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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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5 Flirting Moments that Broke My Brain (and Rewired What I Thought Was Possible)
Today00:43:20Summary readyWhen you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and beautiful women pursuing him. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell shares five brain-breaking flirting moments that shattered his dating limitations. What might be possible for you?03:11: “You Want Me to Approach Her? She’s with that Guy!”09:39: Three First Dates, Three First Kisses18:20: Why So Many Women Prefer Older Men24:54: The Date that Truly Broke My Brain36:17: How to Manage a Ménage: It’s as Easy as One, Two, “Toi”NOT SURE HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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7 Days, 7 Online Dating Openers: What to Write on the Apps Every Day of the Week
5d ago00:25:11Summary readyImagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to learn what to message women, and how to keep the conversation flowing after they reply.NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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It’s the Least Sexy Skill in Dating—and It Might Land You Your Dream Girl
5d ago00:21:19Summary readyThere’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why resilience is the least sexy but most powerful skill in dating—and how it can help you to finally find the one. Listen now.NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTER ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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My Flirting Hall of Shame: 7 Times I Screwed Up Royally with Women (Learn from My F-ups!)
2w ago00:28:25Summary readyYou can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of ice-water down his shirt. He also shares 7 lessons that helped him crack the code on male-female connection.NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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Ghosted? Not for Long! Here are 22 Funny Text Messages to Get Her Writing You Back
2w ago00:24:10Summary readyYou texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why most “ghosting” isn’t actually ghosting—and he shares 22 funny, playful follow-up messages that get women writing you back and going on dates with you. Listen now.NOT SURE HOW TO TEXT WOMEN? TIRED OF GETTING GHOSTED? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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Struggling to Get Second Dates? Take Drastic Action: “Blow Up” Your Next First Date!
3w ago00:27:33Summary readyMost guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a drastic, powerful solution. “Blow up” your next first date! Connell breaks down the three rules to take your dates from forgettable to explosively fun. He also explains why the “risky” move is the smartest one you can make. Listen now.NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES WITH WOMEN YOU’RE INTO? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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In 2026, Women Want You to Approach Them More Than Ever (Seriously!) Here’s Why
3w ago00:21:00Summary readyYou want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to meet women “in the wild.” He shares how he and his clients are proving it every day. Listen now so you can stop overthinking and start approaching women in your day-to-day life.NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH AND TALK TO WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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Stop Running Out of Things to Say: 8 Topics that Ignite Flirty Conversations with Women
4w ago00:34:42Summary readyNothing kills a date faster than running out of things to say—and the awkward silence that follows. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and author Connell Barrett breaks down 8 great first-date topics that lead to free-flowing, flirty conversations. You’ll learn how to keep conversations going, banter with charm, and get a lot more second dates.NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTER ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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“Should I Start an OnlyFans?” 31 Funny, Flirty Things to Say to Women When You Approach
4w ago00:23:07Summary readyYou see a woman in the real world you want to meet—but you freeze, get stuck in your head, and have no clue what to say. On this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares 31 flirty, funny things to say to break the ice with women. Listen now for 31 openers that are charming, playful and NEVER creepy.NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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5 Pickup Lines for Guys Who Hate Pickup Lines: Stop Overthinking, Approach Her, and Just Say This
May 2100:29:16Summary readyDo you want to meet women without sounding like some weird pickup artist? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares five pickup lines for men who hate pickup lines. You’ll hear how his client Taylor went from overthinking approaches to confidently meeting and dating Cassie—no cheesy pickup lines needed. And if Taylor can do it, so can you!STRUGGLING TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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