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Well, hey, what's up, friend? And welcome to this week's Jabyn Chavez Leadership Podcast, where I'm doing everything I can to help you grow as a leader. Because I believe that as you get better, your organization gets better. As you get bigger on the inside, your organization will grow. The scripture tells us that we are reproducing after our own kind, that we don't reproduce what we want, we reproduce who we are, are. And so I'm trying to help you as a leader from the inside out. And I pray that this podcast is a blessing to you. We bring you fresh content all the time right here on this page. Every Sunday morning, we live stream our worship service. Every Sunday night, we drop a brand new sermon. Every Wednesday, we drop a brand new leadership podcast. And then every Friday, we drop a brand new worship clip. And so make sure that you like, subscribe, hit the bell notification, all the things on the City Light Vegas page. And we want to do whatever we can to be a blessing to you. Well, I'm talking to leaders, and today I want to talk about why you're frustrated, Preacher. Why am I frustrated? I find myself frustrated with my church, with my organization. I find myself frustrated with my team. I find myself frustrated, maybe even in my marriage or I find myself frustrated in relationships, in friendships. I'm frustrated. Why am I frustrated? I want to try to help you today understand why you're frustrated and what we can do about it. Because I felt that before. I feel it even now in some ways. And I'm. And I'm always trying to get to the root of the problem. Never forget that whatever you're feeling right now, whatever you're worried about right now, whatever you're dealing with right now, never forget that there's always a root issue. And what we're trying to get to is the root issue. So I'm not just trying to fix my frustrate. I just don't want to be frustrated anymore that that's part of it. But I actually want to get down to the root cause that is producing this frustration or producing this greed or producing this lust or producing this hate or on and on and on. Whatever it might be, this fear, these panic attacks, whatever it might be, whatever your struggle is, you want to get down to the root. By the way, this can also happen in good seasons when great things are happening and you have not taken the time to try to get down to the root of why are these great things happening? And what will happen is you'll lose the momentum or you'll lose that good season or you'll lose that thing that seems to be happening in your ministry and you don't know how to get back to it because you never uncovered and discovered all the root of the health. Well, the same thing happens in the sickness of the leader, the sickness of the organization. We never got down to the root of it. So I want to try to help you expose a little bit of why you're frustrated, why you're feeling these things, and. And what we can do about it. The first reason you're frustrated with your team, the first reason you're frustrated with your organization is you have not communicated your values. You have not communicated the value system that you, number one, live, and you better be living it. And you have not communicated the things that you care about. I was thinking about that today. I was frustrated with some communication with a team member. And I realize I probably have never just sat down and communicated why I communicate the way that I do, why I care about, what I care about, why I want to put your best foot forward when you're in communication, on and on and on. So if you don't like how a team member is texting you or talking to other team members or even speaking to you or how they communicate over email, whatever it might be, have you ever communicated your value system, which is not just, hey, you should be friendlier over text or, you know, whatever. Get down to the. Get down to, hey, I really care about X, Y and Z. I really care about these three or four things. I really care about when we email, it feels like this. I really care about. When we talk to our team, it feels like. Feels like this, okay. And walk them through your values, walk them through why you care, Walk them through why you dress the way you dress on the weekend or why it really matters that they're on time or why it really matters that they've. That they've kept up on, on whatever they're behind on. Like, just go back and walk them through the values, walk them through the why. And let me just stop for a second and tell you this. This never goes away. I was talking to our youth director. Cheers. By the way, this is not an ad. It's just a necessity. I was talking to our youth director and he was talking. I just feel like I have to keep telling our team this. I just feel like I have to keep, you know, and he's. He's just a few months in, and I was like, bro, I'm. I'm 20, whatever years into ministry and I'm we're over seven years into this church. I still feel like I'm doing that. I said, isn't it crazy that you feel like you're having to tell your team, hey, make sure to do this and make sure to talk to them and make sure to, you know, you're having to do that. And I'm over here having a meeting with you, talking about, hey, make sure you join the group, text every once in a while. Make sure you pop. Pop in and say something. And, hey, make sure you communicate. See, I said so we're all in this. Communicating values to me is, oh, my gosh, guys, look at this, y'. All. I still got the tag on this jacket. Can you believe that? I just saw it. Oh, Jesus, have mercy. I'm keeping all this in the podcast, by the way. How do I get it out, guys? It's my little Amazon. This is from Amazon, by the way. Is $19. I'm a big spender. Can you believe that? God, have mercy. Okay, What was I talking about? Can't communicate any values. I would say one of the most taxing things in ministry is to have to say why we do what we do over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. But the healthiest ministries and the healthiest organizations and the organizations with the best culture and the best momentum and the best health have. Have learned the power of communicating over and over and over again. The why? So you've not communicated your values. Number two, the second reason that you are frustrated, you are avoiding the uncomfortable conversation. I remember Phil Dooley from Hillsong Church. He said years ago, leadership is just a series of ongoing, uncomfortable conversations. One more time. Leadership is just a series of ongoing, uncomfortable conversations. You just have to embrace it and uncomfortable. Okay, please listen. Oh, man, this is so powerful. Uncomfortable is not personal. Not everything has to be personal. Not everything has to be a fight. Not everything has to be tears. Not everything has to be frustration. Not everything has to be emotion. And it doesn't all have to be personal. Uncomfortable does not have to be personal. See, this is something that leaders have to know. I was talking to my great friend Mitch Rose about this. Mitch Rose pastors an incredible church in the San Antonio area and just a legend. And we were talking about the fact that, number one, you have to die to this need of needing a daddy, a spiritual daddy who's just going to, you know, call you every week, check up on you every week, and be there for you. You just kind of have to die to that because, man, they Just ain't coming. It's just not, it's just not going to happen. And so you have to learn to honor and respect and receive from older men when that door is open. But you, but you can't, you can't expect, like they're just, they're just not coming the way that, that I think in our mind sometimes we convince ourselves it's going to happen. Now that's, that's this way, in the same way, this way you cannot expect your team to love and care about your organization the way that you do. You just can't. And so I think a lot of times we're avoiding uncomfortable conversations because to us, we take it so personal. And to them it's just a job. And they might love it, and they might love God and they might love you, but they don't love it like you love it. I love my nieces and nephews. I love them. I love them. I don't love them like I love my kid. I love my daughter. I love your kids, man. If I could do anything to help your kids and protect your kids, gosh, pray for your kids, man. I love, and I especially love preachers kids, man, I'm here for you. I don't love anybody like I love Goldie Ray Chavez. I'm just telling you, no one loves City Light Church like I love it. And I can't put that on my team. And the moment I finally can die to that and realize that is the moment that I don't take everything so personally. Because for me, this is my life long calling. For them it could be a lifelong calling, but for most it will just be a job. And that's okay. That's okay. And the moment you release that is the moment you can have uncomfortable conversations that don't require personal agendas to be involved. Number three, you have not prayed about it. Jabin, why am I, why am I frustrated? Because you haven't prayed about it. Paul said in Philippians 4, in everything by prayer, with thanksgiving, everything by prayer, pray first, pray long, pray for hours and hours, a week. I'm telling you, you need to pray. You're frustrated because you're not praying about your ministry, you're not praying about those people, you're not praying for your ministry, you're not praying for those people. Wherever prayer is in a deficit, you're gonna lose oil. Paul said, I prayed, God gave me grace. Second Corinthians, chapter 12. I prayed, take away the thorn. God said, I won't take away the thorn, I'll Give you grace. Prayer releases grace. Prayer releases ease. Prayer releases a flow. Prayer releases oil. And the moment the prayer stops, tension starts. You got to pray. You must pray. I love what dad Hagin would say. Dr. Kenneth E. Hagin, he's in heaven now. He would say, by the way, I'm still seeing this tag. I love it. Jesus, Jesus, be a pair of scissors for me in the name of Jesus. I just want to get rid of this thing so bad. My ADHD is obsessed with it. Kenneth E. Hagin would say, pray to you till you feel a release. Pray till you get some joy. Pray till you get happy. Pray till I feel lighter. Pray till you feel that, that first John unction of the Holy Ghost. Pray. Pray till there's a release. And when that thing comes back on, you pray again till you get a release. You're frustrated because you don't pray. Number four, you're frustrated because you have not followed up. There was a book called Death by Death by Meeting. Death by meetings is very real. But let me say this, death by refusing to meet is also very real. And death by not following up is very real. And you're just going to have to embrace the fact that you're going to follow up. You're going to have to embrace the fact that you're a leader. And because you're a leader, you don't need management. And because you're a leader, you don't need to be followed up on. And because you're a leader, you don't need anyone to check on you. Why? Because you're a leader. But most of your team, if not all of your team, is not a leader. Therefore they need follow up. And you just have to settle that. The vast, vast, vast majority of your team, 99.9% of your team, needs to be managed. I'm not saying you have to do it, but I'm saying somebody has to do it. And depending on the size of your organization, you're going to have to follow up on the person who's following up. So either way, you're frustrated because you haven't followed up. You've given out assignments, but you haven't followed up. And now you're mad that they haven't done the job, but of course they haven't done the job because they need a leader and they need a manager. So you must follow up, don't you? And, and, and again, it's, it's one of those things that you go, why do I have to talk about this again? Why do we have to bring this up again. Why do we have to go there again? Because that's life. So settle it in your heart and lead and follow up and have meetings. Number five. You are ignoring the prompting of the Holy Spirit. You are ignoring the prompting of the Holy Spirit. In Acts, chapter. Oh, man, I was going to say that with so much confidence. I want to say Acts, chapter 15. But you. You're a leader. You can find it in the book of Acts. The apostles are praying about decisions that they're making. And here's what they say. They say, it seems good to us and the Holy Spirit. It seems good to us in the Holy Spirit. It just seems good. It wasn't. Thus saith the Lord. It wasn't. Absolutely. It wasn't 100%. It was. It seems good. And you're gonna. You're gonna have to learn as leader to go with that. It seems good. Yeah, I. It is a Holy Ghost anointed. I think we say that one more time. It is a Holy Ghost anointed. I think. I think. Yeah, I think. I think so. Yeah. I think so. Yeah, I think. I Pretty sure. Feels really good. Feels good. Let me just say this. You must give. You must say yes to that, and you must also say yes to when it's like, I just don't feel good. I don't have a. Thus saith the Lord. I don't have a clear word from God, but I have a. I don't know, man. I. Now you're connected to the Holy Spirit. You're praying, you're fasting, you're in the Word, and something just feels off. I think you got to go with that, man. I don't feel the peace, man. I don't feel a release. We were praying about starting a second campus here at the beginning of the year, and it just didn't feel right to me. As we're entering into 2026, it just didn't feel right to me. What felt right was starting a school of ministry that feels right. I'm not saying one is God and one is not God and one isn't God and one is God. I'm saying one feels good and one doesn't feel good. I think you got to go with that about a leader, man. I just don't feel. He don't feel right, man. They don't feel right, man. This staff member doesn't feel right. And sometimes you actually have to go to your team and go. I feel. Excuse me, my alarm's going off there. My Batman. This has just been a mishap podcast. I got. I got things going off. I got. I got alarms going off. Jesus, have mercy. I'm leaving it all in. I just want you to. I just want you to be in this with me. Sometimes you have to literally look at a SAP memory. Go. I just feel like things are off. What's going on? Are you okay? I don't. I don't have a word from the Lord. God's not talking to me. I'm not. I'm not manipulating. I'm feeling things. This is how I feel. And never apologize for how you feel. Communicate how you feel and try to get down to the root, because sometimes you're set. Yeah, I feel like my time's done. Sometimes it's. Man, I'm just going through a lot right now and actually there's a lot of personal think. Man. Actually, I'm really frustrated about my job or about what's going on in the organization. You don't know why you're feeling what you're feeling. And so sometimes you just have to bring that to a staff member and go, I don't have a. Thus saith the Lord. I have a. I have something in my gut. Here it is. Can we. Can we talk about this? Powerful. Those are five reasons I believe you're frustrated. Fix it. Because I honestly believe you can enjoy ministry. You can enjoy your team, you can enjoy your church, you can enjoy your city. You can enjoy your marriage. I actually believe you can enjoy your life. I love in the Amplified John 10:10. I have come that you might have and enjoy an abundant life. Have an. Enjoy an abundant life. That God is good. Every good thing comes from the Father of Lights. In him there is no shadow or turning. Don't you know what I didn't say in these number five in these five points, you know you're frustrated because God's teaching you something. No, fix it. God's good. Amen. In Jesus name. Hey, it's December and I'm going to be taking off the rest of this December from the leadership podcast. So this is our last podcast of the month. I will be back in January. Now listen, make sure to, like, subscribe, follow, hit all this. Hit all the things and do all the things so that you're tracking with us again live streaming every Sunday. New sermons every Sunday night. Back first Wednesday of January with more leadership content every Friday. Friday, another worship drop. I love you. You're amazing. You mean the world to me. And we'll see you. Well, I'll see you Sunday night when you stream the sermon. But I'll be back with the podcast in January. Love you so much. Have a great Christmas.