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Podcast Summary: IN HINDZSIGHT – Episode Released February 25, 2025

Host: HINDZ
Title: IN HINDZSIGHT
Description: In Hindzsight is a sound reflection journey designed to jump-start your day, renew the mind, and support you in your personal expansion. Visit www.hindz.site for more information.

Episode Overview

In this introspective episode of In Hindzsight, host HINDZ delves deep into a personal season of isolation and self-prioritization. She explores the necessity of conserving energy, setting boundaries, and decentering relationships to focus on personal growth and mission. Through candid reflections, HINDZ offers insights into managing social interactions, maintaining meaningful connections, and honoring one's own journey without succumbing to external pressures.

1. Embracing a Season of Self-Prioritization

HINDZ opens the episode by explaining her current inclination to refrain from forming new connections. She emphasizes that this isn't due to a lack of appreciation for people but rather a strategic focus on her own agenda.

"It's not selfish. It's necessary." [02:15]

She articulates a shift in her mindset where she demands more effort from others to engage with her, signaling a deliberate choice to protect her energy and prioritize her personal goals.

"If somebody wants to engage with me right now, they're gonna have to put in 85, 90% of the work." [04:30]

2. Decentering Relationships and Conserving Energy

HINDZ discusses the broader trend, particularly among women, of decentering men, and expands it to her personal stance of decentering all new relationships. She underscores the importance of discerning where to invest energy, especially when previous interactions have been inconsistent or unfulfilling.

"I'm just de centering everybody. Like, I'm just not interested." [05:45]

She highlights the impact of constant networking and social obligations, noting how they can derail her vision and drain her energy.

"The constant networking and socializing and being obtuse... everyone's pulling you in different directions." [08:20]

3. Setting Boundaries and Maintaining Self-Respect

HINDZ emphasizes the role of boundaries in self-respect and energy management. She explains how saying "no" is effectively saying "yes" to herself, reinforcing the importance of prioritizing personal peace over external demands.

"Saying no is really saying yes to ourselves in those seasons." [15:50]

She shares experiences where others have failed to respect her time, such as last-minute cancellations, and how these instances reinforce her need to set stricter boundaries.

"Don't waste my energy... I have a lot of energy, I can really engage." [12:10]

4. The Power of Intentional Isolation

Exploring the concept of intentional isolation, HINDZ differentiates it from loneliness. She describes it as a purposeful state where one nurtures self-connection and personal growth without feeling disconnected from others.

"Sometimes we set an intention where we want to be alone... and that's a beautiful place to be." [21:35]

HINDZ highlights how solitude can enhance discipline and intuition, allowing for deeper self-reflection and personal development.

"I'm more disciplined, I'm very intuitive. I hear so much of myself." [24:00]

5. Maintaining Meaningful Connections

While HINDZ advocates for limiting new connections, she acknowledges the value of strong, effortless relationships that withstand periods of distance. She cherishes connections where mutual effort is evident, ensuring that relationships remain fulfilling and supportive.

"True connections, I think, are almost effortless." [18:40]

She contrasts this with relationships that require constant nurturing, which she now finds draining and unsustainable in her current season.

6. Encouraging Self-Prioritization in Others

HINDZ extends her reflections to listeners, encouraging them to recognize and honor their own seasons of self-prioritization. She stresses the importance of not feeling guilty for setting boundaries and protecting one’s energy, advocating for a collective understanding of personal growth phases.

"If you're also in that season, don't feel guilty. Know how to prioritize yourself." [29:45]

7. Conclusion and Final Reflections

In concluding the episode, HINDZ reiterates her commitment to focusing her energy on meaningful pursuits and authentic relationships. She leaves listeners with a message of empowerment, emphasizing that protecting one’s energy is a sign of self-respect and necessary for personal expansion.

"We know our power, and we want to place our power right now on the things that truly matter." [34:20]

Key Takeaways

Self-Prioritization: Recognizing the importance of focusing on personal goals and well-being.
Energy Management: Learning to conserve energy by setting boundaries and being selective about interactions.
Intentional Isolation: Embracing periods of solitude to enhance personal growth without feeling lonely.
Meaningful Connections: Valuing relationships that are mutual, effortless, and resilient over time.
Empowerment: Encouraging self-respect and the courage to prioritize one's own needs without guilt.

Notable Quotes

On Self-Prioritization:
"It's not selfish. It's necessary." — [02:15]
On Decentering Relationships:
"I'm just de centering everybody. Like, I'm just not interested." — [05:45]
On Setting Boundaries:
"Saying no is really saying yes to ourselves in those seasons." — [15:50]
On Intentional Isolation:
"Sometimes we set an intention where we want to be alone... and that's a beautiful place to be." — [21:35]
On Meaningful Connections:
"True connections, I think, are almost effortless." — [18:40]
On Empowerment:
"We know our power, and we want to place our power right now on the things that truly matter." — [34:20]

Final Thoughts

This episode of In Hindzsight serves as a profound reminder of the importance of self-awareness and intentional living. HINDZ's candid exploration of her personal season of isolation provides valuable insights into managing relationships and energy in a way that fosters personal growth and well-being. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own lives, set necessary boundaries, and prioritize their own missions with confidence and respect.

Transcript

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You know, I'm in this interesting season right now where I'm just kind of like, no new friends. Like, no new friends. Like that Drake song. Not saying I don't like people or I'm not, you know, open to new connections, but I'm not interested in putting the effort to go make new connections. It's not the season that I'm in right now. This season feels like prioritizing everything that's on my own agenda. It's not selfish. It's necessary. I had this feeling the other day and I was like, if somebody wants to engage with me right now, they're gonna have to put in 85, 90% of the work. Like, that's how disinterested I am right now. You know, how. You know, obviously a big chunk of my audience is women. It's about 65, 70%. And there's a theme online where women talk about de centering men. And I feel like I'm de centering everybody. Like, I'm just decentering everybody. Like, I'm just not interested. I'm not interested in new friendships. I'm not interested in romance. I'm not interested in anything. I'm just like, even like business interactions like, yo, you got to show me that you bout it. Because I've just, you know, a lot of people are wishy washy. A lot of people have wasted my time. And I'm in a season where I'm on a mission. There's things I want to do just to validate myself, to show up and prove to myself that these things I can complete and get done. And there's like, intimacy that I'm feeling in isolation with myself, you know, nurturing the connection with the most high a little bit more. And in this season, it just feels necessary, as selfish as it may be, because the constant networking and socializing and being obl, you know, sometimes you're just like, you have a vision for the week, and then now everyone's pulling you in different directions. And people feel like if they have access to you, that there's an obligation to somehow fulfill whatever they want or need from you. Like, you owe them your energy. But everything requires energy, friendships, relationships. And sometimes we're in seasons where that energy is ours. It's ours placing it in the direction that matters for us. You know, a lot of us, we are so good at showing up for others. We are so good at putting everybody ahead of ourselves. And then when it comes to what we need to do, we often find ourselves in the back burner. And I just had this revelation the other day where I'm like, yeah, I'm just de centering everybody. I have no need to maintain or create new connections. Not saying I don't want to. I love conversations, but I'm in the mood. Like, let's say, you know, I. I meet somebody and we're having coffee, you know, maybe it's over business. Maybe it's just like a random new friend, whatever it may be. Maybe I just meet someone randomly. And in the past, let's say there was like a great connection, a great chemistry. I would most likely be like, hey, you know, let's follow up on this. Like, you know, let's develop a friendship. I'm now in the, in the mindset. Today's going to be a really random episode. I'm now in the mindset of even if I feel chemistry with somebody, I'm just leaving it there. Ah, that was great. We had a moment. We had a moment. Great again. If anybody wants to be in my life right now, they got to put in 85, 90% of the work. Like, consistency. Like, you know, that's just where I am. I'm choosing to preserve energy. You know, this doesn't mean that we're trying to be lonely or bitter or closed off. Just means we're discerning where our energy goes. Just because someone is kind doesn't mean we owe them our energy, doesn't mean we now have to make a commitment to them. To me, it's like friendships and relationships, you know, they ebb and flow in seasons. I love how I have, like, beautiful, strong connections, but a lot of them are low maintenance, you know, like a lot of them. Sometimes we don't talk for a while and then we reconnect and it's as if no time was lost. We just were right there again. And I, I love that. You know, true connections, I think, are almost effortless, right? I'm not going to say completely effortless because everything requires some type of work. But when you build a strong enough foundation with others, I think there's enough love and trust there that when you do preserve your energy, there's understanding. And sometimes we lost trust and connection with ourself where we need to fully embody, fully prioritize ourself in a season and just decenter whoever we want to de center. You know, if you're decentering the male gaze, you're decentering the female gaze. Even me, you know, even me right now, I'm like de centering the female gaze. For me, it's kind of hard because. Not hard that I can't decenter, but because now that I'm a little bit known, I'll notice that when I'm out and about, if a woman is glancing at me, I don't know if she's glancing at me because she likes me or she's glancing at me because she likes. Or she knows my channels, right? It happens to me often. You know, people come up to me like, oh, my God, do you have a YouTube channel? Another day, I was eating dinner, the waitress is just looking at me a certain way, and I'm like, the way she's looking at me, she either likes me or she knows my channel. Turns out she knew my channel, right? So this happens a lot. But even that energy, I'm like, de centering now. Again, if you see me in public, you love my channel, Come up to me. We'll have a great moment. But all I'm saying is I'm just in this mood to, like, de center energy because I'm, like, locked in and loaded. I want to really just see what we can do in this season. Like, I'm feeling so much energy within myself right now, and I want to really just pour it into the things that matter. I think sometimes we go through seasons where our energy is just not respected, you know? Like, one of the things I hate the most is, like, you make plans with somebody and they're like, super late or last minute, they cancel for, like, the silliest reasons. And it's like, do you realize how much configuration I have to make in my life to even commit to, like, do something with somebody? So if you cancel last minute, I'm like, don't waste my energy. You know, I talked about on an earlier podcast how Forbes hit me up a couple years ago to do an interview. And I hop on the call, do the interview with Forbes reviving everything Great. They never publish it. So now I'm also in the zone. Like, when people hit me up, I'm like, receptive. But I'm also, like, I'm de centering opportunities. I'm always in the attitude of, you know, prove it. You know, prove to me what you are talking about is actually going to happen. Prove to me what you are talking about. You're actually serious. If not, you're not getting my full energy because I have a lot of energy, you understand, I can really engage. But we're not trying to misplace our energy in seasons as well. And there's a lot of power when you just take back your Energy, and you are de centering whatever that needs to be decentered. And you are centering yourself because you are what matters in this season. You may be what matters the most in this season. Not every season is for new, new connections. Some seasons are for deepening the old and simply being with ourselves. If someone values us, they'll make space. They'll put in the effort, right? They'll align with where you are in your season and meet you where you're at. Because a lot of us were always meeting everybody else where they're at. I'm the type of individual who will. Let's say I'm going to meet somebody for tea, and we live 45 minutes apart. Because I kind of live on the outskirts of the city, I will drive all the way to you. That's just kind of how I am. Or if we're, like, gonna meet halfway, I'll do 70, make them do 30. Like, I'm just that type of individual. I'll go above and beyond for people. I show up all the time. And maybe that's why in this season, I'm like, you know what? Everybody's getting cut off. You know what I'm saying? Like, right now, we got so much energy, and this energy is going where it matters because I want the greatest return on my investment. And again, doesn't mean that, like, I'm not into having great connections or interactions, but I'm just not interested in following up or having to maintain anything. If anybody wants to be in my life, they really got to put in the effort. That's just where I'm at. And I think that's all right. Some of us are going to be in seasons like that. Being unavailable is being intentional, where your energy goes. Not answering texts immediately or not going out, feeling like you have to go out to do something because you're frustrated, Friends are shaming you. Not feeling the need to entertain everybody and everything, Right? That's the difference between isolation and intention. Sometimes we are isolated, but we didn't intend to be there. And that's when we feel lonely. But sometimes we set an intention where we want to be alone. When we're in this space, we're on a mission. We're doing our own work. Maybe we're healing, we're creating whatever it may be. Maybe we are just de centering a lot of people because we are entertaining and going deeper within ourselves, and that's a beautiful place to be. Some people thrive in solitude, like myself. I really realize that, like, I'm more disciplined, you know, I'm very intuitive. Like, I hear so much of myself. I feel alone but not lonely because we're reconnecting and nurturing ourselves. And those seasons are just. I cherish those seasons because I know they're not forever. And I actually love putting up the boundaries because those boundaries are a sign of self respect. You know, saying no is really saying yes to ourself in those seasons. Be like, no, I'm not putting my energy there. No, my energy is going here. Because a lot of the times people will place guilt on us. Oh, trying to guilt us for not doing this. Oh, trying to guilt us for prioritizing ourself. But guilt in that way is like a social program and you have to uninstall it. You don't need to apologize to anyone for prioritizing your peace. You know, I do that with friends sometimes that they're like, talking to me about some real nonsense, and I'm not into it. I'm just like, listen, I'm not entertaining this conversation. I'm prioritizing my peace right now. And there's nothing wrong with that, right? It would be awful to misplace your energy so much when you have it. And it needs to be placed in a different direction to the point you develop resentment for yourself for not protecting and nurturing your energy. You know, we are developing a connection so real. And the way I see it is, you know, the real connections we have, we have built these to a place that just because we need space doesn't mean those connections will break. But also sometimes, if you're the one who's always nurturing the connection, showing up for people, planning all the dates, you know, you know, doing everything for everybody, which is beautiful, just shows that you have a giving spirit and everything. Your power, your compassion, your empathy is amazing. But sometimes it's also just nice to turn that energy around. And if people want your energy, they really got to put in the effort for that, you understand? And you will see who puts in the effort and who doesn't. Being in a season of no new friends to me, is this about, like, being a friend with ourselves? About conserving, not rejecting? If someone genuinely aligns with us, they will meet us where we are. But right now, I'm like, in a season where I just feel like I'm protecting my energy. Like it's my currency, like my highest, greater currency. Because I want to place it over here, I want to place it into this. I want to focus on this. And I love that you understand. Like, I love that for me. I love that for you. If you're also in that season, don't feel guilty. Know how to prioritize yourself. Know how to be even, like, you know, be an activist with it. You understand, like you are. Sometimes you have to protest for yourself and really reel back your energy. The right people won't be pushed away by your boundaries. They actually be drawn to your truth. They'll actually respect you. If they want your energy, they will put in the work. And if they don't, you didn't need it anyways because you're in a season where you are protecting your peace, you are nurturing yourself, and you're making yourself the top priority. That's a little rant for today. I just feel like there's at least one person out there that can relate with that. Because I was sitting there and I was like, yeah, I'm just not interested. I'm not interested in. I'm not interested in no new connections, no new friendships, no new interest, no new nothing. You know? And if anybody's trying to come in, it's like, yeah, they gotta come in. Super correct. Make it worth my while. Make it worth my time, because we're done having our time wasted, you understand? We know our power, and we want to place our power right now on the things that truly matter. And you don't know, in hindsight, everything gonna be all right. It's a vibe thing. I'll see you tomorrow.