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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
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Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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“You’re Not Broken!” 3 Steps to Lasting Dating Confidence (with Attachment Style Expert Thais Gibson)
4d ago00:56:15Summary readyIf fear of rejection keeps you from taking romantic chances—sending that text or approaching an attractive stranger—Thais Gibson has a solution. Gibson has helped more than 70,000 people build thriving relationships, both through her book, “The New Attachment Theory,” and as founder of the Personal Development School. Gibson joins dating coach Connell Barrett to share practical exercises to help you overcome rejection anxiety, build lasting confidence, and create healthier relationships.Episode Highlights:01:55: Why the “Perfect” Opener Won’t Fix Deeper Insecurity09:18: 3 Steps to Stop Feeling that You’re Not Enough17:57: How the 4 Attachment Styles Affect Your Dating Life27:13: Why Guys Panic When a Woman Doesn’t Text Back Right Away41:01: She Went Quiet? Here’s What a Securely Attached Men Does Next44:22: Do This When You Want to Go for the KissTAKE THAIS GIBSON’S FREE ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZ: Attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.comLEARN ABOUT THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL: Personaldevelopmentschool.comFOLLOW THE PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT SCHOOL ON INSTAGRAM: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool
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11 Pickup Lines That Are Classy, Not Creepy—Say These to Any Woman, Anywhere
2w ago00:30:10Summary readyYou see an incredible woman you want to talk to, but you’re not sure what to say—and the pickup lines you’ve heard sound cheesy or creepy. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gives you 11 natural, non-cringe opening lines you can say to any woman. Get ready to break the ice in charming, genuine ways, and start getting dates.HIRE CONNELL TO TEACH YOU HOW TO APPROACH AND DATE INCREDIBLE WOMEN. BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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“The Best First Date of My Life” — How Tony Learned to Flirt and Won Jennifer Over
3w ago00:29:18Summary readyIf you’ve ever wondered, “What do I say? How do I flirt?” Tony’s story will resonate. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with Tony, a divorced dad and software engineer who had some flirting breakthroughs that helped him win over Jennifer. If Tony can go from struggling to talk to women to finding his dream relationship, so can you!NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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5 Flirting Moments that Broke My Brain (and Rewired What I Thought Was Possible)
3w ago00:43:20Summary readyWhen you get good at flirting, you’ll be shocked by what you can achieve. Dating coach Connell Barrett sure was. Once a dateless introvert stuck in the friend zone, he never imagined his love life would include instant make-outs, fun flings, and beautiful women pursuing him. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell shares five brain-breaking flirting moments that shattered his dating limitations. What might be possible for you?03:11: “You Want Me to Approach Her? She’s with that Guy!”09:39: Three First Dates, Three First Kisses18:20: Why So Many Women Prefer Older Men24:54: The Date that Truly Broke My Brain36:17: How to Manage a Ménage: It’s as Easy as One, Two, “Toi”NOT SURE HOW TO TALK TO WOMEN YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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7 Days, 7 Online Dating Openers: What to Write on the Apps Every Day of the Week
4w ago00:25:11Summary readyImagine never struggling to come up with a good online dating opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares seven proven, playful dating-app openers that you can use every day of the week! You’re about to learn what to message women, and how to keep the conversation flowing after they reply.NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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It’s the Least Sexy Skill in Dating—and It Might Land You Your Dream Girl
4w ago00:21:19Summary readyThere’s one dating skill that will help you smash through almost any dating challenge, from rejection to ghosting to approach anxiety. The skill? Resilience. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett reveals why resilience is the least sexy but most powerful skill in dating—and how it can help you to finally find the one. Listen now.NOT SURE HOW TO FLIRT AND BANTER ON DATES? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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My Flirting Hall of Shame: 7 Times I Screwed Up Royally with Women (Learn from My F-ups!)
Jun 1100:28:25Summary readyYou can’t get great at flirting without making mistakes, as dating coach Connell Barrett learned the hard way. In this candid and hilarious episode, Connell shares 7 huge flirting mistakes he made—including the time a woman poured a pitcher of ice-water down his shirt. He also shares 7 lessons that helped him crack the code on male-female connection.NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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Ghosted? Not for Long! Here are 22 Funny Text Messages to Get Her Writing You Back
Jun 900:24:10Summary readyYou texted, but she didn’t reply. So you assume you’re ghosted. Not so fast! Dating coach Connell Barrett says that one unanswered text isn’t ghosting. It’s just dating in 2026. On this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” Connell breaks down why most “ghosting” isn’t actually ghosting—and he shares 22 funny, playful follow-up messages that get women writing you back and going on dates with you. Listen now.NOT SURE HOW TO TEXT WOMEN? TIRED OF GETTING GHOSTED? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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Struggling to Get Second Dates? Take Drastic Action: “Blow Up” Your Next First Date!
Jun 500:27:33Summary readyMost guys struggle on first dates by playing it too safe. Same dull questions, same dull answers, same text she sends the next day: “I didn’t feel a connection.” In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares a drastic, powerful solution. “Blow up” your next first date! Connell breaks down the three rules to take your dates from forgettable to explosively fun. He also explains why the “risky” move is the smartest one you can make. Listen now.NOT GETTING ENOUGH DATES WITH WOMEN YOU’RE INTO? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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In 2026, Women Want You to Approach Them More Than Ever (Seriously!) Here’s Why
Jun 200:21:00Summary readyYou want to meet women in the real world, but you you worry that it’s weird or socially creepy. In this episode of the “How to Get a Girlfriend” podcast, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett explains why now is the best time ever to meet women “in the wild.” He shares how he and his clients are proving it every day. Listen now so you can stop overthinking and start approaching women in your day-to-day life.NOT SURE HOW TO APPROACH AND TALK TO WOMEN? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT: DatingTransformation.comGET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: Email: connell@datingtransformation.com (Write “Free Book” in Subject Line)
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