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Fortune Feimster
Handsome.
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Fortune Feimster
Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod. Pretty little episode.
Tig Notaro
Hey, it is your dearest friend in the entire world, Tig Notaro.
Fortune Feimster
Sitting here with your other friend. That's the most important in the entire world. So you said.
Tig Notaro
No, it's not.
Fortune Feimster
Fortune Beamster.
Tig Notaro
Hi, Fortune. You are the most important person in my life.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, you stop. And I don't believe you.
Tig Notaro
I don't either. I'll be honest. I don't believe that. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
You know what's so funny is the last time we did one of these, it was your folks birthday. Well, tomorrow is my mom's birthday.
Tig Notaro
Really?
Fortune Feimster
I mean, I know that's kind of a stretch, but in the same vein, you know what I mean?
Tig Notaro
Sure, sure. And. And would old Ginge mind telling us.
Fortune Feimster
How old this is? A big one. 80. 80. I can't. I can't. I truly cannot believe it.
Tig Notaro
Wow, she looks really good.
Fortune Feimster
She's very good.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, it's just.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, I. 80 years old. That just doesn't seem. I'm glad she's here. Listen, I'll take it. I'm grateful.
Tig Notaro
And she's active, heading out, sitting on benches and stuff.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, yeah, she's doing pretty good. We're gonna have a big party for her. I'm filming right now, so I wanted to do it around this time, but it just will be easier once I wrap. So we're gonna. She was fine to wait till March.
Tig Notaro
Oh, okay.
Fortune Feimster
We are gonna have a little party for her, for some of her good friends and mostly family.
Tig Notaro
But just when in March, because if it lands on my birthday, maybe we could do.
Fortune Feimster
You're gonna come to Belmont, North Carolina and celebrate. Late March.
Tig Notaro
That's when my birthday is. March 24th.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, it's not that. It's not that date, but close.
Tig Notaro
Oh, sure.
Fortune Feimster
20.
Tig Notaro
I thought I. 28th. Yeah, I can stick around.
Fortune Feimster
We could do it, right?
Tig Notaro
Yeah, we could do the 26 right in between I would love for you.
Fortune Feimster
Two to have a joint birthday party. That would be hilarious.
Tig Notaro
I'm sure we have the same friend group.
Fortune Feimster
Totally the same friends.
Tig Notaro
What are her friends like? Are they just like Ginger?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, they're fun. There's a whole group of them called the Yayas and they get together a couple times a month for like lunch or whatever. They. They celebrate the birthdays of the month. Will all celebrate with one meal.
Tig Notaro
And how do they know each other?
Fortune Feimster
Years and years of just growing up in. In Belmont and I mean, they've been a friend group for decades now.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And I. A lot of their. A lot of us, some of them had kids all the same age. So my friends are the. In that friend. My, My friend's moms are in that mom group and. And then they have their own. Then they branch out and do stuff, you know, individually with little side of the.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Are you tight with the friend. The kids of the friends?
Fortune Feimster
I was growing up, I just don't see people as much, you know, but if I saw them, it would be great to see them. But, you know, they're. They're. It's a wonderful friend group. I'm so glad she has them. I. Yeah. Funny. A couple. Gosh. About. I want to say seven, six, seven years ago, I filmed this thing for Comedy Central.
Tig Notaro
Congrats.
Fortune Feimster
In my hometown. And they came and they had my mom's. The Yaya's come over. And a lot of that footage got cut in this thing. But I would so wish I had it because they. It was so great seeing her friends all together.
Tig Notaro
And I wonder if you could get in touch and have someone dig it up. I bet it's somewhere maybe.
Fortune Feimster
And funny enough, the cameraman for that project was at a screening I went to of your documentary. Really good light. Yeah. And I hadn't seen him since and he was there with my mom filming all their friends. It was really a special experience. So.
Tig Notaro
That's amazing.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. But, yeah, I'm glad she has those, Those friends, they all.
Tig Notaro
I'm telling you, I. This is, this is, this is your job right now is you gotta reach out to Comedy Central and see if there's any way to track that footage down. Okay. You will be so glad you did that. Fortune.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, they were all on that day just like yapping and cutting each other off and making jokes and it was really sweet.
Tig Notaro
And your. Your reps can help you hunt that down. You gotta do it. It'd be one day of work for you to do. Ye. You know, Phone calls, emails.
Fortune Feimster
I should get a lot of that footage because it was all about me and my mom. Yeah. And there. I'm sure we got some cool stuff that. And, like, when they aired it, it was supposed to be about comedians and their moms, but they barely showed anything that they filmed. It was very odd. They showed me. They showed more stuff of me on stage than they did of the footage in my hometown.
Tig Notaro
Interesting.
Fortune Feimster
I know. And. And so we. I have all this probably pretty great footage of the two of us that I would like to get a lot of if I don't know how that works. But I'll have them look into it.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Yes, you will. That's exciting. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
So, yeah. Shout out Ginge.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. The Y. Yaya's Fortune Feimster. And the Yaya's is the band name.
Fortune Feimster
That's right.
Tig Notaro
And.
Fortune Feimster
Well, that's all I got.
Tig Notaro
Well, let's get into our questions then.
Hope (Caller)
Hi, handsome. This is Hope calling from Georgia. First of all, thank you so much for the endless entertainment. One of the things I love to do besides listen to your podcast is do road trips and stop at weird roadside attractions, like, I don't know, like, largest ball of yarn, or. I recently went to see a peanut shaped like Jimmy Carter. My question is, if you had to design a new roadside attraction, and I know I'm going to get pushback on the. Had to. Like, why you have to. So let's say you are going to earn money for this that goes to charity, charity of your choice. What roadside attraction would you design and tell me a little bit about it?
Fortune Feimster
Well, have you ever. Have you ever been to one of those random roadside things?
Tig Notaro
Yeah, I think I've seen the ball of yarn or the rubber bands or whatever I stopped into.
Fortune Feimster
I think it was Arlington, Texas. They have a bunch of, like, Cadillacs in the ground, like, standing up. It was kind of crazy. I don't know why, but it's there.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
The end.
Tig Notaro
I think I would personally like, just right out of the gate. What I would love to see is just like a huge animal sanctuary adoption place where you're on the road, you're exhausted, and I'm talking a big one, like, where you pull off the side of the road and you just pet kittens and dogs and old grandpa animals and. And just like, you know, you're just like, all right, that was fun. But also, I'm gonna take Mittens with me. And I mean, like, a circus of.
Fortune Feimster
Animals out there, but they're all treated very well.
Tig Notaro
And, oh, well, of course, I'm not gonna have a roadside attraction where animals are getting abused.
Fortune Feimster
That's right. I'm just saying this is like the place to go. It's like a spa here.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
For animals. But they also. But you're. There's so many that they. They need forever homes.
Tig Notaro
Yes. And if you can't adopt them though, it's just so fun to like run around with cows.
Fortune Feimster
Love it. Cows.
Tig Notaro
Does that sound fun? I love it.
Fortune Feimster
That sounds great.
Tig Notaro
I just saw a very long haired cow.
Fortune Feimster
Really?
Tig Notaro
Like flowing in the wind hair. Oh, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I don't see many of those.
Tig Notaro
I've never seen one until that. Yeah, but I don't know, I just. That would be a sight for sore eyes if you're like on the road for days and hours and I like that.
Fortune Feimster
Well, I, you know, now that I'm a Disney beaver, I would have said I would have some kind of beaver attraction, but Bucky's kind of cornered the market on that. They beat me to the puncher. Have you been in a Buc EE's?
Tig Notaro
I have. And what is your feeling about buc ee?
Fortune Feimster
They're ginormous.
Tig Notaro
Well, I know their size, but I.
Fortune Feimster
Mean, you know, the. I like the novelty of it. You go in there and hear him yelling about brisket sandwiches and pick out a million different versions of beef jerky or fudge.
Tig Notaro
It's a lot.
Fortune Feimster
It's a lot though. You know, I like to get in and get out. I don't go lolly gagging.
Tig Notaro
Well, here's my thing. I'm very confused about everyone. Like people's obsession with BUC EE's. Like, I don't, I don't. I don't get it. I'm just like, right, there's gas here and then there's a place where you can buy a bunch of stuff.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, who cares?
Tig Notaro
Like, why is everyone buying shirts about it and like talking to friends and you gotta go to Buc EE's and oh my God, you go to Bucky's.
Fortune Feimster
Like, I don't think you're the target audience.
Tig Notaro
No, I'm not. And I'm not the target audience that talk to me about BUC EE's.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, well, because they're going in there for brisket and jerky and those aren't your things already. They've lost you.
Tig Notaro
Even if they had vegan brisket and jerky all down the aisles, the whole hype around it.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I'm like, who cares?
Fortune Feimster
Who cares? Well, I'll tell you something. They did two things. They did that were interesting to Mark?
Tig Notaro
This isn't anti buc EE's. This is anti the people freaking out about Buck.
Fortune Feimster
I hear you.
Hope (Caller)
I hear you.
Fortune Feimster
But I am going to highlight two things that people do like about it. One, they don't allow any of those big transfer trucks.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
And you know, those can get a little intimidating to drive around at gas stations on the road. So people are kind of into that, that they. They don't allow that.
Tig Notaro
That's not what I'm talking about.
Fortune Feimster
Well, the other thing they did is they catered to women, which is unusual by they. Their marketing plan was clean bathrooms. Women like clean bathrooms. And I will say their bathrooms are unbelievable.
Tig Notaro
I understand this. I know all of this. I'm all for Buc EE's, all right? I'm not all for the people that are acting like, yeah, this is some like. Like, we need merchandise and we need to tell everyone alive how incredible. Bucky.
Fortune Feimster
Well, I think it's like one of those things that it just kind of becomes part of the, like, culture, how people wear, like, Waffle House T shirts, you know? I don't know.
Tig Notaro
It just becomes like, Yeah. I feel like Bucky's is a whole different thing.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, well, it's kind of like a. Yeah, it's like a circus. I don't know.
Tig Notaro
I don't know. Well, I think it's also kind of my response when what was that frozen yogurt place everyone went nuts about?
Fortune Feimster
Oh, Pinkberry or. Yeah, Berry.
Tig Notaro
And then like, the donut place that everyone was going.
Fortune Feimster
You know, like the hubbub.
Tig Notaro
I know. I'm just like, go in, get your donut, go and get your jerky. Go get your gas and just cork it.
Fortune Feimster
Cork it.
Tig Notaro
Quit acting like a nerd. Your mouth about a gas station. I mean, get a life. Okay, I'm sorry. I didn't know I had that much ye pent up anger around.
Fortune Feimster
I'm glad you got it out.
Tig Notaro
Me too.
Fortune Feimster
It's been a long time coming.
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Tig Notaro
Was that a question we had? Like, why am I Talking about by.
Fortune Feimster
Saying they already did what I would do, which would be a beaver place.
Tig Notaro
Oh, roadside attraction. Right. I don't really have.
Fortune Feimster
Other than that. I don't. I mean, I. I don't have anything random. I just want food. Like, I just want a bunch of pastries and pies.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
You know, and then. And then maybe some lesbian music playing, like Melissa Etheridge or something.
Tig Notaro
All right, well, does Hope have an answer? Come to my bookies.
Fortune Feimster
Go get your pies.
Hope (Caller)
The roadside attraction I would design would be, like, a giant TV with, like, a row of giant books on top. And then, like, inside you would see, like, weird artifacts that were, like, supposedly from big movies, but, like, you know, for sure they're just, like, totally made up. Or like, you know, like a gum wrapper found on the set of Scream. Something like that. Thank you.
Fortune Feimster
Okay.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
I like it. I like it.
Tig Notaro
Hope we like it.
Fortune Feimster
Hope.
Tig Notaro
We like it. And we like you, Hope. And we like when people send in questions and answers and who's the next one? Who's the next one?
Andy (Caller)
Hi, handsome pod. My name is Andy. I'm from Houston, Texas. So my question to you is, I have a friend that I've been friends with for years, and I love her. She's a very, very kind hearted person. She's the embodiment of treat people how you want to be treated. My issue is, is that she tends to tell, shall we say, tall tales. And she does this a lot. So much so that I find myself kind of zoning out when she's telling these tall tales. My question to you guys is, what should I do about this? Should I call her out? Should I go along with it? Should I subtly let her know that I don't really believe what she's telling me? How would you guys address this? I absolutely love the pod. It was something I feel like we desperately need in these times. You guys are my favorite sillies.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, thanks. Oh, finally, some advice.
Tig Notaro
Well, first of all, I don't believe that she has friends that lie to her.
Fortune Feimster
No. I don't know.
Tig Notaro
It doesn't sound like being funny. I was being funny.
Fortune Feimster
Oh.
Tig Notaro
I was acting like she's a liar, too.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, get it? Yeah, yeah, I get it. I get it. Do you think the people that ex. Because I know some people that exaggerate like that. Do you think they realize they're doing that?
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Really?
Tig Notaro
Yes. Yes, I do.
Fortune Feimster
Have you. Have you encountered this in your own life where you've had to say something to someone?
Tig Notaro
Yes, but.
Fortune Feimster
And you did. And you did Say something.
Tig Notaro
Yes. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Well, you're pretty straightforward like that.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, but I'm not doing it in a. Like, you're lying to me.
Fortune Feimster
Right.
Tig Notaro
I've done it more in a way of, like, hold on a minute. You know, where I'll be like, back up.
Fortune Feimster
You're.
Tig Notaro
I need clarity here. I need clarity. You're telling me that this, this, and this happen, or they'll kind of big talk, like, oh, if this happened, I would just do this. And then I'm like, would. I'm sorry, but would you really just. Do you know what I'm saying? The other thing, and I feel like I've talked about it on this.
Fortune Feimster
Is.
Tig Notaro
On this show, is there was this guy, and believe it or not, before I knew I was gay, he was pursuing me.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And he was. He was calling, and he was. I mean, lying his face off.
Fortune Feimster
Really?
Tig Notaro
Oh, my God. And you could tell it was like, the craziest lies every time he could. And I remember I actually knew him from long ago, and we ran into each other as adults, and I remembered it about him as a kid where I was like, this guy, right? So as an adult, I'm like, wow, he's still doing this, but it's, like, on a bigger scale.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And he was clearly trying to do it to impress me. And the last time I ever heard of. Ever heard from him, he lied to me. Like, of course, I don't have proof, but I know he lied to me.
Fortune Feimster
He doesn't have that. You can kind of tell when someone's like.
Tig Notaro
Let me tell you what he. Let me tell you what he told me.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And this was. I was so irritated, and, like, this was before caller id And I would never know it was him. And I'd pick up, and I'd be like, oh, boy. And. And one. And his favorite band was R.E.M.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Loved R.M. well, he calls me, and what do you know? He's backstage at R.E.M. yeah. He's hanging out with them. But you know what? He took a beat and he went to the payphone to call me.
Hope (Caller)
Right?
Tig Notaro
To just chat.
Fortune Feimster
I'm having the time of my life.
Tig Notaro
He's having the time is call T. Got it. Step away. Not even. Just enjoy the time of my life. But I need to go call. Call Tig from the pay phone. Long distance.
Fortune Feimster
Long distance. Collect call. They called those.
Tig Notaro
It wasn't collect. He paid. He. He paid.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, okay.
Tig Notaro
And so anyway, after, I was sitting there rolling my eyes, so irritated that this guy, like, you think I'm the. Like on what planet did you end up backstage at your favorite bands?
Fortune Feimster
Right?
Tig Notaro
And of course I understand. It happens, but this was just. It was par for the course of this guy. And I'm sitting. I finally come up after we get off the phone, I come up with the perfect thing to say to a liar.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
But I never heard from him again. And what I should have said to him when he was telling me he was backstage partying with rm, I should have said, me, too.
Fortune Feimster
That is funny that when it hit.
Tig Notaro
Me, I was like, that is the best thing to say to a liar is just tell them you're doing the same thing. Like, oh, my God, you're backstage. I'm backstage at REM Too. Where do you want to meet? Because, like, he's not going to call me a liar.
Fortune Feimster
Right.
Tig Notaro
He's probably gonna hang up the phone.
Fortune Feimster
That's so funny. I've never even occurred. That never even occurred to me.
Tig Notaro
It never occurred to me either. But he drove me so crazy.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Drove me so crazy. So, yeah. That is. Those are different levels of confronting a liar where it's like, hold on, back up. I need clarity.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
You know, and kind of get into it. Make them a little nervous and have them explain themselves. Because if you're not lying and somebody says, back up. I need clarity. Yeah. You don't take that personally. No big deal. I'll give you all the clarity you want.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And then you have some unhinged lunatic that is like, I landed a 747 on a freeway. And you're like, oh, yeah, me too. What was your experience like doing that? It is the best feeling.
Fortune Feimster
That is pretty funny. So, yeah, I like something like that. I don't recommend just, like, calling, being like, you're lying.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I'm more of just like, yeah, like, wait, what was that? Come on, now. You know, that didn't happen. I kind of start teasing people, like. Well, we. We early on, we joke with May because May told us, I think it was like, one of the first recordings that the Internet was out and would be on a TV, 1030 and Ting and I looked at each other like, okay, yeah.
Tig Notaro
That was when their date has to get leave to go to work.
Fortune Feimster
So when May got on Tig and I just gave May so much, but in a fun way, where May was laughing and we were laughing because May was like. But kind of busted sort of thing. So there is a way to go about it where it can still be, like, you know, light.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. It's. It goes back to, like, your intentions and Your delivery. And you know, as long as you're not harboring some. I mean, I'm. It is crazy making. When somebody is consistently lying. It's. It's like, that's. It is tough. So I feel for you, Andy, but I think you can find a happy medium between. Hold on. I need some clarity. This. I'm confused. Walk me through this. Even down to me too.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And there's a whole new me too movement.
Fortune Feimster
That's right. And if it becomes a thing where they're like just being dishonest about every. Like, it's not like tall tales. When trying to like appear cooler is one thing, but just like straight up lying, then you can make a decision if that's somebody you want in your life or not.
Tig Notaro
You heard it here first.
Fortune Feimster
Because when someone lies like about everything all the time, that's. It's tough to have a deep friendship with that person.
Tig Notaro
For sure.
Fortune Feimster
Best of luck to you, Andy. Hopefully. Hopefully that helps.
Tig Notaro
We did it again.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, we did again. If you have any other advice, look how good we are at this. We just fixed everything. We just fixed Andy's entire life. You can send us questions here or ask us any kind of advice@speakpipe.com Handsomepod for sure. Well, what a treat.
Tig Notaro
Delight, delight, delight. Also, check out tignotaro.com for all of my tour dates I'm coming at you. New cities, new dates being added all the time.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, same. I'm. I'm going to the Beacon on February 14th, so join me for Valentine's Day in New York City. That'd be pretty sexy.
Tig Notaro
I'll be there.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, I wish. That would be fun.
Tig Notaro
I won't be there, but have a great show and until next time, keep it pretty. Handsome Handsome is hosted by me, Tignotaro May, Martin and Fortune Feamster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email us@handsome podgmail.com Follow us on on social Media Anson Pod what a podcast.
Fortune Feimster
Podcast. What a podcast.
Tig Notaro
That was a headgum podcast.
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Hosts: Tig Notaro & Fortune Feimster
Main Theme: Friendship, family celebrations, quirky roadside attractions, and navigating friendships with "tall tale tellers"
This playful episode of Handsome opens with some heartfelt (and hilarious) banter between Tig and Fortune about milestone birthdays, their families, and the joys of close-knit friend groups. Listeners' questions prompt the hosts to discuss iconic roadside attractions, design their own imaginary pitstops, and share strategies for dealing with friends who can't seem to tell the truth. The tone is quintessentially Handsome: irreverent, warm, and sprinkled with personal stories.
Notable moment:
[06:33] Hope asks: If you could create any roadside attraction (for charity), what would it be?
Light-hearted argument about the cult status of Buc-ee’s:
[15:04] Andy asks: What do you do when a beloved friend constantly tells tall tales?
Tig shares: She believes people know when they exaggerate, recounts her own experience with a habitual liar who tried to impress her ([16:27–19:00]):
Fortune’s style:
General advice:
Irreverent yet affectionate, the episode blends comedic banter with surprising wisdom. Tig’s dry, deadpan delivery pairs with Fortune’s genial storytelling, making the advice feel both honest and approachable. The hosts’ chemistry and willingness to poke fun at themselves and each other is on full display.
Episode 77 is classic Handsome: two comedians riff on the quirks of family, the nostalgia of hometown friendships, and the oddities of American roadside culture, all while dispensing real talk on navigating tricky friendships. You’ll laugh at their debates about Buc-ee’s, delight in Fortune’s stories about her mom’s “Yayas,” and maybe pick up some handy ways to confront the fibbers in your life—whether or not you’ll ever have to claim you were also backstage with R.E.M.