Grits and Eggs Podcast: Episode 103 - “Everything is A Lot”

Host: Deante’ Kyle
Guest/Co-host: Big Ice Cup Cat
Date: November 25, 2025

Episode Overview

In Episode 103, “Everything is A Lot,” Deante’ Kyle and Big Ice Cup Cat come together for their signature blend of unfiltered talk covering current events, hip hop, pop culture commentary, financial and media literacy, and listener advice. The hosts reflect on their recent live Atlanta show, explore issues of race, politics, and mediocrity in American society, break down fresh music (especially in hip hop), and field calls for advice—never holding back their humor, insight, or candor.

Major Discussion Points & Insights

1. Reflections on the Live Atlanta Show (00:50–10:21)

• The hosts are riding high off a sold-out, community-forward Atlanta live show featuring music battles (“verses”), crowd participation, and positive vibes.
• City-specific events are a hit and they’re looking ahead to a big one in New York.
• Notable was support from local businesses, Soul Play’s charitable shoe drive, and shout-outs to attendees (like Dominique Morgan and her “6’6 in heels” companion).
• Atmosphere lauded: “All them black people just in there having a good time... No hateration. No more pain—it’s a celebration.” (Deante’ Kyle, 10:00)
• Positive, supportive black community spaces are uplifted as vital.

2. Financial Blackout & Intentionality During Holidays (04:41–06:09)

• Deante’ urges listeners to join the “blackout” from Tuesday to Tuesday—boycotting big box stores in favor of small, local, and black-owned businesses.
• Principle: “Everything don’t got to be convenient. You got to be valuable. We need to be valuable and intentional with how we spend our money this holiday season.” (Deante’ Kyle, 05:03)

3. Merch Updates & Black Business Shout-Outs (06:19–09:33)

• New Grits and Eggs hat colorways are teased (selling out fast).
• Praise for collaborating with local businesses (Soul Play) and black production/dj crews.
• Ongoing encouragement to donate for local causes; local businesses and community giving highlighted.

4. Critique of Certain Hip-Hop Figures & the Importance of Literacy (12:26–19:59)

• Extended riff on washed-up rap legends overstaying their welcome (esp. Juelz Santana) and the “D tier” quality of some new hip-hop podcasts.
• Juelz’s claim that “you don’t need to know how to read” leads to a passionate tangent about the dangers of embracing functional illiteracy.

  “Kids, don’t listen to Joel Santana!” (Deante’ Kyle, 14:01)
  “You don’t need to know how to read contracts? ...Obviously you didn’t read the sign that said ‘no weapons in the airport.’” (Deante’ Kyle, 15:27)

• Deante’ and Ice Cat urge listeners to value media, basic, and financial literacy, not just “hustle culture” math.
• “Read a story. Be able to tell me what happened in your own words. That’s a skill, bruh. So the all-time low...this nigga said you don’t need to know how to [read].” (Deante’ Kyle, 18:36)
• Media podcasts warning: “Stop listening to men with mics... It’s going to get to a point where we’re going to be the only trusted source in podcast.” (Deante’ Kyle, 26:36)

5. DEI, Virgil Abloh, and Political Neutrality (27:01–35:45)

• Deante’ passionately critiques prominent black creators (ref. Virgil Abloh) who claim to be “apolitical” or “against DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion)”.
• “You cannot be apolitical while reaping all the benefits of right-leaning politics... If you stay neutral in matters of oppression, your neutrality is taking the side of the oppressor.” (Deante’ Kyle, 27:09–28:05)
• Calls out ignorance of America’s racist roots, the real necessity of DEI, and the privilege of creative leadership roles.

6. Hip-Hop and Grammy Season Rundown (35:45–54:19)

• Praise for Wale’s album Everything is A Lot (“flawless” | 35:50), with tracks like “Conundrum”, “Blanco”, and “Power and Problems” highlighted (36:38).
• “Everything Is A Lot is a flawless album. God damn. Wale, Wale Forlorn D.C. he showed up...” (Deante’ Kyle, 35:50)
• Discussion on generational gaps in hip-hop knowledge (the Kai Cenat/Wale moment, 37:47).
• Tyler, the Creator named Apple Music’s Artist of the Year, with Chromacopia and Don’t Tap That Glass flagged as Grammy-worthy.
• Detailed breakdown and predictions for major Grammy nominations in hip-hop and R&B, with strong props to Kendrick, Clips, Tyler, and G Herbo.
• Ongoing recurring theme: celebrating excellence and intentionality in black music, pushing back against industry mediocrity (ex: Macklemore saga as example of white mediocrity being rewarded, 53:02–53:19).
• “Macklemore is a great example of how white people are rewarded for being mediocre. This is the pampered society theory. This is an original theory of my own.” (Deante’ Kyle, 53:02)

7. The “Pampered Society Theory” and Racial Inequality (54:19–67:44)

• Deante’ maps out his “Pampered Society Theory”: white America is “pampered” with higher wages and consumption capacity so they stay content, apolitical, and resistant to radical change.
• “You pamper people in this society to keep them at bay, to keep them out of revolution, right? There is no glaring problem for white people...” (Deante’ Kyle, 54:42)
• Historical context provided: “The water has always been boiling hot for black people in this country...work twice as hard to get half as much.” (Deante’ Kyle, 61:34)
• Critiques how this feeds structural racism and the illusion of meritocracy, linking it back to why DEI remains so urgent.

8. Listener Calls & Advice Segment (71:40–101:14)

Young Creative Struggling for Work (73:40–76:41)

• 24-year-old photographer seeks advice after months of unemployment.
• Deante’ empathizes, urging practicality: “If you not seeing the fruits of the labor, then you gotta pivot from career to hobby/side job...find something to fund your passion.” (73:30)
• Encourages building out a portfolio with gigs that pay bills, not just chasing passion projects.

Black Creatives in White Spaces and the Ethics of Spiritual Teaching (76:55–80:22)

• Caller asks about black creativity in white establishments and teaching spiritual practices.
• Deante’ stresses: don't teach closed practices publicly/mixed company; ensure you're qualified; seek wisdom from elders.
• Notes question was unfocused but prioritizes discretion and responsibility.

Relationship Dilemmas

—Supporting a Non-Contributing Partner (81:24–85:27)

• Man resentful about supporting his daughter’s mother for years, unsure what to do.
• Deante’ and Big Ice Cup Cat stress open communication:

  “You need to probably communicate this stuff to her...it’s also not fair to resent her for something you haven’t brought up.” (Deante’ Kyle, 85:28)

• Advice: Don’t stay from pity or build resentments without trying to resolve issues directly.

—Age-Gap Relationship Uncertainty (87:40–99:27)

• 25-year-old woman wonders if she’s missing out on her 20s by dating a 37-year-old man.
• Both hosts note the “crazy” gap and the realities of mismatched life stages.
• “If Big Cat was talking to a 25-year-old...I would be cursing him. We wouldn’t be friends actually.” (Deante’ Kyle, 93:28)
• They strongly suggest questioning the long-term compatibility but affirm her agency.

Personal Health & Lifestyle Changes (99:39–101:08)

• Deante’ and Ice Cat joke about aging, fitness, and needed lifestyle shifts as they approach middle age (“major lifestyle changes” and “Gritsnaks funeral” being code for health improvements).
• “A Goodyear clean eating on me...2026 we gotta turn this around. Real rap.” (Deante’ Kyle, 100:53)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Everything don’t got to be convenient. You got to be valuable. We need to be valuable and intentional with how we spend our money this holiday season.”
  — Deante’ Kyle (05:03)

• “Stop listening to men with mics... It’s going to get to a point where we’re going to be the only trusted source in podcast.”
  — Deante’ Kyle (26:36)

• “If you stay neutral in matters of oppression, your neutrality is taking the side of the oppressor.”
  — Deante’ Kyle (28:05)

• “Read a story. Be able to tell me what happened. That’s a skill, bruh. So the all-time low...this nigga said you don’t need to know how to [read].”
  — Deante’ Kyle (18:36)

• “Macklemore is a great example of how white people are rewarded for being mediocre. This is the pampered society theory. This is an original theory of my own.”
  — Deante’ Kyle (53:02)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Opening/Love for Live Show: 00:50–10:21
• Financial Blackout/Supporting Black Business: 04:41–06:09
• Merch & Soul Play Partnership: 06:19–09:33
• Hip-Hop Legends, Podcasts & Literacy: 12:26–19:59
• Dissing Magga Mall & Rory Podcast: 19:59–22:51
• DEI, Virgil Abloh & Political Neutrality: 27:01–35:45
• Music/Grammy Breakdown: 35:45–54:19
• Pampered Society Theory/Structural Racism: 54:19–67:44
• Listener Advice Call: Young Creative: 73:40–76:41
• Black Creatives in White Spaces: 76:55–80:22
• Supporting Non-Contributing Partner: 81:24–85:27
• Age Gap Relationship Advice: 87:40–99:27
• Fitness/Lifestyle Talk: 99:39–101:08

Episode Tone & Style

The conversation balances bold social commentary and humor with real talk and warmth. The hosts maintain authenticity, leaning into their Southern, black cultural context and gifting listeners tough love, laughs, and insight.

For newcomers, Episode 103 is a quintessential Grits and Eggs ride: honest, hilarious, and always rooted in the real.