Pretty Little Episode #56

Summary

Handsome Podcast - "Pretty Little Episode #56"

Aired: September 12, 2025
Hosts: Mae Martin, Fortune Feimster (Tig Notaro is notably absent this episode)

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Episode Overview

This episode of "Handsome" is a "pretty little" mini-episode centered on fielding advice questions from listeners. The hosts, Mae Martin and Fortune Feimster, set a relaxed, comical tone as they check in with each other's lives, talk about showbiz projects, and then dive into advice topics ranging from imposter syndrome to long distance friendship and failing driving tests.

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Catching Up: Life Updates & Showbiz Adventures

[00:58–09:21]

• Mae’s Return Home: Mae just returned from a trip ("I arrived seven minutes ago and...it feels good to be back around all my objects." – Mae, 01:22) and shares the comfort of being back in her house.
• Fortune’s Time in North Carolina: Fortune discusses spending time in her hometown with her mom and balancing work ("I'm technically not working except for, like, our pod and my radio show while I'm there. But it's been nice..." – Fortune, 01:50).
• Upcoming TV Roles:
  • Fortune is starting a new TV series with Will Ferrell and Molly Shannon, playing a golf caddy. She jokes about the physical training required: "I'm going to be sore as a..." (Fortune, 03:16).
  • Mae talks about an upcoming premiere of her show (premiering Sept 25) and her dad’s cameo as a puppet maker, humorously imagining a spin-off.
• Memorable Anecdotes:
  • Comic riffing about learning unique physical skills for acting roles (like Michelle Pfeiffer’s Catwoman whip scene).
  • Mae recounts watching "The Legend of Bagger Vance" as a teen and getting hysterical over the movie's title, cementing a friendship with Nicole.
  • Both hosts muse about including family members in their respective projects.

"You brought your mom on Kimmel when you were hosting. You got to do it. What's the point otherwise?" – Mae (09:07)

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Listener Question Segment: A Dive into Advice

Starts at [09:21]

1. Impostor Syndrome

Question from Anneliese, Vermont – [10:59]

• Summary: Anneliese feels stuck with imposter syndrome, especially while trying to start her own business, and asks how to manage it.
• Key Insights:
  • Mae defines imposter syndrome as "feeling like at any minute someone's going to figure out that you don't know what you're doing." (11:57)
  • Fortune’s personal reflection: Relates her early experience as a series regular on "The Mindy Project," admitting to feeling way out of her league at first ([12:58]–[13:39]).

    "I was just kind of quiet and just observing for a long time...then got the hang of it, probably maybe six episodes in." – Fortune (13:52)

  • Actionable advice:
    • Find a trusted "anchor" – someone you can confide in when you feel out of your depth (15:21–15:45).
    • Avoid making low-confidence your "comedic angle" or over-sharing self-doubt publicly (15:42).
    • Embrace "fake it till you make it" – but stay open to learning and don't overcompensate by pretending to know it all ([16:01]–[16:08]).
    • "Have confidence in yourself. Somebody hired you." – Mae (16:45)
    • Immerse yourself socially—don’t isolate—and learn from observing others.
  • Both agree that everyone, especially outside life-or-death jobs, is "figuring it out as they go."

2. Long Distance Friendships

Question from Ash (they/them) – [17:50]

• Summary: Ash asks for advice on maintaining long-distance friendships after moving states.
• Key Insights:
  • Quality over quantity: Both hosts stress the value of intentional, concentrated time—like trips or visits—over frequent but brief meetups.

    "A few days with someone...is more than, like, you know, a year of coffees with someone that lives around the corner." – Mae (18:33)

  • Grace and flexibility:
    • Good friendships allow "grace" for lapses in communication ("If it's a friend who's, like, always making you feel guilty for...not keeping in touch, that friendship's not gonna go far." – Fortune, 20:01).
  • Stay in touch creatively:
    • Suggests regular but stress-free check-ins—texting, calling, or planning intentional visits during travels (21:06).
    • Both hosts oppose guilt-tripping around frequency and effort, especially in adulthood's busy seasons.

3. Nervousness Failing Driving Tests

Question from Emma – [21:56]

• Summary: Emma, like Mae, is an adult without a license and has failed the driving test twice, mainly due to tension with the examiner. She asks how to break the tension with the test examiner.
• Key Insights:
  • Switch examiners if possible: Maybe Emma is "stuck in a rut with this person," jokes Mae ([22:36]–[22:44]).
  • Practice and prep: Fortune emphasizes getting more comfortable behind the wheel before the next attempt ([22:53]–[23:05]).
  • Acknowledge nerves lightly: Mae floats the idea of naming the anxiety, but warns not to get too flirty or weird by saying "you could cut this tension with a knife" ([23:08]–[23:32]).
  • Focus on the road, not the tester: Both recommend narrowing your attention during the test (23:49–24:23).
  • Be strategic with flattery: Light-heartedly discuss buttering up the examiner ("A little ego boost." – Mae, 24:39), but acknowledge the examiner might not even remember her.
  • Above all, keep practicing, don’t get discouraged by repeat attempts, and remember: "Third time's a charm." (25:01)

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Imposter Syndrome:
  Mae: "Everyone has the same feeling. Like, you don't suddenly become an adult...We're all teenagers pretending..." (12:26)
• On Relating to Listeners:
  Fortune: "Annaleise, you got this. You go rock it in Vermont and show them what's up." (17:34)
• On Long-Distance Friendships:
  Fortune: "If it's a friend who's, like, always making you feel guilty for, like, not keeping in touch, that friendship's not gonna go far." (20:01) Mae: "The friends are fun. You should...not be in just one zip code." (21:40)
• On Failing Driving Tests:
  Fortune: "I believe in you. Mae believes in you. ...and they say third time's a charm." (25:01)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:58] Episode theme and hosts check-in, Mae returns from travels
• [01:50] Fortune’s family time and new TV show announcement
• [05:00] Mae’s memory of “Bagger Vance” & friendship story
• [06:11] Upcoming show premieres, family cameos
• [09:21] Listener advice questions introduction
• [10:59] Anneliese’s imposter syndrome question
• [17:50] Ash’s long distance friendships question
• [21:56] Emma’s driving test nerves question
• [25:24] Wrap-up and encouragement to send more questions

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Tone & Style

The hosts keep the conversation goofy, heartfelt, and candid, with regular bursts of laughter and self-deprecating humor. Their advice is rooted in their own lived experiences—with empathy, realness, and a touch of comic exaggeration—making the insights feel friendly and accessible.

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Final Thoughts

A fun, supportive episode that delivers practical and genuinely warm advice with plenty of funny asides and behind-the-scenes glimpses into the hosts’ lives. Advice seekers and fans alike will enjoy the honest discussion and playful banter.

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Transcript

[A]

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[B]

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[A]

Friends on the Handsome Pod Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod Pretty little episode welcome to a pretty little episode of the Handsome Pod. I'm of your hosts, May Martin.

[B]

And I'm your other. One of your hosts, Fortune Feimster.

[A]

How you doing?

[B]

I'm doing great.

[A]

You look great.

[B]

Thanks, pal. You're home from your adventure.

[A]

I'm.

[B]

I think you're home early.

[A]

Yeah, I'm. I'm not. I'm going to go. I think I'll go back. I just, I. I arrived seven minutes ago and, like, raced in and found my podcasting gear, and I feels. I gotta say, it feels good to be back around all my objects.

[B]

Oh, that means you love your house.

[A]

I do love my house. Yeah.

[B]

That's a. That's a nice feeling when you have a homey situation.

[A]

Yeah. But I loved it up there, too.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Are you. Are you having any time for yourself these days?

[B]

No.

[A]

Fortune? No.

[B]

Never, Never, never. I'm having a little time for myself here and there.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Where I've been going back to North Carolina quite a bit. Technically, it's, you know, for my mom, but I'm technically not working except for, like, our pod and my radio show while I'm there. But it's been nice to, like, spend a lot of time with my family and with my mom. And then just being in my hometown is really cute.

[A]

Very grounding.

[B]

Yeah. But I'm about to get crazy busy again.

[A]

I know.

[B]

Yeah. I'm doing a new TV show and this one's with Will Ferrell and Molly.

[A]

Shannon, two of the greats.

[B]

So the 15, 16, 17 year old me. I mean, I'm dying right now because I love them both, but they were. I told Will, I was like, y' all were like my SNL cast when I was in high school. Like, yeah. I'm like, I. I did your bits.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

For my tennis team and my friends.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And he's like, I'm gonna garnish your Wages for the first episode to pay me back for all those bits. I go do it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I think I'm gonna also get in better shape because I play a caddy. It's a golf show.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I will be carrying around. There's no way around it. I'm gonna be carrying a real golf bag with golf clubs.

[A]

Yeah. They're not gonna make like foam golf clubs. Yeah.

[B]

I'm going to be sore as a.

[A]

You're gonna be a caddy. Like, you're actually gonna be a caddy.

[B]

Yeah. Because there's no golf. This isn't. It's. It's no golf cart situation. It is walking golf courses. I will be having to lather up in sunscreen.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And my arm. My arm strength is going to be mighty.

[A]

Yeah. I'm excited about that. It would be fun. Imagine getting a part where you have to really specifically train to do something like, you know that clip of. Is it Michelle Pfeiffer as Catwoman. And she just takes her whip and she, with like amazing precision, whips the heads off all these mannequins.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

That was cool to have a reason to learn the. The whip. That'd be great.

[B]

That would be great. Mine's just gonna be to carry a bag.

[A]

Yeah. Right.

[B]

So not the best skill, but ace.

[A]

No, it's. If anything, it's more practical than a whip.

[B]

I wonder if I'll learn to play golf in the process.

[A]

Do caddies play?

[B]

Caddies are like crazy knowledgeable. They're the ones that are telling the golfers. They're like a coach.

[A]

Really?

[B]

Yeah. They're the ones that are like, you need to use this club. They're giving them advice. They're like very well versed in golf.

[A]

I didn't know that.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. It's not just. I mean, at least at the pro level. It's not just like a kid being like, here's your golf club, sir.

[A]

Yeah. It's not like the ball boys at tennis games.

[B]

No. These guys can make like, they make like a percentage, I think, of your payday. So if you win like, say some big ass prize, they could get like a million bucks or something.

[A]

Oh, really? They get a percentage of your prize.

[B]

At the high level. Yeah.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

Because these guys are like in. In demand golf pros, like connoisseurs.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And your caddy can like make or break your entire game.

[A]

When I was like 13, I saw the Legend of Bagger Vance in movie theaters with my friend Nicole. And we were, I mean, totally sober. Hadn't discovered weed at that point. And I got this hysteria laughing every time they said the words Bagger Vance.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

Just the idea of the legend of Bagger Vance just was crack. I couldn't. I was crying. And then we got told off by other people in the movie theater to be quiet. And that really like cemented our friendship. And then I. She passed me her coke and it dropped. But it was in one of those movie theater things with the lid on it and it didn't spill. And then the fact that it hadn't spilled, I don't know, to us, was just like the funniest thing. I. I don't know. You know when you're that age and you're just like.

[B]

You're just so sympatico with someone and you can't stop giggling about everything.

[A]

Yeah. Everything that happens, you just immediately lock eyes and cry. Laugh.

[B]

Oh, yeah, yeah. Love. That is coming out soon, right?

[A]

Yeah. And I'll see. I'll see Nicole, actually. Cuz she was my friend who got sent to one of these troubled teen institutes. So she was a consultant on the show.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

And she'll come to the premiere and stuff? Yeah.

[B]

And when did that come out?

[A]

Oh, the premiere is September 9th and then it comes out September 25th.

[B]

Oh my gosh.

[A]

I know.

[B]

It's crazy exciting.

[A]

I kind of think what I'm going to wear to all these events. Oh, yeah.

[B]

Something snazzy.

[A]

You know, I'm in my tank top.

[B]

Era or you know, we're tanked at the premiere.

[A]

I got to find a way to dress up a tank. I think I'll just wear a suit with a tank under it.

[B]

Well, you of all people could pull it off.

[A]

Thanks. Thanks, man.

[B]

Yeah, I actually could watch it right now if I wanted to. It is in because I work for Netflix on the radio show. I have all this preview content in my Netflix.

[A]

And they gave you my show?

[B]

Yeah, it's in there.

[A]

What are you talking about? That's crazy to me. That's so vulnerable. Because no one's seen it yet.

[B]

Well, I haven't watched it yet, but I will.

[A]

Don't.

[B]

I'm going to. I'm gonna watch the whole thing. I watch all of Feel Good.

[A]

Thank you. What if you watch it and you notice that I've like stolen lots of things you said from the pod and it's all in the dialogue.

[B]

I wouldn't remember.

[A]

Yeah, that's true.

[B]

Half the stuff I said.

[A]

The best is when Thomas was like, hey, people seem to really like that character Amelia that you did. And you're like, sorry, wait, what?

[B]

What did I do? I gotta go back and listen to that because I'm still fuzzy on what I did.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But apparently it was a big hit.

[A]

Big hit.

[B]

Yay me.

[A]

Yay. That's probably what. When Will Ferrell saw it and he saw Amelia the character, he was like.

[B]

Get this girl in my show now.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Some of my. Sometimes they put stuff in my previews like a week before. Sometimes it's a couple days before, but yeah, this one is a month before.

[A]

That's crazy.

[B]

Mm. So.

[A]

Well, I have.

[B]

I hold so much power.

[A]

You do. It's really scary.

[B]

But no one can go on my Netflix and just watch it. You click on it and they text you a code.

[A]

Yeah, yeah. Because it's on my Netflix right now. So I've been trying to resist just putting it on, but. So thrilling to see the, like, the Netflix logo and then the.

[B]

Yeah, I bet. Well, it's a. It's hard to get any show made. And this is now your second.

[A]

Yeah. I'm pumped. And my dad's in it. He plays a puppet maker in one scene. He doesn't have a line, but he is featured in one episode. Pretty. You know, he's on screen for a good 20 seconds.

[B]

Oh, I love that.

[A]

Yeah. With his puppets. And so he's coming to the premiere and he was like, sh. Should I bring a puppet to the premiere? Perhaps on the red carpet I could bring my puppet Zoltar.

[B]

And I'm like, what did you say?

[A]

I. I was all for it. No, I'm into it. I'm like, I want a spin off show about the puppet man.

[B]

Oh, my God. So funny. Well, look at you getting dad in there.

[A]

Got to.

[B]

He's a. Well, you put.

[A]

You brought your mom on. On Kimmel when you were hosting. You got. You got to do it. What's the point otherwise? Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. We gotta give our people some fun adventures.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

We can't be the only ones doing this crazy Hollywood stuff.

[A]

It's more fun when there's someone you know and love around you as well. You can. Yeah. I'm excited today because apparently after our, like, impassioned plea for people to ask advice questions, a lot of people have sent in advice questions.

[B]

That's right. So today's questions are all gonna be advice.

[A]

What do you think they're going to be?

[B]

Oh, I don't know. But I feel well equipped to handle 90% of these.

[A]

Do you? What would be out of your remit? Like, I guess if it was a really sucking days. I don't know you.

[B]

I don't know how to do that.

[A]

Yo.

[B]

So, ladies, if you're asking, I'm not answering because I don't know if people.

[A]

Have sent in questions about how do I best S A D? I'd be shocked.

[B]

But yeah, you'd have to take that one, bud. Not me. I'd be like, I, I. I've said it before. I touch one wiener and I grabbed it like a hot clarinet, just like this. Just. I don't want to grab it for too long, you know?

[A]

I bet that that is someone's specific kink, though. There's some men out there that's like, I don't know how to ask my girlfriend to touch my dick like a hot clarinet.

[B]

Yeah. And I go, sorry, sorry, boys. Sorry. You can think it and dream it, but it's never gonna happen.

[A]

I want that. I want you to play the Caddy like that.

[B]

Never gonna fucking happen, cuz I'm gay as a effer.

[A]

Well, on that note, should we get to one of the questions?

[B]

Hey there, Tig May and Fortune it is. Anneliese from Vermont. Huge, handsome listener. Obviously, like many of us, but you three really bright up my day every time I listen to you. And this is why I'm asking for some advice right now. I am wondering how you get out of imposter syndrome. I'm assuming maybe the three of you have felt that in times of your careers and. And yeah, I feel like I'm in a pivoting point in my career and I'm looking to change things up, get my own business going. And imposter syndrome has been really keeping me, I don't know, stagnant. So what the hell do I do with that? I love your advice. Thank you so much. And I have no answer because, yeah, looking for advice on this one. Thank you so much. Love to you, Annalise from Vermont.

[A]

Great question. And imposter syndrome, it's pretty much just feeling like at any minute someone's going to figure out that you don't know what you're doing. Right. Like that like everyone else knows how to do things and you're just freestyling and.

[B]

Yeah. That you're qualified to be there. That somehow you got tapped too early.

[A]

Yeah. A thing that was a turning point for me was like living with a child and being even, even temporarily in a semi parental role. Like a caregiver role.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Because I was like, oh, my go. A child myself. Like, I don't know what I'm doing and Then you kind of realize all parents are, are, are, do. Like there's just figuring it out. Yeah. Like you don't suddenly become an adult and we're all teenagers pretending like this performance of maturity.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And. And so maybe. Yeah. Just realizing that everyone has the same feeling. What, have you had it?

[B]

I don't have it often, but I've had it because, you know, you're always feel a little out of your league in certain things.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I think I. I think I had it the first, maybe half of my first season that I did the Mindy Project.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Because it was my first series regular role. I had only. I had done Chelsea lately, but it was just like sketches and stuff like that. And I had done a couple pilots, but this was my first, like. Oh, you're like, on the show.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Acting. There's no one. You know, this isn't the time to ask questions. These are professionals, high level writing. And it was my first. Yeah. Like, big acting gig. So I kind of just had to like, you know, luckily I knew, like, the basics.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I just had to kind of watch to be like, you know, you know, figuring out the lingo and stuff on set and what to do, you know, when you mess up a take or.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Just. I just was kind of quiet and just observing for a long time and then. And then got the hang of it. Probably maybe six episodes in. But yeah, for that early part, I was just like, I don't know what I'm doing here.

[A]

I want to go watch those first six episodes and look and see the fear in your eyes. Like, just a slight, like, look to the side.

[B]

I'm sure I looked down the barrel of the camera a couple times.

[A]

Oh, for sure.

[B]

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[A]

Yes.

[B]

This is like this. And this is like, hit your mark and do this. And this is the lighting. And this is what will happen here just because, you know, no one teaches you that stuff in an acting class.

[A]

I think there's. It's like a balance where a. You have to be confident enough to ask questions and maybe find, like, your. Your anchor. Like, find a person who you can confide in early and say, hey, listen, I don't really know what I'm doing. But, like. Yeah, so that. But then also my tendency is to say to everyone, I don't know what I'm doing. And. And then that has a bad.

[B]

I wouldn't do that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, I wouldn't do that.

[A]

I. I get this, like, low status, like, even show running on set. I'm like, I don't know. It's like, I don't really feel that it's like a defense me. But, yeah. Maybe not making it your comedic angle that you're like a newbie, but finding one person that you trust that you can be like.

[B]

I think it is a fake it till you make it kind of thing you have to do without overcompensating.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Where you're like, oh, I know everything. Don't do that. But be, like, open to, like, suggestions, because you know that you don't. Instead of being like, I don't know, if someone's, you know, got an idea, be like, oh, yeah, that's great. You know, just being kind of open to other people's leading the way, and you're just kind of following and observing, but also being, you know, a participant to the extent that you can. And probably you're more qualified to be there than you think. Of course, some of it is just mental and doubting yourself. And I would say, have confidence in yourself.

[A]

Yeah. Somebody hired you some or. Yeah. Yeah. 100%, I think. I wonder if it's different if you're like a surgeon. You can't really fake it till you make it.

[B]

That one, though, because it requires tons of training to get to a human.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But, yeah, in other scenarios that aren't life or death, you can fake it till you make it and just believe. Just believe in yourself.

[A]

I like what you're saying about, like, immerse yourself in the experience. Like, really be social, talk to people. Don't just be on your phone, you know, or eat your lunch alone because you're nervous. Like.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Get amongst it and then you'll feel more.

[B]

See how other people are doing it that you think are doing a good job, kind of emulate them.

[A]

Do you think. Did Annelise give her answer or. Because it's Advice.

[B]

She did not. She just wanted that advice. And I think we gave her pretty solid advice. Annalise, you got this.

[A]

Yeah, you got this.

[B]

You go rock it in Vermont and show them what's up.

[A]

Yeah. The newspaper headline tomorrow is, the woman pretending to be surgeon causes mayhem in local hospital.

[B]

That's right. All right, who's next? Thomas. Hey, Fortune, Tig and May. My name's Ash. Pronouns, they, them. I was just listening to your recent pretty little episode where you were saying, no one's asking you for advice. So I find myself in the current situation of having lots of long distance friendships after moving states and assuming, you know, all of you travel around quite a bit and hopefully you have friends. What do you do to maintain long distance friendships? What have you found most helpful? Thanks.

[A]

Great question, Ash.

[B]

That definitely happens, especially the older you get.

[A]

Yes. And living in, like, I've lived in three different time zones, and so I have groups of friends that I. But I like. Like what you did recently, going to Iceland with an old friend. It's like the friendships you want to invest in carve out serious one on one time with those people. It's so rare that you have a solid, like, four days with someone, but then that could. That's more than, like, you know, a year of coffees with someone that lives around the corner. Like, yeah, that's sort of what I do. Like, going up to this cottage and I had friends, like Lisa Gilroy came up for a couple days, and it's, like, so rare that you get a couple days with someone and then you're. Fill up your cup.

[B]

Yeah, I've got a lot of long distance friendships just from moving here from North Carolina and people in college going to different states to live. One of my. The friend I went to Nashville with. I mean, Iceland with. She moved to Nashville a few years ago, and that was so jarring because we. We've been best friends for many years now and just, you know, you get kind of spoiled that, you know, your friends just, like 15 minutes away, that you kind of take it for granted, and then when they leave, you're like, oh, I should have done more with my friend. But it's. It's nice when it's a friend that allows you some grace because everyone's busy. If it's a friend who's, like, always making you feel guilty for, like, not keeping in touch, that friendship's not gonna go far.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

Because everyone's busy and everyone's got a life. My friend's a mom, and she works. If I Were to be like, I never hear from you. What are you doing? You don't care about me anymore. She's like, what? Like, maybe you get one of those. Yeah, but, you know, you gotta just be okay with not talking for a bit and then, like, having the best time catching up at some point.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

So giving you the grace. For sure.

[A]

Yeah. The worst is, like, a newer friendship where then they very quickly are like, hey, I'm feeling kind of bummed that we haven't seen each other in a few weeks. And I'm like, oh, no, I hate that this has got no future. Because, like, yeah, yeah, yeah. We're all a capacity.

[B]

I've had a couple people like that where you're like, oh, this could be a cool friend. And then guilt trip, like, week three, and you're like, oh, no, thank you a hundred percent. Yeah, so. So that's a big one. But, you know, checking in once in a while, texting, like, it's so easy to be, like, thinking of you or hope things are good or, you know, making a point to call on the phone, even if it's, like, once a month.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

The thing is, you're never gonna keep in touch with them to the extent you would if you were in the same city. But there are plenty of ways to, like, keep the connection.

[A]

Yeah. And. And definitely, I think if there's a handful of people you really want to invest in, then planning little trips or going to visit them, then you get that concentrated amount of time, even if it's just one night, like. Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. When I go on tour, I will try to see different friends and in cities, like, having a dinner. Yeah, I know. I won't see them for, like, another year. We'll check in here or there, and that's. That's okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But the friends are fun. You should. They should not be in just one zip code. Yeah.

[A]

You heard it here.

[B]

There you. There you go.

[A]

Thanks, Ash. Should we squeeze one more?

[B]

Let's squeeze that in.

[A]

Yeah. That's what she said.

[B]

Hi, handsome. My name is Emma. Similar to May, I'm an adult without a driver's license, and I've actually recently failed my driving test two different times. Oh, no. I think it's partly because the tension with the test examiner is, like, really getting to me. Yeah. And so I'm looking for your advice on the best thing to say when the test examiner gets in the car the next time I try to take the test again to kind of break that tension. Love the podcast. Hope you can help me out thanks, guys. Maybe put on our podcast in the car.

[A]

Blast. A podcast?

[B]

Blast the singing handsome chat friends on the handsome pod.

[A]

But also. So this is going to be the same examiner. Like, could you not go to a different.

[B]

I think it's. I think there needs to be another one.

[A]

I think so. I think you're stuck in a rut with this person.

[B]

Yeah. I think they've got bad energy.

[A]

It's their fault.

[B]

It is their fault. You haven't done anything wrong, Emma.

[A]

Yeah. If. If we were testing you, you'd be passing every time.

[B]

I mean, first off, I would maybe practice a little bit before taking that test so you feel more comfortable, right?

[A]

Definitely.

[B]

You're probably in your head a little bit at the moment.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Thinking, ah, I keep failing this test.

[A]

Maybe you call it. Call it out. Name the feeling. You go, oh, I was thinking about what to say to you when you get in the car because, you know, third time lucky, like, you go, oh, I'm feeling the tension a little bit. Although I guess depending on how you phrase it, you could. It could sound like you're coming onto.

[B]

Them being a creep.

[A]

Yeah. Do you. Do you feel that tension?

[B]

I keep failing. So I'll see you again.

[A]

Yeah. You don't say that you could cut this tension with a knife.

[B]

I say just keep practicing a little bit for your next test so you know you got the skill behind you. And then when you're in. In the car, just try not to focus on the tester.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's on the road.

[A]

Focus on the road.

[B]

Focus on the road. You know, get your hands at. Where do they go? 10 and 2.

[A]

I thought it was 10 and 2. Someone recently told me it's changed to 9 and 3. To 9 and 3 or something. Oh, I think it's 10 and 2.

[B]

I'm gonna keep 10 and 2. Yeah. I could see 9 and 3. Sometimes I go down to. What would this be? 7 and 5.

[A]

That's dangerous. That's when your hands are resting on your lap, basically. Right. Yeah.

[B]

So focus on the road. Don't focus on this person. They don't matter other than they're gonna decide whether or not you pass.

[A]

Well, in following that logic, maybe there is a world where you butter them up a bit. Like they are obviously power drunk. They failed you twice.

[B]

You got some M M's.

[A]

Yeah. Or you go, God, I'm so glad I got you again as my tester. I was worried it would be someone else.

[B]

Yeah. A little ego boost.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Or you go, okay, I don't hate.

[A]

That you go, because you know my driving. You're gonna notice how much better I am this time.

[B]

And what if the person's like, what are you talking about? I met you.

[A]

Yeah. Yeah, it wasn't me.

[B]

I do. I do about 30 of these a day.

[A]

Yeah, it's not that deep.

[B]

Emma. Good luck to you. I believe in you. May believes in you. Yeah, we know. You got this. And they say third time's a charm.

[A]

Totally.

[B]

So you got this, my friend.

[A]

But even if it tastes, it takes five times. Like, you don't have the muscle memory. You're. You're like me. You're grown adult.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So give yourself a break.

[B]

That's right.

[A]

Okay. That was fun. I like the advice.

[B]

Advice is fun.

[A]

Advice is good.

[B]

Yeah. I love it.

[A]

Please keep submitting your questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com. handsome Pod.

[B]

Give us the questions. Give us what advice. Anything you want. We're here for you.

[A]

Yeah. We'll teach you how to acid.

[B]

Mine will all be made up advice, which I'll also could be fun. Yeah, you gotta. First, you gotta warm your hands. Yeah. You gotta put on some mitts, warm those hands. Because, you know, nobody likes a cold. Shocking touch.

[A]

Except I'm sure someone does.

[B]

Someone does. There's someone for everyone out there, May. You're right.

[A]

Dunk your hands in ice.

[B]

Yeah. Well, you never know what you'll get here. But we're glad you tuned in. And we love it. We love hearing from you, and we love being a part of the Handsome Pod community.

[A]

That's correct.

[B]

So check out our regular episode next week, and until then, keep it Pretty Handsome.

[A]

Pretty Handsome Handsome is hosted by me, Mae Martin, Tig Notaro, and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] and please follow us on social media at. Handsome Pod.

[B]

What a podcast.

[A]

What a podcast. That was a headgum podcast.

[B]

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