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The unknown has been my greatest teacher. It has made me its bitch. But in turn, I have learned to love being domed by the unknown. For me was finding out about infidelity in my then marriage. I had no idea where it was going to lead me, what to do. But what I knew was that. And that's what led to me traveling the world, becoming an artist, having my greatest glow up yet. The unknown doesn't give you what you want until you've made peace with the not having of it. And once you get so comfortable in it, things start to get known again.

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Trust flow sooner let go. Trust flow sooner let go. I'm the one I've been waiting for. Trust flows.

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Welcome back to the Highest Self podcast. My name is Sahara Rose, and on this podcast I love to talk about spirituality. But make it fun, fun, modern, grounded and relatable so it can actually serve your needs. And in this episode we're going to talk about how to make the unknown your your bitch, if that's even possible. So let's dive into it. What is the unknown and why has it been my greatest teacher? And before we drop into this episode, be sure to hit subscribe wherever you're listening to this podcast. That is the best way to stay up to date on the latest episodes. We've got this in video, so if you're just hearing my voice, be sure to also watch our fabulous outfits on video as well on Spotify, YouTube or the Apple Store. This is the best way to stay in the flow with future conversations and also allows the podcast to reach more people. So hit subscribe so I can keep vibing with you on all future episodes. Now let's get into this one. So let's just take a moment right now to pause. You know, this is, this is like a sermon. We're like vibing right now. So wherever you are, just like take a moment, drop in, take a deep breath. Like really just anchor into your seat a little bit. Drop into your feet. If you're standing, if you're moving, maybe you want to like, light a candle, set a little bit of a sacred space, burn some palo santo, some sage, some copal, set a little vibe. Because this is one of those episodes that I have no idea where it's about to go, which are kind of my favorite ones if you want to flow. And what's so cool about the unknown is when we surrender to the unknown, we show up for the thing without the future projections in our minds, but rather let the thing unravel. We are always taken on the Most divine ride. So strap in, we about to get into this one. So now that you're anchored into your seat a little bit, I want to ask you a question. What does the unknown mean to you when you take this word, the unknown? Where do you feel it in your body? What shows up for you? Does it feel expansive? Like, ah, the unknown, Anything is possible? Or is it like, ugh, the unknown, like, shit's about to hit the fan. Do you have a positive or negative association with the word unknown? And what are some visuals that may come to mind? So me, for me, I think about like those three doors and in cartoons, and it's like you're. You're gonna open up the door and you have no idea what's on the other side. And like, one of them has a prize, but then the other two suck. Like, I think of it that way. It's like I have no idea what's on the other door. And it's like you take a step into the universe. But what I've learned is that the doors actually all lead to each other. We're about to get into it. Okay, so why. Why am I such an unknown? Die Hard fan. I'm a Stan. I'm a Stan of the unknown. I'm gonna. I'm gonna out myself right now. Why am I such a Stan? Because the unknown has given me the greatest gifts of my life. It has been my greatest motherfucking teacher. It has made me its bitch. But in turn, I have learned to love being domed by the unknown, to surrender to the unknown. Because I know the unknown has everything I deeply want on the of it. So I want you to take a moment right now to think about a time that you were thrown into the abyss of the unknown. Like you were just living your life, doing your thing, riding your Flintstone car. And then all of a sudden, unknown was like, I'm coming over. Took apart. And you were like, what? I didn't even invite you. And she's like, I'm here. And your old life was no longer serving, and I'm just going to take it all away and leave you some little breadcrumbs, like in these, like, really kind of like strange ways that you're like, am I making this up or not? Just these little breadcrumbs that are gonna guide you towards everything you ever really wanted. But I have to also make you go through, like, your deepest, darkest pains and fears because, like, that's the thing that's gonna make you actually appreciate it. So that's the unknown for you right there. So I want you to think about a moment where you were thrown into the abyss of the unknown. Maybe a relationship ended. Maybe you got fired by a job. Maybe you found out about a health crisis. Maybe you had a fallout. So what was that time for you? So for me, that time was finding out about infidelity. That was going on in my then marriage, which took me by surprise. It was the last thing that I could have ever imagined. There were no hints, There were no signs. And in Spirit was just like, okay, girl, you're gonna live your dharma. You're gonna live your truth. You're gonna empower people. Well, here's a little thing that was lurking behind your back that you didn't know about. And we're gonna let you see it. And now it's up to you to decide what you want to do about it. And I knew for myself the very next day that I needed to get a divorce. So you may have noticed from listening to this podcast, talking to your friends, getting to know different people, that there are many different types of spirituality out there and even zooming into intuition, that we all connect to our intuition in different ways. So some people are like, I saw this vision of something, and it came right through. And other people are like, I just knew it. Like, I had a firm knowing that this was the truth. And someone else might say, I heard something in my ear, something whispered to me, or I received a download. And someone else might be saying, I had this gut feeling in my stomach. And you might be like, I don't know. I've had experiences with all of these. Which one is mine? So this was a really big question I had. What is my unique type of intuition? And that's why I've put together a free quiz that you can take in just 90 seconds to understand your unique type of intuition. So are you claircognizant, the person who just knows? Are you clairsentient, the person who feels things somatically in your body? Are you clairvoyant, the person that sees visions, dreams? Or are you clairaudience, the person that hears things? And then how can you actually integrate this into your life? How can you begin to trust your intuition? How can you begin to have a better relationship with your intuition? So you know the difference between the voice of your intuition and the voice of your fear? Because that's the big, eternal question. How do I know if this is really my gut guidance or if it's just me being afraid or carrying conditioning? And that's what we further dive into in our programs at the highest self Institute. So let's get started with understanding your type of intuition. Then I'll be guiding you on how you can actually even create a career using your intuition first and foremost. So head over to the show notes to take my free quiz. Discover your unique type of intuition. My top two are claircognizant and clairaudient, I would say. So I'm curious what yours are and so excited to support you on the other side. And so it was kind of instant, like life change before after line in the sand BC ad like your life will never be the same on the other side of this. And I had no idea where it was going to lead me what to do, let alone how to heal and make sense of it all. But what I knew was that if spirit was taking away something from my life that I thought I needed, I thought was was part of me, then there had to be something that was so much beyond that that I didn't even know I needed. And to learn that everything I actually deeply desire is within me. And for me, going through my biggest fear, which was infidelity, having a divorce that was unheard of in my family, we're Persian, so it's very much like you marry someone till death do you part, no questions asked. And that's how I was living my life. And spirit was like, oh well, we're going to show you firsthand this belief that you have how it's not actually based on the truth, but it needed to take me into the illusion that I was subconsciously holding onto that marriage equaled eternal safety and stability. So the universe needed to put me firsthand into the experience of seeing that it was not. And for me to find that security and stability within myself. And that's what led to me traveling the world, becoming an artist, having my greatest glow up yet. And what I knew to be true at that time, even though I had no evidence of it, was that this heartbreak will lead me to the greatest heart opening of my life. A love beyond what I could ever imagine. And it's not despite of this, but because of this that that is possible. And so I just made that my new belief. I did not want to take on what most women do of I will never trust again, I will never open my heart again. All men this, all men that. But rather I will make this the very reason why I learn trust, the very reason why I truly become a devotee of love. The very reason why I'm actually from a genuine place able to receive all of the love surrounding me, which by the way, is far beyond just romantic relationships. And so through going through my fear and being cast into the unknown of not knowing how to get divorced, where to live, how to make sense of it all, what I started to realize in that time of the unknown was the longer that I let myself stay in the unknown, the more magical life became. So at first it was like, oh my God, I don't know what's happening. And this like, crippling fear of like, let me sign a lease and move back to la. Let me just find someone else and get married again. Let me some something to hold on to, you know. And spirit was like, bitch, there's no rails on this ride. You're just gonna have to free fall it. And so like, you know, when you're on a roller coaster, it's like we're all on the same roller coaster and that's life. So I could be like clinging onto the sides for like dear life. And that roller coaster is going to be really uncomfortable and really scary because I'm hyping myself up. And also I'm gonna end up with like tense shoulders and like, my eyes might bulge out because I'm like, ah. The whole time. But instead I could put my hands up Radio one, you know, they gonna play my song. You know, put your hands up and enjoy the ride because it's gonna take you on a ride regardless. That's what the unknown does. She's like, you, you come in and shorty like, and you have no choice. So you can cling onto the sides. You could put your hands up, radio on and see where Spirit wants to take you. And what I started to realize was the longer I stayed in this unknown, the more magical my life became. So what does that really mean? So at first I'm like, sign a lease, go back to la, where, you know, safety, safety, safety. And then, you know, Spirit started leading me. And what I find is when you're cast into this unknown, the synchronicities are off the charts. Like, Spirit is speaking to you in ways that you could have never imagined before. And it would be like these breadcrumbs that I was like, am I making this up right now? So, for example, my friends were in Bali. They were like, you need to come to Bali. This is the perfect place to heal. Like, we're going to be here. We'll go to the waterfall together. We'll ecstatic dance. And I was like, okay, that sounds amazing. Why, like, why should I go back right now to la? I don't even have a place right now. This is a perfect time for me to take a month to travel. So I get to Bali deep in the dark night of my soul. And the next day, those friends said they had to leave the country because there was a loss going on in their family. So I'm like, I just came to Bali thinking that I was gonna spend some fun times with my gay brothers. And now they are gone, and I'm like, now I'm in Bali by myself. This is the last thing I wanted. I did not want to be alone. Like, if there was one thing I really didn't wanna do is be alone. So Spirit's like, okay, next fear being alone. We're gonna send you into that mystery school. So then I'm alone in Bali, and I'm gonna be real. Shit got dark. You know, I was. I was so sad. I was grieving. I was just trying to make sense of it all. And, you know, I was staying in this hut by the river, and I was just felt very alone. And it was Christmas Eve on top of all of that, and spirit guided me. I was like. I just knew I needed to get out of this. This. This, like, hotel, which, by the way, is on the Cyan River. And if you've been to Bali, you kind of have maybe heard that, like, a lot of black magic stuff goes on near the Cyan River. So it was like a dark energy. And I just knew I needed to just be around people, even if it was people I didn't know. So I went on hotels.com, and I just, like, looked up what hotels were available, which was like, nothing because it was Christmas Eve. But there was one hotel that was available, and it had opened that day. So I just was like, fuck it. Like, it's closer to Yoga Barn. I'll just go there. And so I booked that hotel, and I go over there, and I see someone that I know that was there. Like, someone I loosely knew from a very long time ago, and turned out they were the owner of that hotel. And every single day, they were doing all these, like, different activities. They were going hiking, they were going to temples, they were watching movies. So I just kind of became part of this new community which were all people in different walks of life going through big things that were all like, you know, Christmas alone and Bali, contemplating life, you know, and it ended up being such a beautiful community that I was a part of for a month. And it was really beautiful to not go back to the old friends and explain this happened, that happened. And that just takes me back into the story, but to, like, meet new people with this new version of myself. And I realize the gift of the unknown is that old version of you is gone. And you get to literally decide who do I want to bring be on the other side. So this takes us into now how to make the unknown our bitch. So, I mean, shout out unknown. We love you so much, and we mean this in the highest possible way. Like, sexy ass bitch for real. But this is when things started to shift for me. Instead of being like, I was supposed to be married. My life was supposed to go that way, and now this was taken away from me. I'm like, whoa, I'm in Bali and I'm meeting all these interesting people, and I could actually live wherever I want. And I can change anything about myself now. And I just started to think about just the conditioning that I had and the ways that I showed up and, like, really asking myself, do I want to bring this Forward in Sahara 2.0. And I realized that the opportunity that the unknown gives us is that we can truly create our own realities from the ground up, and that there's a gift that happens. So in Vedic spirituality, there is this deity named Kalima. She is the goddess of transformation, of destruction, of rebirth. And she. You've probably seen the depictions of her blue goddess, tongue out. She's ravenous. But the gift of Kali, so many people are afraid of Kali. People are like, please, no, Kali. But the gift of Kali is she will burn your old life to the ground because she knows that you are capable of something so much greater. And the thing is, sometimes it needed to get so bad for you to make the shift. Because, truth be told, spirit whispers. At first, it goes, this isn't right for you. This relationship isn't serving you. You're in your ego. You're not living your full potential. Insert your whisper here. And oftentimes we continue to go about our ways. And, you know, we're so stuck in the conveyor belt of life, of, well, I'm this. And I show up like that. And my friends are this. And I'm married. And. And then spirit's like, okay, you're not listening. Burn that shit to the ground. And then you have no choice but to really look at everything in your life that brought you to this now moment. And so the gift that the unknown gives you is. It's that clean slate. And you may be like, I've lost everything perfect. Because when you've lost everything from your hands, your hands are wide open. And this is the thing that's actually keeping most people back energetically from manifesting. Most people want to manifest while their arms are stuffed with their old life. Like, imagine I brought you to the toy store and I'm like, you can have any toy you want here. Like, go ham. It's on me. But you brought all of your old toys with you. So your arms are stuffed with your old toys and you're like, can I get this? Furby, can I get this PlayStation? Can I get this? Where is it going to go, honey? Because your hands still got Polly Pocket and Barbie old patriarchal version in it. So, like, where is new Barbie going to come through? Because your shit don't have space in it. So most people are like, I want to manifest through only ease. I want to keep all of my exact same life and have millions of dollars in the perfect relationship and the perfect friends and the perfect everything, but also not change a thing. Universe is like, I'm not hearing you right now. So most people's lives just stay the same for a really, really long time. Some people don't even really have dark nights of the soul. They kind of just live in it all the time. They're just. It's just normal for them. But some of us have that gift. Spirit is like, I know you are capable of so much more. I see it for you, girlfriend. So I'm gonna rock the boat. Rock the boat, rock the boat. You're gonna change positions in your life because you're worthy of more. And that's how spirit does it. At least that's how my spirit speaks to me. So what happens is spirit is like, you're not willing to let go of this. These old relationships, thought patterns, ways of being, sense of self. I'm gonna take it all away from you. I'm gonna do this big thing in your life. So then your arms are open and I can actually give you everything you want, but I don't give it to you instantly. Now here's the other thing. This is the conditional thinking a lot of us have. Okay, I'll give up this if you give me that. Okay, Trades these, right? Tradesies. I have this chocolate cupcake. I want this rainbow frosting cupcake. So, like, can we just do it exactly at the same time? I'm going to end this old relationship to have my dream man tomorrow, right? And I see this happening. I mean, for sure have said all this myself. But like, it's so funny when you see your friends of like, I'm gonna end this relationship and not Suffer. We're gonna consciously uncouple and I'm gonna meet my God man tomorrow. It's like, okay, honey, like, good luck with that one. And I love it. Call it in. I've never seen it come through. I'm just being honest with you. As a seven planet in Capricorn right now, I've never seen it. Because there's an initiation that needs to happen. And that initiation that needs to happen is what will actually prepare you to hold the relationship that you want. Yeah, I have the God dream, man. Though it's probably not what you think it's going to look like. It does not chase Momoa. Unfortunately, we're not all married to him. But a lot of the qualities that you are calling in is a hundred percent possible for you. But how are you when you have gotten off level three, ending this relationship here, ending this job here, ending this friendship here, ending this whatever here. You want a level 30 relationship, job, friend, lifestyle, how are you going to instantly make that leap when you have not done any development within yourself? That's where the unknown comes in. The unknown is the space between what you have and what you want. I want to say that again because I've never said that before. It was pretty good. The unknown is the space between what you have and what you want. I have this relationship, I want this kind of relationship, but I don't have it. So I'm afraid of letting go of this relationship because what if I never get that relationship? But the only way to get that relationship is the journey of becoming, the journey of unbecoming, the journey of raveling and unraveling, learning and unlearning. Which is some of it happens single and some of it will happen in that next relationship. P.S. so I share this because I feel a lot of us, we want what we want now and we don't want to make the shift. And the unknown gives us that blessing. So if you're in the unknown, just like, let's just give thank you to it. Thank you to the unknown. Thank you to the darkness. Thank you to the void. Thank you for the space in between. You know, the darkness in Sanskrit. So that's actually where the word Kali comes from. Darkness. It is the space of limitless possibility. So if you think about it, the soil, earth, dirt, it's where all life, seeds, trees, food, plants blossom from. Everything grows in the dark. Our wombs, complete darkness within us is where all of us were birthed from the womb. The womb within the cosmic womb. Space, infinite black space that we are Floating in. And that is what all planet and all lives and all stars and solar systems come from. So we are always held by the darkness. And the darkness is not. You know, it's funny how we're like, something as dark is bad. And that kind of pinpoints to us the critical flaw that we have in our society right now. Oh, that's dark. I don't like it. Like, darkness is limitless possibility. Darkness is, anything can happen. Darkness is, I'm being held by the cosmos. Darkness is nourishment, fertility. And I feel a lot of us, we, especially as women, we want a lot, right? We. We're always desiring. We're always desiring more. And that's the core thing about the feminine. Something you're gonna have to make peace with. We're always gonna want more. We will always want more. More love, more flowers, more attention, more everything. We love more. We're like alters. My body is an altar. We really are like that. However, what we struggle with sometimes is being in the void. So what is that void? The void is when the altar goes thrown off. The void is, I don't have. The void is, he's not there. The void is. That's not happening. The void is. I feel empty. We're so afraid of that as women, especially the masculine, actually really loves it. You know, masculine consciousness deeply desires to, like, be in stillness, be in nothingness, go up to the top of Mount Kalash as Lord shadow Shiva and meditate on just the totality and nothingness of the universe. And just like someone who's in their masculine, a dream day for them is like, no one asks them for anything. No one talks to them. They can just, like, be and, like, watch. You know, like, watch something. They. Masculine is more like a little bit of a voyeur, you know, the feminine. Our dream day is like we are in every. We're in love, we're in orgasm, we're in bliss. We're eating all the food. Oh, so good. We're shopping. We're buying everything. All of our friends are there. More, more, more. So you could see here the difference energetically between the masculine, feminine. So you can see why the unknown is especially hard for us feminine beings. Because we're like, I want more, not less. And unknown is stripping. It's renunciation. And the beauty of renunciation doesn't mean you have to live there. But it's like, you know, when you purge your closet, I'm in the middle of this. I'm. I'm moving. And so I'm in the middle of getting rid of a lot of my shit right now, and I'm like, oh, but I might wear this again sometime. And, you know, if I just hem this, it will fit again. And what if I'm invited to a costume party? And that would be the exact costume I needed. I can't get rid of it. Or. I don't know. I mean, I don't like that color right now, but, like, what if I start liking it again? It's so hard for me to let go of anything, you know? And that's the feminine right there. However, if I am just holding on to my closet perpetually, I would still have my same closet from 1999. I would be in limited to all day, which, truth be told, I wish I held on to some of that shit. I'm not gonna lie to you right now. But I wouldn't have grown, you know, I would have stayed in the. In the 2004. Like, long shirt, long necklace, like. Like, three layered tank tops. Air postal. Like, that would not have been a vibe. Limited two would have been. But not the arrowhost I could have. It's good I let go of that, you know, so it's like sometimes we have to let go of that. We don't need. It's like, I don't like giving things away, but once I do, I feel amazing. Do you know what I'm talking about? I'm like, no. I have to sort through my closet. I have to get things the way I might need it. Then once I do, I'm like, I am free. I'm liberated. I am a new woman. Anything is possible for me. Like, right now, I took all my out of my closet. It's just on the floor. But, like, something about it is screaming new energy right now. Like, I'm just ecstatic right now. I feel like I just have so much life force moving through me because my closet's empty, which means I get to shop more. But that's the thing that the unknown does. It takes away the things in the closet. So first, you have to make peace with not having everything in your closet. You have to make peace with maybe living out of a suitcase. You have to make peace with not having the home. You have to make peace with being single. You have to make peace with being in between jobs. You have to make peace with whatever that thing is of the in between. The unknown doesn't give you what you want until you've made peace with the not having of it. The unknown does not give you what you want until you've made peace with the not having of it. That was a good one. Spirit's leading us today. And there's a fake piece and a real piece. I'm gonna call that one out. The fake piece is, I love being single. I'm so happy here. It's just the best. It's living like, where's my man? That's the fake piece. The fake piece is, oh, yeah. I loved giving everything away. Goes online, buys everything instantly. The fake piece is, oh, yeah. I love not having a place. It's so amazing. I just have crippling anxiety all the time, and I'm constantly on Zillow and just waiting for something in my price range. That's the fake piece. And I know you're feeling it, and we're all going to feel it. And Spirit will make us sit there as long as it takes for us to really learn the lesson that that thing is trying to teach us. If you were in the exact mystery school that your highest self, imagine your future. Okay? Imagine right now, there's a future version of you. And this version of you. You can close your eyes if you want. This version of you, ten years from now, Just imagine right now, how old would you be? What do you look like? What are you wearing? How do you show up? How do you move through the world? You go through a day in your life. Where do you wake up? Who's next to you? What is your room like? How do you spend your morning? What do you have for breakfast? What kind of work do you do? How do you end your day? You come home and who's there? Who do you have dinner with? What's the energy? What's your evening ritual like? And now it's time to go to bed. As you close your eyes, you're sharing how you are so grateful for this life you created. You're so grateful for the unknown. Because it knew that this life was possible. Something you could have never even imagined. And now you're imagining yourself 10 years ago, what you were going through, your fears, your obstacles, how different you are. We're looking at that version of you right now in your mind's eye. And you think, if there's one piece of advice, if there's something I could tell, that version of me, it would be this. And now. Let yourself say it. Placing your hands on your heart, giving so much gratitude for your future self, for guiding you, always, for redirecting you, even when you don't know. For seeing the unseen, for seeing a possibility that you could not giving deep gratitude to the obstacles that have paved the path towards this new reality. How you wouldn't trade any of it for a thing. And how there was always a greater intelligence to it all. And now that you can see everything, it all makes sense and just anchoring in to have that trust right now, in this moment that you were guided on this red thread that is always taking you somewhere, that is connected in ways that you can't yet understand. That there are patterns happening that you cannot yet see, but they're taking you to a vision that you cannot yet imagine. And so trusting that, really trusting that path that you are on. Trust the path. Let it all unfold. Just release the control. Trust the path. Let it all unfold. Just release the control. Trust the path. Let it all unfold. Just release the control. Trust the path. Let it all unfold. Just release the control. Taking a deep breath in and exhaling out shaking any energy in your body. How do you feel now? So that future version of you exists, it already exists in a reality that is your highest self. And they are guiding you in every moment. They are guiding you along this path. They can see things that you cannot. And they're redirecting you in ways that you can't even imagine. And you're wondering why this door is not opening. You're trying to open this door so much, but your highest self knows what's on the other side. It's leaving crumbs that are guiding you towards something that is so much more deeply serving of your most innate desires. Desires that you have not yet even touched. Even the wishes that you have right now are just mere surface shallow layers of what you deeply know, what's possible for you within. But you still just aren't ready for that. You still don't even know that you are worthy of this. So you're settling, saying I want this, but you're just at the, at the very surface level of what you are capable of in every way. So even if you're not getting that thing that you want right now, it's because your highest self is guiding you towards something that is so much greater. And while we have paths that are destined for us, this is where free will comes in. The free will is, are you going to take the most direct path there towards your deepest desire, or are you going to take a bunch of U turns and redirect and lots of spirals and maybe get there on, on your deathbed? And some people don't. And I do believe that we have certain things that are destined for us. I do believe if you deeply desire something, that there is a part of your soul that knows you are meant to have it. That love, that family, that home. A part of your soul knows it's meant for you. So you're yearning for that thing so badly because you know in another timeline, in reality, it is you. But that thing is actually the dangling carrot of your journey of becoming. That desire is there because it is what magnetizes you forward. When you are in that unknown and want to give up. We do things for the possibility of love that we would never do for anything else. So that thing that you really want, it's wanting you. Your dreams are dreaming you back, but it's not so much about that dream as much as it is the journey of who you become in the process of manifesting that dream. So if you are in the unknown, know that it is by design. Know that you have actually taken the speed path towards your desire because you're, you're gonna get there so much faster. When you drop everything that you are not shed the closet, let go of the toys in your. In your hands, let go of all, all of the past relationships that are not serving you. When you fully drop those things, become comfortable in the not having. Become comfortable in the in between. And until you really receive the lesson of what it, what it's teaching you, which by the way, there will be a series of lessons, it's not just one. So for example, if you're single, there will be levels that you are being taught in your journey of being single. If you're in between homes, there are levels that you will be taught. And once you get so comfortable in it that you've made the unknown your, then things start to get known again. Then you start to actually manifest that thing. And by the way, people don't talk about that. It could be scary. I see a lot of people, they're single for a very long time, and at first it's really hard, and then eventually they become very comfortable being single. You know, set your temperature, whatever you want, do whatever you want. You're not reporting everyone. And then you're actually just really comfortable in what you're doing. And then you meet someone and you're like, no, no, no, this is probably just another thing fling that's gonna burn out in three days. So I'm not even gonna get my hopes up at this point. And that thing just keeps circling back. And that thing just keeps circling back. But part of you is so scared because that's the next unknown. So the first stage is letting go of everything that you have. You have the stable life, you got to let go of it. The second stage is stay in the unknown, stay in the empty hand until you become so comfortable in it that you've made the unknown your b tch. The third stage is now you get this new thing and you're like, I was so free. I was so used to not having a home and traveling around the world, which I did for a year. I was so used to being single and doing whatever I want. I was so used to having a bunch of side jobs and not having to be at work at a certain time. I was so used to that life. And now I have the stable thing which I really wanted before. But now it's another journey of unknown. But rather than it being the unknown of I have nothing, it's the unknown of grounding, which can be very scary for people because you start to get used to this really free flowing way. But life is not always meant to be lived that way either. You know, we in the spiritual community, we got a lot of Peter Pan energy. So that Peter Pan energy is like, I'm gonna go to this ayahuasca retreat and then this drum circle in Bali and then this festival in Barcelona and then this, that, that, that, that. And that is like the perfect thing to do for a while after you've been in a stable job or had a divorce or something like that. But that's not how life is in my perspective, always meant to be lived. Just chasing peak experiences. And again you do you. But I find the people that are always chasing peak experiences have a certain emptiness that never leaves them because the festival ends and people go home and you got your, your drug hangover and you know all the different things and you're like, where's the next high? And so there's a beauty that happens in coming back to the mundane. There's a beauty that happens that coming back to earth, coming back to rhythms, coming back to cycles and seasons, and going into the next stage of life, which often is just to not only live for yourself, but to realize that you are life giving life back to life itself and part of the journey. And I find that it spirals. We go on this journey of individuation of like, who am I outside of my family, outside of my relationships, outside of my culture, religion, society. And really doing you and the media really shows this deep part of our spiritual journeys. But there's a certain emptiness that happens when we only live for ourselves. And then this, we kind of hit this thing. And I noticed in myself, I'm like, I have like a music videos now. Like, I live in my dream pink apartment. I can travel whenever I want. But I'm like, but there's this deeper desire in me to give myself back to life. And. And that is coming back to marriage and children and things like that, which freshly single version of me could have never imagined. But it's the spiral that happens of this new chapter that emerges. And then that new chapter is maybe stripping down the things that you became and coming back to bare bones, coming back to basics, coming back to your roots. Roots creating more structure, more grounding, more routine. There's something really beautiful about that as well. Of like, I have my place, I have my practice, I have my community. And like, things are just good right now and letting yourself be in that. And when we're in the unknown, things are like fireworks all the time. Super high, super low. And so that life can feel really boring for us. We're like, where's the drama? I don't get it. You know? And the next initiation is the unknown of the routine, the unknown of. Of. Of life, the unknown of. Of children. And, you know, and it will take you on different journeys of the unknown. I mean, I don't have children myself, but I see with so many of my friends, like, I believe that's the greatest surrender journey you will ever take in this lifetime. But this time it's not so much about you and you being in the unknown. You've. You've made peace with being in the unknown. You're like, I know anything can freaking happen at this point, and I'll be good. Like, I've. I've survived the worst of the heartbreaks. You know, whatever the thing was, you've been homeless, you were in the hospital, and you're like, I know I will figure it out and I will be okay. But that next journey of the unknown is like your children. And like, oh, God. But if my child has to go through any of that and the journey continues and the spiral keeps going, and then you're with that child and it's like coming back to the joining and the becoming and the merging, which is the energy of love. The energy of love wants us to merge with that thing. But then it's knowing that in any moment, unknown can reappear. But that unknown is not something to be afraid of this time. Because when you've gone into the abyss, you realize that the unknown actually gave you everything you wanted. The unknown is the reason why you have that partner, that child, that home. It was through the not having that you have it. So when the unknown happens again, which it will this time, instead of trying to hold on to the sides of the roller coaster, you put your hands on radio. And that is life. You know, the thing about the unknown is we're always in the unknown. It's kind of like the air around us or like of fish and water. It's always there. There's just periods of our lives that we become more aware of it. There are periods of our life that it's like deep surrender into the mystery of the unknown. The unknown is our teacher. The unknown is our dom, Daddy. And we're just like, yes, but the unknown is always there. Even when you've been doing the same practice every single day for seven years. Which, by the way, I find that the unknown tends to happen every seven years because life moves in seven year cycles. There's so much in the numerology of the number seven. Such a sacred number. But also scientifically, all of our cells regenerate every seven years. So you physically are not the same person as you were seven years ago. My relationship was seven years. A lot of things seven years. Now, that does not mean. I know right now you're thinking, you're like, so everything's gonna be gone in seven years? No, it's just another cycle of death and rebirth. And when things die, there's a pruning of the leaves, right? Like we have to prune off the leaves that have died. So maybe you're in a relationship for seven years. And there's these ways of being in the relationship that are not serving you. So those are the leaves that you prune off. And that actually makes the plant so much stronger. So you can have a forever relationship, but you still will go through these processes of death and rebirth. You will have many relationships within the relationship. Your children will have many different seasons and cycles and chapters of your life. I feel it's only through children that we really see it. We're like, oh my God, they're so different than they were a year ago. But we also are going through different seasons and chapters of our lives. We're just so in it that we don't realize we don't have, like, back to school. Like, if you think about it, it's like summer vacation was the void, right? Remember being a kid and you're like, summer vacation. You're like, who do I want to become this year? Like, what's my style? What's my vibe? Like, you like, think about it. Whereas now it's because our jobs kind of like go on throughout the year and things don't change so much. We forget. But we actually very much do have different seasons and chapters and stages. I did a whole episode about how to know what new chapter energy you're in. I will link that below. But what I find is when we start to honor these seasons and chapters and changes of our lives, we're less afraid of it.