Grits and Eggs Podcast – Episode 112: “Starve The Parasites”

Host: Deante’ Kyle
Guests/Co-hosts: Big Ice Cube Cat, Big Cat
Date: January 13, 2026

Episode Overview

In this raw and unfiltered episode, Deante’ Kyle and his co-hosts return from hiatus for a fiery 2026 kickoff. They weave deep commentary on American politics, race, and pop culture with biting humor and personal wisdom. The hosts deconstruct issues ranging from media manipulation, the myth of meritocracy, and state violence against Black people, to the parasitic influence of culture vultures and the exploitation of labor by corporate giants. The guiding message—starve the parasites—serves both as a call for cultural self-preservation and a rejection of giving attention or resources to those who exploit Black culture or labor. Listener questions on relationships, family drama, and community organizing bring the conversation back to real-life struggles and actionable advice.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Welcome Back: Hiatus Ends, New Energy for 2026

• [01:20] The crew opens with excitement at returning after a break, reflecting on the healing power of rest and the anticipation for what 2026 holds.
• Tour announcements: Shows in Minneapolis and across the Southeast coming soon.
• Housekeeping: New website, call-in lines for advice, and New Music Monday relaunches.

2. America in 2026: Illusions of Democracy & Ongoing Oppression

• [04:33–08:00] The hosts dig into the political climate, arguing that the U.S. is not truly a democracy or meritocracy, but rather a “fascist oligarchy.”
  • Quote:

    "America is not a democracy. America is not a meritocracy."
    — Deante’ Kyle [07:30]

  • Quote:

    “It's a third world country with a Gucci belt.”
    — Deante’ Kyle [08:09]

• They challenge the media narratives about foreign nations and critique America's tendency to mask exploitation and inequality under the guise of democracy.
• The rollback of DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) is discussed as an attack on efforts at meritocracy, serving the interest of the already powerful.

3. Race, Protest Fatigue, & The Cycle of State Violence

• [10:02–18:40] The conversation pivots to the recurrent trauma Black Americans experience through state violence—and America's selective outrage.
  • Quote:

    “When black people start minding their business, when black people say ‘that’s not my fight,’ a lot of people get offended by that… but when it’s black people's fight, nobody else wants to get involved.”
    — Deante’ Kyle [10:30]

  • They reference the killing of Aaron Good and Keith Porter, contrasting muted or delayed outrage with the global reckoning after George Floyd.
  • The hypocrisy of solidarity: Black people are often expected to fight for everyone, but receive little support when victimized.
  • Memorable Moment:
    The “Say Her Name” movement is recounted to show how resistance originated from Black women’s experiences and pain was continually marginalized by wider society.

4. Media Manipulation & Public Perception

• Discussion on the role of media in shaping perceptions about crime, protest, and who is worthy of sympathy.
  • Quote:

    “They play cops non stop during the 90s and it makes every black person look like a criminal.”
    — Big Ice Cube Cat [19:08]

  • Deante’ calls out the NRA and Second Amendment advocates for their selective activism.

5. White Fear, Meritocracy, and Reproductive Politics

• [29:45–37:27]
  • Examination of white male fear of becoming a minority and meritocracy as a threat to inherited privilege.
  • The debate references Elon Musk’s commentary on “white solidarity.”
  • The hosts contend that restricting women’s rights and rolling back DEI isn’t about merit or safety, but preserving a crumbling white male hegemony.

6. Cultural Parasitism & Black Gatekeeping

• [40:10–57:45]
  • Skewering so-called “culture vultures” (e.g., Aiden Ross, Vlad TV, Adam22) for profiting off Black culture while degrading it.
  • Quote:

    “The practice of whiteness is parasitic.”
    — Deante’ Kyle [40:37]

  • Hosts express frustration that Black creators often allow outsiders unchecked access, enabling them to become authorities in spaces they didn’t build.
  • The solution: “Starve the parasites” by disengaging, refusing support, and demanding accountability from within.
  • Quote:

    “A white person cannot invalidate or validate anything in our spaces…Who gives a fuck what Aiden Ross thinks?”
    — Deante’ Kyle [40:37]

  • Action item: Block and withdraw support from platforms and pages that promote content degrading to Black culture.

7. Corporate Exploitation, Gig Work, and Labor Parallels

• [58:19–67:48]
  • Analysis of DoorDash’s business model based on a leaked employee Reddit post: dehumanization (“human assets”), “desperation scores,” and tips stolen from drivers.
  • The similarity between gig work, trucking, and traditional labor exploitation is highlighted.
  • Quote:

    “The way this system will devalue the work that you’re doing while you’re making them billions.”
    — Deante’ Kyle [59:52]

  • Call to action: Whenever possible, avoid convenience apps that exploit workers, and as a collective, practice intentional consumption (“starve the parasites”).
  • The predatory design of digital platforms (YouTube ads, in-app manipulations) is dissected, urging listeners to be conscious of what they consume and support.

8. Listener Q&A: Real-Life Struggles and Street Wisdom (Advice Segment)

• [71:05–102:46]
  • Three detailed listener advice emails/voicemails:
    1. Breaking the Cycle of Situationships [78:06–86:22]:
       A young woman struggles with forming real connections amidst a history of sexual relationships with little emotional depth.
       • Advice: Prioritize boundaries, exercise sexual discipline, and take time for self-reflection.
       • Quote:

         “You have to stop leading with your sexual desire.”
         — Deante’ Kyle [80:52]

       • Quote:

         “Six doesn’t equate love, you know what I mean? So I think you think having sex with a man is going to keep him and that’s not the case.”
         — Big Cat [84:18]

    2. Navigating Family and Housing Amidst Health Struggles [86:30–94:36]:
       Listener coping with illness, a cheating father, and family fragility.
       • Advice: Don’t jeopardize housing or health for principle; wait to confront until circumstances improve; focus on stability for now.
       • Quote:

         “The pros don’t outweigh the cons for confronting him, right?”
         — Deante’ Kyle [89:53]

    3. Community Building & Doing the Work [94:40–102:46]:
       Advice for a young trucker seeking to uplift Black communities.
       • Advice: Start by volunteering locally, work on actionable steps, improve communication skills (including writing!), and learn from existing grassroots organizers.
       • Quote:

         “Changing the narrative starts with changing you.”
         — Big Ice Cube Cat [99:19]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On American Myths:

  “America is like… a third world country with a Gucci belt.”
  — Deante’ Kyle [08:09]

• On State Violence:

  “When you ignore a tragedy because the victim doesn’t look like you, you’re compliant to state violence.”
  — Deante’ Kyle [15:44]

• On Labor and Gig Work:

  “Human asset is dehumanizing. But without the labor of the human asset, there is no business.”
  — Big Ice Cube Cat [59:55]

• On Cultural Gatekeeping:

  “You can’t call the cops when you feel like we don’t belong… and then tell your kids to seek refuge with us when they get lost.”
  — Big Ice Cube Cat [37:27]

Segment Timestamps

• [01:20] – Hiatus ends, show relaunch, touring news
• [04:33] – “America is not a democracy” rant
• [10:02] – On Black protest fatigue, George Floyd, and state violence hypocrisy
• [18:40] – Selective outrage and protest critique
• [29:45] – White fear, reproductive rights, and “meritocracy” dissected
• [40:10] – Culture vulture/cultural parasitism: Aiden Ross and co.
• [58:19] – DoorDash exposes “human assets,” gig work critiques
• [69:55] – Intentional digital consumption, algorithm conscious engagement
• [71:05] – Listener advice: community events shout-out, relationships, and life struggles
• [78:06] – Advice: situationships and boundaries
• [86:30] – Advice: family drama, health, and housing
• [94:40] – Advice: trucking, community organizing, grammar, and taking action
• [102:46] – Wrap up, Patreon pitch, guest show teasers

Closing Thoughts

Deante’ Kyle and crew call for intentionality—in protest, consumption, digital engagement, and community effort.
Their message: Starve the parasites. That means refusing to feed systems (and people) that exploit Black pain, creativity, or labor, and refusing to let rage or convenience dictate where your energy and dollars go.
With unapologetic clarity, they ask listeners to be proactive, mindful, and fiercely protective of culture, community, and self.

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