Episode 109 - Things Can Happen

Summary

Grits and Eggs Podcast – Episode 109: “Things Can Happen”

Host: Deante’ Kyle
Date: December 16, 2025
Guests/Regulars: Big Cat, Close Friend/Co-host(s)
Description: Deante’ Kyle delivers an unfiltered end-of-year reflection touching on current events, politics, personal growth, community, and the pitfalls of power and lust, with Big Cat and others chiming in.

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Episode Overview

Episode 109, “Things Can Happen,” sees Deante’ and friends processing the close of 2025—a year marked by dramatic events, ongoing social ills, and moments of personal and communal reckoning. Through jokes, critical discussion, and raw storytelling, the crew covers gun violence, governmental failures, the pressure of cultural assimilation, and the deep value of self-reflection.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Year-End Reflections and Gratitude

• The crew celebrates the show’s continued success, thanks listeners, and recognizes both the struggle and blessings of the past year.
• Big Cat highlights personal milestones: “Breakfast Club, sold out show in Brooklyn. Sold out show… Meet and greets, all type of stuff, man. Just taking it all in Paul’s.” (07:07)
• A vibe of community, gratitude, and keeping it real sets the tone.

2. Pop Culture and Comedy: 85 South Show Recap

• The crew details their experience at the 85 South Show tour finale at State Farm Arena, expressing starstruck moments and backstage antics.
  • “It’s been very few times I’ve been starstruck. It wasn’t Cole for Martin. It was Manny Fresh.” – Co-host (05:47)
  • “I never thought I’d be smoking a blunt in State Farm arena, but there I was.” – Deante’ (05:18)

3. A Bleak News Cycle: Mass Shootings & Government Incompetence

• The conversation pivots to the recent Brown University school shooting and the persistent crisis of mass shootings in America.
• Deante’ lambasts political leadership, especially Donald Trump’s reckless misinformation:
  • “Imagine that you open Twitter and you see your president says you’re safe, says the FBI have subdued the assailant and everybody’s safe to come out.” (10:27)
  • “Shooter still active, please shelter in place.” (11:28)
• Discussion of mass shooting statistics in 2025: 390 dead, 1778 wounded in 398 shootings as of November 30 (14:23).

4. Gun Laws, Political Cynicism, & the “Things Can Happen” Mentality

• Illustration of how gun violence is normalized:
  • “So then Donald Trump says… To the families and the victims… things can happen. Things can happen anywhere.” (12:13–12:29; also episode’s title)
  • “This is our president. Things can happen.” – Deante’ (12:35)
• Frustration with federal inaction: “There is going to be no discussion… that will compel them to change the gun laws…” (19:44)

5. Politics, Black Leadership, and the Israel/Palestine Debate

• Focus on Jasmine Crockett’s congressional run and contradictions of Black political representation in America.
  • “She’s willing to call people out… I think she definitely has a vested interest in what’s best for Black people.” (16:08)
  • Critique of broader government corruption:
    • “I am of the ideology that our entire government is corrupt, regardless who sits in what seat…” (17:35)
    • “They’re still sending money to Israel… These niggas don’t give a fuck about us.” (20:19)
• Calls out performative allyship and anti-Blackness among white leftists/“pro-Palestine” activists:
  • “You white people not slick… you white liberals specifically are not slick. Y’all like to hide y’all anti-blackness behind a cause.” (28:21–28:26)

6. Finding Solace & Self-Reflection Amidst Chaos

• Major section on self-care, solitude, the effects of information overload, and the necessity of solitude and introspection.
  • “You need a time of solitude every day. There’s a lot of information being thrown your way and it can get confusing and it can become paralyzing…” (23:31)
  • “You have to give your brain a break.” (31:13)
  • “You gain so much peace from self reflection.” (32:44)
• Links between avoidance behaviors, substance use, and a lack of self-reflection.

7. Addiction, Avoidance, and Personal Accountability

• Deante’ and the crew delve into personal stories of addiction, avoidance, and the hard work of self-realization.
  • “You catch yourself looking at a screen all the time, it’s because you’re running away from that self reflection.” (31:22)
  • “That’s the function of the brain: to dissect subconsciously and consciously information. You have to give your brain a break.” (30:49)

8. Power, Lust, and Self-Destruction

• Extended roast and cautionary tale on the downfall of Black coaches in white institutions, using the Michigan coach’s scandal as an example.
  • “You risking your job to do it.” (52:27)
  • “Too old to be risking your career for some pussy. Man. Come on, man…” (52:43)
  • “You can’t seek equity and degeneracy… It’s they play, it’s they game.” (57:10)
  • “These niggas know how to keep their dick in their pants.” (54:18)
• Lessons on the traps of materialism, alcohol, and the illusory rewards of assimilation.

9. Advice Segment:

a. “Is it because I’m fat?”

• Listener from Oakland wonders if her weight is why she’s single, despite career success and other women “worse off” being married.
  • Deante’ responds: “It’s not because you Fat. There’s a lot of niggas that love them a bigger woman… I think the issue is that you’re in Oakland, California. Pimp culture in the Bay is rampant.” (73:45)
  • Advice: don’t blame yourself—consider location and the local dating mindset.

b. “Help a Sister Out”

• Listener from Chicago struggling with homelessness, career burnout, and supporting a partner, seeks advice and community support.
  • “Before you can help the community, you have to help yourself. There has to be some stability in your life before you can start giving your energy to others.” – Deante’ (79:44)
  • Recommends focusing on stability in 2026, allowing herself and her partner time to find footing.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Things can happen. Things can happen anywhere.” – Donald J. Trump quote, repeated by Deante', setting the episode’s tone (12:13)
• “If you’re not taking care of yourself, you’re not going to be able to take care of anybody else.” – Deante’ (80:54)
• “Perfection begins at inception.” – Co-host/Therapist wisdom, repeated as the year’s mantra (36:53)
• “You gain so much peace from self reflection.” – Deante’ (32:44)
• “We can’t keep seeking out equity and degeneracy.” (47:54)
• “You’ll never see $5 million a year again… Unless you come out and start a podcast. Right wing grifting…” (62:08)
• “Kingdom of heaven is within you. You got to know thyself.” (64:05)

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Top Five Christmas Movies – Crew’s Picks

[84:25]

1. Christmas Story
2. How the Grinch Stole Christmas (cartoon & Jim Carrey version)
3. Bad Santa
4. Friday After Next
5. Honorable Mentions: Bad Santa 2

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Intro/Freestyle: [00:17]
• Year-end Reflections: [01:54–07:35]
• Gun Violence/Brown University Shooting: [08:37–14:45]
• Government Accountability & Gun Laws: [14:45–19:44]
• Jasmine Crockett & Political Hypocrisy: [15:29–21:22]
• Solitude & Self-Reflection: [23:31–36:45]
• Personal Growth/Addiction: [36:45–47:10]
• Michigan Coach, Lust & Assimilation: [47:10–62:35]
• Advice Letters: [72:47–83:22]
• Christmas Movie Lists: [84:11–86:15]

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Tone and Style

Conversational, irreverent, deeply personal, and full of humor even when handling heavy topics. There’s signature Southern Black wit, bracing honesty, and an undercurrent of encouragement and love for the community.

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Summary Takeaways

• The year brought hardship, tragedy, and the same old problems, but also reminders to seek gratitude, self-knowledge, and connection.
• Deante’ and crew urge listeners to take responsibility for their own growth and well-being as a means of building strong, healthy communities.
• The stark realities of racism, political corruption, and gun violence are not shied away from, but neither is the possibility of change—starting from the inside out.
• Final wisdom: “Kingdom of heaven is within you. You got to know thyself.” (64:05)

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For full participation (advice, best-of moments, merch, and more), listeners are encouraged to support via Patreon, Discord, and checking out Gritsandeggs.com. Podcast to resume with special guests and wrap-up episodes at year’s end.

Transcript

[Deontay Kyle]

Grizzly nurse podcast episode 109 yes. Damn, we rolling. Take one. Yeah.

[Guest Rapper or Poet]

Woke up in the morning and to God be the glory Thankful for another day to tell my story Put my opinions in the universe and let them orbit I'm from the dirty soul with a dirty mouth might need orbit miss things things on me like a nor had to refuse them cause my no rest fusion she gorgeous as I doubt my sons up and kiss my daughter forehead tell them we gonna get this money to my pockets more bit remember living in apartments now we playing mortgage you ain't gotta like a regardless baby I'm blessed and I keep that blick with me we like grits and eggs as you sip your coffee flick your cigarette and let a vent yeah we.

[Deontay Kyle]

Back oh we back Grits and eggs podcast episode 109. I'm your host Deontay Kyle. But who's behind the camera sipping on.

[Big Cat]

A big D latte. Cat getting ready for the holiday season.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Big ice cub cat.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah, get a little eggnog. Eggnog. Little nutmeg.

[Big Cat]

Hold a nutmeg.

[Deontay Kyle]

There. Somebody on the on the Spotify was like, for the love of God, enough.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Of this kumbaya coffee shop.

[Big Cat]

We'll never get enough.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I was like, bro, when? When say for the love of God.

[Deontay Kyle]

I know they see enough, please.

[Big Cat]

They're sick of it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You're killing me.

[Deontay Kyle]

Man. Bruh, we are back.

[Big Cat]

We back, baby.

[Deontay Kyle]

We are approaching the end of the year.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We are.

[Deontay Kyle]

We are in the middle of a bleak holiday season. The hawk is back.

[Big Cat]

The hawk is here.

[Deontay Kyle]

What's wrong?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's almost over.

[Deontay Kyle]

The year, man. We had a. What a year.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

What a year we had.

[Deontay Kyle]

I mean, life changes. A lot can change in a year. Your whole life can change in a year. Fast. My life changed in a year. Yeah, man. What a year. 2,025 went for the books. Deontay at deontaykyle. Com for all booking and inquiries. You want me to come to your city, huh? Trying to put that bread up? Holl at your boy ads. Holla at your boy Deontay. Deontayky.com Advice deontaykyle.com who you heard?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You heard me.

[Deontay Kyle]

I feel like I had to burp a little bit in the middle of it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Oh, wow.

[Deontay Kyle]

Adviceyontecy.com for all advice submissions. We got a couple advice advice admissions today. One of the subject line said, is it because I'm fat? Oh.

[Big Cat]

God damn.

[Deontay Kyle]

What a way to.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

What a better start a conversation.

[Deontay Kyle]

It made me suck my stomach in.

[Big Cat]

Well, we know You're New Year's resolution.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, you know what I'm saying?

[Deontay Kyle]

Planet Fitness. Planet Fitness near you, baby. 657234. Eggs at 657-234-3447. For all your call ins and voicemails.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And if you want to call in.

[Deontay Kyle]

And talk to us yourself, well, you know you got to join that Patreon and it ain't Nothing but what, $8? You gotta come pull up with the 8. We got a lot of new cousins over there. I had to pin a video to walk people through everything. I think it was very helpful. Okay. Also, if you're in the Patreon right now or the Discord, you can be a part of the conversation for the best of 2025 episode that will be dropping on 1231 New Year's Eve. So we will do a best of as long along with our wrap up episode with Wayno and Adri. We'll wrap up this year in hip hop and pop culture. Me, Big Cat, Wayno and Adri. And then we'll have a best of episode. It'll be a compilation of the funniest moments, compilation of the best rants from the year, compilation of Big Cat's best intros. We doing it all, baby. But the only way to be a part of that conversation is pull up and spend that $8. $8 ain't number $8. Deontaykow.com is active.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You can go there.

[Deontay Kyle]

There's a landing page for all updates and everything. But if you want to shop for that merch. Gritsandeggs.com that's G R I T S N e g g s.com for all the merch. We're gonna have some shit for y' all next year when it comes to this merch. Kind of had to revamp some things. The tariffs fucked us up, terrorists things up and we didn't want to hold inventory. So we was doing drop shipping on a lot of this. So we found some quality drop shippers. And you know, as these things go on, tariffs and all this shit, it just, it depletes the resources. So we approaching a new model. But shout out to Suki for holding it down. Shout out to the Saint. Yes, man. 2025 is coming to an end. We went to the final stop of the 85 South show tour.

[Big Cat]

Yes, State Farm arena had a great time.

[Deontay Kyle]

I never thought I'd be smoking a blunt in State Farm arena, but there I was.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, you know what I'm saying? Smoking a big wood.

[Deontay Kyle]

Good laugh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Me a Kim ali drink in 1942.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Smoking Black and Mild with Carlos Miller and 2Co be.

[Deontay Kyle]

It's just what you do, man. It's the life we living, baby.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's the life we living.

[Big Cat]

Cold for Martin walked in.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Oh, I ain't going to lie.

[Deontay Kyle]

It's been very few times that I've been starstruck. It wasn't Cole for Martin. It was Manny Fresh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Manny Fresh just walked up on me. I said, oh, yeah. I didn't know what to say. This one of a few times, I was speechless.

[Deontay Kyle]

I was like, oh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I was like, you're Manny Fresh. You're Manny Fresh. You're Manny French.

[Deontay Kyle]

He was like, yeah, man, that was cool as, bruh. But, yeah, phenomenal show. Phenomenal way to end the tour. Atlanta showed up and showed out. Come on, bro. Default packed out the State Farm arena, bro.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Doing comedy.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

And they put all they folks on Yondre pushed up King Mali came out there and performed. Manny Fresh had a set. Money back Mafia was in the building. Nav Green was in the building. Poor Mines was in the building. All the good folks over there at 85 South show and affiliates, me and Clayton backstage cutting up cuz Clayton is the cousin. You know what I'm saying? My fault right now. It was a great time, man, but, man, end of the year, baby, we there. End of the year, we there. We made it. We here. Another one in the books, baby. How y' all feeling?

[Big Cat]

Feel good, baby.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How you feeling, Big Cat?

[Deontay Kyle]

Let's talk to the people.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We're gonna give Big Cat.

[Deontay Kyle]

We gonna go over down to Big Cat's Corner over here at Kumbaya Coffee shop. Big Cat gonna tell you what type of year he done had.

[Big Cat]

Hey, man, I've had a great year, man. Breakfast Club, sold out show in Brooklyn. Sold out show land, Tucky meet and greets, all type of stuff, man. Just taking it all in Paul's. You know what I mean? I said, paul, son. Paul's getting no respect. Paul's getting no respect.

[Deontay Kyle]

I can't respect that pause.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Paul's getting no respect.

[Big Cat]

Hey, listen, man. Just having a great time, baby.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah.

[Big Cat]

You know what I mean, man?

[Deontay Kyle]

It's been a great year, man. I'm. I'm grateful, man. Thank y', all, bro. You know, this ain't really possible without y', all, for sure. We're gonna have our coveted Christmas episode. Me and Big Cat, we're gonna get. You know what I'm saying? We're gonna get our Christmas gear. I might Pull up in this as the Grinch. Hey, you know what I'm saying? Because we canceling Christmas this year.

[Big Cat]

You gonna be the Grinch.

[Deontay Kyle]

I already told my kids. They was like, all right. They was like, we respect that, okay? It was like Con started getting real cynical about the shit. He was like, but if they have all of that money, why would they spend the money to kill people? I said.

[Big Cat]

Asking the right questions right there.

[Deontay Kyle]

Asking the right questions. Asking the right questions, man, that shouldn't be homeless people, but they're spending money to kill people. Hey, I'm telling you, man. I got me a young. Got me a young comrade on my hands up there, bro. Got a young comrade up there. Ain't making sense.

[Big Cat]

It ain't making. It ain't right.

[Deontay Kyle]

Ain't adding nothing going on out here. It ain't adding up. You know, speaking of spending money to kill people, imagine spending your own money. Imagine going to high school and doing it, all right? You work your way up to an Ivy League school like Brown University, and then your school gets shot up. Yet another school shooting. An unavoidable school shooting if we tighten up on the gun laws. But we'll put a pin in that conversation. You know, condolences to the families of the two that died and the 13 that are injured in the Brown University shooting in Rhode island. And condolences to all Americans for having such an incompetent leader and incompetent government leadership led by none other than Big Cheeto, Donald J. Trump. He announces as people are sheltering in place, that the Brown shooter has been subdued and caught by local police and that everybody is safe to come from their shelter in place.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Brown University had to respond to a.

[Deontay Kyle]

Tweet saying, we have not subdued the.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Shooter and it is still an active shelter in place. Order, please. Shelter in place. The shooter is still on the loose. There is still an active shooter on the loose. Imagine that you open Twitter and you see your president says you're safe, says the FBI have subdued the assailant and everybody's safe to come out.

[Big Cat]

Where he gets his information from.

[Deontay Kyle]

Ah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Goddamn. Patel, Valhalla. Patel, Valhalla, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Bro, listen, bro.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

My condolences not only to the families.

[Deontay Kyle]

But to every citizen of the United States of America that have to call this our leadership.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Then. So he puts people. Then he had to. Then he had to recant the statement.

[Deontay Kyle]

15 minutes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Do you know how much can happen in 15 minutes with an active shooter?

[Deontay Kyle]

15 minutes go by where people think they're safe.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And, you know, it's a chain reaction. So if one person read it, they like, oh, okay, we good? The President. The President said that the shooter has been caught. The President said that the shooter has been caught 15 minutes later and the school has to say no. And then 15 minutes later he said, oh, my bad.

[Deontay Kyle]

Shooter still active, please shelter in place.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You know how many lives you could have put in danger by doing that shit? And there ain't no telling if lives.

[Deontay Kyle]

Were actually put in danger from that.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We don't know if one of the dead, One of the two dead, or one of the 13 injured came out because they saw that tweet.

[Deontay Kyle]

But 34 convictions, so what's 35?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

What does accountability mean to MAGA?

[Deontay Kyle]

Nothing.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So then Donald Trump says.

[Deontay Kyle]

In his.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Statement to the families and the victims.

[Deontay Kyle]

Of this Brown University school shooting, things can happen. Things can happen anywhere. Brown University, it's a great school. It's one of the greatest schools. I'm telling you, it's the greatest. Things can happen. Things can happen anywhere.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Things can happen.

[Big Cat]

Jesus Christ.

[Deontay Kyle]

This is our President. Things can happen.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Now we know that in, during Bill.

[Deontay Kyle]

Clinton's term he put a ban on assault rifles. It was a temporary ban, but we did see a decrease in mass shootings.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And then we saw a significant increase in mass shootings.

[Deontay Kyle]

I think it's something like 239% increase in mass shootings once that temporary ban was lifted.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And you know, as much as you can guarantee that Christmas is gonna fall on the 25th, you can guarantee that at least once or twice a year.

[Deontay Kyle]

A school gonna get shot up, if not more. Let's look at some data and statistics. The number of school shootings in 2025 varies significantly depending on the definition used by different tracking organizations. Data sources reported figures ranging from approximately 17 to over 222 incidents as of late November, early December. So that's a fucking wide gap range. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't, I don't. Let's see what else we can find. Okay, okay, okay. Here's a list of mass shootings that took place in the United States in 2025. Mass shooting incidents. Oh, this is just mass shootings, but this is still a mass shooting, right?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And, and, and it doesn't have to be school specific. Mass shootings.

[Deontay Kyle]

Are rampant in America and.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

They say that mass shootings are incidents where several people are injured or killed.

[Deontay Kyle]

Due to firearm related violence. Specifically for the purposes of this article, this constitutes four or more victims. Total of 390 people have been killed and 1,778 people have been wounded and 398 shootings as of November 20th. No, November 30th, 2025.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, man. East Coast.

[Deontay Kyle]

Well, the east coast is where most of people live, so it's a lot of dots.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

A lot of dots on this here East Coast. But yeah, man, you know, including or.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Not including gang violence.

[Big Cat]

Let's protect your neck. You must protect your neck.

[Deontay Kyle]

Hey, I'm be the first person to say this now if you know, you know, our government is literally as incompetent as they come.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Now, you know, we've seen the conversation.

[Deontay Kyle]

Surrounding Jasmine Crockett this week. As soon as she announ announces her run for Congress, we like to flip tables. Now, I will say this. She does have a very pro Israel stance, but she's also condemned Benjamin Netanyahu and the government that currently resides in Israel. But Israel has been occupying Palestine since 1948. So I don't really see any pro Israel anything, regardless of the government or anything.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And you know, the thing is, is.

[Deontay Kyle]

That Jasmine Crockett has represented herself well in politics. She's always spoken her truth to power and the truth that many of us hold, especially when it comes to this incompetent government as it sits. She's willing to call people out. She's willing to hold people to account. And I believe that she wants what's best for Texas. And I think that she definitely has a vested interest in what's best for black people. She seems to be a very proud black woman, very pro black, very openly pro black as well, which is all of the things that we want in our leadership as black people, because that's not something we see often.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We would hope that she would change her stance on Israel, but we can.

[Deontay Kyle]

Walk and chew bubblegum and say that she still is a better candidate than most people that's going to run for Congress, especially any straight white male that's gonna run for Congress under this MAGA regime.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So I would say we still need.

[Deontay Kyle]

To support, even if we don't support Israel in the genocide, which is a big but.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But autumn niggas support Israel. So it's like, you know, she really just following the line.

[Deontay Kyle]

There are.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

There are a handful of pro Palestinian.

[Deontay Kyle]

Politicians that are out there that are also great choices and great people to support and to follow. I am of the ideology that our entire government is corrupt, regardless who sits in what seat and wears what color. I do not believe our government has the best interest of its citizens in mind at all. Regardless who's Sitting where she hasn't taken any APEC money. But she has been very pro, pro Israel in her stances and she will not denounce her pro Israel stance.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But all of these, for the most.

[Deontay Kyle]

Part, the majority of the American government is pro Israel. So, you know, shout out like, you know, mom, Donnie, you know what I'm saying?

[Big Cat]

Mandami, shout out to, like that. Shout out to them.

[Deontay Kyle]

Shout out to the pro Palestine, Free Palestine, bro. You know, because we are a very pro Palestine podcast, you know what I'm saying? Pro Sudan podcast. We're a pro to people, we're pro all oppressed people and we want genocide everywhere to stop.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So, you know, I'm not going to get in the weeds about that because.

[Deontay Kyle]

Again, I don't trust our government. I think that we have, I don't think, I know our government is corrupt, has been corrupt and we have been the subjects of that corruption and oppression since we've landed here.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So I don't put my faith in.

[Deontay Kyle]

Any politician to do anything for me at all. But I do still believe in supporting your local politicians and so you can affect change where you live, but once it gets to big government, yeah, man, you know what I'm saying? They got that on lock. All corruption, all the time, you know what I'm saying? They doing their big one. They're still sending money to Israel and they're not. No signs of stopping.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Meanwhile, there is going to be no.

[Deontay Kyle]

Discussion amongst the maggots or the citizens at large that will compel them to change the gun laws so that we can avoid mass shootings like the one that just happened at Brown University. You're already taxing people in arm and a leg to attend these colleges. They're going to be in debt severely for the next 15 to 20 years after they graduate.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

50 year mortgages.

[Deontay Kyle]

Hey man, that American pot unspoiled. The American dream is over.

[Big Cat]

50 year mortgage is insane.

[Deontay Kyle]

That's what they saying, you know what I'm saying? And the more money we send overseas, they've just like, I think they just increased the, the base amount that they're going to send every year. So there's a base amount they're sending every year. I mean, of course they still, you know, Israel, Argentina, dating good. Donald J. Trump presidency. They're eating good. They're gonna continue to eat good because these niggas don't give a fuck about us. And this is why we are canceling Christmas, among other things, and why we need to like really release this idea of whatever American dream America's a nightmare for 99% of the citizens.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So, yeah, you know, people like Jasmine.

[Deontay Kyle]

Crockett, we will look at them. You know, same thing goes for Kamala Harris. I believe that she has been very pro Palestine. I believe she's taking APEC money. You know, the government is corrupt.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So it's best practice to assume that anybody running for big government is also corrupt. These niggas ain't your leaders.

[Deontay Kyle]

These niggas ain't here. These niggas is. They gonna get their money, man. You know what I'm saying? They down with the Big G. The Big G. Government, government corruption.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You hear what I mean? So.

[Deontay Kyle]

But, you know, things can happen. Things can happen anywhere. That's a direct quote.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How, how do we.

[Deontay Kyle]

How do we. How do you find hope in a time like this? How do you find solace or peace in a country that is continually pumping fear to you? You know, people that go to college are now subject to the fear once again. You know, if it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Because if it hasn't happened in a.

[Deontay Kyle]

While, it hasn't been news in a while. So people are going to school every day as business as usual. And now, right before the Christmas break.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You know, you get us, you get.

[Deontay Kyle]

A school shooting and you have two dead students and 13 more injured students. I don't know if they were both students, but you have two dead and 13 injured. And now there's another level of anxiety because these things seem to happen, have a ripple effect, especially when they go unchecked, especially when there's no federal regulation around, you know, a machinery like that, like, especially assault weapons and things like that.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So.

[Deontay Kyle]

This is a time where the, the everyday American citizen, regardless of whether you believe that you engage with politics or not, you know, whether you, whether you dislike politics, you don't want to engage in it, politics is always engaging with you. A school shooting, unfortunately, is political, especially when your, your president is just marking it up to things can happen.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How do you find any, any space.

[Deontay Kyle]

Of peace in this country? I think right now we should mandate ourselves. Nah, you know, do what you want to do. I'm, I'm telling you what practices work for me. You need a time of solitude every day. There's a lot of information being thrown your way every day, and it can get confusing and it can become paralyzing because you can't do nothing with all the information.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And so it's constantly pulling on your.

[Deontay Kyle]

Heartstrings, pulling on your emotional strings, and you're shifting emotions from angry to sad to happy to glad. To frustrated, to contempt, to outright depressive state. This thing is playing on the spectrum of your emotions all day, every day. It's fucking with your attention span. It's also maybe fucking with your ability to care. And it could increase the level of apathy that you feel. If you are not spent already on empathy. If you don't have a heavy.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Capacity.

[Deontay Kyle]

For empathy already, it will increase your apathy towards these situations and the people that it affects.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So, you know, you, you, you know.

[Deontay Kyle]

You could join me. You know, I think now is the time more than ever where we want to constantly be giving back. We want to constantly be looking out for one another when we know that we don't have the government that's going to look out for us. So I will say this right now, if you are in Atlanta on December 21, from 2 to 5, We are giving away free household goods. This is in partnership with young lady named Angie. Angie's Beautiful Wings are couponing for a cause to help families in need. Brandy, Helena and Angie Beautiful Wings are going to be giving out free Household Goods on 2672 God Be Road at the Best Friends restaurant and bar in College Park, Georgia. So if you need, if you are in need of household supplies, anything from detergent, anything from, you know, Nivea body wash or Febreze, come holla at us. We've donated and we will. I'm gonna take my kids out there to help pass out goods and things like that so we can do something to support and give back this holiday season. There's no better thing to spend than your time. And if you have the money, you.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Can spend the money.

[Deontay Kyle]

The cash app for that I will leave below. But the cash app that I've been sending my donations to is. Hold on. Dollar sign brandyhalinas that's dollar sign B R A N D I H E L E N A S that's dollar sign Brandy Helenas. If you would like to donate to this cause, just a dollar power of a dollar, you could just give a dollar. She told me today that she can turn a $30 donation into 50 or $75 worth of good. So, you know, obviously she gotta connect and she know how to make shit happen and she making shit happen for the people. And this is what it's gonna take. The people are more powerful. You got to understand that it's 99% of us, right? And we are up against 1% of people that want to control every aspect of our life from our time to our resources to our data to our identities, to Our emotions. They want to control every aspect of it, to your information, to how you feel about the information. They try to spray your opinion on how you feel about people. It is very jarring to me that within the drop of a hat, as soon as she announced that she was running for Congress, everybody suddenly flipped on her. That is orchestrated.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And you are right to have criticisms of people. But what you have to pay attention to and why I disengaged from the.

[Deontay Kyle]

Conversation on threads is because you have to pay attention to how fast it happened.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Because if she did not run for.

[Deontay Kyle]

Congress, we would still be in full support of Jasmine Crockett.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And a lot of people that don't support Jasmine Crockett are leftists and are also like to hide their racism behind causes.

[Deontay Kyle]

They like to hide their racism behind free Palestine. It just is what it is.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's just something that they do because.

[Deontay Kyle]

They don't support any American causes. Now, while we are very pro Palestinian, pro Sudan people, y' all niggas ain't low.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You white people not slick.

[Deontay Kyle]

You white left is specifically. You white liberals specifically are not slick.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Y' all like to hide.

[Deontay Kyle]

Y' all anti blackness behind a cause. Niggas ain't stupid. Okay? All of our government is corrupt. And I think that there is an.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Idea that people want to try to.

[Deontay Kyle]

Go in and keep their hands as clean as possible.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But you cannot keep your hands clean in a filthy, filthy government.

[Deontay Kyle]

You cannot keep blood on your hands, off of your hands. You cannot keep blood off your hands if you are inside of the war machine.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You cannot keep blood off your hands.

[Deontay Kyle]

If you're inside the war machine. So shout out to everybody that's trying to be righteous in the midst of the war machine. Peace.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

This is a time for reflection.

[Deontay Kyle]

This is the end of the year. It's time to stop working.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You know what I'm saying? You've worked all year. If you only give 75% at work. Take that down to 50. 45.

[Deontay Kyle]

Take it to 30.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Quit your job.

[Big Cat]

Shit just. I was about to say the same shit. Just get up out of there.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I knew where you was spending time. I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna keep letting you beat me to the punch, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, God.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That meant some good water.

[Big Cat]

Yeah. Good cold water.

[Deontay Kyle]

Bro.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I was watching that last episode.

[Deontay Kyle]

Why was I taking down that Red Bull like that? I was like, God damn, was thirsty. Just keep that away from me.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Now is the time. Better than ever.

[Deontay Kyle]

You have to understand what the power of solitude is.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Time for family.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Time for friends.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Time for quality times with your friends.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But what about the quality time that.

[Deontay Kyle]

You'Re going to spend with yourself? Do you understand the power of solitude? Do you understand the peace that can come from self reflection?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

When you surrounded by people all the.

[Deontay Kyle]

Time, what are you doing? You're taking in information. Information, body language, attitudes, emotions. You reading people faces. You reading, you're looking at their clothes. Your body is taking in information. No time for self reflection when you surrounded by people. When you're getting drunk and high all the time. There is no self reflection going on. When you always in somebody face, when.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You always being entertained.

[Deontay Kyle]

Everywhere you look, you got a goddamn screen in your face. The brain does not have time to executively function on a coast. Hmm, Brain needs break from all the goddamn information. Every screen it sees is taking in information. That's the function of the brain to dissect subconsciously and consciously information. You have to give your brain a break.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

The issue with y' all giving your.

[Deontay Kyle]

Brains a break is when you are at peace, then what information does the brain start analyzing? What's going on within self. And a lot of you are running away from that self reflection. You got people, they outside all the time, they always in people's face. It's because they running away from that self reflection. They always drunk, they always high, they run away from that self reflection. You catch yourself looking at a screen all the time, it's because you're running away from that self reflection. It's time to be in solitude one hour a day. Just shut the phones off, shut the TV off, shut everything off. Do it early in the morning.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And this is a meditative practice.

[Deontay Kyle]

But it doesn't have to be that you sitting still somewhere with your legs folding your hands up. Just be still, move around the house.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Move around the house, do some cleaning.

[Deontay Kyle]

Up without headphones, without music, without anything of a distraction. And do things in silence so you could process what's going on. Your brain needs to dump that information. You need a place to get rid of all that shit that it can't do nothing with any time to get with you so you can deal with the things going on within yourself. You can gain so much peace from self reflection.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

When I was on that road, I'm going to tell you, I booted up. I probably did five years worth of.

[Deontay Kyle]

Growth in one year. Because every day I had it on my mind. I would wake up sometimes and get my day started at 6, 7 in the morning. Sometimes you get your day started. 8, 9. No matter what the time was If.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I start at 7, I won't deal.

[Deontay Kyle]

With no electronics until 10. I won't take in no information until 10.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And it wasn't easy, but it did.

[Deontay Kyle]

Get to a point where it's okay. Now I'm in a conversation with myself, I'm talking to myself. I'm dealing with some of the shit that I had to deal with to the point where, okay, I had wind it down. Like after about an hour and a half, shit just started feeling extreme. Like, all right, bro, so I just made it my business to. Every day I start the first hour of my day, the first conscious hour of my day. I mean, after you wash your face and you brush your teeth and everything first, first of all, don't reach and hit the maps. Don't hit the maps. First thing when you wake up, you heard you starting your day off.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You, you, you, you spiking your dopamine.

[Deontay Kyle]

Level right at the top.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You ease your way into the day, man, a lot of times this could.

[Deontay Kyle]

Be contributing to burnout because if it's.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

A heavy day on the Internet, it's a heavy day for you. It can't differentiate whether that's happening to you or somebody else.

[Deontay Kyle]

If you feel something about it, you.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Can only watch so much damn death before it start feeling like it's happening to you. You can only watch so many harmful and negative stereotypes about yourself before you got to go in the comment section and start defending yourself. Manufactured. These are all things that are manufactured. And you haven't gain the peace from self reflection and it can be uncomfortable. But one thing you have to learn how to do in this day and.

[Deontay Kyle]

Time and period in your life is sit in discomfort. A lot of us like to run away from uncomfortable conversations. A lot of us don't like confrontation. And sometimes it had to bubble up to the point where this is absolutely self destruction, you know what I'm saying? I've been in those spaces of just complete self destruction because I don't want to have an uncomfortable conversation not only with somebody else, but definitely with myself.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I don't want to address some things.

[Deontay Kyle]

That'S going on within myself. This is how you get addicted to drugs.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

This is how you start, this is how you start finding a way of.

[Deontay Kyle]

Solving your problems in that motherfucking bottle.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

This will help you. This, this how you start engaging in reckless behavior and it's self sabotaging behavior.

[Deontay Kyle]

Because you're not sitting with yourself because you don't want to sit in discomfort. And sometimes it's uncomfortable to admit when you fucking Up.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Sometimes it's uncomfortable to admit that you have flaws.

[Deontay Kyle]

It's uncomfortable.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Sometimes the money look right and the.

[Deontay Kyle]

Bills is paid and the car is.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Nice and on paper I'm doing everything right. But it's something that you, that you won't deal with within yourself.

[Deontay Kyle]

And it's eating you from the inside out. This is why we run away from self reflection. We're gonna stay on that phone, we're gonna stay engaged with somebody or something.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So that we have to deal with solitude. And I know when I'm running away.

[Deontay Kyle]

From because I'm constantly seeking stimulation. Because it's the worst when you gotta sit with self, you gotta look yourself in the mirror, literally and figuratively, and deal with yourself. Because we all got growth to do.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

There is no perfect people. There is no perfect people. That bar I dropped at the Breakfast Club, that was a bar that my therapist dropped on me.

[Deontay Kyle]

That I have been, I have been championing that phrase.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That is the phrase of the fucking year. That is my life's mantra.

[Deontay Kyle]

Perfection begins at inception. Perfection begins at inception. Perfection begins at inception. That means none of us are perfect.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

If you've ever made a mistake, you ain't perfect. If you ever did something wrong, you're not perfect. If you ever made a bad choice, you're not perfect. So release. When we talking creativity, when we talking creatively, like how I am a perfectionist about how the show gonna grow, you know what I'm saying? I still know how to delegate responsibility so it don't come with control. The perfectionism in me is just wanting.

[Deontay Kyle]

A quality output of my work.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

A quality output for the fans, a quality output for myself. I'm a perfectionist figuratively. But in my life, I do not.

[Deontay Kyle]

Expect perfection out of myself.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

If I engage in a situation, knowing what the outcomes is, then I know that I'm making a decision and I.

[Deontay Kyle]

Can live and die with that decision.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

If I'm in new territory and I don't know the rules and I don't know the know hows and I'm figuring things out, I. I will give myself permission to make mistakes. And a lot of people don't want to give themselves permission to make mistakes because you think you're above a mistake, because you overly judging yourself. And all that fruit has a root.

[Deontay Kyle]

You got to reflect on how your folks talk to you. Got to reflect on how your people dealt with you. Then you can reflect on how you deal with yourself. A lot of times our inner voice is the voice of the most prominent.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

People in our lives.

[Deontay Kyle]

A Lot of times your inner voice is your mama and your daddy and how they talk to you. If they ridiculed you, then no wonder you ridicule yourself when you fuck up. No wonder you feel like it's the end of the world when you make a mistake. It's the end of the world when you make a bad decision.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But you can't confront those things. Not only in therapy, you can't confront them things for yourself because you won't sit in solitude.

[Deontay Kyle]

You running away from yourself?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You remember what I said at the live show? Girls be thinking they not alcoholics because.

[Deontay Kyle]

They getting drunk on an island.

[Big Cat]

Somebody take me.

[Deontay Kyle]

You just. Just because you drink in destinations don't mean you ain't no fucking alcoholic.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You alcoholic too. You just letting the money. You letting the money cover up the habit.

[Deontay Kyle]

But you waking up drunk, you going to bed drunk.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And then you wake up and you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Do it all over again. Because it's vacation. How many goddamn vacations you need to take in a year?

[Big Cat]

Smokestack?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Just cause you go out to the bar and you look good and you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Fancy and you dress well don't mean you ain't a fucking alcoholic, shorty. We just relate.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Relate alcoholism to bums.

[Deontay Kyle]

You gotta be sitting outside under a shade tree, sipping on a beer. You gotta be drinking on something cheap. As long as it's expensive, it's not addiction.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That's some bullshit. And I tell you how I know it's some bullshit. You know how expensive cocaine is? Nigga, I was dropping one fifty on the eight ball.

[Big Cat]

Good Lord.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Twice a week.

[Big Cat]

Damn.

[Deontay Kyle]

Ah. And then tell nigga, I ain't no junkie. Shit.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You know how much. You know how much I spent on this shit? That's what niggas do with lean.

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, this shit caused X, Y and Z a line. You're a junkie, sir. A junkie.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Now I'll do some toot. I was on that toot.

[Deontay Kyle]

God damn it, I was on that toot.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I was on that toot. Acting like Steve Austin. I'm have one beer.

[Deontay Kyle]

Huh?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Two beers.

[Caller or Listener 1]

What?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Three beers.

[Deontay Kyle]

What?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Tequila.

[Caller or Listener 1]

What?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Vodka. What? More coke.

[Big Cat]

What?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Hennessy. What? Hennessy margarita. What? Two more beers.

[Deontay Kyle]

What?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Ice cold beverage.

[Big Cat]

God damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Up. Getting up. Feeling good as a. Yeah, I'm sure. Running away.

[Deontay Kyle]

Running away. Didn't want to deal with myself.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Didn't want to deal with the fact that I felt like a failure. Had a little money, had some money. Wasn't happy with my life. Didn't feel like I had it figured out. As a man putting all my problems up my goddamn nose, putting all my.

[Deontay Kyle]

Problems in that goddamn bottle, drinking like a motherfucking fish. And then that stopped working. And what do people do?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

They just.

[Deontay Kyle]

Let me tell you something about me.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Weed wasn't hitting on shit for me. Weed, you get that shit out my face. I want nothing to do with no weed. That shit cool. Yeah, all that. I got the munchies.

[Deontay Kyle]

Everything's funny.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Nigga, I got bigger problems than that.

[Big Cat]

My world's collapsing, nigga.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Nigga, I'm going through it. N. Some weed can't fix this. Where's that white bitch? I was acting like the Michigan head coach. Where's the white bitch?

[Big Cat]

A lot of snow.

[Deontay Kyle]

Where's the. Should have seen me.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'm telling you, bro, I knew, I knew, I knew that. But the thing is, it's like, you know, when you know, but without these things and without these trials and tribulations, you know, I don't like to. I don't like to get in these.

[Deontay Kyle]

Things of like, oh, man, God had to sit me down. God could sit you down outside of jail, bro. God can sit you down outside of addiction.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's you, nigga. It's God in you. It's God in you that had to sit you down. It's God in you that may have found solace in the county. You know, you gonna get a little empathy. Cause when you fucking up on the streets, don't nobody fuck with you. Your people don't wanna deal with your shit. Your people show you a little goddamn tenderness just because your dumb ass locked up. This is this. Is this some psychological. Show you a little tenderness because you addicted.

[Deontay Kyle]

God. And you.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You sit yourself down.

[Deontay Kyle]

If God is everywhere, all at once omnipresent. I mean, God is within you as well.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That's how you take power away from people.

[Deontay Kyle]

You convince this. You got to convince the people that it's somewhere outside of them, that you got to go somewhere else to seek God.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

When God is within you at all times, you could tap into that power. I'm living proof. You can tap into that power and change your life. You can tap into that power and change your mind.

[Deontay Kyle]

You can change your circumstances.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It comes with a strong belief within self. It come with vision. You got to get creative, but you got to address the hard shit and be able to sit in that discomfort. It ain't easy to sit in discomfort. We want to rush those feelings outside of ourselves. We want to rush through the process because we get everything else fast. We get the news fast. We get the laughs.

[Deontay Kyle]

Fast. We get the food fast.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We get everything fast. So you want to be able to process fast too. You got to take your time. It take years. It may take years. It took me years to get here. It seemed overnight to a lot of people, but I know. Cause I had to reform myself. I had to reform myself out the street. I had to reform myself from addiction. I had to reform myself from self sabotaging ways. I had to believe in myself. Had to give myself the power to make mistakes. The permission to make mistakes. I had to give myself permission to make mistakes. I had to give myself permission to make better choices. To be better than I was. The possibilities of being a better person. The possibilities of stepping into your power and changing your life and changing the circumstances and changing the people around you. My circle done changed several times. Sometimes you outgrow the circle and you gonna keep yourself stuck in a loop. Cause you stuck in that same circle of people that you know you don't got no business being around.

[Deontay Kyle]

For what?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

A reputation?

[Caller or Listener 1]

For what?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How it's going to look to others? For what? What they going to say about you. You hear the dog preach. For what they going to say about you? You fear the judgment of others more than you feel the judgment of self. You feel the judgment of others more than you feel the judgment of yourself. So you'll sit. You'll sit within yourself, sleepless at night, in peril. Because you won't. You won't give yourself the permission to make mistakes. You won't give yourself permission to step into your power. You won't acknowledge the God that live within you. So you got to keep chasing that God that live outside of you and wondering why your prayers ain't being answered.

[Deontay Kyle]

Because you supposed to be the one answering those prayers.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

All you need God to do is give you a little push. But you got to push yourself. You could ask the ancestors to support you.

[Deontay Kyle]

They're going to support you. They going to show up, they going to give you a push. They going to open up some doors.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

There's some doors open.

[Deontay Kyle]

You don't even.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You ain't even on that hall yet. But you got to go through those.

[Deontay Kyle]

Peaks and the valleys.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And a lot of times you got to go through it alone. And if you ain't never sat with yourself, well then solitude, it's going to seem like hell. But you can go through that hell and get through that hell. Once you acknowledge the power that live within you. We can't keep seeking out equity and degeneracy. We can't wanna be Equitable to the.

[Deontay Kyle]

Circumstances of this country, to these men.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That came before us.

[Deontay Kyle]

Because they have it all.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

They got it all through oppression. You wanna be equal to that? You wanna be equal to your oppressor? It ain't your whip to hold. The Michigan head coach, perfect example of that. Perfect example how lust can be the downfall of a man. Great job, wife, three kids. If you want to assimilate into whiteness, no better place to do it than Ann Arbor, Michigan. Scandal. They just had. Got caught up in the scandal up there in Michigan. Said them boy was cheating. Said they were stealing playbooks. This a playbook. This is a tale. It's only time. It's the oldest playbook they got. White woman come.

[Deontay Kyle]

Boy, you gonna give me some of that dick. I'm a kid. I'm telling you rape me. I'm gonna tell him you rape me. Oh, ain't that how that happened?

[Big Cat]

Stop that train.

[Deontay Kyle]

Tell is all this time that lust.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You gotta address that within yourself. There's a lot of things. There's a lot of. There's a lot of obstacles set up for you to fail.

[Deontay Kyle]

It's a lot of traps that they.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Gonna set up for you as a black man. Especially when you for your people. But the traps don't seem like traps when you ain't with your people. Seem like assimilation is the thing to do.

[Deontay Kyle]

Safe.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Negro, these white folk, they fuck with me. They love me. I come in, I wear my tie, I wear my suit.

[Deontay Kyle]

I got my hair cut low.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I don't got no waves. I don't listen to rap music. I don't wear no sneakers. I got my pants pulled up on my waist. I'm the Michigan head coach. Why wouldn't I be able to fucking.

[Deontay Kyle]

One of my staff members?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Why wouldn't I be able to cheat on my wife? Why wouldn't I be able to risk my marriage and father and being a father to these three kids and have a premier job at one of the most storied franchises in college football history.

[Deontay Kyle]

You niggas go up to Michigan and lose it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Something about Michigan. This nigga, this is one of the Fab Five. All the Fab Fives lost their goddamn mind.

[Big Cat]

It's a whole fab five. All five of them niggas.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

All five of them niggAs. Niggas.

[Deontay Kyle]

Bald. College.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How the fuck Jalen. How the fuck. Jalen Rose was bald in college. To have the most exquisite hairlines of all time.

[Big Cat]

I mean, God damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I mean, the best. I mean, Picasso, you feel me? Damn. This shit is etched in stone wasn't one of the niggas for the Fab Five. The Michigan head basketball coach.

[Big Cat]

I don't know how true that is.

[Deontay Kyle]

He was. Was he?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He wasn't Fab Five. Look it up.

[Big Cat]

We got the Internet.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

The old face. The old nigga with the old face.

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, I know what you talking about. What's his name?

[Big Cat]

I don't know his name, but he got an old face. Light skin nigga. Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's dusty may now. But who was who?

[Deontay Kyle]

Hold on, I'm just put fab five. Juan Howard.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Wasn't Juwan Howard a basketball coach?

[Big Cat]

I'm not sure.

[Deontay Kyle]

Juwan. I'm pretty sure he was Juwan Howard. Yeah. Juwan Howard is former head coach for the University of Michigan men's basketball team. Dismissed in 2024. Finished his 10 year disappointed 8 and 21st season.

[Big Cat]

God damn.

[Deontay Kyle]

Shit.

[Big Cat]

Not so fabulous as a coach.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Not so fabulous. Lust, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

The lust.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's a lot of traps. Materialism a trap.

[Deontay Kyle]

Alcoholism a trap. Drug addiction a trap. White women a trap. But the risk is the thrill.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Ain't nothing wrong with sex.

[Deontay Kyle]

But you risking your job to do it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Damn IME Udoka.

[Deontay Kyle]

Fucking on a staff member. Cheating on Nia Long lost your job. The risk is the thrill.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But is it worth it? Is the risk worth it? We too old for this.

[Deontay Kyle]

Too old to be risking your career for some pussy. Man. Come on man, it's just water it. Listen my.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's so many white women in Ann Arbor, Michigan that you could have been sticking your dick in. Then this how you know? Nigga been around the whites too long.

[Big Cat]

Uh huh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He go breaking the house. I'mma kill myself.

[Big Cat]

So I get this crazy Nagata.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, I'mma kill myself. I'm going to kill you then I'm going to kill myself. Dude, we you going family Annihilation style. You gonna kill the side bitch.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And then kill yourself.

[Big Cat]

Cause you fucked up.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Cause you fucked up.

[Deontay Kyle]

Damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

How you plan?

[Deontay Kyle]

How you doordash the plan B to your job, son?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

What we doing? You've been around white people too long, bro. You finding equity and degeneracy. You think you a white man now?

[Big Cat]

He could have went to the store and got that son.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He could have sent her to the store. Look, I throw a little extra on the way. $75.

[Deontay Kyle]

I'm gonna send you a honey.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Go to Chipotle. I'm send you 150. I'm gonna send you 150. Go to Chipotle. Ye.

[Deontay Kyle]

You know what I'm saying, girl?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Get you some honey Chipotle chicken. Wash that pill down.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah, the fuck doordashing that bitch to your job.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

What's wrong with you, cuz?

[Big Cat]

That's how he got caught up.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

The nigga, it was too. He was too comfortable.

[Deontay Kyle]

Stupid. He's like, man, I can do what I want. I'm that nigga. I'm that nigga on campus.

[Big Cat]

He that nigga, all right.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, you that nigga. You that nigga, all right.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

They remind you that there will never be another nigga hired at Michigan for a hundred years.

[Big Cat]

This nigga.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

These niggas know how to keep their dick in their pants.

[Deontay Kyle]

Damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

One white woman wasn't enough. You was already married to Kelly. You married the white bitch, went up there living happily ever after. Hey, she probably even knew you was cheating. Probably. But she like, look, man, he's the Michigan head coach. He making $5 million a year. He done gave me these three kids. If he fuck up, I'm taking it all.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Mm.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Lost your job. Lost your side piece. Uh huh. Lost your wife.

[Deontay Kyle]

Uh huh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Lost $5 million. Lost your freedom. People got you in custody, brother. You can't wild out in Ann Arbor. What?

[Deontay Kyle]

What?

[Big Cat]

You'll be coaching in Pelican Bay when.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

They get your ass gonna be a coach.

[Deontay Kyle]

All right.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You have niggas doing footwork drills in the county? Nah, man needs the chest, man. That's how we do it at Michigan. When I was the coach. It's gonna be a whole bunch of when I was the coach at Michigan in your future.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, for sure.

[Deontay Kyle]

Man, that lust. Man, that lust saw him white woman.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He couldn't keep her eyes, his eyes.

[Big Cat]

Off of Jesus Christ.

[Deontay Kyle]

Power, bruh.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Power corrupts. See, when you was assistant head coach, you get away with some shit like that.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Can't be the head coach. You can't be at the big show.

[Big Cat]

Nah, not the big show.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And then you gotta see your side bitch all the time. She on your staff. Are you a fool, stupid? You supposed to keep the side piece away from everything. Yeah, see, the side piece ain't even supposed to know where you live, cuz she don't even know what you do for a living. If you need to get your fix of white women that bad, come on. Cause you in Ann Arbor, Michigan. What's the population?

[Deontay Kyle]

What's the demographic breakdown, Demographics of Ann Arbor Mission have went to the local target.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

All the in an. In an arbor is on that basketball team, that football team, and you.

[Big Cat]

That's it. All the. How far is an arbor from Detroit?

[Deontay Kyle]

All right, it's 60% white, 16% Asian. It's only 7% black. Only 7% black. Only 7%.

[Big Cat]

Oh, ain't no in arbor. It's just the college.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'm telling you, the 7% is the.

[Deontay Kyle]

Go to be.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

All niggas is there for higher learning and athletics.

[Big Cat]

That's it.

[Deontay Kyle]

And you.

[Big Cat]

You fucked it up.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And you breaking in motherfucking white people house.

[Deontay Kyle]

How you gonna drive to the side bitch house and put a knife in your neck?

[Big Cat]

Crazy, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Hang around on white folk too long, you thought you was a white man. You can't seek equity and degeneracy. You never gonna be able to play the game the way they play it. It's they play, it's they game.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And it was meant to keep you out. And by assimilating, they will let you in. Or in this new technological age, you could forge your way in. But don't ever think they rules apply to you. See, those who make the rules, break the rules.

[Deontay Kyle]

You was never meant to make the rules.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You was meant to abide by them. And you played it. You played the game. How it go. You played the game how it go. You worked your way up to being the head coach of the Michigan Big Ten storied franchise.

[Deontay Kyle]

He fucked it all the way over some pussy. Cause the risk was the thrill. This will happen when you ain't in tune with the God within yourself. This is what happened when you don't sit in solitude. You just ignore it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Cause you knew better. You knew better. It had to be plenty of drives.

[Deontay Kyle]

Home where he was like, man, I gotta stop this shit. He ain't listening. He ain't listen. It's always warning before destruction. You could have found some peace. Self reflection sat in that discomfort. But nope. The risk is the thrill. And lust can so often be the downfall of a man. Gotta get your shit together, B. Well, they got it together for you. You ain't gotta do nothing. We should learn from others mistakes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You seen Shannon Sharpe? I know what he going through.

[Big Cat]

I know you do, Shannon. I know what it feels like, baby. I know.

[Deontay Kyle]

Five million.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I wish it. I wish I would have just lost $5 million.

[Big Cat]

How much Shannon lost?

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, shit.

[Big Cat]

50 M's.

[Deontay Kyle]

It was a 50 ball.

[Big Cat]

God damn.

[Deontay Kyle]

I killed myself on the nightcap.

[Big Cat]

Well, that's it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Ojo, Let me take some Ocho. We got special guests. Nine millimeter.

[Big Cat]

Goddamn.

[Deontay Kyle]

That little red pill ain't gonna bring me back. That little red pill gets your dick hard. And yeah, yeah, all the blood done.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Flowed from your goddamn Mind down to your dick.

[Big Cat]

Now you.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Now you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah. I don't know. I ain't gonna.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I don't know what this white look like, but I know she mid.

[Big Cat]

Most definitely.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah. I mean, I mean, God damn. If I, if I. If I was a betting man. Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Prize picks.

[Deontay Kyle]

Give me an over under on this being mid.

[Big Cat]

Super mid.

[Deontay Kyle]

Well, guys, we got some advice to get into.

[Big Cat]

He should have called for some advice.

[Deontay Kyle]

Doctor Umar.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Go get you a beautiful black butter pecan, butter almond. Big, beautiful big booty. Big breasted black queen.

[Big Cat]

You would have to drive an hour to Detroit for that, baby.

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, yes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'd have rather make that drive to Detroit. Oh, if you'd have been. Had you had your little thing in Detroit, you'd have been scraped.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Never would have known, man. She'd have been like, man, she'd have.

[Deontay Kyle]

Break me off a little something, man. Would've been straight. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Buy me a bag. You know what I'm saying? I got you on retainer. 2500 a week.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

She wouldn't have ruined your career.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah.

[Big Cat]

Not in Detroit.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That's how you got.

[Deontay Kyle]

You gotta.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

When you get money like that, you gotta have your side piece far away.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah. Or.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Crazy concept. Don't cheat on your wife. Yeah, don't do that.

[Big Cat]

Just don't cheat.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Oh, man, it could all be so simple.

[Big Cat]

You had it all, baby.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You had it all. You wanted more. You got greedy. You got greedy.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

This is what happened when you don't sit with Self.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah. See, if he had a set with Self and been like, you know what, Self, you right.

[Big Cat]

Can't cheat on my wife.

[Deontay Kyle]

I'm gonna leave this white alone.

[Big Cat]

I got three kids.

[Deontay Kyle]

I got three kids. I got a white woman at home.

[Big Cat]

I'm the head football coach.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I got it all.

[Deontay Kyle]

Why do I want more?

[Big Cat]

God damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And man, look, you was 8. You was 18 and 8. Hey, you was on course to have another winning season. You might not have took them niggas to the chip, but you was on course and you was kept that fucking job. Who's to say you have a good winning season? You go 7.5 million, they might bump you up to 10.

[Big Cat]

Hey, now you the bag up.

[Deontay Kyle]

Let me tell you something. I'mma tell you something, son. I tell you something, my brother.

[Big Cat]

Hey.

[Deontay Kyle]

You'll never see 5 million a year again.

[Big Cat]

Never. Your life, it's over with.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You'll never see 5 million a year again.

[Deontay Kyle]

Unless you come out and start a podcast. Right wing grifting. You got to Be the new.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's too many.

[Deontay Kyle]

Got that job already. It's over with.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, it's done.

[Deontay Kyle]

You'll never see that five M's again. You kiss that goodbye.

[Big Cat]

Five M's a year.

[Deontay Kyle]

Damn.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You may. You may not even see a 250. You back at one because your wife.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, she got you Kelly. She got you Kelly.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

And the three light skinned babies.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, they go eat. Yeah, man, they gotta eat.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

These little mixed children is gonna be the bane of our existence.

[Deontay Kyle]

In 15 years, I'm telling you, they're gonna be on Tick Tock whatever the new app is.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Embarrassing. Damn children. Shame they had to leave Ann Arbor.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Shame.

[Deontay Kyle]

Oh, they're not welcome in Mission.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, they had to go to Ohio.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yeah, that move them to South Carolina.

[Big Cat]

Texas, baby.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You gotta move them where interracial dating is.

[Deontay Kyle]

Is premiere. Oh, yeah. You know what I'm saying?

[Big Cat]

Oh, yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

You know what I'm saying? You gotta send them one of the Carolinas. They'll blend in well over the Carolinas.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, you gotta.

[Deontay Kyle]

Carolinas.

[Big Cat]

You bl.

[Deontay Kyle]

Right in Carrollton or something.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Carlton, Georgia, baby. You got Carrollton, Georgia, baby.

[Deontay Kyle]

You good.

[Big Cat]

He might be able to coach at Carrollton, baby.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He might be able to coach. He might be at West Georgia.

[Big Cat]

He might be.

[Deontay Kyle]

You might send them niggas.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Undefeated season.

[Deontay Kyle]

You better work your way back up in the ranks.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Hey, niggas have come back from last. But that.

[Deontay Kyle]

That. That.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That knife scenario, brother.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, it's a violent. You a violent nigga now. Yeah, you a violent nigga now.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You done fucked up, man. You fucked up. You should have took that l. Yeah, you should have just took the embarrassment that came with that. You crashed the fuck out.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Get in tune with God within yourself. Don't let these people convince you that God is sitting somewhere outside of you. Don't let these people convince you. You need a middleman to get to him. It's already ending. Kingdom of heaven is within you. You got to know thyself. We'll be right back after these commercial breaks.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We back.

[Deontay Kyle]

We back.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We.

[Deontay Kyle]

We back. We back. Hey, man, we got an incredible time coming up, man. We do great guest. So next week's episode will be featuring a guest.

[Big Cat]

Just get prepared for it.

[Deontay Kyle]

Just be prepared. Next week's episode is not a solo episode. But the next two episodes are not solo episodes. We. We'll catch our niggas again in the new year.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

No, we got to give them something.

[Deontay Kyle]

Got to give them. Got to give them something.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'll double up.

[Deontay Kyle]

I'll double up because I guess deserves the Wednesday spot.

[Big Cat]

Yes, for sure.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

N I tell you what.

[Deontay Kyle]

We're going to do our Christmas episode exclusively. Where at on that Patreon? Hey, $8 if you wanna see the Christmas episode solo episode next Wednesday, you got to.

[Big Cat]

$8.

[Deontay Kyle]

$8. Here's the thing. The reason why is because this guest episode is very special to me.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Very special to a lot of people.

[Deontay Kyle]

Some would say he's top of his class in his field.

[Big Cat]

Hey, I would say so.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I would too. I would say so.

[Deontay Kyle]

And he'll be here with us at the Grizzly next podcast. So next two weeks and then the week after that, we're doing a wrap up episode.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So y' all want to see another.

[Deontay Kyle]

Solo into the new year and if you're a real, you'll just stick around. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, you're real. Yeah, I'm saying be a real. We'll see y'. All. Top of 20, 26.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Fresh.

[Deontay Kyle]

Fresh. Cold. Yeah.

[Big Cat]

Rejuvenated.

[Deontay Kyle]

Rejuvenated. We need a break, baby. We've been working cold plunge. Big cat.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yo, deontay.

[Deontay Kyle]

We got to take us a break, baby. Yeah, man, you know y' all taking time off from work. We going to take a little time off our damn selves for sure.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

But we will be pre. We know we, we, we honor the cousins.

[Deontay Kyle]

So we going to stay consistent over there. We can give y' all a Christmas episode. It'll be fun. We'll drop some clips. Very special guest next week.

[Big Cat]

What can we say?

[Deontay Kyle]

What can we say? You know the Breakfast Club boys?

[Big Cat]

Yeah, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Brought the grits and eggs to the Breakfast Club. All right, man, let's get into some of these advice submissions. We got calls in from the cousins, from the folks.

[Big Cat]

All right, let's get it.

[Caller or Listener 1]

Hello, my name is Ali. I'm calling from Jacksonville, Florida. What's up, big ice cook Cat? Deontay Deshawn Gregory, Michael, Kyle, I have a bone to pick with you. I just listened to the podcast. I didn't even listen to the all the one all the way yet. I ain't even finish it yet. When you was giving your shout out to doing going on tour, visiting all the black cities, you left one out, okay? And I'm sick of this beef that y' all be got that y' all got y' all Atlanta got with Jacksonville, Florida. I don't know what that's about, okay. Because I'm not really from here. I just moved here. But I know there's an outstanding beef that that.

[Deontay Kyle]

Look, since you got your degree and you know every goddamn thing, we just stated several times that we coming to Jacksonville.

[Big Cat]

Exactly.

[Deontay Kyle]

So you.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You be easy. I'm gonna let you finish.

[Big Cat]

Jacksonville ain't never South Georgia anyway. God damn it. That's all it is.

[Deontay Kyle]

Tropical gunman.

[Caller or Listener 1]

That y' all got. But we passed that. We grow. We mature. Now I'm gonna need you to bring. Bring your black ass to Jacksonville, okay? Because I. I gotta see you. But I got kids, and so I can't go all the way to Atlanta all the time. Anyway, I love y'. All. Keep doing your big one. I saw the Breakfast Club interview. I'm so proud of you. I feel like I know y'. All. Anyway, like I said, I'm proud of you. Do your big one. Keep doing your big one. Big Ice Cup Cat, my nigga. Anyway, I love y', all, okay? Come to Jacksonville. I ain't playing with you. Don't make me have to come find you. Bye.

[Big Cat]

Look, dangerous.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Please don't come.

[Big Cat]

We're coming to Jacksonville.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We coming to Jacksonville.

[Deontay Kyle]

I promise. I promise the best if.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

If we can't come to Jacksonville.

[Deontay Kyle]

Best I could do Tallahassee, dry your ass. Over two hours. Yeah, come to Savannah. One of the two. All right, compose. Let's keep going.

[Caller or Listener 2]

Hey, Leon, take Cal and Big Ice Cream. Cupcat, man, first of all, I was just want to say, like, man, I've been. I've been with you since A was in high school, like a 20. You know, I've been watching you doing your thing since I was in junior high school. So I really do appreciate everything that you be saying. Cuz would you be saying, I've been thinking all my life, especially living in the home, other than, you know what I'm saying? But I ain't gonna, Mama. I just wanted to say, like, you know, I love y'. All. You know, I love the cast. I love everything that y' all are doing. And hopefully one day, if A is not continuously broke, I can, you know, go see y' all, y' all shows and stuff. Because A got the Patreon Payday 8. You already know, so. But I just wanted to let you know, like, bro, like, I know everybody tell you the same, like, what you doing is amazing and. But you really don't understand the. That you're doing. Like, you know what I'm saying? What you doing is not something that I see in black men. For real. Like, even, like, you and Ice Cub Cat, like, y' all doing something that I don't see black men Doing for real. Because. And why the black community has a very terrible problem with being contempt. You know, not all of us, but a lot of us, even me and my own aspect. So I thank y' all for, you know what I'm saying, pushing a to open up my eyes and opening up my ears to listening and not just hearing everything that's going on and letting the young know, like, you know, you're affected by certain. But you're not the only one being affected, you know. So I just want thank y', all, you know, love y', all, love the show and, and hopefully one day when y' all come back to Houston, can't see y', all, you know, real love.

[Deontay Kyle]

Peace, peace, peace, peace. Yeah, man. It's an honor to be honest, if I'm honest, it's an honor. We, we built this up on our own, bro. You know what I'm saying? It's not a lot of people that could say that we're top 200 on Apple Podcasts globally. Not in any category, just all podcasts. We in top 200 globally, you know what I'm saying? We're thankful for any opportunity where we can speak our mind. We can spread the knowledge, we can spread the love, we can increase the empathy and the love within ourselves that we have for each other. And we speak and we represent each other well. And it's an honor, man. And we thankful. And there's people like you that support us that really make this shit worth doing it for.

[Big Cat]

Sure.

[Deontay Kyle]

We will be in Houston 2026. We gonna be everywhere, man. I'm telling you niggas, we'll be all.

[Big Cat]

Over the goddamn country.

[Deontay Kyle]

I'm telling you niggas, we are going to be everywhere. Let's get into some of these advice. We had to cut it down from. We was going three and three. Three and three is too much.

[Big Cat]

Two and two.

[Deontay Kyle]

Two and two. Yeah, maybe that's the sweet spot. Okay, subject line reads, is it because I'm fat? Well, damn. Okay, well.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Hey, sexy Deontay.

[Big Cat]

Oh, shots fire.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Okay, okay.

[Big Cat]

Shots fire. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

Hey, sexy Deontay and big cool cat.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Hey. I'm going to keep this brief and.

[Deontay Kyle]

Anonymous as possible because you're well loved in the Bay area of California. Oakland to be exact. Where I'm from and the world is small and niggas might guess who this is. Any who 36 year old women with no children. I've been a truck driver for almost 12 years. I have a master's in mass communications and international journalism. I love to Travel, but I can't find a man. I don't lead with all that, but I seem. I can't. I don't lead with all of that, but I seem to. To can't find it seems I can't find a suitable man. I'm ready to settle down after a successful whole face. Y' all crazy, bro. I didn't wild out crazy or anything. Just kept select a few in rotation throughout the years. I have no problem with getting, but to be a wife is a problem. Jesus Christ. I see women with six kids, promiscuous women and bitches who are always asking for money get wife. Granted they are smaller than me. Am I not getting wife because I'm fat? Thank you in advance. P.S. y' all come to Oakland, California, because we love your content and visit the Black Panther Museum. Okay, bye. It's not because you fat. You know that ain't have nothing to do with that, man. There's a lot of niggas out here that love them a bigger woman, you know, they love my bbw. I think the issue is that you're in Oakland, California. I mean, you in the Bay. Pimp culture in the Bay is rampant. It is the culture more than anything. You know how LA has gang bang culture. The Bay has the pimp culture. So you may be looking at it like from a perspective of a nigga out there doesn't look at wiping somebody as like, that. Niggas looking at that like, oh, I gotta turn in my P card. Like, that ain't P. I'm not marrying a bitch. So maybe a location change, maybe get that back down south or maybe just find you somewhere else that may be a little bit more suitable for relationships. But if you're in a place where everybody think they a pimp, you can't be looking for a husband there. Black Panther shit aside, history of, you know, fighting back against the government and the establishment, history of revolutionaries aside, the current culture has been eroded into pimp culture. And then our culture, heavily influenced by pimping. Marriage is not an option. So you may be financial shortcomings like that, but you can't listen. The thing is, is like control your controllables. If you feel like you're overweight and that's a space of insecurity for you, you can work on that with diet and exercise. More than anything, you want a husband. You getting older, you need to, you know, be here.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

You know what I mean?

[Deontay Kyle]

That's a big part of it, is you being present and being alive and being in good health. But if you think niggas ain't wifing you because you fat, you don't know niggas slide a lot of plus size women out here getting wifed. So stay on your ding, handle your business. And maybe you may be just looking in the wrong place and wrong location because you're in a city, like I said, that's heavily influenced by pimp culture. And there are outliers there, but they might not be in your cipher, you know?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So go to the places where you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Would want a man to be, you know, see what happens. All right. Help a sister out. Hey, deontay big ice cup love the pod. Used to hold on because the big cat just done disappeared. All right, big cat, back to the knowledge.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Help a sister out.

[Deontay Kyle]

All right. Hey, deontay big ice cup cat love the pod.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I used to watch you when you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Were in the truck and I kept saying, man, my boyfriend be saying the same as this. Maybe that do be making sense. I'm a little misandrist. I don't be believing a gotta say, oh, so it was nice to know my boyfriend really was a real nigga. My daddy and uncles are so, you know, shout out to y' all three though. Changing my mind and may him start watching. We ain't missed the episode since May. Anyway. Just had to give y' all some love for adding so much to the compute community and the culture. I need some advice and help. Case manager in Chicago. Currently work with individuals with intellectual disabilities. I've also taught high school social science. Have a background in mental health as well. Unfortunately, my partner and I have been homeless for almost nine months. We don't have friends or family that can help. He's been unemployed since we moved back to Chicago from Atlanta, but not for lack of trying. Once we have housing, he plans to go into trade school. We're 28, he's broke, but I'm sticking beside him unless y' all say not to. Then I break up with that nigga right now.

[Big Cat]

Shit.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

God damn.

[Deontay Kyle]

Said use the megaphone if you sitting.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Next to a broke nigga right now.

[Deontay Kyle]

God damn, he gonna know you talking. Yeah, let me stop before I get in trouble. My little sister and my mom are disabled. I took care of them for 10 years, but now I'm no contact. Long story short, I grew up in an abusive household. It didn't stop, and it didn't stop into adulthood. And I feel like it's thrown me off my career path and financial goals. I'm one set back away from destitution. My depth feel like a ticking time bomb. Gots to get out of these conditions. I might need to get a trade and do social work. I'm also figuring out being. Also figuring out being autistic and having adhd. I reached burnout years ago and kept going. Now it feels debilitating. I want to change careers. I'm interested in content creation, the food service industry and community organization, urban planning. I love to be more social and be around like minded black people. If anyone in Chicago has a similar background than me can help, I'd greatly appreciate it. I have a bachelor's in sociology, doubling double minoring in African American studies and psychology. My life's work is in equity for the poor oppressed, especially black Americans. I want liberation. We need community and collective efficiency, education, grace and love. We need healthcare, universal basic income and stable living. That is my fight. I just don't know what's out there. So if anybody can help me with ideas and opportunity, I'd appreciate direction. Be that clubs, volunteering or jobs. Thank you. With love redacted.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

So I think first things first is before you can help the community, you.

[Deontay Kyle]

Have to help yourself. So you have to find a state, a space of stability, okay? There has to be some stability in your life before you can start giving your energy to others. Because things like that can breed contempt and resentment. You helping all these people and you don't feel like anybody's there to help you. You've been handed quite the cards in life. You've taken care of people all of your life and you want to continue that work into taking care of the community. You definitely have an aligned vision with us and things that we want. But I couldn't help the community or do anything for the community until I got myself stable. So I think that all of these things are great. None of these things are gonna leave your mind on your path. But you and him need to get to a space of stability. You haven't said anything bad about this, man. I mean, I was 28 and unemployed before I got my trade. Like literally, I had to move in with my grandmother. Now granted, I had gotten a car accident and I just couldn't work, which rendered me not only homeless, but jobless. And it took me a little while to bounce back from that shit. But he.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Y' all are in the same position.

[Deontay Kyle]

I was in at 28. Same year I lost all that I lost. I lost my mama and everything else. So that was a rough year for me. 28 was a very transformative year for me as well though. Because I lost a lot and I gained a lot. So I would say let's focus on creating some stability. If people do know and can help, I'm sure they will. You know, cousins always show up, and they want. They're willing to help out. But as far as anybody who may be in organizations or can help with her with outreach or just finding, you know, jobs and stability, and anybody that can help her man, with getting into trades in Chicago and surrounding areas, please help. But the most important thing before the vision is that you take care of yourself. First, you have to create some stability. You got to get some income. You got to be able to get to the point where you are reaching some of your financial goals, and then you can start donating. You can start donating not only time, but money and resources to people. But without the stability, it's always gonna feel like it's fleeting. So 2026, the focus should be stability. Focus should be stability. This is life's work, which means you got the rest of your life to do it. If you're not taking care of yourself, you're not gonna be able to take care of anybody else. And you've been spending most of your life taking care of others. So it's time for you to take care of yourself and, you know, give your man some time. You know, he had a. If he has a bright mind, you know, he may just not be adapting to the conditions of the world as well.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He need to get on top of that stat.

[Deontay Kyle]

But while he got the time and the space, he need to hop in that trade. And honestly, you know, him getting in a truck is the fastest thing. He can get in that truck and start getting money now. Yeah. So maybe that's the move. He can get in a truck. He can. He.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

He can get in a truck and.

[Deontay Kyle]

In a job within 10 weeks. This is real. If he start looking today. And you know truck drivers is always in high demand, so tell them to go for it. But I wish y' all the best. I know y' all gonna be all right, because I. I've been there before. But be patient. Sit with yourself. Create some stability in your life, and then you can help the community at large. But until you help yourself, you can't help nobody else.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Thank you, big cat.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yo. Episode 109 where we at with it, man? How you feeling?

[Big Cat]

Hey, I feel good, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Man. Bro, it's gonna be a long two weeks.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Y' all gonna see us, but y' all ain't gonna see us.

[Big Cat]

They be all right. That be all Right, son.

[Deontay Kyle]

Y' all be all right, man.

[Big Cat]

I mean, we got. We got.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We got some. We got some heat for them.

[Deontay Kyle]

We love y' all and y' all love us.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

And we got some heat.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We got some heat for. Got some heat.

[Deontay Kyle]

And if you in that discord or the. Or the patreon, you can submit your suggestions for the wrapup episode, the best of episode, that will be dropping 1231 along with the wrap up with Wayo and Adrian. So we'll be dropping two episodes that day.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

You know we're doing it. The year's coming to an end. The weather. The weather outside is frightful. Let's do this real quick, all right? Top five, top five.

[Big Cat]

What?

[Deontay Kyle]

We ain't did this in a while. All right?

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

We're gonna bring it back. We're doing that off the cuff, all right? Top five, top five, top five, top five Christmas movies. Oh, off the rip.

[Deontay Kyle]

Off the rip.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I got you. We'll work through it.

[Big Cat]

All right, Go ahead.

[Deontay Kyle]

At number five, a classic Christmas story.

[Big Cat]

Gotta have it.

[Deontay Kyle]

You gotta have it.

[Big Cat]

Gotta have it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I've watched that. I'm gonna watch that this year.

[Big Cat]

Oh, fudge. Gotta have it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

At number four, huh?

[Deontay Kyle]

Christmas movies.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

At number four, I'm going cartoon.

[Deontay Kyle]

Okay. Grinch. That style Christmas. The cartoon. The cartoon. That's a good one. At number three, I'm going bad Santa.

[Big Cat]

I like it.

[Deontay Kyle]

At number two, Friday after next, Okay, I like it. And number one, Jim Carrey's the Grinch. Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Yeah.

[Big Cat]

That's all this. That's a good side of this.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Let me hear it.

[Big Cat]

Let me hear it. That's all I got.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

That's what I was going with him.

[Big Cat]

That's all I got. Yeah. That's all I got, son.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Friday after next is one of the greatest Christmas.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yes. Ever made.

[Big Cat]

Yeah.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Merry Christmas from Pinky.

[Deontay Kyle]

Cat Williams.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Outstanding performance.

[Deontay Kyle]

Yes.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Bad Santa. Bernie Mac, Billy Bob Thornton.

[Deontay Kyle]

Great, great film.

[Big Cat]

Great movie.

[Deontay Kyle]

Great film. Great movie. I love it.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'm gonna watch it tonight. I watched it last night.

[Deontay Kyle]

Fell asleep. Oh, watching it, running it back tonight.

[Big Cat]

Gotta redeem yourself.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Gotta run it back to it.

[Big Cat]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Deontay Kyle]

You know what I'm saying? Then we got bad Santa, too.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

Okay?

[Deontay Kyle]

You know what I'm saying, guys? You know, you know. You know what it is. 657234, eggs 657-234-3447 for call ins.

[Big Cat]

He just doesn't want to leave.

[Deontay Kyle]

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[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

It's just raps, man.

[Deontay Kyle]

Turn me up, man. It's just raps.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I just want to rap. I just want to rap.

[Deontay Kyle]

I just want to rap. Yeah.

[Guest Poet or Rapper]

They say without the proper labor, faith don't stand a chance. I put my faith in faith and stand on fertile land. I planted seeds that'll indeed turn into trees before rest in peace te get printed to me unless impeded. Matter of fact, that got me thinking back when Mr. Love was tending to his garden, schooling me to annuity before he grabbed his clubs to go golfing. And it's no coincidence that doe still had the Caddy back when woods were still the best. Don't let me roll off course here, Georgie. Pops was dropping jams while I was lighting cigs. But you know, I too was listening with mo Biz, you see, that's the best that I can do. Wisdom is the application of knowledge. I was picking up what he was putting down, just wasn't applying it. I ain't denying it. Nah, maybe I was too busy trying to find the balance between religion and science. Trying to get to the bottom of everything while being the highest. Like a pilot's roots. Am I right, brother? Cause I was simultaneously relaying it through reason and rhyming that I sought for us dissecting systems responsible for our imprisonment. The visionary with astigmatism and scarred courtiers. If love is blind, then what am I? You can't fight faith.

[Deontay Kyle]

That's why.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

I'm so glad.

[Deontay Kyle]

So listen, you ever realize there was a doctor's appointment you meant to make like a year ago, maybe that cleaning you rescheduled three times or the annual checkup you swear you're going to get to eventually life be lifein', but your health still matters.

[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

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[Deontay Kyle]

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[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

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[Deontay Kyle]

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[Co-host or Deontay's Close Friend]

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[Deontay Kyle]

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