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Her Style Podcast | Shopping, Color Palettes, Fashion, Wardrobe, Outfits, Clothing
306 | Why Your Closet Feels Random (Even If You Love Everything In It)
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If someone took every single piece of clothing you own and laid it all out in front of you, could you explain how it's supposed to work together? Not where you bought it or why you loved it in the moment, but how those pieces actually connect. How they build outfits, how they support your real life. Workdays, weekends, errands, dinners. All of it. Because this is where so many women get stuck. Not because they have bad clothes, not because they shop too much, and definitely not because they don't have stuff style. But because there's no system holding their wardrobe together. Most women I work with have truly great taste. They know what they like, or at least it doesn't take us too much effort to figure that out. They can spot a beautiful piece from a mile away. And yet getting dressed still feels frustrating, time consuming, or oddly disappointing. Not because the clothes are wrong, but because they were never taught how to make their wardrobe work as a whole. So if you've ever looked at your closet and thought, why does this feel harder than it should? This episode is going to help things finally click into place. Because today we're talking about why your closet can feel random even when you love what's in it. And how a little clarity completely changes how it all comes together.
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Welcome to her Style podcast, where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence. I'm your host, Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist.
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Ready to build a wardrobe and a.
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Personal style you love.
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Let's get started. Okay, I think you're gonna love this one. We are having some real talk today, friend. And I think there's an unspoken question that I've been picking up on a lot lately from my clients and our community as a whole. And just something I'm noticing, which is the feeling of, okay, I've been dressing myself for decades. Why does this still feel so hard? And usually that thought comes with a little bit of embarrassment, a little bit of shame, a little bit of frustration, or a lot of frustration. And it feels like you should be past this by now. Like, getting dressed should be easy and automatic. And to a degree, style is intuitive. And I love empowering you to lean in and trust your judgment when it comes to getting dressed. When. But style is also learned. And it's not fair to expect yourself to be a master at something you haven't studied and practiced in a repeatable and personalized way. Most women were never taught how to build a wardrobe that truly works for them. Maybe you were taught how to shop. You were taught how to recognize something pretty. You keep up with the trends and so you feel savvy about what's in and what's out. And you've seen other people put capsules together and you've tried to replicate that for yourself. You listen to the podcast, you do a lot of research and homework, and you're hungry for this information. But you were likely never taught how to take a group of clothes and make them function together in a way that supports your real life and what you want and need. Personally, I'm talking at the micro level of what you need every single day to show up looking and feeling your best. So when your closet feels random, it's not that you're failing at this or you should have this figured out by now, it's just that you're missing some essential skills to bring it all together. And it is way simpler than you are probably thinking. But once you can really see that, everything will start to shift. Because as I said in the intro, most women I work with do not lack style. They have great taste, they know what they like. They can walk into a store and immediately gravitate toward the best things. The problem is that owning beautiful clothes doesn't mean they'll automatically work for you. Having good taste and knowing how to get dressed every day are two very different skills. And so you can have impeccable taste and still stand in front of your closet feeling completely stuck. You can own gorgeous, Instagram worthy pieces and still end up wearing the same outfits on repeat. You can get compliments and still feel unsure whether you could recreate that outfit again without accidentally ruining it next time. And that's usually the moment when women start thinking, okay, maybe I just need to shop smarter. And so they buy better basics, they simplify, they upgrade some things, they go neutral, so everything just feels really cohesive and easy. They try to streamline, they pare down until they have very little options to choose from. And sometimes that helps for a minute. It's certainly not a bad idea. You know I'm all about shopping smarter, but if you've ever done all of that and you still felt underwhelmed, confused or bored after all of that hard work, I think there's a reason Basics don't create cohesion on their own, and neutrals don't magically make a wardrobe work. And minimalism without intention can feel just as frustrating as having excess, because you still don't know how to fully utilize what you own. And so the issue is never that you had too much or too little. It's simply that there's no system connecting it all together. I think most closets feel random because they were built through intuitive shopping, not strategic shopping. And again, intuitive shopping isn't bad. It's actually very human. You might be shopping for moments, for moods, for trends, maybe for others. And you shop for the different facets of your life. You grab things up that you need for work and for weekend life and vacation mode and date night and when you're all in your mom responsibilities. And each of those versions has a slightly different idea of who you are and what you need. And so when those purchases aren't connected by a bigger framework, they don't stack up. They just feel really scattered. And you end up with work outfits that you feel great in, but then nothing that you're excited to wear on the weekend. Or you have lots of beautiful, dressy pieces that feel amazing, but they don't translate into your everyday life. I've shared many times that was absolutely the category that I fell into. I loved buying all the beautiful cocktail dresses and statement pieces and then I struggled to get dressed on the daily. Or maybe you are someone who has super comfortable clothes that technically work, but they don't feel feel like you or make you want to be seen by others. Maybe they're things you'd be embarrassed to actually wear out of the house. And so individually, you're probably doing a lot of things that are working and what you own might be great, but together they don't make getting dressed any easier. And so most mornings don't start with clear decisions. They start with questions that end up looping, like, okay, is this outfit too much? Is this too boring? Are people going to think I look stylish enough? Why did this outfit work in my head but now it looks off when I look at it in the mirror? And then you try something on but you're not sure about it, so you end up changing and second guessing yourself. And then you wonder if you should have worn something else. And even when you land on an outfit that works, you don't fully trust that you could recreate that success tomorrow. And all of this is completely exhausting. And it gets even harder when you don't understand why certain pieces or outfits work and others don't. You might know that one outfit looks incredible on you, but you can't explain why. You don't know what's creating that feeling of balance and having it look just so put together and effortless. You don't know which elements are doing all the heavy lifting. So then when you try to mix and match your pieces in new ways, it feels a little too risky. Like one wrong move could throw the whole thing off. And this is why so many women have clothes they love, but they don't reach for clothes that they're saving or that only work with one very specific item or in one very specific way. Clothes they hesitate before wearing, even though there's nothing wrong with them, they're fabulous. And so all of this leads to a closet that starts to develop some invisible categories, like the safe outfits, the special outfits that you just hold on reserve. And then, of course, you've got the comfortable but not quite right outfits. So they're the ones, like I said before, you probably don't really want to be seen in, or the okay, I'll wear this someday pieces. And every time you get dressed, you're navigating those categories without realizing it. And so that's why styling feels hit or miss and why inspiration feels exciting, but then hard to actually apply. And Pinterest and Instagram might show you the finished look, but not the reasoning behind it. So you see the outcome, but you don't see the logic of how it came together. And without that, copying only gets you so far. I think I've said this before, but inspiration without interpretation is just going to lead you to a ton of frustration. Because what works on someone else isn't just about the clothes. It's about the person, their proportions, the context of how they're wearing it, their lifestyle. And of course, all of that is really the personal style logic. And when you skip that, the outfit doesn't translate in the same way. And then you're left wondering why something that looked so good in theory doesn't quite work in real life. And this is usually the point where women start thinking that they need to just try harder, shop more intentionally, be more disciplined, and finally figure it out. But the truth is, you don't need to do more. You just need a better way to see what you already have. Lilo agrees with me. I don't know if you can hear her barking in the background. She's like, yes, mom, you said it. Let me see if I can get her to quiet down. Okay. Sorry about that. Real life sound effects over here. But as I was saying, I really want you to get to the point where you know your closet inside and out. You know exactly what's there. You know why it's there. You know how to adjust an outfit for different situations instead of starting over from scratch. Where you can trust yourself to remix things because you understand what works for you and why. And you can troubleshoot your outfit in a fraction of the time and make adjustments in a really empowered way. And the goal of all of this is so that getting dressed can become faster. Yes. But more importantly, so it becomes calmer. So you are not constantly wondering if you made the wrong choice. You're not distracted by your outfit all day, like we talked about in our last episode. Or maybe the one before that. Sorry. So that you feel more like yourself, more consistently across all the different parts of your life, and maybe most importantly, so that you can feel your best in every area of your life as well. I work with so many women who just feel like they're crushing it in their work wardrobe, and then after hours, they have no idea what to wear. So I want you to feel incredible from the start to finish of your day, no matter what you have going on on the agenda. And I want to be very clear about something. You don't need a whole new wardrobe to get there. You don't need to purge everything you own. You can absolutely be a maximalist and make this work. And you don't need to commit to a whole new aesthetic or to buy into someone else's version of style. I think all you really need to bring this together is clarity. You need a clear style lens, a simple decision making framework, and a way to organize your closet around how you actually live. That's it. And that is why I am so excited to announce what's coming up for you next this month, which is our free shop your closet challenge Friend. This is not a makeover. It's not even a reset. And it's definitely not a shopping push. It's designed to help you understand your wardrobe, what's already there, to start seeing patterns, to connect the dots, and to finally organize everything in a way that makes sense for you so that you can get dressed every single day with clarity, ease, and confidence. So this is a free three day experience. It's happening online from Tuesday, January 27th through Thursday, January 29th. We're gonna meet each night live at 8pm Eastern, either in Zoom or inside our private pop up feature Facebook community. Whatever feels easiest for you. And each day I'm gonna walk you through a focus training. You're gonna get an easy action step you can implement right away to start seeing real transformation in your wardrobe and in your mornings. And then we're gonna open things up for real time Q and A at the end of each session so you can get help with your closet, your exact challenges, and your real life. Now, I don't know how long you've been following me, but I did run this challenge last spring and the response honestly blew me away. And even if you joined me then back in, I think we ran it in April. I want you to come back again because this version has an entirely new look and feel. We're rolling out all of our new branding this month. And more importantly than just how it looks, I've refined the framework, tightened up the teaching, and made the experience even more supportive and practical for you. So if you loved the last one, you are going to be so happy that you joined again for this one. Inside the challenge, we're not just pulling outfits together, we're going to build understanding so you can begin to see why certain things work, why others don't, and how to make more intentional choices with what you already own. That awareness doesn't go away after these three days together. It's going to become the foundation for how you get dressed, how you shop when you're ready to do that, and how you think about your whole wardrobe moving forward. So if your closet has ever felt almost right, like all the pieces are there but something still isn't clicking, this is the event that will help you bring it together and appreciate what you own in a whole new way. I promise you already have more than enough. You just need a new way to style everything on purpose so you can join me. Save your free seat right now@herstylellc.com challenge. I cannot wait to see you there. Truly, this is one of my favorite things I get to do all year, so don't miss it. Herstylellc.com challenge and I'll see you there.
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Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you want to stop copying everyone else's style and start dialing in your own sweat swoon worthy signature look. Head over to take my free 5 minute personal style quiz which you can find at the link in the show notes. If you've enjoyed our time together, please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to her style podcast so you never miss an episode. Finally, I invite you to make this a two way conversation and send me a DM over on Instagram eatherrigstyle to let me know how I can best support you on your style journey. I'm always here for you in style and service. Until next time.