Pretty Little Episode #77

Summary

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Handsome Podcast – Episode #77: "Pretty Little Episode" (Feb 6, 2026)

Hosts: Tig Notaro & Fortune Feimster
Main Theme: Friendship, family celebrations, quirky roadside attractions, and navigating friendships with "tall tale tellers"

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Episode Overview

This playful episode of Handsome opens with some heartfelt (and hilarious) banter between Tig and Fortune about milestone birthdays, their families, and the joys of close-knit friend groups. Listeners' questions prompt the hosts to discuss iconic roadside attractions, design their own imaginary pitstops, and share strategies for dealing with friends who can't seem to tell the truth. The tone is quintessentially Handsome: irreverent, warm, and sprinkled with personal stories.

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Highlights & Key Discussion Points

1. Celebrating Moms and Family Friend Groups

• [01:21] Fortune shares: Her mom is turning 80, and they're planning a (slightly delayed) big birthday party.
• Tig jokes about crashing the party and talks about possible joint celebrations (e.g., "We could do the 26th, right in between. I would love for you to have a joint birthday party. That would be hilarious." - Tig, [02:54]).
• The "Yayas": Fortune describes her mom’s longtime friend group:
  • “[The Yayas] get together a couple times a month for lunch or whatever. They celebrate the birthdays of the month with one meal." – Fortune, [03:09]
  • The group has been friends for decades, and their children (including Fortune) are similarly connected.
• Lost Footage: Fortune reminisces about filming a Comedy Central segment with the Yayas and laments that much of the footage was cut – but Tig pushes her to try to retrieve it:
  • "This is your job right now. You've gotta reach out to Comedy Central and see if there's any way to track that footage down. ...You will be so glad you did that." – Tig, [05:05]

Notable moment:

• "Shout out Ginge. The Yayas. Fortune Feimster and the Yayas is the band name." — [06:15-06:23]

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2. Question from Hope (Georgia): Designing a Roadside Attraction

[06:33] Hope asks: If you could create any roadside attraction (for charity), what would it be?

Tig's Vision:

• Giant Animal Sanctuary & Adoption Center
  • “...A huge animal sanctuary adoption place where you’re on the road, you’re exhausted….and you just pet kittens and dogs and old grandpa animals…” – Tig, [07:48]
  • Emphasis on fun, relaxation, and animal welfare (“Of course, I’m not gonna have a roadside attraction where animals are getting abused.” – Tig, [08:31])
  • Fortune jumps in with the idea that it’s essentially like a spa for animals but also a place for pet adoptions.

Fortune’s Take:

• Jokingly claims she’d have suggested a “beaver attraction” but Buc-ee’s already exists:
  • “Now that I’m a Disney beaver, I would have said I would have some kind of beaver attraction, but Bucky’s kinda cornered the market on that.” – Fortune, [09:26]
• Admits she’s really just interested in a roadside place filled with pastries, pies, and “lesbian music.” ([14:03])
  • “I don’t have anything random. I just want food. Like, I just want a bunch of pastries and pies. And then maybe some lesbian music playing, like Melissa Etheridge or something.” – Fortune, [13:56–14:14]

Buc-ee’s Debate:

Light-hearted argument about the cult status of Buc-ee’s:

• "I'm very confused about everyone... Like people's obsession with Buc-ee's. Like, I don't, I don't get it." – Tig, [10:08]
• Fortune explains the appeal: huge selection, clean bathrooms, and “they don’t allow any of those big transfer trucks.”
• Tig’s verdict: Let people enjoy it, but “quit acting like a nerd...about a gas station. I mean, get a life.” ([12:50])

Hope’s Own Roadside Attraction:

• "A giant TV with a row of giant books on top...inside you’d see weird artifacts supposedly from big movies, but totally made up. Like a gum wrapper found on the set of Scream." – Hope, [14:26–14:48]

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3. Question from Andy (Houston): Dealing with a Tall-Tale-Telling Friend

[15:04] Andy asks: What do you do when a beloved friend constantly tells tall tales?

Hosts’ Perspectives:

• Tig shares: She believes people know when they exaggerate, recounts her own experience with a habitual liar who tried to impress her ([16:27–19:00]):

  • “I need clarity. You’re telling me that this, this, and this happened?” – Tig, [16:59]
  • Classic REM Backstage Lie: A guy pretended to call her from a payphone while he was “backstage” at an REM concert just to impress her.
  • The ultimate clapback she wishes she’d delivered:
    • "I should have said, 'Me too.' That is the best thing to say to a liar: just tell them you're doing the same thing." – Tig, [19:53–20:10]

• Fortune’s style:

  • Favors gentle teasing or playful skepticism rather than outright confrontation.
  • Shares an example: giving fellow host Mae a hard time when their stories didn't add up, keeping it fun and friendly ([21:27–22:13]).

• General advice:

  • If it’s lighthearted embellishment, gently poke fun or ask for “clarity.” If it gets extreme or undermines the friendship, it’s okay to consider distancing.
  • "When someone lies about everything all the time, it’s tough to have a deep friendship with that person." – Fortune, [23:08]

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• [02:31] Tig: "But just when in March? Because if it lands on my birthday, maybe we could do a little combo."
• [08:31] Tig: "I'm not gonna have a roadside attraction where animals are getting abused."
• [10:08] Tig: "I'm very confused about... people's obsession with Buc-ee's. Like, I don't get it."
• [12:50] Tig: "Quit acting like a nerd... about a gas station. Get a life."
• [19:53] Tig: "What I should have said to him... I should have said, 'Me too.'"
• [23:08] Fortune: "When someone lies about everything all the time, that's... it's tough to have a deep friendship with that person."

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [01:21–06:28]: Birthday celebrations, family stories, and the Yayas
• [06:33–14:26]: Roadside attractions (Hope’s question), animal sanctuaries, Buc-ee’s debate, and Hope’s giant TV
• [15:04–23:20]: Tall-tale friend dilemma (Andy's question), stories of liars, advice on handling chronic exaggerators
• [23:22–24:39]: Light wrap-up, show plugs, closing banter

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Tone & Style

Irreverent yet affectionate, the episode blends comedic banter with surprising wisdom. Tig’s dry, deadpan delivery pairs with Fortune’s genial storytelling, making the advice feel both honest and approachable. The hosts’ chemistry and willingness to poke fun at themselves and each other is on full display.

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Summary for the Uninitiated

Episode 77 is classic Handsome: two comedians riff on the quirks of family, the nostalgia of hometown friendships, and the oddities of American roadside culture, all while dispensing real talk on navigating tricky friendships. You’ll laugh at their debates about Buc-ee’s, delight in Fortune’s stories about her mom’s “Yayas,” and maybe pick up some handy ways to confront the fibbers in your life—whether or not you’ll ever have to claim you were also backstage with R.E.M.

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Transcript

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Fortune Feimster]

Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod. Pretty little episode.

[Tig Notaro]

Hey, it is your dearest friend in the entire world, Tig Notaro.

[Fortune Feimster]

Sitting here with your other friend. That's the most important in the entire world. So you said.

[Tig Notaro]

No, it's not.

[Fortune Feimster]

Fortune Beamster.

[Tig Notaro]

Hi, Fortune. You are the most important person in my life.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, you stop. And I don't believe you.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't either. I'll be honest. I don't believe that. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know what's so funny is the last time we did one of these, it was your folks birthday. Well, tomorrow is my mom's birthday.

[Tig Notaro]

Really?

[Fortune Feimster]

I mean, I know that's kind of a stretch, but in the same vein, you know what I mean?

[Tig Notaro]

Sure, sure. And. And would old Ginge mind telling us.

[Fortune Feimster]

How old this is? A big one. 80. 80. I can't. I can't. I truly cannot believe it.

[Tig Notaro]

Wow, she looks really good.

[Fortune Feimster]

She's very good.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, it's just.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, I. 80 years old. That just doesn't seem. I'm glad she's here. Listen, I'll take it. I'm grateful.

[Tig Notaro]

And she's active, heading out, sitting on benches and stuff.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah, she's doing pretty good. We're gonna have a big party for her. I'm filming right now, so I wanted to do it around this time, but it just will be easier once I wrap. So we're gonna. She was fine to wait till March.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

We are gonna have a little party for her, for some of her good friends and mostly family.

[Tig Notaro]

But just when in March, because if it lands on my birthday, maybe we could do.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're gonna come to Belmont, North Carolina and celebrate. Late March.

[Tig Notaro]

That's when my birthday is. March 24th.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, it's not that. It's not that date, but close.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

20.

[Tig Notaro]

I thought I. 28th. Yeah, I can stick around.

[Fortune Feimster]

We could do it, right?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, we could do the 26 right in between I would love for you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Two to have a joint birthday party. That would be hilarious.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm sure we have the same friend group.

[Fortune Feimster]

Totally the same friends.

[Tig Notaro]

What are her friends like? Are they just like Ginger?

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, they're fun. There's a whole group of them called the Yayas and they get together a couple times a month for like lunch or whatever. They. They celebrate the birthdays of the month. Will all celebrate with one meal.

[Tig Notaro]

And how do they know each other?

[Fortune Feimster]

Years and years of just growing up in. In Belmont and I mean, they've been a friend group for decades now.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I. A lot of their. A lot of us, some of them had kids all the same age. So my friends are the. In that friend. My, My friend's moms are in that mom group and. And then they have their own. Then they branch out and do stuff, you know, individually with little side of the.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Are you tight with the friend. The kids of the friends?

[Fortune Feimster]

I was growing up, I just don't see people as much, you know, but if I saw them, it would be great to see them. But, you know, they're. They're. It's a wonderful friend group. I'm so glad she has them. I. Yeah. Funny. A couple. Gosh. About. I want to say seven, six, seven years ago, I filmed this thing for Comedy Central.

[Tig Notaro]

Congrats.

[Fortune Feimster]

In my hometown. And they came and they had my mom's. The Yaya's come over. And a lot of that footage got cut in this thing. But I would so wish I had it because they. It was so great seeing her friends all together.

[Tig Notaro]

And I wonder if you could get in touch and have someone dig it up. I bet it's somewhere maybe.

[Fortune Feimster]

And funny enough, the cameraman for that project was at a screening I went to of your documentary. Really good light. Yeah. And I hadn't seen him since and he was there with my mom filming all their friends. It was really a special experience. So.

[Tig Notaro]

That's amazing.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. But, yeah, I'm glad she has those, Those friends, they all.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm telling you, I. This is, this is, this is your job right now is you gotta reach out to Comedy Central and see if there's any way to track that footage down. Okay. You will be so glad you did that. Fortune.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, they were all on that day just like yapping and cutting each other off and making jokes and it was really sweet.

[Tig Notaro]

And your. Your reps can help you hunt that down. You gotta do it. It'd be one day of work for you to do. Ye. You know, Phone calls, emails.

[Fortune Feimster]

I should get a lot of that footage because it was all about me and my mom. Yeah. And there. I'm sure we got some cool stuff that. And, like, when they aired it, it was supposed to be about comedians and their moms, but they barely showed anything that they filmed. It was very odd. They showed me. They showed more stuff of me on stage than they did of the footage in my hometown.

[Tig Notaro]

Interesting.

[Fortune Feimster]

I know. And. And so we. I have all this probably pretty great footage of the two of us that I would like to get a lot of if I don't know how that works. But I'll have them look into it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yes, you will. That's exciting. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

So, yeah. Shout out Ginge.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. The Y. Yaya's Fortune Feimster. And the Yaya's is the band name.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's right.

[Tig Notaro]

And.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, that's all I got.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, let's get into our questions then.

[Hope (Caller)]

Hi, handsome. This is Hope calling from Georgia. First of all, thank you so much for the endless entertainment. One of the things I love to do besides listen to your podcast is do road trips and stop at weird roadside attractions, like, I don't know, like, largest ball of yarn, or. I recently went to see a peanut shaped like Jimmy Carter. My question is, if you had to design a new roadside attraction, and I know I'm going to get pushback on the. Had to. Like, why you have to. So let's say you are going to earn money for this that goes to charity, charity of your choice. What roadside attraction would you design and tell me a little bit about it?

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, have you ever. Have you ever been to one of those random roadside things?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I think I've seen the ball of yarn or the rubber bands or whatever I stopped into.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think it was Arlington, Texas. They have a bunch of, like, Cadillacs in the ground, like, standing up. It was kind of crazy. I don't know why, but it's there.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

The end.

[Tig Notaro]

I think I would personally like, just right out of the gate. What I would love to see is just like a huge animal sanctuary adoption place where you're on the road, you're exhausted, and I'm talking a big one, like, where you pull off the side of the road and you just pet kittens and dogs and old grandpa animals and. And just like, you know, you're just like, all right, that was fun. But also, I'm gonna take Mittens with me. And I mean, like, a circus of.

[Fortune Feimster]

Animals out there, but they're all treated very well.

[Tig Notaro]

And, oh, well, of course, I'm not gonna have a roadside attraction where animals are getting abused.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's right. I'm just saying this is like the place to go. It's like a spa here.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

For animals. But they also. But you're. There's so many that they. They need forever homes.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. And if you can't adopt them though, it's just so fun to like run around with cows.

[Fortune Feimster]

Love it. Cows.

[Tig Notaro]

Does that sound fun? I love it.

[Fortune Feimster]

That sounds great.

[Tig Notaro]

I just saw a very long haired cow.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really?

[Tig Notaro]

Like flowing in the wind hair. Oh, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't see many of those.

[Tig Notaro]

I've never seen one until that. Yeah, but I don't know, I just. That would be a sight for sore eyes if you're like on the road for days and hours and I like that.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, I, you know, now that I'm a Disney beaver, I would have said I would have some kind of beaver attraction, but Bucky's kind of cornered the market on that. They beat me to the puncher. Have you been in a Buc EE's?

[Tig Notaro]

I have. And what is your feeling about buc ee?

[Fortune Feimster]

They're ginormous.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, I know their size, but I.

[Fortune Feimster]

Mean, you know, the. I like the novelty of it. You go in there and hear him yelling about brisket sandwiches and pick out a million different versions of beef jerky or fudge.

[Tig Notaro]

It's a lot.

[Fortune Feimster]

It's a lot though. You know, I like to get in and get out. I don't go lolly gagging.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, here's my thing. I'm very confused about everyone. Like people's obsession with BUC EE's. Like, I don't, I don't. I don't get it. I'm just like, right, there's gas here and then there's a place where you can buy a bunch of stuff.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, who cares?

[Tig Notaro]

Like, why is everyone buying shirts about it and like talking to friends and you gotta go to Buc EE's and oh my God, you go to Bucky's.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like, I don't think you're the target audience.

[Tig Notaro]

No, I'm not. And I'm not the target audience that talk to me about BUC EE's.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, well, because they're going in there for brisket and jerky and those aren't your things already. They've lost you.

[Tig Notaro]

Even if they had vegan brisket and jerky all down the aisles, the whole hype around it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm like, who cares?

[Fortune Feimster]

Who cares? Well, I'll tell you something. They did two things. They did that were interesting to Mark?

[Tig Notaro]

This isn't anti buc EE's. This is anti the people freaking out about Buck.

[Fortune Feimster]

I hear you.

[Hope (Caller)]

I hear you.

[Fortune Feimster]

But I am going to highlight two things that people do like about it. One, they don't allow any of those big transfer trucks.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

And you know, those can get a little intimidating to drive around at gas stations on the road. So people are kind of into that, that they. They don't allow that.

[Tig Notaro]

That's not what I'm talking about.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, the other thing they did is they catered to women, which is unusual by they. Their marketing plan was clean bathrooms. Women like clean bathrooms. And I will say their bathrooms are unbelievable.

[Tig Notaro]

I understand this. I know all of this. I'm all for Buc EE's, all right? I'm not all for the people that are acting like, yeah, this is some like. Like, we need merchandise and we need to tell everyone alive how incredible. Bucky.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, I think it's like one of those things that it just kind of becomes part of the, like, culture, how people wear, like, Waffle House T shirts, you know? I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

It just becomes like, Yeah. I feel like Bucky's is a whole different thing.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, well, it's kind of like a. Yeah, it's like a circus. I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't know. Well, I think it's also kind of my response when what was that frozen yogurt place everyone went nuts about?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, Pinkberry or. Yeah, Berry.

[Tig Notaro]

And then like, the donut place that everyone was going.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, like the hubbub.

[Tig Notaro]

I know. I'm just like, go in, get your donut, go and get your jerky. Go get your gas and just cork it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Cork it.

[Tig Notaro]

Quit acting like a nerd. Your mouth about a gas station. I mean, get a life. Okay, I'm sorry. I didn't know I had that much ye pent up anger around.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm glad you got it out.

[Tig Notaro]

Me too.

[Fortune Feimster]

It's been a long time coming.

[Tig Notaro]

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[Tig Notaro]

Was that a question we had? Like, why am I Talking about by.

[Fortune Feimster]

Saying they already did what I would do, which would be a beaver place.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, roadside attraction. Right. I don't really have.

[Fortune Feimster]

Other than that. I don't. I mean, I. I don't have anything random. I just want food. Like, I just want a bunch of pastries and pies.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, and then. And then maybe some lesbian music playing, like Melissa Etheridge or something.

[Tig Notaro]

All right, well, does Hope have an answer? Come to my bookies.

[Fortune Feimster]

Go get your pies.

[Hope (Caller)]

The roadside attraction I would design would be, like, a giant TV with, like, a row of giant books on top. And then, like, inside you would see, like, weird artifacts that were, like, supposedly from big movies, but, like, you know, for sure they're just, like, totally made up. Or like, you know, like a gum wrapper found on the set of Scream. Something like that. Thank you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

I like it. I like it.

[Tig Notaro]

Hope we like it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Hope.

[Tig Notaro]

We like it. And we like you, Hope. And we like when people send in questions and answers and who's the next one? Who's the next one?

[Andy (Caller)]

Hi, handsome pod. My name is Andy. I'm from Houston, Texas. So my question to you is, I have a friend that I've been friends with for years, and I love her. She's a very, very kind hearted person. She's the embodiment of treat people how you want to be treated. My issue is, is that she tends to tell, shall we say, tall tales. And she does this a lot. So much so that I find myself kind of zoning out when she's telling these tall tales. My question to you guys is, what should I do about this? Should I call her out? Should I go along with it? Should I subtly let her know that I don't really believe what she's telling me? How would you guys address this? I absolutely love the pod. It was something I feel like we desperately need in these times. You guys are my favorite sillies.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, thanks. Oh, finally, some advice.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, first of all, I don't believe that she has friends that lie to her.

[Fortune Feimster]

No. I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

It doesn't sound like being funny. I was being funny.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh.

[Tig Notaro]

I was acting like she's a liar, too.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, get it? Yeah, yeah, I get it. I get it. Do you think the people that ex. Because I know some people that exaggerate like that. Do you think they realize they're doing that?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really?

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. Yes, I do.

[Fortune Feimster]

Have you. Have you encountered this in your own life where you've had to say something to someone?

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, but.

[Fortune Feimster]

And you did. And you did Say something.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, you're pretty straightforward like that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, but I'm not doing it in a. Like, you're lying to me.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

I've done it more in a way of, like, hold on a minute. You know, where I'll be like, back up.

[Fortune Feimster]

You're.

[Tig Notaro]

I need clarity here. I need clarity. You're telling me that this, this, and this happen, or they'll kind of big talk, like, oh, if this happened, I would just do this. And then I'm like, would. I'm sorry, but would you really just. Do you know what I'm saying? The other thing, and I feel like I've talked about it on this.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is.

[Tig Notaro]

On this show, is there was this guy, and believe it or not, before I knew I was gay, he was pursuing me.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And he was. He was calling, and he was. I mean, lying his face off.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my God. And you could tell it was like, the craziest lies every time he could. And I remember I actually knew him from long ago, and we ran into each other as adults, and I remembered it about him as a kid where I was like, this guy, right? So as an adult, I'm like, wow, he's still doing this, but it's, like, on a bigger scale.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And he was clearly trying to do it to impress me. And the last time I ever heard of. Ever heard from him, he lied to me. Like, of course, I don't have proof, but I know he lied to me.

[Fortune Feimster]

He doesn't have that. You can kind of tell when someone's like.

[Tig Notaro]

Let me tell you what he. Let me tell you what he told me.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And this was. I was so irritated, and, like, this was before caller id And I would never know it was him. And I'd pick up, and I'd be like, oh, boy. And. And one. And his favorite band was R.E.M.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Loved R.M. well, he calls me, and what do you know? He's backstage at R.E.M. yeah. He's hanging out with them. But you know what? He took a beat and he went to the payphone to call me.

[Hope (Caller)]

Right?

[Tig Notaro]

To just chat.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm having the time of my life.

[Tig Notaro]

He's having the time is call T. Got it. Step away. Not even. Just enjoy the time of my life. But I need to go call. Call Tig from the pay phone. Long distance.

[Fortune Feimster]

Long distance. Collect call. They called those.

[Tig Notaro]

It wasn't collect. He paid. He. He paid.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, okay.

[Tig Notaro]

And so anyway, after, I was sitting there rolling my eyes, so irritated that this guy, like, you think I'm the. Like on what planet did you end up backstage at your favorite bands?

[Fortune Feimster]

Right?

[Tig Notaro]

And of course I understand. It happens, but this was just. It was par for the course of this guy. And I'm sitting. I finally come up after we get off the phone, I come up with the perfect thing to say to a liar.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

But I never heard from him again. And what I should have said to him when he was telling me he was backstage partying with rm, I should have said, me, too.

[Fortune Feimster]

That is funny that when it hit.

[Tig Notaro]

Me, I was like, that is the best thing to say to a liar is just tell them you're doing the same thing. Like, oh, my God, you're backstage. I'm backstage at REM Too. Where do you want to meet? Because, like, he's not going to call me a liar.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

He's probably gonna hang up the phone.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's so funny. I've never even occurred. That never even occurred to me.

[Tig Notaro]

It never occurred to me either. But he drove me so crazy.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Drove me so crazy. So, yeah. That is. Those are different levels of confronting a liar where it's like, hold on, back up. I need clarity.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You know, and kind of get into it. Make them a little nervous and have them explain themselves. Because if you're not lying and somebody says, back up. I need clarity. Yeah. You don't take that personally. No big deal. I'll give you all the clarity you want.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And then you have some unhinged lunatic that is like, I landed a 747 on a freeway. And you're like, oh, yeah, me too. What was your experience like doing that? It is the best feeling.

[Fortune Feimster]

That is pretty funny. So, yeah, I like something like that. I don't recommend just, like, calling, being like, you're lying.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm more of just like, yeah, like, wait, what was that? Come on, now. You know, that didn't happen. I kind of start teasing people, like. Well, we. We early on, we joke with May because May told us, I think it was like, one of the first recordings that the Internet was out and would be on a TV, 1030 and Ting and I looked at each other like, okay, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

That was when their date has to get leave to go to work.

[Fortune Feimster]

So when May got on Tig and I just gave May so much, but in a fun way, where May was laughing and we were laughing because May was like. But kind of busted sort of thing. So there is a way to go about it where it can still be, like, you know, light.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. It's. It goes back to, like, your intentions and Your delivery. And you know, as long as you're not harboring some. I mean, I'm. It is crazy making. When somebody is consistently lying. It's. It's like, that's. It is tough. So I feel for you, Andy, but I think you can find a happy medium between. Hold on. I need some clarity. This. I'm confused. Walk me through this. Even down to me too.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And there's a whole new me too movement.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's right. And if it becomes a thing where they're like just being dishonest about every. Like, it's not like tall tales. When trying to like appear cooler is one thing, but just like straight up lying, then you can make a decision if that's somebody you want in your life or not.

[Tig Notaro]

You heard it here first.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because when someone lies like about everything all the time, that's. It's tough to have a deep friendship with that person.

[Tig Notaro]

For sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

Best of luck to you, Andy. Hopefully. Hopefully that helps.

[Tig Notaro]

We did it again.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, we did again. If you have any other advice, look how good we are at this. We just fixed everything. We just fixed Andy's entire life. You can send us questions here or ask us any kind of [e-mail] Handsomepod for sure. Well, what a treat.

[Tig Notaro]

Delight, delight, delight. Also, check out tignotaro.com for all of my tour dates I'm coming at you. New cities, new dates being added all the time.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, same. I'm. I'm going to the Beacon on February 14th, so join me for Valentine's Day in New York City. That'd be pretty sexy.

[Tig Notaro]

I'll be there.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, I wish. That would be fun.

[Tig Notaro]

I won't be there, but have a great show and until next time, keep it pretty. Handsome Handsome is hosted by me, Tignotaro May, Martin and Fortune Feamster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email us@handsome podgmail.com Follow us on on social Media Anson Pod what a podcast.

[Fortune Feimster]

Podcast. What a podcast.

[Tig Notaro]

That was a headgum podcast.

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