. Why don't y' all start a news network, bro? We always talking about, like, hubs and where to get the.
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A
Bruh. Bruh, you doing too much. You're making the block high, Right? Damn. I'll let you finish, but you're making the block damn.
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D
Type of information from. I think if you. And then we always talking about community communion and clicking up and all that, right? So I think if you Cam Jones the boys hunt jam.
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A
Yeah. The beat go off. Yeah. That's why they cut your. That's why they cut your. You make it a black high. Making a black high right along.
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D
Hey, what's going on, y'? All? Happy Thanksgiving. You feel me? Happy turkey day. Goddamn. So hopefully y' all can hear me. You feel me? I'm in the wheel around my folks crib. But I just wanted to know, like, deontay, my G. You always say, like, your emotions are a God. You feel me? And I just wanted. I would like some. Some. I want you to elaborate on that. You feel me? Because I just. I'm 23, about to be 24 of February. I just got my CDL. But I'm trying to. I'm looking to go to school too, though, for it. So it's like I. I'm. I've been trying to. It's been a lot going on, you know what I'm saying? I got. I had a part of that. For lack of a better term. He, he, he. What's the word? He took his own life. You feel me? But, yeah, man, just.
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Just.
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D
Just trying to find guidance, man. I do have a job. You feel me? I'm straight on all that, but. But yeah, man. Appreciate it, though, man. Y' all have a good one.
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A
Love, love, young brother. You know, that's not easy, bruh. It's not easy. Especially knowing your friend took his own life. And I would say, you know, you don't want to put that burden on yourself as if he did it because you wasn't doing enough. People fighting their own internal demons. This is why we talk about being vulnerable and able to be find spaces with each other as men that we can discuss these type of things with each other. Because oftentimes we only get into our emotions when we're in a romantic setting. So when those things aren't received the way we would have them be received or thrown back in our face or taken seriously, we often feel like we don't have an outlet for our emotions. When we can open up to one another and create safe spaces for one another as men, where our emotions are not only heard, but received and nurtured. You know what I mean? And that vulnerability and emotional openness doesn't make us weaker or less of men. It actually increases our strength and vulnerability will lead to becoming a superpower. When I talk about your emotions being a God is that there are some default emotions that you might wake up with every day with. You know, some people wake up every day with sadness, anger, frustration, and those emotions are meant to guide you deeper within yourself to figure out what's going on. What's going on deeper. Oftentimes, the things we talk about on the surface aren't really the things that we could point those things to you. So you can wake up every day with anxiety because you don't have a lot of money. But that anxiety existed before money was even relevant for you. You may wake up anger, angry every day you feel like you're not where you're supposed to be in life, but you could really be angry because your partner just took his life. And you gotta let those emotions guide you and not just settle for something on the surface level, but go deeper within yourself and be honest with yourself about the things you've been through, about the things that affect you and how they've had an effect on you. And instead of just trying to I'm find my way out of everything or I'm good or I'm cool or I'll be all right. You got to be honest about how you feel. And you have to voice those things not only to yourself, but to your peers, to your friends, to somebody you could trust with your feelings. And oftentimes there's going to be somebody that look like you. Somebody, somebody has understand the same path as you. If you have an elder man in your life, they'll understand it completely. But if they're not willing to be reciprocal with their emotions, look to some of your friends and some people in your age group. But the guide that the emotion is is to get you, is guiding you to the root of the issue. You're gonna be all right, man. Condolences to your friend, condolences to his family, and hold your head, young brother. You're gonna be all right. All right. Subject line. When has it ever been real to you? I don't know what this means. Here we go. I appreciate. Oh, great day to you and Big Ice Cup. I appreciate everything you two have done and continue to do for the culture. Not too many young, unapologetic black voices out there. So Grist, Nick's pot is a breath of fresh air. What's even cooler to me personally is that you're a wrestling fan. You grew up watching the same era of wrestling that I did. I have to ask, when has it ever gotten real to you? I got caught in the kayfabe of the storyline between Triple H and Booker T. I think all of us, I think all young black men got caught up in that. Man, that shit was so racially charged. Yeah, it Was it was leading up to their WrestleMania 19 match. Every time I watch it, WWE played the race car heavy. There was a promo where Triple H tells Booker he's not championship material and he was only there to entertain. Do the little dance for everybody. Referring to the spinner Rooney. It was really frustrating to watch as a black fan. And it was even more disheartening when Booker lost at Mania that year. Wrestling already felt like a white boys only type thing because of how they catered to the audience and to have that thrown in our faces. They really wanted to crush black kids dreams of ever being a wrestler. Was that life imitating art or vice versa? I know this isn't exactly advice, but definitely need to know how you feel about it. If you don't remember this one, I suggest you go back and do the knowledge. A lot of people in the wrestling community feel Booker should have gone over one way or another, but we never got that. And he was right back in the mid cart, teaming with Gold Dust the next month. What's your stance on wrestling in general as a black fan? Yeah, you know, that was the first time that I was like, damn, this ain't for us. It's fun. It's entertainment. But like, bro, I was a child. That shit hurt because I thought Booker was going to win. Yeah. We all did. Because the thing is, is like, Booker was fah. Triple A was. And it was the way he won, it was the way Triple H1 kind of seemed like he dominated the match. And I think that that was. Vince McMahon is a racist. Triple H is a racist. I mean. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And I never watched WWE again after they put Westside Gun out. As much money he has spent with them. Yeah. And as much he's done to promote. Promote them. Oh, no, y'. All. Yeah. It was life imitating art. Because that is life. The white boys will have you only there to boost ratings and to entertain, but they'll never let you go over. They'll never let you be the face of it. You know what I'm saying? That's same way the NFL operates up until recently. They. They want us. They want it to be like we're. We're not worthy of what our real worth is. It's the way I control it. Me up. Yeah, I hated that. I remember Booker had on all white too, huh? Yeah. That me up, bro. I. That's when I was like, bro, I. Triple H, bro. Like on some real. I was like, I hate this, bro. Yeah. Cause like, honestly, like, you Know, his moves wasn't that far, and he wasn't that fly to, like, really just be going over like that. But, I mean, that's wwe, you know what I'm saying? That's wrestling. Yeah. And that's Vince McMahon for sure, more than anything. And we see how this nasty freak done turned out. Yeah, the white Diddy, like Pepe Le Pew, he looks nuts, like a skunk. Yeah, he do. He look crazy. But, you know. No, that, bro. I was so mad about that, bro. Yeah, it was. It was heartbreaking. I was hating that. Like, it was always like the Rock and Stone Cold that was always going back and forth. It was like, God damn, you go back and look at the highlights. It was like the Stone Cold was constantly whooping the Rock ass. Nah, I think so. Nah. I was looking at the highlights very critically. One day I was like, why so many stunners? But I. I see what you're saying. No, they. They kept that pretty fair. They boosted both of them. Yeah, they was on this car. But you know, the Rock, He. You know, you what? The Rock play ball, man. Of course. Yeah, the Rock play ball. But second generation. Third generation. Yeah, it's third generation. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, I mean, there you go, Booker. First generation from Houston. Yeah. Rock got a legacy in there, so. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Booker T. Man, come on the part, bro. Yeah, let's talk about this. Yeah, come on, Booker. Yeah, come on, King Book. Yeah, let's. I. I'm sure you done. I'm sure you just separated yourself on that right wing you was talking about. I mean. Yeah. Undertaker Man. Kane disappointed me. Y' all out here with Trump. That ain't what you represent, bro. That ain't what you were supposed to do. I mean, they wrestlers, but ain't who they are. For real. Yes, it is. God damn. Triple H ENDORSING TRUMP Make 100 sense. I mean, yeah, not the Undertaker. You're supposed to be for the people, man. But I get it. You still a white man from Texas. Yeah, this is a white man from Texas. Who would have ever thought that the most liberal out of all you fucks would have been Stone Cold? Stone Cold, the only one that got down. Got some sense. Real nigga, though. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. You know, he from that. He from that trench. Hey, look what that movie was, the Longest Yard. Oh, listen. He fucked me up with it. Listen, he me up. I said this. Look how Stone Cold would act. Yeah, yeah. So I wasn't even mad at it. No, no, it was about. I Was kind of in that method. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was like, damn, that kind of makes sense. He said, I want to read a book about a four eyed. I said, God damn. Stone Cold Float off the top had no problem with that. That's how the white man runs the football, bro. I'm trying to tell you, yo, for him to be like Loki, the total opposite in real life, it just makes sense. Yeah, but also when he was saying Stone Cold, he never really came across as like that kind of at like it wasn't a race play. Nah, it was like a, like a straight redneck. Like anybody can get this. He got arrested every two months, bro. He was really on some. Anybody can get this, bro. This ain't got nothing to do with nothing, bro. I'm here to whoop ass. Yeah, I don't care who you are, period. White, black, Asian, old, young woman. I'm here to whoop some ass, bro. And drink some beer. And drink some beer. I'm wooing ass. I'm drinking beer for sure. Good day. Deontay and big ice Cup Cat. My name is blank. I'm 46 year old, oddly in need of advice from men much younger than me. And here's why. First, I'm fairly new to your movement, maybe about a month and a half, but if you check your views, I've listened to almost all of the pods posted, love what you stand for and how thought provoking your views are, especially surrounding manhood. Which brings me here today. Mama, four kids, three boys. Well, men actually. My oldest is 25, my second born will be 20 in December and my baby boy is 13. I also have a 15 year old daughter. But raising my sons primarily alone has left me feeling like they have a huge piece missing when it comes to certain aspects of manhood. Don't get me wrong, I did a great job. My boys, they're respectful, ambitious, rooted in blackness. But I haven't given them examples they need to see regarding strength from man. They have resilience for me for sure. But I think you know what I mean. I said all that to introduce the issue at hand. Well, first of all, I want to say this. If you did an amazing job, then that was the job you could do is there's nothing that you could do replace the figure of a man in their lives. There's, it's not your role for one, but for two, it's just, it's, it's, it's, it's what? It's, it's outside of your capability so you can't Really, I mean, it's not up to you to provide an example for a man. It was up to their father. Yeah. It wasn't meant for you to do that alone. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, yeah. So don't fret. I'm in a relationship that I don't know how to get out of. I know that sounds crazy at almost 50 years old, but I really don't know how to wash my hands of him. Why do I want to? He has no ambition, no leadership reflex, no real passion for me, my kids, or life in general. He's not a bad person. He's just super self centered. Doesn't accept accountability for anything. So when I offer him something that I feel he handled poorly, it becomes a battle of the victims. I've explained to him as gently as I can the issues I have with our relationship. How I always hope my husband will finally be able to give my kids the example of manhood that I as a single mom was never able to give them. Especially with my choices in men. We got together in 2019, got engaged 2022, broke up 2023, got back together 2025. He's been talking about getting married next year and I freeze every time because I don't want to. And I know I just have to say that. But the issue is so layered. I have a great relationship with his children and that reinforces why I feel this is necessary. If it ain't right today, it ain't gonna be right tomorrow. No, ma', am. No Ham, no Dirking. Absolutely not. You got your own kids. Those are his responsibility. You gonna be. See, this is the thing. You talk about all these things because he is used to women taking his responsibility off it his hands. And you seemingly are falling right back into their role. I'm not getting what I give. I've given him access to therapy through my job, tried relationship counseling. I've applied for countless jobs for him. He works, but nothing stable or sustainable. What, at 50? Yeah. Get up out of there. Get up out of there. I really actually don't want to hear anything else. That's wild and, you know better. You do at 50, you got to be a 50 year old. I mean, you know, I get it, but everybody at 50 got kids. If you don't got kids at 50, I mean, unless it's like a medical thing, like what's going on with you, you know what I'm saying? I mean, even if, if it was a choice, I get it, but God damn, it ain't like no man gonna be like, well, you Got kids? Yeah. You're 50. Our kids. You f. Just leave this alone. Yeah. Get up out of there. Like, this really is a no brainer. And I know it doesn't seem so black and white, but it very much is. And you know the truth. You don't need him to survive. You giving him all these things through the things you do and. And if he don't have nothing sustainable and you're still sustaining, that mean you don't need him to sustain. You just want a warm body. Yeah. Little dicking, little dicking. That's all it is. Yeah. With that hard leg laying on you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I keep him lifted. So much so that at times it leaves me feeling depleted. I don't envision my forever feeling like that. I've asked him to listen to your podcast. I'm sure he's probably bothered by how often he hears me listening to you guys. He's 43 and more interested in love and hip hop or the latest 20 something year old rapper talking about absolutely nothing. He's 43 and watches love and hip hop. Yo, that nigga's a cornball. The. I never watched. No, I've never watched love and hip hop. I have just because I know people. That's on there. The only time I ever seen loads of hip hop is I was in the bed with a woman. Yeah. I mean, I watch it with my mom. I mean, even then that's. I mean, that's a good, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 20 something year old rapper, like, that's crazy. Shout out my 20 what? I mean, there's nothing wrong with a 20 year old rapper. Listen to Drill. Yeah. I've grown a lot in these last six years and in some ways I can say he has as well. But in. But I'm really tired of coaching him because it doesn't feel like it's gonna benefit the relationship anymore. How do I approach it? Respectfully, with finality. Thank you for all you give. You're gonna have to just. Look, the thing is, you've said enough. You've done enough. You just have to. Just gonna have to say, listen, no matter what his excuses are, the beg, the plea, the promise to change, the Any of this, you just gonna have to say, look, I don't want to get married. This relationship does not have a future. You don't show promising signs of the type of man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. There's been time and time again we've been doing this over the course of almost Four years. It's over. He go his way, you go his. You don't owe him anything. This not your husband. Y' all don't have kids together. Get out of there. It's just time to go, you know, reshape and revise all that. Did you. Pouring into him. Pour into yourself. Yeah. Pouring TV kids, pour into your career. Be ready for the. You know you're gonna be depleted. You need. You know, I know, I know you're getting older, but you need to take a year to yourself and just wash this stench off. Yeah, yeah. Get them up out of there. You gotta stop with losers, baby. Like that ain't it. Oh, the dog agrees. And just like that, we're gonna wrap this up. I don't know what else to say. I mean, that's all I can say. That like, God damn, you got all the answers. You know what it is? I mean, you. You know, you either glare for punishment and you want to just make yourself susceptible to a life of, like, misery, or you want to go and find some happiness within yourself by yourself. You don't need this. This needs you. And he need to grow the up. And he ain't gonna do that with you because you over there being his mama. Big Cat, yo. Another one in the books. Yes, sir. 105 only. I stop with him. Only 145 episodes. Another year, baby. Only another year to go. Oh, we dropped it twice a week. Well, we'll knock this out another time. 20, 27, we'll be out your way. They go blow the studio. Can't make me stay. They gonna blow it up, so. I love y' all, too. We'll be on. You know. You know, I wanna. I wanna. I wanna write. I wanna direct. I want to tell our narratives in different ways. You know, there's some people that surprising me, trying to get me on the silver screen. I don't know if I want to do that just yet, but. Okay. Deontay and Big Cat ain't going nowhere. And new music Monday, you know, it's right there. Yeah, baby, I'm on the radio. Yeah, you like the Voice. Go tap in with the new music Monday. Yeah, you like the Voice. It turn you on. All right, so after that, I'm out of here. So I'm not saying nothing else. Ah, no. Big head. Come back. Deontayantechyle.com for all booking and inquiries advice deontay kyle.com if you want to send an advice like that, you know, young lady just did. And the brother before that. 657234 eggs. That's 657-234-3447. If you want to leave a voicemail and if you would like to be able to call in on stream, it ain't nothing but $8, $8. Go ahead and join that Grease and Eggs podcast Patreon. Follow Grist and eggs podcast on IG. Follow G grits and eggs radio on IG. Follow deontay.com on IG. Follow a big cat, big ice cup cat on IG. On IG. And until next time, stay, stay blessed and take the path let's take. Hey, you know what I'm saying? It's just hip hop. It's just.
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You know what I'm saying?
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It's just my. I was gonna say. I was. Remember, if you slide the protection the wrong way, you get your back blew off. Just rats, man. Turn me up, man. It's just rap. I just want to rap. I just want to rap. Hey, man. Yeah.
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They say without the proper labor, faith.
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Don'T stand a chance.
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I put my faith in faith and stand on fertile land I planted seeds Adeline deed turning the trees before rest in peace teas get printed to me unless impeded. Matter of fact, that got me thinking back when Mr. Love was tending to his garden, schooling me to annuity before he grabbed his clubs to go golfing. And it's no coincidence that doe still had the caddy back when woods were still the best. Don't let me roll off course here, Georgie Pops was dropping gems while I was lighting cigs. But you know, I too was listening with both ears. You see, that's the best that I can do.
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I.
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Wisdom is the application of knowledge. I was picking up what he was putting down, just wasn't applying it. I ain't denying it. Nah, maybe I was too busy trying to find the balance between religion and science. Trying to get to the bottom of everything while being the highest, like a pilot's roots. Am I right, brother? Cause I was simultaneously rich relaying it through reason and rhyming that I sought for us dissecting systems responsible for our imprisonment. The visionary with astigmatism and scarred courting us. If love is blind, then what am I? You can't fight fate, that's why.
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So.