IN HINDZSIGHT – “Stable Sense Of Self”

Host: HINDZ
Date: October 8, 2025

Overview

In this reflective episode, HINDZ delves deep into the concept of a "Stable Sense of Self," exploring the importance of grounding our identity not in fleeting labels or external achievements, but in enduring inner principles. Through gentle introspection and poetic wisdom, he examines how the inevitable changes and uncertainties of life can be navigated with inner stability—by nurturing self-awareness, values, and presence.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Embracing the Mystery of Self-Discovery

• Wavering Is Natural:
  HINDZ opens with gratitude and immediate acknowledgment of life's uncertainties. He highlights that questioning who we are and feeling unsure is not a flaw, but an integral part of being human.

  “Wavering is not a mistake or insecurity. It’s a part of the becoming.” (02:12)

• Comparisons to Nature:
  He playfully wonders if animals question their existence the way humans do, suggesting that our self-inquiry is both a blessing and a source of creative possibility.

2. The Evolution of Identity

• Constant Change as Growth:
  Reflects on his own experience of perpetual personal changes, often feeling like a new person, sometimes even exhausted by the process.

  "I'll look back at who I was just two years ago and be like, whoa, who is that? ... Not in a judgmental way, but sometimes in awe." (04:05)

• Permission to Shift:
  Asserts that changing is both normal and essential:

  "You are supposed to change, you are supposed to shift. It means you are learning, you are listening." (04:59)

3. The Need for Stability in Self

• Seeking Solid Ground:
  Even as a self-identified wanderer comfortable with uncertainty, HINDZ admits a universal desire for something stable to stand on.

  “Eventually, we want to land on something for a while, don’t we? ... We want to know what we stand on and what we stand for, even if the rest of the world keeps spinning.” (07:16)

• Stability Not Found in External Labels:
  Warns against rooting identity in things that can shift—careers, relationships, creative titles, political beliefs—which, when lost or changed, can destabilize those who rely on them for a sense of self.

  “If your sense of self is only built on things that can be seen on the surface, your sense of self will always feel fragile.” (10:40)

4. Building from Within: Principles as Pillars

• Internal Foundation:
  HINDZ emphasizes the value of inner principles and values as the enduring core of one’s being, unlike external identities that are susceptible to change.

  "Knowing who you are is knowing the parts of you that nobody else can see at first glance.” (11:10)

• Reflecting on His Own Pillars:
  He shares his guiding values—kindness, leading with good energy, unity, healing through expression, radical forgiveness, protecting peace, growth, silence, presence, and resilience.

  "These are our pillars, something you can build a life on." (23:49)

5. Transcending External Judgments

• Surface Judgments vs. Inner Reality:
  Addresses how others’ judgments only reflect what’s visible, not the depths of who we are—encouraging a sense of amusement rather than offense at being misunderstood.

  "We chuckle because we know who we are... Their judgment comes from their own perceptions of the world, their own past experiences, their limited, fragmented view." (17:24)

• Credentials of the Spirit:
  Discusses the irreplicable, intangible credentials that come from lived experience and inner growth, rather than social or occupational status.

  “My credentials are in my spirit.” (18:58)

6. Advice for the Lost: Nurturing Core Themes

• Don't Chase Identity or Purpose:
  Recommends building self-understanding by identifying the consistent themes, values, and qualities that remain steady throughout life’s changes.

  “Don’t chase an identity or even a purpose, but build your pillars. What consistent themes have you noticed in your life?” (27:02)

• Value the Intrinsic, Not the Surface:
  Encourages focusing on the intrinsic qualities within rather than seeking validation based on appearance, possessions, or societal approval.

7. Anchored in Essence Amid Change

• Safety in the Core:
  Emphasizes that while careers, environments, and external labels may evolve, a stable sense of self rooted in inner principles provides unshakeable peace.

  “You can journey into the unknown... and still know what truly holds you up.” (32:25)

• Final Reassurance:
  Concludes with hope, reinforcing that in hindsight, grounding in essence ensures all will be well.

  “The core of you, the essence of you, it never wavered. It was there all along. It just got stronger and stronger. More in alignment, more true, still kind, still resilient, still rooted, still you.” (34:25)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Wavering is not a mistake or insecurity. It’s a part of the becoming. It’s a part of the design.” (02:12)
• “You can lose a job. You can pivot creatively. You can grow out of a community or a relationship. You can evolve past a label…If your sense of self is only built on things that can be seen on the surface, your sense of self will always feel fragile.” (09:55)
• “My credentials are in my spirit. Yet they are the very things that make us who we are.” (18:58)
• “Don’t chase an identity or even a purpose, but build your pillars.” (27:02)
• “Where does God live? In the depths of your spirit, in the depths of your heart.” (29:40)
• “You can journey into the unknown… and still know what truly holds you up.” (32:25)
• “The core of you, the essence of you, it never wavered. It was there all along.” (34:25)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Introduction and Life’s Uncertainties: [00:01–03:00]
• Personal Reflections on Change: [03:00–07:15]
• Seeking Stability and Foundations: [07:15–12:00]
• Principles and Values as Anchors: [12:00–19:00]
• Handling Judgment and the Intrinsic Self: [17:00–19:00]
• Advice for Finding Oneself: [27:00–30:00]
• Embracing Change, Closing Wisdom: [32:00–34:50]

Tone and Language

The episode is warm, lightly poetic, honest, and filled with gentle encouragement. HINDZ’s language is inclusive, often addressing the listener directly, making the wisdom personal and accessible.

Summary

“Stable Sense Of Self” is an invitation to look beyond job titles, looks, relationships, or origins for identity. Instead, HINDZ guides listeners inward—encouraging recognition and cultivation of those timeless, intrinsic qualities that can be relied on no matter how the world or one’s own circumstances change. By nurturing these inner pillars, one can wade confidently through life’s mysteries, always anchored—no matter how many selves are shed or adopted along the journey.