How poetry builds teenagers' confidence (w/ Youth Poet Laureate Naisha Randhar)

Summary

Podcast Summary: How Poetry Builds Teenagers' Confidence

Episode Title: How poetry builds teenagers' confidence (w/ Youth Poet Laureate Naisha Randhar)
Host: Chris Duffy
Guest: Nysha Randar, Youth Poet Laureate of Dallas
Release Date: March 17, 2025

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Introduction

In this enlightening episode of How to Be a Better Human, host Chris Duffy welcomes Nysha Randar, the Youth Poet Laureate of Dallas, Texas. Nysha stands out not only as the youngest guest on the show but also as a passionate advocate for the transformative power of poetry. Chris delves into Nysha’s journey, her perspective on poetry’s role in youth empowerment, and the responsibilities that come with her esteemed title.

Nysha's Journey into Poetry

Nysha’s introduction reveals a lifelong passion for writing. Starting at the tender age of seven, her love for words was ignited by a book about a young girl experiencing homelessness who used poetry as an outlet. This early connection solidified her dedication to the craft.

Nysha Randar [04:25]: "I started writing poetry since I was around 7 years old... realizing that a community of contemporary poetry does exist... really made me want to pursue poetry and become a poet."

Her perseverance led her to become the Dallas Youth Poet Laureate, a role that expanded her horizons and deepened her appreciation for poetry as a communal and expressive art form.

The Importance of Poetry for Youth

Nysha emphasizes poetry’s unique ability to foster self-expression and self-discovery among young people. She addresses the common stigmas that deter youth from engaging with poetry, advocating instead for its role in helping teenagers navigate their emotions and identities.

Nysha Randar [06:59]: "Poetry is so important for everybody, but for young people specifically... the freedom that comes with poetry, the self-expression, but also just the opportunity to sit with yourself and the world in silence."

She argues that poetry provides a safe space for teenagers to explore complex feelings without the pressure of finding concrete answers, making it an invaluable tool for personal growth.

Overcoming Stigmas and Misconceptions about Poetry

Chris and Nysha discuss the barriers that perceptions of poetry as elitist or incomprehensible can create. Nysha counters these misconceptions by introducing listeners to contemporary poets who use accessible language and relatable themes.

Nysha Randar [12:07]: "My first recommendation would be Ada Limone... Bright Dead Things is a really phenomenal collection."

She encourages newcomers to approach poetry with an open mind, likening the experience to listening to music: not every song resonates, but perseverance leads to discovery.

Nysha's Creative Process and Publishing Her First Book

Nysha shares her candid experience of writing her first book, Roses of Arma, during the lockdown period. She describes the process as playful and unpressured, epitomizing the joy of creation without the burden of perfection.

Nysha Randar [14:38]: "I was literally just like an 11-year-old messing around... I had so much fun writing it."

Despite initial self-doubt as she matured, Nysha maintains that her unwavering obsession with writing fuels her creativity. She highlights the importance of writing for personal fulfillment rather than external validation.

The Role of a Youth Poet Laureate

As the Youth Poet Laureate, Nysha speaks about her responsibility to make poetry relevant and accessible. She takes pride in introducing poetry to individuals who may have previously dismissed it, fostering a renewed appreciation for the art form.

Nysha Randar [23:14]: "The most important thing was that poetry is relevant... poetry can bring that back in people as laureates."

Nysha emphasizes the significance of community engagement and the joy of witnessing others discover the beauty of poetry.

Advice to Teachers, Parents, and Young Adults

To Teachers: Nysha advocates for a more open-ended approach to teaching poetry, encouraging emotional responses over rigid interpretations.

Nysha Randar [40:49]: "Please try and allow poetry to be an opening rather than a closing... bring some contemporary poets that are not old white men into the classroom."

To Parents: She advises parents to support their children’s poetic interests without apprehension, highlighting poetry’s role in self-discovery.

Nysha Randar [41:38]: "Allow your kid to experience themselves and to discover themselves through poetry."

To Young Adults: Nysha underscores poetry as a means to stay connected with the world and oneself amidst life’s challenges.

Nysha Randar [42:18]: "Poetry is a way for you to remember how to empathize with other people, how to connect with yourself."

Conclusion

Nysha Randar’s insights shed light on poetry’s profound impact on youth confidence and self-expression. Through her role as Youth Poet Laureate, she advocates for dismantling misconceptions, fostering an inclusive poetic community, and encouraging personal and collective growth. This episode not only celebrates Nysha’s achievements but also inspires listeners to embrace poetry as a tool for better understanding themselves and the world around them.

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Notable Quotes:

• Nysha Randar [04:25]: "Realizing that a community of contemporary poetry does exist... really made me want to pursue poetry and become a poet."

• Nysha Randar [06:59]: "The freedom that comes with poetry, the self-expression, but also just the opportunity to sit with yourself and the world in silence."

• Nysha Randar [12:07]: "My first recommendation would be Ada Limone... Bright Dead Things is a really phenomenal collection."

• Nysha Randar [14:38]: "I was literally just like an 11-year-old messing around... I had so much fun writing it."

• Nysha Randar [23:14]: "The most important thing was that poetry is relevant... poetry can bring that back in people as laureates."

• Nysha Randar [40:49]: "Please try and allow poetry to be an opening rather than a closing... bring some contemporary poets that are not old white men into the classroom."

• Nysha Randar [41:38]: "Allow your kid to experience themselves and to discover themselves through poetry."

• Nysha Randar [42:18]: "Poetry is a way for you to remember how to empathize with other people, how to connect with yourself."

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This comprehensive summary captures the essence of Nysha Randar’s discussion on poetry’s role in empowering teenagers, highlighting her personal journey, the significance of poetry in youth development, and her valuable advice to educators, parents, and young individuals.

Transcript

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[Chris Duffy]

You'Re listening to how to Be a Better Human. I'm your host, Chris Duffy. We have interviewed a lot of different people on this show. People from all different kinds of backgrounds from all over the world who do all sorts of different incredible, amazing things. But today's guest, Nysha Randar, is the first person in the history of our show who is still currently a high school student. Now, Nyesha is so much more than just a high schooler. I don't mean to minimize her by focusing on her age. She's a writer and the youth Poet laureate of Dallas, where she lives. And Naysha is also someone who believes really deeply in the power and potential of words. For me personally, this is a time and a moment where I am frankly struggling to see the wonder and the beauty in the world around me. And that is part of what I really loved about talking to Naisha. She looks at the world through the eyes of a young person not willing to accept the injustices or the broken pieces of this world. But she also looks at the world through the eyes of a poet, finding the creativity and the art in the everyday. I bet that whatever age you are, you are going to find something really special and personally connect to something that Naisha has to say. Here's a clip from one of her poems.

[Nysha Randar]

Elegy for JD Souther It's a Tuesday in September. JD Souther is dead. The night is a loud canary on crutches. Everyone's dying, you say. I grieve in the gap of your sentence. Let me slip into other worlds. The ocean floor is always moving, reckless as a flat raccoon in the road. I've hit the point in the harbor where everything is green. From here the stars all look the same. Isn't that a kind of ode? There is a morning in my throat trying to break. You forgot my brother on the subway the way a child forgets a balloon. Isn't that right? We float away like a bedsheet. I bloom in the wind. Grief is a signal of muscle memory. I meet reopened like a flower I believed you could touch through darkness.

[Chris Duffy]

Here she is, the Youth Poet Laureate of Dallas, Texas.

[Nysha Randar]

Nysha Randar hi, my name is Nysha. I'm a sophomore and author of the book called the Roses of Arma, and I'm the Youth Poet Laureate of Dallas.

[Chris Duffy]

What got you started in poetry? What sparked your initial interest in writing poetry and reading poetry?

[Nysha Randar]

So technically, I've been writing poetry since I was around 7 years old, and it was after I read a book about a girl who was experiencing homelessness when she was 12, and she also wrote poetry to get through that. But I would say that the moments that really sealed the deal for me with poetry was after I became the laureate. So I was already really obsessed with it enough that I wanted to become the Dallas Youth Poet Laureate. But then after I got to actually share my poems and have moments of connection with people and also for the first time realizing that a community of contemporary poetry does exist and that poets are living, breathing people and people that I can also be like, that really made me want to pursue poetry and become a poet.

[Chris Duffy]

Something that it makes me think of is when I was in elementary school, I was like obsessed with reference books. Like, I bought all these books or asked for my birthday books that were like the most obscure words or superior words, and I would be like, so excited to learn that, like defenestrate means the act of throwing someone out a window. It Seems like you have a similar excitement about words and the way that you can use a word to mean so many different things and communicate so much nuance.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, absolutely. I love learning about words. It's my favorite thing. And the first time I was getting into poetry. Poetry can be a really intimidating art form to get into because there's so much. There's so much of a narrative around it that, like, you have to be really smart to get it, or you have to be really educated to get it, or if you don't at what it means and poetry isn't for you. So getting into it. I remember that I would start reading a poem and I would actually get anxiety every time I read that poem because I was so scared of not getting what it meant. But I remember the first time I started truly falling in love with poetry was when I realized that poems were just made up of language that excited me. And that was like such a familiar topic to me because I've been writing since I was really young and I've been doing fiction poetry for as long as I can remember and storytelling. So, yeah, I'm really fascinated by words and how multifaceted they are and how they can convey so many contradictions, especially within a poem.

[Chris Duffy]

Why do you think that poetry is an important art form for young people in particular to engage with?

[Nysha Randar]

Poetry is so important for everybody, I think, but for young people specifically, I think that young people are so often driven away from poetry because of the stigma that surrounds it. And they so often, me as well, had like, a convoluted view of what poetry actually is. Actually, there was this. This past national youth poet laureate named Cara Jackson. And I don't want to misquote her, but she said something similar to, like, when teachers allow kids to call poetry boring, they are denying them the right to feel moved. So I think that, like, the freedom that comes with poetry, the self expression, but also just the opportunity to like, sit with yourself and the world in silence and to recognize yourself and notice yourself for the first time is something that is so important. And I think that kids want that, especially, like, they want to recognize themselves, they want to find themselves. And it can be so reckless to be a teenager who is also into poetry because there's just so much mystery with that existence. There's like, you don't have any of the answers in anything. But I also think that's why it's so specifically suited for being a human, of course, but also being a teenager when you're still discovering yourself. Poetry isn't Asking for answers. It isn't giving you any answers. It's just allowing you to sit with it and to discover something about yourself in the meantime.

[Chris Duffy]

But I'm curious to get your perspective on why it's important for older people, too, for people in middle age or elderly people.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah. I mean, part of that is just returning to the. Returning to our instincts. I mean, so many brilliant poets have talked about why they think poetry matters, and it's such an ever evolving conversation. I think that poetry is probably one of the art forms that is closest to the human experience. So one of my favorite poets, Morgan Parker, talked about how poetry is like a sensory overload and how it engages all the senses and people are scared of it because it doesn't necessarily make logical sense, but it still has the ability of being closer to how we actually experience the world, which maybe doesn't make sense or doesn't follow a logical progression, but is more of, like a sensory overload. So I feel like in that way, people are naturally drawn to poetry because it's so instinctive. And especially in, like, today's culture where we're covering so much of ourselves up and we live in a culture of that prizes productivity over everything. I think taking a moment to sit with a poem is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

[Chris Duffy]

You know, I come at this as a comedian, and I think there's a lot of terrible comedy out there. Very, very, very bad comedy, and there's a lot of terrible music. And I think that no one would argue that the existence of bad comedy or bad music means that we shouldn't also appreciate, like, great comedy or great music. Right. And yet I think people do have that feeling a lot of times with poetry where it's like, yeah, I read three bad poems and I hated them. So now I think poetry is bad.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah.

[Chris Duffy]

And I feel like that's a real loss.

[Nysha Randar]

It's so funny to me because it's so silly to think you read one poem and you don't like it or you don't get it or whatever, and then you just move on from poetry altogether because poetry is so huge and you can't judge an art form off of one poem. Of course. Yeah. I don't know. I think that's part of what's so intimidating about people. It's easier to say, oh, I read this poem, I didn't like it, and then I'll just move on from it.

[Chris Duffy]

I'm positive that someone is listening to the podcast right now and is saying, like, wow, this is so interesting. I'm sold. But I don't actually read a lot of poetry. I don't actually know poem. So what would you say are some ways that they should get started to find the poems that speak to them?

[Nysha Randar]

I started with contemporary poetry, so I didn't really know that contemporary poetry existed. And that was life changing for me because it's not, you know, it's English that, like, still is used in today's world. So it's, like, conversational, a lot of it. So it's not as scary to approach it. Okay. My first recommendation would be ADA Limone, who I think has, like, pretty accessible poetry. This is my first reading of her. Bright Dead Things is a really phenomenal collection. And from there I kind of branched out. And I also think it's really important to be patient with yourself. Like you said, reading a poem and not liking it is the same as listening to a song on the radio and not liking it. All you do is, like, change the song. You don't have to get scared about it. So if this specific poet isn't your thing, just keep looking and you'll find someone who is your thing, who you do get on a deeper level.

[Chris Duffy]

That's a great way to start. Honestly. That's great. And I think so often when I talk to people about poetry, the thing that is the barrier isn't even like, oh, I don't like Ada Limone versus I prefer, you know, Billy Collins or something like that. It's like, I thought all poems had to rhyme. Like, I thought all poems were roses are red, violets are blue. Like, that's what a lot of people are starting from, is thinking that that's what poetry is. Is that the limits of poetry?

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, totally. Actually, I think this is kind of a funny thing that was said to me once. Someone said to me, they were like, yeah, no, good and bad poems don't exist. It's just like, all poetry, you know? And I thought that was so funny because I think saying that good poems don't exist is also saying that, like, poetry is completely valueless. Because what's the point of reading poetry if it can't be good? But I think a lot of people do have that mindset of, like, oh, poetry is just poetry. Like, what is it even? What does it even mean? You know? And they have, like, these set expectations. Like you said, oh, it has to rhyme. It has to do this. It has to be that. And actually, poems that are being written are so diverse and different, and sometimes you look at them and you're like, I didn't even know this can be a poem, but it is a poem.

[Chris Duffy]

There's also, you know, this wide range of what is poetry, of course. Right. At the risk of sounding very like classic middle school teacher, I'm like, you know, the lyrics to a song are also poetry. And did you know a lot of rap music is poetry? But like, that's true in a way. And then also, you know, spoken word is a very specific form of poetry as well as like written poems and you have all the historical forms that play around with rigid structures. It is just a really wide swath of literature.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, absolutely. I actually got started, I moved into like the written poems with spoken word. So I started off, I think sometime in middle school I would go home every day and I would listen to spoken word poems. And I still really love spoken word. I think they do different things, but yeah, that's how I sort of transitioned into written poetry.

[Chris Duffy]

I want to talk to you a little bit about the creative process. You published your first book, Roses of Arma, at 1212 years old. I am working on this book right now. It's going to hopefully come out in 2026 and it is a tough process to write a book. So I'm curious to hear what was your creative process like, how did you approach it and what did you learn about creativity as you were working on a book?

[Nysha Randar]

Ooh. Honestly, I was literally just like an 11 year old messing around.

[Chris Duffy]

That's a great way to do it. Maybe that's the solution.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah. Honestly, just don't take any of it seriously. People always ask me this and I feel this so much because now whenever I sit down to write, it feels more difficult to think of like writing a novel than when I was 11 years old and I wanted to write a novel since I was 8. So if you asked me what I wanted to be when I was eight years old, I would have been like the greatest author in the world. And that was literally like my genuine serious go to answer. I was like, I'm going to become a millionaire off of books. I'm going to be number one. Yeah. So I wrote like pretty much non stop until I ended up with this book. And I don't even know, I couldn't tell you how it happened. I don't know what led to that book. I literally, I sat down one day just like every other day and I was like, I'm going to write a book. And all the other days I'd written like maybe 20 pages, 50 pages at some point. I wrote like 280 pages of a book, but none of it had actually ever finished. So this book, it was written during lockdown and I was such an introvert backman that I had a grand old time during lockdown writing my fantasy novel. And I planned out the whole thing for the first time. And I don't know, I genuinely just had so much fun writing it. I'm sure there were points where it was so difficult for me to write, but for some reason when I was younger, it just came so easy to me as an 11 year old, which is really fun for me and good for me then, I guess.

[Chris Duffy]

Yeah, it makes me think too that I think often when you talk to people about the struggles of a creative process or of writing something or making art or music or whatever, it's often the really hard part is getting out of your own way. It's just doing it right. And it sounds like you're saying a little bit of that too, of like, as you've gotten older, it is harder to get out of your own way.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, totally. And I was so, I don't want to say like arrogant, but I was so delusional about how good I was. I genuinely thought I was the best writer my age in the world. It was not even funny. Like it would be so embarrassing if I met myself now. There was no self doubt. There was nothing stopping me from going to the page. I generally just had so much fun doing it. And I also had like a crap ton of time because it was lockdown, so I didn't have to worry about that either.

[Chris Duffy]

What do you think is the, the balance between like self awareness and that confidence in yourself where, you know, it's good as an artist to have some level of self awareness because then you can edit things and make them better, but you also have to have a little bit of that wild self confidence to think you can actually do it in the first place. So as, as it sounds like you've changed those dials over the years, what. What do you think is the ideal dial for yourself? Where are you trying to. Trying to line them up?

[Nysha Randar]

I generally don't think that writers are the best judges of their own work, but I mean, for me, I think you do have to have that kind of obsession where like, even if I'm writing just crap right now, and I've been writing crap for like months, I'm still gonna keep showing up to see if I can hit that gold mine and then it'll all be worth it. I go through periods as a writer where I think I'm the worst writer in the world. And also periods are like, okay, this isn't so bad. You know, it's like this crazy up and down. I don't know how other writers experience it, but I think for me, the thing that motivates me and carries me through is just the complete obsession, because I don't think that I could live without writing. I think it's integral to my existence. And there's not a choice of whether I choose poetry today or not. Like, I poetry is something that I have to do and I have to make time for. And I think dealing with that kind of sort of veil that you have when you're looking at your own work is mostly just bringing it to other people. I also think sometimes there is this feeling that you get, I don't know, whenever you're writing a poem. And I think the best poems are poems that surprise you. So when you're writing a poem and you reach a point where the poem is kind of writing itself and it's doing something unexpected, that's kind of the point where you know that you've hit your mark. So I don't know. I just write for that. And I try not to concern myself too much with what I think of, like, is this good or not? I try to concern myself more with how it makes me feel and what I am, how I'm responding to it in my body and internally to see if it's something that is worth continuing with.

[Chris Duffy]

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[Chris Duffy]

And we are back in 2024, you were named the Dallas Youth Poet Laureate. Can you tell us a little bit about how that happened and what that's meant?

[Nysha Randar]

I became the Dallas Youth Poet Laureate. I applied when I was 15 years old, and I found out about it from Amanda Gorman, who performed at Biden's inauguration in 2021. And she was a National Youth Poet Laureate. But she got there by first being the LA Youth Poet Laureate. So I discovered that from her and after that I decided that that was how I was going to get there. And being a Dallas Youth Poet Laureate was kind of a job that I wasn't. That became so much more than I expected. I think in a lot of cities being a laureate can kind of just be a symbolic but in Dallas, it really is such a literary community that you're being invited to events so constantly that it can be overwhelming. But it's really special and I'm so grateful that I got to be here.

[Chris Duffy]

What did you learn over the course of playing that role of being the person that people look to when they want to find a youth poet?

[Nysha Randar]

The most important thing was that poetry is relevant. After becoming laureate, you bring poetry to so many people who probably didn't have experiences with it before, and it's really incredible to see, especially with kids, how they interact with poetry and to like witness them discovering it for the first time. There's this paradox in society where it's like, oh, nobody cares about poetry. Poetry's falling off. Like no one even knows that it exists anymore. And there's also people who are like, poetry is so important. How is it coming back? Why are people reading it more now? With a lot of the interactions that I've had, I've met people and they're always like, yeah, I read poetry when I was in college, or I used to really love poetry, I used to write poems, or I have this favorite poet. And it's just opening my mind to see that so many people genuinely do have so many experiences of poetry and do love poetry. They just didn't have time or the experience to cultivate that. So it's been really incredible to see how we can bring that back in people as laureates.

[Chris Duffy]

Something that I'm struck by in this conversation and also just in general about poetry is the idea that it can help us kind of cultivate this way of looking at the world of seeing these small amazing things and feeling like awe and wonder, Feelings that I think a lot of us don't necessarily feel on a day to day basis. What are three things that people who are listening can do to see more of the poetry in the world around them?

[Nysha Randar]

After reading poetry, I've seen poetry everywhere and it is really just a matter of looking more.

[Chris Duffy]

Well, that you got two right there. Read more poetry, look more.

[Nysha Randar]

Reading poetry. Of course, I think everyone should read poetry. Not to be so like self important, but I do think everyone should read poetry. And I also think that we as people need to be witnesses more than interpreters. So oftentimes when we go out into the world, we're trying to interpret something or find an answer or understand. But the thing about poetry is in order to write a poem that is true or that feels honest, being a witness to something, especially being a witness to yourself and noticing yourself while also noticing the world around you without changing it or feeling the need to manipulate is something that fuels poetry. And then also pay more attention, observe more, pay more attention to the people around you, what they're saying. Oftentimes I hear something, I'm like, oh, that belongs in a poem. Or I see something like that's definitely going in a poem. Or I do something really strange and I'm like, okay, this is definitely going in a poem. And then also this is something I do. I don't think everyone has to do this. But in my notes app, I take notes of everything that I see. Like if I see something that belongs in a poem, I write it down. Or if I see something that fascinates me, I write it down so that I have this Record that I can later go through with my poems and see, like, what I want to include. And I think as people, we could also have that record of our daily lives to find the extraordinary in the ordinary moments.

[Chris Duffy]

That is such a good answer. I love that answer. It also makes me think a poet that I love and you and I have talked about before this interview, Sarah Kay. Sarah Kay has this thing about, like, the universe has already written the poem that you were trying to write. And she has that in a poem where she's describing the way that starlings form the image of a bigger bird. All these small birds making up the image of a bigger bird. And for her, that's the poem that she was trying to write is already out there in the world when these birds fly.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, totally. I mean, poetry is just a failure of trying to translate something else. You know, it's like getting close to something but not being able to pinpoint that exact thing.

[Chris Duffy]

I want to go back to the thing you said about witnessing rather than translating. It strikes me that that's something that our culture doesn't really value. There's a lot of praise and attention paid to people who are willing to give their interpretation. And here's what this means, and here's the black and white version of the facts. Rather than I'm going to just kind of sit with things and see them and not necessarily try and put them in a box or a category.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, absolutely. I totally agree with that. I feel like we, as people, could do with bearing witness to things more. I also think it's kind of a coping mechanism for when you see something that maybe threatens you or threatens your beliefs. It's easier just to say, oh, this is what this means, rather than actually looking at what that person is saying and witnessing it for what it is.

[Chris Duffy]

To me, there's also a link here between private and public work. So, you know, you can write. It's possible to write poetry and not share it with anyone, but that's not the work that you do. And for me, that's not the work that I do in terms of my creativity. How does it change when you have to kind of, in a way, trust that you're going to be witnessed in the way you want to be witnessed when you put something out there.

[Nysha Randar]

Since I was 7 years old, I've been writing poetry privately. So I'd go up to my room and I'd write. And there was never. It never occurred to me that anyone else would ever read that. Of course, my end goal was always to be a public poet. I think part of poetry is engaging in that conversation in that community, and part of the thrill of it is sharing it with people. So I think that's why that was always something that just came so naturally to me, like, of course I want to do this in the future. I think when you're writing poems, you always have to keep the audience in mind. So that's something that is kind of hard for people to grasp, I think. But when you're writing a poem, you consider how the lines you're writing will affect your audience. So, for example, if you have a memory that is particularly impactful for you or meaningful for you, but it doesn't mean anything from somebody else, then including that in a poem and then giving that to the world isn't going to do anything because that's going to be totally meaningless and void for them, even if it is like heart wrenching for you. So that's, I think, the difference. It takes a lot more thought. But that's also where part of the pleasure comes in for me is playing around with that and seeing where we as humans intersect and have that interconnectedness where we can figure out what parts will actually impact the most amount of people due to our humanity.

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[Nysha Randar]

It's insane because I get this so much. And I think I've had this experience with laureating where, you know, as a youth poet laureate, part of what you do is hang out with the youth. You know, you're trying to connect with the young people. And those are people who are my age who are easy to connect with. And I've been able to connect with them differently and on a deeper level, I think through poetry. But also a lot of it is just being the smaller version of the adult poet laureate of Dallas.

[Chris Duffy]

Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Nysha Randar]

And so I'll go to a lot of events that are just like mostly adults, which is where we met. And it can be really strange to be surrounded by so many people. I remember going to this reading once and everybody who came up there was like, yeah, I got my MFA from here, got my PhD from here. And I was like, okay, cool. I'm 15, still in high school and it's been a really weird experience to see how that bridge happens. I also think that I am very much a 15 year old. Like I do 15 year old things, I say 15 year old things. I make teenager mistakes just like everyone else my age. And I don't know that I am so much more mature than other people. I just think that I'm more obsessed with something. And so I've dedicated so much of myself to it. And maybe that's what sets me apart. But it's also something that sets all poets apart because all poets are obsessed with poetry and want to learn as much as they can about poetry.

[Chris Duffy]

You know, at this event where we met, I also met. You were there with your dad and your dad was so like wonderful and thoughtful as well. And I wonder how much of this passion for language and for poetry also comes from your family, from your parents.

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, I mean, I've been reading since I was really young, and my dad also loves books, but they're both engineers, so they're both very, like, STEM focused. So when I was younger and now they. Well, not as much now because I think they've accepted their fate, but when I was younger, they. They were, like, trying to push me more towards STEM and like, trying to get me to go to college for something that was STEM related. And part of that is just because it's more practical. So in some ways, I am the black sheep of the family, where I'm just so set on not doing that and doing the exact opposite of that. So in some ways, yeah, I think my dad is a big reader and he really loves English, but I also think that I am probably more obsessed with it than he is.

[Chris Duffy]

You just hit on one of the things that I think is a. Comes up a lot when people talk about poetry, which is practical, that it's not practical. Where do you fall on the poetry is practical versus poetry is impractical?

[Nysha Randar]

Well, I think poetry is instinctive. So I don't think it's. At least for me, it's not a choice of whether do I do this? Do I not? Like, it doesn't matter if it's practical or not for me. And I also think that since it's a vehicle for allowing us to access or recognize and notice our own humanity and our own interconnectedness, it's the same thing as asking, like, is music practical? You know, like, if you're considering how many people are suffering in the world, is art really the thing that's going to change all of that? But I also think that as a society, when people are in so much suffering and when people are so close to losing themselves, art is what comes in and saves people and allows them to see themselves and see beauty again.

[Chris Duffy]

How do you not ignore the world, but also not be completely destroyed by it?

[Nysha Randar]

Scrolling through social media is so difficult when all you see is just people in so much pain. And then there's also the conflict of, of course I don't want to numb myself to this, but who, in their capacity of one person, can empathize with all of these people and feel this much pain and not be, like you said, totally destroyed by it? So, yeah, I do think that poetry is a way to combat that numbness. And it's partially because you have to stop and you have to listen. And it is something that also already exists within yourself. You're recognizing a part of yourself that already existed, and so it's easier to feel that pain but also feel the contradictions of what it means to be human. You know, like being in pain, but also being in love and being happy while also grieving.

[Chris Duffy]

Okay. So when I think of my own time as a sophomore in high school, so much of my energy was about not wanting to stand out, was about figuring out, like, how can I possibly fit in and how can I not say something that's going to be used against me? Whereas you are doing something that really, like, puts you out there and puts you in. In the public eye, and that isn't something that everyone else is doing. So when you talk to these other young people, to your peers, or to people younger than you in. In your role as a poet laureate, how do you talk to them about that. That fear and that desire to. To hide themselves away versus putting themselves out there?

[Nysha Randar]

Oh, yeah. I actually. I did this laureate event once where I took these high schoolers along a trip around Dallas, basically, and I performed these poems for them. And the scariest people to perform poems for are high schoolers, of course. And I remember these poems were spoken word poems. And they were so vulnerable and so emotional. And it is one of the most intimidating things to get up to a crowd of just silent, blank stares and to give your poem. And I remember giving the first poem and looking at all of them and just seeing nothing on their faces and being so terrified. And later they came up to me and they were like, I really loved your poem. And I was like, really? I couldn't tell. Vulnerability is so important to me, and so is authenticity also. It just comes with the job. So you can't really be a poet if you're afraid to talk about certain things or if you're constantly trying to protect yourself. And part of how I dealt with this, I think I remember wanting to be the youth poet laureate. And the thing about poetry is people don't think it's cool. So you'll be sitting in English class and we'll be talking about a poem, and I'll be so aware that everyone's just like, oh, my God, what are we doing? I'll be like, yeah, but I really love this part. Or I really love this line break. And part of it, I think, was me just being so unaware. I was just not thinking about what they were thinking at all because I was just so happy with what I was doing. And, yeah, it is really scary, especially when you're writing poems that talk about certain things that are really personal to you and they might get published one day or if that's Your goal. It's really scary to think everyone in the world, especially your classmates, are going to have access to that. But also part of it is just what are you willing to sacrifice? Like, if you don't do this now, you're sacrificing your dream, you're sacrificing poetry, you're sacrificing your own authenticity. Otherwise, yes, you're risking yourself, you're risking other people thinking you're stupid or dumb, or you're like a nerd or whatever. But you're also so much closer to doing the thing that you truly wanted to do at your very core. So I think it's like a give and take. I'm willing to trade that, and I'm willing to risk someone judging me for being able to do the thing that I love doing the most to its full extent.

[Chris Duffy]

What would you want people to think about? Or what's something you would want to say to teachers as they think about poetry and creativity?

[Nysha Randar]

I know it's difficult to teach poetry in a school system. Please try and allow poetry to be an opening rather than a closing. So maybe we should stop asking students what a poem means and start asking them things like, how does this poem make you feel? Or, what was your reaction to this poem? And also, please don't just teach Robert Frost. Please bring some contemporary poets that are not old white men into the classroom. Because your syllabus should also represent the kids that you're teaching, and they want to know that they exist. So give them that opportunity.

[Chris Duffy]

Okay, what about for parents? What would you say to parents?

[Nysha Randar]

Don't freak out. Don't be scared. Parents probably have a panic attack when their kid's like, oh, I like poetry. I want to be a poet. Allow your kid to experience themselves and to discover themselves through poetry, because it truly is such a magical way to discover yourself and find yourself and also pick up poetry. Like, if your kid is reading it, then maybe you should too.

[Chris Duffy]

So what about someone who is young, they've graduated from college, they're working, their first real job, they're kind of being hit with the real world. What would you say to them about poetry and creativity?

[Nysha Randar]

Poetry is a way for you to remember that the real world exists. And by the real world, I don't mean, you know, your first real job. It is a way for you to remember how to empathize with other people, how to connect with other people, and how to connect with yourself. So if I am going through something that is scary or unknown, I return to poetry because that art is something that is so steadfast in how it connects me to other people who came before me and also humans, humanity and the community. So that's something that'll never change. And poetry can be that rock for you.

[Chris Duffy]

And then the last question I have is I'm just genuinely curious because like I said, we have not had someone else in high school before. I'm interviewing you on Thursday afternoon evening. What is next on the agenda for the sophomore version of you as opposed to the brilliant poet version of you?

[Nysha Randar]

Yeah, so I actually have not done any of my homework and all of it has been left to tonight. It takes me like 40 minutes to get home. So I got home and I started preparing for the interview straight away because my school ends at 4. So yeah, I have a lot of homework to do after this. I'll probably be up pretty late and I also have my winter formal on Saturday. Wow.

[Chris Duffy]

I'm so sorry that we kept you from both homework and formal prep and I really appreciate you making the time that is, that is incredibly generous. Thank you.

[Nysha Randar]

No, thank you so much for having me. It was such a pleasure.

[Chris Duffy]

That is it for this episode of how to Be a Better Human. Thank you so much to today's guest, Naisha Randar. I am your host Chris Duffy and you can find more from me, including my weekly newsletter and other [e-mail] how to be a Better Human is put together by a team of people who are almost all younger than me but still older than Nyesha. On the TED side we've got Daniela Balorazzo, Banban Cheng, Chloe Cha, Cha Brooks, Valentina Bohanini, Lainey Lott, Antonio Ley and Joseph De Bruyne. This episode was fact checked by Julia Dickerson and Mattea Salas who think that the most poetic phrase of all is fact checks out. On the PRX side they make beautiful punishments poetry out of garbled audio. I'm talking about Morgan Flannery, Nor Gill, Patrick Grant and Jocelyn Gonzalez. Thanks again to you for listening. Please share this episode with a friend or family member who you think would enjoy it. We will be back with more next week. Thanks again.

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