B (54:19)
Yeah, I mean, I, I tend to think about this, unfortunately, in chronological order, you know, 20 years conflict. My first experience with the loss of a teammate started in Hell Week, like literally week five of my Navy SEAL career. And it. We lost our class leader during Hell Week. It was Thursday and he had had. And. And the lesson here is, is he was a phenomenal leader, a true servant leader in every sense of the word. He put the class's needs before his own every day, every. Including during Hell Week. When he entered Hell Week, like a lot of guys do, with severe pneumonia, refused to quit. He was coughing up blood at every med check, which we do every four hours. And we don't need a Monday morning quarterback. Whether they should have pulled him from training, which they probably should have, but they didn't. He was a well respected officer as an intel guy at one of the SEAL teams already. So he had a lot of good relationships, great reputation. So I think they, you know, let him stay the course, but pneumonia turned, pulmonary edema and he ended up drowning in the pool. And it, interestingly, when we were, you know, formally briefed that John was gone, literally the CEO of BUDS at the time, and this is sort of an introduction to the mindset and culture of Naval special warfare out of necessity. It's not about being macho. Literally all he said to us was, hey guys, listen up. We've been waiting in the classroom for a few hours. He came in in wasted no time. Listen up. Lieutenant John Scott's pronounced dead at 1:30am he looked at second officer in command. He said, Lieutenant Parrado, you're in charge of the class now. That's all he said. And then he said, gentlemen, get used to this feeling that you have right now. This will not be the last teammate you're going to lose. And he said, you know, he said some things to like, come together as a class, stay focused on the mission and get the job done. And then he walked down. That's all he so and so there was no hugging, there was no empathy intertwined into his message. And I think that was by design or just a lot skill in that category as a leader. But then, you know, and then that was. He was absolutely right. If that was a, was a movie or a book, we'd call that foreshadowing. A few months later was 9 11. And that's when everything got real. And you know, I went through buds with. He got rolled back. But early part of buds went through buds with Mike Murphy, who was posthumously awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions as team leader during, during Operation Red Wings. Another example of someone who not, not figuratively sacrificed his life, literally, literally is literally sacrificed his life for the lives of Marcus, Danny, Matt, you know, and others. And so it. And that is something that just continued unfortunately to happen time and time, time again when you're seeing guys and gals willingly put the needs of the team before themselves, willingly, not begrudgingly, without thinking other guys who've jumped on grenades, guys who've done, you know, incredible act. And not just in naval special warfare, across all branches of the military and living metal recipients, we have more of those now, unfortunately than ever. You know, medals aren't a good thing. Medals are happening. Bad stuff happens on the battlefield or loss happens on the battlefield. That's where heroism comes from. And so, so again, people ask you, well, who are your heroes? Or who do you look up to? My only answer is the same, you know, it's the brothers that didn't come up. And you know, we carry. You carry guilt, you know, for that type of thing. Naturally, of course, we all do as humans with survivor's guilt, whatever label to that. But at the same time, you know, I truly believe if we were to ask any one of those individuals, if they were here with us today or on this podcast right now, if they had any regrets, I would venture to say they would. Their response would be not one, you know, because they, again, going back to, they were purpose driven, their lives had meaning, they were sacrificing with something very intentional in mind. It wasn't an accident. And so those are things we can learn without applying death to it, of course, or loss to it. The same thing goes into being purpose driven and ultimately the happiest, most successful people in the world. Every pursuit they do in some fashion is for something greater than themselves. And that is what drives deep emotional connectivity. It's what drives resilience in the face of adversity. It's what drives, whether it's, you know, week one of buds or, you know, overcoming massive obstacles while you're trying to build a startup, you know, which every single day there's either something good that's happening or something bad that's happening, but maintaining focus. So there's one last piece on that is, you know, that you learn from, you know, the brothers and sisters we're talking about or just people who are naturally very resilient or who've worked on resilience. They do two things simultaneously. They maintain a long term emotional connection to what they're trying to accomplish, or the relationship they're trying to build or maintain, or the cause that they're getting to, while simultaneously not just accepting the obstacles or the pain or the suffering or stress, anxiety and adversity, but leaning into it, really leaning into it. It's a fuel source every day because they know it's part of the journey.