IN HINDZSIGHT: "Who’s Writing The Story Anyway?"

Host: HINDZ
Date: November 26, 2025

Episode Overview

In this thought-provoking solo reflection, HINDZ explores the metaphor of life as a story and asks: who’s holding the pen—love or fear? He challenges listeners to examine which emotional force is authoring their inner narratives and, consequently, shaping everyday experiences. The episode is both a gentle wake-up call and an invitation to reclaim authorship of your own life with intention, presence, and love.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Storyteller’s Pen: Fear or Love?

• HINDZ emphasizes the powerful metaphor that each person is the writer, director, and editor of their own story.
• He encourages listeners to "audit" which emotions are authoring their story right now—are you writing with the ink of fear, shame, or are you choosing curiosity, joy, and love?
• Quote:

  “The greatest story you will ever know is the one that you are writing yourself, my friend. This life is your book, right? You are the director, the editor, the writer, all of that, but has your instincts and your intuition and your wisdom taken a back seat to your fear?” — HINDZ [01:08]

2. How Fear Distorts the Narrative

• Fear’s stories are driven by assumptions, worst-case scenarios, and old wounds.
• It makes us act nonchalant when we care, pushes away good experiences, and fabricates stories to maintain perceived safety.
• Quote:

  “Fear tells you not to trust the love in your life and to retreat. Fear tells you to be nonchalant... because you’re fearful. What if I do love? What if I show my interest and it doesn’t come back to me?” — HINDZ [02:05]

• Fear’s pen is frantic, anxious, and constantly writing “cliffhangers,” not resolutions.
• Quote:

  “Fear has no happy ending. It only has cliffhangers. Like a Netflix show, right?” — HINDZ [09:45]

3. Leading and Leaving with Love

• HINDZ shares his mantra: “When we lead with love, we leave with love.”
• He muses on the challenge and the power of loving openly, vulnerably, and unconditionally—even when not reciprocated.
• True peace is found not by hiding from the world’s chaos, but by grounding oneself amidst it.
• Quote:

  “Peace isn’t hiding away on a mountain... Peace is actually remaining grounded in the world, in the polarities of life, in love, in breakups, in the transitions and crossroads we will navigate through.” — HINDZ [04:00]

4. Boundaries: Love’s Armor, Not Fear’s Walls

• HINDZ distinguishes boundaries built from love (protection, openness) and those built from fear (restriction, exclusion).
• He suggests it’s better to be a little bit naive but with good boundaries, than to be consumed by fear and closed off from possibility.
• Quote:

  “I think it’s better to just be a little... a tiny bit, a micro bit naive, versus just being consumed with fear... That’s a heavy feeling to carry. That’s why we have boundaries, right? Boundaries built with love, not fear.” — HINDZ [07:00]

5. Anecdote: The Thrift Shop Revelation

• HINDZ recounts a personal story: an elderly woman staring at him in a thrift shop triggered old fears and assumptions, but she eventually approached him to compliment his appearance, shattering his negative narrative.
• This moment highlighted how fear writes stories from old wounds, not present reality.
• Quote:

  “She taps me on the shoulder and she’s like, ‘Sir, I just want to let you know you’re like one of the most beautiful men I’ve ever seen in my life.’ And I was like, oh my God, this whole time I thought this woman was judging me... but she was admiring me.” — HINDZ [14:35]

6. First Drafts: Fear vs. Love

• The host notes that our initial emotional reactions (the “first draft”) are often steeped in fear and defense.
• The “second draft,” written with calm and clarity, is where truth and love reside.
• Quote:

  “Fear is quick. It writes the first draft, it says something is wrong. But the second draft, the grounded one, that’s where your truth lives.” — HINDZ [18:04]

7. Recognizing Your Current Pen

• Self-inquiry prompts: Are you hiding from life, shrinking yourself, or focusing on your insecurities?
• Love notices beauty, gives presence, and constructs understanding; fear tunnels on flaws, builds walls, and seeks constant reassurance.
• Quote:

  “When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Do you tunnel vision on your insecurities or do you love yourself? This will tell you what pen you have picked up.” — HINDZ [22:30]

8. Choosing a Different Narrative

• The real challenge is to give your nervous system a new experience; to open yourself to love, joy, and possibility, regardless of what’s happened in the past.
• Quote:

  “You’re going to have to give your nervous system a new experience, meaning... you’re going to have to step into love and open yourself up to possibilities.” — HINDZ [28:20]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Which pen are you using in life right now? Fear writes stories frantically... I actually think it’s better to be just a little naive.” — [06:50]
• “The greatest story you will ever know is the one that you are writing yourself.” — [01:10]
• “Love reveals. Can you love with your chest wide open for life?” — [20:36]
• “Fear tries to protect us from shrinking, but then we shrink ourselves.” — [21:08]
• “Everything will end one day. So what is going to be the ending to your story? And right now, what page are you on?” — [29:39]

Key Timestamps

• 00:02 — 02:40: Opening thoughts; “The greatest story you will ever know is the life that you are creating yourself.”
• 04:00 — 06:50: Defining peace, living in the world’s polarity, and checking which ‘pen’ you’re using.
• 07:00 — 09:45: How fear writes stories and the importance of boundaries built with love.
• 09:45 — 14:00: TV show analogy, storytelling styles, and why drama/fear dominate unsatisfying stories.
• 14:35 — 17:00: The thrift shop story—how assumptions write negative chapters.
• 17:45 — 20:36: First drafts of feeling; fear versus love’s reaction to uncertainty.
• 22:10 — 25:30: Signs you’re writing with fear or love, self-reflection exercises.
• 28:20 — 30:00: Final thoughts on changing your narrative, opening up to love, and writing your own beautiful ending.

Final Reflection

HINDZ’s episode is a soulful reminder that while we cannot control everything in life, we can always choose the pen with which we write our days. Whether you’re holding onto fear’s narrative, replaying old pain, or opening up to the unknown with love and possibility, every day is a fresh page. The question he leaves us with:

“What kind of storyteller do you want to be?”