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David Remnick
Welcome to the New Yorker Radio Hour. I'm David Remnick. Alice Munro was a master of the short story in our time, the Chekhov of her era. She published more than 50 stories in the New Yorker and and then in 2013, she won the Nobel Prize in literature. But shortly before her death, her legacy darkened when her youngest daughter, Andrea, revealed that she'd been sexually abused by Monroe's longtime partner. This began when Andrea was just nine years old, and it was kept secret in the family even after the man confessed to it in letters. And so now Monroe's ardent readers, and there are a great many of us, are left with this terrible conundrum that a writer of such astonishing powers of empathy could betray her own child. In one of the most astonishing pieces of reporting that the magazine has had the honor of publishing in recent years, Rachel Aviv explores the story of Alice Munro and her art and the terrible secret of her life and the lives of her family. I thought we should begin by talking about Alice Munro as a writer. She published 50 short stories at the New Yorker at least. And there were people around the office for years who considered her, in many ways, you know, the Chekhov of the 20th century. Tell me a little bit about her qualities as a writer.
Rachel Aviv
I'm not sure that there's another writer where you can read the short story so many new times and each time feel like you're understanding has shifted. To me, there's something beyond the sort of incredibly astute descriptions of people's inner lives. There's something formally that she's sort of turned a short story into, sort of stretch the limits of it.
David Remnick
What's the work about really?
Rachel Aviv
I mean, it's interesting. Looking at the Nobel Prize presentation, the secretary is pretty on point. He says she writes about the silent and the silenced. The people who don't make choices, the people who only understand sort of aspects of their life years later when it's been revealed. For many of her early books are about this kind of poor rural upbringing where children are pretty cruel to each other and parents are neglectful and there are a lot of horrific sort of freak events that happen quickly. She kind of writes about each phase of her life as she passes through it. Not necessarily about herself, but about people going through sort of crises of middle age and then the crises of late age. And I think her stories are unique in the way that they kind of skip forward. Like suddenly you're 15 years forward in time and someone is sort of only grasping what happened in their past belatedly. The thing that feels sort of most present for me in terms of her writing is the sense that, like, she'd be moving through the world and someone would say something and then those words would feel like, alive to her and. And she would sort of write a story around those words and that this constantly happened to her where sort of it almost felt like she was moving through the world in a different way. Like things had a kind of secret intensity that she could pick up on and that she wanted to capture somehow.
David Remnick
You know, I've been working at the New Yorker for a long time, over 30 years. And Alice died last year, right?
Rachel Aviv
Mm, last spring.
David Remnick
I think I met her once or twice maybe. She very rarely seemed to come to New York and when she did, it was like a stealth mission. She kept far apart from that so called literary world, didn't she?
Rachel Aviv
Yeah. There was a really interesting letter that she wrote to her agent and she's saying, like, I cannot go on another book tour. In order to sort of be a social self, I have to take so many uppers that I can't sleep for 72 hours. And then in order to sleep, I need to take so many downers that I'm sort of endangering my life and I'm in this sort of dysregulated state. And she was saying, I don't know if I can publish another book if it requires a book tour, because it sort of does damage to myself.
David Remnick
Now I have the confession to make. So this past summer, like a lot of people, I read the piece in the Toronto Star by Alice's grown daughter, Andrea. And it was a short memoir in which she said that she had been sexually assaulted by Alice's husband when she was very young, nine years old, I think.
Rachel Aviv
Yeah. And she essentially said, you know, my stepfather sexually abused me when I was nine, and my mother protected him for our entire lives. And his name, Jerry Fremlin, and then Jenny, who is Andrea's older sister, and Andrew, who is her stepbrother, both wrote essays as well, sort of talking about the way that the silence had shaped their lives and their families.
David Remnick
I read this piece. My first reaction was one of. I was just startled. I mean, Alice Munro holds a great place in my mind as a reader and frankly, as a citizen of the New Yorker, she's an important figure. And my second thought, not long thereafter, was that Rachel Leviev should write about this. And before I even had a chance to call you and discuss this, I'd heard that you were also thinking the same thing. How did this news affect you? And then why did you decide to get on it as a piece of writing and investigations so quickly?
Rachel Aviv
Well, it's funny, because the morning that the Toronto Star article came out, my friend who's from Toronto just emailed it to me and was like, rachel, you should write about this. And then over the next few days, a few other people, friends, were like, you're writing about this?
David Remnick
Well, what did that tell you?
Rachel Aviv
I think because it's about so many things that I. You know, memory, sort of family trauma, the sort of generational dynamics.
David Remnick
The abuse against Andrea by Fremlin, the stepfather, began when she was nine years old. What exactly happened?
Rachel Aviv
So Alice was away, her father was dying, and Andrea asked if she could sleep in the master bedroom. And Jerry Fremlin said, okay, don't tell your mother. And from there, he got into her bed and sexually abused her. She said it didn't even occur to her to tell her mother because she felt so unsafe in that house. And then it continued until she was through puberty. This sort of him exposing himself to her and sort of trying to go.
David Remnick
On and on for years. And Gerald Fremlin had a very strange relationship way of talking about this. When he eventually did, he seemed to be obsessed with Nabokov's novel Lolita and much else. Tell me about Fremlin.
Rachel Aviv
I mean, so after Andrea told her mother about the abuse in 1992, which is 16 years after it happened, Alice left Jerry Fremlin. And he then sort of unleashed this like, torrent of letters in which he was ostensibly defending himself, except what the letters actually were were like incredibly detailed confessions in which he explained that he was sort of responding to this nine year old seductress and that he knows that there are lolitos in the world and he was simply being a Humbert Humbert.
David Remnick
And how did Alice Munro initially react to this letter that she got from her daughter Andrea, saying to her, sit down, go to a quiet place before you read this. And she gives her the news. How did Alice Munro react?
Rachel Aviv
Well, she did immediately leave her partner and go to their second home on the west coast of Canada. And Andrea came there to be with her and felt the experience was not about her, it was about her mother as this sort of betrayed lover. Alice Munroe took Jerry Fremlin back within a month. Within a month, Within a month. And, you know, the way she explained it to Andrea was, you know, I loved him too much, I'm too dependent, I'm too old.
David Remnick
How do you make sense of why she stayed? It can't just be, I loved him and I was dependent on him.
Rachel Aviv
She was a participant in like a pretty psychologically abusive relationship and had many of the dynamics of sort of women who try to leave men and don't feel like they can exist without that man. There was a sort of confused idea about misogyny, like this sort of idea that she often would tell Andrea that it was misogynistic to expect a mother to sacrifice her own happiness because her husband has done a bad thing. And Andrea really internalized that and would tell her mother, like, yes, of course, no one would ever ask a father to do this, only a mother. Therefore, I cannot ask my mother to do this. And then I think there was like this sense for Alice that the writing was the most important thing and that she was sort of on a kind of existential level, like living in this in a way that's hard to describe, where she was sort of watching and not totally present and maybe, you know, not able to really feel her daughter's experience, whether it was, you know, dissociation. Or some sort of. Sort of artistic distance that had become her mode of living.
David Remnick
Let's listen to Alice Munro talking to Joyce Davidson for the CBC. This is in 1979.
Alice Munro
Passivity is not something that modern woman is supposed to be content with, let alone striving for. And yet, well, if you're passive, you sit back and watch things and you let things happen. Have you been guilty of that? Oh, yes. I will let situations develop way past the point where I should stop them, just to see what will happen, to see what people will say, to see what people will do. It's probably the overriding passion of my life, just to see.
Rachel Aviv
Now, is that because you don't want to hurt them?
Alice Munro
Oh, no, that's only part of it. That's the surface part. That's the social behavior. That one doesn't make anyone uncomfortable. But it's also that everything fascinates me that happens between people.
David Remnick
The resonant phrase, for me there is to see what happens. As if the most essential thing. It's to see what will happen. And by extension, I think, to see how it becomes the material of her art.
Rachel Aviv
You know, there's this. That line really resonates because there's this story she wrote years before where a girl is sort of being abused sexually, like, sort of being groped on a train.
David Remnick
Which one is this?
Rachel Aviv
This is Wild Swans. And she says, you know, she just wanted to see what will happen. It's almost the same language, the sense of, like, I'm just gonna kind of keep going here because I'm so curious.
David Remnick
To see what the human behavior will be, positive, negative or otherwise.
Rachel Aviv
And she describes herself as victim and accomplice. And there's the sense of feeling like an accomplice because of that curiosity of that wanting it to happen or wanting to not interfere with the action that will come to her.
David Remnick
It's almost as if she. She never left her husband and reconciled with her daughters because the conflict was fruitful for her work. Is that unfair?
Rachel Aviv
Probably. I mean, I feel like it was more helpless than that because, like, of course, she had, like, deep wounds from her own life. Like, she.
David Remnick
Right. She had been beaten bad by her father when she was growing up in.
Rachel Aviv
Sort of complex dynamics. It was a power game, sort of. She would be beaten, and then her mother would sort of come to her like a supplicant with all these treats, and she would sort of resist, and then she would fall back into it. And I think, you know, like, there's this language of, like, art monsters, which, like, sure, Applies. But I also feel like it's maybe less interesting or true to the experience of, you know, just being very wounded and sort of finding a man who kind of speaks to those wounds.
David Remnick
What do you mean, speaks to those wounds? Who, to heal them?
Rachel Aviv
No, no, not to heal them. To allow her to sort of unknowingly replicate patterns from her childhood.
David Remnick
You know, I went back and reread this piece in the New York times magazine from 20 years ago by Daphne Merkin. It describes the relationship of Monroe and Jerry Fremlin. And it's not Merkin's fault. This was performed for her, in a sense. But she described that relationship in very sporty, genial terms.
Rachel Aviv
Yeah, I mean, it's just like an incredible level of sort of living, of performing. And I think, you know, she's spoken about that a lot in interviews, of feeling like she is two women. You know, one is the woman who sort of being what other people want her to be, and the other is the woman who's sort of living a solitary, kind of watchful, removed existence. And so. Well, the interview with Daphne Merkin was the tipping point for Andrea where she.
David Remnick
Felt like, what year is it?
Rachel Aviv
I think it was 2004. And she felt like she was just being erased. And that was what prompted her to go to the police and report the abuse.
David Remnick
How did the police react to that report?
Rachel Aviv
I talked to the detective and he was, you know, praising her for being this, like, incredibly straightforward witness who looks him in the eye. And, you know, and she had these incredible letters to back it up, like she was handing him the perpetrator's confession.
David Remnick
And what came out of that investigation.
Rachel Aviv
It was sort of patched up really quickly. He pled guilty to indecent assault. There was no jury.
David Remnick
It was a one sentence admission of guilt in which the first person pronoun was dropped.
Rachel Aviv
Yeah. And then there was a letter that he wrote to his lawyer, basically saying the trial strategy is to exclude the press. And at the time of the court case, Alice had planned to leave him and to move in with her friend who had an empty house for her. And then abruptly she canceled the plan.
David Remnick
Because, in a sense, in publicity terms, they got away with, didn't blow. And we should say also that Alice Munro, in Canada, her reputation was immense. People referred to her as the queen of the literary scene. There it was. You know, people here probably at that time knew other writers, Toni Morrison or John Updike, much more than Alice Munro, somehow. But in Canada was a different story. No.
Rachel Aviv
Yeah. I was surprised talking to The Toronto Star reporter who ultimately broke the story. But she said when she was first proposed the story, after Andrea had sent an email, she said no, she didn't want to do it. She didn't want to take down an idol. She didn't want to jeopardize her relationships in publishing. She'd seen Alice Munro as this emblem of feminism and she'd sort of been inspired by the idea, like you could tell your own story and take control over your own story. And ultimately she did change her mind. But even that thought that in 2024, there was like a day long pause before she was ready to do it. And even before then, Andrea had reached out to a number of journalists and she got no response.
David Remnick
I'm speaking with Rachel Aviv, who's reported for the New Yorker on Alice Monroe and her daughter, Andrea Skinner. We'll continue in a moment. This is the New Yorker Radio Hour. You come to the New Yorker Radio Hour for conversations that go deeper with people you really want to hear from, whether it's Bruce Springsteen or Questlove or Olivia Rodrigo, Liz Cheney or the godfather of artificial intelligence, Geoffrey Hinton, or some of my extraordinarily well informed colleagues at the New Yorker. So join us every week on the New Yorker Radio Hour wherever you listen to podcasts. This is the New Yorker Radio Hour, and I'm speaking today with staff writer Rachel Aviv. In a piece that you can find on new yorker.com called Alice Monroe's Passive Voice, Rachel Aviv probes with depth and sensitivity what happened in Alice Monroe's family after Monroe's partner sexually abused her youngest daughter, Andrea. The daughter told members of her family about it when it happened, including her father, Jim Monroe. But nobody wanted to tell Alice Monroe. Nobody wanted to upset her. And years later, when Jerry Fremlin admitted to the abuse, Alice stood by him. She gradually lost contact with her daughter, Andrea. Rachel, we spoke before the break about how the media ignored this story for many years. And it kind of mirrors the way Alice Munro's family dealt with it. You spoke with Andrea Skinner repeatedly and at great length. Here's a recording she made for a survivors group in Canada called the Gatehouse.
Rachel Aviv
I was estranged from most of my family for many years, though I had told most of my family about the abuse when I was 10 years old. No action was taken to protect me and I was sent back to my stepfather's house. Unfortunately, nobody did anything to stop it or help me heal at that time. And the effects of that or that I felt really devalued and even dehumanized by not just my abuser, but all of the significant people of my life.
David Remnick
So her siblings, as well as her mother, shut her up.
Rachel Aviv
There was this sense of, like, we all need to protect our mother. And. And this feeling that she was very horribly fragile and that, like this refrain in the family, like, she'll die if she knows. And the sisters kind of took their cue from the parents. Jenny tried to tell her mother, and actually Sheila almost told her mother, but they both. There was this kind of mythology of, like, we must not impinge on this great, great career and on this fragile woman.
David Remnick
Now, you spoke with Robert Thacker, who's a biographer of Alice Munro. He knew about the abuse. What was his rationale as a scholar, as a biographer to ignore this incredibly pivotal. On the criminal record piece of news?
Rachel Aviv
I mean, he just basically said, it's not the book I'm writing. I think what he said to me at one point was, every family has a thing like this.
David Remnick
I'm sorry, but how did you react to that when you heard that conversation?
Rachel Aviv
You know, I try not to respond with judgment. I think I just listened. But.
David Remnick
But we're sitting here, it's just us too.
Rachel Aviv
I mean, why write. Why write a biography if you're not gonna sort of do. Yeah, I think, you know, Andrea said in a letter to him, like, he had responded, you know, I'll make sure I didn't, like, say anything too flattering, essentially, about Jerry. And she said, I didn't mean cross out flattering adjectives. I meant, you know, scrap the whole.
David Remnick
Book or write an honest biography.
Rachel Aviv
Right. And she said, you know, to ignore this is to ignore sort of the context in which these stories are being created. I think there was this. He was trying to hold onto this idea and. And the family members were too, that something that this was between Jerry and Andrea, like this sort of delusional idea that it was a two person interaction.
David Remnick
What's amazing is how many stories in mid and late career are haunted by, shadowed by, or even you could say about this situation, which is the story that in your mind is the most directly infested with this.
Rachel Aviv
I think It's Vandals from 1993.
David Remnick
Talk about that story.
Rachel Aviv
I read the letters that Alice wrote to her agent, and she said first she wrote that she had started a story and she called it about. It was about the subject, and she said she approached it from different angles. And then she felt like she was gonna throw up and she burned it. And then two months later, she had written a draft of Vandals. It's about a young girl named Liza and her younger brother. And in the summers, they go every day to play with this man and his wife who has sort of become a mother figure. And the man is sexually abusing the children. It sort of emerges. The story is sort of structured as an investigation into whether the mother knows and chooses to look away or doesn't know, but should know. And in that story, there are lines or images that are almost lifted from the letter that Andrea wrote to her mother disclosing her abuse and from a letter that Jerry wrote about their relationship. So it feels. You can sort of see pieces of sort of language, sentences that must have, like, lit her up in somewhere, like, made her feel like she had to build a story around it.
David Remnick
Did Andrea go on reading her mother's stories as they came out in the magazine and in books?
Rachel Aviv
She did for a while, and must have been horrific. You know, she said that for a while, it almost. She almost tried to convince herself to be hopeful, and she felt like, okay, here she is. She's getting it out. She's working through it. You know, there was one story, rich as stink, that has this image of a daughter wearing a wedding dress that burns. And it's this, like. And Andrea said, here. You know, here's this image of innocence destroyed. Like, there's this feeling that her mother must understand. And then eventually, Andrea realized that, like, the insights were going to her characters and not to her daughters and not to herself. And. And then Andrea felt increasingly enraged by sort of the passivity of the characters, the sense of them sort of existing in this, like, bleak survival mode.
David Remnick
One of the striking things about this extraordinary piece is that Andrea doesn't go to pieces. She continues living her life, and she has a life. What is it?
Rachel Aviv
You know, I think this sort of is a defining problem in her life in a way that she appears to.
David Remnick
Be thriving even to her siblings, who are deceived by that in some way.
Rachel Aviv
Right. And that, you know, in a way, as a child, it was a coping mechanism. There's a sense that, like, she held the key to either destroying her family or keeping their family together. And so they all felt like she was kind of the star of the family, the one who was the most like her mother. And she. And I had conversations about that where I would sit, like, I'm worried. I'm slipping into that state that the siblings are in, where you seem to be thriving. Your daughter just said, you have this incredible joy for life. You do seem to have this incredible joy I mean, something she said to me that I found really profound was one of the letters from the 70s that Alice wrote was about being raped by a colleague. First she says she was so numb that she just walked aimlessly around the city and missed the class she was supposed to teach that day. And then later on, she says, well, we'll make a good story.
David Remnick
The sense of dissociation is incredible.
Rachel Aviv
Yeah. But Andrea said, you know, when I read that letter, at first I kind of felt pain for my mother because I know that feeling of, you know, aimlessly walking around the city. And then she said the next feeling I had was rage. That, like, she did a day of that and sort of moved on to have this incredibly productive life. And I still feel like I'm walking aimlessly around the city.
David Remnick
Alice Munro won the Nobel Prize. How did Andrea react to that news?
Rachel Aviv
I think what was hardest for her was watching Jenny receive the prize from the Queen of Sweden because Alice was too weak at that point to go to Sweden. And she felt like, oh, you know, the family really is happier that I'm not in it now. They can live this one reality.
David Remnick
How do you think this affects Alice Munro's literary legacy and how we'll read her in the future? I know lots of people that at first they said, I'm never gonna read her again. Your colleague Jiang Fan, who was teaching Alice Moore, was. I just had lunch with her. She just. It just rocked her in a most elemental way. How do you think that will affect Alice Munro's being read in the future?
Rachel Aviv
Like, a question that feels almost more alive to me is the way that her writing makes you think about, like, art. At what expense? Not to sort of deny that it's art and that it has value as art, but to think about what existed in its wake, sort of who was harmed, what was sacrificed. And, you know, that's probably a question that is relevant for many artists, but Alice Munro kind of makes it visible on the page. Like, it felt so literal, like, you know, trading your daughter for art.
David Remnick
It felt like, do you see it that way?
Rachel Aviv
Not as if it were necessarily a conscious decision, but I think, you know, Alice did speak very with a lot of self awareness about how she abandoned her mother as she was dying, because she felt like she couldn't be the person she wanted to be if she was a good daughter. And that person was a right.
David Remnick
Alice ignored her own mother, her own.
Rachel Aviv
Mother who was dying, who had Parkinson's.
David Remnick
So there's a certain ruthlessness to it.
Rachel Aviv
No, but the repetition, I think that she could speak very honestly and with a lot of self awareness about how she had to abandon her own mother to become a writer. That I'm sort of feeling that there was a certain awareness probably about how she also abandoned her daughter to be the writer she became.
David Remnick
And you earlier in our conversation talked about trying not to be. But in fact, writing in no small part is a collection of many judgments along the way, whether about sentences or how a story moves or the judgments you make. And in this story, the real crime is committed by the man, Gerald Fremlin. We shouldn't forget that. And I wonder in the end how you do judge Ellis Munro generously or.
Rachel Aviv
I mean, I feel horrified. I feel horrified that it's hard because, like, you know, what would she say? Did she think the work is more important? Is that just sort of what the decision she made?
David Remnick
Do you think she thought of it in those stark terms?
Rachel Aviv
I think maybe because in that, you know, one of the most like chilling moments for me was when the biographer Bob Thacker, when I read the conversation between Alice and him about she was sort of asking him, like, what do my daughters want you to do? And he was telling her, and she stated really clearly, you know, my daughters want me to admit that I am with a pedophile, but if I did, it would be the only thing people know about me. And I worked a long time to become who I am. And she sort of, I mean, couldn't be more stark than that.
David Remnick
Rachel Leviev, thank you so much.
Rachel Aviv
Thank you.
David Remnick
Alice Munro's Passive Voice is the title of Rachel Levie's piece. And you can read it at our website, newyorker.com and you can subscribe to the New Yorker for reporting like this every week. And that's also@newyorker.com.
Rachel Aviv
I'm Vincent Cunningham. I'm Alex Schwartz.
David Remnick
And I'm Nomi Frye. And we're Critics at Large, the New Yorker's flagship culture podcasts. Flagship. Flagship.
Rachel Aviv
Love that. We want to invite you to a special live event that's coming right up on March 11th at the bell House in Brooklyn. We're doing a show about a classic conundrum for critics.
David Remnick
What happens when you write a review and and you get it wrong.
Rachel Aviv
We will be looking back at some of the classic pieces of New Yorker criticism that may have missed the mark. Like, for example, a scathing review that declared the wizard of Oz a stinkeroo marred by eye straining Technicolor, not a stinkeroo. Oh, yes. And of course we will also talk about critics who got it right as well.
David Remnick
So if you're in New York or if you feel like traveling, come see us live at the bell House on March 11th. You can buy tickets@thebellhouseny.com we'll see you there.
Rachel Aviv
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Podcast Information:
Madeline Baran opens the episode by highlighting a special interview from The New Yorker Radio Hour featuring Rachel Aviv. Aviv discusses her investigative reporting on Alice Munro, the acclaimed Nobel Prize-winning short story writer, and the dark family secrets surrounding Munro’s personal life.
David Remnick introduces Alice Munro as a "master of the short story" and often referred to as "the Chekhov of her era." Munro’s prolific career includes over 50 stories published in The New Yorker. Remnick remarks on Munro’s significant impact on literature, noting her 2013 Nobel Prize in Literature.
Rachel Aviv elaborates on Munro’s exceptional ability to evolve with each reading, stating, “I'm not sure that there's another writer where you can read the short story so many new times and each time feel like your understanding has shifted” (02:58). Aviv emphasizes Munro’s deep psychological insight and formal innovation in short story writing.
In 2023, Munro’s daughter, Andrea Skinner, revealed that she was sexually abused by Munro’s longtime partner, Jerry Fremlin, starting when she was nine years old (06:34). Andrea disclosed that Munro chose to stay with Fremlin despite knowing about the abuse, a decision that has deeply affected Munro’s legacy.
Remnick shares his initial reaction to the revelation: “I was just startled. I mean, Alice Munro holds a great place in my mind as a reader and frankly, as a citizen of the New Yorker, she's an important figure” (06:12).
Aviv recounts how she became involved in uncovering Munro’s family secrets. Upon learning about the Toronto Star’s article via a friend, she felt compelled to delve deeper: “It's about so many things that I... memory, sort of family trauma, the sort of generational dynamics” (07:59).
She uncovers that Andrea’s abuse by Fremlin began when Munro’s father was dying, creating a complex and abusive family dynamic. Andrea expressed feeling unsafe and unheard, leading to years of silence and trauma.
Aviv discusses Munro’s psychological state and her inability to leave Fremlin permanently, despite recognizing the abuse:
“She was a participant in like a pretty psychologically abusive relationship and had many of the dynamics of sort of women who try to leave men and don't feel like they can exist without that man” (10:48).
Remnick probes further, asking Aviv: “How do you make sense of why she stayed?”
Aviv explains that Munro’s decision was influenced by deep psychological wounds and a dependency that mirrored her troubled childhood, where she experienced abuse at the hands of her father:
“There was this language of, like, art monsters, which, like, sure, applies. But I also feel like it's maybe less interesting or true to the experience of, you know, just being very wounded and sort of finding a man who kind of speaks to those wounds” (14:37).
The podcast features a poignant excerpt from Alice Munro’s 1979 interview with Joyce Davidson for the CBC, where Munro reflects on passivity and her fascination with human behavior:
Alice Munro: “Passivity is not something that modern woman is supposed to be content with, let alone striving for. And yet... it's probably the overriding passion of my life, just to see” (12:15).
Aviv connects this to her investigative findings, highlighting Munro’s detachment and curiosity about human interactions, which may have influenced her handling of her daughter’s abuse.
Andrea Skinner describes her lifelong struggle with the aftermath of abuse and her relationship with her mother:
“Andrea Skinner: I was sent back to my stepfather's house. Unfortunately, nobody did anything to stop it or help me heal at that time. And the effects of that or that I felt really devalued and even dehumanized by not just my abuser, but all of the significant people of my life” (20:40).
The podcast explores how the family chose to protect Munro’s fragile reputation, with siblings and parents prioritizing the preservation of her legacy over Andrea’s well-being. This collective silence left Andrea feeling isolated and devalued.
Aviv discusses how Munro’s personal failures complicate her literary legacy. Munro’s ability to depict passive suffering in her stories now casts a shadow over her real-life actions:
“I think like, a question that feels almost more alive to me is the way that her writing makes you think about, like, art. At what expense? Not to sort of deny that it's art and that it has value as art, but to think about what existed in its wake, sort of who was harmed, what was sacrificed” (29:13).
Remnick asks whether Munro’s actions undermine her work, a question that resonates deeply with readers and scholars alike.
The episode concludes by reflecting on the profound impact of Rachel Aviv’s reporting on how Alice Munro will be remembered. Munro’s literary genius is undeniably significant, yet her personal choices and their destructive effects on her family add a layer of complexity to her legacy. Aviv’s investigation raises important questions about the relationship between an artist’s work and their personal life, challenging listeners to reconsider Munro’s contributions in light of her actions.
Rachel Aviv leaves listeners contemplating the cost of artistic brilliance and the ethical responsibilities of individuals, even those celebrated for their creative talents.
Rachel Aviv: “I'm not sure that there's another writer where you can read the short story so many new times and each time feel like your understanding has shifted.” (02:58)
Alice Munro: “Passivity is not something that modern woman is supposed to be content with... it’s probably the overriding passion of my life, just to see.” (12:15)
Rachel Aviv: “She was a participant in like a pretty psychologically abusive relationship... women who try to leave men and don’t feel like they can exist without that man.” (10:48)
Andrea Skinner: “The effects of that or that I felt really devalued and even dehumanized by not just my abuser, but all of the significant people of my life.” (20:40)
Rachel Aviv: “It’s to think about what existed in its wake, sort of who was harmed, what was sacrificed.” (29:13)
This episode of In The Dark poignantly intertwines Alice Munro’s esteemed literary achievements with the harrowing personal failures that left her family in ruin. Rachel Aviv’s in-depth reporting provides a comprehensive and sensitive exploration of how Munro’s private life contrasts sharply with her public persona, offering listeners a nuanced perspective on legacy, art, and personal responsibility.