If Jewels Could Talk with Carol Walton
Episode Summary: The History of Diamond Engagement Rings... and the Myths
Release Date: August 7, 2025
Host: Carol Walton
Guest: Marion Faisal
Introduction to the Episode
In this enlightening episode of If Jewels Could Talk, Carol Walton welcomes esteemed journalist and jewelry expert Marion Faisal to delve into the intricate history of diamond engagement rings. Drawing from Faisal's newly released book, the discussion aims to uncover the truths behind long-held myths surrounding these iconic symbols of love and commitment.
Debunking Common Myths About Diamond Engagement Rings
1. The De Beers "A Diamond is Forever" Influence
One prevalent misconception is that the tradition of diamond engagement rings began with De Beers' famous 1947 advertising campaign. Marion Faisal addresses this myth head-on:
“It is so true. And really it was shocking to me because whenever I begin a history project... so many people said to me, oh, that's a De Beers thing, right? [...] It is absolutely laughable. You know, people just... The campaign was so successful, people absolutely forget that anything else ever happened.”
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Faisal emphasizes that diamond engagement rings existed centuries before De Beers' marketing efforts, highlighting their deep-rooted symbolism in history.
2. The First Engagement Ring: Mary of Burgundy and Maximilian
Another widespread belief is that the first recorded diamond engagement ring was presented by Archduke Maximilian to Mary of Burgundy in 1477. Faisal dispels this notion:
“It is a big myth for people in the jewelry world... It was not. [...] there's documentation that diamonds, diamond engagement rings existed before that.”
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She points out that even before this event, diamond rings were in use, particularly among influential families in Italy.
3. The Vena Amoris (Vein of Love) Myth
A romantic yet inaccurate belief is that the tradition of wearing the engagement ring on the fourth finger of the left hand stems from a supposed vein that connects directly to the heart. Faisal clarifies:
“It's so romantic, really. I hate to bust that myth, but there was a moment during the book when I wanted to call it Vena Morris... But no, it does not exist.”
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She suggests alternative origins, such as early Christian traditions, for the placement of the ring.
4. Engagement Rings Exclusively for Royalty Until 1947
Contrary to popular belief, diamond engagement rings were not solely the domain of royalty up until the mid-20th century. Faisal shares her research uncovering instances of engagement rings among notable figures outside royal circles:
“I found it and then I emailed... Elizabeth Barrett Browning and [...] she had a crown, heart, rose cut, diamond ring.”
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This revelation underscores the broader adoption of diamond rings beyond just royal families.
The Historical Evolution of Diamond Engagement Rings
From Symbolism to Status
Carol Walton and Marion Faisal explore the journey of diamond engagement rings from symbols of power and prestige among Renaissance men to their modern association with love and fidelity:
“...diamond rings were worn mainly by men because they were symbols of power and symbols of prestige. And then in the Renaissance... the history of diamond engagement rings began.”
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Faisal adds that the enduring appeal lies in their representation of strength, permanence, and the binding of families.
Influence of Designers and Celebrity Culture
The Role of Tiffany and Cartier
Designers like Tiffany & Co. and Cartier have significantly shaped the diamond engagement ring market. Faisal discusses how their innovative designs have influenced contemporary styles:
“...the spareness to it. There is no detail besides holding up the diamond. And it's much closer to the band than it is in the ring as we know it now.”
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She highlights Tiffany's minimalist approach in the late 19th century and Cartier's popularization of the emerald cut through Grace Kelly's iconic ring.
Celebrity Engagement Rings
The episode touches on how celebrity choices impact public perceptions and trends in engagement ring designs:
“...every single diamond engagement ring means something different to every couple that owns it. From, you know, Isabella Toledo, whoever up to Lady Gaga.”
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Faisal remarks on the variability and personal significance of celebrity rings, noting that not all high-profile figures opt for traditional diamond rings.
Lab-Grown Diamonds: Ethical Choices or Misconceptions?
Faisal critically examines the rising trend of lab-grown diamonds, challenging the notion that they are a perpetual ethical alternative:
“...there is no rules and you have to do what's going to make you happy. But, you know, certainly that was in my mind as well, a reason to write the story because [...] lab grown diamonds are a different category entirely.”
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She argues that the energy consumption involved in creating lab-grown diamonds undermines their ethical appeal and emphasizes the importance of authenticity in symbolizing relationships.
The Enduring Tradition and Future of Diamond Engagement Rings
Despite evolving trends and debates, diamond engagement rings maintain a storied presence in jewelry traditions:
“...for 500 years women have been wearing diamond engagement rings and you know, uninterrupted. And it is extraordinary.”
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Faisal expresses awe at the longevity of this tradition, highlighting its deep symbolic resonance and adaptability through centuries.
Conclusion
Carol Walton wraps up the episode by affirming the timeless significance of the diamond engagement ring while encouraging listeners to explore their personal preferences and meanings:
“...it's a beautiful ring. So, you can get too big.”
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The conversation between Walton and Faisal not only debunks prevalent myths but also celebrates the rich history and enduring legacy of diamond engagement rings, making it a must-listen for jewelry enthusiasts and those embarking on their own love stories.
Additional Resources
- Book Mentioned: The History of Diamond Engagement Rings by Marion Faisal
- Podcast Website: carolwalton.com
- Sponsors: Leibish
Produced by Natasha Cowan. Music and editing by Tim Thornton. Graphics by Scott Bentley. Illustration by Jordi Labander.