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And today, in hindsight, we're gonna be doing a little bit of foundational work. You understand, a lot of us, we have beautiful lives to create for ourselves. We're gonna be transforming. You know, it's 2026. I'm quite excited. And the way some of us have been viewing ourselves or the way that we think of ourselves is in opposition to who we are about to come. So we need to work on that. Now. I got some, I got some nice little PR Te today, you know, just wrapped in a. A little, little orange, these little mini oranges. Let me show you right quick before we get started. You know, this is. Ooh, that's hot. Let me, let me not show you. No, actually, I really do want to show you though. Let me unwrap a new one for you. This isn't like the finest pour or anything like that. These are like my, these are my low grade ones. Where I get them from. I mean, do get high grade ones that are in orange peels, but just this prayer is not the best, but that's how it looks. I like bringing these ones to the studio. It's a little bit easier to manage, but we're going to be shaping, reshaping our identity. We're kind of, kind of rebranding ourselves, aren't we? A lot of us have forgotten about our power, our courage, our resilience. And everything else is so beautiful about us as well. It's not just about the resilience and strength, but it's about your gentleness too. It's about your compassion. It's about the fact that you can love again. You've had your heart broken and you open it back up. That's a testament to your power right there. Like how often do we celebrate that for somebody opening themselves up again and loving. You know, we have this culture that's always like, I don't trust nobody. You know, just harden yourself. And you know, that is an act of self preservation, trying to protect ourselves, right? But it's rooted in fear. And it works for a moment, but it doesn't work forever. We have to come back and open our heart back up, right? And that's where a lot of our power is. And that's exactly what we have to do if we're trying to shift our identity, is open up our heart again, open up the possibility of who we are. You know, some of us, you know, we want to. We want to be more disciplined. Or maybe you want to be more courageous, more confident. In this season, there's more you want to attain, there's more you want to bring into your life. You want to feel stronger, but you don't think you have these traits. You know, you compare yourself. You're looking around and you see other people doing other things and you're like, damn, I wish I was like them. But the thing you have to remind yourself is you were before. You are. Beautiful card from the reminder deck, my own deck of cards. You were before. You are. What does this mean? It means that all the strength, the love, the compassion, the confidence, the resilience, whatever you are looking for, your gifts, they are not outside of you. They are within. And it's the experiences that we have that activate what is within. So what I like to do is I like to look at it as if there is a seed, right? Just a powerful seed planted within us. And that seed has everything, absolutely everything that we need to succeed. It has your courage, your strength, your resilience, your compassion, your gentleness, your creativity. Whatever you feel like you need is within that seed. But what does it need? What does any good seed need? Light and water. It needs nourishment. So how do we nourish the seed within us? One light was light. We're going to believe. We're going to open our eyes. We're going to believe that we are disciplined individuals. We're going to believe that we are highly creative individuals. We shape our identity by creating our identity in the mind. What else is an imagination for? I know a lot of us use it to worry, to attack ourselves, to swirl around in fears. That's. That's one way to use it. Or we can use it in the way that's truly going to serve us, you understand, by creating an identity for ourself. So, yeah, I am an incredibly disciplined person. Even if you haven't been disciplined. You tell yourself that I'm an incredibly disciplined person. It's already in me. I just need to activate it. You know, you may be like, man, I want to be more patient. And then what happens? Life hears you, and life is like you want to be more patient. And then life gives you an experience where you have to activate your patience. That's how it goes. But it's all already within you. Think about it. Do you think it's outside of you? No. It's just our experiences and the situations we go through are the exercises to grow what is within you. So that is very powerful. If you realize that, truly understand. What that means is that you have everything already within you. Means you are worthy, you are powerful, you have all the ability. Right? Right. Just like a body has the ability to grow bigger muscles, the muscles may not be activated yet. What do you do? You exercise them. Right. You have the ability. It's all already within you. So a lot of us, we have shaped our identity. On our past failures, we weren't disciplined. We got our heart broken. We made bad decisions. So we just see ourselves as a failure. And then what does life do? Life will remind you that you are a failure. If you think, nothing good happens to me because maybe you had a really rough five years or whatever, maybe a lot of bad things have been happening in your life, and this happened before you can even form thoughts. Maybe you were born into a situation that was just not the best situation. You did nothing to deserve that. So you created a worldview that things don't work out for you. You're not the type of person. And because you fully believe that what happens, life also mirrors it back to you. Yes, it's not fair. It wasn't your fault. But because that's what you believe, because that is your identity, life is like, all right, we're just gonna reinforce that for you. If that's how you want to use your mind, no problem. That's your free will. So we need to be able to change our perception regardless of what our reality looks like right now. We change our perception and we remind ourselves that things are happening for us, through us, always. Everything works out in our highest favor. I was just driving with my daughter, and I was congratulating her. I'm like, congratulations. You know, just got her a little student housing apartment, you know, for when she goes to college next year. I'm like, how does it feel? And she's like, I didn't think, you know, I was going to get it because there's only one left. And I told her, no, no, no, that's not how you think. You actually affirm to yourself that everything is happening for you, and of course it's going to work out. And if it didn't work out for some reason, it's only because a better situation is coming for you, right? We affirm the most beautiful possibilities for ourselves in our life. The most beautiful possibilities for ourselves in our life. We don't lean to the negative and live there. The mind may drift there, but we pull it back. So we're creating a new identity for ourselves by first recognizing man. I got everything that I need to succeed. I am powerful, right? And then we need to clip our wings so a new set of wings can grow. We have to let go. We have to shed. Many of us are in a season of shedding right now. When I say many of us, I'm speaking for myself as well, big time. I've been shedding. I've been deconstructing myself. Let me tell you. You know how people deconstruct religion? I've been deconstructing my whole sense of self. And it's been beautiful. Why? Because a new set of wings can grow. Our old ways may not serve us in this new space. There are actually new heights to see, new views that, like man, it feels as if you're on a mountaintop that just stretch over the sea. But to do so, we have to let go and prepare ourselves or that next position. So what parts of you have you been holding on to that truly no longer serve you? Do you feel like people love you for a passive version of yourself? An old identity? And maybe deep down, or maybe not so deep down, you feel like if you let go of this lifestyle, this way of living, whatever it may be, you lose the love, your life. A lot of us are operating from a place of doing things so we can get love instead of truly giving. So when we are letting go, we are letting go so we can give to ourself the new opportunity to go through uncertainty and to become a new creation. And letting go is a process. So what I want you to do is really grab your journal out and ask what is no longer serving me? You know, I had a realization the other day where I spent the last 15 years, maybe longer. Like a lot of time on a computer making music, learning videos. I loved it. Just I'd be on a computer 12 hours, 14 hours a day, editing about that life, filming outside about that life. And I made a lot of sacrifices and I Have no regrets. But I hit a point now in my life where I'm like, the way I lived my identity in the last 10 years, 15 years. That was great. I served its purpose. But if I live like that again, I will be deeply out of alignment. Interesting. Some of us are so out of alignment simply because we won't let our past self go. We're not allowing ourselves to actually create a new identity and to step into it feeling lost, but knowing we're exactly where we need to be. Maybe you need to go through a season where you're. You actually kind of question, like, who am I? Who am I? Not from, like, a negative sense of, like, oh, my God, like, I don't know myself, but, like, I am more than who I thought I was and go through that journey. So I told myself, for the next decade, I don't want to be on my computer all day anymore doing all that stuff. I don't want to be doing the technicals. I want to be with the people. I want to be on the ground. I'll be more collaborative spaces. Before, I enjoyed the hermit life. Now I want more of the community life. That is what is going to be an alignment. So if you want to create a new identity for yourself, really meditate and think, how do I want life to feel? That's what I like to do. Not just look, but feel. Because some things that look good, but if you get there, they don't feel good. Classic story. We hear it all the time. Somebody thinks they want a certain version of success. They work for it, they get there. What happens, oh, this isn't in alignment for me, because it looked good, but we didn't really ask ourselves, does it feel good? And sometimes you have to have those experiences to know what is for you. So we don't shame ourselves for that. You know, back in the day, I used to work with artists like Tory Lanez and Sean Kingston, which is crazy because they're both in jail now. But back in the day, I felt like I got at the foothills of, like, massive success. I was at the foothills of it, right? I'm, like, living in Hollywood, living in this mansion with them and having crazy, crazy experiences. But I was noticing a lot of people weren't even happy. Like, it looked amazing. We're riding in Bentleys. We're taking trips. It's like, it looked amazing, but I saw so much void. And I was at the foothills. I was there. I was climbing that mountain, But I could see that at the top, the view wasn't the view wasn't viewing. So I was like, maybe I don't want to climb this mountain. And I actually thank God so much. I somehow had the wisdom in that moment in time to make a change. And I retreated and said, I'm not going to climb that mountain because I don't think what I want is there for me. Right? So we're asking ourselves, how do I want this new life for me to feel? And we're letting go of what no longer serves us. But we have to write down what no longer serves you, what ways of thinking no longer serves you. You need a new mindset, a new operating system. You understand? We are creating a new identity for ourselves and we're reaffirming to ourselves. I am powerful. My presence has purpose. I have everything that I need to succeed. I am strong. I am disciplined. I'm creative. It doesn't matter if I have past failures. That was me exercising what is within me. Imagine planting a seed, watering it, and then being angry the next day. It hasn't grown yet. And then imagine watering it every day for a month and then it finally sprouts. But you're angry. It's not fully blossomed. It's a process. All your failures are a process. So instead of forming your identity on the failure, you continue to say, I have been activating that discipline. I have been activating that resilience, that strength, that compassion, whatever you need. I've been activating those highly musical skills within me. I've been activating my ability for connection, you understand, whatever it may be. I have been exercising these things thus far because I am very powerful. It's all on the mind. Like you may have, you know, started multiple businesses or just struggle with money a long time. So you created an identity that, you know, you're not good with money and you're not an entrepreneur. But I can't, does not mean I won't ingrain that into your mind. Just because you can't do something or haven't been able to, doesn't mean that you won't. You know, one of my favorite artists, his name is Bobby McFerrin and basically he, he, he, he's a singer, right? And when he was deciding what kind of music career he wanted, he's like, okay, am I gonna become a jazz singer? Maybe in a rock band or whatever? And he kept getting this idea in his mind about doing full 90 minute shows with no band, just his voice, creating the instruments and singing at the same time. But like he couldn't understand what that vision was. So he pushed it to the side and he would play around with it and start doing some gigs where he would do it for like 10 minutes. And when he would start to voice to people he wanted to do a full show, everyone's like, listen, it's cool for 10 minutes. But like nobody's coming to a show and watching that show for an hour or 90 minutes with no band, no music, just one guy up there going right. And it still wasn't clear in his mind. He attempted it a couple times. You know, some things went right, some things went wrong, but didn't really think it could be a real, real thing until the vision became very clear. And he knew, no, this is a thing. He said it, he said it took him six years, six years to develop that form of creativity, that show. Whatever he did took six years for the idea to finally make sense in his mind. I can does not mean I won't. Many of us have been trying, have been trying to do things. I've been just thinking about something, it doesn't quite make sense yet, but we can see it and it's been going for, for quite some time. And we over identify with the I can't instead of the I won't. Maybe it's time for you to attempt that business again, to attempt posting content again, to attempt doing whatever you need to do again. And you know, you want to imagine you looked at yourself every single day and you're like, I am powerful, I am loving. How would that feel? And be very beautiful. While you're creating a new identity for yourself, you have to recognize that your presence has purpose. Often, especially in like a capitalist society, we identify our purpose just with what we do. Now what we do is an extension of ourselves. Yes, but it's not our whole self, right? It's not our whole self. You know, like we have many parts of ourselves, like all of us, you know, like I'm a son, I'm a friend, I'm a father, you know, I'm a creator, creative, I'm a speaker, I'm a teacher. You know, there's many parts to ourselves and the same thing goes with our purpose, right? Your purpose isn't just in a thing or in a mission. It can be, but I want you to actually realize that just your presence in itself, like who you are in itself as you are right now, you're actually whole. That has purpose. Just you being on this planet has purpose. You just breathing is purposeful. One of the most beautiful seasons of my life that I go back to a lot in my mind was a season where I had no actual mission. I had nothing to show anybody. Hey, this is what I'm doing. If someone asked me, what is your purpose at that point in life? I'm like, I'm just living, living deeply, living intentionally, living beautifully. And I felt purposeful. So as you're creating a new identity and you're figuring out what you want in this new decade, in this new year, whatever it may be, you have to let go of the idea that your value is attached to something else and see the value in who you are. And that will give you the inner stability and safety for you to navigate that season. Because often what happens is when we're letting go of an old identity, we go into a liminal space, and now we're in complete uncertainty. And we're like, ah, ah. And then we run back to our old identity. You may want to shift your content, Start a new channel, make some videos. Nobody watches it, and you run back to the old content. Why? Ah, because I need that validation right now. No, we have to have and develop that inner stability. Nurture the inner stability, because it's already within you to go through that uncertainty to discover what is next for us. Uncertainty is a gift anyways. It has the spirit of a child. What do children do? They ask questions. They are curious. You understand? They're in this, like, magical place. Like, oh, my God, why is the sky blue? Why are we there yet? Where do babies come from? You know what I'm saying? Like, how did we get here? They're asking questions. And that's the whole point. When you go through a space of uncertainty in your life, it's actually life calling you to ask better questions so you can discover what is truly in alignment for you with this new identity that you are creating, what is truly in alignment for you. So you have to ask questions. And the things that felt good in your life again, yeah, they worked. But you may have to let go of them and have that courage, but go through that space, that awkward space, that liminal space of uncertainty, that there's literally a new creation forming within you. Literally, man, anytime I'm going through, like, a struggle season, I'm like, man, we exercise. You know, like, when you go to the gym and, you know, you. You work out your legs that day, and you haven't worked out your legs in, like, maybe a few weeks or something like that next day, your legs are just hurting, hurting, right? You don't shame yourself for that. You're actually like, oh, yeah, it hurts because I had a good workout. Imagine if you could do that with your. With your emotions and how you feel in your body in those seasons where you're struggling but you're still showing up. You're doing the best you can while you can. But if you were like, I feel a little bit of pain, you know, there's a little bit of suffering in this season. It's been difficult, but that's because we. We've been living life, you know, we've been experiencing. We've been going through the hard stuff. We've been asking the right questions. We've been having the reflections, you understand? We've been journeying within ourselves. We've been healing. Of course it's gonna hurt a little bit. We're exercising our spirit. We're getting stronger. Just like the muscles get stronger and grow. Same thing is happening with our character and our spirit. You understand? Beautiful thing about creating a new identity for ourself and deconstructing ourselves is a lot of times we realize we haven't actually been ourself. We haven't been ourselves. Maybe we have formed identities so other people like us formed identities so we can get the love that we desire instead of giving it to ourselves. A lot of us become people pleasers. Why you people please? So you can get love. Because you don't believe you can get love just for who you are. So you have to please people to get something in return which would cause you to not be your unique self. So every day we're practicing how to be our unique self. A good practice is every day ask yourself, how can I truly show up for myself today? You get a journal. You put in your apple notes. How can I truly show up for myself today? You write down a couple of things. Don't do too many. Write just a couple things really simple. What could I truly do? It may be saying no to something you want to say no to, but you've been afraid to and may be going to the spa that day and doing just nothing or whatever you decide. And then at the end of the day, what you do is you check off everything that you did good. And then you ask yourself, did I abandon myself today? Somehow? Was there self abandonment? And if there is, now we can understand why we are in misalignment and we can identify the patterns and now we can work on those things. Things. Maybe you have been shrinking yourself so much it's become a pattern, it's become a habit that you forgot, and you have been abandoning yourself. So it's hard to be Your unique self when you are abandoning yourself. So being our unique self is understanding that we have the ability to pour into yourself, love ourself. Right? Because we do that, we become magnetic. We attract people who are truly for us. We don't have to overly extend ourselves to get the things that we want. No, we give to give, and then we receive just to receive. We're not in a transactional energy with life, a manipulative energy with life. No, we're just. We're living our life centered. We have that inner validation. We've created our identity for ourselves, and we're living the life that we love and love it while we live it. And that's the point. Don't base your identity on something in the future like, oh, I will be this person when. No, Love your life every single day. Love your life every single day. Find things about your daily experience that you love. If you tell yourself, I'm going to be happy, when you're never going to be happy because you're going to move the goalpost so you create an identity that. And I'm somebody who lives a whole life now. Yeah, there's things I want to do, more things you want to get into, but my life isn't on delay. We're living a good life now. And that's going to just strengthen how you feel about yourself. Because every day you can feel like you're showing up for yourself. And then you reaffirm to yourself that you're somebody who lives a good life and good things happen for them because good things are happening to you on a daily basis. And all that takes is a little bit of faith. A little bit of faith, Right. Being led by spirit, not just ourselves. You understand? Because we don't always have the answer. And sometimes we just need to come into quiet meditation and, you know, just ask for it. You know, ask for a deeper understanding. Know that things are working out for us behind the scenes in ways that we can't even imagine. We can. We take care of what we can take care of in this human body and we know behind us, you understand, things are being handled for us. Right? That feels good. What if you just shaped an identity where, you know, things work out for you? Why? Because life loves you. That's your identity. You might have an identity right now where you think things don't work out for you, that everybody has the worst intentions for you because you did have those experiences. So it makes sense. That's why you think that way. But if you continue to think that way, life is Going to affirm that belief. You feel like nobody has good intention for you. So we will continue to send people who don't have good intentions for you until you say, there's good people out there for me. And I'm going to be so good to myself, respect myself, and it's important to myself that life is going to send me the right people who will respect me and love me because I love and respect myself. And you shape your identity like that. Like, you know when people say, hey, don't do this because it's bad luck. Oh, no, no, no. You know what I always say? I'm like me and you splitting the pole down the street. That has no power over my life or whatever little superstition thing. I always say, nobody can curse who job blast. Meaning nothing can curse what is destined in my life because it was already destined for me by God, the most high. You understand? Nobody concurs who jobless. Well, don't tell people your goals, your dreams, because then they're gonna put negativity on it. They don't have power over my goals and dreams. That's my identity. And guess what? My whole life, I've always said what I'm going to do, and then guess what? I do it. So I continue to do that because that's my identity. But if you have the identity of, oh, my God, if you tell people your goals, then they think negatively about it. It won't happen for you. Oh, so now you believe other people have more power over your destiny. That's the identity in life you've created for yourself. Nah, nah. So what's the identity you're gonna create and just create it. You decide in the mind you get in the journal every single day. This is not something you can't just watch this video and be like, okay, yeah, this sounds good, man. The voice sounds good and everything. I'm gonna do it and then not go back to it the next day. You have created a habit in your mind of who you are. So you have to create a new habit in your mind of who you are and reaffirm it and show up in ways every day that affirm that identity. Right? So you said, I am this type of person. I am disciplined. Boom. You're being consistent. You're showing up for yourself. You say, I am somebody that loves myself. Boom. You don't over give to receive. You don't. People, please. You say no when you want to say no. You don't. You affirm that identity. You speak it, you say it. You affirm it every day. And what happens then? You get to fully embody it. So let go of the old self. Let it shed away. And understand that is a little bit of a painful process, and that's just a human experience. Anytime I feel a rough emotion, I'm like, this is the human experience. This is a part of the process. It's like if you're baking a cake. You can't bake a cake without mixing the flour and the water. Imagine you don't like that step, and you're like, you know what? I just want to get to the chocolate sauce. You can't do that. You have to mix the flour in water. So when we are shedding, when we are evolving, when we are creating a new life for ourselves, we're going to naturally go through discomfort. It is literally this step to the next step. And then, guess what? You're going to have that breakthrough where the identity was already real in your mind, but now it's. Now it's like a little physical manifestation all around you. Like, it's just constantly reminding you, mirroring it back to you. Think about, like, Tony Robbins. Do you think Tony Robbins thinks he's a valuable person? Yes. Started in the mind, obviously, and then now every single day, what happens? He walks down the street, Tony, Tony, Tony. People affirming his identity. He goes on. He goes on stage. It's like to 30,000 people, and they're all screaming. Don't you think that's all just affirming the reality he created for himself in his mind? Maybe you don't like Tony. I don't care. Pick anybody who has created a life that you like. You're like, man, that looks crazy. I would love something like that. And realize they created that identity first, to the point life had nothing else to do but to mirror it back to them all day, every day. You understand? And you have that power. The breakthrough will come. You understand? It's gonna be so beautiful. But first, it starts here, with us in the mind. And you don't know, in hindsight, every tank is gonna be more than all right.