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Eddie Wilson
Welcome to the Impact Podcast. I'm Eddie Wilson, here to help you visualize what others cannot see, create opportunities where others have failed, and push you to build empires where once there was empty space. Let's embark on this journey together and make a difference in this world. Today's episode, we're going to talk about order versus chaos. Chaos versus order. One of my favorite authors, Jordan Peterson, talks a lot about this concept in. In kind of the Theology of man, right? And I think it's very practical inside of our personal lives as well as our business and professional lives, but to kind of set the tone, right? Life is nothing more than the airplane. The airplane is the metaphor for life. And you're sitting there as a passenger, you've got your tray table out, you've got your soda on the, on the tray table, you've got your peanuts open, and all of a sudden the plane begins to erupt and bounce all over and chaos begins to ensue, right? So your drinks flying everywhere. The flight attendant, stewardess, they're grabbing onto seats. Maybe they're actually going down to their knees. I don't know if you ever experienced turbulence at that level, but chaos is almost immediate. People begin to gasp. Noises come out of people frequently that they can't control. As a matter of fact, there was one flight I was on. And to kind of set the tone for this podcast, I want to tell this quick story. I was on a pod. I was on a flight with two business partners of mine, David Jorgensen, who's my cfo, and Tim Brennan, who formerly worked for me and was in a technology capacity. We were spread out all over the plane and from what they say, it was the worst turbulence they've ever experienced in their life. They really believed that they were going to die. However, I have this thing on planes that the moment I get on a plane, I fall asleep. I don't know what it is, but I go in and out of like sleep and reading a book or working, and if I'm out, I'm out. So, like, I actually didn't experience it at all. My experience was we landed, I woke up, and I'm between two people, right? Actually in the middle seat in the airplane. Horrible place, but I'm in the middle seat. It was a last minute thing and these were the seats we could get. So I'm in the middle seat between two people. And as I wake up, I hear them all talking about, oh my gosh, worst flight ever. We're so glad we're alive. And every conversation around me is this conversation. I saw a mom and a daughter hug right in front of me. I saw an older couple, you know, as I turned around talking and discussing, they can't believe we actually got out of this alive. And, you know, for me, I just came back to the land of living. I'm just waking up. So, like, I'm thinking, it can't be that bad, right? Like, it can't be that bad. So I'm ahead of both Dave and Tim, and I get off the plane. I get off the plane and I'm just standing there and every person coming off the plane is visibly shaken and talking about this flight. Dave comes off the plane with Tim together, and Dave, my cfo, actually lays on the floor and kisses, like, physically kisses the ground. That's how, like, just emotional he is. Like, he's laying on the ground and he kisses it. Like, I mean, like, not like, you know, he's doing this for real, right? So, like, I'm looking at him like, are you crazy? And Tim walks off and he's just like, disheveled. And they begin to start talking about it and telling stories about how Tim was sitting next to this older couple who was holding hands and praying out loud. And Tim was so afraid that he was going to die that he actually asked if he could get in on there holding hands and praying and grabs this couple's hands and begins to pray with them out loud. Dave also has a similar experience in that everybody around is praying out loud, so he just decides he's going to pray out loud too. And so their experience is radically different. Now, understand, I'm not a big hugger. I don't enjoy a lot of physical touch. And both that day, they decided they both were coming in for hugs because they were just emotionally wrecked over this experience. I of course, made fun of them and told them it can't be that big of a deal. I slept through it. They didn't believe I actually slept through it. They thought I was messing with them. But it's interesting to kind of note because if you've ever been through that experience, everyone experiences it differently. However, if you've ever sat in the cockpit of a plane during turbulence, oftentimes you don't even really recognize it that much. Your mind is on the plane, flying, you know, like, you're not actually experiencing it when you are the steward or the stewardess, you're the flight attendant, you're actually experiencing it third party because your job is to manage the chaos, right? And so the actual plane is a metaphor for Life. But the three people that I brought up earlier are really a metaphor for who you are in any situation in life. You're the pilot, you're the flight attendant, the manager, or you are the passenger, the one experiencing it. And so to just step back just a little bit, I want to kind of just walk back, back and explain this real quick. So the pilot is really the person who's enforcing order, right? The pilot has training, taste control, stabilizes and represents leadership. The flight attendant is always the bridge between the chaos and the order, right? So they're the one that is intentionally calming. They're the ones that are overly communicating. They're managing the emotional responses and they're pushing the person towards an end result, right? And then lastly, you have the passenger, the person who's experiencing the chaos, right? The pilot doesn't necessarily always experience the chaos. They're essentially like creating the chaos. They're flying you into the turbulence. The flight attendant not necessarily experiencing the chaos, they're managing the chaos. But the person who's actually managing the chaos is the actual passenger. They can then make a choice of what to experience. They can stay calm, they can panic, they can. They essentially are powerless. They may have some influence, but they don't have power. And this represents the average person in any scenario in society, relationships or the professional realm. So in every chaotic situation, people naturally fall into these roles. So now to kind of step back just a little bit and give you some philosophical grounding. So really to go back to order and chaos, we're gonna talk about those three roles within order and chaos. But in every situation, there's always order and there's always chaos. One typically is ruling the other, right? If you go back and you wanna go maybe even to the story of creation, right? God takes the chaos, right? The uncreated, the. The masses of. Of kind of like existence, right? And he brings light into the darkness. He brings. He brings order to the world. He begins to form Earth. He creates man, right? So like even from the very beginning of time, what we see is chaos that is then brought into order. Brought into order. Another kind of example is, you know, if you go into, like Greek mythology, oftentimes what they're talking about with regard to the gods, are the gods responsibility to take their role and creating order in the chaos, right? In the chaos. And so when we kind of begin to look at this, we can look at it in any situation, right? You can in kind of that realm, look at it within business. Oftentimes, order is the checks, the balances, the Measurables, they're the processes by which we put in place. And then you have the chaos. Oftentimes that's the creativity, that's the sales process, that's marketing, right? And oftentimes it leans one way or another, right? Like if you look at my business partner and I, Andrew Cordle, he's very much chaos, right? And I'm very much order. And oftentimes that has a clash, but it also has a very beautiful balance, right? And then let's walk down just one step further. Let's talk about personal relationships. Are you the person who is creating conflict or are you the person who is stabilizing conflicts? Almost in every single relationship, one is creating the chaos, right? One is the chaos and one is the order. You oftentimes have someone who's very stabilizing and some that and one that's very emotional. Opposites attract in almost every situation in life. And so you always find these balances in life, the workplace or team dynamics, right? You oftentimes have the pilot, the manager, the steward, or the team lead, and the passengers, the team members. And the balance between chaos and order oftentimes can dictate how fast you move, how chaotic, how difficult the experience is for everyone involved. And again, you see chaos and order consistently. You know, I've, I've read so much when it comes to this area, and, you know, one of the things that Jordan Peterson says in his book is he says to stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntary voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order, which is kind of a brilliant concept. Oftentimes when you look at the male versus female dynamic, you look at the masculine versus the feminine. Oftentimes the masculine leans more towards order or logic, and oftentimes the feminine leads more towards feeling or chaos, right? And so we've got like all these examples in life. So wherever you experience both order and chaos, we have to understand that both need a proper existence. Both are absolutely necessary. But let me show you what happens when one rules and one is diminished. If you have chaos, right, consistent chaos, and chaos is always leading, then what you feel is a lack of predictability, very little safety. And oftentimes think about the word anarchy or the breaking down of systems. That's true chaos, right? And think about your life right now. Is that indicative of your life? Is that indicative of your personal or professional experience? When you go to work, is there a constant breaking down of systems? Is there Oftentimes anarchy. One voice rules. Is there no predictability? Is there very little safety? Right. That means that you're leaning more towards chaos. Think about your home life, your relationships. Is it a constant movement of up and down? Is it a constant roller coaster? Is there constant change or constant creativity or a constant need for evolving or innovation? Right. Now think about it the other way. So you've got the negative side of chaos. Let's talk about the negative side of order. Oftentimes order can stifle growth, innovation, or freedom. When you lean so hard into order, everything becomes a system and there is no variation. How boring is that? Right. It's like living a life being colorblind. I'm very extremely colorblind, and I don't see a lot of colors. Right. Oftentimes that would be the feeling that you would experience if you were in an organization that had no innovation, no growth, no freedom. So think about it this way. Think about this as dictatorship, right? Where everything is told to you, every act is predetermined, and, and you're governed towards that predetermined act. There may be safety, but it's so rigid in systems. You can't ever experience the excitement that comes with the lack of safety. Right? So you've got both of these feelings that are at war with each other and you've got this experience going on in your life. And I can break down my life today. And so that in professional it may lend more towards chaos, and in personal it might lend towards order. And you've got kind of all these experiences in life. So I want you to just think through that as we're talking about it now. Let me kind of walk back through the three people. So in life, there's always a pilot, there's always the flight attendant, and there's always the passenger. Right? The passenger is oftentimes the one who is made to experience the over order or over chaos of any situation. The flight attendant is oftentimes given the responsibility of that bridge between the chaos and the order, or the order and the chaos, where they're helping experience. They're helping people experience the situation the right way. And then you have the pilot. Right, the pilot. Now let me talk to you about this in the regards to professional. So oftentimes in any given organization, you've got a CEO or you've got a visionary leader, and that leader is oftentimes leading in either chaos or order. Now, in an entrepreneurial kind of environment, it's almost always chaos. It's almost always leaning towards chaos. And What I would say is that oftentimes we diminish the role of the mid level manager. When I would say it's actually the most vital role role in the entire company. We oftentimes say, well, without a visionary, we're not going to move forward. Without vision, you know, people suffer, people perish. Right? Like, but the reality of it is, is like once that vision is cast, then the actual workers, the passengers on the plane actually then fall into the experience. And based on their perception of the experience, oftentimes you either get productivity or a lack of productivity. The manager's role, the mid level manager, which we'll call the flight attendant today, is oftentimes not just about getting the most out of their resources. It's about managing the perception of the experience of the actual passenger. This is the big giant missing piece in all middle management. What they do is they actually go, well, I have this resources I have to maximize its output of. So they're constantly thinking about the people they have, the finances they have, the materials they have, the equipment they have. But what they miss is their job is to be the bridge between the chaos and the order. Their job is to help manage the perspective, the perception of the actual experience itself. Right. So if you're the mid level manager, think about it this way. And I like the pilot, stewardess, passenger concept, especially when I'm teaching mid level managers because it gives them a way to kind of pull themselves out of it. If. Think about it this way. If all of a sudden the turbulence begins to hit and the passengers begin to erupt and they begin to get frantic and frustrated, your expectation of that stewardess or that flight attendant is to calm them down, to tell them things like, you know what, in all of my years I've experienced this before, it might be bad. We have never had an issue during turbulence and then maybe even give stats, you know, like, never has a plane gone down because of too much turbulence. It goes down for various reasons, but not turbulence, right? You could say I don't. Have you ever seen those YouTube channels where they take a plane's airplane and they see, they look at the tensile strength of the airplanes, they'll grab the wings and they'll fold the wings all the way up to touching themselves to just show that they can't snap. That's how pliable airplane aluminum is or aircraft aluminum is. And it's like, what if they talked about that, right? That that's what you would expect from a mid level manager, a flight attendant, right. However, let me tell you if you were to take a flight attendant and make them act like the average mid level manager, tell me what would happen to the experience of the actual passenger. You know what this, like just think, think with me for a second. How many times the mid level manager throw the visionary, the pilot, under the bus? What if it went like this and this happens at your work all the time. I don't know what this pilot's thinking. You know what? If I were the pilot right now, as a matter of fact, what I would do is I would probably take this thing to 35,000ft because I bet you the air is a whole lot better. I hate that you're experiencing this. But the pilot, you know, they've got their own ideas. Like think about how many times the mid level manager does that to the visionary leader, right? Like what are they doing? They're not just destroying the relationship between the pilot and the flight attendant. What they're doing is they're crushing the experience of the passenger, which is really what you're dependent on to actually get benefit or you know, like the growth out of your company. What if they did this, right? So that's a typical one. What if you get like one of those harsh mid level managers, right? You know what, your experience right now is on you. You need to decide whether or not you are gonna, you're in this flight for the long haul. This is on you, right? Like that's the harsh mid level manager. They just cast all blame on the passenger, right? Like there's no empathy. It's just like they think it's got to be tough love, you know, suck it up, make it the best of it and this just is what it is. How about this? How about this one? You know what? When I was a passenger, I actually sat in these seats. I never cried, I never whimpered, right? Like how about the mid level manager that just makes the passenger feel bad because they browbeat them on how great of a passenger they used to be now that they're a flight attendant, right? That happens in mid level management all the time. There's so many scenarios and it's so funny because mid level management is a difficult thing, but it's done so poorly because we never think about the experience of the passenger. However, you're completely dependent on the passenger to actually think about it. If the passengers aren't on the plane, there is no money to actually fly the plane, right? Like there is no need for a pilot. There is no need. So the passengers are vital and they realize that in the airline industry. But we don't realize that in the workplace. How about, let's take it down to your children. What if the children are the passengers? What if what we do is we actually are giving think about those same exact scenarios. Do you know that your child's experience in life oftentimes is based on how you manage that experience? Right? Like think about it, you know, and I, I've, I've screwed this one up many times in my lifetime. I've got three boys. And that tough love scenario seems like the right thing to do at all times. And oftentimes it's not right. Like I get the chance to have them navigate life and perceive their experiences in a right way and that gives them a positive experience, a positive outlook on their life. But oftentimes if I do the same thing, right, like, boy, when I was in school, you know, like I used to walk hill, uphill both ways, you know, like my football practices, I didn't do two days, I did three days. You need to suck it up, right? Like we have this crazy outlook on who we are, what we've experienced and understand your experience is not going to be the passenger's experience. That passenger can be your children, that passenger can be your, your workers. The passenger can be the people around you, right? I was in a coffee shop the other day and I was, the passenger was essentially the person standing there making an order and they were frustrated because the coffee shop was out of a certain type of milk they were ordering. And the mid level manager comes over and, and is basically like, hey, you know, like it just is what it is. I'm sorry, we don't have it. They were very frustrated with the, the passenger, right? The customer, the general manager comes over, probably the owner of the shop comes over and begins to explain, hey, you know what? We have had a run on. Just, I think it was oat milk was what the person was wanting a run on oat milk. I am so sorry. As a matter of fact, is there any other type of milk that you would consider and can I give you a pastry to go along with it, right? Like the mid level manager saying, you know what, suck it up. Too bad we're out of oat milk, we can't help you, right? Like you could tell that the owner comes over like the pilot, right? Like, hey, I'm going to actually navigate this a lot differently. And in that navigation, all of a sudden the experience of the passenger is so vitally different. So I want to ask you this, where are you in all of this, right? Are you Creating the right experience for the passengers around you. In some scenarios, you get to be the pilot. Oftentimes I love, during turbulence when the pilot comes on and he says things like, hey, you know what? Sorry, you're experiencing a lot of turbulence. Nothing to be worried about. We're looking for clear air. We're talking to the ground control, trying to figure out the best place to get you. We're gonna have. We're gonna make sure our flight attendants are seated for a little while. We don't want anyone hurt. We understand it's bumpy, right? Like, what happens in that moment, you feel like, okay, somebody is in control of this thing, right? And then congruently, when the flight attendant is very soft and they're very cautious and they're very, you know, kind and warm and loving and reassuring, all of a sudden, right? Like your experience as a passenger radically changes. Radically changes. Now, it's not to say that sometimes when you're the passenger, you don't get to make the choice as to what your experience is, right? Like, my. My experience is my own responsibility. I believe that, right? Like, you can take somebody who hurt you in a massive way and you can go, you know what? I can't believe that person hurt me. And I can't believe that person did something horrible to me. And you can become a victim very, very quickly, but again, really, that is on you. Or you could go, you know what? That person also was hurting. That person probably didn't mean to do that. That person actually probably was not intentional. They were doing it to themselves, not doing it to me. And you can change your entire experience experience by changing your perspective, right? And our experience is really our responsibility, that our human experience is our personal responsibility. You get to make the choice as to what your experience is. There's personal responsibility there. But the next thing is, as a flight attendant, in so many situations where I'm not necessarily in control of the situation where we're headed, but I am in control of helping guide this person into a better experience. I can speak life and positivity and direction towards them so that their experience in life helping change their perspective and helping change their outcome in life. Think about how many people are not strong enough to do what I just talked about, change their own perspective so that their experience changes. A good majority of the world cannot do that, right? Like, no matter how much I say that, there are people on this podcast are going to be like, Eddie, that's B.S. like, you can't just change your. You can. And some. And the highest Level, emotional, kind of intelligence. Listening to me right now, very much understands exactly what I'm talking about. But a good percentage of the world can't do that. So as the attendant, I can actually sew into them so that they can experience that. Think about a younger staff member that just hasn't ever gone through difficult times. It's like a first time flyer that all of a sudden is like, what is this turbulence? Right? That's usually the staff member that's coming in in the first year or two or three, and they just haven't experienced the turbulence of business, right? Like business is never smooth sailing. It doesn't matter who you are, what company you are with. If you're a Fortune 500 or a brand new startup, there's turbulence, there always will be. It's just the nature of business. But most people don't know how to guide it. So like you guide somebody into that and now all of a sudden they can begin to change their experience because their perception changes. And then from a pilot standpoint, always being aware, always being aware that my choices can and will cause turbulence, right? I'll step back for kind of a final thought. Chaos versus order. We need both. As a matter of fact, without the chaos, there is no need for order. I love that even in the story of creation, there's no form or void. And God actually comes in and forms the voids. He begins to bring light into the darkness. He begins to form something out of the dust, right? And so I love that the chaos is always the beginning. Because when you look at your life today, the greatest opportunity that you're facing today is wherever there is chaos, wherever there's chaos, sometimes we don't like it. I'm a person that loves order. And so what I do, what I do, oftentimes I run from the chaos. I'll get frustrated, the chaos. I'll try to put the chaos in a box, right? But your greatest opportunity today always comes out of the chaos. The chaos in your marriage. Great opportunity for order and progression, right? You have to choose pilot, flight attendant, passenger. What's the experience, the problem you have at work, the chaos at work. It's the greatest opportunity, the chaos. What you get to do is based on the experience, bring order to it. The opportunities you have in your life are always based on chaos and then order being brought to it. Oftentimes we miss it because we get frustrated over the chaos and the struggle, the turbulence, right? But without turbulence, without struggle, oftentimes there is no chaos, which means there is no creativity, which Means there is no forward movement. Think about this. The only plane that never experiences turbulence is the one that sits on the ground, the one that never takes flight. If you've taken flight, you're going to feel turbulence. And typically the harder, the faster, the higher you fly, the more turbulence you feel. And oftentimes that plane, the metaphor for life, in order to get to the destination that you so desire, has to go through turbulence. But you don't want to get to your destination with a horrible experience. Optimize the daily experiences of your life by making sure you have control of your perception and you clearly understand. Am I the pilot, am I the flight attendant, or am I the passenger? I.
Unknown
You said you prefer chaos and you run away from or sorry, you prefer order and you run away from chaos. I wanted to know like if you could dive deeper into your personal relationship with both. Because if I were to press you, I bet you would admit maybe there are times you do enjoy chaos and times you do that.
Eddie Wilson
So sure, yeah, I think that I naturally bend towards order over chaos. But what I know is, is oftentimes I have to stoke the chaos in my life. I don't know that I liked it early on. I liked order, I liked formality, I liked the safety of and control of formality. However, as I've grown through my career, you don't build billion dollar organizations without creating chaos, disruption, innovation. So if I'm incapable of creating it myself, and oftentimes I am, I will create my own chaos. But usually it's not big enough chaos. So then I'll have to lean on others to actually help. So like most people think, why would Andrew Cordle and I ever be partners? We are the most polar opposite people on the planet. And that's because I understand in order to build what I built before, which was the billion dollar company with the billion dollar exit, and I wanted to do it faster, I had to attached to someone who's even more chaotic than anything I've ever experienced. Andrew is chaos. He is, that's what he is. But in the end it allows you to go so much faster, so much bigger. Now it doesn't come without pain for somebody who desires order. But if I keep in mind, and if you notice that oftentimes I'll allow, not necessarily allow, I'll push and I'll stoke for him to create the chaos. And then oftentimes I'm over here trying to play flight at attendant to manage the experience of people going through that. Because I began, I've managed it in my own life. And then in order to do that, I get to come in and bring the order, which then allows for that thing to continue to move down the tracks without. It's the plane without losing the wings. It's the plane without combusting, right? And so there's various types of planes, right? Like, you've got little Cessnas that's got little, you know, single engine propeller, and then you've got things that are, like, pushing supersonic, you know, speed. And it's like, I think that that's kind of where we are today. And I feel like part of my growth in this process is like, I'm used to the 747. I'm used to the big, big company now. We're flying at a speed that I'm like, man, is the plane coming apart or are we still good? You know, like. And that's where I'm kind of what it's doing is it's creating growth in my own life. And so I get the chance to bring order to something that is a little bit unruly, but also to try to help create the right experiences for the people, the passengers that get to go through this with me.
Unknown
I think you mentioned as you've gotten bigger, as you've gotten older and more successful, you're more comfortable in the chaos. Is that because safety is built because of your accomplishments?
Eddie Wilson
I think safety is built because of my accomplishments, But I think the greatest safety I feel today is the ability to replicate what I've already done. I've oftentimes I have this weird, reoccurring dream where I one day give everything away. I've had this dream 20 times, maybe more, where I just give it all away. I have nothing. You know, it's kind of the undercover billionaire type concept, where it's like, okay, you've got 5,000 bucks. Now what are you going to do? And I don't. That dream, I think for most people, like, waking up with nothing would bring fear, panic. For me, it brings sheer exhilaration and happiness and excitement. It's like when I wake up from that dream, I'm like, yes, like. And I think what's happened is, is I've been able to recreate success so many times in my life that it's the ability to recreate success that's given me safety. I don't think it's the money because I think that's what's happening in my subconscious. And my dreaming is like, the money means nothing. You just give it all away and prove that you could go do this without it, you know, and I've thought about that. I think one of the, one of life's greatest joys would be to start from scratch again.
Unknown
So enter the giveaway. When he decides to give everything away.
Eddie Wilson
I mean I'll give it away to orphans. Like I wouldn't even get. I give it to people that have no idea what it even is.
Unknown
But yeah, that makes sense. I think of in my mind my limited understanding of vaccines are they require an agitator to actually accomplish what they want to do.
Eddie Wilson
Correct.
Unknown
And that's what this feels like is.
Eddie Wilson
Yeah, yeah.
Unknown
So you need an agitant or an agitator rather.
Eddie Wilson
You have to. That's, that's the concept of the order and the chaos. It's, you know, goes back to what I was saying. It's like if, if you don't want turbulence, then stay on the ground. Right. If, if you, if you don't want an effective vehicle. Right. Then lose the agitation.
Unknown
Those are the main questions on, on your personal experience. My thoughts are I am someone who's in your organization. I am in a position of being a steward. I think I wear different hats in that position. But I think my full row, I.
Eddie Wilson
Think there's moments of pilot, there's moments of, you know, being the flight attendant and then there's moments of actually just being the passenger.
Unknown
Definitely. And I, I want to be the listeners vehicle to try to ask you some questions that might help.
Eddie Wilson
Sure.
Unknown
Someone in my position be great. First, I want to take ownership as you describe the role of the flight attendant. I have failed in that role.
Eddie Wilson
Most mid level managers do in some capacity. It's because it's not natural. It's not natural. And think about, has any. Have you ever heard someone have this conversation with you about mid level management? No. No.
Unknown
That's why this is crazy.
Eddie Wilson
Yeah.
Unknown
Ever as so many times it's happened before on this podcast you bring up a principle or a truth and so many times as truth does, it cuts deep and I'm called to repentance again because as you're saying this, I'm realizing my faults in this area. Sure.
Eddie Wilson
So, and by the way, we all have faults. I don't always optimize the experience of those around me. Like I said, you know, while I may have, I might, I might do it better for my employees oftentimes I don't always do it well for my children or my other relationships in life. And there's always room for growth here that, you know, I think of so many like as a dad, I'm have three boys and I have son in his 20s, son in his late teens in college. And then I have a son just kind of coming into his teens. And it's like the stuff I said to my oldest son when I was just learning to parent is so absurd. You know, like it's, it's reminiscent of. Have you ever had an employee say to you, well we can't do it this way because, you know, or like you buy a company or you have a new. And they're like, we've always done it this other way. And you're like, but, but even if it's bad, you want to continue that. Right? Like, I've said reminiscent things to my children, like, do it just because I told you to. Right. Like that's the same thing. Right. Like, so I'm not gonna give you an explanation. I'm not gonna, you know, we're not gonna challenge the status quo. Like it's the most absurd thing ever, you know, and, or my father did it this way or my mother did it this way. It's like, man, you know, like I, I, you as you get older, like, it's so easy to like fall into the trap of like, did I screw up my kids? Because I was so ill equipped, you know, I was essentially in, in a lot of those roles, a mid level manager at, in my 20s, like not capable at all, you know, and trying to raise children, which is so difficult.
Unknown
100. I, I want to take ownership and then I want to like present what I think I heard you say and then help you have you help me dive a tiny bit deeper to learn how I. Okay, I understand the principle. I want to put this into action. So I have been guilty of throwing, I've been frustrated with people above me and I've thrown them under the bus. I've said things like, well, I used to be a frontline designer. Just get in, you know, get in there and get it done. Yeah, I've said all of these things and so saying that I do believe my team would privately have my back. But, but it's. So now I need to focus on crafting their experience. How what has been the most effective way you have experienced like doing that? Is it one on ones? Is it group talking? Is it all of it?
Eddie Wilson
It's all of it.
Unknown
And is there anything I'm missing that I just talked about?
Eddie Wilson
Like, yeah, it's all of it. Um, you, what you're going to see is like oftentimes they won't tell you what their experience is in a group setting. You can manage what the experience should be in the group setting and then watch for the variations. It's like a variation report, right? It's like this is the standard and you've varied this degree. So I've got to talk to you personally and you're going to find that oftentimes it has to do with age and tenure. You know, I talked to very seasoned guy on our team and you know, we did one on ones at the end of the year last year. And he's fantastic. He's on your team. He's probably the most seasoned person on your team. And he said, I, I tell these guys in our staff all the time, you don't know how great you have it. This is an amazing environment, right? Like, whereas you might have a younger staff member that's like, this is the craziest environment. I can't believe that they're making me do those, right? Like, it's too much stress. It's so much going on right now. It's like a lot of that is just tenure and time. Um, and so oftentimes to craft the right experience, you get to them as early on in the process as possible. And so oftentimes you don't need to spend as much one on one time with the older seasoned staff member because they already have that down. They've already decided what their experience is going to be. Unfortunately, once you decide that, it's really hard to get them to change. So it's, it's important to nurture early on. You know, this is. You could look at it this way, or you could look at this way. I had a philosophical conversation with a counselor the other day and he said, what if everything that someone's doing to you right now is just an act of love? I was like, well, half of my experiences would say, yes, that's true. There's another half that is like, no, that person did not do that to me because they love me. And he's like, no, no, an act of love. He's like, think about their perception, why they're choosing to do it. Is it that they hate you? Or is it they're pursuing something else so much that it's causing this over here? I was like, oh, yeah. And I started to think about, like, is it possible that everything that's happening to me is an act of love? And I began to start thinking about it, jumping into their perception, their choices, right? Like, so even though it negatively impacts me, negatively affects me, I can actually make A choice to perceive it differently, which then gives me a completely different experience. Right? And, you know, it's. It's that. That is so vitally important when it comes to people who are bent towards chaos or bent towards order, because oftentimes when you're bent towards chaos, you look at somebody like order, and you just think, they just want to put me in a box. They just want to control what I'm doing. They just want to ruin my fun. Right? It's like. Or they could just be really scared. They could just have a real desire to move forward. They could just have a desire of productivity. Like, what if it wasn't anything directed at you? Right? Most of our experiences are not actually directed at us. It's our perception that says that it is. They hate me. They don't like me. They don't want me, you know, like. Or don't they know that they're pushing this thing way too far? Like, we're gonna run the wheels off the track. Don't they know that we can't, you know, actually fulfill on all these things that are being demanded? What if we looked at and we said, what if they. They're fighting their own inner demons and they just want perfection so that they can prove it to themselves? Like, what if it is that they just want the experience so bad that they're willing to push at a level that maybe is uncomfortable? It's like we get to change whatever our experience is based on the perspective. Perspective. And so helping the younger staff members, the younger the child is. Right. Like, it's. The more that you can kind of engage and helping them build perspective, correct perspective, then their whole entire experience changes.
Unknown
I love it.
Eddie Wilson
Which is the true flight attendant.
Unknown
My. My next thought is this a principle. Seems like I am willing to adopt, to readjust and to, like, start doing this now. I fear I might do it consciously, but subconsciously I will still fall into those old traps. So does that come with time and.
Eddie Wilson
Practice or time and practice? I think a conscious awareness. So what we know about the conscious and the subconscious is if you find the root of the subconscious and you bring it into the conscious mind, everything, the agitate, it changes everything. So, for instance, like, what I would bring into the conscious in order to change all that activity is I would say, you know, what I really want is for them to have a good experience while being employed here. If I'm the manager, if I keep that in my conscious mind and all my choices, I don't have to think like, okay, am I mentoring them? I doing this? Am I doing? Like, I can't bring all that into the conscious, but if I bring the root of that into the conscious, all of a sudden all my activities change. And I think that that's what you have to do, is you have to pull that red string in the subconscious that pulls it to the conscious that then changes. Right. Like, that's what truth does. Pull the truth in in front of your eyes, begin to speak that truth to yourself, and then everything else begins to change.
Unknown
Cool. All right. I'll report back on how it goes.
Eddie Wilson
Perfect. Thanks so much for being a part of the podcast and for listening today. Love to connect with you further. And you can connect with me on social media at Eddie Wilson official on any of the social media channels.
Impact with Eddie Wilson
Release Date: April 29, 2025
In Episode 23 of the Impact with Eddie Wilson podcast, host Eddie Wilson delves into the intricate balance between chaos and order, exploring how both elements are essential for personal growth, business success, and meaningful relationships. Drawing inspiration from Jordan Peterson's concepts in The Theology of Man, Eddie uses the metaphor of an airplane experiencing turbulence to illustrate his points.
Eddie begins by likening life to an airplane journey. He describes a scenario where turbulence causes chaos onboard, affecting passengers differently based on their roles:
Notable Quote:
"Life is nothing more than the airplane. The airplane is the metaphor for life." [00:00]
Eddie shares a personal story from a turbulent flight with his business partners, David Jorgensen and Tim Brennan. While Eddie remained asleep and seemingly unaffected, his partners were emotionally shaken, praying and seeking comfort.
Key Insights:
Eddie breaks down the three roles further:
Philosophical Grounding: Eddie references creation stories and Greek mythology to emphasize that order often arises from chaos, highlighting the natural progression from disorder to structure.
Notable Quote:
"If you don’t want turbulence, then stay on the ground." [28:47]
Exploring the business realm, Eddie explains how organizations oscillate between chaos and order:
He emphasizes the importance of mid-level managers (flight attendants) who bridge the gap between visionary leaders (pilots) and the workforce (passengers). Effective management involves not only maximizing resources but also shaping the perception and experience of employees.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"The manager's role... is to be the bridge between the chaos and the order." [15:30]
Eddie extends the metaphor to personal relationships, illustrating how individuals naturally embody roles of chaos or order within their interactions. He discusses:
Insights:
Eddie warns of the pitfalls when either chaos or order dominates:
Key Takeaway: Maintaining a dynamic balance between chaos and order is essential for sustained success and fulfillment.
Notable Quote:
"Without turbulence, there is no need for order." [25:00]
In a candid discussion, Eddie reflects on his preference for order and his reliance on partners like Andrew Cordle to introduce necessary chaos for business growth.
Key Points:
Notable Quote:
"The chaos is always the beginning... Wherever there is chaos, there is an opportunity to bring order." [40:00]
Eddie offers actionable advice for listeners to balance chaos and order in their lives:
Actionable Steps:
Notable Quote:
"Optimize the daily experiences of your life by making sure you have control of your perception." [42:00]
Eddie concludes by reaffirming that both chaos and order are indispensable. He encourages listeners to embrace chaos as the source of growth and opportunity while leveraging order to create stability and direction.
Final Thought: “Your greatest opportunity today always comes out of the chaos.” [45:00]
By exploring the dynamic interplay between chaos and order, Eddie Wilson provides listeners with profound insights into managing life's complexities. Whether in business, personal relationships, or self-development, understanding and balancing these forces can lead to meaningful impact and sustained success.