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Start your day with Quaker Protein Instant Oatmeal. The instant Oatmeal. Ready to help you tackle whatever your day brings. Like wrangling your toddler into their car seat. That was fun. Coaching your sixth grader soccer team. Go, girls. And carrying all the groceries in one trip. Try Quaker Protein Instant Oatmeal, Granola and bars. Great taste and a good source of protein. Quaker, bring out the good. Bless up. Bless up. Bless up, everybody. How we doing? How we doing? This is the number one chill spot on the Internet. We back. I know I've been gone. It's like one of my patterns, right? But, you know, we like to approach this podcast in a. In a way that feels true. You know, I like to immerse myself and. And experiences and then come back and, you know, share with you to. It's a beautiful process, you know, but I do believe soon we're gonna become a little bit more intimate again, you know, consistently. I am recording right now from Nairobi, Kenya. Yeah, Nairobi, Kenya. And I'm not even 100% sure how I got here. You know, I have some ideas, you know, I have some feels about it, some intuitions, but it led me here. You know, I was here about a few years ago. When I came here, I felt like there was something for me here. And I didn't know what that feeling was asking of me, but I knew that it was. It was real, it was true. And, you know, this place, Nairobi, you know, never left my mind. It's been at the, you know, the tip of it for, you know, two and a half years now. And I have found my way, you know, back here. And as soon as I got here, I felt very, very, very aligned. Very interesting feeling, especially since I have no roots here, you know, no real, you know, connection to the place. So how can a place so far, so distant with no connection feel so aligned? It's interesting. And the truth is, it's just like my intuition that led me here, and it was that feeling, that conversation that we have within. I was talking to somebody the other day, and they were saying how, you know, they just. They do not like uncertainty. And, you know, on this podcast, we talk a lot, a lot about uncertainty because it has a spirit of a child. You understand? When we're in those seasons, we ask better questions. We are curious. You know, there's more magic to flow into the process, but we forget about that. We usually seep in. We usually steep ourselves into our worries, which is unfortunate, but that's why I am here. You know, I'm here to guide us through some of these, you know, transitions. And I'm going through many transitions in my own life. That's why I found myself here in Nairobi. Mainly from just a feeling, from intuition I wanted to get into. How do we strengthen that, you know, that intuition, that ability to lead into a unpaved path. Because we always hear people say, you know, trust the intuition. And we expect ourselves to trust our intuition in like the biggest, most grand of moments when we haven't even been exercising it, you understand? We haven't even been getting intimate with that voice. We haven't even been listening to the whispers, actually we've been drowning ourselves in the noise. And really your intuition is a muscle, right? It's not magic, you know, it's a muscle. You know, just like if you haven't been in the gym for years or ever, you're not going to step into the gym and expect to bench press, I don't know, something that is quite impressive, right? No, you have to build your way up. And the same goes for our intuition. So we have to break that myth that intuition is like just this mystical thing or only some people have a, a good sense for it. Now some people naturally are a little bit better, right? We all have natural abilities, you know, an edge. But at the end of the day, it's still a muscle. It's pattern recognition, it's memory, it's emotional intelligence, it's a nervous system awareness. And just like creativity, it grows with our use. You understand? If you don't use it, you lose it. You understand? If you don't use it, you lose it. What normally happens is most of us were waiting for like a big sign, you know, we're waiting for something to be so clear in our life, to give us that, that golden ticket, that, that, that green. But we're missing all the subtle cues that life has been offering us along the way. The muscle only grows through, you know, small steps. So we make these micro decisions throughout our day, throughout our week that I believe strengthen our intuition or actually erodes it. And some of us may not even be fully aware, fully aware how we have been muting and silencing that connection with ourselves, right? It's simple, you know, it's in our day to days, you understand? It's like when you're with your friends and you know, you're trying to pick a restaurant, you know, be the one to take the charge and you know, tap into the group and say, hey, we should eat here today, right? Become better when making decisions, right? Don't fall into decision fatigue and allow everyone to make decisions for you. Don't become a people pleaser. Becoming a people pleaser is one of the best ways to erode your intuition. Why? Because you're going against yourself. You're going against yourself. You're self abandoning yourself. Intuition is all about having a deep, intimate relationship with ourselves and it will hold up a mirror and life will mirror back that relationship, that connection. And we will be able to pick up on the subtle cues and conversations, the signs when we're walking down the street or just generally that feeling we have about a person, a place or a thing. Again, I'm in Nairobi, Kenya. I just followed a feeling and as soon as I got here, boom, connections are being made. Things are happening very fast. Things are just effortlessly flowing together. Still a little bit resistance in some areas, right? But the resistance is just a training to see if we truly wanted. So we're exercising our intuition. The first thing is understanding that intuition is something we have to exercise. Right? If you want to learn a language, what do you have to do? You have to practice if you want to strengthen your intuition, we have to practice trusting your first creative idea, trusting your ideas in the day to day, speaking up at work in a collaborative, teamwork way. I was, I was actually with a bunch of people that are like quite new to me and where we were at this event and they were brainstorming what to do and I had an idea in my mind and they were all going through ideas, struggling, and I was just sitting on this idea for like a good, I don't know, 90 seconds or two minutes. And then I was like, yo, to share your idea. Now, at first I wasn't really sharing my idea because it technically wasn't fully my place, it wasn't my job, but I was like, you know what, I have a great idea, let's just share it. Share the idea. Everyone's like, man, that's it right there. Boom. Now, if I never shared the idea and silenced myself, that right there would be a key moment, a key sign of how we mute, how we erode, how we silence our intuition. How many times have you muted yourself in situations even though you felt the need to speak up, you felt like you could fill the void of whatever was happening in your scenario, but you didn't trust yourself or you thought you would be judged, or you thought what you had to bring to the table wasn't good enough, Right? These are like the little moments throughout the week where we're building or we are, eroding, our intuition again. Don't rely on your intuition. Just in the big extravagant moments. We are building it up. So when life calls us to pivot or make a drastic move for you to make a career change or move to a new country, or step into a relationship or leave a relationship, whatever it may be, whatever the big move is, you will find that it's a lot easier. A lot of people ask me, like, yo, you're making these changes in your life. You're finding yourself in Africa now. Isn't it scary? And I'm like, no, it's not scary. Why? Because I have exercised uncertainty in my intuition so much in my life. It's like. It's like my first line of support, you know, it's my first line of support. I don't necessarily first go to the people in my life for approval. Why? Because I always say nobody can really understand what is in your heart and in your mind. You know, you may have an idea just that just seems crazy to everybody. Seems crazy to everybody. You share with them, they block it, they don't support it. And then what happens? You doubt yourself. So sometimes we got to keep things to ourselves. Or if you do share an opinion or something you want to do with someone and they block it, right? They don't support it. You use that as an opportunity to affirm it to yourself even more what you are feeling, right? Nobody can see what is in your mind or in your heart. So my life, I. I have realized I'm able to make really big, drastic changes with ease. Actually, it's exciting to me. Why? Because I've exercised the muscle. It's no different from somebody who does pull ups and push ups every day. And they can do 20 pull ups, 25 pull ups, no problem. Because they've been practicing all the time. Saw a video of Kobe Bryant and he was saying he doesn't get nervous. And like, how do you not get nervous? He's like, well, I don't attempt anything that I'm not really prepared for. He's like, anything I'm about to do, I have prepared so much. I know exactly what to do. So he's like, if I take that half court shot, I have practiced that a million times. If I, you know, do whatever, some type of other basketball move, spin around, you know, around the back, throw it to the teammate, he brings it back to you, side hook, dunk, boom, whatever it may be at the last buzzer beater, he's like, I've actually practiced that exact play. Play under that tension and that resistance so much I know what to do in the moment. So proper preparation prevents poor performance. So if we are constantly practicing, right, and becoming intimate with our intuition and exercising that belief and that connection, that conversation within ourselves, what do you think is going to happen when life calls you, calls you to step into a new position, calls you to become more courageous and make a change. You're going to be able to do it with a lot more grace and resilience and excitement. There will still be worry, but you know, worry is just a part of the process. Of course we need a little bit of worry. It's a part of our survival, right? It's instinctual. We need a little bit of worry, but we don't want to steep ourselves in our worries. Another thing, you know, I always say, like when you, you go shopping and you're, you know, you're scrolling through like, you know, the rack and then you don't see anything you like, then all of a sudden you come across a pair of jeans or a shirt and you just stop. What is that? That's your instinct, right? That's your intuition, that is your taste. And you grab it. Trust those decisions more. Now let's say you're shopping with your friends and you all have different styles and now you see something you like, but you're a little bit scared to pick it up because you don't think your friends might like it or they may judge your taste. Right there in that moment, you just muted, you just silenced your taste, your instincts, your intuition, right? Your inner conversation with yourself. So what you want to do is ask yourself, man, on a day to day basis, like am I practicing and building a better relationship and conversation with my intuition or am I actually doing the opposite? Am I self abandoning my, myself? The cool thing is these are all low risk environments to practice our intuition. Even if you're in the car choosing the music, right? Tap into the group, what kind of music do we want to play? Become a better leader. Lead with your taste, lead with your instincts. You understand? Make the decision, become the decision maker in your group. Don't seek validation for your decisions and honesty. You know, often when we want to do things, we will, we will, we maybe we will manipulate or soften the truth to make it appealing for others to approve what we're doing. You may have to go into a season of just bold honesty, right? Bold honesty with no care if people approve or not, right? Because you're not seeking the approval of others. You're actually trying to strengthen the validation you have for yourself, with yourself first, so you can be strong and centered and steady within yourself, right? And then you can lead the way. What I've learned in my life, man, a lot of people just aren't going to understand what you need to do or what you want to do, but they will hop on board later once it starts to make sense, right? That's why I always say they're not judging you, right? They're not judging your heart. They're just judging what they can see and it doesn't make sense to them. So it's our ability to bring our life into fruition, to bring it into reality. And the only way to do that is by following that feeling. By following that feeling we have within to make that pivot, to make that change, to go in this direction, whatever it may be, no matter how crazy it may sound. But we had to strengthen and practice it in these low risk environments. See them as like training grounds. Oh my, my voice is raspy, raspy. Today I'm coming off of a little bit of a, of like a flu that I had out here, so my apologies. What we want to do is just have unbelievable faith in our own taste. Unbelievable faith in our own taste. Taste is intuition in action again. This is why I'm a big, big believer in creating our own world. That our homes should be reflections of ourselves. That the, the clothes we wear should be true reflections of ourselves. The way that we speak. If you want to shift and change the way that you speak, it should be a reflection of yourself. Taste. Follow your taste. Tasted intuition in action. Notice textures, notice things that you like. Pay attention to the environments, the feel. Fuel you. Observe emotional reactions, save images that you love. Start to create a database that links to your creativity, your design, your aesthetics, you know, just emotional resonance that you know you love to fall in love with. Get in touch with your taste because your taste and your intuition to me are one in the same. You understand? Your taste and your intuition are one in the same. And it's really also becoming more intimate with our body, right? Fueling our body. You're not going to be able to feel, you're not going to be able to really trust your intuition. If you don't have a relationship with your body, if you're not treating yourself right, you know, getting your deep stretches in, you know, you're eating right, you know, doing the best you can while, while you can. We don't have to be too stern or, you know, too strict on ourselves. You know, we are humans just having a human experience and there's nothing wrong with just enjoying ourselves in certain seasons and whatnot. But the body knows. Often before the mind knows, right? Like sometimes certain environments, you just feel anxiety. You don't know why, but the body knows. The body is feeling something. Pay attention to these feelings sometimes. Like I said, when it came to Nairobi, I instantly just felt aligned, but my mind didn't know why, but I felt aligned. The body knew, hey, you are where you're supposed to be. Actually, interesting enough, I was eating. I was eating Ethiopian food and I had this weird feeling like I was at home. I was like, man, I feel like I'm at home. And then the waiter comes, brings me my food, puts it down, opens it up and says, welcome home. You see how your intuition will speak and mirror back to you. My body felt it, right? And I was like, man, I feel like I'm at home, but I don't know why my mind didn't understand it. And then life was like, hey, let's just give him an affirmation. And then the brother was like, hey, welcome home. You know what I'm saying? Like, that's the beauty of your intuition, right? Your intuition isn't just something that you feel inside. Your intuition will actually manifest around you and signs and conversations, right? That's why we need to be open. Open and not drowning in noise so we can pick up on them. You might have a coffee date and your intuition is actually speaking to you through the person you're conversating with, right? So become more present. Like the amount of signs and, you know, little notes and hints that I've picked up on while I'm being out here has been astronomically insane. Just being present and knowing like, hey, man, this is a beautiful sign. We're going to use this as affirmation. Oh, I think this person is also a part of this project that we might be doing. I think you understand that the most high, the universe, God, source, whatever you want to call it, is speaking to us through our environment. Your intuition will manifest itself in your environment. But guess what? If you're just always scrolling on your phone, you're drowning and steeping in your worries. You're full of anxiety because you're just sitting in fear and not, you know, exercising that faith. Are you going to pick up on these signs? These signs are here to give you comfort, to actually bring a peace to your spirit and tell you, keep going. But if you're not present, you're going to miss out on them, right? So we're having those practices, meditation practices, you understand? I have one called the Pause. It's a self guided, meditative, affirmative experience that you can go through every single day or once a week, whenever you may need to bring you back to your center. There's a link in the description. You can cop that if you like. It's a great way to practice conversating with yourself. This is deep. This is where you need a really. Where we really need to engage with more. More with ourselves. While I was out here, I picked up a new journal. This beautiful journal. Journal. It's a Kenya journal. It's all wood with a wood pen. And I've been journaling it in it every single day. You know, more analog vibes. Just more reflection and just writing everything out. More conversating with ourselves. More. Go for a walk. Talk to yourself. Become. Become so used to your own voice, you almost get annoyed by yourself. You understand, right? Conversate with yourself out loud, right? Speak what's on your mind out loud to yourself. Get it into the journal. Become a com. Become a conversationalist with yourself. Learn how to study yourself, right? We have this thing called awareness and consciousness where we have this ability to observe ourselves. I think it's one of the most interesting things ever. Like you can observe your own actions and ask yourself, why did I do that? You can observe your own mind. You'd be like, oh, that's interesting that I'm thinking like that, or I'm feeling like that. Study yourself a little bit more. Ask yourself, what do I want? What am I avoiding? What are you pretending not to see? Are you staying too comfortable? Intuition grows when we stop lying to ourselves, when we become a little bit more vulnerable. Release to shame so we can see. See ourselves. If you are lying to yourself, you're being performative, you understand? So you're masking yourself. A big, I think a big theme we should be talking about this year is how often are we abandoning ourselves? How often are we performing in a way that is dishonoring ourselves? And then asking, man, why am I just struggling to understand what to do with my next step? Why can't I know? Just like you know how to lead with more clarity and courage, Intuition grows when we stop lying to ourselves. You understand? Again, most people don't lack intuition. They lack courage. They feel the truth, but they don't act on it. Right? You may feel it, but you don't act on it because you want a clear sign. But that's not how you strengthen your intuition. If you're at the gym, right? You only get stronger by either adding more reps or more weight. So if you want life to give you like the clearest, most green light at every single moment before you take a step, you are removing yourself of gaining the ability to strengthen your intuition. You want, you want gaps in life. You want there to be uncertainty. Those are the only seasons where you're going to build faith. So if you are in a season of uncertainty where you're like, I don't know what to do, see it as an opportunity to strengthen your intuition. It's giving you what you need. So later in life, because there's going to be moments in life where life is going to call you to make a decision and make a shift. And you're not going to get six months to think about it. You're not going to get 30 days to think about it. Actually, you might get 48 hours to think about it. And you're going to have to be able to have that respect and that courage with yourself to be able to do it. But don't worry because we are practicing building our intuition every single day. You wake up in the morning, what am I feeling today? Right? Trust that feeling. Trust how to nurture yourself. I feel like calling this person, somebody's on your mind, call them. Don't overthink it, don't doubt it, just do it. Become quicker with you, your decisions in these low risk environments. So because life is going to call you to make a big shift one day, when it does, you are ready. What you want in life is to develop the ability to pivot without panic, right? Like pivot without panic. A lot of us just panic when we have to pivot, right? Because we haven't practiced. Proper preparation prevents poor performance. That's all it is. That's all it is. Don't tell yourself, oh, I'm not the type of person. No, you just haven't practiced enough. Your intuition is not rigid. It evolves, it adjusts. It doesn't mean the first decision must be perfect. You are allowed to change directions, right? Give yourself that grace. Some of us, we just, we are perfectionists. We think we have to get everything right. But trust in your ability for correction. So make decisions faster, but also correct just as fast if you make the wrong decision and then take note. Oh, okay. Maybe I was moving through fear, maybe I wasn't. Whatever it may be, understand, just see everything as a learning opportunity to study yourself and everything is going to work out because that's the mindset we have to have. Everything is working out in our favor regardless if we make a mistake or a failure. Why? Because we are learning through it. That's all it is. Failure is a necessary nutrient for our foundation. That's just the perspective you have to have and get comfortable with failing in front of people. Yeah, I failed. Whatever. You failed too. We're all humans. What? It's kind of insane to be worried about failing in front of others because at the end of the day, every single human fails. It's like being ashamed of going to the bathroom, having to do a number one or number two. It's like we all have to do that, you know? You know what I'm saying? So embrace yourself more, right? Love yourself more. This is a self love journey as well. That's what I love about it. Trusting your intuition, trusting your voice, you know, having a connection with the Most High, knowing that life is working out in your favor and that your presence have, has purpose. And you know, you are already walking in your destiny and your destiny is calling you to realize and learn so much more about yourself. That's what this journey is all about, is realizing yourself. Loving yourself and loving others and being served and, and, and in service to the world with your gifts and your skills and the things that have been put into your spirit, the gifts that God has given you. But you're not going to be able to fully realize those gifts, right? Unless you start to trust. Right? Trust in the, in intuition. But to trust in the intuition, you have to build the connection. It's a muscle, right? It's a muscle. If I wanted to climb Mount Everest, do I trust myself to climb Mount Everest? No. Do I have the ability yet? Maybe if I trained and I practice and I put myself in an environment around other people who have done it and I learn and I go on other hikes building myself up to that moment, right? That's all it is. Some of us just hasn't built the trust enough. Because every single day we're silencing ourselves every single day, we're not actually giving ourselves an opportunity to build our intuition. We're actually doing the quite opposite. So after a few months, even six months, one year of just consciously practicing and engaging with ourselves on a level where we are building that trust and practicing and strengthening that intuition, you're gonna find that you're able to make leaps and changes with so much excitement and it's fun. I love, like when I tell people like this, the different changes I'm making, they're like, man, like, what do you mean? Like, what do you. I'm like, I'm excited. Why? Because I've just practiced that muscle. You know, I went to like, five schools by grade two. So the fact that I did that, I learned quite early how to navigate uncertainty. And then throughout my life, I continue to just strengthen that muscle, right? I could have stopped, right, and lost that ability. And that's all it is. Just like when you go to the gym for a year, then you stop going for a year, you lose it, but you still have that muscle memory, right? So it can come back if you train it. So now that I'm out here in Nairobi, you know, we're going to be following that feeling. Something is here for me. I'm not quite sure what it is. And I'm going to be documenting the journey. There's a purpose here. There's something I'm supposed to do. There's something for me as well. There's lots of love I'm supposed to give. There's love I'm supposed to receive. There's rootings that I'm supposed to be having. I'm planting seeds, I'm settling roots. It feels like. We'll see. We'll see. And that's the attitude, you understand? We'll see. But we already know everything is working out in our highest favor, don't we? Because you don't know in hindsight, everything gonna be more than all right. Monster Energy, everybody knows White Monster Zero Ultra, that's the og. It kicked off this whole Zero Sugar energy drink thing, but Ultra is a whole lineup now. You've got Strawberry Dreams, Blue Hawaiian Sunrise and Vice Guava. And they all bring the Monster Energy punch. So if you've been living in the White can branch out. Ultra's got a flavor for every vibe, and every single one is Zero Sugar Tap the banner to learn more. See you soon.