Highest Self Podcast® — Ep. 593: How To Make The Unknown Your Bitch with Sahara Rose

Air Date: March 11, 2025
Host: Sahara Rose

Episode Overview

In this deeply candid and empowering solo episode, Sahara Rose explores the transformative power of embracing the unknown in our lives. From personal heartbreak and betrayal to profound spiritual growth, she redefines uncertainty as a sacred teacher rather than something to fear. Sahara blends vivid storytelling, practical wisdom, and playful spiritual metaphors to guide listeners through surrender, self-honesty, and manifesting a life that’s truly aligned with their higher selves.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Unknown as Our Greatest Teacher

[00:00-02:00]

• Sahara opens with personal vulnerability: She shares how personal upheavals, particularly discovering infidelity in her marriage, catapulted her into the unknown and onto a path of rebirth.

  "The unknown has been my greatest teacher. It has made me its bitch. But in turn, I have learned to love being domed by the unknown." — Sahara Rose [00:00]

• She reframes the unknown from a state of loss to a fertile ground for possibility, creativity, and revelation.
• Listeners are prompted to reflect on their own relationship with uncertainty: Do you see the unknown as expansive possibility, or a threat?

2. Embracing Surrender: Letting Go for Something Greater

[04:12-13:30]

• Sahara narrates her personal story of heartbreak and divorce, describing the shock and fallout, especially given her culture’s beliefs around marriage.
• The moment she realized:

  "If spirit was taking away something from my life that I thought I needed... then there had to be something that was so much beyond that that I didn't even know I needed." [12:40]

• She underscores the importance of not clinging to old identities or rushing to fill the void—true surrender is relinquishing the old before the new arrives.

3. The Rollercoaster Analogy: Riding the Waves of Change

[14:00-18:20]

• Sahara urges listeners to stop white-knuckling through transitions and “put your hands up and enjoy the ride.”

  "Spirit was like, bitch, there’s no rails on this ride. You’re just gonna have to free fall it." [17:20]

4. Synchronicity in the Unknown: The Magic of Letting Go

[19:00-24:00]

• She describes a healing trip to Bali during her “dark night of the soul,” where plans fell through, forcing her to confront loneliness.
• Unexpected connections and a sense of community emerged only after her willingness to be alone and open.
• Key takeaway: "The gift of the unknown is that old version of you is gone. And you get to literally decide who do I want to be on the other side." [24:55]

5. The Spiritual Opportunity in Catastrophe

[26:15-31:29]

• Draws on the Hindu goddess Kali as an archetype of destruction and renewal.
• "She will burn your old life to the ground because she knows that you are capable of something so much greater." [27:11]
• Emphasizes that "spirit whispers before it screams"—change often starts with subtle hints before big shakeups.

6. Why Manifestation Stalls: The Problem of Full Hands

[32:30-36:40]

• Sahara compares life to walking into a toy store with arms full of old toys, unwilling to let go until the Universe forces our hands open to receive the new.

  "Most people want to manifest while their arms are stuffed with their old life... where is new Barbie going to come through? Your shit don't have space in it." [34:22]

7. The Three Stages of Becoming Friends with the Unknown

[38:42-43:40]

1. Letting Go: Release the stable or familiar.
2. Dwelling in Limbo: Remain in uncertainty until you’re at peace with the void.

   "The unknown doesn't give you what you want until you've made peace with the not having of it." [41:20]

3. Receiving and Grounding: When new things arrive, embrace the next unknown—stability, routine, or relationship.

• Warns about faking peace versus true surrender.

8. Darkness as Fertile Ground — Feminine & Masculine Energies

[44:00-51:00]

• Explores how darkness (the void) is not evil, but a crucible for creation (seeds, wombs, the cosmos).
• Draws distinctions between feminine (always desiring more, struggling with emptiness) and masculine (enjoying stillness, nothingness).
• Shares her moving metaphor of cleaning out the closet as a way to invite in the new and shed outdated energies.

9. Closing with Self-Honesty and Micro Truths

[47:08-53:12]

• Daily honesty is the key to befriending change and avoiding dramatic upsets.

  "The unknown really becomes your bitch when you become honest with yourself." [47:08]

• Practical exercise: Each night, ask yourself where you might be living a "micro lie" or holding back; bring it to awareness before it explodes into crisis.
• Advocates refining truth within relationships, work, and self-talk—speaking the “unknown” into being with courage and gentleness.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On surrender:

  "You can cling onto the sides, or you could put your hands up, radio on, and see where spirit wants to take you." — Sahara Rose [17:26]

• On true manifestation:

  "Most people want to manifest while their arms are stuffed with their old life... The unknown is the space between what you have and what you want." [34:10 & 37:55]

• On initiation:

  "The initiation that needs to happen is what will actually prepare you to hold the relationship that you want." [39:16]

• On Kali and the void:

  "Everything grows in the dark. Our wombs, complete darkness within us, is where all of us were birthed... Darkness is limitless possibility." [44:53]

• True peace vs. fake peace:

  "There's a fake peace and a real peace. ... The fake peace is, 'I love being single! ... Where’s my man?!'” [41:37]

• On deep trust:

  "Trust the path. Let it all unfold. Just release the control." [1:02:50]

Guided Visualization & Reflection

[43:40-46:09]

• Sahara invites a powerful visualization: Picture your highest self ten years from now, then channel advice from that future version back to your present self.
• Practice deep gratitude and trust for your own path, knowing "there was always a greater intelligence to it all."

  "Your dreams are dreaming you back, but it's not so much about that dream as much as it is the journey of who you become in the process of manifesting that dream." [46:00]

The Spiral of Life, Seasons, and Change

[46:09-51:00]

• Life moves in cycles, often in 7-year patterns; death and rebirth are natural, and self-reinvention can be chosen daily.
• "Every single day I believe we're starting a new chapter... It's just how conscious of it do we become?" [47:20]

Closing Wisdom & Embodiment

[51:00–end]

• Self-honesty is the antidote to unwanted upheaval—address micro-emotions before they become macro-dramas.
• After the episode, Sahara plays her song “Patience Breathe” to embody the frequency of trust, surrender, and allowing.

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:00-02:00 — The Unknown as Teacher & Personal Story
• 12:40-14:00 — Divorce, Culture & Dharma
• 17:00-18:20 — Rollercoaster Analogy
• 19:00-24:00 — Bali: Loneliness & New Beginnings
• 27:11-29:45 — Kali & Spiritual Destruction
• 34:10-37:55 — Manifestation & Letting Go Metaphor
• 41:20-43:40 — Making Peace With Not-Having
• 43:40-46:09 — Highest Self Visualization Practice
• 47:08-51:00 — Self-Honesty & Micro-Truths
• 53:12–end — “Patience Breathe” (Original Song)

Final Takeaways

• The unknown is an initiator, forcing us to shed what no longer serves in order to prepare for the lives we truly desire.
• True magic and manifestation happen when we’re honest with ourselves and surrender fully to the spaces in between.
• Life is a spiral, and each cycle brings an invitation for deeper trust, authenticity, and creative remaking.
• Your only ‘job’ is presence and honesty; everything else unfolds in its own divine timing.

Resources & Links Mentioned

• Free Daily Embodiment Practice
• Discover Your Dharma book & website
• Join Saharas’ Divine Feminine Mystery School
• Her Instagram

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