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Unbelievable motivator. It still drives me today, but I'm making decisions. I start to realize, like, there's certain kinds of topics, fine. Everybody knows that they're interested in some things, not others. But I noticed that the type of professor made a difference. I also knew that, like, this was an open enrollment school, so I was with people I went to school with. And I knew when I was in that environment, the pool to be like the class clown was powerful, so I'd immediately enroll in something else. But this really, you know, I saw this as like, okay, some people are just smart, they can make it. I have to. There's something wrong with me. I have to, like, do it differently. But this defining moment for me completely changed my life. I'm sitting in this big lecture hall which is not good for me for history class. And I'm sitting next to my buddy Steve, and I'm just like, this is torture. But there's no other option. I gotta get through it. And class is ending. And he goes, I don't know what you're complaining about. This is nothing compared to what I got myself into in the Honors Program. I never heard of the Honors. I thought it was the same, just more work or whatever. But he disabuses me of that really quick. He says, no, no, no, no. There's no lecture halls. There's just, like, 10 people in a room. And you just talk. And he's like, there are no tests. You just write essays. He goes, I don't even think there are right answers. All we do is debate. And I'm like, wait, wait, hold on. This sounds like it's his nightmare credit for. I was like, this is. Are you kidding me? This can't be how education is. So I get really excited and race up the top of the hill. The Honors Program's on the second floor of the library. Top of the hill. I skip my next class to go because I got to be in the Honors Program. So I go right up there. I go in the secretary, Marilyn Dimon. She'll play an important role in a moment here. I said, hey, I want to be in the Honors Program. Great. We're really proud of this. Let me get you in to see the director. So let me meet. I sit down with this guy. He's really nice. We're sitting about like this, across from his desk. And he said, okay, well, just. Look, just formality. Let me just get you in the system. My name, everything. And he said, hey, just, you know, what was your high school GPA? And I said, 0.9. And this is no kidding. He says, what? 0.9. Like, I left off the most important part of the story. And I said, oh, 0.9. And he was so nice about it, but he just looks at me. He goes, you can't be in the Honors Program. He was really kind, but I took it as. We have standards, right? And I was, like, mortified. I just rushed into this thing almost impulsively. And here I am just sitting there, just so embarrassed. And I was like, I'm so sorry. Like, how quickly can I get out of here? So I'm packing up stuff. Like, stand up, shake his hand. Thanks for your time. And I'm bolting out the door. As I'm walking out, Marilyn Dimon, the secretary, her desk is right next to the door. And I'm walking out, really almost holding back tears, being so embarrassed. And she reaches out and grabs my arm and she says, hey, I overheard the conversation. Don't take no for an answer. And I was like, what? What do you mean? Like, what is that? I don't even know what you can do that. Like. He said, no, don't take no. She, go sit on that couch and don't leave until he let you in. So I was like, okay. So I sat on the couch. He comes out and goes to teach a class. He comes back a couple hours later. I'm still there. It was felt like an entire day. And he's like, what are you doing? I said, well, I want to be in the honors program. And so he says, okay, just come in my office for a minute. We sit down and he said, look, why do you want to be in the honors program? Because on paper, it makes no sense. So I started explaining what I'd learned about myself and this idea of a good fit for me. And I said, look, I know it doesn't look like it, but this seems perfect for me. And to his credit, you know, he couldn't let me in straight up. But he said, look, I'll let you in on a provisional basis. And here's what I. You can choose one class, and if you do well, I'll let you choose another class and we'll go from there. And he made it really clear. He said, by doing well, I don't mean that you got the best grade in the class. He said, I am going to ask that professor at the end of the semester, and they should tell me. They can't imagine the class without you in terms of your contributions. Okay. So I picked really, really carefully, like, went through all the options. I. I picked plagues of the modern era. Scared the living out of me. Like, I was like almost a vegan after that. It was kind of terrifying. Kept my attention, but it turned out to be exactly right. It was such a good fit for my own individuality. And I did extremely well. And then I did extremely well. And flash forward, I came into Weber State with a high school, a GED and a 0.9 GPA. And I graduated in pre med and psychology with a 397. And I was the honors student of the year the year I graduated. And I tell that story for two reasons. There's two important takeaways. One is this idea of fit. And we'll come back to that later, because so often we think about, you're either talented you're not. You're smart, you're not. And I had internalized that. I just wasn't smart. Boy, it taught me in a hurry that it's really about knowing yourself and getting yourself in these environments where that individuality is such a good. Fitness and learning got easier. You know, you just. It changed how I thought about myself. But the second thing that I'll just never forget is the role of Marilyn diamond. Because I worked really hard. I did. I put in the effort. I still, you know, had to work during the day, went to school at night for quite a while, but none of that was going to matter if she didn't intervene. And what I think is so funny about this is, so just a few years ago, I get asked to come back to Weber State. They want to celebrate me as this former student of the year, give me this award, and I'm like, fantastic. So I'm there to give this speech in this auditorium. It turns out that Marilyn diamond is retiring that year. So I thought, well, you know what I'll do? I'll use this time to tell some version of this story and really celebrate her. So I share it. It's great. The university president says, well, Marilyn, why don't you come on up and say a few things? And she comes up slowly to the stage, and she's quite a bit shorter than I am, and she gives me a hug and then gets up there and adjusts the mic. And she says, well, thank you, Todd. It's good to see you. But I have to admit, I don't remember that story. And I thought she was saying, you're lying. But it turned out, no, it's that everybody had a Marilyn diamond story. She was just that person. And it really struck me that when we think about the way we support one another in our development, in our ability to accomplish what we wanna accomplish, we tend to think it requires some Herculean effort. Sometimes it does. But here's something where Marilyn intervened. It literally changed my life. And it was so inconsequential to her, she didn't even remember it. And so I think so often when we want to think about supporting one another that it's like we think, oh, it's going to take so much effort. But now we can be Marilyn diamond for one another. It's pretty shocking.