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Tara Bielawski - Connecting the Seen and Unseen: A Personal Journey Into MEDIUMSHIP
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Welcome to How I Built My Small business. I'm Ann McGinty, your host, and today's guest is Tara Bielowski. Tara is a medium, and today's conversation is not so much about starting a business and more so about perspective, her gift, and her journey to mediumship. Losing my dad was the hardest thing I've ever been through, and it's what led me to start this podcast. Conversations like this, whether you believe in mediumship or not, are part of my journey of asking bigger questions about life, connection, and what really matters. Back in December of last year, I was invited to attend a group medium session with Tara. I. I'm pretty open to at least experiencing things once before I knock them, but I won't lie. While I was curious, I was also very, very skeptical in my thoughts. I said, dad, this is your opportunity to prove to me there's something else. And my mind was blown when Tara started telling me about specific memories with details that have never been written or talked about outside of our family. They weren't vague details, not like how a horoscope can be bent to apply to anyone's life, and there wasn't just one memory, but several. And it was the specific details that really made me wonder. You can find links to connect with her in the show notes. Tara, thank you so much for coming on and chatting with me today.
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Oh, I'm so excited. So, so excited.
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When did you know that you had this gift?
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Probably around the age of nine. I feel that that was after my mother passed away. Around that time when I turned nine, that's when things started shifting. And, you know, when you're young, you don't understand what it is, so I kind of just ignored it. And the people around me thought that I had a million imaginary friends because I would always say, say things like, Bob is in my room and he misses his wife, and, you know, just information like that. But back then, we didn't know what that was, so my family just assumed that it meant that I just had a lot of imaginary friends. But as the years went on, then that was revealed that that wasn't the case. But that's what it started like for me. So about the age of nine is when I started feeling a lot of sensitivity around me. But I think I was born with it. But I think around that age, how.
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Did that lead into the rest of your childhood?
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I think for a lot of my childhood, I had a really rough background. If I really go into my childhood, I had a lot of trauma as a child, and I Wasn't really raised in necessarily a supportive environment to really facilitate me to kind of step into that power. That wasn't. I was in a survival mode as a child. Like that was my childhood. So that kind of sort of went on the back burner for me, you know, And I didn't really express any of that. And I held that in for a really long time. And that didn't come out again until I was more into my 20s. And then I would say that's about when it started coming out again. And I was in my own energy, my own freedom. I think that's when it all started coming back out for me.
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And when did you realize that this was real and it was not just imagination or coincidence? How did you know?
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So I had kind of an awakening within myself. I knew there was something, but I didn't understand that it was called mediumship. So for most of my life I just thought I was quirky or I had like a thing, but I didn't really know what the name or what it was to really label it. But I would just look at people and just get information and not understand where it was coming from. And I really thought it was kind of crazy. So I never said anything. But finally I had a really big revelation, kind of. My father in law transitioned. He passed through suicide. And when he passed, everyone kind of knew in the family that I had this kind of gift. But no one knew what it was called when he passed. I had heard that he had visited someone else in a dream. And when I heard that, I was really hurt because I felt as though he would come to me because he knew I had something, that maybe I could deliver a message to the rest of the family. And I remember being really hurt, first of all because I hadn't had full closure with him. So everyone else had kind of had their full closure letters written. I didn't really have that. So for me it was like I was dealing with a lot of that grieving process. And a couple nights later his wife was in my room and she was staying with us, my mother in law. And like she was sleeping over. And that night I had a dream. And this is what changed everything for me. Obviously I was sleeping and I remember looking down and seeing my body below me. And I remember thinking that I had died. And I remember freaking out, saying, I died, I died, I died. And that's all I could keep thinking. And I remember coming up out of my body hearing this vibration of like. Like I can't describe what I was hearing, but it was like these sounds. And I remember seeing my body below. And all I kept saying was, I died. I died. I didn't do everything I was supposed to do. Oh, my gosh, what happened? And a few seconds later, I was floating through the sky and I opened my eyes and I was in this Japanese, beautiful Zen garden. And I was like, where am I? First of all? And then I kept freaking out that I had. I was like, I died. This is where my heaven is. I died. And I remember just looking down at my hands. I could see him as I'm looking at them now. And I remember feeling a sense of panic, first of all. And a few seconds later, I felt a touch on my shoulder and I turned around and it was my father in law. Mind you, if you talk to a lot of people that have had these experiences, they will tell you that when we speak at this place or wherever we go, it's all through telepathy. It's not through actual words. So I wasn't moving my mouth. But we were having a conversation, it was through thought. And he told me that he loved me. And he looked amazing, so healthy. And he had said, I love you like a daughter. You need to know that. And I said, oh, my God, you came to me like, this means so much. And he goes, but I brought you here for a reason. And I said, why? He said, because you need to know it's all real. It's all been real your whole life. This has all been real. And I was only allowed to bring you here to make you understand how real this is. And you do have a gift. You have a gift. You have a gift. And he kept repeating it. And then a few seconds later, I asked again, because this is all I was concerned about. I said, did I die? He laughed and he said, no, you didn't die. You did not die. I was allowed to bring you here. And I said, oh. And all of a sudden, this sense of peace hit me where I cannot describe. I've never felt anything like that on this earth. And I started to feel so comfortable. And I really just kind of was falling into wanting to stay in this environment. I was like, wow, this is amazing. This feels great. I want to stay here. And he said, no, you have to go. And I said, oh, can I see my mom? So to preface this, my mom passed when I was nine, so that was obviously who I really wanted to see. And he said, oh, not yet. It's not your time to see her. I said, okay. He said, you're going to have to go. Now, it was a big deal that you came here, but you need to know it's real and you have a gift. And go back, go back, Go back to her. Go, go. And I said, all right, I love you. And then boom. Shoved back into my body, the frequency change back in. I woke up crying. And my mother in law also woke up. Not much after this. And she had said that she was starting to have a dream. And I said, really? What was in your dream? And she goes, all I know is there was trees and it looked like a Zen garden. And that was it. That was all the confirmation I needed to understand. First of all, I already knew that it was real, because the way I woke up crying. But the fact that before I said those words of anything, she was starting to tell me about her experience. And I was like, he did that so that I would understand how real this truly was. From that day on, I knew that this was real. And there was nothing anybody in the entire world can ever tell me to change that experience. I needed to feel and understand on a level that was full trust. And that allowed me to understand that there was something and that I needed to trust it and just believe in it, whatever it was. So that was a life changing experience for me. That was it.
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So I've had some of those throughout my life. Not anything near as impactful, but moments of wonderful where my grandfather, who lived with me, showed up in a dream as well. But as I reached out to him and was already crying because I remembered in my dream that he had died, he would just vanish and disappear, but he'd be waving through a window or seeing my dad's face and him trying to share some information with me. Like the first five days after he died, he said, there's so much you don't know. I mean, he looked like he was ecstatic to be dead.
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Yes.
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And it was one of those dreams that I woke up from shocked and felt just like you're saying, this overwhelming feeling of peace. Like every single time I have one of these magical moments, the skeptic in me was like, no, it's just a dream. But then the other part of me is like, what if? What if?
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Yeah.
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What do you think happens when we die?
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Gosh, so interesting. I feel like I'm gonna be real. I'm gonna tell you what I feel and what I know and what I've heard from Spirit. And this is purely from them. But I don't think any of us who are truly here fully know until we get there, which I'm fine with not knowing why. And I just wanna hit back on you talking about the skeptic in you. I would say any medium you really meet that practices and serves spirit in the way that they do on an integrity basis is gonna be somewhat of a skeptic themselves. I think we go through that, especially in the beginning of our journeys, with being that skeptic. We want a certain amount of evidence. We want a certain amount of proof that all this is real. We need that validation in the beginning. So the skepticism is a healthy thing, and I think that's part of the process. But back to where you were saying about what I believe happens, I feel as though. I feel that when we transition, we are no longer trapped by our body and our limitations that are here on this physical earth. I feel that one thing I've experienced with from the other side is say, someone comes through. I've had people who were maybe wheelchair boundaries or unable to be mobile. And now they're telling me they're walking or I'm seeing them images of them walking. And for me to tell their family and to express this, I don't have pain anymore. I don't feel it's because we don't have that limitation of our body. So I feel like, first of all, when we transition, there's a level of peace that happens that we cannot fully understand being on this physical earth. And when we get there, it's the pure euphoria of just peace. And then I feel what also happens is the reuniting with our loved ones. I believe that we reunite with everyone. And I believe anyone we've made a connection with, we're reuniting and we're just all meeting together like a big reunion. Just like we would here. If we haven't seen our family for a long time, you're gonna go see them first. That's your first. I wanna see my family. I'm pretty sure that's exactly what happens when we transition. We see our family, the those that are there first. They greet us as we're transitioning. And then I believe the peace happens. And then what I've heard is there's also a lot of work that we do up there. What I hear from spirit, I say they're people because they are. They're just souls that don't have a physical body anymore. So I consider that when I'm talking to them as if they're people and they're telling me their experience and what I've kind of heard is that they've Done a lot of learning on the other side. A lot of them will say, I didn't understand all of that. And now I see the bigger picture. Now I understand what so and so has been through. Now I understand about not judging. There's a lot of just, I think, learning that happens and growth. And I also feel if there was something you loved in the physical flying airplanes, let's say you love to fly airplanes. I've heard them say they're doing the same thing over there. I don't know how. I don't know how it works, but I know that they're over there doing similar things that we're doing here, just without limitations. And so that's the best way I can explain when we transition what at least I believe or what I've been told from them in my experiences. And I feel as though it's just another level up. It's just we lose that physical body and we're able to do all those things that maybe we couldn't do here. Or maybe someone had a restless spirit and never felt peace here. Maybe they were depressed, maybe they were struggling, and when they got there, they don't have that anymore. All the weights of the world, all the anger, all the things we feel as part of the human experience leaves us and we know of forgiveness and pure love. That's all we know. And that's the biggest thing I hear is some people come through with, well, how can you forgive? I don't know. But there's something that happens over there where you can forgive anything, and it's just pure love. I don't know. I don't know the answer.
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Pure love.
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It's pure love. That's just what it is. It's for all creation.
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Yeah. It's like you're saying, how could we possibly know? I mean, nobody can prove or disprove any of this. And so until we're there ourselves, we can't know the answer.
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We don't know. Yeah. Yeah. I am never going to be like, well, your experience is wrong. Who's to say I know? All I know is what I've experienced and what I've been told and what other people have been told, but I don't think any of us will fully know. But that's part of the human experience. I don't think we're meant to know. I feel as though we're meant to live our life in search of our own faith and passion, you know, it's part of the human experience. So I feel like us knowing everything would it make this experience fun. So.
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And it does feel like the switch has been turned off because it's kind of this question that the wisest, most intelligent people who have existed on earth have pondered this question of what happens when we die? And nobody can tell you. So when you had that dream with your father in law, when did you actually start getting your first client?
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So after that I was working at a grocery store and I was a manager. And at that moment I said, I'm going to start just telling people what I'm feeling. So at work I just started approaching people that I wasn't even necessarily super close to or knew their personal life. And I started just reading them and people were like, what the heck? Like, validating everything I was saying. And I was like, I'm not crazy, like, this is real. And then I think the big experience was there was two. But my friend invited me to a festival and she told me to bring my tarot cards, which I was into, and to do readings. And I was like, all right, we'll see. I'll just do this for fun, you know, donation based. And this was the changing. I did not use the cards once that entire weekend. I got there and people started coming in and I just started reading them and I was like, wait, I don't need these cards. Then I'd start picking up on their grandparents, their loved ones, and then they all started validating the entire weekend. I must have read like probably 40 to 50 people that weekend. And every single person validated what I had said. And I said, okay, this is something more, this is something else. And I had had a really, really good friend of mine, one of my best friends, he transitioned and me and his sister got really close after his transition. And she told me that her mom had seen a medium. And I said, oh, well, that's cool. She goes, I think you're a medium. And I went, oh, what is that? She's like, oh, so you know when you talk to people on the other side, that's what you just said you're doing, That's a medium. And I was like, oh. She goes, well, you should meet with my mom and do a reading for her and let her tell you what she experiences from that. And I said, okay. So I read for his mom and his mom was like, wow. A lot of what you said is what that medium told me. And I said, really? She was, yeah, well, I think you should connect with her. And I said, oh, yeah, I want guidance, I want help. I don't know where to go and she said, you should reach out to her. So I reached out to the medium who had her own kind of following. She'd been doing this for like 20 years, has been a practicing medium, had her own page, which she gave, created on Facebook, that gave back to people. And it helped mediums who were beginning, which she still has to go on and practice and give back to people all over the world. And it's just to be a safe space for people to develop. And I went to her page and at this time she was doing kind of like an internship, she was teaching, she was taking people on mentees. And I applied, you know, and I, I asked and you know, I was chosen to go in. And there was like 15 of us who had never done mediumship. Really, like really, really practiced. And she fine tuned with all of us. And it was the first thing in my life. And that felt natural. Does that make sense? Like, yeah, I didn't have to work at it. It just flowed, like everything was happening. And then I just started reading the whole group, all the people. I was very confident. I was a natural. I definitely was a natural. And then after that, she was taking on people to do private training with. So I private trained for about three months until she said, you've grown the nest, you need to go. And she set me free. And after that I just started offering readings full time. And her clients started to come to me that I had kind of read in between. And they gave me a lot of support as well as other people that I had read on that, like I said, that platform. I had read from people in India, the uk, all over, all these people, a lot of people who had lost their children, but specifically all over the world. And that's kind of when I started. But I never fully committed until recently. I think I was always one foot in and one foot out. So I still stayed in the grocery world, I still stayed in, like working in the service industry and doing this on the side. And that's really hard to do. I feel like with this type of work, it's best when you're all in. So I feel like I'm probably, this is maybe my first year, really maybe two years, maybe a year and a half, being all in and doing this full time. And it, it changed everything and it's grown so rapidly. And I feel like a lot of that is, you know, having the right support system is a big part of that too. And, you know, and if you're with a partner, having that right partner who will support you and really really believe in what you're doing. And I met the love of my life, and the love of my life said, hey, you are too good to be working at a store and doing this because you're not fulfilling what your purpose is here. And I didn't have the confidence, because I didn't believe in myself to know that it could get to the level that it was. And I had a lot of fear about that. And I was lucky enough to have a partner who said, no, do this. Like, I believe in you. You need to do this. And once that happened, I mean, it was within, like, six months, just boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Just grew. And now I'm doing better than I would have ever done at something else. And it's just. It's. I mean, it's taken off, like, tenfold. Now. I'm doing events, like, pretty much every week and private readings, and it's just. It's just. It's crazy. It went from 0 to 60. But I also think when you're meant to do something, I think you believe in this, your sole purpose, whatever you're being called to do, when it's something that's right, it flows very easily, and the universe makes everything just fall into place. And there's this, like, flow that happens and this abundance that happens, because I feel as though when you're meant to be doing what you're supposed to be doing, abundance comes to you, and it's also doing it for the right reasons. Right. I feel like I do this work to help people, and the universe goes, oh, you want to help people? All right, let's just keep throwing people at you, because we know what you're doing is for the greater good. So I feel like that has a lot to do with it, is just being in the right place and doing your soul's purpose.
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So how do you practice your skill? How do you train and develop it so that it gets better?
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So I think a lot of that is. First of all, trust is the number one thing a medium needs to learn, and it's a trust within themselves. But more than anything, it's the trust that you have for spirit and meaning that you're trusting the information or whatever they're giving you and really believing that on a full level. I feel like it really does help when you're starting off medium. I mean, a lot of it is just you learn on your own. I'm not gonna even. I mean, you just. It's a natural thing. But I do believe you can meet the right people and training is really, really, really, really important. Because I felt that the training that I got with my mentor took me to a huge different level of trust. I mean, I don't even know how to explain this to people. But we would do a reading. I would be reading somebody, and she's experiencing exactly what I'm experiencing at the same time. The same words, the same objects that are being shown. Can you explain that to me? That's not something that can be. That's real ability. And we're both picking up on this frequency at the same time. That is the best training you're gonna get because someone's fully experiencing that with you and can guide you. And so she really guided me into trust and listening. And I really believe that that's why I'm where I'm at, because that was a big thing I was missing for a long time. And I also think a big part of practicing is just doing it, is just going in cold turkey. You don't know who you're gonna read. I don't wanna know your name. I don't know where you're from. And you just make me do it. And you say, tar, show up. Read 50 people. I'm like, I trust spirit. I trust them. They're in charge. So I just got to go in and have full trust in them. And it doesn't matter about me. It doesn't matter about any of that. That needs to be put aside. And I just need to trust. And that's. That's the hardest part, but also the most powerful part of mediumship.
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So can you explain, like, when there's a group of 10, 20, 50 people, how do you receive these messages to the best ability that you can describe it to someone who doesn't?
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So everyone's different. I feel like every medium or every person who receives messages receives them in different ways. But we have lots of different ways of kind of getting them. I get them in a lot of different ways. So auditory. I'm more of a hearer, and it's more like I'll hear, and it'll feel like a thought. It's more like telepathy. I'll feel like a thought is being put into my head. Right. Or a word will be putting into my head. For instance, one I had recently was Disneyland. And I kept hearing Disneyland, Disneyland, Disneyland, Disneyland in my head. And I just said, well, I don't know how this applies, but they're just going on about Disneyland, and I'm supposed to talk about Disneyland. Well, they had just went to Disneyland like 3 days ago to celebrate. And they weren't. They didn't live in Southern California. So, I mean, that just shows you to trust, right? So that was an auditory. And then there's also feelings. You may feel something inside of your body. So for me, sometimes if someone transitioned a certain way, so say they passed through a heart problem, I may feel a tightness inside of my chest. If they had smoking or something with the lungs, I may feel a tightness in my throat. And that's a symbol for me. Oh, there was an issue with my throat. There was an issue with my chest. So Spirit's using all of these simultaneously to get their message across. So that also happens as well as images. Like, think of, like a little film reel. And you know how it's not always, like, perfectly clear, but you'll get one and then you'll get another, and then you'll get another. So that also happens to me where I get images that flash in front of my face, and it's just real quick, real quick images. And I can also see sometimes what they look like. Another big part for me is just feeling like I can feel their personality. I don't know how to describe it, but I can just feel their energy. Who they are, what they're about. It's a sense of just knowing. Like, I just know. I don't know how I know it, but I know it. And I use that as well. So it's kind of a mixture of a lot of them. The one that I don't use as often, but does sometimes happen is. I don't know the right word, but it's when you smell. When you can smell. Some mediums can be strong, where they'll be like, I smell cigar smoke or I smell a certain perfume. I get that. But for me, it's rare. As well as people think that mediumship's only limited to people, but it's not. It's actually animals as well. So animals come through for me as well. All animals. So, you know, and it's the same way that a person's communicating. The signs and the symbols, all the same. Auditory telepathy, all of it. Same, same. So, yeah.
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So when you're receiving these messages, how do you distinguish between them being intuition or your own personal mental chatter versus messages from the other side? Like, how do you filter all of that? Is there like a doorway? I mean, yeah, I would say. Yeah.
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Well, because. Well, the thing is, before I go into this, before I go into anything, right. I'm raising my vibration a little bit. I'm kind of going into a state of like, okay, I kind of get it centered. And I go, all right, it's time for me to go. Right? It's time for me to dip out by and allow spirit to take over. And that's the whole point, is the medium is really. I really try to involve myself very little bit, though. Maybe parts of my personality and the way I express it, that's me, right? But when I'm channeling, I don't feel that it's me. I feel that it's the person who's coming through and they're speaking. And I feel as though I don't have that mental chatter. Does that make sense? Because I'm not there anymore. I take that away because it's that trust and spirit that you have to. You're channeling. If it's something that's taking a long time, there's a lot of pauses. There's a lot of this. That's when the mental part of the medium is starting to come back in and the channeling isn't as clear. When you hear someone who's just, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. That's a channel because it's just flowing, right? It's not a forcefulness. It's just flowing. So I think every medium that goes into their mediumship or is starting it kind of really sets that intention of, I'm over here. We're ready for you to come and you to take control. And that's all what it's about. But that's the hardest part of being a medium is a lot of us struggle with, like you said, our own mental aspect of it. And trusting. Trusting that what you're receiving is something because you may not be able to make sense of it, but it is not about you. It's about that person sitting across from you. You're going to understand what it means. I may not, but that doesn't matter. The message isn't for me, it's for you. So it's really, really trusting that as you go in, even if it sounds wild, wild and just trusting, that's the biggest part of it.
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When people come to see you. I know what I was hoping to hear, but I'm curious. What do you think other people are hoping to get from connecting with past loved ones?
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Evidence.
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Okay. Yeah. Yes. That is what I wanted.
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Yeah.
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Was evidence.
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You want evidence. You want evidence to really validate that what you are experiencing or what you have experienced is true. And you don't want vague information. I don't want vague information. Spirit usually doesn't give that if they're really going in, they want to be clear and precise and really validate to you that your experience with them is real. And I feel like as a medium, I'm always striving. My biggest thing is, like, I want to be an evidential medium. I want to be able to give you that evidence where you're like, that is my dad. Like, I don't care what you say. Like, I know that's my dad, you know, And I hope that that's the experience that people leave with. Like, that was my dad or that was my mom or that was validated, you know? And so spirit really works to do that, and they work with it in a lot of different ways. But part of it could be validating that picture that's hanging up in your room. No one else knows. Or it could be the horse that you and your dad had together, and no one knew about that horse because it's nowhere online to be seen. There's no evidence, no pictures. You can't find that. And I bring that up. Those things are the way that you go, this is real. This is real. Now, the hard part is because of social media, because of online, it's made the job for the medium so much more difficult because it does take more. It takes more evidence because I understand the skepticism. It could be online, you know, so you're really hoping which spirit does is they'll bring through those parts that aren't to be seen to bring you to that. So, yeah, I think people are hoping to receive evidence first most, and then I think, to really feel that they're connecting to their loved ones. I think those are the top two evidence, of course, like, we want the real to know it's real, and then we want to really know that we've connected with them. So it's both of those. And that they're hearing us and that they've heard us and that they know we're thinking of them. Those are the top two. I think people are really looking forward to.
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That is definitely what it was for me. And again, I went in very skeptical. I'm not gonna lie about that. And you really blew my mind, because there were things that you said that there as you're saying, there was nothing online that you could have possibly seen or read, and you were giving such specific details and memories that I sat in the car for 20 minutes after that session and just sat there and tried to process what had happened. But the only thing that I had Said telepathically or in my mind when we got there was, dad, this is your opportunity. Prove to me that there's something else. Prove to me that somehow, something. Because I'd already been getting other signs in my life. But again, the skeptic in me just wanted to debunk it as like, oh, that's just a coincidence. But I want to ask you about skepticism. Like, how do you handle this part of it?
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I think being a skeptic is not a bad thing. I think it's healthy to be a bit of a skeptic. I mean, I do. But there's a difference between being skeptical and being open. Now, I've always said I never want anyone to come to me who is being forced, who someone says, you have to go to this medium, go, because then the intention is set that you don't want to be there. And that's an energy that I can pick up on, which then will create a wall for me. Because it's an energy exchange between not only me and spirit, but me and you. And if you don't have that trust or you have that, well, skeptical is a little bit. But if you have that not wanting to be here, it really does affect it. So skeptical, fine, that's a little bit. But openness, if you. You came in skeptical, right? We talked about this. You came in skeptical. But did you come in open with curiosity, with wanting to experience this? It was something you chose to do, 100% right. It was something you chose. No one was forcing you. That is why that flowed and that's why it happened. Now, if you would have came in with a different mentality of, oh, this is so I don't even want to be here. I'm just going to go experience this, then your result may have been very different. So, yeah, but skepticalism, like, if people don't believe in what I do, my job is not to convince everybody here on Earth. And it's not about me. It's what you take away from the experience. And I hope that somebody takes away something from it. But also, that's not my burden to carry. It's the fact that I delivered the messages and that I did what I was supposed to do, which was serve spirit. And if they can't take fully everything, that's fine, it's okay. And not everyone's going to believe. That's just. That's just the way it is. But I believe in myself and I trust spirits. So for me, that's enough. That's how I feel about it.
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B
Do you ever receive messages that you feel hesitant to deliver?
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A
Yes, yes, I do.
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B
What do you do in those circumstances?
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A
It depends. Because I ask Spirit whether or not I should deliver it. I say, I'm feeling this. Is this something you want me to deliver or not? Are they ready or are they not? And majority of the time, if it's a situation and I'm feeling something, I will ask the person, hey, I have someone coming through for you. I'm a medium. Are you open to it? They say, yes. I say, now I want you to know there's some heaviness attached to this. So I want to know if you're really okay with that, because I want to honor that for you. If you're not, that's totally fine. But know that that's coming through. And that's kind of how I approach it in the sense of if it's something that I feel, they say it's okay. I always want consent. And I'm very careful about how I approach it to somebody. I never want to force it or deliver it if they don't want to hear it, because that's not going to help the person. Right. So it has to be a willingness to receive the information. So, yeah, I'm very careful about it. But there are things sometimes you receive where you're like, should I do this? But you just have to go back to asking Spirit, okay, should I? They'll sell you. Yes. No, yes. Maybe not right now. Maybe they need three months. Maybe they need four months of healing. Maybe they're still in their grieving process. They will tell me that, and I say, okay, and then I don't approach until that time comes.
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B
When you receive these messages, does it drain your body? Like, how many of these sessions can you do in a day?
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A
Well, it depends because every person is different, right? So your energy plus your loved ones plus my energy is different. So everybody's energy is different. So I may enter one reading where I'm supercharged and just feeling it. We're vibing. We have such good energy. I'm feeling it. And then another reading where maybe it's a little heavier. Maybe there was a harder transitions. Maybe it was a harder relationship with the person that transitioned where I feel a little bit more drained. So it's kind of a give and take. But Spirit lines up my schedule. I feel like so they know who's going to come, who's going to be the day. They all know that I don't. So there's a lot of synchronicities that will Happen within the scheduling. But majority of the time for me, every medium is different, mind you. Some of us can only do a little bit. Some of us can do more. It just depends on how much you do it and how it develops for you. For me, I try not to take. At most would be three a day. That would be at most. I would prefer to do two, and then I like to have a day or at least a day between that. Like two and then I'll usually take a day and then do another two. But it depends. Sometimes I do a lot more. So it just kind of depends. And then the events. It's a different energy. Events are totally different from private energy. You would think that private would be easier. People think. I think it's harder because when you're going into a group energy, think about how many people's energy is contributing to that group. Right? So think about a battery being charged. If you have two batteries versus having like 10 batteries, how is that going to be? Right. So it's a different type of energy frequency I feel from groups. So it's different. I feel like I could do. I just did three in a row. Boom, boom, boom. Three days, three nights in a row. And so it's just. It just depends. But also, I have a partner who is also an energy worker and provides that personal battery for me. So when I do those events, I'm not. I'm not drained. I would say. I don't think you'll meet anyone that takes like six readings, seven readings in a day. I just don't think that would be. I mean, maybe, but I don't know. That would be a lot. I don't think it would be sustainable because no matter how much energy work you do, no matter how much you say it does affect you, so it wouldn't be honoring yourself, I think, if you did that many. And also you become drained where your messages may not be as clear or maybe you're kind of tired so you're not at your full capacity. And I never want to, like, give a half a reading. I never want to give half of myself. So. So one thing about me is, like, if I'm not feeling well or if I'm having an off day and I'm about me and not about serving, I will reschedule that reading because I want to be 100 for that session for you and for spirit. And if I can't give that to you, then I'm not going to do it. So I really honor that. And that took a lot of learning because in the beginning I felt guilty, like, oh, if I don't feel good, I should just do it, right? No, it's not a 9 to 5 job. It's something that's an energy based thing. So you really have to be in that. Like you had mentioned a frame of mind and energy. Like you need to be there, willing to serve and ready.
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B
And this ability that you have to access, this connection. Do you think that this is something that only certain people can tap into? Like you're born with it or you're not?
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A
See, that's an interesting question. I feel that you can be taught. I do think you can be taught mediumship. I know I do. But I think there are people that have more of a natural ability, for sure. I also think if you're teaching it, there just has to be some sort of natural ability in there because it is so intuition based. And so it's just not like something you could just necessarily. I just think having a natural part of it would make it easier. But I have met other people who were more trained or needed to learn a little bit more than me. Like, I feel I came in with a lot of natural ability, but I think there were some people that were like really developing that within themselves and they did do a lot of growing. So I do think it's possible. But I think there's other types of mediumship in the world. If you were to explore that, you can't necessarily be taught. I think those, there's some that you need to be born with.
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B
When you say that intuition is such a big part of it, what do you mean by that?
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A
Just natural trust of your own intuition. So I can't describe it, but like ability to like tap into things. And I think I always just had a natural intuitive base. Like, okay, yeah, I'm picking up on this energy. Like I could read people, I could feel people. Like that was always just natural for me. And this empath of like feeling people on this deep level, like all of that was like a natural thing for me. But fine tuning the mediumship and how I deliver and tapping in on a deeper level. Yeah, that took training. Yes, I'm training, you know, But I think having a natural, just intuitive energy or empathic energy helps with mediumship.
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B
My mind, the way it works is that I'm constantly like wanting the science to understand, like, how is this possible? And I actually had an unrelated person who is a medium approach me out of nowhere and say, this is a message from your dad. And he's saying, you don't need to understand the why.
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A
Just believe.
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B
And I was like, wait, what? You just received this message for me and it's just, you know, she said, yes, does that make sense to you? And I said, yeah, then that makes sense to me. So just digging a little bit into my desire to want to understand some science here though. Like, how do you think that those who have passed can influence our world here on earth? And I will give you some context for that question.
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A
Okay.
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B
On the day that my dad died, I was in New Zealand. I couldn't be any farther away and in an extremely remote location. And I was on a FaceTime call with my direct family. And I was in a bit of a stupor. Like I think maybe I was a bit floaty in another place. And there was a butterfly that was very far away from me. And I just was begging my dad in my mind, dad, if there's any way you can hear me, if there's any way you can, you could hear me. Make that butterfly land on me. And that butterfly, it, it turned and it came and it landed on me within 15 minutes on my wrist. And I burst into tears. I started laughing and my family was like, what's so funny? And I said, I explained what had just happened. And again the skeptic in me is like, but how? Like, what's the science? How could a person who has passed potentially influence a butterflies flight pattern?
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A
Yeah.
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B
Do you have any idea how to answer this for me?
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A
So kind of. So one thing I know is that if we look, look into it, there is a lot of research on. They've been doing more and more with like mediums. I even think one of the other mediums that's big on television, they did a brain scan for him as he was channeling and they were trying to see what markers were there. And apparently he was in this like sleep and awake state at the exact same time. So science was saying that basically there is definitely something that goes within a medium's brain or frequency scientifically that shows that they're doing some sort of different vibration or connection than what we're doing when in our regular state. Does that make sense?
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B
Yeah.
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A
So there has been more science that's been proven as to like how it's working in the terms of that aspect now in how spirit can manipulate and do things into our physical world. I'm not exactly sure how, but there is a lot of other mediums out there and a lot of different types of mediumship that go into more of the science based aspect of how these Things can happen. But I do believe in things manifesting or appearing or as you shared that experience. I had another client who became a good friend who I read for and I talked to her about blue dragonflies. And I said, your mom sends you these blue dragonflies. Like she's gonna send you one and it's gonna be so obvious. It's gonna be in your face, it's gonna be on you. It's gonna come. It's gonna come. The blue dragonfly. She said, all right. A couple weeks later, she was at a water park and she was in one of those wave pools, right? She was in the wave pool. And the blue dragonfly lands on her. On her, just as you described. And she said, are you kidding me right now? Are you kidding me? And ended up calling me and telling me that it ended up landing on her. And it was just that experience. And I said, I just believe and I know that somehow they can manifest in different ways to give us these signs. Now. I think it would be much harder to material, like to come into our world and full materialize. Right. I don't know about that if they could do that so easily. But I do believe they can energetically manipulate energy for certain things to happen. So I totally believe the butterfly as well. As I'm sure you've heard, people have had experiences where things have just appeared or shown up and they're like, how did that get there? Or, hey, my mom's bracelet was lost and now I saw it in the middle of my room. How is that possible? Don't ask me how, but I know that. That those things are. I've had an instance where a penny fell and I didn't know where the penny fell. It was above the sky into this. I just didn't know where it came from. And I don't know how, but I know that spirit is scientifically and we. And I don't know how, but able to manipulate energy to where they can make things happen in our world. For sure. I wish I could give you a clear answer as to why, but I know there are books and people out there that would have more clear of an explanation as to how. But I know it's possible.
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B
Yeah, it's kind of like how you're saying, I don't think we're really meant to know. And it's the same sort of. I guess you could call it faith in a way that people have a belief in a religious system.
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A
Yep.
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B
There's so many different beliefs out there for which there is no scientific evidence.
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A
And also you went back to that trust. So you were talking about, what's the biggest thing with a medium, right? What makes us medium? What is it? Our trust. So spirit's giving you that to give you to trust. They want you to trust just as much as we do when we deliver. And that's the biggest thing. And those signs and those things that happen to you allow you slowly to build trust. And so that's why.
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B
Why do you think that people on the other side want to connect with us here?
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A
I believe they want to connect with us to bring us peace, to bring us a feeling of peace. And knowing that they're truly okay and knowing that there's more and giving us guidance. So we know that even though their physical body is no longer in the world with us, they are still with us on the same capacity, just in a different way. And your dad will continue the rest of your life to make that clear to you, and he will continue to do that in many aspects of your life and in many ways. And you will just know. And that's part of it. They want you to know that even though they're not here physically, they've never really gone anywhere. They're just somewhere else, but they're still here. It's just there's no physical body, and it's. They want us to feel that they're always with us because that's what we want to feel. We want to know that they're still with us. We want to know that we can still connect when we want to connect. And it's true. They're just a thought away. So enjoy it.
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B
One of the questions I have is just that if the spirits you connect with could give humanity one piece of advice, what do you think that that.
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A
Would be the first instinct which is, once again, I trust what I'm hearing is love. That was the biggest word, love for one another. That was the biggest thing I heard. Just pure love and acceptance for everybody as a whole. I feel like that's what they want for humanity and to be able to accept each other's differences with love. Easier said than done, right? Yeah, it is easier said than done. But, you know, I feel like a big reason of why we also are brought here to, like, do this work, you know, different healers, all aspects of life, is to bring love to people, to bring peace to people, and to also show acceptance as well. And I think that in all aspects, that's always the message that's coming across, is love. That's number one and just an open Heart and forgiveness and all those things. Like I said, just I feel like for humanity, they're just looking for love and acceptance, and that's coming to unity. That was the word, unity. Yeah.
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B
It starts making me think that Earth is school.
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A
It is.
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B
We're here to learn.
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A
That's what I feel. I fully feel we are here to learn and to have a human experience, though. Like, that's the whole point. Like, we don't need to know everything that's happening over there because we're going to have that experience, right? It's going to happen. We're going to have it. We're going to have it. So right now, let's just enjoy what we have here and work on being present. Which is the hardest part of being here is being present. Because we're always looking to the past. We're always looking at the future. It is very hard to be in a present state and really enjoy the human experience. And that was something that I struggled with my entire life. I was always looking to the future or wanting to connect with spirit and not really enjoy my physical, earthly life. And then I had my partner come into my life, and my partner said, we're here for this human experience. Like, we're here. Like, let's be present, let's be here. Let's enjoy it, because the Earth is beautiful, and we need to see it for that and enjoy it and bring really, really a lot of gratitude towards it. And I said, oh, my gosh, this is such a different perspective than what I ever could see. The beauty in the earth, I guess you could say. And now I see that, and I'm, like, all about having the human experience now. Heck, yeah. Sign me up. Let's go. I want it.
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B
What do you want? Or what do you dream of for your mediumship journey? Where would you like to take this?
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A
Well, I have a dream, but who knows what's in store? You know, spirit's in control, so I don't know what they have in store for me. But one thing I know is that, first of all, I definitely don't want to limit myself because it's something I've done in the past where I've been like, this is just my calling. And every time I say that spirit goes, there's more. You're meant to do this, you're meant to do that. Don't limit yourself. So, first of all, I don't want to limit myself, but for an immediate. If I was just to look towards the immediate, what I would love to do is continue doing Private groups. Right. And to continue to reach the masses as much as I can. That's the ultimate goal, is to just reach the world. In my ultimate dream world, I would be traveling not only I would do this a lot in the US as well, but all over the world. And I would be doing this in different countries, giving back to communities that can't maybe afford it, going into areas with heavy loss and just doing this all over. That would be the ultimate dream. Right. But right now would be we're looking to do larger spaces. We're looking for venues that would be open. Having me be a part of that and bringing in 60, 70, 80, maybe 100 people and me starting to read on that bigger level of a platform style, that would be a big goal for me. That's my first immediate goal. But, yeah, then let's take on the world.
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B
How do people even find you? I tried to find your website and I did not find one.
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A
Okay. So, okay, Sorry, world. I'm not much of a social media person, but I do have my Facebook. It's Tara B. Medium. And then I also have my email, which is a great way to contact me, and it's Tara Bilowski@yahoo.com or through telephone. I might think eventually I will move to, like, doing a website or something, but if someone's contacting me, they don't need to give me much information about who they want to connect. Don't want any of that. Just, I'm here, I'm interested in booking. That's all I need. So less is more. I don't want to know. You don't even need to tell me who referred. You don't give me any of that information. Allow that to just come through naturally, you know?
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B
Do they have to give you their name?
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A
They don't even have to give me their name if they do not want to. I've had people say, I don't want to give you my email until 5 seconds before the reading. I said, all right, that's fine. I don't care. Give it to me. I'll give it to you. Five seconds. They want me to research. I'm fine with that. I'm totally fine with that. You can text me from a telephone number and say, hey, I'm interested in having a reading. You don't even need to say your name. You could just say, I'm interested in having a reading book with me. I fully trust, fully trust. So I'm never weird about that. I definitely understand that, Tara.
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B
It's been such a fun conversation. It's been very enlightening to just see what this experience is like for you. I think it's an incredible gift, and I hope that you continue to help people around the world connect with their loved ones and get that evidence that they need. It's funny, the evidence. I already feel like I've gotten the evidence, and yet part of me is like, no, I need a little more.
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A
That's the human in us. We want more. It's never enough.
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B
Don't worry.
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A
I asked for more all the time. I'm like, can you give me more proof? And even me, I'm the same way. I'm like, give me more, give me more, give me more. You know, it's a natural human thing for us to want more.
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B
This has been amazing. Thank you so much for coming on.
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A
Thank you so much. So much. This was amazing. Thank you so much.
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B
Today's key takeaways. Take note of the things you were drawn to as a child. Your intuition then may reveal your purpose now. The instincts you had as a child may hold the map to your deepest gifts. Your hardest experiences can help reveal your purpose. When we stop running from our pain and start listening to it, transformation begins. Purpose often lives on the other side of healing. Grief can crack us open in ways nothing else can. Sometimes loss creates the space for a deeper connection with ourselves, with others, and with those we've lost. Healthy skepticism is a good thing, but stay curious and ask questions and keep your heart open. Trust is everything when it comes to intuition. Whether you're tapping into creativity, spiritual guidance, or your own inner knowing. Real growth begins when we trust ourselves and the process. Loved ones often communicate through signs, symbols and synchronicities. Butterflies, dreams, gut feelings. When you're present and paying attention, you just might notice they've been near you all along. Know your limits and protect your energy. You can't serve others when you're running on empty. Rest isn't a luxury. It's part of your work. And finally, the most consistent message from the other side is love. Pure, accepting, unshakable love. Let that be your guide. That's all for today. I release episodes once a week, so come back and check it out. Have a great day.