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That's why you rack. You're listening to an Ono Media podcast. Hey everyone, and welcome back to the into the Dark podcast. I'm your host, Peyton Moreland. I'm so glad you are here and listening or watching to this week's episode. I am. Really, really. I mean it. I'm grateful you are here. Thank you. Thank you so much. Now, before we get into today's episode, I do need to tell everyone that Benjamin Franklin was not a U.S. president. Okay, moving on. Honestly, guys, I don't know if you could tell. Last week I was really feeling like I was on my deathbed. I don't know where I pulled out that Benjamin Franklin was a US President. I also was educated in one of the lowest rated educational states in America. So genuinely, if you asked me if I thought he was a president, I don't know. I don't know where that came from, but I'm guessing yes. Anyways, he's not a president. Everyone needs to stop saying he is. Okay, that was sarcastic, I guess. Yeah, that can be my 10 seconds is that I'm going to be studying US presidents. Not that I really care, to be honest, because I don't. But just so that I don't do that again, because a lot of you do care. So I am going to do better. Let's get into today's episode. Quick Trigger warning. This episode includes discussions of domestic violence, violence against a child, including murder and suicide. Please listen with care. I'm sure I'm not the only Person who loves to play this game. But sometimes I love to imagine what I would do if I won the lottery, if millions of dollars appeared in my bank account instantly. What would you do? I would love to honestly go on vacation, take glamorous, lovely vacations. I would love to, you know, pay off things for my family, get us all set up for the future. You know what I mean? But I know there are a lot of other people who would spend their winnings in other ways. Some would pay off debt or put it into a savings account. Others would send their children to the best schools, set up charitable organizations, or use the money to make a lot of their dreams come true. But there is one scenario that most people never think about and that is that winning the lottery could actually make your life worse. And I know it sounds ridiculous, but it happens sometimes after a windfall, people realize their so called friends aren't really friends at all. They just looking for a cut of the winnings. Or having money can change a person. It can make them more selfish, arrogant. We've all heard of people who let their success get to their heads. So it is not too hard to imagine that an otherwise nice person might become crueler after winning a lot of money. But today's episode is going to look at a situation that is even darker than that. So it all begins with a woman named Tiffany Hill. Now, Tiffany is one of those people who's always taking care of others. She is a huge animal lover who likes to make sure all of the cats and dogs in her neighborhood are fed and have access to shelter. Sometimes she'll be out walking around or driving and if she sees a stray, she'll stop and rescue it. Tiffany cannot bear the thought of an innocent animal being hurt or hungry or alone. But as much as she loves pets, Tiffany loves her children even more. In the 2000s, Tiffany is in her early 30s and she's a mother of four now. More importantly, she will do anything for her sons and daughters, even if that means making sacrifices and putting her own goals on hold. Tiffany is a great mom who wants to give her children the best life possible. And even when money is tight and she can't provide as much as she wants, she's still working hard, she's still making sacrifices, and she's always putting everyone else first. Tiffany and her long term boyfriend, John Donato live in Central California. This is not too far from San Francisco and Yosemite national park. And they're doing what they can to get by. But things aren't always easy, especially in 2020, during the height of the coronavirus lockdown. Like everyone else, Tiffany is dealing with a lot of stress and hardship during the pandemic. Money is tight. She's trying to support her kids with remote learning. She's nervous about getting sick, and on the worries go. And just like everyone else, she still needs to handle errands, buy food and cleaning supplies, and try to keep things feeling as normal as they can, especially for the sake of her kids, who are all pretty young. In 2020, the oldest is just 11. The next is nine. And then Tiffany has a seven year old and a one year old baby. She doesn't want them to feel the same anxiety and stress that she does, so she keeps bending over backward to try and keep everything feeling stable, happy, and good. And then on November 13, 2020, Tiffany's life changes forever. That day, she walks into a mini mart at the side of the highway near her hometown. She has errands to run. But while she's there, Tiffany decides to treat herself. And she buys a lottery ticket, specifically an instant prize crossword scratcher. Basically, this is like a combination of a typical scratch ticket and a word game. The ticket has a crossword puzzle on it, and as you scratch off certain letters to fill in the puzzle, you can uncover different prizes. And even if you don't win, at least you get the enjoyment of playing a game. And it's a way to kill a few minutes and distract yourself. But the odds are pretty good that you'll get some kind of reward when you play. But these scratchers have a grand prize of $2 million. Needless to say, the odds are about one in three that you'll win something with this kind of ticket, usually something small. And after she scratches off her specific ticket ticket, Tiffany sees this day that she's won. Except this scratcher isn't only awarding her another free ticket or a few bucks. Tiffany had actually instantly won the biggest, most valuable grand prize possible with this scratcher ticket, $2 million. Now, right away, Tiffany tells everyone she knows that in the blink of an eye, she has somehow become a millionaire. Her mother, sister, boyfriend, and children are all thrilled by this. Tiffany also gets her name and picture in the newspaper. The mini mart that sold her the ticket hangs a sign on their front door celebrating the big win. And the store also gets a prize of their own for being the place that sold the winning ticket. It's a huge deal and very exciting for everyone involved. But I am going to be honest here. The cost of living in California is very high. Those $2 million won't go as far there as they would in a lot of other states. It's not the kind of prize where you can just quit your job and retire and find a life of luxury. But it's still a life changing windfall for Tiffany. She doesn't need to spend the rest of her life traveling or attending fancy events. The important thing to her is that her lottery win gives her the resources she needs to to pursue some goals that she had been putting off. For example, for a while now, Tiffany has been dating the same man I told you about earlier, John. And John is actually a little more than a full decade older than Tiffany. He is in his early 40s and she is still in her 30s. The point is that now they have enough cash to afford a wedding and finally start building a life together. So that is exactly what they do. Just a few months after she receives her money, they make things official by getting married and using the money from the lottery to pay for it. Tiffany and John arrange the ceremony very quickly, but it's probably a simple and small wedding, kind of given the lockdowns that were happening in 2020. And then once they are officially married, they also start thinking seriously about where want to raise their family. After all, Tiffany and John now have some money to help buy a house, basically kind of anywhere. And this include areas with a lower cost of living where they can stretch the winnings and make them last longer. So the couple actually researches the best school districts, the neighborhoods with the lowest crime rates, and homes that are closest to parks and playgrounds. Basically they're hoping that they can give the children whatever kind of life they want and do what they can to make the best choice possible. And this is really valuable timing cuz like I said, the oldest is 11 years old. They're, you know, it's time to move and get settled in before starting middle school. The youngest, Leanne, is about to turn two, so she has her whole life ahead of her. And I also think it's worth mentioning that Jon is Leanne's biological father. But I'm not sure who the father of Tiffany's other three children are. I guess it could be him, but it might not be. The only one we know for sure is the youngest baby. My sources were actually pretty vague about the timing of when John and Tiffany actually got together. But the point is, is he's acting like a father figure now to all of the children. Since he and Tiffany are now married, he wants to have a say in where the kids will live, where they'll go to school and how Tiffany is going to use the lottery winnings. So after some discussion, Tiffany and John decide to move to a town in Oklahoma called Cholera. It's not too far from the Texas border and this community has a special connection to Tiffany. See, the house she wants to buy is on land that belongs to the Choctaw Nation. And Tiffany is part Choctaw. Meaning even though she's moving further away from her immediate family, she's actually going to be close to people who share her ethnic background. She'll be able to raise her children to learn more about this part of her heritage, and they can all connect with members of the nation. So it feels like the perfect place to put down roots and begin living a new Life. By early 2021, John and Tiffany buy the house and they move in. They set up a trampoline out front for the kids. Plus they now have a big yard where everyone can play or garden or do whatever they want and is basically everything Tiffany has ever dreamed of. Except as soon as she gets settled in in Oklahoma, Tiffany starts having problems. And there aren't very many people for her to discuss them with because she doesn't know many people in her new hometown. Instead, she can only open up to her mother when they talk on the phone or on video calls. And the statements that she's making to her mother are disturbing. This episode is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. Fiscally responsible financial geniuses, monetary magicians. 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Before the wedding, before the lottery winning, he never seemed capable of aggression or abuse. But now that they're married and living far away from everyone Tiffany knows, she says John has changed. He yells, he makes threatening comments, and he also has begun physically attacking Tiffany when he's angry at her, which she claims is a lot of the time because as soon as he and Tiffany moved to Oklahoma, he suddenly became a lot more irritable and prone to outbursts. He begins picking fights with her all the time. And it's always about the same thing, money. Which is kind of surprising now that Tiffany has a little bit of a net. You know, you would think that money wouldn't be a huge topic. But Tiffany tells her mother that she and John find themselves fighting over budgets, savings, long term investments and everything else. She says it's almost like John feels entitled to her lottery winnings. If Tiffany makes a decision he doesn't like, he flies into a fury. And when he's angry, John is scary and aggressive. She says it's getting to a point where she feels genuinely worried about her safety. And this is everything she's telling her mom over the phone, emails, whatever. So Tiffany and her mother actually begin making a plan. They want to figure out exactly how Tiffany can get herself and her children away from John and ensure that he won't track them down. Now, it's possible. Some people hear that and think, wait, why does she need a plan? Why can't she just leave? Well, the answer is that it's complicated and it can be very difficult and dangerous to leave an abusive partner. I mean, add into the fact that you they just got married, she just moved here, this is a really big deal to then turn around in reverse. You've probably heard this statistic before, especially if you follow a lot of true crime. But when it comes to domestic violence, the most dangerous point in any relationship is when someone tries to leave their partner. That is when the abuser is more likely to escalate their aggression. And that's also when most murders happen in dv. And this is because at its core, abuse is about control. The violent partner, usually a boyfriend or a husband, wants to have their significant other completely under their thumb. And do notice. I said usually, not always, but usually a boyfriend or a husband and they want to dictate what their partner gets to do. Say, think, wear, feel. Basically they want to be in charge at all costs. And when an abuser's girlfriend or wife tries to end things, that means that his control is slipping or vice versa. Many abusers in this situation will do anything to punish their victim or stop them from getting away, including taking a life. And here are some other statistics that just they drive home how dangerous this situation can be. Three out of four homicides related to domestic abuse happen during or after a breakup. 3 out of 4. How many true crime cases have you heard where a spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend murders their partner? How many more have you never heard about because they didn't become big news? And out of all of those crimes, which is approximately 51,000 intimate partner murders a year, 75% of them happen when the person is trying to leave. That works out to 140 people who are killed by their partner every day or one every 10 minutes, majority being women. Again, I want to acknowledge that women can be abusers too. Men can be victims. I'm not trying to ignore that the violence can go the other way or that it exists in same sex relationships, but statistically speaking, it's incredibly common for men to abuse women and to lash out when the woman tries to leave. Again, this is statistics. Don't come at me. Even if the abuser doesn't murder his soon to be ex, he might intimidate her or hurt her in other ways. I mean, stalking, physical assaults, threats, harassment, the list goes on. In fact, even if you set aside all of the murder cases, the evidence says intimate partner violence gets worse after a breakup in about three out of four cases. Meaning a partner who used to be only verbally abusive could become physically abusive after the ex leaves or Mild physical abuse could become more severe and life threatening. Experts say these escalations can last for something like 18 months, up to two years on average. And this is why leaving, just leaving isn't as easy as everyone makes it seem. There's no quick or easy way to get away, and it's extremely dangerous. And that's all before we think about the challenges when children are involved because violent partners can threaten the kids. Fight for custody, find other ways to make it difficult to. For all of those reasons, it's sadly very common for women to feel like it's safer to stay in a dangerous relationship just to avoid making her partner angry, or to feel like she can't leave without a plan just to ensure that he doesn't track her down, that he doesn't try to ruin her life. And this is becoming the case for Tiffany, too. She feels like she can't just pack a bag and walk out the door. There's too much risk. So John might take it badly, target the kids, or find some other way to make the situation much worse. Also, you can't really just walk out with kids when you're married to someone that you technically can get in trouble. So Tiffany needs to figure out exactly how to leave, where to go, and tools that she has to protect herself. Which is why she spends months talking things over with her mom, coming up with a plan. And by the summer of 2021, roughly six months after her wedding, give or take, this plan is set. Tiffany is 31 years old by this point. She's hired a lawyer, she has her financial affairs in order. She's almost ready to get away. She also does a very good job of keeping the details a secret so 42 year old John can't figure out what she's thinking and try to stop her. In fact, she's so good at keeping her plans to herself that I don't even know what exactly she intends to do. The only person who knows the full truth is Tiffany's mother, who hasn't exactly described the details publicly. However, she has told reporters that she wants people to know there was a plan in place. Tiffany is ready to leave John. Sadly, she doesn't tell anyone in her community what's about to happen. In fact, in Oklahoma, there's actually a lot of shelters and other organizations that are designed to help women escape these kinds of situations. Maybe she doesn't even know that these resources are available. The point is, Tiffany is not going through professionals in Oklahoma for safety. She's planned this all out with her mom and Everything is kept secret, and this might be setting her up for a disaster, but it's hard to know for sure because there are a lot of unknowns around this next part of Tiffany's story. I'm gonna cover the facts I do know and then go back in and fill, you know, the rest in with speculation and theories that exist. So to start, Tiffany is home with John on Friday, July 30, 2021. The entire family is staying in. The older kids are quietly playing, watching TV, you know, doing chores. And as a reminder, they're 11, 9, and 7, so they are old enough to keep themselves entertained. The obvious exception is Leanne, the youngest, who's now almost two years old. She's just one month shy of her second birthday. She's obviously still too young to be left alone for long periods of time. So she's in the room with Tiffany and John, who on this specific night are having an argument, although to this day, nobody's entirely sure what they were fighting about. The information hasn't made it to the press, and no one has spoken about it publicly. But here's what I do know. At 5 o' clock that evening, a 911 call comes through urging the police to come to Tiffany's house. Once again, I don't know who placed this call. I don't know what they told the dispatcher, but I do know everyone responds. Police, ambulances, and even FBI agents respond to this 911 call. And this is because Tiffany's house, as I mentioned before, is on Choctaw territory. The way that the laws are written, the FBI has to be involved in any investigations of violent crimes that happen on indigenous land. And whatever the caller says, it's enough for the FBI to realize a violent crime has been committed. So they rush to the scene along with everyone else. And when these first responders reach the address, they open the door and they walk into a scene of carnage. Tiffany and John are both dead. They have bullet holes in their heads. Baby Leanne has also been shot in the head. She's alive, but she's in bad condition. The medics immediately have her life flighted to a hospital in Texas for emergency treatment. Now, the good news is, is the other three children who were all, like, together and alone in the house, are okay. None of them were shot or physically hurt in any way, but they were all home at the time of this shooting. So they're able to tell the police what they heard and saw. And again, most of these details are confidential, which makes sense is that I'd Imagine the authorities want to protect these young children and their privacy. Totally valid. But based on their statements and the ballistic evidence, the police are able to piece together a theory about what happened. All right, you guys, I'm getting into an ad and let's talk about shopping for clothes. It is not as easy or as fun as it sounds. You just want to feel confident in your clothes, but it's hard to know where to shop, what to get. 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Things took a turn. And while I don't know exactly how the conversation went, I do know that things escalated very rapidly and in a very frightening way. Police can speculate maybe that Tiffany revealed that she was planning to leave or she said something else to Jon about the marriage. The point is, he flew into a violent rage, and that's when he decided to draw his gun and shoot both Tiffany and baby Leanne. Yeah. Perhaps he did this to try and punish Tiffany, to hurt her even more in the moment. Or he's just trying to get rid of everyone. Nobody can say for sure what he was thinking, only that this is horrible. Like, absolutely horrific. Obviously, the police believe this was a crime of passion. They think that John did this and then took his own life. It wasn't premeditated, but it almost didn't matter what John intended to do, because the truth is, Tiffany is dead immediately from her wound at just 31 years old. And like I mentioned before, Leann was incredibly hurt. Enough so that John probably had doubts about whether she'd survive the injury. Safe to assume that, like I said, as soon as he was, you know, he'd realized what had happened. I don't know if he was filled with regret or rage or what was going on. Maybe he just didn't want to face everything that had happened. He chose in that moment to take his own life rather than face the consequences of shooting his wife and his daughter, which is why he's also found dead at the house. Obviously, thank goodness he didn't go full family annihilator and target the other children who were home. However, investigators say it's likely that they all heard the murder, suicide, maybe even have seen it. Maybe one or two of them had seen it. So even though they've survived, I mean, you have to realize that these children have to cope with the trauma. Sure, they weren't physically harmed, but they're emotional wounds. And as for Leanne, who was badly hurt but still alive, she spends the entire weekend in the hospital, and by the following Monday, she sadly loses the battle and succumbs to her injuries. And Leanne dies at the young age of just 23 months old, making her the third fatality and John's final victim. Now, with Tiffany, John, and Leanne all dead, the other children are now orphans. Luckily, Tiffany's surviving family members step up. They help raise the kids. They bring the children back to California, where they can grow up alongside their grandmother, their aunt, their cousins. But Then they run into a whole new problem. When Tiffany died, she didn't have a will. And given that she was just 31 years old and healthy, she may not have really realized that she even needed one. But now that she's gone, nobody's sure what to do with all of the money. Legally, a bunch of lawyers get involved to sort everything out. And in the meanwhile, Tiffany's children and other relatives can't access this. So even though Tiffany still has a lot of lottery winnings, her relatives can't even afford to cover her funeral costs. And they try to raise $30,000 for Tiffany and Leigh Ann to be laid to rest. Except the fundraiser does not meet its goal. It only receives $5,000 in donation. Now, the good news is the family eventually does get access to Tiffany's lottery money, but they don't use it to cover those burial expenses. Instead, her relatives actually set up a trust fund for her surviving children. So they'll be able to be a little bit comfortable, more comfortable once they're adults. And in the meanwhile, her relatives also become public advocates for other women. Just like Tiffany, her loved ones go to the press about domestic violence, which, sadly, is a complex issue, and there's no easy answers when it comes to abuse. Yeah, Tiffany had a plan to leave. She didn't feel safe. She fell victim, became a statistic. Like I mentioned before, leaving is the most dangerous part. Her relatives want to ensure that nobody else becomes another statistic. And I don't want to make it sound like it's hopeless or like anyone should feel obligated to stay with their abuser for their own safety. If someone does make that decision, of course we respect it. Usually the woman in her relationship understands her situation better than anyone outside of it. And if she decides that it is the safest course of action for her to stay, then that is a reasonable conclusion for her to reach. But if someone does want to get out, they deserve to know that there are professionals who can help them leave their partner in a safer way. Now, after Tiffany's death, her mother makes several statements through a lawyer. She says, quote, there are resources that people don't reach out for. I hope somebody's listening and will think, this could be me next. This could be me and my child. So before I wrap up, I want to say if you or someone you know are in this kind of situation, there are people who are willing to help. There are probably local organizations in your neighborhood, or you can call the National Abuse Hotline. The phone number is 1-800-799-7233, or you can even visit their website, which is the hotline.org that number and URL will put you in touch with someone who you can talk to about your situation. There will be no judgment, and they know the path forward, the resources. There is help out there. And it's so tragic that Tiffany never accessed this before she lost her life, that she felt she had to do it on her own. And she died violently, trapped in circumstances she couldn't have predicted. She probably never imagined John would become abusive or even kill her and her child. And it's impossible to say why exactly he changed. Some people have speculated that Tiffany's lottery winnings were just too tempting for him. It, you know, tested his ego. He felt inferior. He became greedy. He didn't want her to be better than him. So his behavior started changing. He was yelling at her, hitting her, and then ultimately killed her. That may be true, but I think it's worth remembering something I said before, and it's. At its core, domestic violence is about control. Good people don't suddenly hurt their partners just because they're tempted to get some money or because their lifestyle has changed. Abusers do what they do because they feel a need to dominate another person. They want to be in charge. They don't respect other people's right to live their own lives, and it's typically an insecurity problem. I don't think the lottery winning suddenly turned John into a killer. I think that he might have always had these traits. And then the lottery winnings triggered it within him. Tiffany had more financial freedom, so they moved away from her family, they got married, and the power dynamic shifted. Ego is a wild thing and controls so much of everyone's lives. I wish things could have been different for Tiffany and Leann. So please take today after you're listening to this, to just think of her, her remaining kids, her family, everyone who was a victim in this case besides Leanne and Tiffany. And I will see you next time as we go further into the dark together. Goodbye. Hi, I'm Tamsen Fadal, journalist and author of how to Menopause and host of the Tamsen Show, a weekly podcast with your roadmap to midlife and beyond. We cover it all, from dating to divorce, aging to adhd, sleep to sex, brain health to body fat, and even how perimenopause can affect your relationships. And trust me, it can. Each week, I sit down with doctors, experts, and leaders in longevity for unfiltered conversations packed with advice on everything from hormones to happiness and of course. How to stay sane during what can be. Well, let's face it, a pretty chaotic chapter of life. 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