
Hosted by Sam Webster Harris | Growth Mindset Psychology · EN

Most self-improvement assumes the problem lives inside you. But what if you've been looking in the wrong place? There's something worth sitting with in the idea that your physical surroundings are already making decisions about how you think — before you've consciously made any. The shape of a room. Whether your body is moving or still. How many open tabs are silently competing for your attention. These aren't peripheral details. They're the architecture of your mental life. This episode revisits three environmental psychology findings that quietly reframe what it actually means to improve yourself — not as a project of relentless internal effort, but as something closer to intelligent design. You are, in a real sense, the product of your environment. The question is whether you're designing it or just inheriting it. The Cathedral Effect — how space shapes cognition before thought begins The Movement Effect — motion as a psychological state, not just a physical one Intentional Laptopping — digital minimalism as a form of cognitive self-respect Treating yourself like someone whose environment matters might be the most honest act of self-improvement you haven't tried yet. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction & Welcome03:18 Cathedral Effect07:18 The Movement Effect11:11 Intentional Laptopping15:36 Bonus Laptop Tips17:55 Summary & Closing Topics discussed How physical environment shapes thinking and behaviour The cathedral effect and cognitive performance Using movement to solve problems and reduce anxiety Walking meetings and productivity psychology Building focus through intentional digital habits Why willpower alone isn't enough for behaviour change Designing your environment for creativity or concentration The psychology of getting unstuck ADHD, neurodiversity, and environmental self-awareness Simple habits the most clear-headed people actually use Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Free will might be smaller than you hoped, but more useful than you imagined. This conversation with Stephen Porges is about the quiet shift in perspective he learnt from 50 years studying the nervous system. We are taught to believe that emotional strength means overriding fear, suppressing anger, and forcing calm. But a different story is available. One where stress is not weakness, pain is not always just pain, and emotions are not commands but signals shaped by physiology, memory, and perceived safety. In that story, awareness becomes agency. The moment you notice your internal state without instantly obeying it, a door opens. Not a dramatic door. A small one. But small doors change lives. This episode explores the psychology of emotional regulation, the biology of threat, and the possibility that resilience is less about control and more about creating the conditions where wiser choices can emerge. See reactions as signals from a system. Create safety before expecting transformation. Practice awareness to widen your range of choice. SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction03:38 Free Will and Polyvagal Theory06:33 Levels of the Nervous System08:09 Pain Management and Emotion11:18 Strategies for Self-Regulation14:53 Avoiding Burnout in Healthcare18:57 Conclusion and Final Remarks Topics discussed How Polyvagal Theory redefines the concept of free will through our physiological responses to stress Applying Viktor Frankl's "space between stimulus and response" to build emotional intelligence and resilience Understanding neuroception and how the nervous system detects environmental threats before the conscious mind The psychology of chronic pain and why calming the sympathetic nervous system is crucial for pain management Why negative emotions are actually biological threat responses rather than fixed personality traits The connection between unresolved trauma, emotional suppression, and psychosomatic symptoms like IBS and migraines Actionable self-regulation strategies to pause, manage high-stress situations, and safely process anger How to prevent burnout in healthcare and leadership roles by mastering physiological co-regulation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The better you get at seeing opportunity, the worse you get at finishing anything. It turns out the same brain wiring that makes curious, growth-oriented people so interesting to talk to also makes them spectacularly bad at committing to one thing. In this episode, we explore the surprisingly rich psychology of focus — from what Taylor Swift's 16 dress changes per concert reveal about sequencing your ambitions, to a landmark study showing that how others perceive your potential literally changes what you become. It's equal parts neuroscience, life philosophy, and one man's genuine attempt to understand what wearing a dress taught him about staying focused. Why your potential is only as useful as your ability to narrow it The science behind why commitment feels like loss — and how to reframe it How to build a life with many chapters without living them all at once Funny, counterintuitive, and oddly practical — this episode might be the permission slip you didn't know you needed. SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction: Infinite Choices, Infinite Decisions02:33 Welcome and the Cross-Pollination of Ideas03:35 What Wearing a Dress Taught Me About Focus06:25 The Psychology of Appearance and Identity09:21 You Can Only Wear One Dress at a Time11:18 Sam's Infinite List of Things He Wants to Do14:41 Why Focus Is the Only Thing That Actually Works17:44 Mental Masturbation and Living at the Destination20:05 Taylor Swift, Career Changes, and Doing Things Sequentially24:40 You Can Do Anything — Just Not All at Once27:15 How I Finally Chose One Thing for Seven Years30:31 Conclusion and Sign-Off Topics Discussed Focus and productivity Decision-making psychology Growth mindset and ambition The paradox of choice Overcoming indecision and overwhelm How to commit to one thing Dealing with too many ideas ADHD and focus The multitasking myth Deep work and mental clarity Identity and self-expression The Pygmalion effect Career changes and reinvention Sequencing goals and priorities Personal development and self-improvement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There's a story we tell ourselves about interesting people. That they were born that way. That charisma is a trait, not a choice. That fitting in is safe and standing out is risky. None of it is true. Interesting isn't a personality type. It's a decision about how far you're willing to go — into a topic, into yourself, into the slightly terrifying territory of being exactly who you are in a room full of people pretending to be someone else. The person in the pink dress at the tech conference isn't braver than you. They just stopped asking for permission. And the researcher who spent a year going deeper than anyone else on a single subject isn't smarter. They just refused to stay on the surface. Depth compounds — a little more effort creates disproportionately more value Authenticity isn't vulnerability, it's strategy The goal isn't to stand out everywhere — it's to know where it matters You already have a monopoly on being you. The question is whether you're using it. NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Sam dives into what really made us human - how we transformed from a bunch of hairy apes into the mostly civilised and occasionally organised, masters of the world. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Fit In When You Were Born to Stand Out?01:00 How to Create More Interesting Interests02:31 10x Depth Is 100x More Interesting03:38 Examples of Geeking Out That Are Fascinating09:10 Wearing a Dress at WebSummit14:31 Don't Overprepare for Everything15:14 Stand Out vs Chill Out Topics discussed How to be more interesting Authenticity and self-expression Overcoming fear of judgment Psychology of magnetic personalities Building confidence Standing out without performing Deep work and expertise The 80/20 rule of energy management Embracing your unique personality Growth mindset psychology Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How the science of the vagus nerve explains anxiety, ambition, burnout, and the art of becoming who you actually are. Humans, might be the most sophisticated organism on Earth (capable of writing symphonies, landing on the moon, and inventing artisanal sourdough). Yet at our core, we are running threat-detection software that predates the dinosaurs. Stephen Porges, the scientist who mapped the vagus nerve's extraordinary influence on human behaviour, joins us to explain why this ancient wiring is quietly making most of your big life decisions for you. The good news is that evolution, for once, gave us a rather elegant solution. Safety — genuine, physiological safety — unlocks curiosity, creativity, and the particular satisfaction of becoming who you actually are. The even better news is it's achievable without a retreat, a cold plunge, or a subscription. What you'll take away: Why your gut reactions are data, not drama How the environments we build either cage or liberate our best thinking Why the most calming people aren't trying to be calm Your nervous system has been waiting for this conversation. SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Welcome02:12 Polyvagal Theory Basics05:49 Psychology as a Rubik's Cube06:43 How Threat Changes Who We Are07:29 Creating Safe Environments for Learning08:40 Why Stephen Porges Developed Polyvagal Theory11:03 Intuition vs Neural Reflex12:29 The Power of Voice and Intonation13:00 How Stephen Became So Calming — And the Opera Singer Story15:48 Social Pressure and the Problem with Faking It18:16 The Physiology of Safety vs Stress20:24 When Threat Becomes a Habit20:44 Academic Life and the Trap of Evaluation Culture23:52 Stephen's Personal Turning Point at 5030:08 Curiosity, Playfulness and the Nature of Fun32:00 The Dog on a Leash — Safety and Creativity34:00 Time as a River — Staying Present or Getting Left Behind35:30 Biden, Aging, and the Limits of Willpower37:00 Growth Mindset, Polyvagal Theory and What They Share38:00 Talent, Grades and the Problem with How We Measure People39:00 The Clarinet Story — Skills That Don't Match Your Curiosity41:00 What Happens When You Want to Do Everything41:43 The Zen of Loading the Dishwasher42:18 How Polyvagal Theory Was Born Across Disciplines43:16 Polyvagal Music — Healing Through Sound45:13 Testing Polyvagal Music on 1500 People45:38 Co-Regulation and Why the Body Needs Safety to Heal46:08 Floating on the Ocean — What Real Physiological Rest Feels Like46:54 Rocking, Rhythm and Why Babies Know Best48:44 The History of Psychology and Standing on Giants50:12 Libraries, Google Scholar and How to Actually Learn51:53 Goodbyes and What Comes Next Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A Deep Dive into the Vagus Nerve, Neuroception, and Overcoming Burnout Ever walked into a room and instantly felt like something was completely off? That is not your intuition being magical; that is your nervous system running the show. We spend all day trying to "think" our way out of stress, but it rarely works. Your body has a built-in threat radar called neuroception that operates entirely below your conscious awareness. When it misfires, you get the illusion of panic. You feel like you're fighting a sabertooth tiger when you're just staring at an unread email. Modern psychology calls this Polyvagal Theory. It explains why we constantly flip between the cool, collected Bruce Banner and the raging Hulk. The trick isn't fighting the Hulk. It's learning how to speak the biological language of your vagus nerve. Once you understand the mechanics of your own survival instincts, everything changes. You stop fighting your mind and start regulating your body. Use the four-four box breathing method to instantly hack your vagal tone. Restructure your morning tech habits to turn off your body's unconscious threat radar. Harness social co-regulation to lower your cortisol simply by being around safe people. Hit play to stop out-thinking your anxiety and start mastering your nervous system today. SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 A Sudden Panic on the Street01:12 Introduction to the Autonomic Nervous System02:39 The Growth Mindset Connection03:26 Polyvagal Theory Explained04:32 Understanding the Vagus Nerve06:03 Sympathetic vs. Parasympathetic Systems09:55 The Dorsal Vagal State15:07 Neuroception: Your Body's Spidey Sense19:57 Ad Break20:53 Breathing Techniques for Calmness24:59 Managing Stress with Lifestyle Changes27:55 The Importance of Vagal Tone29:02 Exercise and Stress Management30:57 The Benefits of Physical Strength31:08 The Impact of Physical Strength on Daily Life32:21 The Neuroscience Behind Exercise and Stress Reduction32:34 Understanding Trauma and Its Effects on Neuroception34:07 The Importance of Attachment in Early Development35:09 Healing from Past Trauma37:05 The Role of Pets in Co-Regulation38:23 The Science of Human Connection41:40 Ad Break44:05 Polyvagal Theory in Education46:57 Strengthening Relationships Through Polyvagal Theory52:10 Personal Growth and Overcoming Challenges54:21 Practical Tips for a Balanced Life56:15 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes Topics Discussed Polyvagal Theory and the biology of psychological safety The Autonomic Nervous System: Sympathetic vs. Parasympathetic states Understanding the Dorsal Vagal "freeze" or shutdown response Neuroception: How your body detects threats before your conscious mind The connection between a Growth Mindset and the nervous system 4-4 Box Breathing and practical ways to increase Vagal Tone How chronic stress and burnout physically alter the body Healing from past trauma and insecure attachment styles Co-regulation: How humans (and pets) biologically sync their stress levels Applying nervous system mastery to workplace anxiety and education Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We are all waiting for permission that is never going to come. We cling to the illusion of a safe life, pretending that incremental improvements are the same thing as actual growth. Talia Lazarus didn’t plan on changing her life; the universe intervened in the form of a devastating bus accident. In the agonizing space of her recovery, she confronted a profound truth: she was living a script written by someone else. So, she burned it down. This episode is about the radical shift from accepting what is, to choosing what could be. It explores the "doorstep mile"—the immense, invisible friction of taking the first step toward true purpose. You don't need a catastrophe to change your posture in the world. You just need to stop looking in the rear-view mirror and realize that your constraints are entirely invented. How to identify the difference between real growth and the illusion of progress. The art of embracing the "doorstep mile" to finally ship your true work. Why surrendering your past is the only way to build a meaningful future. Listen to this conversation and discover how to stop waiting, step over the threshold, and choose a great life today. SPONSORS 🧘 Cheers Health Take Cheers after your last drink and feel 50% better, or your money back 20% off entire order CheersHealth.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Beginning02:41 Introduction to Growth Mindset05:30 Talia's Life-Changing Accident10:09 Trauma Impact on Attachment Style11:27 The Aftermath and Rock Bottom12:23 Small Changes That Add Up13:10 Quitting Her Job to Follow Her Passion16:31 Second Surgery19:09 When Survival Instinct Doesn't Work20:25 Most People Don't Meet Their Potential21:25 Perspective-Shifting Experiences24:15 Dream Experiences vs. Near-Death Experiences26:44 The Doorstep Mile27:40 Starting the I Got Back Up Podcast29:53 The Rear-View Mirror Mentality33:03 Past Behaviours vs Current Self33:48 You Are Never Alone35:44 Everyone Should Nearly Die Once35:54 Best Ways to Die and Resilience Training36:10 Small Acts of Kindness38:12 Spreading More Positivity to Receive It40:48 You Get What You Give41:46 Send Off Topics Covered: Growth mindset vs. fixed mindset Near-death experiences (NDEs) and post-traumatic growth The psychology of risk and radical career pivots Overcoming the "doorstep mile" and the friction of starting over Trauma recovery, resilience, and human survival instincts How traumatic events disrupt attachment styles and cognitive patterns The "rear-view mirror mentality" and letting go of the past Pushing past self-limiting beliefs and perceived physical limits The psychological impact of small acts of kindness and finding your community Building a podcast and the power of storytelling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Human beings have an issue. We want adventure, growth, and transformation, provided they arrive gently, avoid inconvenience, and never make us look foolish. This episode is about that charming contradiction. We spend years building small fortresses of competence, then wonder why life begins to feel boring. The trouble is that courage rarely appears before action; it usually turns up afterwards, slightly out of breath, claiming it was there all along. So we explore three ways to make peace with failure and even, in a highly civilised way, become rather fond of it. There’s a bit of psychology, a bit of neuroscience, and a useful reminder that nearly everyone you admire got good by being bad at things for quite a while. Failure, properly understood, is not a catastrophe. It is more like compost: unpleasant in the wrong light, but extremely useful if you’re trying to grow something interesting. Redefine failure as information, not identity. Make small, repeated discomfort a weekly practice. Stop mistaking safety for a meaningful life. Listen in and give your fears the deeply disappointing experience of being ignored. SPONSORS 🧘 Cheers Health Take Cheers after your last drink and feel 50% better, or your money back 20% off entire order CheersHealth.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 The Importance of Failure00:57 Growth Mindset Podcast Introduction01:54 Eye-Opening Statistics on Failure02:13 Increasing Your Failure Rate for Success02:50 Job Interviews and Startups05:05 Investing and High Failure Rates06:04 Deliberate Practice and Personal Growth06:21 Learning Faster Through Failure07:09 Pushing Comfort Zones in Skiing09:30 Deliberate Practice Explained10:25 Books on Deliberate Practice10:51 Enjoying the Ride: Embracing Failure16:22 Conclusion: Living an Interesting Life Topics Covered Psychology of failure and success How to expand your comfort zone Deliberate practice and skill acquisition Overcoming fear of failure and rejection The Federer principle and elite performance Growth mindset vs fixed mindset Building confidence through discomfort Neuroscience of learning and adaptability Mental models for personal growth Redefining success and risk taking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The psychology of healthy relationships: hidden rules behind better marriages, better teams, and better choices. In this episode, I sit down with legendary investor Matt Higgins to dissect the psychology of lasting relationships. It turns out that a staggering number of startups and marriages implode for the exact same reason: we mistake thrilling friction for long-term compatibility. We are remarkably bad at predicting who will actually help us bail water when the ship sinks. Rather than seeking our exact opposites to fill our gaps, evidence suggests we should hunt for a deeply unsexy but highly effective alternative: overlapping values. From the unexpected wisdom of arranged marriages to the quiet triumph of marrying your best friend, this is a delightfully sideways look at forming our most vital alliances. Why seeking your exact opposite is a fantastic recipe for mutual resentment The fascinating psychology behind why the fish always rots from the head in bad leadership How to utilize genuine self-awareness to build cheerfully boring, drama-free partnerships Listen in to discover the surprisingly positive science of selecting people who won't drive you mad. SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Startups and Marriages Fail02:50 Arranged Marriages in Bangladesh and burning the boats06:43 Identical vs Shared Values10:33 How do you know someone is the one?12:24 Attachment Styles and Self-Awareness17:57 How do you mentor a CEO to become more self-aware?19:14 Wrap up Topics Covered Psychology of relationships and dating Choosing the right startup co-founder The difference between chemistry and compatibility Why startups fail from founder conflict Attachment styles in business and love Developing self-awareness and vulnerability as a leader The importance of shared values in marriage How to find a life partner Overcoming ego and improving emotional intelligence Matt Higgins business and investing advice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A psychological guide to choosing priorities, resisting urgency, and spending time well. Time is the universe’s most brilliant and inescapable invention, relentlessly marching forward whether you are building an empire or merely digesting a rather cheesy burrito. Yet, somehow, we’ve convinced ourselves we can beat it. The universe is terribly indifferent to your productivity. Even Tutankhamun isn't enjoying his enduring fame, mostly on account of being dead for millennia. When we look at positive psychology, the secret to existence isn’t achieving eternal glory, but simply making delightful little patterns in the great river of time while we're here to enjoy them. Today's topics: Why we chase the wrong goals, burn our attention, and forget what makes life feel meaningful How to stop drifting through life and focus on what actually deserves your time A better way to think about time, fulfilment, and the patterns you want your life to create SPONSORS 🌳 Acorns Smart way to grow your money $5 welcome bonus Acorns.com/PSYCHOLOGY NEW SHOW - How to Change the World: The History and Future of Innovation Learn about the evolving story of the human species and our ideas told in chronological order. The podcast is full of fun facts, surprising stories and philosophical insights. Found on all major podcast players: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/1Fj3eFjEoAEKF5lWQxPJyT Apple - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-change-the-world-the-history-of-innovation/id1815282649 YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HowToChangeTheWorldPodcast --- UPGRADE to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Time and Existence00:53 Welcome to the Growth Mindset Psychology Podcast01:06 Exploring the Philosophy of Time01:38 Time and Productivity02:49 The Concept of Winning and Time05:41 Patterns in the River of Time06:51 Historical Patterns: Julius Caesar08:01 Patterns in Music and Art09:53 Fighting Entropy with Patterns12:22 The Temporary Nature of Existence13:11 Creating Patterns for Others vs. Self14:11 The Concept of Legacy16:05 Optimizing for the Experiencing Self19:00 Final Thoughts and Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices