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Jennifer Welch
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Jennifer Welch
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Angie
Ready? One, two, three.
Jennifer Welch
Patriots Gay Trots Theatriots. I mean, it's so good. You just got it nailed down. And I also see people in the comment section saying I'm a black trio, which I love that.
Angie
Oh, that's great. Welcome.
Jennifer Welch
That is such a good addition. And I think in Trump's America, this Top DEI podcast, we are going to stand triple, quadruple to infinity with all of these marginalized people, minorities that this administration seeks to minimize and ridicule and be dismissive of. It's so gross.
Angie
Well, and it's so important for us to all band together because at the end of the day, none of us are white males. That's true.
Jennifer Welch
That's a good Point. None of it. Well, Seth is one of our producers. Right.
Angie
But he's not a billionaire, so sorry, you're out.
Jennifer Welch
I want to say this about white males, because whenever we beat up on them, I see in the comment section there's a lot of white men.
Angie
That's true.
Jennifer Welch
That watch our podcast or listen to our podcast that fight the good fight and have always fought the good fight and are feminists. Their masculinity isn't threatened by a drag queen. Their masculinity isn't threatened by gay people. And so there's a lot. We're just. I'm focused. These MAGA people. I mean, that's just my focus. All right, Pumps, what have you had it with? Okay.
Angie
What I've had it with, and this happened to me twice last week, and it grosses me out so bad, is Personal Space Invaders. People who get so close to you can feel their breath on your face when they talk. And I'm just like, I don't have to feel your breath on my face for me to hear you. It is way too close. I don't know if it's a lack of ability to gauge social cues, but when I'm up against the wall, like, trying to get away from you, why are you still in my face? What do you think it is?
Jennifer Welch
I think people lack self awareness immensely. I was involved in a conversation the other day, and I kept giving closing statements to this woman. Great to see you. Right. And then she would take a step closer in and ask me a brand new question. This is somebody I don't really know. It's like a. At the pickleball courts, like, oh, hey, we always play at the same time. Right. And she'd take a step in and then ask me an even more personal question. I would take a step back, answer the question in as few words as I could possibly pick, and then use another closing statement. Again, it's just so good to see you. And I would start to, you know, guide my body language in a different way. And another step in, another attack. And it's just. I think I've gotten to the place where I don't like personal Space Invaders or conversations or people at large. Exactly.
Angie
Just the whole. It's the whole human race now on a case by case basis.
Jennifer Welch
Well, mine's adjacent to yours. And what we're talking about are basically boundaries. A personal space invader is a boundary violator. And I have to bring this up again. Pumps and I were talking about it before we came on air, and she said, you have to talk about it again for our longtime listeners. You're going to know this grievance of mine, but it's, it's been reignited. And I'm even more angry. Or is it angrier? I'm even angry.
Angie
Angrier.
Jennifer Welch
I'm even angrier now than I have been about it in the past. So this building that we're in right now, I have my interior design studio downstairs, the podcast studio upstairs. This is not a retail space. It is an office space. A private office space. I don't sell riff raffs or knickknacks. You can't just walk in here on your own. You can't do it. So when I first bought the building, I didn't have any signage on the door directly. Only, like, up on the side of the building. People would walk in and go, I'm looking for the spa. I'm looking for the Botox place. I'm looking for my lawyer. I'm looking for my stockbroker. And so we were just guiding people. You know, you were a tourist, you know, like, yeah, so I'd had it with that. So I call the sign people and like, can you please put up Jennifer Welch interior design on the door so that when people get to the door, they see that it's my business. In case they miss the large sign on the building, they put that up. Absolutely zero movement in the ambush attacks on this space. So then I escalate, and I have a printed sign from a computer. And the aesthetics of this really bother me, but I'm desperate, right? So it says stop in bold and cap locks with exclamation points in red font.
Angie
I was just gonna say it's important to remember this is bright red font.
Jennifer Welch
And these letters that say stop. You guys are 4 inches. 1s is 4 inches long. Stop. Do not enter. This is Jennifer Welch Designs. Open by appointment only. And then at the end, it says stop again with more exclamation points. So after instituting this two pronged attack on the door protection, these boundaries, I still get stragglers. Oh, I'm looking for the spa. I have a facial today. And I, I, I get so triggered when somebody walks in the door. Because in my mind, I'm like, you see that? It says Jennifer Welch Designs. You see a sign that says stop. You see a sign that tells you the name of the business. Do not enter. And then to stop again. And just 48 hours ago, we're up here and I hear some idle chit chat downstairs. Somebody comes barreling through the door. As loud as all get out that has arrived at Jennifer Welch design slash I've had it podcast recording studios for their Botox. She's screaming at the top of her lungs, I'm looking for the Botox clinic. And I'm sitting up here and I am just getting madder and madder and madder because I'm going through just the sense of entitlement and that this woman thinks the rules don't apply to her, that she can just enter regardless of it saying stop. She knows she doesn't have an interior design appointment. She knows she's not a guest on the podcast. Why the did she open the door and come in here and then act like we're the when we're not the Botox spa? And I'm telling you guys, the stupidity of people that think the entire world is designed for them, for everybody in it to assist them, that they can't self troubleshoot. It's staggering. And it all starts at that door to my office and it makes me so goddamn mad. I've called a tech person and I'm going to get a lock installed on that door with a camera and a buzzer system and fob locks. I'm going to put an end to it once and for all because I do not want this riff raffle coming in here for their Botox or for their facial or to meet with their goddamn lawyer. Mosey. And in asking us questions that we don't want to answer, that they could have answered themselves if they would have read the sign before they walked in the door. I have had it with this. And so I am, I'm telling you, I'm going to put a kryptonite style lock on that door, okay?
Angie
So I have to set the scene for y'all so sitting here and she goes, is somebody here? And I was like, yeah, it sounds like somebody's here. Sometimes it might be like the UPS guy or whatever. And all I hear is Botox. This woman to my right, her head spins 360 degrees around her ass is out of that chair. She's like, they fucking came in that office. They should have seen the sign. I mean, she is so mad. Of course. All I can do is bust out laughing because she is madder than Hornet. And I mean, this happened 48 hours ago. I was still mad driving in today and I got so tickled because she was so mad. I mean, it was. And this has been an ongoing grievance. This is like a thousand little paper cuts.
Jennifer Welch
It is, but it was.
Angie
I mean, your Reaction. It was like, remember that time on the plane? I said, jenny's going to blow, and sure enough, you blew.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah.
Angie
You were this close to going down and having her arrested for trespass.
Jennifer Welch
Let's. Let's think about the psychology of this, though. This is what I think about. Okay? The sign says that it's not a Botox spa, that it's not a lawyer's office, that it's not a spa that you can get a facial in, that it's not your stockbroker's office. Right. It says, jennifer Welch, interior design. That's not enough for these fuckers. So then I have to print a very unaesthetic sign, goes against everything, tape it to the door, and use large, red, tacky font with exclamation points in bold print. This person sees both of those things because I have the printed sign at eye level, which part of my interior design training is to do that, hang stuff at eye level. So I have that thing hung at eye level. And despite both of these warning signs, the entitlement to still waltz in and scream at the top of your lungs when it says by appointment only. And. And it's not just her. It's been a. A parade of people. And I'm going to go on the permanent record and state the following. I'm 100% sure they're all MAGA.
Angie
100%.
Jennifer Welch
I'm sure that they host gender reveal parties.
Angie
Yes.
Jennifer Welch
I'm sure that they're very active on Facebook, of course. And there's no question, had I gone downstairs to see this person with my own eyes, she would have had a Stanley cup in her hand and probably one of those Stanley Cups with a little snack attachment for a bunch of. Just on there, like a Stanley cup purse. And here's the thing. Like, this might not seem like that big of a deal, and everybody's like, oh, my God, I can't believe y'all are talking about this petty stuff. When democracy's on fire and we can walk and chew gum at the same time, we can bitch about Trump as we do on our other podcast three times a day. But I think that this Trumpism has exacerbated my frustration with people who cannot read and understand basic facts. I think that her inability to deduce that this wasn't the Botox spa is right in line with maga, thinking, well.
Angie
Obviously there's no accountability in maga. So she walks in here, she doesn't give a shit. She.
Jennifer Welch
She immediately denied the fact it said, stop. Do not enter. Jennifer Welch Designs by appointment only. Fact, fact, fact, fact. Disregards all the facts. And Waltz is right on in here for us to inject her with Botox. And that. That's breathtaking stupidity.
Angie
Yeah, it's a lot of things. Lack of self awareness, entitlement, stupidity.
Jennifer Welch
What I mean, failure to acknowledge boundaries, failure to acknowledge facts, failure to read, failure to comprehend what you're reading. Failure to follow instructions, failure to follow rules. Failure to be a decent person. Failure to be an adult. An absolute abject failure. These. These fucking people are. I wish I had a list of every single one of them. You guys, one time we were on the Today show and in the elevator at 30 Rock, they have pictures of people that are not allowed in the building. Do you remember that? So it was like, this person's a psycho and he's stalking a person that works in the building. And there's like 10 pictures. I think what I'm going to do now until I get the lock installed is I'm going to. Kylie, Seth, Adriana, you're me. Whoever comes in, I'm saying. Hang on one second before I answer your question, get a photograph of them and then we'll start posting their pictures. Because if I'm going to not have any aesthetic on the front door, it's just going to look like a goddamn flea market. Let's just go all chips in. So I'll take her picture. What's your name? Jane Doe. And then I'll print it up and I'll put, this moron can't read, therefore she's not allowed to come in this building. And I'll just start publicly shaming them.
Angie
How about people that are not smart enough to enter this building that, like.
Jennifer Welch
Exactly.
Angie
Yeah.
Jennifer Welch
Are too entitled to enter the building? I just would never in 10 trillion years enter into a space that said, stop. Do not enter.
Angie
Here's the thing about it. I used to think that I would, but with the, you know, I would just go in. Like, if I'm not paying attention, I just looked up and I wasn't paying attention where I was going. I would look in the building, but I also think the eye level would catch me. Like, my hand might be on the door.
Jennifer Welch
It's right by the door. It says stop.
Angie
Bright red.
Jennifer Welch
Right where your hand. It's in the sight line where your hand goes and grabs the handle to the door. Yeah. You cannot. It's a possibility that you don't see the word stop. Do not enter.
Angie
Right.
Jennifer Welch
By design. So the people that have entered here are the dumbest motherfuckers this city has.
Angie
To offer and that.
Jennifer Welch
And I'm putting my friends a low bar. I'm putting an end to it.
Angie
Yeah. So are we going to have, like, face ID to get in the building now?
Jennifer Welch
I'm kind of excited about it. Whatever is the most aggressive form of security I can have for that door is what I'm ordering.
Angie
Okay.
Jennifer Welch
Good. Fingerprint Iris something. I don't know what it is, but I. I can't take it anymore. I can't. And the dogs used to come up here, and then the dogs would go bananas, you know? And then I got in a fight with that one lady that one time, and it just. It brings out the worst in me, but it.
Angie
It brings out. I get so tickled.
Jennifer Welch
I know.
Angie
I mean, it makes me laugh so hard.
Jennifer Welch
I know. I'm here to entertain.
Angie
That's right. You're here for my pleasure.
Jennifer Welch
Okay. Welcome to I've had it. I'm Jennifer.
Angie
I'm Angie hbic, head Beaver in Charge.
Jennifer Welch
America's top DEI podcast coming at you right now. Do not come to our building. Do not come here. Do not sit with us. Do not come to this building. Kylie.
Kylie
Hi.
Jennifer Welch
Hi. What do you have today?
Kylie
First off, I want to say the lady yesterday.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah.
Kylie
I can still see her in my head. If we want to do, like, a sketch artist.
Jennifer Welch
Oh, I like that.
Kylie
I know exactly what she looks like.
Angie
And then we could find her.
Jennifer Welch
Let me ask you, the media, did she seem like she was an idiot?
Kylie
100%. She also was, like you said, mad at me and, like, I owed her instructions and to walk her to the building she's looking for.
Jennifer Welch
That's. That's. Yes. This is why I'm so irritated, because when I'm downstairs and they come in, I go to the door and I say, it's around the corner. This is an interior design studio. We're open by appointment. And then they are mad at me, and they're like, well, where is it? Around the corner? And I'm like, you just walk around the corner? It's not this building. Well, what do you mean? Is it right? Like, right behind you? And they. They're argumentative and act like you're the asshole people that violate that type of boundary that's put on a door that come in. She's, look, they're provocateurs. They are. These are January Sixers. This is my January 6th right here. Yeah, they're coming in. They're invading. And like, Kylie said, thank God I wasn't down there, because I. Oh, it.
Angie
Would have been over. I mean, you.
Jennifer Welch
Because, I mean, I think if she would have been. How am I the fucking asshole? When you didn't read the sign and you come in here and you think we're supposed to stop our work to escort you to your Botox appointment, you entitled twat. That's what I would say to her. Do you know how happy that would have made? Yeah, I'll let you do it like Instagram Live if it happens before the lot comes.
Angie
Oh, okay. I can just perch up there and wait.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah, you can just sit at the front desk.
Angie
I could hire somebody to do it.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah, well, they're gonna get it. They're gonna get it, but it has to be real. It has to be authentic.
Angie
Yeah. It's not a trend.
Jennifer Welch
All right, Kylie.
Kylie
Okay, I've got some reviews for you today. This one is five stars, titled Get Better Soon. And she writes, I think it's time we all send DJT and his entire cabinet Get Better soon cards. Not because they're sick, but because they need to get better at their motherfucking job and soon. Thank you both for being the unfiltered therapy we didn't have to copay for.
Angie
I think she's too generous.
Jennifer Welch
I do, too. I do not think that they can get better at their jobs. I don't think it's possible, because I think if you look at what the point of their job is, which is to propagandize the public and dismantle democracy, they're really quite good at that, right?
Angie
Keeping their lips firmly on Trump's ass. They're good at that, too. Leaking war plans. They're great at that. So I think. Yeah, I think she's too generous. Although I love the co therapy. No copay comment.
Kylie
Okay. This one is 5 stars titled baptized by a Beaver. And they write for anyone who's looking for a holy connection to a podcast that will change the trajectory of your life. Keep looking. This lesbian podcast teaches you how to keep your husky clean raw dog in Florida. And after you join the cult, you may be baptized by a beaver. The older lesbian couple is slow due to their old age, but the senior citizen home director, Kelly, is paid well and makes sure they have their meds.
Jennifer Welch
Caca, how much do you love that? I love all of the transposing of everybody's names. I mean, because if somebody is new to this podcast, they'd be like, who's Kelly? Who's Jessica?
Angie
What's the beaver?
Jennifer Welch
Yeah, it's just the. The evolution of all of the names. You know from Kathy, now Kelly. Sometimes I call her Katarina. It's good, all of your nicknames.
Angie
You know, what I had forgotten about. And I'm so happy to be reminded of the raw dogging in Florida.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah, that's a good one.
Angie
That was such a great one.
Jennifer Welch
That's a good. Olivia was the creator of that visual. Okay, I have some news that I'd like to share with the class today. In Japan, you can hire someone to apologize for you. In Japan, where apologizing is deeply ingrained in the culture, professional apology services exist to help individuals express regret. And what I have to say about this is I'm very disappointed because part of apologizing is cathartic.
Angie
Yes.
Jennifer Welch
Is feeling the fuck up, tucking your tail between your legs, and purging your wrongs as a means to then evolve as an individual. And I think hiring someone to apologize for you is skirting. And I think it's chicken shit.
Angie
Yeah, I think it's chicken shit, too. And a lot of times I think the person needs to see, like, if I fuck up really bad, I want them to see I'm in distress over this. I hurt your feelings, and I feel bad about it. And so I think the other person needs to feel the regret that you have. And I just think an impartial, non emotional apology, I just don't think. Kind of reminds me of maggot. Like, no accountability. Like, you fuck up, you make an unmitigated apology, you take your medicine. That's just how it works.
Jennifer Welch
All right, next up, we have a study shows it's almost two times cheaper to have a son than to have a daughter. A study suggests that raising a son is nearly twice as cheap as raising a daughter, largely due to differences in spending on clothing, personal care, and extracurricular activities. And as the mother of two boys, I can say I think this is 100% true, because my boys don't really ask me for that much.
Angie
Girls are just more expensive. Like, once you have to get the face stuff, the makeup, the products, all that shit. Plus, girls keep you humble. There's nothing like a girl just to make you feel humble. Like when you walk out and Emil's like, mom, you look so old. You know what I mean? Like, girls keep you humble and they're the most expensive. It is the least bang for your buck that you're gonna get.
Jennifer Welch
Wow. And I do think there is a deeper thing here, that it is more expensive to be a woman.
Angie
I agree.
Jennifer Welch
And, you know, we have a lot more emphasis put on our outfits. More emphasis put on our skin care, hair, shoes, clothes, makeup, et cetera. Because our appearances are picked from the minute we wake up to the minute we go to bed. And even, like you told me, your daughter's criticizing your appearance. Even within women, we're very cruel to one another about each other's appearances. And I think that as women, we need to do better about that.
Angie
No, I agree. Completely agree.
Jennifer Welch
Okay, Last news story is the honeymoon phase of a relationship usually lasts between six months to two years. This period is fueled by dopamine and oxytocin, the brain's feel good chemicals which create a sense of euphoria and deep attraction. Partners often overlook flaws, conflicts, feel minor, and spending time together feels effortless and exciting. And, you know, I remember back in those days that you. When you're. You're the best version of yourself, right. And you're dating the best version of that person, you're dating each other's representatives. And I think two years is generous there. But I also wonder, like, how Trumpism has lasted 10 years. Yeah, I mean, they seem like they're still in the honeymoon phase. I've never seen, like, the way they love him. And his mental acuity seems to be on great decline. The rambling speeches are not as entertaining as they once used to be. I used to be able to kind of laugh at stupid shit, he says. Now I'm just like, God, he's such fucking idiot. And they just love him so hard.
Angie
Yeah, well, I think that's because it's a cult and he's the cult leader. But I think I remember the days when, I mean, love is like a drug. You're so hyped up and excited. But two years, like, like you, I think that seems long.
Jennifer Welch
I think that's generous. All right, listen, we have a very exciting guest today. His name is Cameron Caskey and he is the host of the bulwarks for you. Pod. Let's welcome Cameron to I've had it. This episode of I've had it is brought to you by booking.com booking. Yeah, every time I use booking.com I find a place to stay in the U. S. I know they'll have exactly what I'm looking for. They have a huge variety of options, from hotels to vacation rentals. And I'm always able to find something that fits my specific needs. I found that booking.com has something for everyone. Recently, I took my oldest son and his girlfriend to New York City. They wanted to stay in Soho. Through booking.com I was able to find the perfect hotel for us.
Angie
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Jennifer Welch
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Cameron Caskey
Oh, I'm good. Another great day in New York in what seems to be soon to be a recession. But that's okay. I'm 24, so I can only lose so much money because I don't have that much invested anyway. So I look at the stock market and I'm like, well, I wasn't even really a part of that.
Jennifer Welch
Well, before we dive, I mean, just deep into some cathartic Trump bashing, we do like to tend to petty grievances and ask our guests what they've had it with. So, Cameron, what have you had it with that is non Trump related?
Cameron Caskey
Oh, so much. You're speaking to a Jewish person who grew up watching Curb youb Enthusiasm. So petty.
Jennifer Welch
My favorite show on the planet. Yeah, I posted a picture of Larry David on my work desk and not of my children. I mean, like, I cannot tell you that this means that we're immediately connected, bonded for life.
Cameron Caskey
You know, it's Funny, I actually had a rapper named Snacks Da Hip Hopper living on my couch rent free for six months. And at one point I was like, oh, we're Larry and Leon. So I asked him if he had ever watched Curb and he said no. And we ended up going on like a Leon binge together. We were just cracking up. But I'll tell you one thing I've had it with. I have had it with the way people will just not text somebody back even though they are obviously looking at their phones. That really upsets me. Here's the most Gen Z experience I've had in my entire life. Yesterday I was waiting for a friend of mine who I really like talking to, text me back. I sent a regular text, one that absolutely warrants a response, and she hadn't texted me back all day. But she commented on one of my Instagram posts and I was like, okay, listen, I don't want to be a nitpicker here, but you'll comment on my posts and you won't write me back to a very simple prompt. I've. I've had, I've had it with that.
Jennifer Welch
You know what? I think we need to be nitpickers. I think we need to start regulating this shit. And I used to think, no, let's not. But we just covered a story that apparently Gen Z is upset about the thumbs up emoji and they consider it to be passive aggressive. And I'm like, you know what, little titty babies, here's the deal. You need to learn how to be passive aggressive. It's a tool in your toolbox that you can roll out when you want to be petty and you want to be passive and aggressive. It is a fantastic thing to do to people when you just kind of want to fuck with them. And that's okay to want to fuck with people a little bit. It's not like we. Gen Z, I think they think everything has to be perfect all the time and everything has to be cupcakes and rainbows and unicorns. And these power moms have enabled it. And I blame the moms more than Gen Z. But I do think Gen Z needs us to nitpick them a little bit. I think it would be beneficial.
Cameron Caskey
I mean, look, I can't complain too hard because every time I can think of myself sending the thumbs up emoji, it has been with the intent of passive aggression.
Jennifer Welch
Exactly.
Angie
Your head.
Cameron Caskey
Especially when. So I'm a very. I like punctuality. I am in most of my friend groups, the planner and I Get it? I'm the outgoing one. A lot of friend groups are kind of held together by me keeping everyone. So I understand why, you know, the lion's share of planning has been put in front of me. But when somebody's late and they text me, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I'll be there in 10 minutes. Thumbs up. That's my way of saying, you see?
Jennifer Welch
And I think it's a great tool to have in our toolbox. I just, I don't think we need to be upset about that because sometimes I'm worthy, my behavior is worthy of a passive aggressive. You and I need.
Cameron Caskey
Is that your guys. Is that your guys go to passive aggressive text too, as well? Or do you have an emoji? Or perhaps.
Angie
See, my passive aggressive is. I don't respond. I just like, leave it forever and ever. Okay, Cameron, as Gen Z, I want to ask you this. What about when you're texting with someone and you see the bubbles that they're going to text you back and then they never respond? What do you think about that? See, that makes me insane.
Cameron Caskey
Yeah, because you don't want to text them. Like, hey, I was monitoring our texts and I saw that you had a bubble coming up and it went away. What the fuck are you going to say to me? You don't want to seem like some sort of hyper vigilant stalker freak. And then there's always the chance that they read your text and like their finger slipped and they accidentally typed L, T, J and everything. And that's why there was a typing bubble. And then it went, but no, fuck that. They were 100% saying something and taking it back. Normally when I start to scribe a text message and I want to go back and delete it, I with a keen awareness that they probably saw me typing, replace it with something. But even then, even then, when you see the typing bubble come up and then you see it go away and then you see a new typing bubble emerge, you want to be like, okay, what the fuck were you going to say?
Angie
Just say it.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah, I agree. You know, I was just writing somebody a text the other day, kind of a confrontational text. And then I decided, you know what? I'm not going to send this. I'm not going to send this text. And I just went, backspaced it up. And then I was able to walk away with that with a sociopathic feeling like, it's none of your business what I was going to say. You're never going to know. And I hope that that Occupies space in your brain forever.
Cameron Caskey
And look, there's a difference between like so funny. There's a difference between not texting somebody back because there's some sort of interpersonal discrepancy between the two of you where sometimes not saying something is the mature thing to do. Sometimes sending the text message, you'd be saying something you wish you could take back. But then it's like when we're making plans and I say something, a non response is not equal to an okay, sounds good. Send the fucking okay sounds good. And I'm an anxious person. I have very bad anxiety. It manifests in macro and micro ways. And when somebody isn't texting me back from something, I ask myself if they're mad at me. So I always text people back, even when I don't necessarily need to. So they don't. So because there's something called the golden rule that a lot of people across generations have seemingly forgotten. And I want to make sure that nobody's wondering what I had to say other than okay, sounds like a plan. But you know what? I have really fucking had it with that. We need to make a spin off show called I've Really Fucking had it.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah.
Cameron Caskey
Just so we could talk about text etiquette.
Jennifer Welch
Okay, let's move on to Gen Z and their relationship with maga. Just a this week on our other podcast, I have news. We shared some polling that during the election gen Z was plus 5 for Trump and now he's lost. I think it's like the mid 20s. He's minus 20 something with Gen Z so completely underwater. But let's go back to pre Trump 2.0. Like during the election you've got this woman who I have Gen Z kids and I'm always so happy when I hear them talk about their gay friends or queer friends or trans friends or friends of color and how protective and accepting they are of these groups. And so I was really shocked to see that it's +5 before the election for Trump with Gen Z. That really, really surprised me. So I wonder, wondering what kind of insight you had.
Cameron Caskey
I think what happened? I think there's kind of two big things here. Although there's so many factors, I think number one, Trump was able to inspire fear more than Kamala was able to cultivate a sense of hope. So I think that's a broader issue in terms of Gen Z. You know, Gen Z men were a huge phenomenon in this election. They really took people by surprise. They even took me by surprise, which when I look back, I don't think, how could this have happened? I think, how couldn't I see this all along? And I think it speaks to. I think the primary issue with young men is that young men feel left out by the Democratic Party and by the progressive movement because the Republicans have been able to hijack the messaging and convince us that steps forward taken towards anything resembling equity for women and minorities are steps that are taken at our expense. Right. When DEI programs are initiated, when women are able to have more systems of support, when they're talking about sexual abuse, when these things happen, we're the ones paying for it. So the right says to these young men, you have a place at the table for us. You know, you're getting left out by the Democratic Party. The Democratic Party is no longer, you know, supporting the country of white men. And it was all men, but especially white men in this generation. And what the Democratic Party failed to do was communicate to young men. I mean, there was no effort put into reaching out to young men because I think the Democratic Party felt so. They felt like the Gen Z votes were a shoo in so we're not going to go out and try to get them. But. And they were focused on chasing the Liz Cheney moderate Republicans, which is just not a substantial.
Jennifer Welch
That pissed me off right there. I was all chips in brat Kamala, the whole nine. And then when this is what pisses me off about Democrats, what Liz Cheney did is not that remarkable. She saw an authoritarian that's a liar and she called it out as such. That is what should be the bar for everybody. But Democrats are so like, oh my God, Liz Cheney loves us. What Liz Cheney did to participate in the manifestation of Maga is she went around and voted with him 90% of the time. She stood in front of cameras and said babies are killed after they're born in post birth abortions, which is a lie which feeds these crazy, depraved, crazy Christians in America. And then she's able to deduce this guy is dangerous, this guy is bad and speak out about it. And then we have to trot around with her. And I'm just like, this is the biggest exercise in futility. We live in Oklahoma. We live in a red state. These fuckers are never going to vote for you ever. So quit trying to court them. They're never going to vote for you. I told pumps we were sitting here, I said, I can't believe she's trotting around with Liz Cheney. That's when of course I voted for and I think I loved. I Love Kamala Harris. I miss her being on the campaign trail. I miss the things that she said. I have nostalgia thinking back about it. But that to me is a grave error. When the Democrats, Democrats say, oh, we're going to run to the center, we're going to run to the center, I think it's completely wrong. I think we need to swing total left and fight for everybody, especially juxtaposing equality for all against the billionaires are the only people that want the power. And I just think it's a huge messaging problem for Democrats to always try to find these elusive Republicans that like us.
Cameron Caskey
I call them the Democratic Party's imaginary friends. And look at there. There are real people like this. But the thing is, it's not a substantial group of voters. Whereas the people who don't show up to the polls because they don't have anything that they think is inspiring them to vote, that is a substantial group of voters. And certain issues the Democratic Party doesn't address, but they are intersectional. You know, talking about economic inequality but actually nailing down that messaging, talking about health care, those are things that have been proven to be popular and the types of things that can mobilize voters that otherwise aren't going to show up. But the party doesn't want to talk about the oligarchs. They don't want to talk about the bill billionaires because those are often the people who are writing them their checks.
Jennifer Welch
Yeah.
Cameron Caskey
So it's really disappointing. And I think that, you know, when you see 30,000 people show up to these Bernie and AOC rallies in strings swing states, even people I know who consider them way to the left of them, they're saying, oh, this is what leadership looks like. The Democratic Party has one thing going for them. The culture wars we lost. And there's a lot of reasons for that. But the point is, while the Democratic Party is engaging in these culture wars about political correctness, whether or not it's good and everything, we are ignoring the intersectional issues that affect everybody and the types of issues that young men would actually go and vote for. If the, if the campaign put the energy into saying Trump is going to crash the economy for his billionaire friends, here's how he's going to do it. Here's why we aren't. There would have been a very different turnout than Harris trying to frame herself as the new progressive thing, but also saying, but don't worry, we're also going to be kind of like center left and we're going to be right wing enough for Liz Cheney but we're not going to. But we're also super progressive and new. It was just they were trying to have their cake and eat it too and it was really disappointing.
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Cameron Caskey
Listen, you're never going to hear me advocating against being a dick. That is my. That is my mo. I'm here to do that all day.
Jennifer Welch
Okay. I want to move on to our game. Had it or hit it. Oh, my God. Welcome to had it or hit it. I would hit it. I hit it every day, sometimes twice a day. Had it or hit it. Tick tock Trends.
Cameron Caskey
Had it.
Angie
Really?
Cameron Caskey
I don't, I don't. I don't do that when my friends send me Tick tocks. I don't click on them.
Angie
That's passive aggressive.
Jennifer Welch
Okay. Had it or hit it. Menu anxiety.
Cameron Caskey
Had it, but guilty.
Angie
Really?
Cameron Caskey
Look, I normally. I mean, candidly, I normally just order whatever the cheapest thing is, but definitely. But had it. Ultimately. Had it.
Jennifer Welch
Okay, all right. Had it or hit it. Mega churches.
Cameron Caskey
I mean, I mean, like, just Ponzi scheme. Like, I can't even say that I've had it because it was never a thing for me in the first place. The whole time, even when I was like seven years old, I was like, is this what they're doing now?
Jennifer Welch
Okay, last one. Had it or hit it. Katy Perry, Going to outer space.
Cameron Caskey
I'll raise you one. I've had it with everybody going to outer space. We don't have to go to outer space right now. We have other problems.
Angie
We have bigger problems on Earth in the United States than we have on Mars, in my opinion. It just. It drives me fucking crazy.
Jennifer Welch
I think the rocket thing is Freudian, you know, I do, I do. I think I do. I think Freud was right about a lot of this stuff. You don't see women there's. A lot of billionaire women. You don't see them trying to build a rocket ship that's shaped like a penis and blast off. They own the Atlantic or they. Melinda Gates has a foundation. They are fighting for democracy. Even Christy Walton of Walmart takes out a full page ad in the New York Times to try to fight for democracy. You don't see women building penis ships.
Cameron Caskey
You just don't see it that you don't. And I can't. I don't know if I would be any better or less of a, you know, Sigmund Freud child if I were a billionaire, because I'm anything but. But penis rockets, I could see that being Freudian. I think that, that all of those, you know, big billionaires that you hear about in the news have something going on in their head because there's all these billionaires who you never hear about. It's because they're not doing crazy, insane shit. You know, the billionaires you hear about are normally the ones who are acting out and being insane people.
Jennifer Welch
I know, I know, they're really naughty.
Angie
Or they're running the Doge Department of Government Efficiency fighting with their baby mamas on Twitter. I mean, it's fucking crazy.
Cameron Caskey
Alas, what can we do? Except for strive our hardest to be billionaires ourselves and be the good one.
Jennifer Welch
Billionaires for good. Yeah, I mean, I just think we need to give them all trophies and say, like a big penis trophy. Congratulations, you crushed capitalism. You did such a good job. Now we're going to give. Let you keep 3 billion. You're never going to spend it all. We're going to take the rest and try to do something positive with it. But of course, that would never happen because in America, people value money over human beings.
Angie
Well, and you'd have to tell Elon his dick was bigger than Jeff Bezos, and Jeff Bezos his dick was bigger than Elon Musk. So then their little rocket feud could subside a little bit.
Cameron Caskey
Or we can, we can do sort of a reverse psychology thing and be like, hey, Elon and Jeff Bezos, we actually love this whole space thing that you're doing. Just stay up there, right? Don't come back down. Go. Go find out if David Bowie was. Was right when he said there was life on Mars. Oh, I guess he was only asking. He was saying, is there life on Mars? Never in his song did he assert that there was life on Mars. So I take that back. I'm sorry. To the memory of David Bowie.
Jennifer Welch
Okay. It has been so fun having you on and listener, you can go find Cameron at the Bulwarks for you pod. Thank you so much Cameron for coming on and sharing your grievances. And I love that we both share a love for Larry David that will unite us to death.
Cameron Caskey
Thank you guys so much for having me. Have a great day.
Jennifer Welch
You too.
Angie
Bye Bye Cameron.
Cameron Caskey
Take care.
Angie
I'm just gonna go out on a limb and I'm just gonna say at 24 I was not that smart.
Jennifer Welch
No, he's very, very smart, very well spoken, all the self aware, very. I just, I think he's doing good things that makes me have hope in Gen Z. But I think I had a really weird lens of Gen Z because my boys are so open minded. I didn't realize how how up Gen Z boys had become and so I'm happy to see kids like Cameron that are helping right the ship with that generation.
Angie
Absolutely. Because the Democrats do well. Democracy in general needs better messaging and he is a great messenger and hopefully.
Jennifer Welch
He can fill the gap very much. Okay everybody please subscribe to our show, Leave us a comment, buy our merch and we'll see you all. Pumps.
Angie
Tell them we will see you next Tuesday and Thursday. I'll tell you what I've had it with.
Jennifer Welch
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Angie
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Angie
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Jennifer Welch
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Angie
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Podcast Summary: "I've Had It" Episode – *The Smaller the Dk, The Bigger the Rocket***
Episode Details:
The episode begins with Jennifer Welch and Angie “Pumps” Sullivan diving directly into their discussions after a brief mention of recent experiences with personal space invaders and boundary violations. The hosts set a tone of frustration mixed with humor, establishing the episode's focus on dealing with entitlement and disrespect in everyday interactions.
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The discussion highlights how modern societal behaviors, particularly among certain demographics, exhibit a concerning trend of entitlement and disrespect for personal boundaries.
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The conversation underscores a perceived disconnect between the Democratic Party and key voter demographics, suggesting that better, more targeted messaging is necessary to counteract MAGA's influence.
Introduction: Cameron Caskey, host of "Bulwarks for You Pod," joins Jennifer and Angie to discuss non-political grievances, focusing on modern communication frustrations.
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Cameron and the hosts explore the nuances of digital communication, emphasizing the frustration that arises from unclear or unreciprocated online interactions.
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This segment delves into the complex dynamics of Gen Z's political affiliations, highlighting a disconnect between party strategies and the pressing concerns of young voters.
Game Overview: The hosts engage in a playful segment where they decide whether they've "had it" (are fed up with) or would "hit it" (continue engaging with) various topics.
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This segment serves as a humorous interlude, allowing the hosts and guest to briefly vent about everyday frustrations in a lighthearted manner.
The episode wraps up with a reflection on the discussions, emphasizing the need for better communication and respect across various societal interactions. The hosts express hope that future episodes and new initiatives, like their additional podcast "I hip News," will continue to address and dissect these everyday grievances while fostering a sense of community and understanding.
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Conclusion:
This episode of "I've Had It" meticulously blends personal anecdotes with broader societal and political commentary, offering listeners both relatability and insight. Through candid discussions and guest interactions, Jennifer Welch and Angie Sullivan navigate the complexities of modern frustrations, advocating for better communication, respect, and effective political engagement.