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If you've been trying to feel more confident for years and it's still not there, this will change that. I'm going to give you the thing I wish someone had handed me 10 years ago when I had the revenue, the family, and every box on the paper ticked and I was still walking into rooms feeling like I did not belong there. By the end of this video, you'll learn the real reason. Confidence has felt impossible even with all your wins. The question that flips everything the second you ask it, and a move you can make before this video ends that will compound for the next six months, starting with the jail you didn't know you built for yourself. Hey, it's Renee. And welcome to into the Wild Point number one, the jail of permission. You're not broken, you're not behind. You've just been solving the wrong problem. The problem isn't confidence. It's the jail you're living in, built from other people's expectations you never agreed to and. But you keep defending the walls. Are the questions you keep asking yourself like, am I ready? Am I qualified? Who do I think I am? That's not a question, it's a request for permission. Permission isn't coming because it was never going to come from the outside. It's always from within. When you're asking for permission, essentially you're just allowing yourself to live the life that somebody else wants of you. And it keeps you safe, it keeps you comfortable. Here's the reframe that will open this up for you. Point two, the becoming belief. You've been chasing confidence, but what you actually need is conviction. Confidence is a feeling. Conviction is a decision, and the decision is yours. Confidence is built on proof, on wins, on enough external validation that you finally feel it. Conviction is built on who you are, not what you've done. One is chasing a feeling, the other is claiming an identity. Mornings were always so hard for me when the boys were little. My boys are 11 months apart. It was always the last minute, packing their school bags, getting their water bottles ready and trying to get to the bus stop because I had this silly promise that I was never going to let my kids miss the school bus because then I thought my whole day would be ruined. And so every morning there was so much pressure to get out the door on time because the bus isn't going to wait. And I would just be sitting in the car honking the horn, saying, let's go, boys. Get in. I was so angry and so grumpy all, all the time. Can you imagine what this was like for my kids. And I remember one day I was just fuming and I was just holding onto the steering wheel and I was saying to myself, renee, who do I have to become to be the woman that can deal with this every single morning? And I did that over and over again every morning to the point. Now, guess what? It's not a battle. We get beautiful, smooth mornings. The boys are older, they're a little trained, we got systems in place. But I just told myself in those moments, this isn't right. This isn't fair to them. It's not fair to me. Not a great way to start the day. The work here is internal and you can do it right now. Write down the old question you've been asking yourself about the move you keep not making. Rewrite it as, who do I have to become to do this? And am I willing to be her? Answer it honestly, not strategically. And that's where it starts. Not in the winds, but in the willingness. And if you want the 30 day plan that turns this shift into a daily practice, come find me on Instagram at reneewarren. Follow me and direct message me the letters CC and I'll send you the confidence code. It's the unapologetic guide to your dream life in 30 days, built on three moves. Claim it. Build evidence, create accountability. And here's why that combination matters. Research from Dr. Gail Matthews at Dominican University showed that women are 76% of more likely to hit their goals when they write them down, when they share them out loud and they check in on progress with someone who's actually rooting for them. That's literally what this workbook walks you through. It's free. Just send me CC on Instagram nwarren. But here's what I need to warn you about. Point 3. Educated stuck conscious awareness is the trap that you're in right now. There's a floor between knowing and becoming. Most women live there for years. The women that are stuck and they know they're stuck and they're not taking any action, are comfortable. They understand there's a way out. They understand there's more to their life and they just don't know what to do. Maybe they take a first step, they take a little action and then people start talking and then they retreat back to their comfortable life. I know this feeling all too much. I know the feeling of being exposed, of people disagreeing with me or thinking my dream is too much. And it really made me think about it. It made me come back to my reality and be like this is good enough. Why would I want more? And I think the women that are at this point in their lives where they have the confidence to go and do the thing, but they don't. This is what they're experiencing. Stay with me here for a second. Name one thing you've understood about yourself for longer than a year that hasn't actually changed. Ask yourself, have you been collecting evidence or have you been avoiding action? Collecting evidence could mean many things, like wins, some of the stuff that you've achieved. But for a lot of people, that could be just buying another course, subscribing to the other thing, thinking that the more you know, the more that will give you permission to keep going or to start the damn thing or do whatever it is you want to do. That's just procrastination. You think you need to know more to actually do more, which is the biggest lie. And the confidence doesn't come from learning more. It actually comes from in the doing. Kind of like in the movie Catch Me if youf can with Leonardo DiCaprio, when they actually catch him, and he was a sociology professor. They asked him, how'd you do that? And his response was, I just needed to be one chapter ahead. And that's the truth. In life, you don't have to know the whole thing. You don't have to see the whole staircase. You just need to take the first step. And everything else reveals itself as you go. So how do you actually move? You walk into what I call point four, the the trial room. Clarity isn't a vision board. It's a trial room. Every belief, every yes, every promise, every decision you've been carrying around like it's yours, laid out and examined. The question isn't, is this working? The question is, is this mine or did I inherit it? The scariest part of this work isn't walking away from what's broken. It's walking away from what's working when it's no longer true to who you're becoming. Walking away from something that's working takes more conviction than starting something new ever does. I started a successful PR agency, and I had clients from South Africa to San Diego. We were known as one of the top PR companies that worked with funded technology companies. We were super profitable, had a great team, so dialed in. The problem was that the year I started that I also had both my babies at the same time. So I was not only a new mother, but I was running a company that, get this, I had never done PR a day in my life. So much imposter syndrome, sitting around. So I was sitting with this most uncomfortable truth about myself, knowing that I don't like this work. I don't even want to do this for somebody else and get paid a big paycheck. But the part that stuck with me was that I built out such a great reputation in the industry. Who was I to shut this thing down? Who was I to walk away from something that was so good that I'd built, that I came recognized for that? The city skills were so easy. The confidence on the other side of that decision wasn't because I'd proved anything to anyone. It was because I finally stopped performing and started listening to myself. The bravest thing I've ever done wasn't building something. It was being honest about who I am without needing anyone to approve of it. So this is the part. Think of it like a courtroom. You have the evidence. You're sitting here in the trial room kind of defending yourself. You're defending why you need to be let out of your own jail. And this is the part that's really, really tough because you're going against partners and friends and family and industry expectations. And you're like, but, no, I don't want to do this anymore. And here's why. And a lot of people, this is where they fail. They fail because this is where you actually have to speak up for yourself. This is where you're actually taking the action. It's the toughest part. Here's the thing about growth, and here's the thing about proving that you want to pursue something that's beyond what other people expected of you is that people are going to say stuff and it's going to hurt. And those comments come in and the eye rolls come in, and even you start doubting yourself. But you get past this point, it is like the most beautiful unfolding of what you can build and what you can do. So pick one thing in your life or business that looks right on paper but feels heavy to carry. Put it on trial. Ask yourself where it actually came from. Is this what I want? Or is this what I was told to want? And then ask yourself, if you were building your life from scratch today, knowing who you are now, would you still choose this? If the answer is no, that's not a problem, that's a prompt. Your next move is to stop defending it and start deciding what you want instead. And once you're in, here's where it gets. Good point five built in the reps. Now we're at the level everyone thinks they need to Start at confidence. Confidence doesn't arrive in a breakthrough. It gets built in the reps. The woman you want to be isn't waiting on the other side of some transformation. She's being built right now. In the moves you keep or break, every promise you keep to yourself is a deposit. Every one you break is a withdrawal. You already know what the move is, and you won't feel ready. That's exactly the point. When I first did the inaugural Pink skirt summit in 2025, my heart was set on a specific location. And as we were negotiating, I looked around and I said, how many people actually fit into this room, theater style? And the lady said, three hundred and fifty. And so I said, okay, well, that's how many tickets I'm going to sell, because why not? Why not fill the room? Little did I know, not many people do this. And most people, when they do their first event, they don't even make profit. They might even break even. Who knows? Not only did we fill the room, we blew the roof off the room with the energy. We were highly profitable. And the confidence of doing that, of accomplishing that day, it didn't show up before. It didn't show up as the doors were opening. It showed up in every minute. As the day progressed and we got to the end of the day, I remember this moment. A girlfriend came up to me and said, renee, this was amazing. How do you feel? And my feeling was like, it went exactly as I expected. And yes, I was proud of myself and proud of my team, but the feeling was really in. I just did this. Now my confidence is at a new standard. And when you get to this and you've accomplished something, and sure, there was, like, other failures on the way, you create a new standard of your own confidence, and then you can build on that and do bigger and bolder things. I never would have done this event had I known all of the hiccups that could happen in doing something like this. But at the end of the day, it was the most magical thing I've ever done. This is where it stops being theory and starts being. You. Name the bold move you've been avoiding, the one you're thinking about right now. Shrink it to something you can do in the next 60 minutes. Do it before you do anything else today and tomorrow. Do another one and then another. You see, confidence is built in the reps, in the actual doing, in the taking the baby step, in the figuring it out as you go. And I promise you this, six months from now, you'll look up and you'll realize you stopped asking if you were ready because you became the woman who doesn't wait for permission. And that's where the whole thing lands.6 Rich Girl Energy Rich Girl energy isn't about buying the Birkin or the Chanel. It's the quiet knowing that you belong wherever you walk into. The women who feel most confident aren't the ones with the most proof. They're the ones who stopped waiting for it. No proving, no performing. No permission seeking. Abundance over scarcity. Worth over waiting. You're in a category of one. It's so important for you to step into your version of rich girl energy because it's the apex of believing that you deserve it. It is the knowing that you're worthy of it. And it's also understanding that the more you believe in abundance, the more that you can give back too. Because I know there's a lot of people that are really standoffish about the idea of like, rich girl energy. It's really about if you actually open yourself up to receiving all of the incredible possibilities and opportunities that can come your way, you can give that back. It's about, sure, having the nice things and feeling like you deserve it, but also realizing that you deserve the opportunities, deserve the people that work with you, deserve the house you live in, the kids you have, the puppy you might be getting. You're already on this journey. You're here now. You believe in everything that I've just taught you, but you're still scared you won't do it. Or maybe you'll hesitate. And here's why you you're scared. It's because you care. You care so much, but you can't grow. You can't attract abundance without the failure. You can't attract the abundance without being uncomfortable. The most successful women I know are uncomfortable every single day. They get so used to it that it becomes the norm and it actually fuels them. See, confidence was never the goal. Conviction was. You don't need more proof. You need to stop waiting for it. The woman you're becoming is already in motion. What? One bold move at a time. Leave a comment below. What's one place you've been asking for permission you never needed? And if you're ready to turn this into a 30 day practice, come find me on Instagram reneewarren follow me and DM me CC and I'll send you the confidence code. It's free. Wait. Before you go to support this show, please rate and review and share it with your business besties. It means the world to me to get this message in front of more women who are also on the pursuit of greatness. Tune in wherever you subscribe to podcasts, watch us on YouTube and follow me on Instagram. Reneewarren this show is produced in partnership with Martell Media.