Kate Micucci asks about childhood lies

Summary

Handsome Podcast Summary

Episode: Kate Micucci Asks About Childhood Lies
Date: November 11, 2025
Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Special Guest: Kate Micucci
Podcast Theme: Three comedians field questions from their friends and riff on life’s absurdities with stories, candor, and humor.

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Main Theme / Purpose

In this in-person recording of Handsome, comedians Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and Mae Martin reunite on the couch to answer a question from their longtime friend, comedian and actor Kate Micucci:
"What is a lie you were told as a child that you believed for way too long?"

As always, the hosts blend earnestness and playful banter, covering career updates, domestic life, sexuality, childhood embarrassments, and the innocence (or madness) of long-held misconceptions.

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Episode Structure & Key Segments

1. Catch-Up & Personal Updates

Timestamps: 02:00–15:00

• The Joy of Recording In-Person
  The crew relishes being together after Zoom stints, celebrating how “handsome” they all look and how different the energy is (02:33–02:42).

• Mae’s Career After “Wayward”
  Mae shares how their new hit show’s success hasn’t dramatically changed day-to-day life, highlighting imposter syndrome and fan interactions about character choices (03:14–06:33).

  • “You don't really...the main thing is, you're kind of only as good as your last thing...But it feels amazing.” – Mae (05:00)
  • Humorous speculation about recurring wildlife in Mae's yard (raccoon, skunk, possum) not caring about their fame.

• Hair Dye, Touring, and Personal Routines
  Discussion about Mae’s current hair color and DIY approach (06:34–07:46).
  Fortune talks about the physical demands of playing a golf caddy and moving houses, sharing comedic tales of walking 12,000 steps a day and furnishing new digs (08:54–14:43).

• Tig’s Life as a Temporary Single Parent
  Tig describes solo parenting while her wife, Stephanie, is away, joking about “house police” and her son Finn’s hyper-scheduled personality.

  • “My son...he loves his schedule. I feel like I've been holding down the fort pretty well. And [my therapist] said, ‘Well, it sounds like you would have no other choice with Finn in the house.’” – Tig (17:59–18:10)

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2. Side Conversations & Notable Anecdotes

Timestamps: 15:46–42:00

• Chain Restaurants & Cheesecake Factory Love
  Fortune reveals plans for a real (not ironic) Cheesecake Factory outing with comics Zach Noe Towers and Taylor Tomlinson (21:43–22:49).
  Mae confesses a fondness for chain restaurants' “rigidity” and predictability (23:43).

  • “Maybe it's because I got a touch of the tism. I like the rigidity. I like knowing what to expect.” – Mae (23:45)

• Sex Positivity & Embarrassment
  Group candidly discusses BDSM purchases, filming intimate scenes (“getting railed”), and how family reacts to on-screen sex (24:20–33:02).

  • “There's something nice about, like...you're really going to town on someone, you’re doing it for their pleasure. So you're almost bottoming from the top.” – Mae (31:02)

• Celebrity Sightings & Admiration
  The trio digress into loud praise for Bette Midler and Dolly Parton, and Tig confesses never having seen a Diane Keaton film—an admission that stuns Fortune and Mae (39:48–41:03).

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3. Kate Micucci’s Voicemail: Childhood Lies

Timestamps: 49:08–50:05

• Kate’s Question:
  “What is a lie that you were told when you were a kid that you believed for way too long?” - Kate Micucci (49:08)

  The hosts and Kate share their favorite “lies we believed,” mixing the poignant and the ridiculous with their trademark vulnerability and wit.

Hosts’ Childhood Lies:

• Tig Notaro

  • Believed promises of security from grown-ups and, more innocently, believed elves jumped between Christmas tree branches.
    • “I was told at Christmas time that there were elves jumping from branch to branch. And I was always...I was like, where? And they'd be like, oh, you just missed it.” – Tig (51:17)
  • Questioned the logic in the Santa/reindeer snack ritual—did reindeer actually come into the house? (51:50)
  • As a kid, believed she had once gotten stuck in the toilet and her mom had to call a plumber—later realized her mom made it up (54:06–54:18).

• Fortune Feimster

  • Was told her pacifier (“paci”) just got lost when her mom actually threw it out the window (55:04–55:43).
  • Grew up using “boom boom” as a euphemism for vagina due to parental shyness about anatomical language, leading to embarrassment when her friends (with a doctor dad) didn’t recognize the term (56:13–57:30).

• Mae Martin

  • Forbidden to believe in Santa Claus—her mom insisted it was a fun pretend, but not true. Mae became the playground killjoy, revealing the truth to classmates (52:23–52:55).
  • Family’s ongoing insistence they once drove a car under a moose—Mae is still unsure if it’s real or an elaborate lifelong troll (53:24–54:06).

Kate Micucci’s Childhood Lie:

• As a child, genuinely believed removing a mattress tag (“do not remove under penalty of law”) was a serious federal offense, thanks to the movie Pee-wee’s Big Adventure. Only realized as an adult the movie was joking (49:08, 61:49–63:42).
  • “It wasn’t until I was, like, way grown up, probably like 30, I rewatched Pee Wee’s Big Adventure...That’s just a joke. That’s a joke. I have been thinking...my whole life...” – Kate (61:49–62:02)
• Bonus story: Recalls being with Tig in Australia when a kangaroo charged at Tig, and all Kate could utter was, “Oh, cheese, Tig!” (63:42)

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Notable Quotes

• “You’re only as good as number one? Is that what you’re saying?” – Tig (05:21)
• “There's something comforting about [sleeping in a sleeping bag].” – Mae (12:12)
• “My favorite thing is, like, going to see a movie...and going to Cheesecake Factory before by yourself.” – Mae (22:49)
• “I have a question. You dyed your hair brown for the show, but it’s still kind of brown.” – Fortune, ribbing Mae’s fashion (06:34)
• “I wonder if embarrassment starts to creep in around middle school...before that, you’re kind of...I don’t know.” – Mae (61:01)
• “Our listeners are...salivating to hear your embarrassing [stories].” – Tig (59:09)

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Memorable Moments

• Fortune’s “boom boom” story and the confusion/embarrassment it caused:
  “And I said, boom boom. And they...all turned and were like, what? Oh my God. And I was like, your boom boom? They’re like, are you talking about a vagina?” (56:32–57:30)

• Tig’s existential answer to Kate’s question:
  “What I was told as a child that I believed way too long, I think, is—you’ll be safe. We’ll take care of you. Everything’s going to be okay. Don’t worry.” (50:14–50:41)

• Kate Micucci’s ultra-innocent belief in mattress tag law and her joy in being called “Kate McCooch”:
  “I have been thinking that it’s bad to do this my whole life, and it was just a...yeah, you’re not going to go to jail if you take a tag off a mattress.” (61:57–62:13)
  “Or as Fortune likes to call me, Kate. Kate McCooch. My coochie Kate. My coochie Kate McCooter. Cooter. I don’t. Whatever you want to call me.” (49:11–49:26)

• Discussion of BDSM gear and forgetting to hide it before the cleaning lady arrives—humorous mortification and group “girl, girl!” riffing (24:20–26:28).

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Timestamps for Key Segments

| Segment | Start | End | |--------------------------------------------------|------------|------------| | Intro, Reunion & Life Update | 02:00 | 15:00 | | Chain Restaurant Banter / Cheesecake Factory | 21:43 | 23:41 | | Sex Positivity and Embarrassment Stories | 24:20 | 33:03 | | Admiring Female Icons, Diane Keaton Confession | 39:48 | 41:13 | | Kate's Question: Childhood Lies | 49:08 | 50:05 | | Hosts Answer: Elves, Santa, Moose, Boom Boom | 50:14 | 57:30 | | Kate’s Mattress Tag Story | 61:49 | 63:42 | | Kangaroo Anecdote & Farewells | 63:42 | 65:32 |

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Episode Tone and Style

• Honest, unfiltered, and effortlessly funny. The group’s chemistry shines in-person, mixing playful jabs and heartfelt reflections.
• Supportive and sex-positive, with open talk about sexuality, embarrassment, and personal growth.
• Full of cultural references (Cheesecake Factory, Bette Midler, Diane Keaton, chain restaurants, Pee-wee’s Big Adventure, etc.) and personal anecdotes that feel like friends catching up.

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For New Listeners

This episode is a perfect representation of what makes Handsome special: irreverent, candid, and loaded with comedy—but also containing surprising emotional notes about childhood, adult awkwardness, and the lasting impact of stories we’re told (true or false). Come for the laughs about “boom booms,” stay for the honesty about insecurity and growing up.

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In summary:
The hosts, plus Kate Micucci, reveal with affection and embarrassment the childhood lies they believed, reflect on their careers and lives, bond over chain restaurants, share embarrassing moments, and—above all—remind us that growing up weird is a universal experience best laughed about with good friends.

Transcript

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[May Martin]

Chatting with friends on the Handsome pod.

[Fortune Feimster]

Chatting with friends. Cheers.

[May Martin]

Welcome to the Handsome pod. We're live in person. Live with each other, not with you.

[Tig Notaro]

We're live in person, guys.

[May Martin]

I'm May Martin.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm Fortune Feimster.

[Tig Notaro]

And I am Tig Notaro.

[Fortune Feimster]

And we're together in person again, sitting on a couch.

[Tig Notaro]

I love that song.

[Fortune Feimster]

I know. I love to sing it to you.

[Tig Notaro]

Came out in the 80s.

[Fortune Feimster]

What's going on? Oh, sorry. Oh, okay.

[May Martin]

We got it.

[Fortune Feimster]

I got you, too.

[Tig Notaro]

It is like. Listen, the show's fun.

[May Martin]

Y Zoom.

[Tig Notaro]

Does it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

It needs to.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

But my God, is it a different vibe in person?

[Fortune Feimster]

I know.

[May Martin]

Different vibe. It's so much nicer.

[Fortune Feimster]

Look, you guys, right in the eyes.

[Tig Notaro]

How attractive are we? How handsome?

[May Martin]

We're pretty.

[Tig Notaro]

How handsome are we?

[May Martin]

We're real handsome.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

We're all looking good. Full of ourselves today.

[Tig Notaro]

Are you still the number one star in Hollywood?

[May Martin]

Absolutely not. Say yes, I'm sure I've dipped down. I haven't. I haven't checked.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay, tell us, what is different about your life?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah. Has anything changed?

[May Martin]

Absolutely nothing.

[Tig Notaro]

Nothing. Come on.

[Fortune Feimster]

Are you getting calls from people in the biz?

[May Martin]

No. I mean, I got.

[Fortune Feimster]

I called you, you called me.

[May Martin]

I got my phone back after that retreat and there. Yeah, there was a minute where it was like, popping off and. But if you put your phone away, nothing's different. Except I've had a couple people in to the Truth come up to me and, like, confront me about my character's choices in Wayward, which I like. I'll get into it with them. I mean, I'm with them. He's a flawed character.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right. But yeah, nothing other than that.

[May Martin]

Nothing really.

[Tig Notaro]

So is it. Are you like, gosh, I. You know, my whole life I'm going after this goal. I get the 10 top, top, top honor, the number one show in the world, number one in Croatia, number one on star meter, and you're saying there's nothing I didn't.

[May Martin]

Star meter wasn't on my radar.

[Fortune Feimster]

What do I have to even work for?

[May Martin]

It changes nothing.

[Tig Notaro]

Tell us what it's like up there. Listen, what is it like to be the number one star?

[May Martin]

It's a lot of the same.

[Tig Notaro]

You still have a raccoon in your backyard.

[May Martin]

I still got a raccoon, a skunk, a possum. Possum impressed.

[Tig Notaro]

Do they know?

[May Martin]

They haven't said shit.

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Really?

[May Martin]

It's f. It's actually.

[Fortune Feimster]

But you're still putting your pants on. One leg at a time.

[May Martin]

One leg at a time. I'm still doing spells. I'm still, you know, tormented by the same things.

[Tig Notaro]

Are you still an awkward person?

[May Martin]

What do you think? Yeah. What did I say when we got here today? I can't believe we're actually here together.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm scared.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

No, in a real way, like, is there. How do you feel? How did it feel to be like, wow, my show really broke through.

[May Martin]

I'm glad that I'm 38 and not 20. So I feel like I've been doing it long enough that it is a job and it's not my whole self worth and identity, but it feels amazing. But, you know, you don't really. The main thing is you're kind of only as good as your last thing. Or like, if it had really bombed, that might have.

[Tig Notaro]

So you're only as good as number one? Is that what you're saying?

[May Martin]

Well, like, if it had really bombed, that might have legitimately like, affected my ability to get another show away or do so I'm like, okay, at least I know hopefully I'll be able to make another show. And so I'm waiting. I'm going to have, like a. A big check in.

[Tig Notaro]

I thought you were, say a big check.

[May Martin]

Big check coming.

[Fortune Feimster]

Big old check, baby.

[May Martin]

Yeah. But no, it feels. Yeah, the same.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, you probably have a lot new. A lot of new fans.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I mean, it's. It is tempered by the climate that we live in.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like, it is that there's a blowback as well.

[May Martin]

There really is. And the exposure is kind of scary. And like, oh, yeah. Thinking about my tour coming up and getting. But then, I don't know. The reason I went to that retreat place partly was because I was like, this is everything I've ever worked for, really. And I. And I'm not really enjoying it or it's not penetrating. Like, there's some. I feel like I don't deserve it or whatever. And so hopefully, yeah, I feel like I'm appreciating and I'm. I'm happy about it, but I don't know, I still feel. You know.

[Fortune Feimster]

I have a question.

[May Martin]

Yeah, hit me.

[Fortune Feimster]

You dyed your hair brown for the show, but it's still kind of brown.

[May Martin]

Yeah, you know what? I dyed it.

[Tig Notaro]

That's your question.

[May Martin]

I dyed it yesterday.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, like, I guess. Let me pose it as a question. Have you abandoned the full on blonde? I like it. I just. You just were so blonde for so long.

[May Martin]

Yeah, and then I went back to blonde after the show. And then just a couple days ago, I went.

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Girl.

[Tig Notaro]

That's your question. Girl.

[Lamorne Morris]

Girl.

[May Martin]

Girl. Girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

There are a lot of people probably wanted to know the answer to this.

[Tig Notaro]

Marvel, we have a moment here with.

[Fortune Feimster]

A star, and you're.

[May Martin]

Girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're talking about girl. May's star reader.

[Tig Notaro]

I want to know if May is twirling around in their house alone saying, I'm a star.

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Look at me.

[Fortune Feimster]

So I moved on to the next question, which is, did you even.

[May Martin]

Would you have noticed that?

[Tig Notaro]

I didn't notice.

[May Martin]

You would not have noticed.

[Fortune Feimster]

Notice. Girl.

[Tig Notaro]

But I see it now. I see it now.

[May Martin]

It's pretty similar.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girl.

[May Martin]

Girl.

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Girl.

[May Martin]

Girls.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girls.

[May Martin]

Girl.

[Tig Notaro]

Girls.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girls. So are you going back to blonde?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my God. I thought we were gonna. I thought you were gonna say, so.

[May Martin]

I just freestyle with boxes that I buy from Walgreens. I dye it myself.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, you did it yourself. Yeah. So we already knew this.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl.

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Girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

I forgot. Girl, please.

[May Martin]

Yeah. What about you guys?

[Fortune Feimster]

What about us? But are you.

[Tig Notaro]

Do you already have an idea for another show?

[May Martin]

Yes.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And it's not like a wayward too.

[May Martin]

Well, that's in conversation. But my instinct, my gut instinct is if I was really gonna be honest with myself, I have an idea for another world. I wanna.

[Tig Notaro]

Of course you do.

[May Martin]

That I'm pumped about. But who knows if I got really pumped about an idea for wayward too.

[Fortune Feimster]

And if they gave you a big fat paycheck, you know, it's always helpful.

[May Martin]

The thing is, girl, these girls know.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl, we would go shopping, would we not? Oh my God. Flannel.

[Fortune Feimster]

This is us being straigh.

[Tig Notaro]

This is us going through the shopping mall.

[Fortune Feimster]

It's us being straight ladies. Look at that flannel.

[May Martin]

Girl.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl, look at those hiking boots. Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

Wait, what was our questions?

[Tig Notaro]

How are you?

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm good.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. How's life on the golf course?

[Fortune Feimster]

Life on the golf course is great. I'm actually losing weight on this show because I'm walking so much on these golf courses and I'm, you know, play Will's caddy.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

So I have this giant golf bag and they want it to look realistic. So everything is full. I'm like, can we not put these fake clubs in here?

[May Martin]

Yeah, surely.

[Fortune Feimster]

No, it is all.

[May Martin]

That's crazy.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girl. Girl, it is loaded.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh my God. And Will won't help you.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, isn't this Will help me?

[Tig Notaro]

Isn't this an improv show? Because couldn't you improv that you're car character always tries to give Will the bag?

[Fortune Feimster]

No. Part of it is that I'm not. I don't know anything about golf and I'm always like handing the wrong clubs. That's funny.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

But also I like being on set because the. Because of the food is. Because it's healthier than I would have at home.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really? Mine's where I'm like snacking way more on set, but somehow I'm losing weight because I'm getting way more steps then.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

How many steps are you getting in on the golf course there, girl?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, girl. I'm probably averaging like 12,000.

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Girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

And the day I moved.

[Tig Notaro]

Don't overdo it, girl. Yeah, the new house.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah, the new. I am in a new place. It's great.

[May Martin]

You feel a girl.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl, tell us, have you hung up.

[May Martin]

All your fairy lights and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, I'm still getting it. I'm situated. I'm still unpacking. But I like it because it reminds me of my house that I owned for many years. It's just a little bigger, but it's so manageable.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Smaller than the old place.

[Fortune Feimster]

Always smaller.

[May Martin]

You go in, you feel like I know where everything.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah. It's one story. It's just. It's just easy.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And that's what I wanted to get back to was just like, I didn't want this massive thing.

[Tig Notaro]

Palace. You were tired of living in that palace.

[May Martin]

Girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

That. It just feels easier. So I like that because I just don't have to worry about a house and a bunch of rooms and furniture. I still have to.

[Tig Notaro]

12 bedrooms.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I still have to buy like a dining room table and, you know, I still need furniture.

[May Martin]

There's empty.

[Fortune Feimster]

One empty bedroom. And were you.

[Tig Notaro]

Were you ever at a point in life or when you were furnishing your apartment, you use like a card table as for.

[Fortune Feimster]

Sure.

[May Martin]

100%.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh.

[May Martin]

And just stuff I would find on the street, like. Yeah, completely.

[Tig Notaro]

My ex drug a couch home full of scabies. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. I mean, you do what you can in those days, but, I mean, I.

[May Martin]

Slept with a sleeping bag. Like, I. I just didn't want to spend my money on bedding, I guess. So when I got kicked out and I was 16, I brought my. I had my sleeping bag with me and then I didn't get an. I mean, I. Until I was 21, probably. And I was just sleeping in a sleeping bag with no. Like, on a mattress, but with no sheets or. It was very comforting. I was like. It's.

[Tig Notaro]

That was kind of like my father's living arrangement. Like, he had a card table and just loose change all over it and a mattress on the floor.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You know? Yeah.

[May Martin]

But it's. There's something comforting about it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is there?

[May Martin]

I don't know, actually.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Why would you say that?

[May Martin]

Well, I'm.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm trying to remember days.

[May Martin]

I was very attached to that sleeping bag.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

Oh, sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because I was like the thing you had.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

With you.

[May Martin]

Yeah. And a little duffel bag.

[Fortune Feimster]

It'll be cool once I get this place kind of just all sorted out. But right now it's like curtains don't come for a minute still.

[May Martin]

Yeah. You move and you get excited. You go online, buy stuff, and then you don't realize it's like, delivery April 2026.

[Tig Notaro]

So people are like peeking, seeing you run around your scams.

[Fortune Feimster]

The back. The back of the house is open. The rest. I have some blinds in the front, kid.

[May Martin]

But yeah, just the raccoons are getting a glimpse of your little naked bum. As you run from the shadow, do.

[Tig Notaro]

You walk around naked?

[Fortune Feimster]

Not full naked, no.

[Tig Notaro]

But like, what?

[Fortune Feimster]

But, like, there's no panties, granny panties.

[Tig Notaro]

Just a shirt, no pants, flannel T.

[Fortune Feimster]

Shirt, sports bra, no pants, shirt, no pants. Is that the Porky Pig? So, yeah, everything's. Everything's good. It's just. Yeah. Kind of just living life right now.

[May Martin]

You haven't spent much time in the house. You're always away.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, that's the thing, is this show came so out of nowhere.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And it happened. Like, they hired me, and then we're like, we're filming in two weeks, and I'm just like, oh, my God.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I had this full tour schedule, so I had to reschedule a number of shows. Because with the golf courses, they're like, we can't, like, work around this. This is when this golf course is available.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

This is when we have to film.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

And a lot.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, golf is important. Like, they can't shift schedules.

[Fortune Feimster]

No, it was. A lot of the times were Friday nights, and I was like, oh. So I had to reschedule these shows, which I hate doing. And somehow I've managed not to have to reschedule many shows, but it was just such a quick turnaround that I am. I didn't want to also reschedule the Saturday shows.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because those were, like, big theaters, like the Chicago theater and all these places that take a long time to, like, a year ahead. So I'm filming a lot of nights on Fridays to, like, 2 in the morning and then getting on a 6am flight. Girl and girl. Yeah. So I can't really catch up right now, but it's all good stuff. Yeah. I. I really don't have any, like, ugh about it.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because I'm loving all the things I'm doing.

[May Martin]

And Tig, Stephanie's still away. You're still solo.

[Tig Notaro]

Stephanie's away. How are you feeling being a movie star? Yeah, I'm feeling good. I'm like. It's so funny. I'm like, as I told you, like, really into staying on top of things. Because whatever. The house police might come by and.

[May Martin]

Oh, yeah, See if I have. I love that.

[Tig Notaro]

Make sure the laundry's done.

[May Martin]

Just to come and check and just.

[Tig Notaro]

Make sure, like, everything in order. And, like, I feel like if they went through and checked everything's in order. You know, we got food, clean clothes put away and beds made.

[May Martin]

And Lisa Gilroy does the thing where she pretends to be her own assistant. So she'll go. She'll go, okay. In her mind, I'm going out and my assistant's coming over just to really get stuff done. So I hope my assistant does a good job. Then she'll leave the house, go back in as the assistant. Be like, gotta get the work done for two hours.

[Tig Notaro]

And then that's mental illness. I saw this.

[Fortune Feimster]

Cute. That's.

[May Martin]

Oh, she said she saw you.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, she. I was walked by a restaurant. I think I was with Max and Finn, and I saw her in there having.

[Fortune Feimster]

Was it her or her.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl? Girl. But, yeah, Stephanie's just having the time of her life.

[May Martin]

So. Good.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, it's so nice just to know that it's been a really positive experience.

[May Martin]

That time difference is annoying because I have a lot of friends in England, and it's. Yeah. Eight hours ahead. Or seven.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, eight hours.

[May Martin]

So are you FaceTiming with the boys when you can? And.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, they'll. They'll do that on their iPads. Because they're allowed to be on iPads in the mornings.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Before their day starts. And then no more for the day.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

But they'll. They'll FaceTime her. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like on their own accord. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And. But Finn is. He's so. He's type A, you know, he'll come in, maybe. I told you this. I was in bed. It was 6:45. Did I mention this?

[Fortune Feimster]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

This is like two weeks in.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And he goes, Mayor, it's 6:45. I'm making my breakfast, Max hasn't eaten, and we have to be out of the door at 7:40. And I was lying in bed. I go. I was like, thank you, Finn. Thanks for the reminder. And he's like, okay. And. And then he leaves. And two days ago, I was on a zoom with my. I do 7am Zoom with my therapist.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And so I'm on with her, and then she sees me look over, and she's like, oh, did somebody walk in? I said, yeah, hold on one second. What is it, Finn? He goes, just wanted to remind you, today we have swim, so just have to make sure you get our swimsuits in the bag. And I was like, he's so funny. We really have the odd couple between the two of them, you know? But it is such a delight to be. When I told my therapist, I go, oh, my son, he's very like. He loves his schedule.

[Fortune Feimster]

He loves his schedule.

[Tig Notaro]

And I said, but I feel like I've been holding down the fort pretty well. And she said, well, it sounds like you would have no other choice with Finn. In the house.

[Fortune Feimster]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Tig Notaro]

But yeah, we went out to dinner. I took them, surprise them, picked them up from school, and we went to dinner. And then they were like, can we go for ice cream after? And I would have normally been like, it's a school night. But I was like, yeah, let's go for ice cream.

[Fortune Feimster]

Aww.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And we just had so much fun just laughing at dinner. And it just. It was. It was just. It was fun. That's what I've been up to.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love that.

[May Martin]

That's really nice. Yeah, I like that.

[Fortune Feimster]

Aw.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, they're cool.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm going to the Cheesecake Factory tonight. I don't want either of you to be jealous.

[May Martin]

I am jealous.

[Fortune Feimster]

Bury the lead. I know. Sorry I didn't tell you that sooner.

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[Tig Notaro]

They have great vegan options, by the way. They do.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'll check it out. I won't order it, but I'll check it out.

[Tig Notaro]

Guys, regular spaghetti and a salad. That's vegan. If you don't put cheese on. I love you too. But when I'm touring, Cheesecake Factory is. Is a place that I. I can rely on. I love that.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm going with my friends. Zach Noe Towers, he's a very funny comedian. He listens to Handsome shout out. Zach. Hey, Zach. He opens for me quite a bit. And then Taylor Tomlinson, who has also asks a question on the handsome pod.

[Tig Notaro]

The three of you are going to the Cheesecake.

[Fortune Feimster]

The three of us have a friend.

[Tig Notaro]

Date and why the Cheesecake Factory?

[Fortune Feimster]

That's what Zach picks. And we do love the Cheesecake Factory.

[Tig Notaro]

And is he. Was he. He loves, like, not ironically. Nobody's ironically going.

[Fortune Feimster]

We are going for the genuine love of the Cheesecake Factory.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, I love that.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm stoked.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

My favorite thing is, like, going to see a movie at the Grove or something and going to a Cheesecake Factory before by yourself. Yeah, sometimes I'll.

[Tig Notaro]

You'll go to a movie and then take yourself out for a treat at the.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I think I have probably done that. I'll take my little notebook. I'll write.

[Fortune Feimster]

We're going to that Cheesecake Factory at the Grove at the Grove. And Taylor wants us to get the seat that allows us to look at the people going into the movie theater. Oh, yeah, that's.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, is that what she wants?

[Fortune Feimster]

That is her one request. My one request is to order cheesecake, and I will do that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, you will, girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

I want to get that. That peanut butter one.

[May Martin]

Oh, yeah, that's what I'd go for. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

How many different cheesecakes do they have?

[Fortune Feimster]

Like 40, right?

[Tig Notaro]

I don't know. This is not a paid sponsorship.

[Fortune Feimster]

We are not getting paid about Cheesecake Factory.

[Tig Notaro]

We're not just casually talking about the cheesecake.

[Fortune Feimster]

But I do like a chain restaurant in general.

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Do you?

[Fortune Feimster]

I love chili.

[May Martin]

I. I like. Maybe it's a. Because I got a touch of the tism. I'm like. I like the rigidity. I like knowing what to expect. I like. I know what I'm gonna get.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Am I allowed to say touch of the tism?

[Fortune Feimster]

Honestly, I don't know.

[May Martin]

Okay. I think I'm allowed to own it, but it's self diagnosed, so I don't know.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, you're self diagnosed.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Would you ever want to get to the bottom of it for real?

[May Martin]

Well, it happened because so many people.

[Tig Notaro]

We know you love to get to the bottom of things.

[May Martin]

I love to get to the bottom.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is that a sexual joke, girl?

[Tig Notaro]

No, girl.

[May Martin]

Although, you know, actually, girl, Marie, I did. Speaking of sexual things, I did. Well, I did just remember about 20 minutes ago, and my stomach dropped. That. So when I got back from the retreat, I walk in my door, girls, and I find a. And I find I'd forgotten that I'd ordered a bunch of, like, BDSM stuff. Like, tons.

[Fortune Feimster]

What is that? Wait, what. What does BDSM stand for?

[Tig Notaro]

Bad.

[Fortune Feimster]

But dominance.

[May Martin]

Something. Something sadomasochism.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right. Oh, like, you know, weapons. Not like, just. Well, anyway, can you tell us a couple of the things? Okay, this is what our listeners tune in for, because.

[May Martin]

Yeah, it takes. Plug in her ears.

[Fortune Feimster]

Grandma.

[Tig Notaro]

Grandma Marie.

[Fortune Feimster]

Whips, Chains. Well, handcuffs.

[May Martin]

I had, like, a sesh in mind that I'm planning, and so I sesh.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, like that you're gonna do this with someone.

[May Martin]

So there's like, there's like, leather stuff. That kind of leather stuff attaches the person's wrist to their.

[Tig Notaro]

Wait, the leather part is what threw you?

[Fortune Feimster]

Fortune. True.

[Tig Notaro]

Good point.

[Fortune Feimster]

Leather.

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[May Martin]

There's like, bondage stuff, and then there's some. There's. There's like, some pretty weird stuff, you know?

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

I just got excited.

[Fortune Feimster]

You were in a place.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah. So I get back from my very pure, wholesome retreat, and I've got basically a whole dungeon waiting for me in this.

[Tig Notaro]

Plus dogs.

[May Martin]

This is. Yeah. And a harness for the hot dogs. Oh, that was. Cut that out. This says, okay, but it was like a fridge sized box of stuff. And then I've just 20 minutes ago remembered that my cleaner is coming today. This poor woman. And I've. I have unboxed and it's sitting there in my fucking bedroom. Oh, my God. She is the sweetest, purest woman. And I've. I forgot to hide it.

[Tig Notaro]

She thinks it's a Halloween costume.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah, that's a good one. When she.

[May Martin]

When you're some of this stuff. I don't know.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, you'll go home and she'll be there and you'll just like, I can't wait for Halloween.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah, that's true.

[Fortune Feimster]

You have to play until I go, did my package come?

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Oh.

[Tig Notaro]

And then you'll be like, this is all the wrong stuff.

[May Martin]

This is not what I ordered.

[Tig Notaro]

I did not. Oh, my gosh.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

Problem solved.

[Fortune Feimster]

Little Bo Peep.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Little Bo Peep.

[Tig Notaro]

Peekaboo.

[May Martin]

Oh, God.

[Tig Notaro]

You know what I wanted to ask you now? I told you, Stephanie and I are waiting till she gets home to bondage to watch to Girl Marie.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girl Marie.

[May Martin]

Girl Marie.

[Tig Notaro]

To watch Wayward.

[May Martin]

Okay. Okay, thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you for waiting, but you mentioned that there is some crazy sex scene. Here is my question.

[May Martin]

Have you got there yet?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah.

[May Martin]

Have you? Shit.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, wait, have I. You'd not have six.

[May Martin]

Yeah, you have. Yeah.

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Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I didn't know if it was getting even steamier at some point.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay. But something happened where you're like, okay. How do you feel about your parents seeing that?

[May Martin]

Oh, well, I asked them if they'd watched. I mean, to be honest, my parents have not acknowledged to me that they've watched or finished the show.

[Tig Notaro]

They have, by the way.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my mom watched it.

[May Martin]

Ginger watched it, and I forgot.

[Fortune Feimster]

Ginger said to tell you that she watched it and you did a great job.

[May Martin]

Oh, Ginger.

[Fortune Feimster]

And Ginger's very proud of you.

[Tig Notaro]

Classic Ginger.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. She was like, I watch Wayward. You have to tell May. I watched it. It was great. May did a great job. Do you know what?

[Tig Notaro]

Your mother is the perfect example of when people are older and they say, you know, I was once young, too. I'm that same person. I'm just older. You think that it's like this crazy concept that an older person is going to take something in or have, have an awareness. Like, you're just like, I can't move. That's why I was asking, like, with. But the fact that Ginger isn't, like, clutching her pearls. She's like, yeah, just like, tell me What a great job. And that's amazing.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I should have followed up with. What'd you think about? I didn't. Clearly. My mom didn't think twice about it.

[May Martin]

I know my parents are, like, slowly watching it, I think. And I said, did you. Were you. My mom said that she watched that scene, like, with her hands over her eyes. So I. Which is good, I think.

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And what about your brother?

[Tig Notaro]

How do you feel about that?

[May Martin]

I don't. I'm not specifically. I had to put that out of my mind on the thing.

[Tig Notaro]

Bring it back in.

[May Martin]

Oh, God.

[Tig Notaro]

Your family is watching.

[May Martin]

It's very weird, but it's. It's almost weirder that a bunch of strangers have seen what I look like getting railed. Like, that's. That's weirder than, like, I don't know.

[Fortune Feimster]

But you are naked and feel good quite a bit, right?

[Tig Notaro]

Or not.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Once you're close, you're naked right.

[Tig Notaro]

Now, that's what our listeners don't realize. Is May sitting here completely naked and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Flexing weirdly tied up?

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, I'm doing the tie in.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, you're doing the.

[May Martin]

Doing the time.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're the dominator.

[Tig Notaro]

You wouldn't want to be tied.

[May Martin]

Sure, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

What is that called? A domineering person Dominate. You're the dominatri.

[Tig Notaro]

People don't pause after Dhamma.

[Fortune Feimster]

You have to be the one that.

[May Martin]

I think I'm a switch your mouth.

[Fortune Feimster]

You shut your mouth or I'm handcuffing you.

[May Martin]

This is a new character.

[Fortune Feimster]

If you don't. If you don't do what I say, I'm gonna tie you up.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is it like that? I wonder if I. I wonder if.

[Tig Notaro]

I could do have to start a D business. A D business.

[Fortune Feimster]

Take that. Ha ha.

[Tig Notaro]

How that feel?

[Kate Micucci]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're going to take that and like it.

[May Martin]

I mean, it's not bad.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay, I'll work on it. Can. What. What are you. You're just like, oh, my God.

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I don't know.

[May Martin]

I turn into, like.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is it.

[May Martin]

You know what it is? A lot of like.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yes. I don't know exactly. What.

[Tig Notaro]

Like under your breath, I kind of.

[Fortune Feimster]

Your voice gets mumbling. No, I don't know.

[May Martin]

I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

I love when May pulls back.

[May Martin]

It's like, no, I don't know.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know.

[May Martin]

I don't know. I just.

[Fortune Feimster]

You clearly channel something. You go into a different.

[May Martin]

I go into an altered state.

[Fortune Feimster]

Exactly.

[May Martin]

Comes very naturally.

[Fortune Feimster]

And we don't. Oh, so you're real good at it.

[May Martin]

Well, I liked it because there's something nice about, like. Like, if you're really going to town on someone, you're doing it for their pleasure. So you're almost bottoming from the top. Like, you're. You're working hard. You're putting on a show for this person, and it's. There's a nice. I. I like it. I like both sides of it. I'm into. Yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're bottoming from the top.

[Tig Notaro]

I do Fortune camp. Hold on. Give Fortune a minute.

[Fortune Feimster]

So you're. But you're not taking it. You're giving it.

[May Martin]

I just mean. I just mean you're in service.

[Fortune Feimster]

Topping from the bottom.

[Tig Notaro]

No, bottoming from.

[May Martin]

You can top from the bottom.

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The top.

[Fortune Feimster]

From the bottom.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm not good enough at math to know what we're talking about or what's happening, but I wish you and whoever's getting this, whoever's getting railed.

[Fortune Feimster]

We wish you guys the best.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you. Yes. But you got it.

[May Martin]

You gotta have a sense of humor about it all. Like, that's.

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[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You.

[Fortune Feimster]

We are currently laughing about it.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

True.

[May Martin]

You got to.

[Fortune Feimster]

You got to.

[May Martin]

You got to.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just like that you're open about it. I think it's great.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Sex positive.

[May Martin]

I'm sex positive. Well, you know, life is short.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't think I want someone talking like. I don't like people being mean to me.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't think it's my thing.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

That's fair.

[Fortune Feimster]

Even in a sexual way. Yeah.

[May Martin]

I don't know that I like people being mean to me.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't mind the dirty talk stuff.

[Tig Notaro]

What do you mean you don't mind it or you like it?

[Fortune Feimster]

I like it. I don't. I. Yeah, you like it. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

We got from. I don't mind it.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't want to be, like, handcuffed.

[May Martin]

Okay. Okay. Yeah, but you could be handcuffed. Very kindly, maybe.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, I've. No one's done it.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Make it a crime.

[Fortune Feimster]

So maybe I just don't know if I like it.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Making.

[Fortune Feimster]

We got nothing to be guilty of. I love you guys.

[May Martin]

Making eye contact while seeing that.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know the rest of the word.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I do.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just know. Shadows falling we stand alone. Did you guys see everybody?

[May Martin]

We need to listen to that.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, we. I thought you were saying we. We ought to get Barbra Streisand. We know you're listening. Please send in your video.

[May Martin]

I mean, we gotta get Bette Midler. Did you See her on Colbert. She on Stephen Colbert. She sang. She was like, I haven't sung in years. But she sang the thank you. Thank God for you. Then what she said. But she rewrote the lyrics for Stephen Colbert. It was stunning. God, she's good.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love the divine Ms. M. The.

[May Martin]

Divine Ms. M. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I've never met her. I would like to meet her as well.

[May Martin]

I know. I. I mean, if we got a question from her.

[Tig Notaro]

I always had some sort of event, I think like a memorial, I think, actually now that I'm saying it, for Gary Marshall.

[May Martin]

Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

And Bette Midler was somebody that sang at his memorial. Yeah. And Stephanie and I. I mean, I love Bette Midler, but Stephanie is like, really a big, big Bette Medler fan.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

And so we were sitting there and then Bette came out and Stephanie was like, oh, my God, I would die.

[May Martin]

I would die. I saw her on. On Broadway in hello Dolly.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, I wanted to see that.

[May Martin]

It was crazy. She got a standing O for walking out on stage.

[Fortune Feimster]

I regret that I. I was in New York when she was doing it. I regret not just like paying a million dol ticket.

[May Martin]

It was incredible.

[Tig Notaro]

Speaking of hello Dolly. Hello Dolly. Parton man, you know, gave us a scare. She gave us a scare.

[May Martin]

What happened?

[Tig Notaro]

She had some health issues.

[Fortune Feimster]

Pray for her. And everyone was like, what's happening?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I can't be there.

[Fortune Feimster]

She didn't she tweet like, or whatever it is. I'm not dead yet.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, yeah, and she's also dead yet. Yeah, dead yet. But she's been in the middle of doing her Broadway play.

[May Martin]

Oh, really?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

A like a bio and she's like.

[Tig Notaro]

I think writing, producing. She's been there every day. My friend Beth Malone, who listens to the podcast Shout Out. Beth, who is the star of Fun Home. Oh, yeah, yeah. She. She's working on that.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

With Dolly.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's awesome.

[May Martin]

That's wild.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

The ring of keys. I don't know how it goes, but.

[Tig Notaro]

Clearly.

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[Fortune Feimster]

Season because I know they are going.

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

I'm getting a jump start on getting ready for the holidays. So I used Wayfair to get a Christmas wreath with pine cones and red berries. It looks so festive on my door. I'm excited about it and I also picked up some old fashioned multicolored Christmas string lights that are going to look good on the tree. Not to mention I got fast and free shipping on all my items. Wayfair has a huge selection of home goods and furniture with something for every style this holiday season I'm recommending Wayfair to everyone.

[Tig Notaro]

May, this is wonderful.

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That.

[Fortune Feimster]

That age group of women I'm such a huge fan of. Like, just with Diane Keaton, it made me go, oh, man, we're entering into that phase where of our favorite group of women will start dying.

[May Martin]

Oh, God.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I know that's.

[Tig Notaro]

So. I have something to tell you that will. Absolutely.

[Fortune Feimster]

Everyone's gonna die. I get it.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, okay.

[Tig Notaro]

No, I have something that I talked to Stephanie about yesterday that I realized. I said, people would not believe this if I told them, and she was like, probably not. I've never seen Diane Keaton in anything.

[Fortune Feimster]

I can't.

[Tig Notaro]

Don't touch me.

[May Martin]

This can't be real. The Godfather.

[Tig Notaro]

No, I've never seen it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Diane Keaton.

[Tig Notaro]

I've never seen.

[Fortune Feimster]

It was a national treasure.

[Tig Notaro]

I've met her.

[May Martin]

Father of the bride. Father of the bride.

[Tig Notaro]

I didn't see Father.

[Fortune Feimster]

The Family Stone.

[May Martin]

As Good as it Gets.

[Fortune Feimster]

I like SOB at that movie.

[May Martin]

That movie.

[Fortune Feimster]

As Good as it Gets.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[May Martin]

I am so glad that I got to meet her once at Lisa Kudrow's birthday party, and I'm like, was she.

[Fortune Feimster]

As dynamic as she seemed?

[May Martin]

Yes. And she was so Diane Keaton. And she was quirky, funny, and she had a turtleneck and a glass of wine and gloves and glasses and a hat. And I was like, this is what I want.

[Fortune Feimster]

I had a chance to do a movie with her a couple years ago, and I just couldn't. They wanted me to fly out four to five different times, and I was on tour, and I was like, I want to do this just to be around her.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just couldn't. I never got to meet her. And I. I was genuinely bummed when she passed.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Just because she just does represent an era of not only movies, but women and just, like, interesting. An interesting person.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Very interesting. Yeah. Yeah. Would you. Would you do a little Diane Keaton film fest?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, that's what Stephanie was saying. She was like, there's certain ones. She was like, you just really have to see herself make life better type thing.

[Fortune Feimster]

So fun to watch.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. That's what she said. And she just really was talking about how she kind of personifies being yourself is what is the most powerful thing. And how this woman bursts Onto the scene, basically dressing like a man.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And having her own style and her own everything.

[May Martin]

Even the way she speaks is so unique. And she's kind of herself in everything. Like a version of herself, but so authentic and. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Anyway, I just wanted to annoy you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

But I do think it's very sad. Of course. And I do want to. I hope Dolly hangs in there.

[May Martin]

Oh, gosh.

[Fortune Feimster]

We need her around for a long time.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Nobody's prepared for that.

[Fortune Feimster]

No.

[May Martin]

I wonder if I scrape. Like, that's just scratching the surface. I feel of things that you haven't seen that I just assume that you have.

[Fortune Feimster]

I know there's gonna be a lot.

[May Martin]

There's gonna be things, I think, that would make me so shocked.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And it's no offense to anybody.

[May Martin]

No. I'm like, you're living your life.

[Tig Notaro]

I just was doing something else, I guess.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Have you seen any of the Scream movies?

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[Fortune Feimster]

That does not seem like something Tig, even now, is gonna want.

[Tig Notaro]

Can I tell you something that made Stephanie laugh so hard? I'm going to do press, you know, for this documentary we've heard of press. Sure.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And I'm going to be doing Drew Barrymore. Okay.

[May Martin]

I'm doing it next week.

[Tig Notaro]

Me, too.

[Fortune Feimster]

She will talk very.

[May Martin]

And Kelly Clarkson.

[Tig Notaro]

What day are you?

[May Martin]

22Nd.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my God. I don't. We're gonna be in New York at the same time. Yes. Yes. Listen to.

[May Martin]

We gotta hit up.

[Fortune Feimster]

We gotta hit up New York together. Listen, we'll talk like this to you.

[May Martin]

Thank God.

[Fortune Feimster]

I know. She's the best.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm talking to Stephanie. I'm talking to Drew.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my God, I tried to do yours. And I just like, no, I want to kiss your hand. Oh, my gosh.

[Tig Notaro]

Fortune. Stephanie might be out of town, but she's going to find out.

[May Martin]

She's going to see this.

[Tig Notaro]

But so I'm talking to the producer before my appearance, and the producer just casually says, and also, Valerie Bertinelli will be in the news segment with you. And I go, valerie Bertinelli. And I was telling Stephanie. I was like, oh, my gosh. I'm so excited. Valerie Bertinelli. And Stephanie was like. She goes, valerie Bertinelli was on the sitcom One Day at a Time and was married to Eddie Van Halen.

[May Martin]

Oh, this is your.

[Tig Notaro]

This is my wheelhouse.

[Fortune Feimster]

70S and rock and roll. I did a segment with her on Kelly Clarkson. She's lovely.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay. Well, I was just like, oh, my gosh. And Stephanie was like, so you've never seen Diane Keaton in anything. And she's like. But, like, you're like, thoroughly familiar with Valerie Bertinelli. She's like, I can't track what.

[May Martin]

It's pretty random.

[Tig Notaro]

She was in my wheelhouse of the 70s and was married to my favorite rock and roll star.

[May Martin]

I will say Diane Keaton. Very 70s as well.

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Absolutely.

[Tig Notaro]

That's what I'm saying. But Valerie also had the connection of rock and roll music.

[Fortune Feimster]

That was the thread that.

[May Martin]

The fact that, you know, Pitbull and these people is so cool.

[Tig Notaro]

I forgot music and documentaries. That's where.

[May Martin]

Yeah, that's where. I can't believe we're both doing Drew Barrymore next week.

[Tig Notaro]

That's.

[Fortune Feimster]

Aww.

[May Martin]

I'm so nervous. I never met her.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, she's the best.

[Fortune Feimster]

She's.

[Tig Notaro]

You're going to. And here's the thing. And I'm not entirely convinced she's not in love with me. But you will think that she's in love with me.

[May Martin]

Dangerous quality.

[Tig Notaro]

Anytime I see her interact, it's like she'll be in my face. I'm like, this woman is in love with me. And then the. And then the PA walks up and it's like, drew, do you want, you know, pineapple, whatever? And she treats this. The PA the exact same.

[May Martin]

But then I'm like, for you to remind me of this.

[Tig Notaro]

She's in love with me.

[Fortune Feimster]

And she did say recently she. She's bisexual, I believe.

[May Martin]

I think she's always been.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Pretty true. So you never know. I mean, not for you. You're taken. You've made that very clear.

[Tig Notaro]

Anyway, you will love her and you will think she's in love with you. And she probably. I think she's in love with me.

[Fortune Feimster]

You and the pa and you and me too. Thank you.

[May Martin]

She just has love flowing out of her.

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And then.

[May Martin]

Kelly. Oh, my God. Of course.

[Fortune Feimster]

We're obsessed with her. She's asked the hands. Well, both of them have asked the handsome pod question.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Though. I'm excited.

[Tig Notaro]

We'll have to party. Are you doing Colbert?

[May Martin]

No, I wish. I haven't done Seth Meyers. I'd love to do Seth Meyers, but no, I think just those two.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I wish. I'll party.

[May Martin]

Come, girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

They've.

[May Martin]

I've.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm supposed to do it for. I'm in Zootopia too. As a beaver.

[May Martin]

Wait, we're supposed to reveal that. So are we.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, it's coming out soon. As of this airing, the premiere's in like two days.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

Yes.

[May Martin]

Yes. Are you gonna go?

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm trying to. If we're trying to get me off.

[May Martin]

Work, we gotta go because our scene.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't know if I'm gonna be back from Toronto yet. Oh, girl. Don't, girl. Don't, girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

Isn't that fun, though? The handsome pots in Zootopia, that is.

[May Martin]

We're in a prison cell and the three of us. No, you and me. And you're my cellmate, and you're bouncing me off the wall, and I'm a gerbil.

[Fortune Feimster]

Don't give away the things.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I didn't know it was you. Now nobody's gonna go see the movie. Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

What a spoiler.

[May Martin]

But I've never done a. I've never been in a movie.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I'm a beaver.

[May Martin]

You're a beaver, I'm a gerbil, and you're a bear, I think.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't know.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Fortune Feimster]

Dig, Dig.

[May Martin]

But I go in and I'm doing my lines. And then I said, so who's playing my cellmate? And they went, take Notaro. Actually, I was like, you're joking.

[Tig Notaro]

And you know what is so insane is I recorded that in Boulder right before I went over to Andrea's house.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

So when you're listening to my character, which is pure insanity.

[May Martin]

Y.

[Tig Notaro]

Like, I lost my voice trying to do this. Then I went over to be with Andrea in Andrea's final days.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my God.

[May Martin]

Her job is so weird.

[Tig Notaro]

It's so bizarre.

[May Martin]

Our job is so.

[Fortune Feimster]

It comes out Thanksgiving weekend.

[May Martin]

I can't wait.

[Fortune Feimster]

It's soon.

[May Martin]

That'll be the first time I've ever been in a movie that's in.

[Fortune Feimster]

The first time I've ever been.

[May Martin]

Did I say that weird?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, not for where you come from, but nobody in North Carolina or Mississippi.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, listen, we say things weird all day.

[May Martin]

What would you say? Time I ever been there.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

First time I ever been there.

[Fortune Feimster]

This is our dynamic.

[Tig Notaro]

But Bean makes more sense since there's two E's.

[May Martin]

Yeah. First time I ever been.

[Tig Notaro]

Should we get to our question? Today's question asker is first and foremost one of my dearest, dearest friends. I love her. She's an actor, comedian, and one half of the comedy duo Garfunkel and Oates. She has appeared in movies like Don't Think Twice and the Little Hours and TV shows like the Big Bang Theory and Raising Hope. Kate Maccucci is asking today's question.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, I love Kate's last name because it talks about Makuchi.

[Tig Notaro]

Let's get to the question.

[Kate Micucci]

Hi, handsome.

[May Martin]

Hi, Tig.

[Kate Micucci]

Hi, Fortune. Hi, May. I love you. It's me, Kate Micucci. Or as Fortune likes to call me, Kate. Kate McCooch. My coochie Kate. My coochie Kate McCuder. Cooter. I don't. Whatever you want to call me.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Kate Micucci]

I love all the names. Anyway, I have a question for you, so here goes. What is a lie that you were told when you were a kid that you believed for way too long? So it might have been something that, you know, someone told you or something you saw in a movie or a TV show that you believed to be true for, like, way, way, way, way, way too long. And then maybe when you were older, you were like, what? That's not. That's not real. I'm a very gullible person, so I have a bunch of these, but I wondered. Wondered what years are. All right, thanks, everybody. I'll be back later.

[Fortune Feimster]

Thanks, Kate McCooch.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you.

[Fortune Feimster]

MacCooter. Macuter. Cooch. Macuder.

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Cooch.

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, Kate has the best last name ever. You have to admit that.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, Kate's a great name, too. What's wrong with her first name? Why are you being so hard on her first name? Well, I have to just. I mean, right away. What I was told as a child that I believed way too long, I think, is. Is you'll be safe. We'll take care of you. Everything's going to be okay. Don't worry.

[Fortune Feimster]

We got this.

[May Martin]

You held on to that.

[Tig Notaro]

I held on to it my whole childhood, just waiting.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. When's this happening? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's a good one. Where you told me real. I don't think they even tried to tell me that.

[Tig Notaro]

I would say the first thing that comes to mind is I remember I was told at Christmas time that there were elves jumping from branch to branch. And I was always. I was like, where? And they'd be like, oh, you just missed it. Just.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, you almost missed.

[Tig Notaro]

Just missed it. I just missed it. And I was just desperate to see these elves that were jumping around my Christmas tree.

[May Martin]

And you just accept it as fact because why would someone say that? So you're just.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, Santa was coming, too. I believe that. I believe there were.

[Fortune Feimster]

I did believe the Santa lie for a long time.

[Tig Notaro]

Also, I don't know if you were. When you put snacks out for Santa, did you. Also, it was for the reindeer, too. And so what Santa. Because they leave, like, little crumbs, cookies.

[Fortune Feimster]

And milk for Santa, a carrot for the reindeer.

[Tig Notaro]

Right. But you see that the reindeer of Eden has eaten.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

Right?

[Tig Notaro]

So there's little nibble. So what, the reindeer are also in your house? Or Santa brings it out, feeds the reindeer, and then puts the carrot back.

[May Martin]

But there's a. I mean, once you start picking it apart, there's a lot of logic box.

[Fortune Feimster]

I know. I think you just. The carrot fly, he comes down a chimney. Well, I think the parents need to just start taking the carrot fully away.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I think you're right. That's a good.

[Tig Notaro]

Why the parents. When it's Santa doing it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay, okay.

[May Martin]

I was never allowed to believe in Santa. My mom was so adamant that they weren't gonna lie to us. And so I was like, oh, if.

[Tig Notaro]

You have kids, turn the podcast off.

[May Martin]

Turn the podcast off.

[Tig Notaro]

3 minutes ago.

[May Martin]

3 minutes ago.

[Fortune Feimster]

Spoiler alert.

[May Martin]

But she said there is no Santa Claus. But it's really fun to pretend. So I would still, like, leave out snacks. But I did. I was pretty depressed and I would tell kids, kids that there was no Santa.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, you were that one. There's always the one that had to let everybody else know.

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But there was one. There's one lie. And then I've talked about this in a stand up special. I don't know if I've talked about it on the pod, but that I still to this day don't know if it's true. And it. It drove me very nuts that my parents would always tell us and they swore it was true that in the 90s that they were. Were driving through the forest and they drove underneath a moose.

[Fortune Feimster]

A moose. Yeah.

[May Martin]

Yeah. And they swore that the car clean passed through under its legs and it. My brother and I would become like, incensed and irate.

[Fortune Feimster]

We'd be like.

[May Martin]

Yeah. And then did all the math. Googled the height of a Toyota Tercel, Googled the largest ever recorded moose, even a big one.

[Fortune Feimster]

That still doesn't seem possible.

[May Martin]

This is the infuriating thing, is it could just have happened. Like, if it happened to be the biggest ever moose ever recorded, it could just have happened. So. And they stand by to this day. They're like, yep.

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And they're both.

[Fortune Feimster]

And they're both in on it.

[May Martin]

So they have a twinkle in their eye when they say it, but they. They won't let it go. So I still don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, you know what? My mother also told me I got stuck in the toilet when I. That I fell in the toilet and she had to call the plumber to get me out. And I don't think that's true.

[May Martin]

She said when you were a baby.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I think it was like, little joke that she kept going where I'd be like, what do you mean? I get stuck in the toilet, you know? And then when I was older, I was like, I didn't get stuck in the toilet.

[May Martin]

You should write a children's book about a baby who's stuck in the toilet, gets flushed down and makes friends.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I. Apparently, I'll do that.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, put that on my list.

[May Martin]

Thomas.

[Tig Notaro]

Put that on my list.

[May Martin]

Toilet, baby.

[Tig Notaro]

Also, maybe, maybe to alert parents if their kids are listening. Also, they should have shut it off when you were talking about.

[May Martin]

Oh, the bds.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

But anyway, what were you gonna say? Fortune.

[Fortune Feimster]

Apparently I held onto my paci pacifier. Aww.

[Tig Notaro]

Say again?

[Fortune Feimster]

My passy. For many years. Like long past when you were supposed to. But it was starting to create a little gap in my front teeth. So the dentist told my mom that they had to get rid of this pacifier, that I was way too old to be sucking on this thing. And so one day it just disappeared. And my mom always told me for years that it just like got lost or something like that and they didn't know what happened to it. And then finally she admitted when I was older that she. She threw it out. Like, threw it out the window of the window.

[Tig Notaro]

She littered.

[Fortune Feimster]

She littered. Ginger was driving after the dinners and just tossed it out the window.

[May Martin]

Ginger Marie time.

[Fortune Feimster]

She was like, yeah, that was a big one. And then this one's kind of embarrassing. Let's hear it. My mom would call my mom. I don't know if this. This isn't a lie. It's just more of like a random non truth thing that she named something because she was too embarrassed to just use the anatomy terms.

[May Martin]

Here we go.

[Fortune Feimster]

She would call the COVID your children's ear.

[Tig Notaro]

Cover your children's ears the problem area.

[Fortune Feimster]

She called it a boom boom.

[Tig Notaro]

And. Yeah, like on anybody's problem area.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, it was for girls. It was called your boom boom.

[May Martin]

So she'd go, did you wash your boom boom?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And so why was she so fixated on your boom boom?

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, no, just like if, you know, sometimes you. Instead of just saying vagina, she would say boom boom. I got way too old saying boom boom. Yeah. And I was over at a friend's house and whose dad's a doctor, so they've always used, you know, just the regular anatomy terms. Yeah, I don't know why I said something About. And I said, boom boom. And they. It's like a record scratch. And they all turned and were like, what? Oh, my God. And I was like, you're boom boom. They're like, are you talking about a vagina? And I was like, huh? Is that what. I honestly don't know if I even had heard the word vagina before. I was like, huh?

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Boom boom.

[Fortune Feimster]

And they all died laughing.

[May Martin]

And I was just like, I'm picturing you storming into your home that night.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my mom is not called a boom boom.

[Tig Notaro]

And so if you ever got into bdsm. Bdsm, would you. Could somebody use, like, a word like that? Boom boom.

[May Martin]

I think I might take you out of it and go, I'm going to bang your boom boom.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[Fortune Feimster]

Nobody wants to hear that.

[Tig Notaro]

Wor.

[Fortune Feimster]

So stupid. I'm like, how did you come up with that?

[Tig Notaro]

And how did she come up with that?

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know. I should ask her.

[May Martin]

I mean, it's.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, I think it was just, like, light and fun.

[Ad Read / Advertiser]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

People. People say, I kind of.

[Tig Notaro]

I get it. I get it. But where did boom boom.

[Fortune Feimster]

I will have to fall.

[Tig Notaro]

Like, why not Boom boom.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'll have to fall in love with Ginger. About this.

[May Martin]

It sounds like it's from, like, a. Like, who's that? Mr. Lovea Lova? Like.

[Fortune Feimster]

Shaggy.

[May Martin]

Yeah, it sounds like it's a Shaggy.

[Fortune Feimster]

Boom boom.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I love Shaggy.

[May Martin]

I love Shaggy. Love Shaggy.

[Tig Notaro]

You don't.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, but, like, no. Diane Keaton.

[May Martin]

Oh, oh, but you love Shaggy.

[Tig Notaro]

Aren't hand in hand.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like, okay, sure.

[Tig Notaro]

Valerie Bertinelli.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. But that was Shaggy. That burst my bubble bulb big time when my friends were just like, duh. They just say that.

[May Martin]

Funny how your brain plants little flags on all the embarrassing moments and. Yeah, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I love an embarrassing story.

[May Martin]

Oh, man, those are good.

[Tig Notaro]

People love them.

[May Martin]

People.

[Tig Notaro]

Our listeners are. We're salivating to hear your embarrassing.

[Fortune Feimster]

I feel like I don't have a ton of embarrassing stories just because I didn't get embarrassed off them.

[May Martin]

You had a thick.

[Fortune Feimster]

That one for sure.

[Tig Notaro]

What do you suppose made you somebody that's like, yeah, I don't care. That doesn't embarrass me.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know how that happened.

[May Martin]

Was it because you were going for laughs?

[Fortune Feimster]

So you were. Maybe.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like, I saw the comedy and stuff early on.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

That was just, like, worth it.

[Tig Notaro]

And have you since shared with people you've dated or whatever that about your boom boom?

[Fortune Feimster]

No, this is honestly the first time.

[Tig Notaro]

It'S the first time I've ever mentioned this.

[May Martin]

I was hanging out with, well, with Parvati and Amma, who's seven now, and we went to see a soccer game where it was like a little, nice little reunion, and we were playing professional soccer.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Angel City.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah.

[May Martin]

Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Which I've never been.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, they're fun game.

[May Martin]

It was super fun.

[Tig Notaro]

Wait, why'd you say been this time?

[May Martin]

Did I say been this time?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I've never been. I said I've never been.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, I don't want to change you.

[Tig Notaro]

Be who you are.

[May Martin]

I know.

[Tig Notaro]

I just.

[May Martin]

Maybe I go use both. I've never.

[Fortune Feimster]

Cuz I say I with this thick accent. I say words wrong or not wrong but different all the time.

[Tig Notaro]

No, wrong. They're wrong.

[May Martin]

So we were playing truth or dare in the. And so. So Amma dared me to stand up and yell, like. Well, first she said, stand up. Take your shirt off and yell and yell like, angel City are my team forever. And so I didn't take my shirt off, but I did the dare. And I got up and yelled and I did like a dance. And it was so. She was so shocked that I'd done it. Cause everyone turned around and then we were daring each other to do embarrassing things. And I was like, God, Cause when the embarrassment starts to creep in around middle school, right. Like before that, you're kind of. I don't know. And I was like, God, I hope. Yeah, I hope she never gets embarrassed by anything.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

Did Max and Finn get embarrassed? Embarrassed by you?

[Tig Notaro]

Like, are they like, God, don't say that no more. So like, Max is really into jokes, writing jokes and stuff.

[Fortune Feimster]

And.

[Tig Notaro]

And if I. I mean, he. He hits it almost every time where I'm like, God, that's a really funny concept. Or really observant.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love that.

[Tig Notaro]

But if he or Finn do something that it's not funny, I'll go. Don't tell anyone you're related to me. Guys, don't throw my name around with that one. Okay? But yeah, no, they're. They're really, really, really funny.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Well, should we hear.

[May Martin]

Yeah, let's hear Kate's answer.

[Fortune Feimster]

Let's do it. Mikuchi, what you got?

[Kate Micucci]

Okay, so my answer is. You know in Pee Wee's Big Adventure, when Peewee picks up the fugitive Mickey and he's still got handcuffs tied to his hand and. And Pee Wee's like, so what did you do? And. And Mickey's like, oh, you know those tags on the mattresses that say do not remove under penalty of law. Well, I took one off of a mattress. And so, you know, I saw this movie when I was maybe six or seven. And I, for a very long time, most of my childhood and into my adulthood, thought that taking a tag off of a mattress was, like, a really bad crime. And it wasn't until I was, like, way grown up, probably like 30, I rewatched pee Wee's Big Adventure, and I was watching it and I thought, oh, my God, that's just a joke. That's a joke. I have been thinking that it's bad to do this my whole life, and it was just a. Yeah. You know, so, yeah, I guess it's okay. You're not going to go to jail if you take a tag off a mattress. And that's just something I learned way too late in life. All right, everyone, have a great day. Thanks so much for having me. I can't wait to hear, hear, hear this. Okay, I guess. Well, now I'm just talking. Oh, also, you know that time that Tig was talking about where. Where the. The. We were out in Australia and the. The kangaroo. We were hanging out with the kangaroos, and there. The one part that I think Tig didn't explain is that a kangaroo charged at her. Like, it wasn't just like, we were hanging out with these big kangaroos. One was like, out of the corner of my. I hear. I heard it first. I heard the kangaroo, and then I looked and it was like the biggest kangaroo just charging toward Tig.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my gosh.

[Kate Micucci]

And all I could get out of my. My mouth was a tiny, odd, cheese Tig. And thankfully, the. The kangaroo just kept going and didn't bother us or hurt us in any. But that's just a little tidbit. All right, I love you. Bye bye.

[Tig Notaro]

Love you, Kate. That's a little tidbit.

[May Martin]

A little tidbit.

[Fortune Feimster]

I wish she had said Micucci out.

[May Martin]

I can't believe you left out that you were charged.

[Tig Notaro]

I forgot. You know, my memory is very spotty.

[May Martin]

Yeah. You knew there were kangaroos and she.

[Tig Notaro]

Did we have it on video somewhere. Cause you do. You just hear, like. And then you hear Kate. Oh, cheese tick. Classic Kate Micucci. And of course, Kate's biggest fear, like, it's just right on the nose with Kate Micucci. That she was scared that that would be like, the biggest crime to take that tag off of a pillow.

[May Martin]

Funny. You know, that's so funny to hold onto that.

[Tig Notaro]

And the weird thing about Kate is she is very. She's so kind. She's so pure and wonderful and all of these things. So talented. But, man, can she go blue.

[May Martin]

Really? Because I'd love to hear it. Because her voice is so innocent.

[Tig Notaro]

Have you not heard Garfunkel and Oates?

[May Martin]

No, I need May and Martin.

[Tig Notaro]

May, Martin.

[May Martin]

Okay, great. Because that makes some fun. Oh, great.

[Tig Notaro]

Come on. I mean, yeah, it's just like she and Ricky singing the bluest, craziest, funniest stuff.

[May Martin]

Oh, that's great.

[Tig Notaro]

And also her solo stuff. And she's such a great painter.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Incredible artist.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Incredible artist. Yeah. Incredible friend. Just a wonderful person. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And a great last name.

[Tig Notaro]

Back to that.

[May Martin]

Back to the old.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, what a fun episode time. So great seeing you guys.

[May Martin]

So great seeing you guys.

[Tig Notaro]

We have to do this again sooner.

[May Martin]

Got to do this again.

[Tig Notaro]

We should quit our other jobs, Just live in this studio.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I'd be happy to do that.

[Fortune Feimster]

I got cold brew here.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, that's all you need.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, for now, though, I do have to go on tour.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

So I will be. I will be in Charlotte, North Carolina, Thanksgiving weekend. Then San Jose in Fresno, California. St. Petersburg in Orlando, Florida, Vancouver. And then New Year's Eve in Seattle. Come celebrate the new year with me. And then Zootopia 2. See all three of us. Or hear all three of us Thanksgiving weekend as well.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God, I can't wait.

[Tig Notaro]

And please make a note. November 14th this week, come see me in the good light. The documentary I produced about Andrea Gibson and Megan Fallon is so beautiful. And it's out on Apple TV. November 14. November 14. November 14. Tell your friends, everyone. Also, go to tignotaro.com for all my show information.

[May Martin]

And I'm going on tour at the end of February doing 35 cities in North America. Please come and hang out with me. And then I'm in LA at Largo this month, so check that out. And check out Wayward on Netflix. Netflix.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm at Largo too. Oh, my God. It's my regular spot, you guys. Until next time, keep it handsome.

[May Martin]

Handsome is hosted by me, May Martin, Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] and please follow us on social media at Handsome Podcast.

[Fortune Feimster]

What a podcast. What a podcast.

[Kate Micucci]

That was a hit.

[May Martin]

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What's going on? It's Lamorne Morris and Hannah Simone, and we host the Mess Around a New Girl Rewatch podcast now on Headgum. Now here's the thing. Every single week, we chat about an episode of New Girl, and we really get into it. Like, we get up in there. We get up in there. You know, we reminisce about our times on set. We share behind the scenes tea. We react to rewatching episodes that we haven't seen in years. We talk about how Jake Johnson is dog.

[May Martin]

That's not true. We talk about so many memories we have of working with the biggest stars on the planet. I'm talking Prince, Taylor Swift, Olivia Rodrigo.

[Lamorne Morris]

We're just two BFFs having a good old time. Okay? Sometimes we even talk to other co stars like Zooey Deschanel, Jake Johnson, Max Greenfield, and Damon Waynes Jr. And your dad. We talked to your dad on this show as well.

[Fortune Feimster]

Make sure you subscribe to the Mess.

[May Martin]

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