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To remember it's okay to set healthy boundaries, especially during the holidays. I know sometimes people are curious to know what's going on in your life, what have you been up to? Or they are very nosy and want to know everything about your relationship or about your career, your business. And sometimes you don't want to share that with family members or even with like friends because you could be unsure or uncertain about the changes that's happening in your life and and around the holidays. That's typically where everyone gathers and come together and catch up and they want to know how's your year been. But if you haven't been having the best of the best year, you may be feeling some type of anxiety actually showing up around the holidays, around family, and expressing how you truly feel or what's truly going in your life. So if this sounds like something that you've been dealing with leading up to the holidays, then this is for you. I'm going to share some tips that you can do to calm your nervous system and understand that you don't owe anyone any explanation of where you're at in your current season. This is your time to focus on the positive. This is your time to focus on what is going perfectly right in your life and you don't have to explain to anyone where you are headed to going into the new Year. This is the time for you to shift your attention and your energy on you and focus on what brings you happiness and joy in this season. So how do you set healthy boundaries during the holidays and avoid those uncomfortable questions? You learn to say less or redirect the conversation back onto them. So, for example, if someone is curious like, oh, did you get that job? Or how's that job going that you know you're working at? And if you honestly just haven't been feeling like the current job you have is where you see yourself at long term, but it's just a means to pay bills, whatever, then you don't have to give them your reason of why you're not happy at your job. It's okay to say, you know what, it's currently supporting me and I am very grateful for, for the resources that I have in my life and this job is bringing in abundance of resources and leave it at that. You don't really have to go into details of how much you don't like your job, because when you are focusing on the negative and when you are explaining or complaining about things that you're not happy with in your life, you're giving it life, you're giving it energy. And that transmute into something that you necessarily don't want to really focus on because it doesn't serve your higher self. So learn how to pivot and shift your energy to things that is serving you around the holidays. And if you don't have anything to come up with or say, it's okay to omit yourself from those conversations. It's okay to redirect the attention and energy back on to the person who's asking you questions. Not everyone is truly interested in your career, your relationships, or, you know, whatever you got going on. Sometimes people are just looking for small talk and that's okay. But learn how to shift the conversation to something much more lighter and positive. That way you don't have to rehash anything that's going currently in your life. In the season that you're not really happy and fulfilled in life is a journey. We are not going to stay in the same place that we were the previous year, the previous day or whatever. So sometimes it looks like we haven't grown, but in reality you have. Especially been listening to House of a Goddess podcast. But it takes time to really see those results in your life. So just keep your mind and your heart open this season for growth and change that is going to pivot you in the direction that you see your higher self. If you Find yourself not having the best time around family and you really don't want to be around family during the holidays. I know a of times people really don't have the, the loving support of family and, you know, and their family dynamics, and that is okay. Don't blame yourself for anyone's behavior or why you choose not to associate yourself with certain family members. Just learn that you can create family and friendships. You know, a certain friend can turn into family for you. So reach out to those friends that have been showing up all year for you. Reach out to those friends and just let them know, like, hey. Or ask them, like, hey, what are you doing during the holidays? Are you with your family or do you have something going on yourself? And just, you know, let them know, like, hey, I would love to, you know, be around, you know, during the holidays if you want to catch up and just be like, open. You don't really have to tell them, like, everything that you may be feeling or going through during the holidays. But you can just kind of make it very clear to them, like, hey, I would love to be around you during the holidays if you have some time. I don't know if you're spending a lot of time with your family, vice versa, but I enjoy spending quality time and then make it like a thing, you know, like they have friends giving. You can do that during the holidays, like during Christmas, during Thanksgiving. That's coming up too, as well. The new year that's coming up. You can also create vision board parties. This is actually the perfect time to gather your friends and say, hey, let's set a date within the next, you know, few weeks to create like a vision board party. This is how you can like, really change the energy that you've been feeling about the holidays. Because I know the holidays give a lot of people anxiety. And it's like, oh, you want to avoid this person or that person? And like, okay, what do you do when you're trying to avoid? And how can you redirect that energy and just transmute it to something positive? Think of like a vision board party. I used to actually host these, like, in person, like insane, huge vision board parties, like 100 to 200 people. And it was a lot of fun. So, like, if you can gather a few of your friends and create some happy memories around the holidays, I feel like that is going to really help take your mind off of what's going on. It's not like you are not addressing any issue that you're feeling, but you're bringing your energy up so you can stay in an abundance mindset, you can stay in a happy mindset and learning to work with your emotions through difficult times in your life that you may be feeling anxiety during the holidays. So vision board parties really do work. And I just feel like this is a great way to manifest and going to the new year another way to transmute the energy of feeling anxious or anxiety around the holidays. Maybe you don't come from like a big family or maybe you feel like, you know, certain people in your family is toxic and you really want to separate yourself from that energy and you may feel alone. So another great way is to give back. Like find a organization that you can do hands on in person, not just like donating online. Like that's great too. But I just feel like when you go in person and you're helping to a cause that resonates with your heart, that helps you express gratitude and it also puts your mindset in a different perspective in life.
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A lot of times during the holidays, there's a lot of people who are single or you know, maybe their family have passed away or maybe they were adopted and they really don't have, you know, like roots, you know, with family connections and all that. Or you know, like it's, it's very insensitive time for a lot of people. So think about something that you can like devote your time and energy towards. During the holidays, a lot of times there's toy Drives where you can, like, buy toys and you can, like, donate and. But you can also be there to hand them out to kids or you can go to. I used to do this with my grandmother. We would go. We would fix up, like, goodie baskets and have fruits, some candy and some, you know, pecans, and like, maybe like, a teddy bear or a toy or whatever. And we would go to the nursing homes and we would, like, pass out these gift baskets because a lot of people that were in a nursing home, like, their family had passed away or like, they don't have kids or their family don't come and visit them so they feel alone. So we used to do that. And I also used to dress up as Mrs. Claus. I used to compete in beauty pageant. So I would wear my, like, outfit, my Santa Claus outfit, because I did beauty Christmas pageants a lot, too. But I would go to the nursing home and just dress up as Mrs. Claus and, like, pass out goodie bags. And we're like, insert. Insert some pictures. I would do that and just see the. The smile on their face. It really made my heart smile. And I did that ever since, you know, I was doing that one as a little girl with my grandmother. And when I think about it, she was, like, showing me how to give back. She was showing me, like, gratitude and appreciation for what we have and where we're at in our life, too. Even though it was just like, me and her. But, like, it's just like sometimes in life, you know, you see that and you can really, really help other people. Just putting a smile on their face, you know, and doing something very kind. Jester, like, from your heart. Or if you see, like, a family that's less fortunate and you want to, like, buy them groceries or, you know, like, maybe include someone who, you know, part of your holiday, like, find your way of how you want to give back that is connected to, like, you. You know what I mean? That just feels natural to you. So find a call, spying a charity or just if you see someone in need during the holidays, like, to me, like, helping is a really great way to show, like, you know, appreciation and gratitude for where you're at in life, too, as well. So that is a great way to, like, transmute that energy. If you feel like you're alone or if you don't feel loved during the holidays or if you just feel anxiety being around certain people, certain families during the holidays, like, I feel like that's a great way to. It's not distracting you, but in a way, it's Kind of, but like in a good cause way, positive way. So give back. Also know, like, it's okay. Like if you need to reach out to someone that is a professional. Like during the holidays, it is complex sometimes when you are in different dynamics with families, and sometimes you don't know how to deal with certain things in life. And not all your friends or a friend can always give you, like, good sound advice. Sometimes you just need someone with a little bit more expertise and that situation dynamic. So it's okay, like if you need to reach out to a licensed therapist. I personally have used a licensed therapist during times where I felt like I needed some advice from someone who just has more experience in that realm. And I learned to not be so hard on myself. Like, if I'm feeling that there's something off in a family dynamic situation, then I'm gonna explore and ask questions. And sometimes you just need a person who, who can give you good, sound advice. And then you learn how to stand up and be an advocate for yourself. A lot of times when you are around family, they see you typically as like when you were little. So that's like the version they have of you in their head. So now that you're an adult, now that you're like, doing your own thing, sometimes family, they still treat you how they remember you as like a little kid. So if you feel that way and you feel like your voice isn't heard, or if you feel like the dynamic is just not healthy, it's not the ideal dynamic that you see for yourself when it comes to family. Reach out to a therapist and see, like, how can you work through that? Like, what is coming up for you? Like, is there something that's triggering you? And what is that? What are those triggers? And how can you prevail through that feeling and emotion and. And learn that it's okay to feel what you feel like, don't feel like it's not okay to express yourself. Because a lot of times we challenge, we have challenges of expressing ourselves around other people. It's okay to set boundaries and like, keep those boundaries because those boundaries do protect you. And it also gives you clarity of, like, what you accept and what you don't accept. And it also reveals to us, it reveals about others, how they see and view you. And if they respect your boundaries, a lot of times when you're growing and glowing, a lot of times people have a hard time see and supporting that growth because they have an old version of you. So during the holidays, if you feel like you're not Being supported through your journey of growth and just sticking up and advocating for what you, what your standards are. Use therapy as like a personal tool to help you identify what it is that you view as family and that's healthy and what standards and boundaries you are setting for yourself going into the holidays. So definitely check it out. I have a link for my lovely goddesses. The link is in the bio and the description of this episode. You can always count on Habits of a Goddess sharing some tools that I've personally used to help me, especially during the holidays because everyone has like their own way of dealing and navigating through life and just sometimes you don't really know like what to do when you're in a situation. So it's really helpful that you can like create the environment and energy that's going to support you during the holidays. So definitely check that out. Habits of a goddess. You'll get 10 off when you sign up with your first month of therapy on BetterHelp. And yeah, so that's something that I've used before, especially during the holidays because sometimes it's like, oh my God, a lot of things are coming up and I feel triggered. What do I do, how do I respond without overreacting and how do I calm my nervous system. And it's okay like if you don't have all the answers but just know like they're available to you like resources and tools, different meditations, podcasts, books, you know, just having good sound advice friends that you can go to that may have a similar, similar situation as you. So don't ever feel like you're alone and you're going through things during the holidays. So goddess, just know that the holidays you can create the feeling of excitement and joy if you create that energy in your own space. So don't ever feel like powerless or don't ever feel like you're alone during the holidays. Like you can create that energy of feeling supported, feeling love, feeling that you are surrounded by people who, you know, support your growth and support where you're at in life. So don't ever feel like you are powerless or you know, you just don't have like the warmth and kind and just giving around you. Just know that you can create that energy too and that will come back to you as well. A lot of times, you know, just connecting with your inner child really brings out out the best version of yourself. During the holidays I love doing things that just reminds me of like when I was a little kid. So I remember I used to go, me and my Grandmother used to drive around in really nice, big, nice neighborhoods and look at the Christmas lights. And I would pretend like this is my house or, you know, like, the Christmas trees were beautiful. They're huge. And just even going to like a really nice luxury hotel and like sitting in the lobby and looking at the Christmas decorations and all that, like, that really to me raises my vibration, my energy. Even going to the luxury stores during the holidays too. A lot of times they're giving out little trinkets here and there to bring attraction and, and introduce new items to customers. And even if you're not buying anything, a lot of times just putting your yourself in that space and energy, it really transfers. Transmute that feeling of being alone, that feeling of maybe having grief, maybe you lost a loved one and it reminds you every single holiday that they're not here. So never feel like you're alone and surround yourself around people or strangers. Hey, that brings that warmth and joy back into your heart because you deserve to feel love and supported during the holidays. I want to share with you some beautiful products that I recently got. I've already used this Patrick Ta blush. I love it. But I just recently got this lip liner from Road and this lip gloss and it's so pretty. So the color that I'm using is balance to line my lips. And then the lip gloss is called ribbon. I mean, how cute is this? I just love whenever I find products that really matches me in my energy. And this is such beautiful, like the way it glides on the lips is amazing. And during the holidays I love to really dress up in the spirit. So what I mean by that, go on Amazon. Okay? It doesn't have to just be Amazon, but look for cute holiday party pajamas and like wear that during the holidays. Even just like sitting in the holiday pajamas or like holiday robes that really resembles like the spirit of holiday, like, to me that really transforms the energy. Now obviously this is someone who celebrates the holidays. If you don't celebrate the holidays like you, you can do other things too. But like, I find like dressing in like cute robes that is like Christmasy or, you know, like just holiday spirit robes or like pajamas really helps me bring out that inner child and just enjoy the holidays more. Because I know when you have lost a loved one, it does remind you like, they're not here. So do things that you would do if they were here that would help you transm. Transmute that energy. That is so pretty. Okay, I'm gonna add the lip gloss. This is in the color ribbon anyway. Just really Doing things that brings out your inner child really makes the holidays much more special. Take like a candle making class. That's really nice. And you can infuse like scents that really reminds you of that person that was in your life if you. They like, are no longer here. For me, like my grandmother, she loved the perfume White Diamond. So like, if you want to like, just get like, you know, if someone in your life is no longer here during the holidays and you want to like, maybe get something that, or do something, do an activity that you used to do with them, like do that. Like for me, I would get like white diamond and maybe just spray like the room. So like I smell her, I feel like I'm smelling her energy in the room with me. And also like lighting candles for your loved ones that have passed away and that's no longer here in the physical realm. They are here spiritually. Their energy never dies. Just know that the energy is always transmuted. So like, if you need to like, just get in that energy of just like celebrating them even though they're not physically here, like lighting a candle or doing some type of ritual, like that really helps me during the holidays. So like, find different ways that you can still celebrate your loved ones if they're no longer here. And if you feel like, you know, sadness or grief, just know that they're always protecting you, they're always watching over you and that you don't have to feel like they're not here cuz their energy is watching over you. I always believe that. For me, I believe that. I always believe that their presence, their energy is here. If you welcome them and allow it to be like, around you, like you're gonna always feel that warmth and love. And sometimes it's in the middle of the night when you wake up and you had a dream and it's like, oh, I'm dreaming of this person. Because, you know, they're watching over me or they're thinking of me or I'm thinking of them. Right, so no thoughts. And yeah, so this is the makeup look. I am going to do my hair and then come back and show you guys the complete look. Okay, goddesses, this is the complete look. I love how my makeup turned out and I'm excited with this new lip combination from Rhodes. So anyway, I appreciate everyone that has been supporting the podcast and this episode is dedicated to the girlies who feel like it's hard for you to connect and make friends. It's hard for you to, you know, connect with your family. Maybe there's Some things going on and you just don't really know how to deal with certain situations. Or maybe you lost a loved one and it's reminding you like, they're no longer here. I just want to let you know that you're never alone. I know how it feels to lose someone and not have them around the holidays. And I know how it feels to have, like, different, unconventional, dynamic family dynamics. And my biggest, you know, thing is, is that you can make something greater when you shift your mindset, what's in front of you. So use the podcast, use the resources that you have to support you and to support where you're at on your journey and just know that everything that you are doing is shifting you to someone greater, shifting you into your higher self and that you have the ability to, you know, feel loved and supported and just be free and have those standards and boundaries for yourself and allow yourself grace and just know that everyone is experiencing, you know, a different version of you, the same vice versa as you're experiencing a different version of other people that is coming into your life during this season and time. So just take every single day with a grain of salt and just know that, like, you are the creator of your own reality and that use this month to manifest what it is that you desire and how you envision yourself being around the holidays. Like, the life that you have is so fulfilling when you look at it of what you are grateful for. And a lot of times we take our eyes off of our, you know, abundance and we start looking at other people or looking on social media and seeing like, okay, this person has like this cute, like, everyone's dressed the same in pajamas or this is a cute relationship, or this person got this or whatever the case might be. And you start to look and compare yourself. Do not do that during the holidays. Don't look and compare yourself around other people during the holidays. Just know that everyone has, like, their own path inversion in life of how they achieve and got to where they're at. Even if it's not just like material things, it's just having, you know, the happy, the confidence, the wisdom. Like, everyone has a different journey and path in life of how they accumulated those qualities within themselves and how they're able to stand in their goddess power. And you can too. So don't ever feel like you're disempowered. I feel like you don't have the love and support because you do. This podcast is here to support you on your journey. So I love you goddesses. Thank you for supporting this podcast we are almost like into the new year 2026. And all I can say is that I'm grateful for every single like or comment or shared of this podcast because it has reached other women who are like minded. And that's what it's all about. It's about pouring into yourself, but also leading by example and showing others that it's possible to create the life that you love through the power affirmations, through the power of believing yourself and through like creating that energy that is loving, that's giving, that's kind, that's receiving, that's abundance. So when you stay in that state of mind instead of frame of abundance energy you create, you attract and everything that you touch turns into gold. Everything that you touch to turns and multiplies into goals. So just know that when you are creating and making yourself up and you're putting yourself out there and you're giving and you're receiving that you were the one that attracted all of these amazing blessings into your life and you did the work. You showed up for yourself every single day. Love you Goddesses. Check out the podcast. Don't forget to share it. Tag me and enjoy the holidays. Make it fun. Share what you're doing. Share how you are showing up and how you are being the best version of yourself. Especially during the holidays. Bye goddesses.