Grits and Eggs Podcast – Episode 134: "Bread and Butter Sandwiches"

Host: Deante’ Kyle
Co-Host: Big Ice Cupcat
Date: March 31, 2026

Episode Theme & Overview

This raw and unfiltered episode finds Deante’ Kyle and Big Ice Cupcat riffing on pop culture, white supremacy, community building, economic struggles, and the nuances of Black self-love. The episode’s title and core metaphor—"bread and butter sandwiches"—rails against political elites’ tone-deaf solutions for the working class, diving deep into issues of class, race, hair, media, and community support. The pair also respond to listener questions about faith, communal identity, and practical help in a housing crisis.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Community Updates & Tour Reflections

Starts at [02:23]

• The guys begin by reflecting on the success of the sold-out live tour, emphasizing the electric energy and unique experience of the live shows.
• They celebrate how their podcast community ("cousins") support one another, sharing a story of helping a listener in New Orleans get a car to attend trade school:

“One of the cousins said they had a car that’s in great condition that they don’t use. I’m gonna pay for the shipping. …We’ll have one of our big cousins, one of our OG cousins … guide them through how to get it registered. …We’ll pay for your first month of insurance.” – Deante’ ([05:01])

• The podcast’s Patreon and merch updates get plugged, pointing out early access and exclusive items for paid community members.

2. On the Power (and Necessity) of Black Community

Starts at [10:49]

• Deante’ and Ice revisit the power of showing up as family at live shows, especially for solo attendees—“The cousin’s gonna look out for you, man. That shit is family over there.” – Deante’ ([10:49])
• They urge Black listeners to embrace communal spaces and avoid isolation, enhancing belonging and safety.

3. Pop Culture: Drewski, Blackface, and White Fragility

Starts at [10:57]

• The pair break down comedian Drewski’s viral, boundary-pushing sketches, crediting him as an “anthropologist” of human behavior.
• A heated critique follows of right-wing commentator Erika Kirk’s outrage over race-targeted humor, paralleling it with historical and ongoing white use of blackface:

“In our community, we like to say ‘a hit dog holler’. …White entertainers had blackened their faces and poked fun at African American song, dance, and speech on stage since the 1840s.” – Deante’ ([13:10])

• Deante’ cites from The Color Cartoon by Christopher P. Lehman, connecting minstrel caricatures (like Bugs Bunny) and systemic racism in entertainment.

4. Trump’s Bread-and-Butter Sandwich Advice: Mockery of Class Struggle

Starts at [21:02]

• They react to a real Trump social media post suggesting poor people “eat bread and butter sandwiches” for affordability. Deante’ links this to fascist, elitist disregard for real economic suffering:

“This is the equivalent of Marie Antoinette let them eat cake... This is how you know somebody just told him this.” – Deante’ ([22:02])

• Deante’ turns the joke back:

“How about if n****s eat you?... That’s what it’s gonna come down to.” ([22:02])

• They mock the idea that class struggle can be divorced from America’s racial history.

5. Race vs. Class: Why White Leftists Can't Leap Over Race

Starts at [25:00]

• Critique of white leftists who want to focus exclusively on class instead of the root racism embedded in the U.S. system.

“The reason why white people love the class issue is because it leaps right over the race issue. And if we start talking about the race issue, they’re gonna be held accountable.” – Deante’ ([26:30])

• Emphatic rejection of BIPOC/white “unity” optics that deny deep historical divides:

“I’m not locking arms with no fucking bigot.” ([28:00])

6. Historical Accountability and White Complicity

Starts at [35:17]

• The hosts remind listeners that complicity in racist structures must be reckoned with:

“If you was complicit, you must be held accountable. …I can’t just say, I just drove the car. Yeah, he murdered somebody. ...We got questions. You can’t say, ‘man, we could have had it all good.’” – Deante’ ([35:52])

• With humor and exasperation, Deante’ describes Portland and other “progressive” white cities as “rich white hippies that are low key Republicans … so they can be racist in peace.” ([36:52])

7. Hair, Beauty, & Black Self-Love

Starts at [40:00], deep dive from [56:00]

• Discusses the recurrent debate over Black women’s natural hair, pushing back on excuses rooted in white-centric beauty standards:

“The same amount of care and time that you spend on taking care of a wig is the same amount of care and time you could spend taking care of the hair that grows out your head. …Not liking your natural hair is anti-Black.” – Deante’ ([53:55], [54:10])

• The revolution, they say, is loving yourself radically and visibly:

“That is a revolution. Just that part right there. Just loving your hair, loving your nose, loving your lips, loving your hips, loving the way you was built.” – Deante’ ([60:00])

• They push for more authenticity, less assimilation:

“You don’t need the world to appreciate you. We do.” – Deante’ ([54:10])

8. Listener Letters: Faith, Housing, and Life Decisions

Begins at [65:16], major responses at [67:06], [74:00], [85:09]

Spirituality & Black Divinity

• Listener debates with a Christian about whether humans (specifically Black people) can be “God.”
• Deante’ distinguishes between embracing divine qualities versus literally being God:

“I think the, the true God is that you unlock God’s power for real when you love yourself truly and radically and you love the people around you.” ([67:06])

• Big Ice Cupcat nods to 5%er ideology: “The black man is God. …You are the foundation of your universe, like the sun is the foundation of the solar system” ([69:00])
• Both agree: true God-talk is for when Black folks are securely building institutions and community.

Housing, Economic Hardship, and Advice

• A listener with a doctorate shares her struggles with housing insecurity post-eviction, debating whether to stay in Macon, GA, or move to Maryland ([85:09]).
• Deante’ points her to Dr. Taylor Cummings’ resources for Black scholars and suggests the move to Maryland for more opportunity and a supportive Black professional network.

“If you are a cousin and you live in the DMV or if you are a listener and you have some resources for private ownership… please reach out.” ([88:49])

9. Closing Reflections: The Revolution is (Self) Love

• The episode closes with an affirmation:

“That’s why the revolution is love. Because the second you start loving yourself… this shit over with. They could pack it up.” – Deante’ ([60:50])

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “[Drewski] is an anthropologist, bruh. He just understands human behavior. … When he’s recreating a certain archetype of a person, he’s got that bitch dialed in.” – Deante’ ([10:57])
• “White people… created an entire genre of American entertainment (blackface). This may be white people’s only original idea, and it’s noted in this book.” – Deante’ ([13:30])
• “This is the equivalent of Marie Antoinette—let them eat cake.” – Deante’ ([22:02])
• “I’m not locking arms with no fucking bigot… Me and that [Confederate] n**** never gonna be in the same room. Why? So we could defeat the elites and then he can enslave me?” – Deante’ ([27:50])
• “Not liking your natural hair is anti-Black… How we show up, who we are, our identity is constantly under attack to the point where we start making excuses.” – Deante’ ([54:10])
• “When you love yourself as you are… that is a revolution.” – Deante’ ([60:00])

Important Timestamps

• [05:01] – Story about helping a cousin get a car
• [10:49] – Encouragement to attend live shows solo; importance of community
• [13:10] – The history of blackface and white minstrelsy, reading from The Color Cartoon
• [22:02] – Trump’s “bread and butter sandwiches” advice, class mockery
• [26:30] – Critique of white leftists and the problem of skipping the race conversation
• [35:52] – Rant about white complicity, accountability
• [53:55] – Hair debates, Black self-love, and the revolution of self-acceptance
• [65:16] – Advice segment: Theology, self-divinity, and practical spiritual insight
• [85:09] – Listener letter about housing/homelessness, moving advice, resource-sharing

Summary Structure

• Tour/community updates
• Pop culture (Drewski, blackface)
• Trump, class/race dynamics
• Historical accountability
• Hair, beauty, self-love
• Listener questions — faith, practical help
• Affirmations: love as Black resistance

Final Affirmation

The episode’s core message:
Radically loving and accepting yourself, your community, and your authentic culture is itself revolutionary in the face of a society built to induce self-hate. As Deante’ says:

“Say nothing. We need to talk about. Nigga, this is an act. Act on it. Because revolution is what? Love.” – ([60:50])

Calls to Action

• Get involved in the Patreon for bonus content and live interactions
• Join, support, and build Black community institutions
• Embrace natural beauty standards, reject assimilation
• If you can provide housing resources, especially in the DMV area, get in touch

Contact and Submissions:

• Advice: adviceyontecy.com
• Booking/merch/support: deantekyle.com
• Voicemail: 657-234-3447
• Patreon: Grits and Eggs Podcast

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