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Okay, let's talk girl math for a second. You bought those designer heels because they were on sale, but they're still in the box. That designer bag you no longer carry is literally money sitting in your closet. Here's the thing. Second chances are for your closet, not your ex. That's why I'm so excited. This episode of Habits of a Goddess is sponsored by the RealReal. I shop and sell at the RealReal, which is great because I can use my earnings for something special and new to me. I'm obsessed with brands like Manolo Blahnik, Christian Louboutin, Hermes, and so many more. The RealReal is the world's largest and most trusted resource for authenticated luxury resell with thousands of new arrivals daily. No one does resell like the RealReal. And this month you can get an extra $100 site credit when you sell for the first time. Go to therealreal.com/habits to get your extra 100 therealreal.com habits that's therealreal.com habits it's time to date like a goddess. You already know. Here on Habits of a Goddess podcast, we're all about creating the life you desire and one that honors your highest self. So when it comes to dating, we're not settling. We're moving with intention. And that's why I love Bumble. Bumble is making it easier than ever to date with clarity, safety and confidence. They're now requiring phone numbers and photo verifications for new users in the US which means more real connections and fewer question marks. Verified profiles actually get more matches too, because authenticity is magnetic. And if you're someone who loves to express your lifestyle visually, like your go to Matcha spot, your recent travel adventures, or a glimpse of what dating you look like, Bumble now lets you pair photo prompts with your profile answers. It's such a beautiful way to show the full Goddess vibe. One of my girlfriends moved to a new city and didn't know anyone, so she joined Bumble to make connections. She has been having the time of her life dating another girlfriend. Met her current husband on Bumble and they are celebrating five years together they this year. So if you're ready to romanticize your love life, to flirt with curiosity and to protect your peace while exploring real connection, download Bumble, verify your profile and date like the goddess you are. Now. Let's get back to today's episode. Let's talk about self care Goddess. Not just skin care and journaling, but the kind that starts within your mind. One of my favorite self love tools is Headspace, the app that has helped me and over 100 million people care for our mental well being with guided meditations, calming breath work, sleep support and mindfulness exercises that actually fit into real life. Whether I'm just feeling overwhelmed or just off, Headspace has helped me slow down and reconnect with myself, my breath and my peace. What I love it's not just one size fit all. 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It's simple to use, fully customizable and it gives you all the tools to sell your product. 24. 7 customer support connects you with your audience and attracts the abundance you've been manifesting. And let's be real, this is more than just about money. It's about freedom, alignment, stepping into your goddess power and creating a life you love. So whether you're just getting started or scaling your business, turn those dreams into and give them the best shot at success with Shopify. Sign up for your $1 per month trial and start selling today at shopify.com habitsofagoddess Go to shopify.com habitsofagooddess shopify.com habitsofagaoddess hello goddess welcome back to Habits of a Goddess Podcast. A podcast filled with self love, self care and spiritual affirmations. My mission for whoever is listening to this podcast is that you find ways to empower yourself, attract the life you desire and feel supported. On this self love journey, I have experienced a new way of opening up to the endless possibilities of healing and growing through sharing. My guys, I'm your host Jasmine Rascoe and today's episode we'll be talking about the power of going alone, becoming your own North Star. Also, if you're enjoying the podcast, don't forget to give Habits of a Goddess Podcast a five star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. I love reading the reviews you guys leave. It means the world to me to see how truly the podcast has made a positive impact in your life. And when you leave a review, it helps other God this discover the podcast too. This episode is dedicated to the woman who have been feeling alone on her journey. And every time you take a step towards your goals in life, you want to bring people with you. But you realize that goal that you set for yourself, that vision that you have within your heart, it was sacred and designed for you to follow through. And just know that the journey, it may start off feeling like you're alone, but you're always guided by divine spirit. You're always guided by your loved ones that may have passed on. You're always guided by complete strangers. Once you get to a certain level on your journey, you're never truly alone. It may feel that way in the early stages when you are shedding the old and you're welcoming the new into your life. And as you're trying something new, it may feel alone and you may be alone. But just know it is a time, a limited time. And once you get yourself to a certain level in life, you're going to be surprised. You're going to meet people who are like you, people who resonate with your inner being, people who are supporting you, people who love you genuinely. So just know that. So the other day I was having a conversation with a friend and I was catching them up on what I've been doing and my trips and my business and just life. That's typically what we do when we haven't seen each other. And it's to catch up. And it's really nice and refreshing to just share things that's going on in my life and feel that support and love. So as I was talking and sharing, like my trip, when I went to New York for Advertising Week for Habits of a Goddess podcast, a conversation came up and the friend asked me, well, did you go alone? And I say, yes, I went alone. And she started saying, well, you shouldn't go alone, it's not safe, you know, you shouldn't. You should bring a friend with you next time. And I looked at her and I was expressing to her, well, it's really hard for me to have someone to come with me last minute on a business trip. And it's really hard for me to find someone that has flexible schedule just like me. Because my life, I have complete freedom. I can control my time and do things on my own time. So most people who I know, they have kids, they have jobs, or they're married, or maybe they don't have the resources to travel. Whatever the case may be, they can't just get up and go and jump on a plane the same way I can. And as I was explaining to her, my reasoning of why I travel so much alone is because my time timeline, my schedule is so different than the average person. And a lot of these things that I'm doing, a lot of these events that I get invited to, a lot of these meetings that I go to, it does require me to go sometimes spontaneously, last minute. And even if it was planned out weeks or months in advance, I don't have one person that I personally know that could follow me to these places. And to be transparent, even if I was to meet someone and let's say they are not into the same space that I'm into, it's really hard to bring people into your world that genuinely support you and want to see you win. And sometimes that journey feels lonely as you are creating success in your life and you're winning and you're being around other people who are winning too. You're meeting people once you get yourself there in those rooms. And I think about the past girlfriends I've had. I think about the time where I've met them, when I met them, they were not the happiest in their life. And if I were to bring them along with me to where I'm at in life, I don't think they could be fully happy for me. And it has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with, with them. Let me break this down. Have you ever felt like you had to withhold your excitement and not tell anyone who you thought were your friends? I've had that happen before. And it's not a good feeling. A lot of times when things are happening in our lives and we're developing confidence, we're developing a mindset and a different belief system that supports our desires and goals in life. It shatters other people's image of what they think we are. And sometimes people don't know how to receive that and support that. So if they're not growing too along with you on the journey and expanding their mindset and adapting an abundance mindset and leaving the scarcity behind or fear to step out and do something different, then they will not be able to be in those same spaces with you if they don't believe that they're worthy to be in those rooms, or if they don't believe that they can do it too. So I told her back to my friend that if I was to wait for someone to be ready to go with me to some of these meetings or, you know, or wait till someone is able to take off from work or everyone has their own lives, right? I will forever be waiting. I will forever be waiting. And that's not a position I want to be in. Because now I. I am putting myself on pause in order for someone else to get their affairs in order. So if this resonates with you, let me know. Because I know I'm not the only one. A lot of times our dreams are only meant for us to go through them alone. Yes, you can have an amazing partner supporting you. And hey, even okay, let's talk girl math for a second. You bought those designer heels because they were on sale. I But they're still in the box. That designer bag you no longer carry is literally money sitting in your closet. Here's the thing. Second chances are for your closet, not your ex. That's why I'm so excited. This episode of Habits of a Goddess is sponsored by the RealReal. I shop and sell at the Real Real, which is great because I can use my earnings for something special and new to me. I'm obsessed with brands like Manolo Blahnik, Christian Louboutin, Hermes, and so many more. The RealReal is the world's largest and most trusted resource for authenticated luxury resell with thousands of new arrivals daily. No one does resell like the RealReal. And this month you can get an extra $100 site credit when you sell for the first time. Go to therealreal.com habits to get your extra $100. Therealreal.com habits that's therealreal.com habits it's time to date like a goddess. You already know here on Habits of a Goddess podcast, we're all about creating the life you desire and one that honors your highest self. So when it comes to dating, we're not settling. We're moving with intention. And that's why I love Bumble. Bumble is making it easier than ever to date with clarity, safety, and confidence. They are now requiring phone numbers and photo verifications for new users in the US which means more real connections and fewer question marks. Verified profiles actually get more matches too, because authenticity is magnetic and if you're someone who loves to express your lifestyle visually like your go to Matcha spot, your recent travel adventures, or a glimpse of what dating you look like, Bumble now lets you pair photo prompts with your profile answers. It's such a beautiful way to show the full goddess vibe. One of my girlfriends moved to a new city and didn't know anyone, so she joined Bumble to make connections. She has been having the time of her life dating another girlfriend. Met her current husband on Bumble and they are celebrating five years together this year. So if you're ready to romanticize your love life, to flirt with curiosity, and to protect your peace while exploring real connection, download Bumble, verify your profile and date like the goddess you are now. Let's get back to today's episode. Taking on some financial burdens. That's great. But you still have to be the one to show up. You still have to be the one to do the actual work, whatever that looks like for you. For me, it's sometimes getting on a plane and going straight to a meeting from the airport, or going in an interview, or going on a photo shoot, or creating content, marketing myself and connecting with brands in real life. Sometimes it's like that too as well. There is no set schedule. There is no set step by step guide of how to achieve success. It's made up along the way. And a lot of people don't have the mindset to adopt that. A lot of people don't know what that looks like. So they will start to doubt every move that that they make. And if you are not in that space, you don't want to welcome that energy into your world. If you are already in the momentum and the rhythm of going after your goals in life and seeking success. Because those who seek success, success will come to them. Those who seek happiness and create happiness, happiness will be your reality. So if you are living that lifestyle, if you're living that mindset, you cannot afford to take on someone with you who hasn't gotten themselves there yet. If you're in this abundance happy state of being, you cannot afford to bring someone along that's not there yet. They have to rise to that level in their life. Yes, you can be a good friend and you can listen here and there, but you are not meant to save everyone. Save yourself. Get yourself to the finish line first. So as I was expressing to a friend and telling her, hey, you know, I don't mind traveling alone and yes, things can happen anywhere in the world, but I don't mind going alone Because I know when I go alone, I'm able to move differently. And you start to rely on your own inner wisdom. We were all born with it. Your intuition will guide you towards the next steps in life. You don't have to know all the answers. But as you start moving your feet, the path will reveal itself to you. So there's a quiet moment and every goddess journey when she realizes she's not lonely, she's becoming whole. Loneliness is the ache of wanting to be seen by others. So if you're feeling lonely, you are wanting to be seen by others. But when you are divine solitude, you don't mind being in solitude. Because solitude is the piece of being seen by yourself. I don't mind showing up and being seen by myself. I don't mind going to a restaurant and sitting at a table and enjoying a meal by myself. I don't mind having solo dates. We need that intimate time by ourselves. That's how ideals start to manifest. That's how things start to reveal itself to us. Because if we are constantly surrounded by everybody, you become overstimulated. When you're in solitude, you're able to transform. And that's where the real magic happens. We live in a world that loves to tell us what to do, how to live, how to love, how to succeed. But your inner compass knows something. It knows your truth. It knows you. When you go alone, you begin to recognize your intuition rhythm. You start to hear your own north star. That pulls you towards your desires, that pulls you towards your destiny. Trusting yourself doesn't mean you have all the answers. It means you're willing to walk even when you don't. It's choosing faith over fear. Every time you choose your intuition over approval, you strengthen your alignment with the divine. So there is something sacred. When you go alone. You are strong, your strength is loud. You're a leader, you're not a follower. And sometimes the universe pulls people away, closes doors or just quiets the noise around you. It is not rejection, it's redirection. Let me repeat that. It is not rejection, it's redirection. Oftentimes we feel rejected if we're not invited, if we're not surrounded around a lot of people. Sometimes it's redirection and you're being given the space to rise into your goddess power. Just like the sea that must be buried in darkness before it blooms, you too are growing unseen. You're planting the seeds of faith. You're planting the seeds of courage. You're planting the seeds of an abundance. You're planting the seeds of love. So if you find yourself in isolation, know that elevation is coming. Know that your skills are strengthening along the way. When I started this podcast, I started this podcast alone. There was no one in my ear trying to guide me to go their direction or telling me how I should do my episodes. Like there was no one in my ear. No one. And I'm thankful there was no one in my ear because a lot of times we look for approval from our friends, from our family, from our loved ones. It's just we look for approval outside of ourselves sometimes. And I've been guilty of this. Okay, I'm not perfect. I'm sharing with you things that I've overcome, things that I've learned. Created this podcast to not only help myself, but to help anyone that's looking to create the life that they desire and love. And it's a gentle reminder that you have the power is to activate that knowledge within you already Goddess. So validate yourself. If you are in your season of loneliness, you're not really lonely. You're in solitude. You are becoming greater each and every single day. You are elevating. You're making space for what you want in life. And take this time to write down what it is that you exactly want in life. Every great story begins with someone who walked away from the crowd. And you don't always have to go with the crowd. You don't always have to go with the flow if it doesn't flow with you. A lot of times we are visionary. A lot of times we're artists. A lot of times we're entrepreneurs. A lot of times we are just. Just a goddess. You have the same divine courage within you. Let's talk about self care Goddess. Not just skin care and journaling, but the kind that starts within your mind. One of my favorite self love tools is Headspace, the app that has helped me and over 100 million people care for our mental well being with guided meditations, calming breath work, sleep support and mindfulness exercises that actually fit into real life. Whether I'm just feeling overwhelmed or just all, Headspace has helped me slow down and reconnect with myself, my breath and my peace. What I love it's not just one size fit all Headspace meets you where you're at with science backed tools and guidance from real experienced teachers. Feel good and mean it when you say it. For a limited time. Get headspace free for 60 days. Go to headspace.com goddess that's h e a d s p a c e dot com goddess to unlock all of headspace free for 60 days headspace.com goddess this week on my things I love list. Taking long bubble baths, updating my fall vision board, discovering new music in my Pilates class, and Drip Drop. 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So today I invite you to embrace your solitude not as an emptiness, but as an empowerment. Let this season be the chapter where you meet the woman who you're becoming. Trust the timing of your own path, Goddess. You are never alone. You're always guided by your intuition. And your solitude is your strength. Your solitude is your strength. And you're becoming your own North Star. You are right where you're meant to be. I think about there was times I was getting a little lost in New York when I went for the Advertising Week and I would take a taxi and I would, you know, go from one part of New York City to the other end. And, you know, I end up getting to those meetings that I needed to be at. But I think about a time where I would probably talk myself out of it and be afraid to be a little lost in the city and try to find my way around. But something was happening in that season whenever I was really alone and by myself and developing the confidence and courage to do what I do now. And I see that. I see it when I look back at the pictures and the videos and the content and the. And I listen to the episodes from the past and I see what was happening. What was happening behind the scene was I was gaining the courage and strength to do what I am doing now. It takes courage to stand up and stand out. It takes courage to speak your authentic voice. It takes courage to do something that is not familiar to everyone. It takes courage to shine and be unapologetic about it. It takes courage to go alone. It takes courage to adapt a new mindset and adapt a new environment. It takes courage to speak to a complete stranger and ask for help. That is something that I am still working on, but it takes courage to ask a complete stranger for help. But if you are going with people who you're familiar with, people that who may be supportive or may not be supportive, you won't know your potential. You won't know how far you will go. Because we get comfortable a lot of times when we are with people who are no further along than we are. I think back at, you know, some of the people who were like more of acquaintances in my life and I was still figuring out the definition of a friend. And I think about like if I had them in my life, they probably wouldn't be able to adapt to my current reality. And a lot of times it shows in the distance and the coldness and the dryness of a congratulations or, or the tone or the temperament. A lot of times it shows and we, we want someone to come with us and we ignore those signs. But I'm glad I had the courage to let those people go and they fade out of my life. So if you're feeling this way too, if this is resonating with you, just know. Let them fade out of your life. If they are not supportive, if they're not happy for you. This episode is brought to you by State Farm. 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Enjoying Activia twice a day for two weeks as part of a balanced diet and healthy lifestyle can help reduce the frequency of Minor digestive discomfort. Because better will come. Your support system will come. The people that want to see you win will. Will come. They will show up. But until then, enjoy the journey of getting to know yourself. Discovering yourself, Goddess, is so important. That way, no one can guide you and sway you to believing in something that you know is not true for you. If it doesn't make sense in your world, you don't have to take on other people's beliefs. If you're listening to this episode, you're like, well, this isn't really resonating with me. It's okay. But if it resonates with you, I'm happy. And if it doesn't, that's okay too. I've learned over the years to allow things happen in divine timing. And it's okay to go alone. Because that's where you gain your strength and your power, Your knowledge, your wisdom. The keys to success. Because you know what it takes to get there. Anything that you put your mind to, you can do it. If you can visualize it, you can materialize it. If you can visualize yourself winning in life, if you can visualize yourself loving the person that you want to spend your life with in life, if you can visualize yourself in that new home, if you can visualize yourself in that new car, if you can visualize yourself traveling the world, if you can visualize yourself content and happy and full in life, then you can materialize it. That can happen for you. Because your belief system is all that matters. You believe it and that's all that matters. Other people don't need to believe it for you in order for it to happen for you. If you believe it, that's all that matters. So remember, Goddess, remember to be kind and gentle with yourself. I want to leave you with an affirmation that you can repeat throughout the day. Place your hand over your heart and just take a deep breath and breathe. And repeat this affirmation after me. I trust the path that unfolds for me even when I walk it alone. I trust the path that unfolds for me even when I walk it alone. I trust the path that unfolds for me even when I walk it alone. Goddess, trust the path that you're on. It's meant for you. It's designed to help you win in life. Even when you don't know where it's going, it will reveal itself to you. You're always supported, you're always guided. Listen to your intuition. Trust yourself. Build that within yourself. Strengthen your trust within yourself. Pay attention to the signs around you. Pay attention to your energy. Pay attention to your nervous system. Do you feel calm? Do you feel excited? Do you feel anxious? Do you feel frightened? Pay attention to all of that emotion and just remember what state, what environment, what you've been thinking, what have you been talking, saying to yourself. Pay attention to all of that because that is what shapes our reality. So if you find yourself feeling great and you're in that momentum, pay attention to that. You can duplicate that success in your life throughout the day. And if you find yourself off the path, not feeling the best, pay attention to that. Okay, you can turn that around. Use the podcast Affirmations. Connect with nature, get out in some sun. Only invite people in your life that is going to raise the vibration that is going to support your you goddess. Okay, that want to see you win. Only invite those people into your life. If they're not supporting you, don't invite them. Let them simply fall off. Okay, Goddess, there is so much power and strength in going alone. So put yourself out there. You know what you desire. A lot of times it's for you only. And when you try to bring people with you, they can easily talk you out of it. And they may not mean that in any kind of way. But a lot of times when the vision is only given to you, it's not meant for everyone to understand why or how. So pay attention to all of that as you are strengthening your inner goddess, strengthening your voice and opening yourself up to abundance, opening yourself up to love, to community, to feel supported. You desire it. If you desire it, it's meant for you. Okay, thank you for listening to this episode. If it resonated with you today, leave us a beautiful 5 star review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Also, come over to our Instagram @habitsofagoddess to connect with our community and comment under our most recent posts of your thoughts of the episode. I love interacting with you goddesses and I appreciate your love and support. Don't forget to share the podcast and tag us @habitsOfAGoddess. Have a beautiful day. And Doug, here we have the Limu Emu in its natural habitat helping people customize their car insurance and save hundreds with Liberty Mutual. Fascinating. It's accompanied by his natural ally, Doug. Uh, Limu is that guy with the binoculars watching us? Cut the camera. They see us. 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