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You know, the hardest part about locking in, I find is like it's not even the starting part. You know, we can start, we know how to do that, get the ignition going. But it's like when you're applying yourself and we're putting in the work and you know, we're a few weeks in, maybe we're even a month in, and you just, you're not sure if your efforts are really going to be beneficial, you know, or you keep hitting a wall, you keep having some mistakes, you keep experiencing some failures and there's literally nobody around to clap for you. And we start to have doubts and then we have those days where we self deprecate. Those are the trickiest, you know, those like, let's be honest, some days we're like, we feel like we're on top of the world. Like you can feel your magic, you can feel your confidence. Like everything in your mind is possible, you know it. And then literally 24 hours later, you can feel completely opposite. You know, I call it a optimism relapse. And then it will happen at the end of the day, right? It will happen. Something I like to remind myself is follow your plan, not the mood. Follow your plan, not your mood. Especially when you're in a season of locking in, you have a plan and remind yourself, regardless of the mood, stick to the plan. Actually, we have to expect our mood to change. That's life. If you need a reminder, look outside. The weather changes, right? Unless you live somewhere that's sunny 24 7. But you know, I live somewhere where, you know, we have all four seasons. And even though I complain about some of those seasons because they get cold and you know, they get dark, like right now, the days are shorter. But what I love about experiencing four seasons is it allows me to understand the seasons within myself and in my own life. Oh yeah. Like my mood will change, you understand? Like my energy levels will sway. Some days the motivation will just sweep me off my feet. And some days we actually had to activate that motivation for ourselves, right? So expect the mood to, to change. Follow the plan, not your mood. Now if you don't have a plan, it's time to get in your. No, get in your notebook and make a plan so you don't stumble, right? Or stumble too much. And that's all it is. What I find is maybe you can relate with me. If you can relate with me, put it in the comment section. You make a plan and then you forget about the plan, right? Like you make a plan and you forget about the why in that plan and then your mind shifts and you start chasing little Easter eggs all over the place. No, no, no, no. We had to come back and focus. So you have to actually make a daily practice of looking at your plan. Like I have this board in like one of my productivity apps that has. My plan, has my six months goals, my like one year goals, my five year goals, my intentions, my. Why? Because it only takes 48 hours for me to completely forget. You know, a lot of us. You know, if you, especially if you just have a mind that can go all over the place and you're really creative and you get a lot of different ideas and you want to explore all those different ideas, you need that plan to bring you back. All right? So again, follow the plan, not your mood. But in the days where your mood is in alignment with the plan, Great, great. Use that energy. You understand? What I find is it's not going to be easy. You know that like the things you're trying to build, it's not going to be easy all the time. But look at you, you are showing up, you are progressing. That is the attitude we need to have. We need to be able to kind of laugh at our mistakes sometimes learn through the lows and then celebrate along the way. What I find is some things take so much energy and man resilience before any type of sprouting or, or those ideas and those visions before anything happens. And it's like that can be very, very difficult. This is why often I speak about bamboo growth. Bamboo grows about five years underground. Nobody can see it at all. Imagine that you go underground for five years, all the other trees and plants are sprouting up, they're getting their sun, you know, they're celebrating, they're dropping fruits and you're underground for five years. A lot of us are there right now. We look in our orbit, we look in our community, we go online and we see people maybe living the type of lives that we want to live, you understand? But we're still underground, doing the inner work, developing our roots. But the cool thing about bamboo is in the sixth year, it sprouts right up. It sprouts right up. Strong and even taller than a lot of the other plants around it. And it's strong, right? You can build a home with a bamboo, you understand? You ever had bamboo? Have bamboo all around my home, different pieces of furniture and stuff like that, simply as a reminder of bamboo growth. Because this will be an experience. We go through our life again. Life moves in seasons. Sometimes you're up Sometimes you're coasting, sometimes you're down. That's why when we're high up on life, we have to remain humble. And when we're low down, we have to remain humble, hopeful our optimism will relapse, right? So every single morning and in the evenings, we're looking at our plan and we're also rectifying our intentions, reminding ourselves why we do what we do and placing meaning into it, right? Maybe. Maybe you really want to retire your parents one day and, like, just return the favor of life and not the sacrifices they made for you. You know, it's a goal in the mind, but take time to actually sit with it and then like, visualize. Like, imagine that. Like, let's say you retire your mother and your father. Take five minutes to actually visualize how that feels. So it's like, whoa, you can feel it before it happens. And then what happens? You go and you make it happen, right? You bring it into fruition. What I find is when we're on this journey and, you know, we're being met with resistance for, you know, having those failures, and then, you know, we start to self deprecate and we're like, oh, I can't do it. It's not working out for me. Oh. And you start to have that anxiety and you're just like, questioning yourself. This pulls us out of gratitude. And the reason why we need to stay in gratitude is not just so we can stay optimistic, but so our focus is channeled in the right direction. Because along the way, life is going to give you little pebbles. Little pebbles just to remind you you are on the right path. Right? Because sometimes we're on the path and we just have no idea if things are going to work out. But we are in a symbiotic relationship with life. It is always communicating with us. But if we're in a reactive mode and we're just anxious and we're always questioning ourselves, our focus is blurred. But if we are in gratitude, let's say you're at work and you're having a random conversation with a customer and they say like two sentences and for some reason you just know right there, that was the affirmation you needed that day. I don't know about you, but, like, I always experienced this, like this little pebbles that let me know you're on the right path. Heinz happened to me the other day having dinner with a couple of friends. They said a couple things and it was like one of the most beautiful affirmations I needed. Like, okay, no, no, no, you Are this, this is happening. Do not worry about a thing. And you know, and you pull yourself out of that self deprecation, that self deprecation, you know what I'm talking about. Those days where you're just like, I don't know, you just get in your mind and you just tear yourself apart because you know, your power, you know how much more is within you and you get frustrated with that. We all do. You understand? I always say if you're not hard on yourself, then like, you probably don't even believe you have potential. You are only hard on yourself because you know you can do more. That is great, but there is always more to do. So let's make sure we are celebrating. We are celebrating where we are, man. Celebrate the consistency, okay? Yeah, celebrate the consistency. Identify what is crafting within you. I saw this guy, he's from Korea, and he's actually riding his bicycle across Canada. And, you know, people will meet him along the way and, you know, give him some food and, you know, let him come inside and shower and all that. And he actually also, I think rode his bike from like Mexico to Alaska as well. And they're like, why do you do this? And he's like, to get to know myself. And I was like, that's beautiful. It's exactly what I always say our highest form of nutrition is in our expression, right? Whatever you are doing, building a business, going to school, you know, developing your creative hobbies, These are healing modalities and personal development tools. When he said he's getting to know himself, he said, I'm getting to know my limits. He's riding his bike across Canada. How do you think that is? Incredibly difficult. He's actually getting to know a deeper layer of himself. You understand his strength, his resilience, and then also his limits when he needs to give himself grace and then stays with some stranger's house and, you know, has beautiful conversation. So remind yourself while you are building that so much is happening. It's actually an opportunity to. For you to learn more about yourself. That's what keeps my optimism going. Like, you know, because each day you wake up, you shoot and sometimes you're just. You're taking those shots and it's just brick after brick, air ball after air ball. It seems like nothing is clicking, right? And that's not necessarily a sign to give up or to pivot. Some things you just have to stay with it. Right? So this is why that practice of rectifying our intentions in the evening and in the morning. Going over your why going over the plan becoming clear or else you will forget the plan. And then once you start to pick up those pebbles and you have more belief, then you're going to get a major sign and something is going to happen in your life, something is going to happen, you're going to get this major sign and then it's all going to become crystal clear. And you know the end is here, near of this journey, right? But the key point is, and I need to remind myself of this as well, anytime I say something, I'm never talking at you, I'm talking with you because we're in this together, but we're trying to be happy while right, while we are building and creating our life. Not when so we are falling in love with our becoming. Not the destination we're trying to get at, but our becoming. And we're not focused on the things, but we're focused on the experience around the things, right? Like say you want to, you wanna, I don't know, you wanna be married, right? Don't just say you want to be married for the sake of having a ring. And you know, that's just what you're supposed to do because that's what society said. But like remind yourself that you want to go deeper into love. You want to give and receive love, you understand, you want to have a true mirror in this life and really, you know, go through that journey with somebody else and really remind yourself of the experience of that thing, right? Let's say you want to develop a content creator career. Don't just say, hey, I want to have a million followers. But remind yourself that you want to build a confidence to be able to have a million followers and believe in your value so much that you want to give it out to the world and connect and you know, have those bridges and create community and network and all of those things. Focus on the experiences around the thing, right? And that's where you're gonna get that feeling that activates your optimism which then influences your action. And I truly do believe it's a beautiful thing. Last, expect the best for yourself. It is so easy to self deprecate and think the worst is going to happen and our mind will drift there sometimes. But expect the best for yourself, right? And show up at the same time. Faith without works is dead. But expect the best for yourself regardless. Stay hopeful. Our optimism will relapse some days, but we follow our plan, not just our mood. And just remember, you don't know nine said everything gonna be all right. It's going to work out. It's going to work out. We're in this together. You understand? Have that courage, have that resilience. And just know you're doing it. We love it.