Podcast Summary: Happy Wife Happy Life

Episode 93: Are You Allowed to Tell Your Partner What To Do?

Hosts: Kendahl Landreth & Jordan Myrick
Date: December 15, 2025

Episode Overview

As the season finale of Happy Wife Happy Life, Kendahl and Jordan switch things up with a Q&A episode—fielding listener questions on relationships, communication, jealousy, wealth gaps, sex drives, and whether it's healthy (or even possible) to never argue with your partner. The episode, as always, is suffused with their unqualified yet deeply heartfelt comedic wisdom, and peppered with their own relationship anecdotes, high school gossip, unruly aquarobics drama, and playful banter about butt-hugging gym shorts. The main thread: navigating the boundaries of what partners can or should "tell each other to do," especially as it relates to everything from daily chores to personal freedom and mutual respect.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Season Reflection and End-of-Year Vibes

• The hosts reflect on a tumultuous year—tough, but growth-filled—and what the new year means for them emotionally as a couple and as show creators.
  • "In hardness, there's growth." (Kendahl, 01:19)
  • Setting the tone for positive changes and more "movement" intentions (including some drama at their aqua aerobics class—see below).

2. Aqua Aerobics Class Drama (00:23—10:35)

• A hilarious, drawn-out recounting of an unexpectedly heated scene when their class's elderly instructor failed to show up.
  • The class ("age range from 60 to 105") revolted over their "valuable time" and the young rec center worker offering refunds.
  • A participant led the class herself to "So What" by Pink, followed by "Numb" by Linkin Park blasting from the boom box—turning the session into a near-union strike.
  • Notable moment:
    • "Our time is just as valuable as theirs!" (Aqua class participant, 05:36)
    • "It felt like such a big fuck you to the aquatics program. It felt nuts. The energy was psychotic." (Jordan, 07:38)
• Both marvel at the intense social dynamics of the class and compare it to union picket lines:
  • "I felt like if they'd started getting torches out, we would have joined them." (Kendahl, 08:31)

3. Listener Q&A

a. Politics and Relationships (18:49–24:06)

• Can you discuss politics without devolving into an argument?
  • Both believe couples should fundamentally align on values; arguments/discussion over minor differences are normal and even healthy.
  • "Your politics are your morals and your morals are your politics. And if you guys don't stand the same on moral issues ... I could never imagine ... dating someone who was super conservative." (Jordan, 20:56)
  • Watch out for dynamics with men who treat politics like sport/game, or who lecture rather than listen.
  • If discussions don't feel good, address it directly and kindly.

b. Is It Bad to Never Argue? (24:18–36:22)

• Is a conflict-free relationship possible or desirable?
  • Both are highly skeptical that "never arguing" is real or healthy.
  • Three theories if someone claims this:
    1. Lying to themselves or others.
    2. Conflict exists, just expressed differently (e.g., passive aggression).
    3. Total avoidance of conflict, possibly due to people-pleasing.
  • Healthy relationships include disagreements, and arguing doesn't signal a problem.
    • "If you never have arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings, anything, that is very bizarre to me. And I don't think those things are negative forms of communication." (Jordan, 27:58)
  • "Arguing, disagreeing, having a misunderstanding ... if you never have arguments, that's very bizarre to me." (Jordan, 27:58)
  • Not being 100% honest may actually suppress real communication.

c. Should You Stay Out of Relationships After a Breakup? (40:02–41:52)

• Both urge a pause before jumping into the next serious thing; self-reflection and time alone after endings are valuable—even if a “new love” seems perfect.
  • "At the ending of every relationship, even if it ended amicably, I still think there are things you could reflect on and time to spend alone to enhance yourself for the next person you may be with." (Jordan, 41:08)

d. Should You Be Friends With an Ex? Should You Share About Dates? (42:02–42:57)

• Immediate post-breakup friendships are not recommended: cool-off periods are vital.
  • If you're even wondering what to share, it's a sign you're not truly just "friends" yet.

e. What Is Overlooked as a Non-Dealbreaker? (43:16–47:04)

• Both agree sexual compatibility is important but caution against using "sex drive" as a make-or-break.
  • "Your sex drive is going to change so much as you age and go in and out ... there are so many things that won't go in and out. How on the same page you are about life, how kind someone is—those don't really change." (Kendahl, 44:28)
  • Life changes (illness, stress, aging, parenthood, etc.) shift libidos, so flexibility and empathy matter more across a lifetime.

f. Navigating Wealth Gaps (47:53–49:52)

• The “richer” partner should pay for things, especially when it’s a true wealth gap.
• Note: wealth and money dynamics can breed other issues; pay attention to power imbalances.

g. Jealousy, Attraction, & Boundaries—Telling a Partner What to Wear (51:27–58:12)

• Jordan discusses her jealousy when Kendahl wears revealing gym shorts:
  • "Kendall already, as you all know, has a big fat ass. And so Kendall was wearing a little bra ... and these shorts ... and she's like, 'I'm going to the gym.' And I was like, 'No, you're not. What are you talking about?'" (Jordan, 52:09)
  • Kendahl insists she dislikes being told what to do—even playfully—on principle:
    • "I don't like to be told what to do. And so I think if Jordan, like ... I wouldn't let you do this thing. ... Yes I can." (Kendahl, 57:16)
• The consensus: outright control never works; communicate concerns, but ultimately respect each other's autonomy.

4. Memorable Quotes & Moments

• "If you've never had an argument in 15 years together ... maybe one of you is in a coma." (Jordan, 25:57)
• "I'm not saying you can never draw attention to yourself, because, like, anything draws attention to anyone. ... But sometimes I'm kind of like, don't put 100 bumper stickers on your car. It makes people look at you for no reason." (Jordan, 53:40)
• "If you're not arguing, are you both really being honest?" (The hosts' consistent refrain)
• Continuous playful one-liners about misused idioms ("put the cow before the horse", "Ag Nauseum" for "Ad Nauseam"), showing the couple's real-life chemistry and humility.

Timestamps for Notable Segments

• Aqua Aerobics class drama: 00:23–10:35
• Politics and relationships Q&A: 18:49–24:06
• Never arguing—unicorn couples: 24:18–36:22
• Breakups & dating again: 40:02–41:52
• Friends with Exes?: 42:02–42:57
• Dealbreakers & Sex drive myths: 43:16–47:04
• Wealth gap in couples: 47:53–49:52
• Partners telling each other what to wear / Autonomy: 51:27–58:12
• Season highlights and gratitude: 58:27–end (60:22)

Summary Table: Episode Insights at a Glance

| Topic | Hosts' Key Take | Notable Quotes / Timestamps | |-----------------------------------|-----------------------------|------------------------------------------------------| | Politics in Relationships | Align on core values; healthy debate is OK | "Your politics are your morals..." (20:56) | | Never Arguing | Unrealistic & possibly unhealthy | "Maybe one of you is in a coma" (25:57) | | Post-Breakup Dating | Take time for yourself | "Reflect before next big thing" (41:08) | | Friends with Exes | Cool-off period needed | "If you're wondering what to share—they're not just a friend" (42:50) | | Sex Drive as Dealbreaker | Overrated, it changes | "Your sex drive is going to change..." (44:28) | | Wealth Gap Dynamics | Rich partner should pay | "If one of you is rich, you're both rich." (48:43) | | Jealousy / Partner Autonomy | Communicate, don't control | "I don't like to be told what to do." (57:16) |

Final Thoughts & Closing

The season closes with gratitude, shout-outs to their production team and friends, and excitement for season three. They encourage listeners to leave feedback and requests.

Parting sentiment:
"I just love hosting a podcast with you. Sometimes there's arguments and sometimes there's disagreements. ... At the end of the day, you go viral." (Kendahl & Jordan, 59:56–60:09)

For First-Time Listeners

This episode captures the comedic, honest, and loving spirit of Happy Wife Happy Life, breaking down big relationship questions with vulnerability and humor, showing that partnership is about negotiation—not control—honest communication, and always being open to laughter and growth.